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How long in a relationship until you fug a guy?

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>>17722337
>>17722337
>>17722337

>>17722351
Its probably going to a be a long term issue because 5 kids is a lot. Save yourselves the time and pursue other people

>>17722347
Guy here but in my experience between first and third date.

>>17722347
That definitely depends on the person, you'll probably get wildly differing answers.
I personally like to get sex out of the way in the first few dates.

Guys
How do I get my boyfriend to give me more attentions?
Other than openly asking him to, since it didn't work.

He is one of those guys who believe that since he said I'm pretty once in 2014 it's going to be valid forever and he doesn't need to repeat himself.
We're also both pretty introverted and we're happy just sitting around each other minding our own stuff, but sometimes it'd be nice to actually interact.
I am getting to the point where it is making me feel insecure and I am convincing myself he dislikes me.

>>17722347
After at least a couple of months.
I value sexual intimacy a lot and I don't want to fuck with someone unless I care about them.

>>17722347
30 minutes.

>>17722371
Have you tried telling him this? Do you give him attention?

>>17722371

If you want compliments, told him he wasn't giving you enough bluntly, and he still doesn't compliment you more, there's no subtle way to influence him.

>>17722347
Whenever you both want to

Girls and guys

Figured i'd ask this from last thread.

What advice do you have for a 26m who is just got his first girlfriend? I don't know the ins and outs of this. If it matters at all, she is 21, but she acts really mature for her age, and actually is quite successful.

>>17722279
>NEET and living with parents (30)

This is from the old thread but I want to know.

What are this guys initials? What does he do?

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Why do I fall in love so easily with girls that show me the slightest bit of attention?

>>17722382
I did. He kind of dismissed it as a "I'm like this, you know how I feel about you". Which is true, I know he has an amazing opinion of me as a person, and likes me physically.
But it's an emotional problem, not a understanding problem. I don't feel loved, even if I rationally know how loved I am.
I snapped twice about this thing, and it was the only arguments we ever had. I am pretty immature when it comes to emotional things.

I do give him loads of attentions.
I'm admittedly not amazing with words but I do cute shit for him all the time (prepare his clothes every morning, pack his lunch for work, prepare his dinner and breakfast, compliment him, buy him presents, etc).
He seems mildly disinterested in me all the time. It is creating a sort of negative bias, too. Like if he says he misses me I cannot believe him because he doesn't give me attentions when we are together.


>>17722386
Heh.
I am just scared I will resent him and it will ruin us. He's the best person I've ever been with.

>>17722396

Because you are starved for attention, maybe?

Because you need to interact with more girls to notice a little bit of attention is not a love declaration?

>>17722371
be actually pretty kek

>>17722403

It must be the first one. 2 of the people I talk to most are girls I went to school with.

>>17722347
I'd say minimum two months.

>>17722400

>I am just scared I will resent him and it will ruin us. He's the best person I've ever been with.

Here's the thing: It drove you mad enough to snap twice. Do you this this is really healthy for you guys?

Either you learn to cope with it or he steps up his game a little. Either way, you need to reach a compromise.

>>17722411

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's it. And I'm not trying to be mean or anything about it. I'm the same.

Find people that make you happy (as friends) and then you'll have the emotional "backing" to face a relationship.

>girlfriend constantly has issues with me
>things will be going good for a couple weeks
>then she starts bitching about 10 different things over the span of 2 days
>they're usually not even that bad, for some of them I didn't even do anything wrong

The fuck is going on here? It feels like she can't go a month without making tiny shit like me having to cancel a dinner or my house being cluttered into a world ending drama.

>>17722423

There must be something else going on there. Maybe with you, or her family, or her job, etc.

>>17722400
Well then he needs to step up. Yeah most of the time I'm like that with my gf, but I don't want her to think that I don't care. Giving someone attention to show them that they're special to you is important in a relationship. Having the attitude that your s.o. should just know that you care is pretty lazy. It's not like you're asking him to lavish you.

>>17722404
I don't think it's really about my looks.
He can't sit next to me without getting hard. I have a definitely fuckable body, and a nice face. I am EXACTLY his type, too.
And I really don't have problems getting guys. Never had.

>>17722414
How do I cope with it?
He feels like complimenting me more would enable my insecurities, but I don't know how to stop being insecure about him not liking me if he doesn't show me he likes me.
It just gets worse.

It happened twice over the last 2 years. Not like twice in 3 days. But still two times more than it should have happened.

>>17722394

CK, Did some warehouse job for about 10 years

>>17722423
who the fuck knows man.

My gf has BPD so I'm constantly catching shit for things I didn't do. I'm never good enough, attractive enough, loving enough, good enough in bed, wear good enough clothing, clean enough, outgoing enough, introverted enough, nothing is ever ever ever good enough. She lies to me all the time, breaks promises constantly, and acts like she absolutely despises me.

Then she will call me crying saying how badly she misses me, how I'm the most amazing man she has ever met and there is no one else in the world she would want to have children with. She will tell me how I'm the most interesting man to have ever lived and how she never talks to anyone, literally anyone, ever.

I'll say "Thanks baby, that's really sweet but c'mon I know you talk to other people you tell me about them all the time. It's ok to have friends."

That last hour of praise? Out the god damn window and shes fucking FURIOUS at me, calling me pathetic, a loser, a piece of shit, that I'm fucked up, and a bunch of other nasty things becausue I said I appreciated her praise, even though it was exaggerated.

Are all women like this? I love her but... every other day she is stomping on my soul with hatred in her heart.

>>17722432

Coping is a personal thing. How do I cope with the pressures of exam season? By starting a new show and relaxing with an episode a day.

You have to find your own way to cope. As I'm neither a woman nor have a boyfriends, I can't really put myself in your place.

Maybe he does something else beyond compliments to show he cares? Does he take you out to places you like? Does he give you gifts?

Focus on something he does, and try to find his way of saying "I love you". And if you can't find something he does, then dump his ungrateful ass : )

>>17722432
>And I really don't have problems getting guys. Never had.
uhh tell us more about this part. Therein might lie the problem of him not wasting his time with romance.

>>17722423
She has PTSD.

>>17722445
>wasting his time with romance.

Eat your heart out Don Juan, we have a new dreamboat in town.

She described herself as basically his wife, Anon. If he can't spare a few sweet nothings then we have a problem.

>>17722400
I had this issue with my boyfriend too. I ended up telling him everything I was feeling. And it was pretty unpleasant but I basically just snapped and let it all out the things I had been thinking about. I told him I was at my wits end and couldn't take it anymore. I asked him if he was still in love with me. Essentially inviting him to break up I said, "It's okay if you're not anymore, I understand feelings can change and it's not anyone's fault." I asked him "Are we just friends then?" I told him I love him but don't feel loved, all the things I do to show that I care go unrequited and it makes me want to give up. If you feel any of these things you need to just lay it all out plain. I kept it all to myself for the longest time because I was worried about making things worse but it's just not worth hanging on to if you can't be honest with each other.

If an ex that hurt your feelings invited you for a date after a long period of time, would you accept immediately or what?

Girls

What does semen taste like? Is it bad?

>>17722473
If I have nothing better to do, sure. People can grow and change in a long time but it depends on what he did. Cheat? Nah, fuck that guy.

>>17722475
You produce your own. Go taste it.

>>17722485

no..

>>17722460
pls.

>>17722486

I'm not the same Anon, but why not?

You are asking someone else to do it, after all.

>>17722486
Do it. Post it. Make a lewd face while doing it.

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>>17722486
It's perfectly healthy to eat your own semen, women have eaten worse things came out of their bodies.

>>17722492
He didn't, he asked to any woman who tasted before.

>>17722475
Why do you only want girls' opinions?

>>17722506

"Asking someone to do something" is a expression. It doesn't mean he literally said "Taste it".

But if he expects to get a BJ, then he is "asking someone to taste it". So, it only makes sense to taste it before going for the BJ, so he can remove any doubts.

>>17722445
I have been getting attentions from guys since I hit puberty, and loads of them. I am pretty. Tallish, slim, nice legs and butt, decent tits which ruined my ballet career but definitely made me interesting for dudes. Pretty cute face. Not a 10/10 but would definitely fuck me.
I had two boyfriends, one for 7 years and my current for 3. Never cheated, never fucked around, always been loyal, housewifey as fuck even if I am finishing medschool.
I don't see how he's wasting his time, to be fair.

Not saying I'm perfect or I don't have my flaws, I definitely do. But I'm a decent girlfriend.

>>17722444
He shows he cares at his very own terms.
He doesn't tell me I am pretty, he literally doesn't say it since 2014, or notice I cut 40 cm of my hair, but he writes me a love letter out of nowhere once every couple of months and constantly talks about me to everyone else.
I'm the one he goes to for advice, the one he trusts more, but dear god he'd never tell me thank you or "You're actually fucking helpful, thanks".
He doesn't talk to me the whole afternoon, but stares at me smiling when I cannot see him. He is annoyed when I ask him to do something together (not shopping for make up, like watching his favourite sports on tv and playing his favourite videogame) but then just gets all enthusiastic when I show interest in them.
The fact that he does nice things for me sporadically is great, but I just wish he could be somewhat normal sometimes and tell me "Oh I noticed you put 100€ of lace panties on your butt, it looks really nice". Because, yeah. It feels good.

>>17722344
I am afraid of staring people into their eyes for more than 2seconds.
Will this get in my way of getting into a relationship?

Any girl ever felt "intimidated" by a guy's brain, culture or anything like that?

(inb4 euphoric, I don't think of myself as particularly clever, cultured or anything like that.)

>>17722523
Yes, but it's sexy.
When I talk to someone much smarter or knowledgeable than me, especially if he's kind of charming and pleasant to be around, it's really attractive.

>>17722523

People in general can feel envious, threatened, or like they are less of a person when they perceive a quality in someone else and feel they don't have it.

It's pretty common behavior, specially in children. It's usually called "Envy".

>>17722470
I didn't read your comment. Damn it.

I tried to talk to him but he thinks it's just an insecurity thing and I can't seem to make him change his mind. I mean - he's even right, but I don't know how to get over it. Ignoring it doesn't seem like the best way.

>>17722528
Now consider the case where his knowledge is esoteric but has nothing to do with any trending topics of society, arts or politics. Doubt girls want to hear about how interesting continuum hypothesis is.

>>17722530
>>17722528
To expand a bit, it's been like a constant of my relationships over the years. Girls first and women then just tense up over time, starting to get... jittery.

>One flat out told me she did not want to meet any of my friends because she was afraid of what they could think (a cutie majoring in archeology, so)
>Another one always made a point of trying to be "up to my level
>Third one jokingly said her next man just had to be "less smart" than her

And I'm not even rich, good looking or anything -so no need to just appeal to my ego.

Guys, do you find it off-putting if a girl gives you gifts? He's a good friend and once in a while I like to give him something (usually something useful or something he'd like), I don't expect anything in return but I hope I'm not giving him weird vibes by doing this, I do like him and was rejected when I asked but I hope he doesn't see this as some weird ulterior motive, I do still really care about him as a friend so I hope I'm not creeping him out or anything.

>>17722543
Nope. Why would I?

>>17722543

It really depends on the gift, how thoughful or expensive they are, and if there's an excuse for them or are just out of the blue.

I admit I'd feel a little embarassed, but as long as they're just little things it's no big deal.

>>17722492
>>17722498
>>17722499

Because I'm a guy, and I'm not tasting cum. Even my own. No..

I wouldn't expect a girl to taste herself

>>17722543

Gifts in general are pretty weird in my age bracket // life situation (20-something, broke-ass college students).

I'd be creepped out just because it would feel like an unnecessary expense if we are just friends.

Maybe this is not your situation, but hope it helps.

>>17722553
I kinda thought everyone tasted themselves, at least out of curiosity.

>>17722553

There's nothing wrong with it, you won't turn into a girl or gay for doing it.

>>17722541
In my experience, it really depends on the way you show your intelligence.
I've had the same experience with some guys because I can be absolutely autistic about the fields I am interested in.
Now I understood that (1) some people genuinely do not give a shit about math, immunology or other things that are immensely interesting to me (2) some people don't know anything about it and have nothing to say. When I talked to them, I made them feel uncomfortable and stupid compared to me. Or bored.
If you convey it in an interesting/entertaining way people are more willingly to listen to you talking about it. And in general you have to make them feel like you are interested in what they have to say, so ask questions and let them show interest.

>>17722535
It is insecurity but that doesn't mean it's not justified and can be dismissed. This is a REAL problem in your relationship and even if he does think it's all in your head that doesn't absolve him of having to do anything to change things. You shouldn't have to do mental gymnastics and grasp at straws to convince yourself your boyfriend is in love with you. You guys have to come to a compromise because the only way for you to "get over this" is to stop caring. And at that point the relationship is done.

>>17722541

There a plenty of reasons to exagerate when compliment a partner beyond "appealing to your ego".

Maybe they wanted you to feel good because they like you, not because they plan on raiding your bank account.

>>17722558

As a guy, I can tell I did. But also as I guy, I can tell you a friend never watched porn scenes with cock sucking because he was afraid he would start liking cock. So male sexuality is plagued with these "don't do that or you turn gay" nonsense.

>>17722574
That's both weird and hilarious to me, thank you.

>>17722553
Yeah, I don't go out and buy expensive gifts because I'd find that weird myself if I was on the receiving end. I mean, it's not something I do often. I'm overthinking this. Thanks, brain.

>>17722578

Wrong post buddy, that's the cum tasting Anon.

>>17722539
... I would love that.
But then again I am heavily biased.

>>17722344
>casually flirt with girl in friend group over the past few months
>tease, mess, and joke around with her
>she reciprocates
>opened up to her a little bit about how my mom has cancer

idk if telling her about my mom was the right move but that's not the issue.

I don't know how to go on from here. I feel like I've reached a point where things are up in the air and if I wait around and do nothing, I'll fuck it up, but if I do one wrong thing I could fuck it up too, and possibly end up ostracizing myself from this social group that I have really come to enjoy. The more I find out about her the more I actually come to like her. I'm not about to talk the other people in the group about this and tell them I have a thing for her, because that usually doesn't work.

what do /adv/, should I just keep casually flirting?

>>17722584
>but if I do one wrong thing I could fuck it up too, and possibly end up ostracizing myself from this social group that I have really come to enjoy.

Think of it this way: You already started. I mean, even if you stop now, you two made your intentions clear. Something is gong to happen either way.

Why not work towards making it a good thing? Go for it Anon!

I need advice!
I'm currently considering breaking up with my ldr bf. We've been together for almost 2 years and it's been months since we dont get to speak often. He blames everything on his education and says he doesnt have much time to be a "good boyfriend" and all, it's just feels like an excuse. He ignores me most of the time and sometimes doesnt initiate contact for 5-6 days. I feel like he is getting tired or the feelings are going away. I tried to talk to him about this several times but he dosnt make any effort to improve the situation. I'm not really demanding and i dont need big actions or love letters to know he is there. I just feel like he might be thinking of breaking up but doesnt know how to move and is doing everything to push me to do the dirty job for him :\
I really love him and I really don't want to break up but it feels like it might be the right thing for both.

Any tips/suggesting on why is he acting so?

>>17722594

Classes can be crazy. He could really be swamped with work, specially if he stumbled upon a vicious professor.

BUT, BUT, that's no reason for someone to take a crappy relationship.

My point is, he could be telling the truth. But if the relationship is not working for either of you, that person has the right to call it off.

>>17722519
Depends.

Are you a guy? It's probably really bad.

Are you a girl? Not so big of a deal.

I can only hold eye contact with people I implicitly trust. To hide this, I usually just look strangers right between the eyes. Looks the same to them and isn't so taxing on me. Also look away every time you "think" to give yourself a break. When you look away, try to look to the sides and not into the ground or into the ceiling.

>>17722593
>Think of it this way: You already started. I mean, even if you stop now, you two made your intentions clear. Something is gong to happen either way.

Yeah, I'm aware that I've already laid the foundation but I'm just unsure about how to proceed. I doubt myself a bit (even if I don't like to admit it), and the thing is I have sort of high standards when it comes to women. I really have come to dislike a lot of the girls at my college (even some of the ones in my social group to a certain extent). She's different (at least from what I've learned so far) in the way she acts and forms opinions.

So the only thing I can think to do is to continue flirting with her, and maybe dial it up a bit but not too far.

>>17722519
>if girl
its cute to be shy
>if guy
You're fucked. Learn to deal with it and hold eye contact because studies show your attractiveness increases ten fold if you can actually maintain eye contact.

Eye contact with a girl is mine field: on one hand if I avoid it I look autistic and not emotionally there, but if I look into her eyes too much she'll think I just want to fuck her and I'm not actually paying attention to what she's saying as well.

I just realized I have no real friends. The ones I though to be my best friends really arent.
I just feel lonely as fuck now. Is it normal to be in a situation like this?

>>17722623
Sure

>>17722516
God, you sound so annoying.

I can see why he'd be distant. You have a huge ego that constantly needs to be stroked, and you're probably always talking or thinking about how great of a girlfriend or how pretty you are. Especially as an introvert, its really annoying to compliment these kinds of people or give them attention, since it just poofs up their ego even more.

It seems like you realize you aren't compatible, so just break up with him and get over it.

>>17722519
>>17722606
>>17722615
Not being able to hold eye contact is bad for either sex. You are probably thinking of a girl cutely blushing and shyly looking away. In reality she might well look like a deer in headlights, or with a complete pokerface, and every ordinary (let alone insecure) young guy will first conclude that he does not hold her interest.

Looking at something or someone is the #1 indicator that this thing holds our interest. No people won't mind if it's obvious that she doesn't do it out of indifference, hostility etc, but people's first reflex is to conclude that they evoke the response out of someone before stopping to consider that this might just be a personal thing of theirs.

>>17722351
Dude, she is running a full time household on top of working a job. I don't think you understand.

Also, are you really surprised that she's not going to let a guy she just started dating be a sudden male figure around her impressionable siblings? Or shit right on the honeymoon by allowing you to see her for hours on end in a full on caretaker role with little playfulness and regard for you?

Your desires are completely natural but honestly I feel that you lack the independence and maturity to understand what she has on her plate here. Which is not weird given that most people your age (guessing you're mid twenties at most) wouldn't. Look for someone who is more carefree like most of your peers and can chase excitement instead of responsibility. Or accept that she comes with different terms than "normal" girls.

I recently had a few big issues with my girlfriend.
She was the sweetest girl ive ever met and I loved her like no one before. But out of nowhere she began to completly ignore me to the point where I had to break up. Shortly after that my best friend killed herself and I began to feel severly depressed. This monday I tried to hang myself in a forest but got stopped by some junkies. When I came home I saw she was waiting at my door crying. She told me that she always loved me and how she wants the feeling of missing someone back, even tho she didnt knew about my failed attemt. I just turned 18 this summer and I have problems with girls because my first gf killed herself cause her stepdad started raping her almost daily after he caught wind that I took her virginity, so Im kinda inexpierienced. Just tell me whats going on with this girl, Im really pissed but I kinda still love her. Guess Ill get over it of I have to. Im over the suicide thing, dont think ill try again btw

>>17722625
I am sorry if I sound annoying.
I got asked if I am pretty, if I am a good girlfriend and if I give him attentions which is why I said those things.
Should I lie about it to sound more humble or something?

We're very compatible, and I have no intention of breaking up.

>>17722393
>do not try to let your expectations grow out of control - I fully believe that she's a mature and level headed person for her age, but who someone is in more casual contact can differ vary from who someone is when they're besides themselves with anger, grief, or even just irritation, which WILL happen sooner or later
>do not try to either force this relationship in a mold of what a relationship should be like, or figure that every relationship will be like it is with her - take it for what it is, a novel experience that says more about the combination of you and her than anything else
>don't respond to mind games and don't be tempted to play them: if she's not someone who can be reasoned with by discussing things calmly, you're better off breaking it off than trying to cater to her immaturity/manipulation tactics
>be clear and vocal about your expectations, wants, needs etc, don't expect her to read your thoughts but guide her on how to be a good partner to you and let her guide you vice versa

>>17722638
dude

>>17722475
Depends on several factors. It can be anything from virtually flavorless to strongly bitter to full on disgustingly rancid.
It depends on whether or not the guy smokes, his diet (drinking a lot of water dilutes your bodily fluids, alcohol, red meat, and a lot of ingredients like garlic make it strong and unpleasant tasting), how long ago he last came etc.

If you want to improve the taste, pineapple and water are your friends.

>>17722523
Only by women's, but I am fully confident that that's by chance.

For the record, I know men I look up to intellectually, just none that are my peer in other ways so I feel more admiring than intimidated.

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>>17722625
>all this asinine shit because she dared to describe her looks positively

>>17722582
aww such a perfect grill I found on 4chan. Now I can jerk off to the thought that some girl might be interested in what I have to say about my work.

>>17722647
Eh, its not like I choose this. All I want is a normal relationship for a change.

>>17722606
>To hide this, I usually just look strangers right between the eyes.
this is actually really clever. I usually don't stand infront of the person I am talking with and more side-by-side while giving occasional side glances to keep their interest and drop a downcast as if I was thinking deeply or something.

>>17722615
It's really hard to train holding eye contact without sweating, becoming nervous or crumbling. I mean, it's already hard looking in any mirrors.

>>17722628
It's not like I avert my gaze and stay aloof.
It's just that by staring into her/his eyes, they usually stare back into mine which is really troubling. But I know what you try to imply, thanks.

Recently, I've been getting a lot of confusing vibes from this girl.

We met over the summer and dated for a while, until she got busy with a bunch of stuff. We stopped hanging out and it was pretty obvious that she wasn't making much of an effort to try seeing me. Eventually, we ended it, and she was really blunt about how us never seeing each other (which was her fault) meant we weren't a couple. I was pretty fine that with that, because I was tired of dealing with someone who didn't seem to care about me, but things have been getting weird lately. She's been texting me and making it seem really obvious that she's into me. A few times, she's even gotten mad that I've basically blown that stuff off, which I've done because I don't want to deal with her being confusing. The way I see it, she's probably still into me and wants something to happen again.

To me, it's pretty annoying. Honestly, I do like her and wouldn't mind something happening, but she's the one who screwed things up in the first place, so I don't think it's my job to fix it. And she's still not actually making an effort to ever hang out with me. So is there a good way to address this without coming off like an asshole who's telling her to cut the shit?

How does one get the confidence to talk to the other sex in order to acquire a mate?

Femanons, If a girl jerks me off every time I tell her to that means she likes me right. I didn't ask her on a date or anything, we're just classmates.

>>17722759
Nah, maybe she's just being polite.

>>17722759
>likes me
In what way, romantically? I doubt it. More likely she finds you attractive and you know what to tell her to get her turned on. Or she has a thing for obeying commands etc.

It would be pretty odd if she daydreams about a relationship with you but is fine with just casually jerking you off, which seems about the least romantic thing that you can do...

>>17722759
No that probably means you pay her.

>>17722761
>>17722763
problem is, I have a thing for her younger sister (who is absolutely stunning). I just wish their personality could be more alike. I also want to ask her out since her sister has a bf, but it seems I would be rejected, since if she likes me romantically she wouldn't just jerk me off in the bathroom so many times like that.

>>17722784
good idea, I should do this next time to make it fair.

>>17722787
For future reference, girls don't want to date guys who did that with their own sister.

Would you date a girl who swallowed your brother's cum? There you go.

>>17722755
start with trannies and level up from there

Male robot here. Sorry if these questions have been asked before.

What are some recommendations for building up the confidence and self-esteem to express romantic or sexual interest in a girl?

In the past, whenever I feel like I might, I choke up because I don't want to be creep; which is an instinct I feel hamstrung by. Also, not having dated, I am clueless about indicators that someone might be receptive to any advance I might make. The combination makes me extremely hesitant and guarded. I can certainly dance or chat with a girl without making a faux pas. However, beyond that, I'm totally lost.

>>17722861
If you can talk (and dance) with women you are half-way there. Just ask them what their hobbies are and if you find something in common, talk about it and maybe invite them to do something related to it. If you both like art, art museum, if movies, go to the movies, if hiking, do that, and so on.

>>17722861
There's two huge ones.

>invest in other parts
It's bearable to suffer an awkward rejection if there's other sources of pride and happiness for you that are left intact. It is unavoidable to care disproportionately about whether or not that special girl thinks you're attractive, but even then. Find as many sources of confidence as you can. Easy examples are your looks or your hobbies, but it can be a lot more subtle. Being a good friend. Being someone conscientious and driven enough to give their minimum wage job their full devotion. Being the kind of guy who notices when someone gets left out of a group conversation.
Basically, cherish all of your positive traits and thus convince yourself that as a total package, as a human being, you have something to offer - even if a single individual isn't buying.

>practice
This isn't because it'll make you a suave motherfucker. It's because it'll give you a frame of reference, ability to see things in perspective and a certain intuition.
All the time I see guys saying stuff like "but what if I ask her to get coffee and she calls rape/tells me to fuck off, loser" or whatever. They are entirely missing the point. Personally, I am most afraid of a guy looking at me with some pity, or obviously trying to hide that he's unpleasantly surprised. Someone calling me ugly or a cunt or whatever? No way, that's embarrassing for THEM, to reveal themselves as someone so mean and petty. Not being attractive enough (to them) fades in comparison to airing your vile personality.

And this is an understanding you develop with a lot of social interaction, a lot of little acts of kindness and social grace, until you feel confident that while you might be nervous or awkward you are not being impolite or pushy in any way, and if she wants to flip her shit over a simple request that's not on you, is it?

I met a girl I really like and plan on asking out. Fun to talk to, qt, and plus I'm pretty sure she's into me. Only problem is that she has no hobbies at all. She spends all of her time in a sport she's not very passionate about(but pays her scholarship) and working.

I'm passionate about a lot of different things, but I don't want to just turn her onto all my hobbies. I'd like to help her find something that she wants to get into. When I ask her what she wants to get better at, etc, she just says "idk, i'm a boring person"

What should I do here? Is it a red flag to not have any hobbies/passions?

>>17722939
Lots of people don't have particular hobbies besides consuming media and stuff like spending time with friends. In itself that's not a red flag. But it not being a sign of something wrong with them doesn't mean you need to be eager about dating them.

And for the record, I'm in the same boat. I have a really intense hobby and barely anyone around my age relates to investing so much into something simply because you are passionate about it (I can't even say that I love it because 80% of the time I hardly love working on it). I have accepted this. What I still find very important is overall curiosity, liveliness, interest in things that they are not yet passionate about but might some day be. I can understand feeling weird about answering "what would you want to get better at", but if she rebuffs every attempt to get her interested in something just for the sake of fun and/or personal development... that would turn me off to no end.

>>17722939
If she's busy, then she just might not have time to engage in her hobbies. Doesn't mean she doesn't have any, she just doesn't have time. I'm pretty similar - I study, work part time, and also volunteer. Most of the time, when I get home at the end of the day, I just want to veg out and watch some TV or play some video games. I used to draw, for example, but I haven't done it for years. I can't wait until I finish with uni so I have more time to do shit.

>>17722952
>>17722971
Wanted to add that I also agree with other reply that it is hardly surprising she's not enthusiastic about picking up a hobby if she already exhausts herself with her life as it is.

>>17722977
>>17722971
>>17722952

Yeah I definitely get that. I've been there too.

I guess really as long as she's open to try new things/go to events with me I wouldn't really care.

Q for hetero girls:

What are the masculine qualities that you look for in a man? What are you attacted to? How should he act, and behave and how should he toucch you/have sex with you for you to be attracted to him?

Basically, where is the sweet spot between being a meek chicken shit dude, and being a macho aggressive asshole?

>>17722371
If you are asking this here, I feel that you're not emotionally intimate with him enough. Try pillowtalking w him. If it's difficult, there may be deeper stuff you need to sort out.

>>17723012
He should act comfortable with himself, at ease with himself. I want someone who likes me to show that by being extra radiant/kind/whatever, but not to the point where they'll forget all about their dignity or holding me to human standards (it's frankly pretty insulting not to do that). Basically, feel and show goodwill towards me but be unhesitant to call me out on it if I'm out of line or even just doing something that you personally do not prefer. (Obviously with (lack of) anger appropriate for the situation, not flipping your shit because I called you a nickname and you happen to hate nicknames.) It is natural to laugh more easily at something someone attractive says, all the more if they're attractive to you AND you feel a connection. But guffawing at completely unfunny stuff is a turn off.
Just some scattered examples but I think you get the idea. Friendly and not pushy, also not a pussy.

As for touching, please don't treat my body like it's a dog that might lurch at you. Incessant touching (also: we realize it's the whole "step 3: break the touch barrier" thing) is annoying and feels like someone is trying to literally reel you in. But if you give a touch here and there when appropriate, be confident about it, which basically means - act like no one could possibly think it's a big deal. Personal cheatcode is;
>touch my shoulder/arm/other neutral bodypart maybe twice lightly in conversation to stress something or grab my attention
>see if I am obviously comfortable and do it back at a later point
>if so, when we leave and are walking out, just for a moment touch the small of my back
Obviously you get more signals than just touching. How much/often she smiles, how much eye contact there is, how close she sits. You'll develop a gut feeling for this with experience.

>>17723022
Again, I already talked to him. More than once.
He thinks it's just my insecurity issue, I don't know how to either cope with it and get over my insecurities or make him change his behaviour.

>>17723032
As for sex, that's completely individual. Personally I do not like real rough sex (name calling, spitting, slapping, choking) but I like "feral" passionate feeling sex. A guy frantically undressing me, pushing me down on the bed or up against a wall, firmly and often grabbing/groping/smacking and spanking me. I love it when a man is turned on and confident enough to do shit that might seem weird without a second's hesitation (like burying his face in my armpits to smell them, licking my face in feverish arousal etc).
I had this perfectly balanced with my ex. He'd readily do this shit to me and did not hesitate to do stuff like pull up my skirt and start eating me out by surprise as a first move. I was 100% comfortable with this, but a crucial element in that is that I knew damn well that I only had to make one unenthusiastic sound, movement or word and he'd be looking in my eyes and leveling with me about how it felt and what I wanted.

Also, for the record, it's not just all about maledom even if it is popular. I elaborated on that because you specifically asked how rough a guy could be during sex. In practice my preference would be something like 2/10 times my partner being more dominant like I described, and 8/10 times me being the more active partner.

And a bonus tip is that for me one of the crucial parts for a great sex life is not looking at piv as the holy grail. You can have tons and tons of fun with each other's minds and bodies, it's just a pity to see anything but penetration as noise, which is a sadly popular opinion among young men.

>>17723032
Oh, usually I just go for the clit. But this might work, too.

>>17723048
>obligatory Trump joke

>>17723036
I mean, I'm a guy, and I like to make the girl I'm with feel cared for, feel attractive. It crosses over to sensuality, knowing my partner is having a good time makes it so much more hotter than just me getting off. It's kinda essential.

I mean only you know your situation, but if he's telling you that 'you feel' a certain way 'because of your anxieties', this I would be quite insulted by if it was me I think. No one should tell you what it is your feeling, especially not the person you're closest with.

Perhaps you could say something about him that you are attracted to, that you like or admire about him as an example of what you're looking for. Perhaps you could suggest that the reason it's important to you is you would like to deepen your relationship with him?

>>17723012
I love feminine men

>>17723032
Anon, honestly, thank you. Really appreciated what you put into these posts..

...feeling mysterious attracted to you now that I know a bit on how your mind works :P

Serious anon, thanks.

>>17723077
You're quite welcome! And don't worry, it's normal, you don't exactly often get such a condensed insight into someone else's head in everyday life. (That, and I have a personal theory that men tend to assume any woman online is Emma Watson until proven otherwise.)

Hope it proves useful for you!

>>17723088
>Emma Watson
lol this is who you think is attractive?

>>17723088
It's time for me to grow up. I've been a guy craving the penetrative sex thing for way too long mostly because of insecurities which I think I've shaken, but now feeling kinda hollow.

I want sex to be a meaningful thing from here.

>>17723105
You don't understand.

Emma Watson isn't the hottest woman ever, but she's like the ultimate version of the girl next door. Normal looking, with with sleek, refined features. Friendly looking but also with something dignified.
Most importantly, she's not exotic. She's the girl you imagine being in your English class and liking all the same books that you like. You can imagine actually knowing her.

And on top of that appearance she's also just cute - charming, friendly, smart, not freeloading off her fame. And she happens to play Hermione.
This is not a private opinion. I feel like the biggest craze has faded somewhat but for years she used to be the ultimate you love you lose girl.

For the record, I personally think no woman is hotter than Isabella Rossellini was when she was in her thirties. Pic all too related. She is not that photogenic but if you want to see her in the flesh, watch the Letterman interview from 1989. She's vivacious yet mysterious, gorgeous, all grace and yet and has this weird untraceable rough edge like she smells of pussy all over.

Guys, would you stay with a girl who "used to have a BBC fetish". She is always spouting that bullshit about "but I love you" and "sex means something with you", but we all know that BBC sluts always shit like that once they're ousted. I just dont know if I can deal with it anymore.

>>17723047
>And a bonus tip is that for me one of the crucial parts for a great sex life is not looking at piv as the holy grail. You can have tons and tons of fun with each other's minds and bodies

This is great relief, actually.

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>>17723128
*edit: pic related

>>17723116
Don't beat yourself up over it, this is a completely normal thing men AND women go through when young. We simply live in a society that makes sex seem like a huge deal. But the real, biggest thrill is opening yourself up completely in many different ways at once to be touched and changed and loved. And the feeling of being with someone you love and really relishing together in what you feel for each other. Like there's that spark you can feel when you flirt or dance with someone, it's like that but instead of a flicker it's all there is.

It is a lot to hold out for but try to think positively, there are plenty of people who are not sensitive to this notion and will never even realize how much more it could be.

>>17723129
What do you mean bro? She said that she fantasises about bbc? she's slept with a black dude and had a good itime? Both those things don't seem so bad. What's your problem with it?

Just because you don't have a huge cock doesn't mean you're insubstantial bro.

>>17723135
I want this.

I dunno, gonna try to be brave and vulnerable with my interactions with girls I'm attracted to, and try to be open to what could happen, and try not to give a fuck too much, because i think while single that's important, and not to beat myself up! AAAAARGH

>>17723146
Good luck man, being bold enough to consider the first step IS the first step. And for the record, perhaps you saw it already but for the nerves; >>17722883

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I am a guy and I have been meeting and dating girls from online dating sites. There are two that I am currently dating who both like me, and I like both of them.

I have been on one date with girl A, but she has been busy with work, and messages me very regularly just to talk about stuff. I have been on 2 dates with girl B, we message less, and she lives further away.

I have not had sex with either yet, but unless I do something utterly retarded I can't really see how that won't happen.

I don't have a whole lot of experience with girls and relationships, I don't want to lead them on. I have no idea at what point I should pick one and let the other go.

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Can any of you ladies describe the mindset of the three girls in this story?

>>17723156
>I quickly gather they're having a girls night and thought it would be funny to say this kind of stuff to me
It's literally there in the picture

>>17722344
Guys, if a girl were to tickle you as punishment for making a bad joke, what reasons would you have for continuing to make the same bad jokes, knowing she's just going to tickle you more?

I've encountered this with many male friends of mine but never female friends of mine.

Is it because a girl is touching you or you just enjoy her reaction?

I'm asking because I'm genuinely curious, and because a guy I like keeps doing this and it'd be interesting to know if it's a potential sign of him liking me back.

>>17722880
>If you can talk (and dance) with women you are half-way there.

This has been at parties where alcohol has been involved. I don't actually have any women in my circle of acquaintances.

>>17722883
>Easy examples are your looks
Mediocre at best according to /soc/

>your hobbies
Guns & DnD; woop-dee-fucking do

I have a hard time seeing anything positive about me at this point.

>All the time I see guys saying stuff like "but what if I ask her to get coffee and she calls rape/tells me to fuck off, loser" or whatever

That's not what worries me as much as fucking up, and they tell their friends so that I have a reputation as a creep or weirdo.

>>17723154
If you don't know which one has your preference for a serious relationship, you're not far along enough yet to have sex with either one. If necessary, be frank. Not "I'm just still doubting whether I want you or girl B" level honesty, but say that you only fuck within a potential relationship and feel it's too early to tell, something like that. Also invest a lot in trying to gauge how you feel, pick up the small details. Obviously you don't want to seem like a man who declines sex for weeks.

>>17723156
It's goofing around, having "naughty" fun in a safe way. Kind of like how men often say bolder stuff to a woman in a group than they would one on one. There's a 1/50 chance that there was a grain of truth but more likely than not they were talking about sex and tipsy and the level of "this would normally never be appropriate" and never saying shit like that to a guy one on one (because they'd be accused of leading on, obviously) makes it a kind of safe escape from everyday routine. Kind of comparable to showing off sex toys they keep in their purse or describing sexual encounters in much more detail than they normally would.

>>17723154
The was me recently. My conclusions

1) - Honesty is an important part of a relationship, or even just a fling with someone you respect.

2) Quite difficult to know how people really feel about the fact you're dating two people, even if you manage to talk with them about it, and they say thy're fine with it, you don't really know.

Because 1) and 2), I say it's best to choose one girl and invest in her. Let the other one down in a way that leaves that door open, but it's only gonna get more complicated if you don't do this.

3) I think polyamory is not a real thing, but plenty of people do. Maybe yyou can tell them that you care for them both and that's the deal. Personally, I don't think this works.

Should I avoid a girl I like, if she isn't into me? I fancy her too much, and feels weird knowing that it probably isn't reciprocated.

Problem is shes one of the few friends I know in this city, and she works for a company i used to work at and wouldn't mind returning to.

Guys, If you worked alongside a skinnyish girl would you assume she's weak and that you would have to work harder to compensate? If so, would you try to prevent her getting hired, or become resentful because of it?

>>17723165
>"""""male friends"""""
Friendzoned beta orbitters who are just happy that you're touching them and giving them attention.

>>17723185
Depends on the job.

>>17723185
I think you're a little bit paranoid, unless it's a menial job (which such skinny girl wouldn't even get hired in the first place) she being thinner should not imply her being worse at it, and least of all would I be resentful.

>>17723196
kek, potentially, I suppose

>>17723165
Showing defiance

>>17723212
I've thought of that. Completely possible.

>>17723196
could be something else, could be her crush.

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>>17723172
>If you don't know which one has your preference for a serious relationship, you're not far along enough yet to have sex with either one.

>ask girl for advice
>get told that you can't have sex with someone unless you're ready to commit to them.

Thanks for reminding me why people should never ask girls for advice.

>>17723175
>Honesty is an important part of a relationship, or even just a fling with someone you respect.
Honesty and good intentions are important. I don't want to lead either of them on, I don't want to hurt either of them. But I think it would be stupid to just volunteer information like this. I mean I met thme both on a dating site, I haven't asked either of them whether they're currently dating anyone else, because I don't consider that I have the right to ask that after only one or two dates.

>Because 1) and 2), I say it's best to choose one girl and invest in her. Let the other one down in a way that leaves that door open, but it's only gonna get more complicated if you don't do this.
I think due to the distance, girl B will naturally be harder to invest in than girl A, but I don't think I've hung out with either of them enough to know which one I like more, or indeed if I want to commit to either of them.

>>17723139
I find black people absolutely disgusting.

>>17723201
>>17723202
It's a job that requires lifting heavy furniture. The girl has no problems lifting the furniture, but some people prevent her trying.

Hey guys-

Have you ever had trouble cumming for a girlfriend? What were things you tried (regardless if they worked or not)?

The current things I'm trying are:
>Going on the pill so we don't have to use condoms
>Drawing out foreplay longer, teasing and edging him
>Trying out some kinky things (roleplay, bondage, etc)
>Increasing my stamina for when I'm on top

Any more ideas?

>>17723236
Guys white-knighting after girls is probably going to happen regardless unless she's built like an East-German shotputter.

Men generally have a very deep protective instinct to protect women and make their lives as easy as possible.

>>17723241
Think of feminine benis when you're fucking :)

>>17723165
1. You could ask him if he wants to watch a movie with you. This way you can always deny whether or not you were trying to make a move on him. Plus, then he may ask "at your house" yada dada he may make suggestions you should definetly suggest a horror movie. Just say Im really scared and have no one to watch it with plausable deniability. Anyway, if you get him to your house he probaly knows. Somewhere along the lines of the movie, you should just act scared and move closer and closer to him. He will gives off hints about how comfortable he is about that. If he seems pretty comfortable than u shuld just try to kis him

>>17723245
I am the girlfriend, haha
I'll be sure to suggest that to him for you.

>>17723243
Is there some kind non-emasculating way to tell them to sod off?

>>17723241
Either he has death-grip from wanking too hard, and he just needs to stop wanking for a while so that his dong can appreciate the subtle sensation of a vagoo.

Or he has some kind of emotional/psychological issues or sexual shame causing sexual dysfunction. Has he had erectile dysfunction or anything like that? It might get better as he gets to know you better and come to be more comfortable with you.

>>17723241a dick?

I cant see how that's possible. Is there absoulutely any reason you suspect he's gay? Does he get hard? Where'd you meet him, and how many heterosexual friends does he have?

What does he say about how he wants to fuck you? Do you constantly shoot down his ideas? Ive had chicks before never give it to me the way I wanted, but I have to say I still came so.

>>17723231
Sounds like you got the idea. Maybe just go for the one you feel more emotionally connected to.

>>17723248
Bah, I really wish I could, currently. I'm only in the first legs of getting to know him really well and I feel like that wouldn't be too appropriate right now.

>>17723234
Okay, well they'renot going anywhere, so it's probably most helpful for you if you try to unpack why you feel that way. Maybe seeing a counselor could help?

Honestly your girl having desires for black guys sounds like a completely non issue. Your issue to figure out, not hers. I guess you could tell her how you feel and say you would like her not to talk about that.

>>17723250
Probably not. They don't offer to help you because they don't respect you or think that you're capable, they're just obeying their instincts.

There is also the issue that men kind of need to define a purpose for themselves in order to have value as people, thus they can become very competitive with each other. As a girl you raise the baseline against which everyone has to compete, otherwise they lose their purpose and thus their value as men, because you can't claim to be useful as a man while a girl is outperforming you in a physical task.

Again its nothing personal, its just instinct... 2 million years of hard-wired instinct.

>>17723262
>They don't offer to help you because they don't respect you or think that you're capable,
Worded badly.
I meant... they may try to help or prevent you from performing physical tasks, but it is not because they don't respect you or think that you are capable of performing them.

>>17723277
lol

>>17723273
>it is not because they don't respect you
They don't respect me as a worker, but they 'think' they respect me as a sexual object, something to compete for. It has nothing to do with instinct but issues with seeing past what they perceive is the female function, to be fuckable. It prevents me doing my job and might get me fired. If they just ignored it and minded their own business it wouldn't be a problem. They are the ones creating the problem here.

>>17723287
Maybe you should just have sex with them.

>>17722641
Yes you should lie about something, because in reality you are a heterosexual female and definetly can not comprehend what men find attractive or not.

Secondly, yes the fact that he gets a boner next to you do not mean he thinks ur hot. Ever heard of Pavlovs dogs? Just cause they heard bells doesnt mean they were getting food. U sat ur vagina on his cock and he associates you wit them pleasurable feelings.

Okay, I know that was kind of mean but I only said that because you may very well be ugly and u just dont know it. But that doesnt really matter, besides all that doesnt he have sex with you? If he doesnt have sex with you and tell you how nice you feel and what during such activities?

>>17723252
I plan on chatting about it this weekend, though I wanted to walk in with some ideas to start off our strategizing. Particularly things I can do or both of us, rather than putting all the responsibility on him. I'm familiar with deathgrip, though he seems to prefer a looser hold when I give him handjobs. I'll ask.

He's equated it with feeling like you have to sneeze and it doesn't quite come out. He's mentioned that he worries that he's psyching himself out. I'm doing my best to tactfully emphasize how much I'm enjoying myself regardless, and how I don't take it personally or anything.

We'll find out if he has history with this or anything. When I gave him a blowjob for the first time, he said no one's made him cum from one. So of course I took this as a challenge and totally made him cum that day. But that does kind of tell me that there might be something there.

We are doing really well comfort-wise, but time always deepens bonds, yeah. We've moved really quick but we are technically early on.

>>17722641
Yes you should lie about something, because in reality you are a heterosexual female and definetly can not comprehend what men find attractive or not.

Secondly, yes the fact that he gets a boner next to you do not mean he thinks ur hot. Ever heard of Pavlovs dogs? Just cause they heard bells doesnt mean they were getting food. U sat ur vagina on his cock and he associates you wit them pleasurable feelings.

Okay, I know that was kind of mean but I only said that because you may very well be ugly and u just dont know it. But that doesnt really matter, besides all that doesnt he have sex with you and tell you how nice you feel and what not during such activities?

>>17723299
You're right anon. Sex will solve all of my problems. What was I thinking.

>>17723185
I dont consider myself particularly conservative, and yes I would have an issue with it.

Basic math. If I have 2 people to do a job and the time period is the same no matter my partner. A women esp. a little girl could not outperform or even equally perform as well as a male counterpart.

>>17723287
At least you'd already made up your mind before asking any actual men what they thought about it.

I'm sure you can expand these thoughts into a decently long Jezebel article.

>>17723310
He's ever suggested you give him a handjob? A lot of men I hear don't particularly like them. Trust me when I say this, you should actually try to be more open about what he wants.

You may have pushed things on him that he doesn't particularly like and he is now to scared to tell you that he doesnt like these things. You should definitely try asking, how he wants it. IT may very well be that your attitude is causing him to feel shame if he had came before but not now

>>17723310
>rather than putting all the responsibility on him
His sexual dysfunction is entirely his responsibility to overcome, you are not in any way responsible for it. All you have to do is be accepting and patient.

>>17723231
>get told that you can't have sex with someone unless you're ready to commit to them.
Hey, he came in saying he didn't want to lead them on and that they were probably going to naturally spring at him at the same time. Would you like to have sex with a girl who potentially had a guy cum in her earlier that day? Shit's humiliating if you don't know what you're signing up for. Are they even doing it safe?

Maybe this is also a cultural difference, I am European and feel that over here it is much more so that the onus is on you to come forward if you're not ready to be exclusive yet. Obviously if nothing at all happened in terms of flirting or touching it's unnecessary, but if you're getting physical I think exclusivity is more default than not.

Also, with the line you quoted I didn't mean to say that he didn't have "the right" to fuck her or whatever. Just that it seems impossible to be in love, to be fully absorbed by and obsessed with, two people at the same time, but cannot define which one you like more or which one is more compatible with you. Then you cannot truly know them as individuals aka you are probably not sincerely in love with either of them, and if that's what you want before sex and without coming out and asking what their thoughts are on the exclusivity of what you have going on, it's the only solution left.

>>17723256
Try asking him it. Do you have a female or male cohort which you can confide in such details?

If you ask him if he wants to watch a movie, and he questions it like it's weird tell him Oh yeah sorry so and so is coming. But don't try to do anything with him while your friend is there thats a total dick move to your friend and also lame af. You should ust hangout friendly like that day and do some other stuff. But then going to your place or w/e is not as unusual and it would at least benefit you in the future.

Just saying though you have ot tsk a risk somewhere. Your plan cant simultaneously discover his true feelings AND protect yours from the world.

>been sitting in the same row as this qt girl in class for the past 2 months
>she was actually the first one to sit next to me, but I'm the one who decided to continue sitting there
>sometimes she'd try to talk, sometimes she'd try to sit in a different row than me
Then on the midterm Saturday, she sat right next to me. That was despite it being in a completely different room, and I was sitting in a corner.

I got excited, but didn't talk to her after the exam. I was just too tired.

But then she did not come to class today. Why? I really wanted to talk to her

I suspect that she has a friend who's in a different section, but in the same class and same prof. I saw her friend sitting together on the first week, who had her notes already filled out. I also see those two studying in the library sometimes.

So what could possibly be the reason why she didn't come to class today? I really hope she comes next week.

>>17723256
Try asking him it. Do you have a female or male cohort which you can confide in such details?

If you ask him if he wants to watch a movie, and he questions it like it's weird tell him Oh yeah sorry so and so is coming. But don't try to do anything with him while your friend is there thats a total dick move to your friend and also lame af. You should ust hangout friendly like that day and do some other stuff. But then going to your place or w/e is not as unusual and it would at least benefit you in the future.

Just saying though you have ot tsk a risk somewhere. Your plan cant simultaneously discover his true feelings AND protect yours from the world. That's just not the way it works.

also dont say Bah unless ur a sheep

>>17723312
>Yes you should lie about something, because in reality you are a heterosexual female and definetly can not comprehend what men find attractive or not.
I have been told I am good looking for all my life, I don't think it was a big conspiracy just to make me feel good about myself. I don't think I am a top model in disguise, but a decent 6 or maybe a 7 at the very least.
And I still can distinguish a good looking girl from a bad looking girl even if I don't want to fuck them.

>U sat ur vagina on his cock and he associates you wit them pleasurable feelings.
Again, I doubt it's a problem about my look. Of course I have some privileges because I am the one who gets to suck his dick, but in general I am fairly sure he finds me attractive because (1) I'm conventionally attractive (2) he approached me literally just because I was pretty (3) he gets turned on by me, a lot, often.

>doesnt he have sex with you and tell you how nice you feel and what not during such activities?
He has sex with me almost every day, but never tells me I am pretty while we're fucking.
We're not exactly talkative when we're fucking.
He tells me I am very good at giving head, but, yeah, not exactly the best compliment or the only compliment I want to receive.

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This kind of goes toward both genders, but I do not feel like this needs its own separate thread.

How do you distinguish between the feeling of a really good friendship and liking someone?
I have this friend, and I feel like I have an opportunity with this person. However I do not want to be in a relationship with this person for the sake of being in one, I do not want to hurt anyone and I want to take my time figuring out my feelings. But how?

What are some factors that help distinguish the feeling of having such a great friendship with the opposite gender and actually wanting to be with that person?

>>17723339
lol.

There's clearly no diminishing your pride I think.

Idk, maybe you should just dump him cause obviously he doesn't find you as attractive as you are to all other men who will clearly worship you due to your voluptuous breasts and succulent ass.

>>17723320
The girl performs equally that of a male counterpart in this case. The problem is the male workers assume she doesn't.

>>17723322
That was my interpretation of his interpretation, not my presumption of my colleagues intentions. From what I see they see me as weak, not as a sexual object.

>>17723341
Make yourself cum. Do you still wish they were with you?

>>17723131
Had overlooked your comment, but if you're still around: yeah, absolutely. Regardless of what porn and macho guys like to say many women cannot (easily) climax from penetration, and a man treating it as a chore to sleepily do something to you after you came is hardly stimulating for your libido. Now if you hold her in your arms while you finger her or she fingers herself if you're too tired, murmuring dirty stuff to her and licking her neck, rubbing up against her etc - we're talking about a completely different phenomenon. The men who talk about sex on here most spontaneously and loudly know little of what turns women on: stoically fucking like a robot, emulating porn sex and feeling above performing oral are hardly impressive in most women's minds.

Besides, life happens. You get too drunk to get it up, or can't keep up with her multiple orgasms. She's on her period and sex is off for either/both, yeast infections... or even cold sored which means no kissing and touching is risky because everyone eventually touches their face/mouth. Perhaps even surgeries etc that limit physical stuff. Basically the more creative you are with what you enjoy together the lesser this becomes a threat.

>>17723254
Haha yeah it totally does happen. I've heard of other guys in the same boat.
He's certainly attracted to me. I like to have fun giving him boners, and we've had a couple times where I drive him crazy enough that he literally picks me up and throws me in the bedroom.

Both of us normally have lower sex drives than most, but we've surprised ourselves with how much we turn each other on.

He hasn't brought up things he wants while outside the bedroom, but within I'm always receptive. He'll suggest I do this, or try that angle, and I'll always jump in.

>>17723341
Do you want to have sex with this person?
Do you want to have them as your significant other?
Do you want to share the majority of your time with them?
Do you feel they can compensate your weaknesses and you theirs?
Can you trust them completely?
Do you have the sameish plans for the future?

Consider all of these before considering going for someone you're already friends with because it will either be a longterm thing or it will end the friendship. Most likely, anyway.

>>17723339
Don't pay attention to >>17723349.
He probably hates women for some reason. Or he is too stupid to see that you were defending yourself after he started calling you ugly.

I am introverted, where can i go to meet new people?

>>17723341
>you feel a weird sort of protectiveness about them that goes beyond affectionate loyalty
>you catch yourself staring at them
>you really like their smell
>your day gets brightened up by something as simple as a hug from them
>you care more about their opinion on, say, your attractiveness, than about anyone else's
>you feel weird/sad/irritated at the thought of them dating someone
>you find yourself being an easier, more natural and flattering version of yourself around them
>you give them a nickname (in your head or to their face), you share inside jokes/gimmicks
>you feel really tender about them: want to fix their clothes, their hair, touch their face
>you really enjoy talking about them or mentioning them as a friend
>you feel like you are exploring a new side of yourself, find yourself suddenly doing stuff out of character like looking up your astrological compatibility then feeling silly
>obviously traditional stuff like butterflies or feeling like you skipped a step on the stairs when you run into them without expecting it

Are (among others) all signs of being in love.

>>17723341
Would you like to share a bed with this person? Permanently?

>>17723349
I don't understand why I cannot be happy with myself and the way I look. It would be unreasonable to think that a guy who approached me in a bar and gets boner every time I sit around me thinks I'm immensely ugly, especially when I am not ugly.

I don't want a guy who worships me, just was wondering how can I make my boyfriend repeat his compliments more often, or just get over these insecurities.
It's not really even about my looks, as I repeated 8 times it's about in general feeling like he appreciates me and loves me, but whatever.

>>17723368
Internet, reading circles, through a friend who is also quite introverted, college/other places where you are forced to show up in a group setting.

>>17723309
>can not comprehend what men find attractive or not
Huh. So youth, clear skin, a good figure that is slim or slightly chubby with the right proportions/look to it (good hip to waist ratio, nicely shaped breasts), and a symmetrical (mostly as in, no disproportionate features like a big hook nose) face, along with having nice eyes and a nice smile she's generous with aren't what most men worldwide would agree upon being sexually attractive?

Tell me what it is instead.

>>17723371
Not the guy you're arguing with, but a picture could help convince him.

>>17723371
I agree. I am sure you are as beautiful as you say you are. There's nothing really much you can do though. I don't see what you could do to make him compliment you more often. He might just be a retard. Other men though, I'm fairly certain should make you feel complimented. Idk if you just have a huge things about direct verbal compliments or not but this manifestation of yours seem to a sort of allegory to your general disatisfaction of the relationship as a whole.

>>17723356
Thanks for your commentary.

>>17723341
Do you wanna fugg your friend?

>>17723326
Well he hasn't specifically asked for a handjob, but I do give them to him. They're one of the more reliable ways to get him off, though once he gets close he usually jumps in to get the last strokes out. I've been practicing trying to mimic how he does it himself, since I struggle to have the stamina for a lot of fast strokes. It's just not a motion I'm used to, but I've been gritting through when my arm wants to give out.
We use lube for handjobs (one of his requests) since the friction makes it hard to do a fluid motion otherwise.

>more open about what he wants.
>things on him that he doesn't particularly like
>your attitude is causing him to feel shame
What gave this impression? I thought I was doing pretty well. I've been more than willing to do anything he wants. Is there something that I've been going about the wrong way?

>>17723327
I don't mean to imply that it's my fault. I just didn't want to walk into this saying, "YOU have something WRONG with you, and YOU need to figure this out!!!"
We're a team and I want to do what I can. I want this for his sake, since I can see that he's frustrated when he gives up on trying to cum. I just want him to feel good.
I'm the only person who I can fully control the actions of, which is why I want to know what I can do. I don't want to just tell him what he should be doing.

Or should I be doing this differently?

>>17723386
You're quite welcome, have a happy Halloween!

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>>17723356
Very nice. I'm gonna screencap this for future reference.

>>17723407
The reason you cant jer him off its cause of your angle. Guys have the best angle on themselves to whack each other off, thats why it works. If hes not a huge guy not his dick, try sitting behind him like him almost in your lap do it that way try it with out loob first, and dont brush the skin actually grab his dick dont and do it that way the skin but you should be moving the top layer of skin up and down.

How old is he if I can ask?

>>17723364
Could be a girl.

>>17723423
>dont brush the skin actually grab his dick dont and do it that way the skin but you should be moving the top layer of skin up and down.
I'm sorry, I don't understand. Could you rephrase, please?
He's 30.

>>17723423
>>17723443
Sitting behind him could possibly help if there's no significant height/size (then maybe try to do something with a chair...?) difference.

>>17723443
Okay, you know how when you do it with ur loob ur hand is sliding up and down his dick.

When you do it without that put just enough pressure so u can move the top layer of skin. You can squeeze a little harder in the beginning then the end. Also in the beginning go slow,if you arm is getting gired chances are youre trying to go way to fast. Think about how fast he fucks you, hes probably not doing do u what ure trying to do to his dick. As time goes on loosen ur a grip a little and when hes about to come or even within a minute you can move go a bit faster but u shuldnt be going ham and yahh.

I still do want to say though it still is peculiar that he cant cum from vaginal sex especially because 30 really isnt that old. I just want to say though, I cant help but feel like maybe the fact that he doesnt cum from you may partially cause you to want to remedy this so much.

Make sure hes not jerking off too much, watching too much porn, and are u sure he isnt cheating on you? Has he ever said anything about the condition? I wouldn't bring it up to him if not he may be very very self conscious about it. You may be too, if it doesnt work out im sure its just something he cant control tho. Im sure he thinks ur beautiful but it might just be an issue.

l

Im going rape my girlfriend. She said im not aggressive enough during sex and i remember women enjoy rapey type sex or at least eventually learn to like it.

I dont care if i go to jail. Im old enough to know jail time isn't that bad.

So what im going to do is, when i feel horny, is go up to her and casually take her clothes off and if she resists ill move her hand away and keep taking her clothes off. Assuming she eventually goes into a full struggle, i can just pin her down and keep taking her clothes off then i should be hard and enter her vagina until i cum inside.

Truth be told, if she says i should be more aggressive in bed then the relationship is showing cracks, if i dont address it sooner or later she would break up or cheat on me. So i have nothing to lose atm.

>>17723493

Yeah sounds like she wants yo to rape her do it now cme back tell us how it goes.

>>17723493
I know this is bait but

>Im old enough to know jail time isn't that bad.
Depends on where you live, but yes, the jail time isn't that bad. It's what happens afterwards that is

is it safe to assume that if a woman is really into feminism she doesn't want to be asked out on a date?

I want to ask this girl out but I'm bracing myself that she's going to tell me some bullshit about patriarchy or something

>>17723502
Im not asking advice for my welfare. Im asking about what im going to do. I want some opinion from females on this.

>>17723508
Not a girl. But no u shuld ask her out feminists not the fat ugly nes they are just salty dykes. But the hetero ones love cock.

>>17723511
Im pretty sure every girl here fully supports the rape of your girlfriend. I asked my mom even and she too has give her blessing.

There's this girl I've been thinking of asking out, but I can't tell if she's already got a boyfriend or not.

She seems to be very close with her male coworker. However, she works at a cosmetics store, so this guy could just as easily be gay. Worst case scenario, he's a metrosexual and has more in common with her, decimating my chances.

Should I go ahead and try asking her out anyway?

>>17723338
>also dont say Bah unless ur a sheep

Well I am a bit sheepish

badumtish


This is why I'm single

Ladies,

What do you think of a guy who doesn't want to get married, have children, or even wants to move in with a partner? I'm interested in long term relationships but I feel little interest with doing any of the things I listed with partners. I think they are things that put stress on the relationship that hurt it. At least for me.

Would this be unrealistic for me to expect partners to agree to?

>>17723584
To me, it'd be a dealbreaker.
I mean, sure, you might find a person who is fine with it but I guess most people would eventually want a family, or living together at least.
Be upfront about it from the beginning.

>>17723584
No marriage is fine in my book, but even though the thought of pregnancy terrifies me... I do want to leave on a legacy, provided the conditions are right.

Moving in together depends on the circumstances, honestly. I would wait a few years before moving in with someone.

>>17723584
What's the point of being in a long term relationship if we're not even living together? You'd have to be very, VERY lucky to find a girl who'd agree to that

going to get a bj in 4 days
how can i best prepare to not get E.D.
>i will be drinking because its at party

>>17723589
I've never lived with an SO but I have lived with my best friend for two years during college and I just didn't enjoy living with another person. I guess I value my personal space too much and maybe I need to work on that. Maybe it's different with someone who are romantically involved with.

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i shouldn't even be asking this since an anon replied to me in the last thread but whatever

girls what usually goes through your mind when a guy warps his arm around you at the movies?

if you didn't like it you could just say it or make an excuse like going to the bathroom or something right?

also, the surgery scenes in dr strange are pg-13 as hel,l so her acting like she was a bit scared was obviously a signal for me to do it ,right?, she even said thanks after i did it

you know maybe im just not not used to being accepted or maybe she liked it at the movies but when i tried to continue while we were walking it was too much for her, i don't know, we both are a bit akward , she looked happy after we said goodbye, and she still wants to go to the party i invited her to, so i shouldn't be overthinking this

maybe im just worried because i can't see her every day and i don't know what the hell happens at her school

>>17723606
It really depends, sometimes it'd be too awkward to move. I personally hate having an arm around my shoulder though, so I'd probably push it off.

>>17723589
>What's the point of being in a long term relationship if we're not even living together?
I can't speak for the person who asked the question, but I can think of one good reason.

In my country, couples who live together for more than two years are given similar treatment as married couples. I'm not even talking about common-law, I'm talking about basic boyfriend-girlfriend relationships.

So what does this entail? Say that I've been living with my girlfriend for more than 2 years. Then we decide to break up. Since the law says we lived in a marriage-like relationship, she can now take half my shit, much like a divorce.

That's why I wouldn't want to move in with my partner.

>>17723617
That's the same as in my country, but it's half of relationship property, not all of both partners' property. I'm pretty sure not living together would stop that anyway, it's more about living as a couple, rather than living together.

>>17723606
Girl here

I don't mind an arm around me, but never while walking, that's awkward as hell.

She likes you, don't over think it. Just don't go overboard. Cuddle with her when the mood is apt, and you'll be toasty.

Probably stupid question, Ill ask anyways.
In the last two months I have this really stinging feeling of loneliness and it hurts really bad.
How do I get rid of it? I know that it´s cause I am "tfw no gf", but I feel like it´s holding me back, cause I just seem more desperate to girls, making me fucking unattractive.
I´m a 7/10 lookwise but I didnt have any luck yet, despite putting the work in, and the feeling of loneliness keeps getting stronger.
So my question is:
How do I get rid of this? It just feels so bad :(

>>17723636

Learn to live with yourself. Learn to love yourself.

If you expect your partner to validate you, you will turn them off.

>>17723675
Yeah, that may be the problem. Even though I objectively do pretty well in life, I hate every aspect of me.
What can I do to achieve this?

this girl I like and me were talking today and we ended up talking about masturbation cause I said I was doing no fap November and it eventually lead to us talking about sex and she goes on to tell how she's so experienced and how guys just don't fuck her right and only one has ever made her cum and I'm completely turned off from there, changed how I view her entirely. Why is it that every girl these days are all such sluts? I've fucked maybe two people and at that only did it with them ~5 times. This girl is 19 with a number so high she wont even tell me. Should I get over it or move on? I'd really prefer someone with a more similar sex background to my own

>>17723684

That's a personal journey. Develop yourself. Improve yourself. Go out, have fun. Find yourself.

>>17723687
>Why is it that every girl these days are all such sluts?

Says the guy discussing his fapping habits. Either be a prude or don't be ashamed of sexuality. Pick one.

I DID IT!

Well, kinda.

I told a girl I had a crush on for a long while, whom I became good friends with, that I really liked her, and that I could no longer be just friends with her. It was in a club and we both had quite a few drinks at that point. She hugged me and told me that we will talk tomorrow when I'm sober, and then walked away.

After a few seconds I left the club and came home, full of adrenaline and not sure how to feel.

On one hand, I'm a bit disappointed, on the other hand, it's a huge relief because something is inevitably going to happen. Either we actually get together, or I get rejected and distance myself a bit from her to get over it and maybe in future stay friends. Being close to her and watching her talk to and about other guys was giving me so much anxiety, that this comes as a huge relief.

Thoughts?

>>17723694
Fapping isn't having dick ran through you by multiple people, SJW.

>>17723687
Perfectly fine to want a girl that isn't a hoe

>>17723689
Ok thanks, I´m gonna keep that in mind.
I feel like I have unrealistic expectations of me. Like in the last 2 weeks I had a one night stand with a SUPER cute girl and made out with another one, and I´m still extremely dissapointed in me and feel like a failure.
I´m more venting than asking for advice...
Thanks again, Im gonna try my best !

>>17723694
So I'm a slut for having sex with myself? Lmaoooo tumblr these days

If a guy stops talking to you for a while does it mean he's lost interest? I had a guy who was flirting pretty intensely with me for a while. He found me on Facebook even. But he hasn't really talked to me much. I tried to initiate conversation with him today but he didn't reply. Is he trying to be aloof or did he lose interest in me?

>>17723707
Probably lost interest in you because you maybe werent showing any signs of affection and another girl decided she wasnt going to wait to lose her chance at some D

>>17723700

The problem is not him fapping, though. It's going around sharing the information.

Also, it's fine to decide "I want someone with the same experience as me", or "I want people that haven't fucked around a lot". You have the right to pick, that's true.

I guess your bitterness just shows through the insults. Don't be mad, you won't turn sex down if you had the chance either.

>>17723706

As it says here >>17723715, you were talking about fapping with her. Fap all you want, but don't react like a prude when people share their sexual habits when you re doing the same thing.

>>17723715
Actually I would turn down sex, because I would only fuck someone I'm in a relationship with. The fact she's willing to fuck people casually already tells what kind of woman she is. Not one worth marrying at the very least. If it were guys she was in a relationship with id feel differently, but a lot of it was casually encounters. Disgusting

>>17723733
>a lot of it was casually encounters. Disgusting

So disgusting, yuck. Sour grapes, Anon, sour grapes...

>>17723738
Imagine being this immodest. Who raised you? Just because girls on Twitter say it's okay to have your pussy blown out for sport doesn't make it true. And why is it mostly fat girls that take all the sex they can get?

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girls, this friend of mine keep sending pictures of her tits to me but when she does that I try to quickly change the topic, I don't know what to say when she does that because I don't want to say something that might offend her or make the mood weird.

She does that on regular basis what should I say to her? I kinda like her I guess

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How do I avoid coming across as clingy to a girl I like? So far I've hit it off with her pretty well but I'm worried that if I talk to her too much I'll seem overbearing.

>mfw we get along p well as friends but I can't tell if she likes me in that way or not

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>>17723907
im kind of in the same boat here, ther only thing i have learned is that you should avoid to her texts instantly, wait a few minutes or even an hour, also when you texte her make sure to mention other stuff you are doing

it shows thay she is not the only important thing happening in your life and that you got other shit to do

dear femanons, IF you were a shy girl or just want the guy you like to talk to you first, what would you want him to say, i like this girl and im pretty sure she likes me too but i wanna get to know her better but all the conversations are basically like
>hi how are you
>im good, you?
>doing pretty good too
and just discussing random stuff, and i cant hold conversation what do girls like to talk about, how do i keep a conversation going.

Can I get some help with my girlfriend.
Half the time she is in love with me, always wanting to talk, telling me how much she loves me, stuff like that. When we are together, she will ask me to keep her awake so she can spend more time with me.
The other half of the time, I feel like she is ignoring me, she wont respond and if i check I can see she is usually on instagram.
I'm not sure what to do. Not sure if it helps but there is this thing in the middle where she will send me a message and then wont respond to my text back. She always messages me at least once a day, so i dont think she has lost interest, any help?

>>17723927
Sweet, I already do that. I'm just anxious as fuck and I hope it continues to go well. I don't usually hit it off with grils so well.

My gf says "I love you" a whoole lot

basically a lot of what she talks about is how much she loves me.

Ladies, how do I tell her to tone it down w/o actually affecting her love for me?

So how do I ask this girl to be my girlfriend / ask her if she wants "us" to be a serious exclusive thing? Here's some back story:

>Been hanging out consistently for about a month now
>We get a long great. She's explicitly stated that she likes me
>Made out on the third date (she tried to kiss me on our second date but I wasn't expecting it/I'm an awkward fuck and dodged it)
>She's met my friends and gets along great with them and ive met hers and she says they all like me
>Stayed the night at her place this past weekend
>Usually keep the topic of conversation light hearted since we're more chill/easy going people but we've had conversations about "deep shit" before
>Have plans to go to a concert together tomorrow night and to go to a haunted house thingy this weekend

So I know she's into me but I don't want to make her feel pressured or seem like im rushing things but I also kinda want to know where we stand. Is it to soon to have that kind of conversation and if not what's a good kinda non chalant way to approach it?

>>17723341
They are the same thing. The only distinguishing feature is that in one context you also want to fuck them.

You may be thinking it seems to obvious but seriously that's it. Its the same principle between distinguishing between someone you just find attractive and someone you 'like' in your own words, they are the same but in one context you also want to be friends with them.

>>17723959
Why is this a problem?
>>17723962
Honesty and communication are your best friends here. Or just start calling her your gf when you speak or text her. That's basically what happened to me

>>17723968
sigh, it really isn't... I just need friends that aren't her.

Fellow guys,

How do you develop morals/a code/standards? I'm trying to rediscover myself after a long fight with depression and could use some helpful pointers to guide me in the right direction.

>>17723976
Experience in life. I didn't give a shit about animals until I got a dog. Now I am more sympathetic with animals.

>>17723873

Just tell her you want to suck those tiddies

>>17723873
If shes sending you her tits I don't think she's trying to marry you more like you just make her pussy extra moist. Ask her if she wants to come over and watch a movie. this bitch will 100% fuck the shit out of u.

>>17723972
>>17723962
>>17723968
No don't say anything to her about it. I would say after a month you culd asume you are a couple. But just go about casually if she does something that upsets you after a month of solid dating I would just state it, but definetly dont go over boar

to girls who make music

how do i meet one of you, most musicians i meet are dudes

>>17724013
As someone who is involved in the music scene and is friends with several female musicians, my one bit of advice is don't try and pigeonhole them as "female musicians".

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Alright, so there's this girl I'd wish to have relationship with, but she's an introvert and I've barely gotten to know her. She doesn't text often but I know a few of her hobbies and favourites. Talking to her feels alittle bit forced but that's mainly due to her shyness. Possibly.

I'd really like to get to know her, maybe come out of her shell alittle bit more. Not at all change who she is because I find it adorable.

What do, /adv/?

>>17724029
Earn her trust and ask to hang out. Be stubborn but not annoying.

this is probably in a shit ton of google results considering how common a concern it probably is

but anyways.

To girls:

Body hair on guys. Should we shave/wax our armpit & chest hair? What about our legs? My body hair is weird, I have always no hair on my arms, not too much on my torso either, but my legs are halfway like an Indian's legs. Armpit hair is probably why I haven't bothered swimming since I was 12.

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Girls,

I have a close female friend who recently got a new roommate. She introduced me to her, and we hit it off pretty quick and now we're going on a walk in a nearby park on Wedsneday.

Would it be weird to ask my friend what this girl has said about me, or whether or not she thinks I should make a move?

>>17724060
Just telling u as a guy, dont do it. Why does it matter? It doesnt.

>>17722344
What is the trick to get a hold of my balls, as my therapist said, because I I do kinda d of have an initiative to talk to people, it's just that I can sometimes puss out and even abandon relationships to a point of not talking to people for several months

>>17723696
Stay positive, but be ready for anything, and be strong, because either way it's gonna help you plow trough whatever may come ahead

>>17724042
Get rid of armpit hair. Some chicks love body hair. And when they love body hair, they fucking love body hair.

I don't know why, but I guess some chicks just do. I can't imagine why someone wouldn't rather feel soft bare skin instead.

I'm 17 and a kissless virgin, but that's not what I came here for. I feel kind of isolated, and I feel that Im not getting along with people very well, or at least that I'm staring to become one with myself, like an introvert, and all of this kind of gave its first signs 3 or 4 years ago when I started high school, that I had kind of lost my ease to talk with girls so easily, and being in a class where there were 2 girls wasn't helping either.

Help dudes, I seriously want a solution for t to shit

>>17723696
Yeah but you got completely rejected... Its okay just act like you forgot what you said.

>>17724094
try saying hey, then after that keep asking questions and let them talk for the full duration after.


No one can make you a great socialier obviosly. But trying to find ways to get words from other peoples mouths is key.

>>17724033

>>17724033
Why stubborn?

How do I stop stressing about my relationship?

It's weird, when I'm not with him I overthink everything, start getting funny then feel this sense of that he is going to leave me, or he doesn't like me that much or cares about me. The littlest things seem like the end of the world.

But when we are together all the negative feelings go away and I'm happy.

I really want to stop stressing, because it is making me overly upset and snappy :(

(girl here)

>>17724165
Don't give up when a shy person says no. Compromise with baby steps if you have to but don't let them have their way and achieve nothing. And it will show you care

legit question here for the women, this has always baffled me.

what exactly do the feminists expect? when you have a large chunk of the male population being barred from sex with hot women due to factors out of their control (sub-par face/height etc), misogyny is going to exist. This shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone with half a brain

>>17724184
How long have you been dating?

Have you been hurt in the past?

>>17724215
Only four months... No this is my first relationship. I think I just have no clue what I'm doing.

>>17724222
The feeling will pass the more and longer you date. I think you feel like he is too good for you perhaps?

>>17723976
>How do you develop morals/a code/standards?
Experience, also think about what you think is a "good" society and how to get there. Reading literature is also always useful, such as Meditations.

Girls who have cheated on your boyfriend, why did you do it?

>>17724264
Attraction is intoxicating

>>17724264
How can we say no to BBC?

>>17724264
The other guy had a bigger penis.

>>17724264

>>17724266
>>17724268
>>17724279
Basically these. Same reason a guy would cheat. Weak willed people fall towards lust. OR they are in a relationship they feel uncomfortable/abused in.

>>17723940
bump, I still need help :(

>>17723940
How long of a wait period is it for a response? Maybe talk to her about it?

Don't take it too hard. Relationships are for physical contact, not for solely text. If things are good in person then don't worry too much.

>>17724301
Can be anywhere from 30mins to 12 hours. We dont get to see each other very much in the first place due to work, and its been happening less. What worries me is when i ask her to hang out she ignores it. Acts like I i didnt say it. But she still tells me she loves me when ever she does text.

>>17724312
Yeah that can be annoying. I was in a similar situation. I'd say counter it with you being distant but thats kinda petty. Communication is key to a relationship. Confront her in person and talk about it so you won't have to wait for a response.

>>17724320
Yeah, Im just thinking of asking her if something is wrong. We havent been going out too long, and she was the one who asked me to be in it, so im most likely over reacting. Thx anon

>>17724325
Nah you're fine. I really don't get why girls just stop responding. At least tell us you're gonna be busy.

>>17724330
Thats mostly my point, I wouldnt worry if they would just tell me they dont feel like talking, leaving me on read just makes me worry.

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Girls, what is your first impression of a guy who's friends are almost entirely girls?

Since I've started college and barely made any friends, the ones that I hang out with the most are girls and I feel like its hindering my chances at finding a gf. All of my friends have guys that they're with and I wouldn't want to date any of them anyways.

My closest friend is a girl and we walk around campus alot together, I cant help but feel like its gives off the impression that we're together and its really bugging me because I keep hearing all this nice guy shit from them but they might be the reason that Im still single.

I connect with people easily based on past experiences but I always have trouble with the initial introduction. I think I also have a problem with unintentionally friend-zoning my self by getting too comfortable around them.

TLDR;
>Guy with mostly female friends
>Am constantly seen with atleast one of them with me
>Worried it makes me look like some player or that Im taken when Im the opposite (almost desperate really)
>Super autistic when it comes to first introductions but can connect with other really well after that

Wat do?

>>17724343
Fag or fruity as fuck

Needs some guy friends.

>>17722371
Look up the "5 love languages", by Gary Chapman.

It's pretty much pseudoscience, but it does make sense. People want affection in different ways. You seem to need words of reaffirmation, and he seems to not need this. So, because he doesn't need it, he doesn't understand why you do.

Talk about this with him. You need to give each other affection in ways which the OTHER person wants/needs, not in the way you want/need.

Hope it helps.

>>17723700
Did I get completely rejected? I mean okay if I did, like I said it'll come as a relief partially, I'm still a bit high from the booze, maybe when I crash I'li feel different.

How do I ask about a person who lurks in 4chan? I need advice but I don't know how to put it without them finding that I am asking about this.

>>17724375
run it through google translate a few times

Guys and/or girls (state which you are),

Do you want children? If so, why? And at what age, roughly? If not, why? And at what age did you know you wanted/didn't want them?

>>17724387
girl, donotwant, can't pinpoint it to any certain age

>>17724382
Seriously now, I need you to understand as well.

>>17724387
Male

Want kids

Don't want my lineage to die and I want something to pass on to this world that I can say is actually mine. Buying something is one thing, but having a child that I look at and see a part of me reflected would feel great. And the other half being mixed with the person I care for the most is just the ultimate stage of love. Its a symbol of our love.

I guess I've always wanted kids

>>17724392
you go back to English with it as the last step, it just makes your words not taste like they came from you

>>17724390
Why don't you want them?

>>17724393
If your partner didn't want them, would you be willing to not have them? What do you think about the risk of having a child that turns out badly? Either a disability of some sort, or grows up to do something bad? Does this factor into your desire at all?

my friends keep trying to encourage me to try dating again but idk

i'm a 24 y/o f, college educated, and i've been single for 2 years. i have hobbies and friends and a decent personality and people generally like me

my biggest problems are that i work part time, live at home with my mom, and don't have a car- i live in a relatively small city but it can still be difficult to get around. i'm lucky that my job, friends, and local hangouts are all within walking distance but it makes dating pretty hard.

i don't plan on spending the rest of my life like this but rn i'm kinda stuck. i feel like i would be a huge burden on a partner and that my situational faults are an automatic deal breaker but my friends insist that if someone really liked me it wouldn't matter. i'm not so sure.

is it a deal breaker?

>>17724412
If my partner doesn't want them then I'd have to ultimately break up. There are a lot of things I could consider compromising on, but that can't be one.

I'd be willing to have her abort the child if it has a disability.

I'd try my best to be there for the kid and prevent them from being bad members of society. But I plan on having more than one kid so I'll have a back up kek. Anyway, its scary not knowing what the child will end up being like, but a lot of important decisions in life are risky. All you can do is try your best in raising them.

>>17724397
good question. I'd be inclined to say feminism and just general pop culture influence but I can't ever recall feeling any sort of desire or urge to have kids someday, even as a kid when my girlfriends were happy to play pretend mommy with babydolls I was off derping around with random shit like seeing what I could make happen with a handful of rubber bands and paperclips. Pregnancy seems...I mean not unnatural just that I wouldn't enjoy a second of it. For the most part I seem to have damn good genes but I don't think I'd make for a good mother. Wouldn't be fair to the kid.

>>17724414
If its temporary, no. But clear it up with your potential boyfriend ASAP so they know what they are getting invovled with. Maybe they can even help you.

>>17724429
Age? My ex was like this at first but as she got into her 20s she made a 180 and wanted kids.

>>17724429
Your opinion is essentially the same as mine, which is comforting. I understand that a majority of people probably do want kids, but I have never understood the urge. I see only downsides.

>>17722344
Girls:
Do you really only like cars and money?
Can good sex make up for a lack of either?

>>17724343
You're what's called an "orbiter."

You need to have guy friends for men to respect you and women to desire you. If you really want me to I can explain why, but I'm fucking tired so please just take my word on this.

>>17724396

I met a person here through disposable emails. We've been talking for a week now and we clicked very well. However all the information I have is your instant messaging account and a disposable email. She has sent some photos of herself, all consistent with each other, but they have all been passed photos rather than something new.

I know his name, but because you can never be too confident I googled a bit about it. I could not find any of your information at all, and all I found were alternative IM accounts on the same client and a few posts on 4chan where she says some things I already know.

Do I have reason to distrust her? What should I do?

(2 steps; it gets difficult to understand after that)

>>17722344
I'm in a bit of a pickle. As a very timid guy who has zero experience dating someone (26 yo khv) I'm 90% sure a girl likes me. She's known me a long time and has always kept in contact with me. She used to really like me and I think she likes me still, but I have always chickened out from making a move because as I said, I'm incredibly timid. I met up with her recently and I wanted to finally ask her out, but I failed to summon up the courage to do it. I'm now fairly certain this is something I cannot do, and she knows what I'm like, so what I'm wanting to ask the girls here is if you were in her shoes how would you feel about me confessing to you over a phone message? I know it's far from ideal but I'm not sure I can bring myself to do it any other way.

For her to reject me would be crushing, I can't handle that sort of thing and so I want to distance myself from it somewhat. I honestly have never been able to figure out why she likes me, I am an incredibly boring person and she always seems to have much more engaging conversations with others, and so I am always second-guessing myself about her attraction to me.

>>17724343
yeah, first impression of you is that you are homosexual

>>17724464
well im a guy but whatever i think if ure that mch of a little bitch u jshuld ust tell her over hte phone.

OR u culd ask her if she wants to see a movie. Whats that do though? Its not going to make u any less afraid is it? No. its not ure still gonna be afraid of her lips her tist her ass her vag. Ure gonna be a little girl. So whats the pt

honestly at the end of the day you just have to be grow a pair tho and be a man

>>17723165
if it were me it would be because i like getting tickled (when it's a girl)

i would probably like it even if i didn't have feelings for them but it's a pretty good sign

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>meet girl at house party 2 weeks ago
>go for coffee mid week
>talk sporadically over facebook, slow replies etc
>go to party last weekend
>end up at my place at 9AM physically destroyed from MDMA
>eat, smoke a joint, drink coffee, eat dark choccolate
>talk about life, our opinions, personal stuff
>she stays until 5PM that day just talking
>constantly says how she never expected me to be this mature for my age the first time we met

>next day
>messages trough the roof
>"Since we live close you can invite me to hang out if you want, I'm always up for coffee or tea in this weather :)"

She wants to fugg?

>>17724636
Nah man, she's just being polite.

>>17724672
Are you being sarcastic or not, I can't tell.

>>17724094
Go to parties and drink alcohol
I was in te same position as you and that's what fixed it.

Girl here

Why do some guys not like showing their feet?

I've noticed my boyfriend wears socks around the house usually when guests are over. He also never wears sandals or flip flops in public. His feet aren't even disgusting, I've showered with him and they look normal but he usually keeps them covered.

>>17724742
Yes, she wants to fug. No girl is this polite, they only say these things unless they like you.

>>17725368
Smell?
Insecure?
Cold feet?
Could be a number of reasons