International fling?

>>1223810
>Is it OK to have an "fling" while traveling?
...Yes...

>>1223811

I had to ask, because "flings" are something I've never been comfortable with.

>>1223810
If she wants a fling too, then what's the problem?

You say she's a nice girl and you care about her. Fair enough, so don't try to fuck her if you think she's too attached.
But she might well WANT a "fling" instead of a relationship, and if that's the case then it's all good.

Though be real with yourself; Are you worried about her falling in love with you, or are YOU worried about falling in love with her?

>>1223814

Well I don't think she's the type of girl for a fling. She's the shy type.

>Are you worried about her falling in love with you, or are YOU worried about falling in love with her?

Both Tbh. I fell HARD for an Italian girl I met 2 years ago. It didn't go anywhere and made me feel miserable. I can't do that again, and I don't want this French girl to go through that either, because she's been very good to me

>>1223810
On the one hand I'd say yeah it's fine if that's what you both know you're getting in to. It's always possible that there'll be no chemistry when you actually meet so it might be a non-issue.

On the other hand you're playing with fire. Foreign land, cute girl, spending time together etc., of course you're going to get attached. Think about whether the prevailing memory you want from the trip is her heartbroken and crying the night before you leave.

I wouldn't really be asking /trv/ to tell you whether it's ok, ultimately it's what you're comfortable with that will determine how things play out during and afterwards.

>>1223819

>Think about whether the prevailing memory you want from the trip is her heartbroken and crying the night before you leave.

Fuck

>>1223816
I'm an American and I have been in a long distance relationship with a European girl for nearly two years now.
I guess it doesn't work for everybody, but it has been quite easy for me.

We only have one life to live, so live it with as few regrets as possible.

Would you rather try and either have success, be rejected, or live your life always wondering what might have happened?

>>1223816
>Well I don't think she's the type of girl for a fling. She's the shy type.
Anon, you can't actually tell based on stuff like that. The world isn't divided into "good, quiet girls who only want true love" and "loud, party girls who only want dick". People are way more complicated then that, and they can want different things at different times in different situations with different people.
Unless she's told you she doesn't like to have NSA sex, you don't really know.

However, if you're worried about your own feelings, then that's legitimate. You don't have to have sex with her if you feel it might cause you pain. Plenty of chicks in the world to fuck.

>>1223821

How often do you see each other, how did you meet?

>Would you rather try and either have success, be rejected, or live your life always wondering what might have happened?

Honestly.. that's a non-issue for me.. I haven't had sex in 5 years, and I've never thought "what if?", even with all the hotties I've seen walking around the Hostels I've stayed in..

>>1223822

It's just how I read her, her personality. She seems like the traditional "good" girl. It's pretty obvious the way she talks to me that she's interested in me, but I think she actually likes me, but We've never talked lewd with each other before.


But yeah, I also am concerned with my own feelings as well. That's why I asked if I should friendzone her or not..

>plenty of chicks in the world to fuck.

This may sound like a generalization. But, I really don't like girls in my country. At least where I live.

>>1223810
International travel flings are the best flings. All the best parts of a relationship in a microsm and with a built in expiration date, which adds to the intensity of it all.

Where people fuck up is trying to carry on the fling after they leave.

>>1223828
>It's just how I read her, her personality. She seems like the traditional "good" girl.
Yes, but you honestly can't tell, trust me on this one. Have you spoken about her previous boyfriends/partners? Do you know anything about her attitude to sex and relationships?

>But yeah, I also am concerned with my own feelings as well. That's why I asked if I should friendzone her or not..
Ultimately though, this is the important thing. If you don't think you can handle casual sex, don't do it.
To me, it sounds like you can't handle casual sex without overthinking it and getting emotional, so I'd recommend not doing it.

>This may sound like a generalization. But, I really don't like girls in my country. At least where I live.
Girls are mostly the same everywhere. Just different social customs and the draw of the "exotic" make foreigners seem different.

It sounds to me like you're putting this French girl on a pedestal though. It's easy to do especially if you're inexperienced, but understand that you don't really know her. You've never met her in person. People can come across completely different in person than in text.
Don't imprint your own fantasy version of her onto the real her.

>>1223832

I just don't know if I can actually do this.. I think it'd be hard for me

>>1223810
Why don't you just point this all out to her before you actually do anything, assuming it gets to that point? See how she feels about it before you actually hook up?

>>1223828
>How often do you see each other, how did you meet?
We talk on Skype literally every day and so far we have been able to travel with each other (always around Europe) 3 - 4 times each year.

If you two are going to get into a relationship or something more than friendship, maybe you should do it under the guise of both of you being able to travel more/being travel buddies.

>>1223833

>Have you spoken about her previous boyfriends/partners? Do you know anything about her attitude to sex and relationships?

no, she's only very very briefly mentioned her ex. But didn't say much. And she's never mentioned anything regarding sex

>you can't handle casual sex

You're right.

>girls are the same

Well, at least from my experiences. The girls I've met in Europe were way more respectful and opened minded. The few Italian girls I met actually tried to pay for my train tickets and food when we explored around (which I never expected). Just overall, very kind. With girls here in the US (in my city) most want the guy to do everything for them, and in general are shallow minded.

>you have the French QT on a pedestal

no, I don't. I learned my lesson with that before. however I do care about her. Like you said, im very inexperienced for my age (26), which is my fault Tbh.

>>1223839

Yeah perhaps that's true too.

>>1223842
>You're right.
Then you have your answer. Don't fuck her.

>Well, at least from my experiences. The girls I've met in Europe were way more respectful and opened minded. The few Italian girls I met actually tried to pay for my train tickets and food when we explored around (which I never expected). Just overall, very kind. With girls here in the US (in my city) most want the guy to do everything for them, and in general are shallow minded.
Bear in mind you were a traveler in their lands, though, and it was only a temporary trip. Would they have treated you the same if you had lived in those countries all your life? It's doubtful. The novelty and fun would have worn off.
I don't know what the culture is like in America. But I live in an EU country and where I live, it's about a 50/50 split of women who prefer to pay for themselves and women who expect the man to pay. But the women who pay for themselves are also the more liberal kinds who would be interested in socialising with travelers.
These girls you met? Their attitudes are probably more indicative of HOW you are meeting them, rather than what countries you are meeting them in.

>no, I don't. I learned my lesson with that before. however I do care about her.
You've spoken to her for two months and never met her in real life. It's ok to care about her, just understand that she's probably completely different to how you're picturing her.


Anyway, it's all irrelevant because you've made it clear you're not comfortable with casual sex. So don't do it.

>>1223850

I understand.

The "not able to handle casual sex" thing just makes me feel weak. I'm 26, and people tell me a lot since I'm a single /fit/ blue eyed guy that I should be out having fun with lots of girls. They say I'm wasting my prime and I'll be full of regret later. Because I DON'T do that, it makes me feel like shit, because I don't like feeling weak.

But I honestly can't handle it tho..

>>1223852
It's not a weakness, it's just a preference. You prefer sex with an emotional connection, and that's ok. It's just how some people are wired. And I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who would love to have a boyfriend like that.

If it's any consolation, the other side of the scale is pretty sucky too. I'm a girl who doesn't into love and prefers casual sex, and I cop shit for that as well.
I had a boyfriend once and it just felt weird and uncomfortable and it ended badly because he loved me so much more than I loved him.

Just be true to yourself, anon. Everyone is wired differently.

>>1223856
>You prefer sex with an emotional connection

Well, I've never experienced that. So I don't even know if that's true. I've had 2 ONS before and that was it, years ago. Both experiences were awful.

So, either way. I should just be platonic friends with this French QT. Nothing more?

>>1223860
>So, either way. I should just be platonic friends with this French QT. Nothing more?
Meet her in real life and do whatever feels right.

>>1223866

Ok well, that means I should friendzone her now.

>>1223868
Well, go back on Interpals and find another girl so that we can decide another part of your life.

>>1223869

Thanks for trying to help, anon.

why do you have to turn such an insignificant thing to a big fucking soap opera in your head ?

jeez just go meet her and see where it goes from there spontanilty is yuour friend this whole i might fall in love get married and have kids shit you're brooding on about is fucking retarded.

i tinder date whenever i travel. last time abroad i met a really nice girl e hooked up and took it a day at a time . flash forward to today she's put her request to be transferred to the regional office here. im flying back in a week to hang out.

i never wanted a relationship much less a long distance one but things take it's course just go and enjoy the ride you fucking dumbass worry wart.

>>1223881

>take it's course just go and enjoy the ride

I don't work like that. Especially when it comes to serious shit like this

>>1223884
>serious shit

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

you sound like one of those retards who plan their outfit and topics of conversation a week in advance before a date

>>1223885

You don't have to be a dick.

For someone doesn't meet girls every year, it's a big deal.

>>1223884
You sound like a manchild from /r9k/.

Kinda the same thing actually, only issue is I'm already in a relationship and fuck, now I just think about that penpal all the time. I pretty much start ignoring my gf because of that shit, I might even drop her, but I'll wait until I meet that person, hang out a bit to see what's the deal, and yeah maybe it's to get a visa or something but since it's in the EU (Eastern Euro) I doubt it, but fuck it I don't care, my dad did the same thing, met my Easter Euro mom, dropped his Scandiboo gf, and they are now happily married. I might sound like a piece of shit but hey, what can I do.

What I do for now is:
- Just do the usual things, the usual chit chat, a lil bit during the week (don't want my job to get involved) and a lot in the week-end
- Meet that person. Just agree on some place, but don't make the meeting as the sole reason of the trip.
- And just see how it goes. Maybe no straight on sex or anything, especially if you're looking for a nice and lasting relationship. At least that's my deal. And shit gets easier as you grow older (26+).

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crazy fucking story.

when I went to japan, I was nervous; that people there would hate me for being black and spit in my food because they dont like black people.

but when I went there, I met a girl at a night club I went with my now ex girlfriend and we fucked at her back at my hotel.

travel there was amazing, I got to taste new food and see interesting things. couldn't understand a fucking word anyone said and it felt very strange at times. like I was in a different planet.

me and that girl still talk from time to time on facebook and I recently been thinking about going back to see her again. she has a boyfriend now, but its an asian dude that looks like he weights about 90 pounds.
oh and she has alot of friends who were asking about me while I was there with her in osaka.

travel is the perfect time to fuck new pussy from. go for it, but don't form a relationship with the girls, because when you eventually depart, it will leave a cut deep down.

just sport fuck, feels good bro.
especially if your black on a site like this who apparently hates people like me.

>>1223949
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>ITT
A bunch of sad, ugly-ass losers who don't get laid at home

I fuck 1-3 new girls every month in my country. You guys are fucking thrash

>>1223956
i cant understand why.

women are alot like men, they are attracted to masculinity, just like we are attracted to femininity.

by that logic, become more masculine and you will succeed no matter what.

that's why I started to lift when I was 20, took 2 years to get to 240lbs but i'm there. and the pussy feels good bro.

or steroids, those shits work.>>1223949

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>>1223958
You're a roider?
Oh please, you don't need to fucking roid if you're black

t. 34 y-o white natty who could school your lazy ass

>>1223884
'Serious shit'
Anon...pls this is supposed to be the least autistic board.

>>1223958
You know steroids aren't necessary whatsoever for having sex with women. But to each his own black anon.

There's a reason they use smaller guy models for the cover of womens magazines.

Getting fucking jacked is for impressing men and trying to slay on grindr.

Being lean is definitely all that's required, just not being Auschwitz-mode. Especially in Asia since you're comparing muscle mass of the average Japanese.

You have a nice bod though. (Full homo)

>>1223842
>We talk on Skype literally every day
>Don't have her on a pedestal
Dude no one believes you. You're obviously infatuated with her otherwise you wouldn't bother making the thread.

>The girls I've met in Europe were way more respectful and opened minded.
Being a foreigner anywhere you'll see this. Not only Europe. European men will come to USA and talk about how nice American girls are.

Act like you're actually 26 please. You seem like a teenager.