ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Would you date a person who has (controlled) mental issues? He/she would be 'normal' but with the help of therapy and pills.

I have a very close female friend (whom I kinda have a suppressed crush on which I never acted upon), her boyfriend(who is also my friend who has been overseas for some time and won't see her for about 4 years, also the reason my crush is suppressed) is being very strict and very jealous, they had a serious fight, and now she's sad. Any way to cheer her up and maybe realize that her current relationship is ruining her day to day life without being too on the nose?
Also, am I a shitty person based on this?

>>17738087
Sure, if I liked them overall it would not be a dealbreaker. But that is provided that you have enough clarity about yourself to be sure that your issues don't show in some form of another in your relationships (and if they do, obviously it depends on the form and severity whether it's a dealbreaker)... for example, if you have always been alone and only have friends you're more distant with, suddenly being so vulnerable and close to someone, spending lots of time together with relatively little time to unwind and what not can really stir up issues that were no problem before in your everyday life.

>>17738097
You're not a shitty person but you sure got yourself into a shitty situation. You cannot be a good friend to her without being two-faced towards your other friend. You can make the friendship with the guy fade, but he will likely become much more controlling and paranoid about your friendship.

I would honestly at this point tell the girl something akin to that you don't feel like the relationship makes her happier or offers her a serious perspective at happiness, but that you don't want to say more about it because you both don't want to go against your feelings (you just mentioned) or go on undermining the relationship she has with a friend of yours.
Then take some distance from the emotional aspect and focus on distracting her.

It would be better still to just end both friendships but I understand attachment and loyalty and life is messy.

>>17738087
>Would you date a person who has (controlled) mental issues?
Depends on the issue, but mostly yes.
My boyfriend suffers of chronic depression, he's taking antidepressants and he's doing great. He's actually the best person I've ever met.

>>17738116
So I should just tell her to ask herself if the relationship makes her happy?
You see, I kind of want them to break up since he's being a ridiculous asshole who doesn't trust her or his friends if it concerns her, also he's trying to fuck a girl he's going to college with overseas, which makes him more of an asshole but he's still a friend to me, and if I get in a fight with him, most of my friends will know and probably will find out about the crush and I will, most probably, lose all my friends whom I love very much. Also my female fiend considers me the closest friend she has and tells me everything about her life, so I am kind of acting as if I was her boyfriend here without the intimacy. I really can't find a solution to this problem

I'm going to ask this one girl I know out this Monday. We regularly eat lunch together on campus, and send stuff back and forth on snapchat and text and all that.

Anyway, I'm just worried that if she says no, that this will result in the friendship we have now being affected negatively. So, those of you who have asked that you were somewhat close to someone out, and were rejected, would you say that your relationship with the person became more awkward in any sense?

Question for guys:
Do you still keep lewd, and non lewd, pics of your exes?
And why?

>>17738186
>would you say that your relationship with the person became more awkward in any sense?
I never stayed friends with people who asked me out.
I don't think it's healthy to stay in a relationship if two people want different things from each other.
You want something romantic, I want to stay platonic, I'm not interested.
I'd also feel pretty shitty to be friends with someone who is/was attracted to me if I got into a relationship.

>>17738165
It's very tricky but it will be extremely hard to convince her that you want her to leave for her own good without looking like you just want her to be single so you can get with her already.

Is there anyone else you can entrust with the job of gently trying to break the news that her boyfriend is a dick?

Also, the first step is obviously personally cutting ties with him. Why do you even refer to him as a friend if he's such a douche?

>>17738212
Well, there's her best (female) friend but I don't think it would be the smartest thing to do.
Also, if I cut all ties to him I might lose many of my friends who live here and are actually decent people, most of my friends know that he's trying to heat on her and i hate him for that and if he manages to do that I want her to find out, but of course I can't tell her.
I'll be meeting her tomorrow, maybe I can say something that will make her think about the relationship?
I really don't want her to know that I'm trying to wave her in the direction of breaking up with him. Also she really listens to me and does whatever I say, like don't talk to this person and stuff. I'm kinda being dominant with her.

>>17738193
I have a lot on my phone but it's not like I sit there jerking off to them. I just haven't deleted them.

Girls, why don't you rape us?

>>17738087
Yes, because I have my issues as well.

>>17738193
>tfw 29 and never had an ex

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Guys don't ever get near any woman who browses 4chan, they are all completely fucked in the head, I've met 5 women from here in the last 6 years and they all turned out to be disgusting, girls are usually the ones who block creeps but when it comes to these bitches you're the one who will end up running away.

You can find some really awesome dudes around the boards but girls are all fucked up, stay away.

what do i do femanons?

So i hung out with this gal at her place, we talked watched some walking dead and made out a long (was over there for a few hours). last weekend i asked her if she'd be able to go out and do something she said she might be and would let me know (didnt hang out), this week we texted for a bit but then she hasnt replied since wednesday to me (i sent something wed and thursday). I have no idea whats going on and what I should do? ( we seemed to click pretty well when we were hanging out)

>>17738269
First, it's pretty silly to say that a large group of people is all horrendous because of your experience with a very small portion of them.
Second, if a thing happens to you a lot (meeting and getting close to crazy women, it seems) it is probably because there is something wrong with you.

>>17738281

It's not a large group of people, the truth is that there's barely any women browsing 4chan but the ones who do are completely fucked in the head.

And no there's nothing wrong with me, I guess I attracted those people by being a figure of stability in their shitty lives.

Why do girls never initiate sending texts? My crush is sending me positive signals IRL (cute laugh/always talks to me when she sees me/looks at me mostly in social situations) but she never initiates conversations... She is very social so I think she might just be doing this to every guy she knows or do girls really just not initiate text?

>>17738323
No. There are definitely more guys than girls on 4chan, but there are a lot of girls on here. I think that around 10-20% of users are girls. Especially on /adv/, the percentage is pretty high.
It's not like you can tell gender by a post, every time there was a "survey thread" a lot of posters were girls.

>And no there's nothing wrong with me
Which is exactly what someone who is fucked up would say.

>>17738087
Probably not, but I'm probably a hypocrite for it since I'm in no way perfect in the head myself. But my rationale is that I'm already struggling enough to keep myself in check, I don't think I could handle feeling responsible for my bf on top of it.
I know from experience, doesn't matter how good your drugs/therapy is. You will have breaks every now and then, and I'm just very bad at being other people's support.
>>17738097
You're biased, just remember that. Deep down, you want that relationship to end because then at least you have a chance, so its likely you're skewing the reality of the situation in your favor even if you won't admit it to yourself. Because think about it, you said this guy is your friend, but if he's being that shitty to his gf why is he your friend?

Now, also, its EXTREMELY unlikely that even if you do convince her to break it off, she'll come running to your arms. If it wasn't 100% her idea to break up, she's going to be hurt for a while. You already escalated that pain by pushing her into it, you'll make it worse by dropping hints that you want her.
Now, that being said, you can definitely be a good friend and person by cheering her up and giving her someone to talk to and vent to. Just keep your biased opinions to yourself. If she wants to break up with this guy, she will. She doesn't need you to tell her what to do, unless she specifically asks you what you think she should do.

>>17738186
Its incredibly difficult to stay friends with someone who has unrequited feelings. Yes, it does get weird, because it will become obvious how you're both pushing at different goals. Lots of people, even if just subconsciously, see the "Oh well be friends instead" more as "I'll get another shot after we get closer". You'll still be trying to move into relationship territory, while she'll still be pushing you back.
Bad news is though, you're in a lose lose here if she's not interested. Even if you just decide to never say anything, you still have those feelings. You aren't going to get rid of them. Instead you'll just be paining yourself until you break.
My advice is to make the move regardless, but if she's not interested, sorry that's likely it for you and her. You can try, sometimes it does work out, but if you aren't like, childhood besties it likely wont.

Do girls miss being single too?

I feel miserable in a relationship, and miss just being a slut it sucks going out when people come onto you and you just sit there like a retard because your in a relationship.

Thought it would be good in a relationship but it is no better, still feel depressed.

>>17738281
Whats funny is he thinks he's painting himself up to be this great well adjusted person by generalizing and having that R9K mentality lol.

>>17738376
>Do girls miss being single too?
I don't.
I was happy even before meeting my boyfriend. Free drinks, not having to text back ever and not shaving my legs in winter was really cool. But my boyfriend is really cool, and he makes me want to be a better person.

>>17738324
Most people still fall within the socially designed gender roles of the past to some degree. Most women will still tend to be more on the submissive side, preferring men to make the first move. It's been changing slowly, but it's been something ingrained into us for generations. It won't be kicked completely so easily.
Now, theres also another component to your post, and thats that you're specifically calling out "texting". People prefer to communicate in different ways. I for example, am perfectly fine interacting through text based means, I'm also fine interacting in person. However, I will NEVER make a phone call that lasts longer than 3 minutes. I despise talking on the phone, it creeps me out. If I have to make a call, I'm getting straight to the point, and making it end as quickly as possible.
Some people feel the same about texting. Or talking irl. Depends on the person. And, it can depend on the person they're talking to. I hate phone calls all around, but I can tolerate them with my family or extremely close friends. Some dude I met maybe a month ago? I'm not going to be calling him anytime soon.

So those are the 2 things you've got. Most women still prefer men to be the "dominant alpha" and initiate, shes probably one of them, and some people don't like certain types of communication.
Or, she's not as into you as you think. That's certainly a possibility as well.

>>17738376

Not at all. I'm happy being single but I love my boyfriend a ridiculous amount and would rather share my life with him than experience the benefits of being single.

>>17738376
Some do. I don't. Happiest I ever am is when I have a guy I can devote myself to.
But if you're not happy why are you still in one? Because you feel like you should be? fuck that. You do you, break up with your girl because in all honesty you're being unfair to her by staying with her under false pretenses.

>>17738404
thanks :)

>>17738271
What did you send her and what were her replies like before?

>>17738409
I would feel bad if i dumped her, she is in proper love with me, i love in the sense that i would not wish harm to her but i feel drained from being in a relationship that i just want to go out get drunk/high and forget about life for a bit. Even though i am going out with someone that loves me and i am attracted to it just does not feel enough,

>>17738426
asked her if her day off went well and such, her responses to the convos before were pretty text packed and emojis and the sort

>>17738428
Coming from someone who's been in this girls shoes, trust me, it hurts a hell of a lot more the longer you wait. She will find out you're not that into her eventually, or at least not into her the same way she's into you.

>>17738489
Personally I would just be patient. Maybe something came up and she doesn't want to talk about it yet. Who knows? I'd wait a day or two longer and see if she responds, if not send an invitation to an activity kind of offhandedly. Like a couple of friends are going to see a movie, or something, so the pressure is off her. You're probably overthinking it, just relax and try not to force anything.

Ladies (waitresses if any here), assuming that you find the guy you are serving attractive what is the best method for him to start a conversation?

I am a high functioning autistic and a genius. And I do not mean 'hurr durr I'm smarter than errybody'. I mean I have taken a multitude of aptitude and IQ tests (and no not shitty online ones, actual school and govt issued tests) and can preform complex equations in my head, etc. My girlfriend is above average intelligence, but not nearly to the same extent. This seems to make her uncomfortable/intimidated. How can I help alleviate this issue? Either gender can answer if you have what you believe would be a decent solution or at the very least somewhat helpful. Also, I have 'dumbed down' my vocabulary, and not just for her, but I have done so my whole life to more easily communicate with everyone. However that does not seem to be enough. So again, any advice would be fantastic, thankyou.

>>17738518
Don't. She's at work, and no matter how good looking or charming you are, she's going to have to accept your conversation gracefully because it's good customer service to not tell people to leave you alone. She's there to work, let her work.

>>17738076
Both Genders: If you are in a relationship with an escort do you feel like they are cheating on you? What do men who date pornstars think? If you loved a girl enough should you overlook her profession? is it possible to love someone who sleeps with other people?

>>17738518
Never ever hit on a chick while shes working. Even if she does like you back, she cannot act upon it. More than likely, she doesn't like you, and will feel obligated to treat you nicely less you throw a fit with her manager and get her fired.

The ONLY thing you can do, is leave a note with your number for her. She will do what she wants with it. If shes interested, she'll contact you when she's off work. If not, she'll throw it in the trash.

Talk to her about it and don't be an ass

>>17738165
Listen anon, I just came into this thread and have been reading along with this, and here's what I've got for ya.
If you are going to approach her about their relationship, you must mentally prepare yourself and remove ALL biase that comes from your feelings from her. You need to approach this from a friend standpoint and as a friend only, or you'll possibly ruin their relationship (even if it already is ruined) and quite likely ruin your friendships with both of them.
Then, IF their relationship ends, you give it time before you try anything. If you try to make a move for her too quickly, she'll think the only reason you approached her in the first place was to get with her. Also, if you value 'bro code' ask him if he minds if you ask her out if she seems interested. Even if he says no, that won't stop it if she feels the same for you, it's just a matter of respect between friends. But whatever you do, do it as a friend only and again, if they do end it, wait a good while to ask him if it's cool if you think she has feelings for you. Otherwise you'll be fucking up a lot of shit.

>>17738540
>>17738520
Meant to reply, woops. As you may have guessed, I am not a genius.

>>17738186
I disagree with the two other people that have replied to you. I've been able to stay friends with probably 75% of the people I've asked out/been asked out by without any awkwardness. I guess it just depends on the people involved, but if you're both mature adults and you don't try to push it after the initial rejection, things should be fine. Also, while I totally get not wanting to lose the friendship, I guess you just have to weigh the possible missed opportunity to the possible lost friendship. What's more important to YOU?

>>17738543
Ok yeah, that is good advice, but what would you consider 'being an ass' in said conversation? Basically what should I avoid doing and/or saying? As stated, I am autistic and thus not so great with social ques and what is or is not appropriate, what may or may not hurt feelings.

>>17738533
Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable with it simply because I feel as though all sex has at least some emotional connection involved. But not everyone feels this way. Morally is anything wrong with it? No, at least not in my opinion. It is one of those things that is completely dependant on YOUR level of comfort with it, it's completely personal.
I guess another way to put it is like this. Am I comfortable dating someone who has had multiple parteners, as long as they are faithful to me and only me while we are together? Yes. Am I comfortable with my partner having sex, for business or pleasure with others while we are together? No. But that's just me personally.
Oh and if my partner were just a stripper with absolutely no sex involved ever I would be fine with that too.

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>>17738520
If you're such a genius, why can't you figure it out? lol

Actually, I'm in a relationship like this except I'm the above average intelligence partner and my girlfriend is the genius. And she's on the high end of genius. How long have you guys been together? She was probably insecure before she met you, I was definitely insecure about my intelligence.

What helped me along, and I always thought I was the smartest person in the room before meeting her basically, was that she's just such an inspiration and motivates me to be better just by being herself. Maybe your girlfriend will come around in that way too, buddy.

Good luck!

P.S. Do you read lit or philosophy? Who is your favorite writer/philosopher?

Where do you go to meet women? What circumstances do women expect to be hit on?

I'm 22 and completely inexperienced. I need to do something about it.

>>17738619
>Where do you go to meet women?
Anywhere, you can cold approach women wherever you want, though it isn't always recommended.
>What circumstances do women expect to be hit on?
This is the tricky part, the "socially acceptable" places to "hit on" women are few. Thankfully, you're over 21 so you're golden. Go to a bar. Even if you don't drink, just go. The only other real place I can think of, other than online dating (which unless you want a single mom or a psycho I'd avoid), is under age b&'s version of a bar, a coffee shop.
But here's the other question, are you looking to smash or are you looking for a relationship? If the latter, I do not recommend the bar scene. Relationship is hard mode, because what you should be looking for first is a friend. Think about where you'd go to meet new friends. Usually friends have a mutual interest, something in common. Go do things you enjoy doing, and see who else enjoys doing them as well.
The other option, when I wanna meet new people, typically I go through my current friends. But the older you get the more pathetic it is to come groveling to your friends to hook you up. Instead, throw a party or something, invite your buds and tell them to invite their buds.
Lots of people actually end up meeting their future spouse through work too, if there's no women where you work, and if youre a wage slave and changing jobs is easy, switch it up as a last ditch effort. Dating in the work place is tricky though, so be careful.

>>17738590
On these things I like to be blunt but not mean or harsh. Just tell her you have something you need to speak with her about and go right into it. Tell that you've noticed some things that make you think this way and ask her if that is really how she is feeling. If she is feeling that way, try to encourage her with some specific examples of why she shouldn't feel intimidated or inferior. Just be a friend.

>>17738637
Honestly just trying to get rid of my V plates. I don't think a 1 night stand is good for that though.

>>17738655
Not sure I get what you mean, but for the love of god do not pretend to date someone with the sole purpose of losing your virginity, it is not that fucking special or important enough to fuck someone else over. Just lose it to a rando and be done with it if you're that insecure about it.
I dated a guy I fell in love with, told me he loved me. He didn't. I was just fat and ugly and he knew he wouldn't have to do too much to get rid of his virginity with me. Now I'm suspicious of all people showing interest in me, and have had a fucking eating disorder for years.
You don't need to pretend to love someone to get laid anymore, just go get laid if that's all you're after.

>>17738638
>>17738638
>>17738590
>>17738520
Because you are high functioning I don't know if you have an insight on this but I could use some advice myself. My boss recently hired an autistic man and my coworkers and I have to basically babysit him while also doing all of our own stuff too. I don't mean to be disrespectful with the term "babysit", it is just the best term for it. We have to watch his every move for most of the day to make sure he doesn't hurt himself, others or property. He isn't super low functioning. He has a driver's license and can hold a conversation, kind of. To get back to the question I have, what is the best way to address this problem? Should I talk with him man to man or just start looking for a new job? I have already went to my boss on several occasions and nothing has changed. He is in the way of several people trying to do our jobs.

>>17738668
That's not what I meant. I want to lose it to someone I want to be with. Not a random at a bar I'll nevervsee again.

Question for everyone here: how long did you take to get over the biggest romantic disappointment in your life? (Break-ups, unrequited love)

It took me some 4 months to get over a girl i really loved completely.

>>17738186
hmmm i asked a girl out. Twice. Was rejected both, lol

After that she was shy for some time, but now we re good friends again

Might be because i have a friendly and funny personality, i forget stuff quickly

>>17738324
hhhmmm mate there was a girl who did all that kind of things you mentioned to me and turns out she wasnt interested at all.

Maybe she just sees you as a really good friend

>>17738614
Haha thank you anon. We have been dating for about 7 months and she is extremely shy, and that combined with my nearly non existent ability to pick up on social cues are the main reasons I just recently realized she is bothered by it. Hopefully though your situation of intellect inspiring intellect will happen with us. As of right now I am just trying to figure out a 'quick fix' of sorts to help stabilize things a bit. And she was definitely insecure before we started dating, she even thought she was of below average intelligence. Then we had a few of those early-relationship all night conversations with topics ranging from literature to physics to genetics and so on, and I quickly realized that she just had poor self-confidence. She still does not fully believe she is as smart as I know/tell her she is, but her confidence has grown and she does at least now realize that she is rather far above average intelligence.
P.S. Do you read lit or philosophy? Who is your favorite writer/philosopher?
I am not one for philosophy for the most part past the basics as it just does not interest me much, can not place exactly why. Although I love to read, nearly anything and everything, all genres. For my favorite author the answer is undoubtedly H.P. Lovecraft. I am a huge horror fan, and his works were a first love of mine that I can read over and over and never tire of.
Yourself?

>>17738714
A year

to femanons
so i talked to this girl for about a month and shes showing slight interest i sent her a friend request on facebook, 2cays and she didn't respond so in the heat of the moment me being stupid i canceled the request and was like fuck it, i'll just let her go. from then she started acting different, should i just truly let it go?

>>17738758
2days*

>>17738619
You can meet a woman anywhere. The only places I don't recommend trying to pick up a woman is when she's a captive audience. At work, on a bus, a train, stuck in line, etc.

Get out and do the things you like, there will be women there with similiar interests and you'll have those things in common and be able to strike up a conversation about it.

So I was volunteering at this thing

They gave out food to everyone, and I was cleaning up the garbage. I was awkward and tired so I couldn't really socialize with the other volunteers

By the time I was doing that, most people were done eating and out of the room.

But I noticed my high school ex (I'm now in second year uni) was still eating and socializing with her friends. I caught her watching me, actually...

It was weird because I don't think she knew any of the other volunteers. She was one of the few people who didn't leave by then

Why did she do that? Why was she just watching me from way up there?

Question for girls: have you ever changed your mind about someone you rejected before?

>me
>ask a good friend out
>she says she ll "think"
>later says not

>few months later
>be me a bit drunk
>ask her out again
>she refuses again
>things start getting weird between us

>few months pass
>start talking again
>we re close as fuck again
>talk and laugh a lot together
>she's kinda shy so i might be her only close friend atm
>we plan on studying together at my home for some weeks

I was pretty much over her when we got close again together

>>17738638
Thankyou, as I have stated I have trouble with social situations. This is very helpful along with >>17738614
Thanks anons.
>>17738672
Where do you work/what kind of work do you do? Also, please further explain how you have to 'babysit' him. Oh and I am in no way offended, some disabled people really must be looked after thus if this is the case it's just a fact.
But again I need more information to offer any useful advice. The more detail the better advice I can give.

>>17738774
not A Grill But Ive Seen IT Happen A Lot

Girls,
Imagine that you got the news that you will, without any sort of doubt, become pregnant 10 years from today. No changing it, nothing you can do to yourself will escape this fate, (even psychotically extreme stuff, fate will prevent you from avoiding this fixed point in time, you're going to be pregnant). Any other attempt to get pregnant before or after though, will fail. This will be your one and only shot and direct motherhood.

What do you do with this information?

>>17738714
>It took me some 4 months to get over a girl i really loved completely.
Lucky you. It's been oh, 4 years since we broke up. Well, since my idiotic self broke up with her. Am I over it? Yeah. It took about a year. And I still dates during that year but just casual relationships. And I'm one of those 'everything happens for a reason' types, so I don't have regrets in life because hey, everything happens for a reason. Well, breaking up with her is the exception. Oh, and the reason I mentioned how long it's been since, is because out of everyone I've ever loved romantically, everyone I've ever had a relationship with that's ended, she's the only one I still think about. The only one I still wonder 'what if' about.
But hey c'est la vie, non?

>>17738764
Straight from OP
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>>17738823
not him, but arent subtle romantic hints also p much insignificant if you follow that train of thought?

sometimes it's not supposed to be obvious

>>17738823
>insignificant
She was sitting there after most people left, I just wonder why she did

>>17738690
Ok gotcha, then see the rest of what I said. Look for a friend first, relationship second. That's how all good relationships happen, you have to find someone that you could consider a friend above all. So look for people in social clubs that you're interested in or something.

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>>17738714
5 years and counting.

>>17738758
How did you meet? Online?
Are you certain that A.) that was really was her fb, and/or B.) she even uses it?
Like, I'm probably not the majority in this but I personally have 2 facebooks, one with my full name, and one that's just my first and a made up name. The one with my real name I don't actually use. I made it when I started applying for jobs so that if my employers wanna creep on my facebook they'd only find that one, and I dressed that one up to make me look like a fine upstanding citizen kek.
I only actually use the one with the fake name.

It's possible you jumped the gun and freaked out, yeah. Idk what you mean by she started acting different. It could be that when you initially decided to "let her go", she was just like "Oh, this dude isn't talking to me anymore, guess he's not interested."

I mean you can do one of two things at this point, move on, or make a real attempt at establishing a connection. My recommendation is doing it IRL.
Also in the future, if you're worried about this, I would consider asking before adding someone on fb. That way they know you're coming, and if they have an inactive account or something they can tell you.

>>17738800
Nothing? What am I supposed to do if I can't change anything?

>>17738774
Once, but it was in high school and it wasn't for a good reason.
>dude i have no interest in asks me out
>Says no
>Later feeling really desperate and lonely
>"date" for like a week
>he dumps me kek
Everything worked out great thankfully.

Anyway, as for you, I would not make another attempt man. She's rejected you twice. Thats not any situation where she's possibly changed her mind. She wants to stay on friendly terms with you, or at best she's keeping you around as a backup. You'll fuck it up if you make a pass again. At this point, balls in her court. If she wants to progress something, she needs to be the one to initiate.

>>17738800
Kill myself because holy fuck I cannot imagine a greater torture than being pregnant.
But I guess that's what you mean by psychotically extreme stuff. I guess I'll just suffer through the trauma, spit out a hell spawn, get rid of it immediately, and then kill myself because I'll never be able to live with myself afterwards.
Though idk the idea of being finally free from the fear of pregnancy for the rest of my miserable existence might compel me to live. But I mean, my body's already ruined and I'll have to just replace it with the fear of ever having to possibly meet my bastard and them demanding money from me.
Kek can I kill the baby upon delivery?

>>17738269
>Guys don't ever get near any woman who browses 4chan
My experiences were hit or miss.

Met an asian tomboy that really likes CS. She was neato.

Met a borderline chick who has some retarded ideas about how relationships work. To paraphrase her she prefers poly because she can have multiple slices of a good relationship since she can't have one that's decent on its own.

Pro tip, don't talk to people from /soc/.

>>17738281
>Second, if a thing happens to you a lot (meeting and getting close to crazy women, it seems)
He's meeting them on 4chan. This is a bit different from managing to only chat up bipolar women in your normal life. There's probably a way higher ratio of mental illness here.

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Ladies: What would you think when the guy you're with has an onahole/fleshlight? What about a waifu?

I'm being semi-serious here.

>>17738902
>implying I'd be with a guy that pathetic

>>17738902
I don't really care about having toys, I mean I do too. But a waifu? Unironically? that's kinda cringy.

I've slept with 2 hookers (and just that) and they both had the same exact smell coming from their pussy/ass. I can't tell which one but is it normal for a girl to have a funky smell? Granted these are hookers, but it just seems like they don't clean themselves.

Do women usually not make the first move, especially in a female dominated group setting?

I was volunteering at this festival thing at my uni. Apart from 3 people, everyone were girls. Mostly Chinese and Korean girls.

I was being awkward because I was too tired and smelling like coffee to actually talk to people.

I did talk to two girls, but it didn't really progress anywhere from small talk about what her name is and such. I think it's mostly my fault

I saw the other guys were more natural at talking to girls, they'd like just budge in and make small talk

So what was the problem?

>>17738991
Surprisingly, warm moist areas like genitals smell. You don't smell your balls, but I bet you they don't smell like roses either.

>>17739013
This might be a radical idea, but maybe they're there to enjoy the festival and not to find a life partner?

>>17739021
I know m8, but thing is that I saw everyone else just socializing and shit. I wasn't even thinking of them as life partners anyway.

Also I didn't go to the after party, did I fuck up?

>>17739028
Sounds like you aren't that great at socialising then.

>Also I didn't go to the after party, did I fuck up?
I wouldn't go so far as to say that you fucked up, but you did miss an opportunity to get to know them better.

>>17739035
>Sounds like you aren't that great at socialising then.
True. I also was really tired and had coffee breath (from drinking iced coffee earlier) so I was feeling a little self-conscious.

Thinking back on it now, I wish I did get to know them better. It's a yearly event so I doubt I'll see them again

>>17739039
It really isn't a big deal that you didn't get to know them, who really cares?

>>17738186
I asked a good friend out on a few dates, she said she didn't want anything more and I said ok. Hurt like hell, but I asked her to give me a few days to be alone and work through it.

Continued being friends afterwards and continued on as if nothing had happened. We got even closer and more open with one another. She ended up realizing she had feelings for me too, but that's irrelevant to the point I'm trying to make. It's only as weird as you make it. If you get turned down, take some time for yourself but let her know you still value the friendship. You can definitely continue a friendship after rebuffed romantic advances.

>>17739042
No I'm just concerned that I left before the after party without notice

I doubt anyone noticed, but still

Both genders:
This from my class who is a tutor was telling my gf I was flirting with other girls in class. Keep in mind her and the other tutors don't like me. I was in the class last year when they were on the same level and failed, so I'm retaking it to get a passing grade. They're lying and getting in my business. I talked to my girlfriend since she asked me about it and I'm thankful that she believes me and she said that she won't believe what they say. I'm gonna ignore these people, but what should I do about it the next time it happens? Should I go and confront them and really make myself clear that I'm not fucking around and they should back the fuck off? I need to know what to do if it happens next time.

>male
>late 20's
>gf is super liberal about gender shit and rape isnt funny ect ect
>i was raped as a small child on several occasions by a family member and twice by a stranger(same man)
>nobody knows
>joke about rape all the time and generally dgaf about soft society's problems
> dont plan on telling anyone because im not a whiny faggoty little victim
>gf getting really upset whenever idgaf about gender pronoun shit who is gay trans or straight it literally doesnt matter but she will bring it up all the time "his works are ok im not a fan but hes gender nuetral so i respect him a lot!" or "thats not funny! people have actually been raped before ect ect!

why do i have to live in current year with all this politically correct bullshit

>>17739048
Ignore it? If it's not true and your girlfriend believes you, who gives a fuck what they're saying?

>b-but I'm not going to t-take them talking shit about m-me
Like I said, who gives a fuck? Do you not have better things to do with your energy

I know I'm grasping at straws, but girls how would you go about "giving" your man a fetish?

I really am into feeding and he's open to it, but doesn't have that same spark. Is there a way I could train him? Maybe feed him while he comes or something?

Guys too if you have any experience with this.

Both genders. Ever gotten back with an ex? I don't mean the immediate make up after a break up, I mean months or years later.

How did your paths cross again?

What made you give it another go?

Did it work out?

>>17738396
I do, I was in a full on 8 year relationship with someone I deeply cared about and to end it I had to rip my own heart out and stomp on it. My ex doesn't see it that way.
We had a pretty good first five years until he came out as trans and I got pregnant at the same time. I spent three years pandering to every whim only to get cheated on in the end. But alas I'm now a heartless cunt who doesn't care. I still lend ex money and offer her dinner when I know she it hard off and I have solo custody of our son who she gets to see when ever the mood arises which is thankfully more often than you would automatically suppose being from 4chan. We ultimately have both a better yet more tumultuous relationship now since it's still fresh. I left her in June this year. So yeah. I didnt miss being single just to fuck around, I missed being single because I had to be a rock for someone else while I was crumbling.

How do I date a normie girl?

I like this girl and she is cute and we talk occasionally when we see another in our organization. I recently added her on FB and she intimidates me. So many pics of her going out and having fun with friends and family. Meanwhile I have a dysfunctional family and rarely have friends to go out with.

You think she would find me weird/uninteresting?

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I recently met a girl who is sexually everything I want/need in bed and is will to do anything I say to please me.

EXCEPT

She can't or doesn't give head for very long and I LOVE my head. She'll do it for 5 minutes a few times during an two hour sex session but my last GF LOVED to give head for ours.

Did the EX ruin sex for me?

>>17738193
I do. Only non lewd though. The pictures I keep are the ones with good memories because not everything was terrible with them. Also the ones that I look good in, since those are rare.

>>17738193
Yes

They are my trophies and fap material. Maybe counter attacks too, but its never come to that.

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Women (or anyone with a useful opinion)

In my dorm I only smoke with a couple people and don't know anyone else. Yesterday I was watching AHS with my next door neighbor and this neighbor I see sometimes stopped in. I was blazed and I get all quiet and thoughtful high so I just kept watching while she was like "I love AHS, how long you guys watching" and I didn't respond and Idk she kept kinda probing for a reaction from me even though only my friend was responding (she has a way higher tolerance).
Then just now I came into the lounge and saw her like "hey what you up to" and she paused and was like "watching he's not that into you" and I went 'aww' and asked how it was, she was like "it's good, mainly just as background noise" she had her computer out too. I was like "I feel that" then finished filling my bottle and left. I'm sure she just happened to be watching but still it was awkward Idk.
I don't feel like a dick but there's definitely unnecessary feelings of uncertainty when I could probably be more friendly. How could I have played that differently? Part of me wants to have said "mind if I chill for a bit" or something but socially we go on autopilot and mine is always "get to a place where I'm comfortable/alone" unless I'm drunk. This is one of like 4 or 5 times this semester it seems like I'm specifically not engaging with others.

>TLDR: My shyness comes across as rejection towards others, and I don't wanna hurt people
How do I get over this?

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So I'm friends with this gal, and we get along pretty well. I'm not interested in dating her, but overall we're pretty close.

The kicker is she came from an abusive family, and has opened up to me a lot about this stuff. My family on the flipside is hardly perfect, but we're pretty supportive of each other as a whole. She's mentioned how she's spent key holidays such as Christmas alone and extremely depressed, so I invited her to a party my extended family is having this Christmas Eve. I mentioned it to a second friend, and they think I'm sending the wrong signals as if I'm into her. It's nothing strange for us since we frequently invite people that are only friends rather than those directly related, but I'm kind of wondering if there's something to what they're saying.

When I talk to Asian girls, they usually ask me if I'm an exchange or international student. (I'm a Korean guy)

They seem disappointed when I tell them no.

Why do they do that?

Also why does everyone seem to assume I'm an international or exchange student lol

>>17739203

From the little info you're giving? Yeah, when you invite someone over for holidays it's clearly sending a signal.
Think about it, you're going to introduce a girl to a whole bunch of people she doesn't know and sit down with her for dinner. It's a huge leap in the dating cycle.

Is it possible to do it as friends? Sure, but better make it clear before it happens otherwise you might end up crushing any expectations she has. She's a lonely girl too, right? Wouldn't be surprised if she's anticipating something out of this...

>>17738076
I really need to get over this girl one way or another, I'm so tempted to just text her how I feel so she can ignore it or brush it off and I can finally feel like she doesn't care and move on.

I can't help but feel I'm a disappointment for my girlfriend in bed: I either cum too fast, or have trouble getting it up. And when I do, only a handful of positions are possible due to my small size. I mean, I do oral and other stuff to please her, but I can see the disappointment in her face, and she's even said a few hurtful things once. What can I do?

>>17739203
If she's never met your family before and your family doesn't know her, and if you've known her only a short while then yes, it sends the wrong signals

>>17739302
>She's a lonely girl too, right? Wouldn't be surprised if she's anticipating something out of this...
She definitely has some issues over the fact most of her family is pretty unreliable at best. I'm pretty sure the lack of interest is mutual, that second friend of mine just commented that it may seem like my thoughts changed. Can't really think of a good way to say "btw I'm not trying to get in your pants if this is sending the wrong vibe" or something like that.

>>17739333
She's met the bulk of them over the years actually if that helps. We've been friends for something like 3.5 years now I think?

>>17739336
>She's met the bulk of them over the years actually if that helps. We've been friends for something like 3.5 years now I think?
Hmm, a lot more acceptable then. Maybe run it by your family first though.

>>17739336
Still the best course to maintain is to be open with your intentions. If you're not going to date her make it known. There are ways to do this without being a dick about it. Sometimes honestly works a long way. If she can't handle after that then it's her problem, not yours. Just keep reminding her that despite this you do care and want to help her out.

If you can't go through with that then use an alternative. For example bring up the girl that you like during a conversation (or make her up for all that I know). Say how you wish you could spend time with that girl or something. In other words gently let her know that you don't see her that way but be subtle about it.

How badly did I fuck up?
>Commute to class
>Always notice cute girl show up around time I do
>Both wait like 40 minute before class starts, 10 minutes with virtually no kids ever around
>Talked to her like twice, asked for help Monday
>Thursday show up early and ask if she's the same girl who helped me monday
>Says yes
>Say thanks, introduce myself, say she helped me for the quiz we had Tuesday
>No problem Anon, I'm Anonette.
>Shake hands
>Ask why she's at the class so early
>She commute from like 30 minutes away
>Family used to live there

Here's the fuck up.

>Say, "Oh yeah? My family used to live there."
>Cool
>Running out of things to say
>"Uh, yeah they sold it recently though, got a good amount for it."
>Oh uh, okay?

Her friend walks in, starts talking to us both, focuses the conversation a lot more, girl seems okay I guess. A lot more kids walk up, me and her and her friend having a nice convo, mostly her friend talking to us both and we're responding. Asks me my major, which is a really small niche one, surprisingly cute girl is also majoring in the same thing.

A bunch of kids start heading into the room, lull in conversation and cute girls basically looks at us both and then walks in without saying a word. She sits in front of me though and didn't seem any different.

I noticed her looking at me in our second class of the day together like a couple times, but that's about it. I don't think she was freaked out or anything, but I can't shake this feeling that I fucked up/she thought I was weird. Maybe I felt like she wasn't interested, she wasn't very talkative, but she seems shy from what I can tell.

Girls, if a guy did what I did, would you say I fucked up or I'm overthinking?

>>17739355
You had trouble sustaining a conversation with her. I wouldn't call that fucking up, but it's definitely not a success. You probably don't really have a chance with her either now, because she knows you two don't have enough chemistry to even keep a conversation going. This is why liking how the other person looks doesn't maintain a relationship, platonic or otherwise.

>>17739361
I had trouble cause I kinda wasn't thinking, it was in the morning after like 4 hours of sleep, and I'm super anti-social.

I'm a bit disheartened to hear the chance thing though, any saving grace or just say fuck it and stop talking to her?

>>17739370
You can keep trying if you want to, but I don't think it'd be worth it. I really don't see anything wrong with your side of the conversation, where it went wrong was that she wasn't responsive to your efforts to make conversation. If you think you can salvage that to forge a relationship, go for it. But IMO if you, and more importantly, she, can't have a conversation with someone you know nothing about and have all the topics in the world to talk about, then it's not going to work out.

>>17739355
>Say, "Oh yeah? My family used to live there."
>Cool
>Running out of things to say
>"Uh, yeah they sold it recently though, got a good amount for it."
>Oh uh, okay?
lmao, that's the kind of shit I'd say. No wonder I never talk to people.

>>17739377
You really don't see me bringing up people she has no idea about as an issue?

My efforts to make conversation prior to that were reciprocated I feel, I obviously cut it down cause of the character limit to these posts.

I'm not actually terrible at speaking, it's just I don't do it often and this was me just diving in the deep end immediately, my mind was drawing a blank cause I was nervous.

>>17739384
Like I said, it's up to you. I personally wouldn't bother, but then again, I wouldn't be this invested in someone I hardly know. She's just one girl, anon, move on. Or don't, it's your life.

>>17739390
Like I said, I'm anti-social. Me having any chance to speak to a girl is a bit good, I really don't want to just give up because of one conversation that went sour.

>>17739397
Then do it. Why are you asking my permission? I gave you my opinion on the situation, I didn't tell you that you had to follow it.

>>17739399
I wasn't asking permission anon, I was just saying why I'd probably still try.

I still think you're probably right, your post made me realize it's going to amount in nothing more than wasted time like every other time I've taken some sort of interest in a girl.

Women:
Why do you get so offended when I tell you I'm not interested in being in a sexless romantic relationship? I've lost a half dozen qt 3.14 gf, because they wouldn't have sex. I've tried explaining that sexual chemistry is part of what I base being in a long term relationship on. However, they still leave.

>>17739216
Do you live near a college with a lot of international students? I go to UW Seattle and even though I was born here and I speak with an American accent, people assume I'm international.

The disappointment comes from the idea that you've become a banana from growing up in the states.

I keep falling asleep when my boyfriend (LDR) wants to talk to me or hang out, especially after we watch a movie.
I feel like such a shitty person, but we have a 7 hour time difference. 8 PM for him is 3 AM for me, and I struggle really badly to stay awake. We also have school and other responsibilities to deal with at the same time.
I don't know what to do, and I feel like he's going to get mad at me eventually because of it. I'm paranoid he might leave me over it, too. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Anyone here been in a LDR? Any tips?

>>17738193
I have both types.

In the case of my ex-wife, we both have copies of sexy time pics so I have them as a form of mutually assured destruction. Its a shitty double standard but our divorce was not fun.

>>17738714
13 years & counting. I've been arrried twice since then and dated too but "the one that got away" is still a regret. We were together for 6 years and i wouldn't leave my current wife for my ex but the pain is still there from losing my best friend

Guys.

How do I tell if you're actually interested in a possible relationship and getting to know me or if you're just trying to say all the right things to get into my pants.

>>17739450
It's perfectly normal to fall asleep at 3AM. Find a better time to talk.

>>17739417
Depends on when you tell me.
I don't want to have sex before at least a couple of months in a relationship.
If you pressure me into fucking on the 3rd date, I'll probably leave.

>>17739471
This is really hard to know without having more information. Generally, a guy who wants a proper relationship will invest more effort and time during his conversations with you, and the quality will be much higher than if a guy is trying to fuck. Depends though, if you're a goddess and the guy thinks it's a miracle you are talking to him, he might spend more time and effort justto get in yiur pants because its worth it. Again, need more info.

Is "Valleyspeak" annoying to anyone?
>"like" every other word
>upward intonation

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Why do girls like to play games and do drama and payback for what they think it can be happening by their own interpretation?

>>17739488
Could not tolerate for more than 3 sentences.

>>17739502
All girls are a bit insane.

>>17739488
Kill it with fire

>>17739471
be a pain. It's very easy for a proportion of people to seem genuinely interested in you when they have an ulterior motive because it requires little effort on their part to maintain the illusion.

Asking favours/ doing things that require their time significantly increases the effort they have to expend in order to maintain that.

Of course this isn't foolproof, some guys have laser focus when it comes to getting what they want and will expand a lot of effort into getting it as a matter of pride once they've set that as a goal, even if there are easier/more efficient options elsewhere. At the very worst at least it will leave you with the genuinely interested and the genuinely determined.

Disclaimer: It's not necessarily a bad thing for someone to just be interested in sex with you initially. People looking to get involved in long term relationships with someone they don't really know may have other issues going on, such as not being happy being single/alone. This is in comparison to the initial spark just being attraction and a deeper connection coming later, because attraction is the basis of pretty much any relationship.

>>17739502
They want aknowledgement for their feelings. "This situation made me feel scared. Show that you understand so I don't feel alone".
These type of girls, If you don't indulge them they will be desperate for your attention.

>>17739502
the games and drama is because they're either shitty immature people

the interpreting things in wildly weird and inappropriate ways is related to low self-esteem/ anxiety and fearing the worst therefore making that their reality.

Both behaviours apply to both genders though not as many guys engage in them

Guys, completely honest how do you view guys who piss in stalls instead of urinals.

>>17739541

A man who likes his privacy. Nothing wrong with it (although for convenience sake I do wish I could pee in urinals to save time, I just cant pee comfortably with people staring at me)

t. Guy who pees in stalls

>>17739541
Maybe I'm pissing wrong, but there's less splash.

Guys:
How would you feel if your gf ate your booty?
I've asked my boyfriend mucking around, hes said 'yeah sure' sarcastically but I actually want to do it. I enjoy doing it. i dont know how to convince him, or should I just go for it and see what happens?

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>Tfw you start worry that you are just a vain asshole sociopath who is incapable of loving anyone unless they meet your standards of hotness no matter how nice you are

Ive always seen myself as an open, inviting person. Ive never thought "a girl has to be a super model for me to date her", chemistry and things in common are way more important

"Theres lots of fit girls out there" I'd tell my buddy, "... They're all fit, but only some of em have a personality that makes you wanna hang around with em longer than 5 minutes. Those are the ones you look for"

But, Im a perfectionist. I got high goals in every aspect of my life, I hate the concept of settling, it bugs me completely

And I feel like my brain might be applying this concept to women too. I just have high standards and cant be satisfied with less

Tell me, guys and girls, someone else feels my pain? I just wanna be normal and feel satisfied with a nice average girl that fancies me and wants me, but then that little devil on my should is jabbing me with a pitchfork saying "DONT STOP NOW, YOU COULD FIND SOMEONE HOTTER!"

>>17739551
I'd tell her no and forget about it, unless she kept pressuring me. If she kept pressuring me after I told her in no uncertain terms to stop it, I'd tell her to fuck off.

It's fine to express interest in something, but respect the fact that someone may have no interest in trying it out too. I see way too many people try to pressure their SO into some kink. It's not a matter of convincing them, and springing it on them mid coitus sounds like a good way to get punched.

>>17739553
>but then that little devil on my should is jabbing me with a pitchfork saying "DONT STOP NOW, YOU COULD FIND SOMEONE HOTTER!"
Sounds like you weren't that into her to begin with. That mentality is understandable for casual sex, not so much a serious relationship.

>>17739541
i know you're hiding your small dick and i'm judging you for is

>>17739558
Real men line up at the stall and compare dick size/how loud their flow is

>>17739554

>Mentality is understandable for casual sex, not so much for a serious relationship

The girl Im thinking about, I met on Tinder. We've met up 3 times now, hooked up and stayed over each time.
By the third time we're sorta getting on deep chat territory and connecting more personally, and Im worried Im gonna start not wanting to see this girl as soon as it gets more serious because shes not exactly what Im looking for physically

I mean, I still find her attractive and enjoy the sex, and I know nobodys perfect and you cant wait around for the perfect girl, but, I just always imagined myself having a girl on my arm that looks different.

She just doesnt meet my standards maybe or what I dunno

Theres no way to come outta this without feeling like a vain dick

>>17739558

>Tfw you really dont care about the size of your dick and are always surprised when women tell you "fuck its big" because you're a skinny fag so its unexpected, and I genuinely dont care I just wanna pee in privacy so I can relax without having to be surrounded by other guys peeing

>>17739563

>t. dicklet

>>17739329
shameful self-bump

>>17739570
There are meds to delay cumming. Viagra also have the effect of longterm boners.

I can also recommend getting a girl that evaluates you by your overall effort in bed and not by your johnson's happytime.

>>17739502
I get emotional or mad at him over my own interpretation of what's happening sometimes - happened three or four times in 6 months with my boyfriend.
I don't think I do the other things, at least not intentionally.

It is partially because I am insecure, inexperienced (he's my 2nd boyfriend) and generally shitty with people's feelings. When I don't understand what's happening, I just go for the worse explanation, I feel shitty about myself, I get mad and emotional.
I am trying to ask him before panicking. If I don't manage to control it, all I need him to do is be rational and explain me what's happening calmly, and it's fine.

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>>17739568

Fuck you, maybe I am, I really dont care, my girl sings the high heaven praises of my dick and then cant get off with fucking and I have to finger her for like 25 minutes anyway

What good is a big dick when half the time she too small to take it, gift and a curse etc.

I just wanna pee in private
Is nothing sacred

>>17739060
Find out his kinks and enthusiastically go along with it, if he's a good guy he will try hard himself to create that spark. I feel you need to give to receive and you'll both be better off for it.

>>17739562
>I just always imagined myself having a girl on my arm that looks different.
Sounds like you're enamored with a fantasy, and want things to work out a certain way.

When I was 20 I had this blueprint of where I wanted to be in 5 years. I'm 24 now, it caused a lot of stress because I'm in a very different place than I expected. Not necessarily worse, but different. Once I moved on from that blueprint and just worked on moving forward that stress went away. Sounds like you have something similar going on to me, just with relationships specifically.

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Just had a dream, that I was still with my ex, and x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48) x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48) x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48) I was overwhelmed by that feeling of happiness and joy, her smile, our house, our kiss and then I woke up, look at my current gf and there's this void and sadness inside me, the thing is, I love my current gf. I cannot control my dream but now that I had that dream I start missing my ex. We broke up 4 years ago and I never felt like this before today. It literally just happened out of no where! What can I do if this doesn't go away?
>now I start saving images of this model who looks like her

So I got really possessive with this girl I just started seeing and she ended it fast between us. I begged her and put myself down but to no avail. I'm thinking of waiting a couple days to talk to her in person since this was via text because we're both busy. I know it's pathetic but I really don't like things ending this way and want to try to make it work especially since we're in the same group of friends and hang out a lot. Has anything like this ever worked? I know most of y'all will say to move on but I dont want to hear that. I don't care if I come off clingy and desperate I just want to know if it could work.

>>17739579
shit looks like I fucked up my post

>>17739579
>x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48) x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48) x^(7/2)*((25*a)/24 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 - ((a + 1/2)*(a/2 - ((a/2 + 1/4)*(a + 1/2))/4 + 1/12))/2 + 19/48)
BUT WHAT IS IT EQUAL TO?

>>17739579
>what tourettes looks like in written form

>>17739579
look around this thread, the guys are either tfwngf, virgin small dick or some similar combination, would you like to trade your problem with them you fag

>>17738855
nah we have classes together irl
and yes she uses it she has her profile public and im sure she uses it also I forgot to mention I only had 2 friends on my fb account and no pictures of my self cause I have purged the account from all photos of me and my friend's list basically and disabled it and didn't use it for like 3 months but then reactivated to add her, maybe that creeped her out or she thought I had no friends.

Guys, do any of you have a girl as a friend and not doing a beta orbiter, waiting-for-poon, scheme? Do any of you have real friendships with girls?

>>17739767
Never had one, but to my defense, girls always assume I'm trying to hit on them.

Anyone halp

I used to have oneitis. I'm sure a lot of you know a thing or two about it. After a while though, it faded and I found someone else. It was great! Oneitis subsiding is a good feel I'm sure some of you are familiar with.

The thing is, my relationship hasn't been going well for some time now. To add to that, I was able to reconnect with that past girl and become close again. And as my relationship got worse, my old oneitis thoughts came creeping back in.

At the same time, these thoughts are hindering me from fixing my current relationship, and I know I haven't exactly done my best. Sometimes I even regret not going for the first girl, but this also makes me feel really guilty.

What do.

>>17739108

>break up
Yes but they were "break ups" in the sense that they came in the heat of arguments or when my gf was being extremely emotional over things.

Unfortunately, it's not working out so well right now. So if ever you do break up, in any form, really try to reconsider things.

>>17739767
I do. What's weird is most of my friends find her attractive and assume I'm banging her.

>>17738902
Agree with the second poster. Toys are pretty hot, an unironic waifu, please. About as attractive as a grown woman having a very active celebrity crush...

That's not to say you cannot really love a certain character or narrative, but that's different from an imaginary girlfriend.

>>17738991
It's hard to say from your description what you mean like funky. Genitals do have their own smell, but to most people it's quite a good smell. It is very similar to (fresh) ball sweat if you have good hygiene... not strong and in a way reminescent of the smell of skin.

Having said that, if it smelled strong, fishy, cheesy etc something was off, whether it's an STD or just not having cleaned themselves properly in a while.

Basically, pussies having a smell is absolutely normal. A strong/pugnant smell, no.

>>17739060
All I can think of is make sure that the experience is as pleasant as possible (good food, only do it when he's quite aroused and relaxed, mix sexual pleasure with the feeding) and communicating how much you like it, how horny it makes you etc.

That's about it...

>>17739129
If you're going to expect "hours" of fellatio then yeah, that shit's taxing on your jaw and neck muscles and barely any girl would be willing/able to go there.
But more than five minutes is not necessarily rare.

Realize that your ex was a rare one in that regard, though.

>>17739786
Tough to say from what you described thus far whether this is a case where you're better off abandoning ship because the connection's just not there, or you have grown comfortable and need to put in a little more effort to keep things thriving.

HOWEVER
>I was able to reconnect with that past girl
you have to realize that this was you taking a big shit all over your relationship, seriously. It is absolutely disrespectful towards your girlfriend and what good can come of it?

>>17738800
I'll try to find a suitable father, and a suitable family to adopt the baby out to.

>>17739767
Pretty much all of my close friends are female, and while all of them are perfectly bangable, it's just not something I think about due them having so many other awesome qualities. It seems a lot harder to find quality male friends.

>>17739828
We're in the same field of work where people are bound to come across each other. It's highly platonic though, but yeah I couldn't help but feel some sort of guilt. I just want to get rid of the old thoughts, but I don't really know how. It's something like mutant zombie oneitis.

>>17739123
What women post to the internet is the normie stuff. She could be just as weird/uninteresting as you think you are, you have no idea, because what goes on facebook is the best version of herself. Just talk to her, I'm sure you have more in common than you think.

>>17739857
It doesn't matter whether it's platonic or not. Can you imagine getting together with a sweet girl you're crazy about, and then she gets all starry eyed because she "is able to reconnect" with the guy she was smitten with -right- before you got together? Would that make you feel like she respected you or the relationship?
Yeah it's shit if you cannot avoid running into her but you owe it to her to try to keep your distance as much as possible within the given circumstances.

>>17739309
Then fucking do it.

Girls

what is your height
minimum height for a guy you would date
maximum height for a guy would date

just curious, thank you

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Girls, can a male friend you've known for a while become a boyfriend?

>>17739918
>175cm (~5'7)
>170cm (~5'6)
>190cm (~6'2)

Preference would be 5'7 or 5'8. I used to feel a bit self conscious about my height (not sure why given that I'm Dutch and more average than tall here) so I do have to take a moment to accept being taller than a guy, but I don't like big height differences either. Just seems to make everything physical less natural.

>>17739920
In theory, no doubt, but speaking personally there are good reasons why I do not date my male friends. Nothing bad actually (or I would not be friends with them), just lack of compatibility, lack of trust that they would be able to give me what I need out of a romantic relationship.

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Not a question for the other sex per se, but I figure /adv/ has a large population of users who also use dating sites and didn't feel it was important enough to make a thread.

I've been getting a ton of messages and profile looks/likes from Asian girls on OKC. At first I assumed they were all bots or from shitty countries and looking for someone to marry/save them. I look at their profiles though, and they're from Taiwan, South Korea and what looks like decent parts of China. They're also in fairly nice clothes, have all their teeth, etc. They don't look impoverished. They also typically have what I'm assuming are vacation pics usually in America and close by to where I live (Disney and whatnot).

So what's the deal? Am I think overthinking it? I'd like to think I attract cute Asian girls, but I'm super skeptical.

>>17739918
1.160 cm (5'2)
2.Doesn't matter if he has a good personality
3.Doesn't matter if he has a good personality
I prefer short guys though

>>17739934
asking mainly because I think ive gotten in love with one of my class mate/friend that I regularly hang out with. I feel terrible because I dont wanna feel like this for her and have been thinking about stop seeing eachother altogether.

girls

do you intentionally act more feminine in front of people you are attracted to such as a boyfriend or a crush? e.g. softer voice or purposely trying to be cute

my girlfriend acts a lot different when shes around me to her friends and im wondering if this is why

>>17739929
those measurements are a bit off, 175cm if 5'10

>>17739950
For the record, I was talking about friends I've had for years. I always feel that in the first... say, half a year of getting to know someone, you are still trying to figure out what kind of dynamic you have and what you want out of each other.

The way you describe it doesn't exactly sound like a set in stone friendship to me, just two people who figured out that they like spending time together.
But if you are in love and are sure that she does not reciprocate your feelings, yeah, better to cut off contact and spare your heart.

>>17739953
Some girls do, yeah. I don't really to that extent, just making sure that I don't make jokes as crude as I might otherwise would to not scare anyone off.. and get fussy/nurturing over their stuff. But it depends on the person how far they take it.

It's kind of similar to how guys can do a 180 talking to male friends then talking to their girlfriend. Sure, it can be presenting yourself in a more attractive manner, but more often than not it's also someone else bringing out that side in you.

>>17739959
Seriously?? Google lied to me. I just used one of those converters...

>>17739942
>personality
kek

>>17739965
175 cm is 5'9 average male height in Burgerland.

>>17739953
Yes, I do this with my boyfriend. I'm usually sarcastic, slightly more outspoken, and more of the dominant/outgoing friend among my group of female friends.

When I'm around my boyfriend, I'm a lot more cutesy and vulnerable. I've always thought of it like: my boyfriend is at least 10 times more charismatic and dominant in personality than I am. So, I kinda just let him take over that masculine persona of the relationship, and I take over the feminine. Particularly with affection, when talking about our relationship or us. If we're just talking and shooting the shit about things, I show my sarcastic and blunt side. But things strictly pertaining to our relationship, I want to be the really feminine figure.

>>17739918
>what is your height
168 cm (5'6")
>minimum height for a guy you would date
168 cm (5'6"), or slightly shorter.
>maximum height for a guy would date
I don't really care.

Tallest I've ever dated was around 2 meters (6'6"), shortest was 170 cm (5'7"). Preference would be 175-178 (5'9"-5'10").
I live in a place where everyone is pretty tall.

>>17739973
?

>>17739953
I do a lot.
I've always been kind of sarcastic and pretty tomboy-ish, but when I am around him I just turn into a '50s housewife who bakes pies and says cute shit all the time. I mean, it's not like we don't sit in front of tv, watch sports and talk shit but I really like being feminine and cute for him.
Everyone who knows me superficially and sees me around him is always amazed. Even my mom told him he basically tamed me.

>>17739942
>1.160 cm (5'2)
aww qt, I would totally rough you up and put it in your ass.

Guys.

I broke my phone. It will take a month to be repaired.
My boyfriend got mad at me because I don't want him to buy me a new phone. I make enough money to buy myself a new one, but I like mine and it's honestly a waste of money.

Why the fuck did he get mad? What did I do wrong?

>>17740055
He wants to buy you one so you'll owe him a favour and he can get the upper hand.

>>17740055
Probably because a month without a phone will feel like an inconvenience. And it will be annoying to try to get in contact with you.

Unless you are always online, have a house phone, and don't leave the house often, then he's probably mad over something else.

>>17739918
>my height
5ft/152cm
>minimum height for a guy
I've never met a guy shorter than me, but probably 5ft 2in/157cm
>maximum height for a guy
6ft 6in/198cm is approaching uncanny valley territory for humans, as far as I'm concerned
I guess 99% of men fall into this range

Guys, are big calfs on a girl a turnoff? Muscle calfs, not fat.

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>>17740111
>5ft/152cm
holyshit

>>17740115
that depends on the composition of your body
post a pic of your lower body.

>>17740069
>Probably because a month without a phone will feel like an inconvenience. And it will be annoying to try to get in contact with you.
I mean, yes, it will be annoying to contact me but it's just for a month. It's silly to spend money on something that I'm going to throw somewhere and never use again.
I will be able to receive calls, I have an old phone, just no texting. We will talk less for sure, but spending a lot of money on a phone because of morning texts is retarded.

if a guy has belly of a 7 month pregnat lady and man tits. is he excluselivy not attractive?

I am going to ask out this girl on Monday. I can't focus on anything but her. I don't know if she's interested in me, any way if she says no, I will at least get released from this haze I'm in and focus on myself again.

I only think she's interested in me cause she keeps telling me that other guys ask her out. She also asked me one day if I was doing anything later.

So do you think she is?

>>17740115

I've seen one girl pull off tree trunk legs before, but she had a pretty face, fat ass, and a shapely torso. If you happen to be blocky in other areas of your body or your face is hit, it probably can't be overlooked. Blame genetics and support legislation that classifies unattractiveness as a disability. At least then you can get some cash from the nanny state to fill the empty void left by loneliness.

>>17740059

Holy shit, is this really how girls think? Maybe he was just upset because he wouldn't be able to communicate with her as much until she gets a new phone, probably because he really cares about her. Not every kind gesture from a man is some patriarchal Machiavellian scheme.

>friends with girl
>she's really open and chill
>speed out and tell her I'm romantically interested in her and get prettily jealous when she's flirtatious with other men
>she's not instantly disgusted by my autism
>pretty chill about it
>she's now being even more flirtatious around other men

Is she doing this on purpose...? :(

>>17740247
sperg out*

>>17740246
>patriarchal Machiavellian scheme
no but it's most likely an attempt to peel panties

>>17740261

There are much easier/cheaper ways to pull panties than to drop 700$+ on a new smartphone, especially since anon said that the guy is already her boyfriend.

>>17740273
They're already in a relationship, which means he can use the phone as an argument every time she's not in the mood, disagrees with him ect.
Or it can be used as a leverage to make her do something she's not comfortable with.

>>17740280
What the fuck? No.
I am not the type and he is not the type. I wouldn't let him win an argument or do something I don't want to do just because he bought me something, and he wouldn't buy me something just to get things from me.
It's really not something he'd do.

>>17740359
You know your boy best. Maybe he just wanted to be nice or something. Whatever.

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Girls:

Would you fuck Tien if he was real

>>17740280
>I have a history of being in abusive relationships: The post
That's shitty, but don't assume your experiences are the same for everyone else.

>>17740375
No.

>>17740115
usually yes

>>17740380
True, but it's smart not to be naive in relationships.

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Men and women:

What is your response when you ask someone out and they say "no"? Something like, "no problem" or "that's too bad"?

I don't want to sound awkward or give off a negative vibe that would negatively affect any interactions with this person in the future.

Thank you for any advice.

I sexually assaulted my ex by grabing her boobs when we're cuddling.
When we break up she clearly told me i was an horrible person and it awfully took on my moral. Now i'm completely afraid of sex or hurting the ones i love by any manner.
What should i do to get out of this?

>>17740444
Are you mormon or something?

>>17740422
Both are good, the tone it's said in makes a bigger difference.

>>17740450
no just a bit shy and chetif

>>17740444
become a woman hating recluse like i did

women, never make a false rape accusation, you have no idea how damaging that shit is to a mans psyche

>>17740453
what type of tone? I think I have an idea but don't know how to describe it, like nonchalant?

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>>17740453
thank you for the advice btw

>>17740465
Yes. Nonchalant is the best way.

>>17740458
It sounds like she overreacted a bit. I don't know the situation and all, but if all you did was grab the boobs of your gf when you cuddled then I don't see why she got mad. It definitely doesn't qualify you as a horrible person.

>>17740469
np

>>17740489
i don't know, except that i didn't do anything. Sometimes she was calling me to help, but never told me what's was the problem, except she needed more intention... i don't know how to do that. I was just good and happy to be with her.
but thank you for your help

A girl initially said yes to going on a date with me, but she's been giving me the "I'm busy" treatment ever since. Her messages been really nice, but she never suggested another day and hasn't responded to my latest message, in which I tried to schedule something, after 3 days.

Is there even the slightest chance of her being shy/playing hard to get or would I be right in just writing her off?

If the latter, should I let her know that I'm okay with her not really wanting to go out with me and that I wished she told me so in the first place? We go to the same uni and often cross paths fairly often, so it's mostly about me wanting to avoid any awkward situations.

>>17740422
Just a flat "no"? I'd be offended since I'm already putting myself out there in the first place and I shouldn't have to.

Can someone explain physical attraction to me?

Here's the deal. I'm dating this girl and quite frankly I can't figure out how I physically feel about her. I'm looking at her photos on Facebook and she often looks quite plain and unassuming. If I saw just her photos, I would have ignored her and moved past.

But when I meet her in person something about her makes me melt. I feel immediately drawn to the faces she makes, her short frame and the general adorable dorky vibe she gives off.

I'm a really shy dude and I'm very inexperienced when it comes to dating. I used to be a weirdo, but over the past few years I've turned around the corner, began dressing better, working out, became successful etc. People who know me call me an idiot and tell me that I'm handsome enough to get any girl I want. And to some level I've began to believe that.

I realize that this is extremely shallow but there is that lingering question in my head over what they will say if they see us together as she's not what most would consider hot. More so, she's not close to the ideal I have built up in my head over the years of my male virginity. I actually feel we look kind of weird together.

But there's just something about her that turns me on so much. The conversation flows so easily even though we haven't known each other for too long. She makes those cute faces when she's shy. The way she looks at me drives me crazy. She slightly chubbier than I would have liked, but the way she acts when we have sex is insane.

Everything just moved so fast since I met her. Just after two dates we were already acting like a couple and having so much fun. But now she's giving me the cold shoulder and not replying to my texts. And it drives me nuts.

>>17740591
What is your actual question? All I'm seeing is a blog post that provides very little elaboration on the question you asked.

>>17740577
Unfortunately some girls tend to use the ignore/silent treatment in order to avoid turning someone down so from here on it's up to you on how you want to handle it.

If it bothers you can confront her and let her know that this sort of attitude just complicate things and makes it harder on both of you since she's leaving you questioning and expecting things. The downside of this is that there is a good chance it might go poorly if indeed she's the type to flee from confrontations.

Otherwise you can simply ignore her and act "like you got the message". It might leave you unfulfilled but in the case that there is still a small chance that she didn't dump you she might bring it up again in the future once she notices you're not talking about it anymore.

In any case if you do talk to her about it just put the emphasis on how you're confused rather than angry so you don't come across as a jerk.

>>17740634

After reading it back I'm just rambling like a moron. I think I'm falling for a girl that I didn't find initially attractive and have no idea what to make of it. So my actual question would be. Is it worth pursuing this relationship or will this weird feeling of "am I really attracted to her" persist. When I'm with her, this disappears.

>>17740646
Thanks for the reply dude.

I've been in a position where the roles were reversed before and there I told the girl that I wasn't interested. She accepted it and found another guy a couple of months later, while still retaining a decent relation to me without it being awkward.

I might meet her on Thursday, so if she hasn't gotten back to me before that, I'll see if I can muster the courage to "confront" her.

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Girls, do you like it when a guy bites your neck/breasts/butt/other parts of your body? What about nipple sucking? And what about butt slapping? It just comes to be naturally, so I wonder if that's something I should keep up.

>>17740689
If it's playful?

Yeah, then it's hot.

Are you biting/slapping so that it actually hurts?

Fuck off, I'll kick the shit out of you.

>>17740674
Godspeed to you, anon.

>>17740689
I like everything you listed, but it obviously depends on the person.
The only issue is that I get bruises a lot so I don't like bites on visible areas. If you don't bite too hard, it's okay.

>>17740689
Sure, but not super hard. I bruise easily

Girls, would you date a transguy? Why, why not?

>>17740689
Don't leave marks. That's not cool.

>>17740589
What else do you want?

Femanons:

I dont think I ever wanna have sex, it looks weird and seems disgusting. I dont think I will ever found someone who I like who are the same as me.

Should I just start investing in cat food?

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How do I write an online PoF/OKCupid message to a girl that's into similar things?

I'm trying to avoid:
>You like the playstation? Huh, I like the Playstaton!

>>17740746
dont bother with online dating if you are not a 10/10 shirtless chad. Most girls look at your pic and ignores you if your not this.

>>17738800
Nothing. If when I'm pregnant I decide I don't want to be come a mother, or if my pregnancy is the result of rape, I'd abort.

Girls, what do you think of guys with a big bum?

>>17740744
Cat food doesn't attract asexual girls.

Questions for the dudes:

When a guy farts or burps, it's funny and you make a contest out of it. When a girl farts or burps it's disgusting and she's wierd. WHY?

I live with my boyfriend of 7 years, so obviously I rarely think of how I could behave more sexy, or try to be cute or attractive around other guys. When I'm with friends, male or female, I'm simply myself, wich involves burping when I feel like it (I still do it like a wellbehaved grownup, turning my head away and not fkn blowing it in someones face). And still ppl, mostly guys, seem so chocked a girl could even produce such a sound. I don't get it.

>>17740781
I should probably add: I am on the thin side of things (1.75m, 63kg)

>>17740784
I think if you are older than 10 and think farting and burping are funny you're probably autistic or something no matter who it is.

>>17740737
Bumping my own question. Girls, would you date a FtM transperson? Why, why not?

>>17740781
Nothing, really. I dont have one feature I find weird or attractive, I just judge how a person looks as a whole. I have seen some sexy guys with a big bum and some uggos with a big bum.

>>17740781
>>17740787
Depends on proportions. Not a bad thing if it goes well with the rest of the body, even better on a skinnyish fit girl.

>>17740797
I would. Why? I cant really tell, I am just not opposed to the idea. If I like him, then no problem.

>>17740803
>girl

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>be 27 year old guy
>cute 32 year old messaging me on dating site

Not sure what to do here. Help me out.

>>17740737
I dunno. Does that process give you a lot of body hair? I'm not a fan of that

>>17740737
Pre-op? Certainly no.
Post-op? Most likely no, but who knows.

Because I like dicks and I really want kids in the future, and would prefer avoiding hyper complicated procedures to get them.

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Girls

How do I get my girlfriend to be less reliant on me? I love her, but she's too needy for me to feel okay with the relationship as of now

>>17740815
What's the issue here? You're not getting married here so checking it out doesn't seem to cost you much. Maybe you'll like it, maybe you won't. That's what dating is so you can find out if it can work or not.

Guys:
Would you prefer a kind but somewhat boring gf or an entertaining but sometimes a little mean gf?

>>17740813
Ooops. Well guys with big booties are also good. /fit/ has regular fap-threads on it.

>>17740829
a)
Stable and boring relationship every day.

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>>17740826
It's just 5 year age gap is daunting to me. She might just be bored, who knows.

>>17740829
Kind and boring. A little meanness can lead to spite and resentment whereas kindness is what you need for long relationships.

>>17740818
A lot of guys look a lot younger than they are because they got testosterone treatment after normal puberty, so there will likely be less bodyhair than a cis guy, depending on the transguys genes.

>>17740822
Honest. Thank you.

>>17740808
Thanks for the reply

>>17740829
Kind but somewhat boring. I'm done taking any shit in a relationship

>>17740829
A

Tried the other and it's not enjoyable

I've been dating a girl for a month now. We went out about 4 times and we mostly walked around and talked, I always kiss her before leaving.
Last night we met at a club and I kissed her as soon as we saw each other (in front of my friends and a lot of other people).
What's next?
I don't really care about sex cause I don't wanna speed thing up, she's a virgin and we're not totally intimate yet.
I'm shy and kinda insecure, so I still feel kinda distant all the time.
She told me she likes me and she understands me, she's so sweet.
She lives about 30 minutes away from me and I'd like to drive to her town one of these days just for a drink or something. Am I doing it right?

I've never had a girlfriend, but a medical issue has raised itself.

How would i tell a woman I'm interested in there's like a >75% chance I'm sterile? When would an appropriate time be in the relationship?

>>17740856
I'd like to know before we got serious, but after we're close enough to share personal details. Like, a couple of months of dating? Maybe?

In general I wouldn't dump someone I really like over this, but I would like knowing what I am getting myself into.

>>17740856
That's pretty personal. Wait until it gets serious, or if she seems very baby-hungry maybe tell her right away or just break it off. It really depends on how sensitive you are about the subject. What medical issue?

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>>17739936
A lot of asian girls etc come to US and other countries and message locals first to try and get a free place to stay/someone to pay for them. Don't do it, the asian race is a crafty and sneaky one

>>17740871
Klinefelter's. Basically i get fucked up proportions and infertility.

Hey, I have a question:
If you're with a roommate who says you disrespect her home by leaving your room a mess but suddenly decided to fix it up, am I actually being disrespectful or is she just being a projectile little bitch?
I'm not the tidiest person, but I'm not Chris-Chan tier-room bad. Oh, and apparently me leaving a messy room until much later isn't a habit, it's a choice!
Keep in mind, I lived with her for only 3 months and I'm not used to this shit.

>>17740891
>her home
If you live there too it's also your home, and you can use your room as you please.

>>17740890
Sorry to hear that. Do you qualify for TRT?

>>17740898
Well, it's a little late. I became a sub bitch to her as she went on a tirade about me being so disrespectful.
I really wish I said this to her, but then she'll say I have an attitude and probably threaten to kick me out. She's that kind of person.

Anyway, thanks. Sorry if I seem edged, but I'm so fucking upset this is the 4th time this happened. I'm also just starting to get a job to not be a welfare sponge, so I could pay a little more rent to get on her barely-decent side.

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Anyone really.
I have been with a girl for about 4 years now. And lately i feel underappreciated. She's been getting mean, yells at me, blames me for the things that happen to her out of my or both our hands. I feel like she never really respected my time, if we agree on a date at 7 she would usually be late ~20 min. But now it sometimes reaches 2h or even more. Most of her problems become my problems somehow. She calls me immature and childish even tho she is younger and less responsible than I am and it feels degrading. I feel she sabotages my efforts in the bedroom by being stuckup and acting like sex is "childish".

Have any of you been in a similar situation? Any advice would be appropriated because if things don't change I think i might have to leave her and move on despite the fact that i love her.

>>17739936
Answer me, you fuckers.

>>17740906
Nice cat

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Girls: What makes a good first meeting? I hesitate to call it a date.

>>17740925
Obviously at the movies!

>>17740925
Something you both like

>>17740905

Yeah, I just got out of that relationship. Since we've been apart though she's been having to accept that those issues we experienced together are still happening to her alone and she's coming around to the idea that maybe it was her after all.

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What do girls like guys to wear fashion wise? What do you think is hot?

I used to dress super fratty, and that attracted some girls, but I've recently started dressing more hippy/vaporwave/skater (so stuff more like patterned tank tops, joggers, boots, etc.) and I've gotten a huge increase in complements about my looks from strangers. I'm just curious what other girls think.

>>17740981
>patterned tank tops, joggers, boots, etc.
Ugh, that sounds disgusting. There's nothing wrong with jeans and a tshirt, as long as they fit properly

>>17740981
It depends on the guy. It should be a way to express your personality. Just dress the way you feel more comfortable in.
In general clothes should fit you well, be simple, be clean, be in good shape.

Other than that, really, it just depends on what kind of person you are.
I laugh when I see my boyfriend in a blazer and a shirt but he looks hot as fuck with a black t-shirt and jeans, my ex looked perfect and amazingly good in his smart casual clothes.

I'm meeting a young woman for coffee this week or the next.

What do you even talk about? It's been a long time since I did a coffee date.

>>17741073
Your childhood, her childhood, your life, her life, work, school, funny things that happened to you, how much you were a loser in high school, how much you both like that book/musician/tv show/movie/subject, abstract art, the muppets (I literally had a coffee date when we just talked about the muppets, totally craziest guy I've ever met), really whatever.

Girls

this girl who I really like wants to have sex with me. She likes me a lot. The thing is I'm pretty nervous. I've only had sex twice, and that was years ago. We've been talking pretty lewd to each other, and since I'm 5 years older than her. I think she's really anticipating I'm gonna be amazing... but I am way to embarrassed to tell her that it's been 5 years since I've even kissed a girl..

What do I do..

>>17741094
You do your best.
Take your time, kiss her lots, make out, have fun, enjoy yourself, go down on her if you don't think you're doing well, and see how it goes. Do what feels right to you without stressing it too much.
Don't stress. Sex, especially for girls, isn't just mechanic.
Just being in the same room as my boyfriend gets me aroused.

>>17741114

Like this girl REALLY wants my dick. We sent each other lots of nudes, she said she loves the way my dick looks and wants it in her. I'm just worried I'm going to underperform. I mean this girl is 5 years younger than me, but clearly she has way more experience than me because she has been in relationships in the past. I've only ever had sex twice with 2 random hook ups. And that shit happened over 5 years ago. so I don't know what I'm doing. I forgot everything. I am older than her, so she probably thinks I have lots of experience and know what's going on. I never claimed that I did or anything.

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>>17741093
I would be pretty happy to talk about the Muppets. I prefer bar dates because I think it helps the conversation but maybe it'll be alright.

>>17741128
Stop focusing on that.
Yes, you're inexperienced. It's okay. A lot of people are. It doesn't mean it will necessarily make sex between you terrifying.
Do what feels right to you. Sex is a pretty natural instinct and the more you worry about what you should be doing the more it will be uncomfortable for you both.
Take your time, do what feels comfortable to you and what you feel like doing. Explore things, relax and have fun.
When you fuck with someone you actually like it feels good. You cannot go too wrong.

Being so scared of fucking up is idiotic. If you happen to really fuck up, just explain why and figure out a solution.

>>17740998
What's gross about those? Jw
>>17741030

So a t-shirt and jeans? I've never tried it because I thought it looked too basic. I'm in shape tho so it could work.

>>17741144
I am too autistic when I am tipsy, I never had a bar date that didn't end in me talking for 45 minutes straight about absolutely boring shit (like the muppets). I try to avoid alcohol till I know they like me enough to find it cute and not cringy.
Coffee dates are fine, nearly no effort and usually pretty fun. You'll do good.
Good luck!

>>17740737
No because I have a hard time understanding all that and it puts me off. Apart from that I would like to have a family in the future.

How can I get to know the cute girl who works at the store in front of the restaurant where I'm working?

>>17741171
Try rolling on E sometime. I talked to Girl totally interested in me but all i wanted to do was look at how beautiful this fuckin waterfall was and talk about the life cycle of fungi.

>>17740422
If they straight-up say no they probably aren't very nice, so who cares. If it's like "that's so sweet but I don't wanna mess up our friendship" or "I'm pretty busy" (essentially no but polite about it) then those responses are fine.

>>17740815
I dated a 30 year old at 18. Who cares

>>17741145

I'll try, anon.

>>17741237
I just get really random and cannot stop myself when I get excited about something.
One night me and this guy I went out with literally spent 5 hours talking about black holes, robots and weird experiences in eastern europe. It ended up with a "who has the most badass scar" competition in the middle of the street at 4 AM. I didn't even ask him how old he was or what his job was.
Best date I've ever had tho.

>>17738520
some advice beside the problem with your girlfriend: Stop trying to define yourself by your intelligence. Not only does it make you look like an ass to most people, being intelligent alone also isn't worth very much. I've seen many people that were significantly above average intelligence fail for multiple reasons, including myself. Define yourself by the things you're good at, by considerabel achievements.

>>17740689
I always thought this was pretty ironic. Like 9 out of every 10 girls will love some form of rough sex, but 8/9 of those girls bruise super fucking easily so you have to be tender anywhere from the collarbone and up, but the rest of the body can look like it was run over by a fucking car

>>17739541
They probably get pee shy.
>I know I do

>>17739054
well, telling her about your past would at least shut her up really quick

>>17739576
Bro holy shit why are you so insecure about your penis? You could have cut this post about 90% down and every word after just shows you damage controlling

TLDR: should I go for it? Will it go well?

I'm 23. She's 29. I live in Italy, she lives in the UK. She has a long-term boyfriend who lives in Malaysia. When I asked her if she is single she told me "It's complicated".

Even though we started speaking less than a week ago, I already feel a connection with her. Not only is she beautiful, she is clever (PHD), superbrave (hitch-hiked in Africa and Middle East war reporter) and we generally have common hobbies and interests. I really enjoy talking to her and I long for her messages, she is the ideal girl for me.

I have asked her where has she been all my life, I told her I would go to her wherever she is right now if I could. She even went as far as telling me when she wants kids.

Her replies are always thankful. She says I'm adorable, I'm sweet but she keeps on insisting she is old. I'm confused as she said she hopes to meet me soon.

I've written a FB post publicly confessing that I am mentally ill (anxiety) and that I'm talking to"an older woman that I find terribly fascinating, clever and sexy". Before I sleep I will tell her to take a look at it, so I will wake up with her message in my inbox.

How do you think this story will go?

>>17741392
I've only read the first paragraph and my answer is "what in the world are you thinking?"
>6 year age gap (significant when you're this young)
>long distance
>she has a long distance boyfriend
>she actually said 'it's complicated' to describe her relationship status

>>17741404

Concerning the first greentext, my brother, aged 22, married a 43 year old. Seven years later, they are still happily married. It can happen if you want to. About the long distance, she is ending university soon so will move elsewhere, and I'm in the exact same situation.

What's the issue with the "it's complicated"?

>>17739541
If there are no urinals free that are not adjacent to somebody than it's fine. If there are tons of free urinals what the fuck are you doing?

>>17739108
Matched on tinder with a girl i dated 4 years ago in high school. We got coffee, fucked, and then she moved to Austria to avoid student debt.

>>17741414
>>17741392
You just want someone to validate you, don't you?

>>17741431

I just want an honest opinion on the matter. That's it.

reposting from other thread

>>17741430

What are some big signs that you're just a rebound?


Been dating a chick who's been single for about 8 months from a 5 year relationship. She was Cheated on

Pros
>She has met my parents when she came to hang out
>invited me to hang out at her place so met her family
>Our personalities are very similar in a good way, we have an insanely great time together
>She is super busy with school, but spends her free time with me when she can
>Spends the nights when she can
>Isn't on her phone when we are together
>Is barely on social media
>when we are together, she opens up and shows she likes me
>texts me a lot through day
>Phone calls at night
>When we had problems she asked her friend and sister advice about me
> I was planning on moving to europe. she told me once she wouldnt want me to leave


Cons
>Still friends with her ex (she was friends for a long time before their relationship)
>She is distant when not together through text and phone calls(as in not saying the sweet things she says in person)
>Says she is scared to get close again (wants to take things slow)
>Her mom still thinks good of her ex (doesnt know he cheated). But knows shes talking to someone new
>Her mom and sister both told her to focus on school and not to date
>I feel like i have to tippy toe with the sweet/emotinal talk so she doesnt feel pressured and I don't look needy
Random shit
>I'm WAY more attractive than her ex
>Sex is fucking great
>People think I'm the one out of her league


Now that I'm typing this out I see there are a lot more pros than cons. But I'd still like to know. does it look like I'm possibly the rebound? I really like her but I really don't want to end up getting destroyed emotinally.

>>17739181
>Aww
You're a douchebag