ask the opposite gender thread

>>25451866
>when op doesn't bump his own thread

>>25451866
question for girls:

how often do you masturbate?

>>25451866
>>25453676
>>25453682
Beta males

>>25453685
>dumbass

>>25453682
Once or twice a month I really go at it.

>>25453732
Attention whore

>>25453732
That just seems so insanely infrequent. Do you not just find yourself with nothing to do before bed or at the weekend?

>>25453736
Beta male

>>25453682
ill go a week or two without doing it and then ill do it everyday for a week

>>25453736
>insanely infrequent
It's pretty average, I probably touch myself more than most girls because when I do it, I'm at it for hours. I don't get horny very often. Sometimes I like to look at stuff and just get really wet but I don't touch myself

questions for guys:

1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?

>>25453742
hi :)

>>25453741
>Sometimes I like to look at stuff and just get really wet but I don't touch myself

man girls are weird.

>>25453756
Guys always talk about edging.. it's the same thing

For men: if you had a cute shy virgin infront of you or an average looking slut that's been with over 50 different guys, which one would you marry? And why?

>>25453759
obviously choose cute shy virgin, where do you think you are?

>>25453768
Idk lol I've just noticed more guys where I live want homely whores

>>25453748
1) Up, unless I'm really tired and don't feel like aiming

2) Daily, but it's usually on purpose because I'm masturbating. Occasionally when I'm really tired and bored, but then I usually just sit down at a desk.

3) Usually love, unless I'm already pretty horny or she's not wearing much. My second thought is usually "she'll let me down too" though.

>>25453748

>sitting up or down

Do you mean standing up or sitting down? I haven't sat to take a piss in 20 years. Standing is quicker and comfier.

2) at least a semi every day. When I let my mind wander it usually wanders to something sexual within 20 minutes. Jeans hide them fine if you're sitting down.

3) with cute girls I think about love first. With hot girls dressing provocatively I think about sex first.

>>25453748
1) Doesnt really matter, just depends on where you are :)
2) Like 4/5 times a day, its more of a random thing, not really related to anything most of the time, depends on which pants you are wearing, sometimes its very hard ^^
3) With me its just, if i see a girl whose body is hot , im gonna think about sex, but if i see a girl i could be litterly intrested in its love

>>25453759
Well, its hard to say, really depends on the girls age, if she is like 17-18 id say the virgin, if she was like 28 i think the virgin would just be a bit weird^^

>>25453748
1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
standing although pooping is more comfortable sitting down
2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
In the morning mostly and when I watch porn.
3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
If she is really cute I usually think "wow" but that's mostly it.
>>25453759
Neither? I wouldn't marry a girl just because she was in front of me. As for getting to know it depends on the personality

>>25453800
A female virgin under 30 isn't weird. Over 30, now yes that would be weird.

>>25451866
question to guys:
How do you know if a guys likes you and doesn't want to use you for sex?

>>25454091
Well it depends if he cares about you and if treats only as a trophy or as something more.And if you are in love with him for more than sympathy.

I'm mentally ill, let's move into a place together?

>>25454091
I've only ever met one woman so far I've only ever wanted to be with just because I loved her personality, who she was, what she had achieved, and how she spoke and who she was becoming.

I was in love for the first time, I've had crushes before, sure, but I really felt like I needed her in my life to put it without any charm. I felt like she was what I was missing.

I'll never know if that was the case because I was honest with my feelings, told her, awkwardly tried to explain, was perhaps a little too slow in letting go and generally miserable when she didn't love me back.

You know he loves you if he starts being himself and he's not afraid to act himself around you.

Are there any girls that actually don't care about premature ejaculation, or even enjoy when a guy has it?

>>25454247
Unfortunately there isn't a single one on the entire planet

>>25451866
Male here
Is your sexual drives just as intense as ours?
If yes, how or why do you hide it so well

>>25454258
https://youtu.be/5ioQ8a7o3Mo

I'd encourage you to use google

>>25453748
Standing unless I feel lazy
not as often as you would think. It's a response to physical stimuli. Big shirts hide them well.
Love related, in the sense of cuddling, but I don't consider myself typical in that regard.
>>25453759
Whichever one I'm more attracted to. Probably the first one, though.
>>25454091
A good question. I think >>25454216
hit it on the head with his being able to relax around you.

>>25453682
When I was younger, daily.. now that I turned 30.. about once a week

>>25453682
When I was younger, daily.. now that I turned 30.. about once a week >>25453855
Female here... Virgins past 24 are weird regardless of gender because it means either A. High expectations B. Your physically unattractive or just plain annoying as fuck C. Religious D. You have a disability

All of those are extreme red flags.

>>25454419
You being on here at 30 is an even bigger red flag.

>>25454247
How good is the foreplay game? I don't care if he cums fast if he finishes me off through other methods.

>>25454422
Old fag really isn't a red flag at all...

Psh, at least I don't have to worry about my mom busting in on me jerking it to twink porn

>>25454427
Quiet you used up hag.

>>25454425
I get more pleasure out of eating a girl out and fingering her ass than I do out of getting my dick wet. Also, if you like cum, sometimes I recover pretty quickly, so while I'm eating her out, I could shower her in cum.

>>25454422
THIS
if a woman is still posting on 4chan over 29 they have mental issues and need to seek help

>>25454422
Tbqh anyone 30 and older still on here is the biggest red flag

>>25453748
1.) both are the same, there's no difference
2.) several times a day. I have anxiety so I should be getting them even more frequently. I get them a lot of times at random mostly. To hide it I usually make sure it's going through the leg hole of my underwear.
3.) I usually get nervous if I see an attractive girl but I don't fall in love right away, unless it's someone truly gorgeous.

>>25453748
1) Depends on a lot of factors.
2) Pretty frequently, just will them down.
3) Usually sex related. Don't know them enough to establish emotions.

>>25451866
For females:
Is there a realistic chance for women to approach a guy when he's not totally hot/confident/rich?

Also, how does one get into a relationship or friendship with a girl anyways? Like how does it work?
Please help, I'm noob.

>>25453748
1) i don't really care, at home I usually sit down, but when I'm at uni I'll just go to the urinals.
2) Something between twice a day and once every 3 days is pretty normal imo
3) desu I just admire her beauty, I don't explicitly imagine sexual things. I just think about how I like how she looks and that it'd be nice to be with her.

>>25453682
About once a month
usually a week or two before my period >.>

>>25456219
well, I'm not attracted to "hot, confident, rich"
So...

>>25456233
then what's the secret? Or is it something that "just happens" when you notice that you have similar hobbies, are comfy with each other etc?

>>25451866
I'm an attack helicopter.

A question for defense trains: How do you deal with hornet nests growing in your air intake manifold?

>>25454444
>>25454435
>>25454430
>>25454422

At what age, exactly do you gentlemen think you will stop participating in the easy bantz that is 4chan? Don't assume there is anything like this just for oldfags, or that you have done anything to deserve this private wasteland.

Red card yourself.

>>25453748

1) Up.

2) Depends on the day. Various factors including diet for that week, how much exercise I've done etc. I pretty much exclusively wear jeans, so not as hard to hide as some would think. Around my house, I'm usually wearing sweats or cotton shorts, so I usually give it a few minutes before I nip into the kitchen and risk running into the rather innocent blonde who lives downstairs.

3. Mixture of both. Just attraction, really. Not like I have a detail list of sordid things I'd do to each pretty girl that walks past.

>>25453759
I'm not going to dignify that question with an answer, it should be obvious to all involved.

>>25454091
Strictly speak, the ones who are going to use you for sex are generally quite skilled in interacting with women, so you'll probably not really know. If somebody tells you "that guy you're seeing is a player", then that's a good indication.

>>25456265

I just have to kinda wait until periodical maintenance, myself.

Asking f,

I'm a (technical) virgin 21, (my first time wasn't exactly consensual and has made me avoid sex entirely, I've only just got comfortable with people touching me), I've been chatting to a girl from tinder who seems super into me and I'm meeting up with tomorrow. I'm not sure to mention my hang ups cos I know they'll be kinda obvious when we go back to my flat (she's already keen on staying over) and from my female friends chat It seems that no one has patience for male virgins.
I guess what's your opinion? Should I kinda explain my hang ups or just kinda go with flow

M asking F
As a fag, do yall really get off to gay shit?
I mean to me that's pretty fucking weird

>>25456895

Have been wondering this myself, actually.

Q4F:

How do you judge the calibre of the menfolk on /soc/? On average, I mean.

What brings you to /soc/?

How many femanons are there here?

Thanks

>>25456895
I don't, no. I think it's a little gross, desu. Sorry

>>25457007
>pretty sad, they seem really mentally fucked and annoying- really needy and possessive but also bitter and demanding

>I like camwhoring, I like watching other girls camwhore

>probably a fair amount... not that many who are looking to find a date, but I really wouldn't recommend that anyways

>>25456869
Go with the flow and if you feel uncomfortable ask to stop. Mentioning it beforehand will probably only make her self conscious and uncomfortable.

>>25456219
I've approached men before. I dated one for a couple years.

If you are asking how friends work, you are beyond an anonymous internet users help. Sorry.

For men, what's something you would really appreciate your girlfriend doing for you out of the blue? I already give him spontaneous blow-jobs and make sure he's well fed and celebrated. I love him so much and just want to be the best girlfriend I can be.

>>25457007
Menfolk are the reason I've never posted my face or information here. I really would like to, but there's too many scary guys on this board.

I came to /soc/ from /b/ when all these threads used to clog up that board.

>>25457026
Just being there and loving him and supporting him when no one else is is really the best you can do. I'm a chick but I've found men are pretty simple and just want a reliable girl they know loves him

>>25457007
>>25457023
>>25457031
About what I was expecting.

Hear that, guys? Get your shit together, man. Your letting the side down

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Two related questions for girls:
Have you ever contacted a guy on /soc/ first? Do you head into contactfagging threads that take your interest and browse them for guys you think look interesting? Or do you only ever post your details, let guys contact you, then choose the best of the bunch?

For guys: is it true your dicks actually shrink when it's cold?

>>25458026
Mine varies a lot in size.
Cold makes it incy wincy
Hot makes it slightly longer as well as my testicles hang longer
Semi erect can have the size vary by 2" inches
Then I can be hard
Then I can be super hard and add an half inch

Cocks absolutely suck

For guys:

Do you prefer blondes, brunettes, or redheads?

What is the ideal height for a female?

What race are you and what race would you date?

How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex?

>>25458026

Yeah, it's a surface area thing, iirc.

>>25458046

1. Each one has their charms, tbqh. It's not something that would cause me to pick one woman over another. It's just hair.

2. Shorter than me.

3. White. Would date any race, and as a matter of fact have done so. Would only have kids with a white woman, though.

4. Pass.

>>25458046
>Do you prefer blondes, brunettes, or redheads?
All are good if I like the girl
>What is the ideal height for a female?
Up to 6'0 is good for me
>What race are you and what race would you date?
Caucasian. Any if I liked the girl. Unlikely would date a black girl or something, but only due to different culture.
>How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex?
Ideally several times throughout the week.

>>25453748
1) You mean standing up? I prefer standing because it's not as much as a hassle; unless I'm extremely exhausted and need a seat.
2) Depends on my mood, but at least once a day if I'm feeling satisfactory, morning wood n all is most common for me. I just hide it under surfaces or anywhere not visble, for example, I'd lean forward on a table casually or something.
3) Depends how they dress, act, and my mood again. Personally, more so love then sex related.

>>25457026
Depends how well you know him and his tastes, but then again, I'm super picky.
>>25458046
Redhead if it's a saturated red.
Just a bit shorter for cuddling purposes, but this isn't a heavily weighted factor.
White and white/East Asian.
Half the time would be fair.

Q4F:
What do /soc/ fems like to see?

>>25457026
Hugs and cuddles.

>>25457026
Spooning more often

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>>25460075
>>25460053
>mfw

a r e a n y o f y o u I n c t / a r o u n d t h e r e

>>25454419
>Virgins past 24
still have 5 years before it gets weird, fuck yeah

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>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
neither is really more comfortable, its the same thing. But its really cool if youre in a public restroom that you dont have to sit down, or if youre on a festival that you dont have to go to the next porta potty everytime.
>2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
you mean random boners? depends, somedays nothing happens on others like 3 or 5 times. Normaly you can hide it by posture, or you can try positioning your dick under the waistband of your boxers, that way it doesnt poke out that much
>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
you can be sure that almost everytime we see a cute girl the thought of "i wanna smash" comes before love related stuff.
But I guess sometimes when the mood is right before I can think about reproducing I imagine first how it would be to just cuddle up with her and watch a movie on a warm summer night, with the windows open, and her slowly fading into sleep while in my arms.

Girls: why would you choose to seek out a sugar daddy relationship (in which you don't actually care about the person) instead of seeking out a more conventional relationship? Especially if you're already financially independent.

>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
Being able to pee while standing is pretty handy if you're in a hurry, or if it's a public bathroom. I sit down about 50% of the time when I'm at home simply because I'm a lazy ass and I don't want to deal with the mess that occasionally builds up from standing.

>2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
Pretty much constantly. I'll see some girl and think about what I'd want to do with her. Hiding boners isn't much of a problem; you learn to deal with that pretty fast in middle school.

>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
Depends. If she's cute, seems happy, and is dressed more conservatively I'll tend to think more about a relationship, how we might meet that sort of thing. If she's more on the 'hot' end of the spectrum, is kinda bored or bitchy looking, and is dressed like a skank then I'll just think about fucking her. Probably something really nasty and degrading.

>>25453759
Why is this even a question?

>>25454091
What this guy said >>25456856
Odds are if he's a 10/10 and you're completely infatuated with him and you have butterflies in your stomach whenever you're in the same room as him then that's a good indication that you need to slow down and listen to anyone warning you about him. Your judgement is clearly being clouded by his Chad powers.

>>25457026
You've already got the basics covered: keeping his balls empty and his stomach full. Guys are pretty easy to please. Other than that just touch him more. More hugging, cuddling, kissing, holding hands, looking him in the eye and smiling.

>>25458046
>blondes, brunettes, or redheads?
Not particular. Anyone can be beautiful.
>What is the ideal height for a female?
I'm 5'10", which is just average, but I like to be much taller than a girl. So 5'2" sounds about right. Not midget-tier and can still wear heels while maintaining a large height difference.
>What race are you and what race would you date?
White. I'll date any race, but I have to be honest and say that I only find certain black girls attractive.
>How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex?
Ideally both partners should be equally interested in sex, but that's not likely. The girl should initiate at least a third of the time, and should almost always be open to my advances or else I feel like I'm imposing upon her and that's basically the beginning of the end of the relationship. No one wants to feel like their sexual desires are a burden to the other person.

>>25451866
Male asking female
How do you feel about guys that garner a lot of attention from other women, especially like in a social setting like work or school. I know it's a weird question on thread all asking sex related questions, but it's just something on my mind.

>>25458046
I like natural dark blondes best but its not by much.

Race has less to do with it than culture.

As for sex I want to know it will be an ongoing thing. Exactly how much is hard to know without bring in the situation.

>>25457026
Lots of physical contact. Not just sexually, but hugs, holding onto his arms, snuggling up to him. We LOVE physical contact, since it's often such a distant thing even in relationships, and putting hands on people or worse hugs isn't a thing that transfers over to other guys unless it's partly a joke. Having a physical confidant goes a long way. And also asking him to do the same in return helps too, if he wants to. Massages are a good bonding experience, and even if you're not great at them, just letting each other try can be intimate and good bonding.

Also... you could just ask him. We're pretty direct with our desires, unless we know it would hurt us or others. Guessing what people want is sort of a girl thing, guys just like to ask for something and get it. It's pragmatic. Sure it's not 'mentally in-sync' intuitively, but the ends are the same.

Dear women

Why are you so selfish? So many of you cheat, lie, and allow yourselves to be promiscuous. Where did the traditional virtuous girl go? Do you not understand that your virginity is the greatest gift you can give to a man? Have some restraint and shame. Theres a reason us men don't take you seriously.

>>25458046
Do you prefer blondes, brunettes, or redheads?
>natural hair color, bonus points for gingers. Dyed hair just screams of mental issues from experience.
What is the ideal height for a female?
>shorter than me but it's no biggie
What race are you and what race would you date?
>my race (jew/caucasian) because I ain't no race traitor
How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex
>twice a week would be great. But don't force it, if I care I can wait whenever you're horny.

>>25458046
Length's more important, don't be pixie cut trash.
Anything that's not one to three inches taller than I am.
White, and white. I want my kids to look like my family.
When it's clear a good fug would cheer things right up.

>>25461544
My boyfriend HATES physical touch. Is he broken?

>>25461665
Could be ticklish.

>>25461665
Have you asked why? And I don't mean confront with 'why do you hate it when I touch you, I mean coax him out with 'I noticed you don't seem into it when I do X, and it worries me because I want to be intimate and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Is that accurate, or what am I picking up on here, because I love you and I want to love you right, you know?'

Make it clear you aren't angry, appeal to the desire to ease concerns, approach this in a 'I want to be better at this, tell me what to do' manner.

>>25461805
Could just be this. Could be something else. Don't think of it as 'broken'. Think of it as a puzzle to understand.

It's strange how we fear honest conversations with the people we're the most intimate with. We get so used to presenting and constructing personas to appeal that it makes taking off the mask hard. Though I also get nothing's sexy about coming out with all the dirty laundry and skeletons exposed.

My 2 cents.

>>25453748
1. Depends, really. Sometimes I can't be bothered with the seat and I just sit down, if I am too tired, just waking up, or whatever.
2. I don't count them, but I usually position it upwards so it doesn't stick out like a tent.
3. If it's a cute one, it's love.
>>25453759
The one I love more. If it were the same two girls but one has gone through 10 miles of dick, and the other one is shy, I would take the virgin.
>>25454091
If he can talk to you normally without being shy right away, he wants you for sex first. But if you know each other for a longer period of time, if he is more open to you, he doesn't want sex only. Hope this makes sense.
>>25458046
1. I love natural blondes with green eyes. But that combination doesn't suit every girl, so it's not that important to me.
2. Around 5'5", I am 5'10-11", so when she is wearing heels she would be around my height. Literally no other reason. I don't like girls that are over 6' though, it just becomes weird.
3. I am White. I would date any race, but selection on that part here is slim, so...
4. Realistically around 1/3 of the times, but again it depends on factors like work, studying, place, do your schedules fit, etc.

To girls:

why will you not make fun of my small dick? thats what i like why will you not do it? just in a joking manner, but being a little rough but just playing?

is this good enough to get a gf girls?

http://vocaroo.com/i/s1Na3X6RcX8M

>>25461934
That's a nice song anon but I don't think that will attract ladies

>>25461864
I've talked thoroughly with him about it. Holy fuck get off your soapbox

>>25461934
if Elliott were still alive, he'd smack the shit out of you

>>25462068
i tried to delete it but it's too old

i'm really fucking sorry
>>25461996
yeah i'll continue being a involuntarily hugless kissless virgin forever now

>>25462083
playing guitar and singing is the cherry on top of the sundae. you gotta make sure you have the ice cream there first.. in other words, first work on your personality and having your shit together when it comes to life/career/finances. that brings friendships and relationships. all that other fun stuff, like guitar, is what keeps people around.

>>25462095
>playing guitar and singing is the cherry on top of the sundae.
except when it's really fucking bad. i'm sorry for wasting your time

>>25457023
>Go with the flow and if you feel uncomfortable ask to stop. Mentioning it beforehand will probably only make her self conscious and uncomfortable.

I'm more concerned about it being bad for her to be honest.
I can ignore my hangups largely because shes extremely nice and we've been chatting a while

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>>25454419

>Religious.

>Red flag.

For the ladies:
I'm a very wealthy workaholic who's very asocial. Ever since my business success, females around me have been behaving very differently. I'm worried sooner or later i'll fall for someone who's just after me for my money and not for who i am. Are there any clear indicators someone just wants me for my money?

This problem appears to be much trickier than i thought it would be. Girls find successful men attractive. And that's fine, but how can i tell if she's in love with the fruits of that success and not really the man who created it? Is there a way i could 'test' this somehow without showing distrust?

How can i be fully CERTAIN? I wouldn't want to question that person in her face...
FYI, there's no way of hiding my success either. I dress and behave normal, but as soon as they ask what i do for a living, i'm fucked.

I deeply appreciate any advice/thoughts/viewpoints.
Thank you in advance.

>>25453748
1. Standing up unless I combine it with taking a shit. FeelsGoodMan
2. Depends on my mood. Random ones are usually once a day. I hide it by putting it in my waistband or down my pantleg if I'm sitting down.
3. Love, usually. I'm more of a romantic.

>>25453759
Cute shy virgin. Mostly because natural cuteness doesn't really fade like sexiness does. The slut will find someone eventually.
>>25454091
They'll be nervous at first, but then they'll be a lot more open around you because you matter to them. If he wants to take you somewhere actually nice (not just fancy to humblebrag about money or impress you) that's a good sign.
Also see >>25454216

>>25457026
You're doing great!

>>25458046
a. Redheads, all the way
b. Anywhere in the 5'3" to 6' range (I'm 6'2")
c. I'm white. I'd date any race really.
4. Whenever she wants to, but once a week is a nice benchmark for me.

Hope this helps!

>>25453748
1-standing
2-constantly
3-neither. I get that little gasp that you get when you see something beautiful regardless of what it is.

>>25453759
The virgin. Because you don't want to think that everyone else has done something with your wife. Yet I would rather have sex with the whore because I like girls that are easy.

>>25456565
55 and still going strong. Been here forever. You're all here because us oldfags fucked. You didn't invent this shit. Take it from me, anyone posting on here is trying to set their dark side free anonymously. We're all here because we're someone's misfit. Embrace it and stop judging each other.

Girls: If a guy is gonna beg for sex, should he grovel and seem frantic or be nonchalant and apathetic? If he were acting upset, do you think he'd be more or less successful than if he seemed calm and collected? Basically, would acting pitiful help his chances if he's already begging, or would he still have to try to act stoic and manly?

Heterosexual Girls:
>Do you ever find yourself attempting to look at a mans package to see his bulge or penis? If so, how often?

>>25454419
>>25454422
>>25454444
I don't get it, though, I'm not supposed to put pussy on a pedestal and act like sex is some big huge deal (to make it seem like I do it all the time and it's just boring everyday stuff), so why would something like using 4chan when I'm 30 be a problem? How can I be too shameful and unfit for sex if sex isn't supposed to be an amazingly special thing?

>>25463180

Your problem is being asocial. People aren't good at hiding their emotions or reasonings. Like, if you look at a conversation you're having with someone from the third person, it will take about five minutes to realize if they actually like you or if they are using you.

Most people will like you your money, there's no going around that. Find the person that likes the other things as well.

>>25462125
You weren't bad. Don't be self deprecating for no reason. We both liked your song. You are talented

>>25462129
Who cares about how it is for her? Honestly, coming from a woman, most guys aren't idiots in bed and don't really know how to please. It's more likely for her to have a date with someone who is terrible rather than someone who sweeps her off her feet in bed. Just do it dude


>>25463311
Eh sometimes maybe, like once in a month or two? I don't really see that many hot guys desu

>>25463308
None of the above

>>25463363
>None of the above

What else is there? Acting relieved and happy that he finally just has to bite the bullet and ask if a girl would mind having sex with him?

>>25463376
>if a guy is gonna beg for sex, should he
>if a guy is gonna bed for sex
>if a guy
>is gonna be for sex
>should he

No. Don't beg for sex, m8.

For f
29 drive a shitty minivan and still rent a house with other people.
Are these complete red flags?
Should I not even bother dating?
I actually have a p good job but refuse to buy a new car so I can save 10% of every pay check and also pay down student loans (almost done) in hopes of following my stupid dream.

Have been together with my girl for around 6months now.
Have tried about every position i can think of, oral, anal, yada yada, but she just can't orgasm.
Never had problems making a woman orgasm, but it does not work with her.
She told me not to worry about it, as she has never had an orgasm in her life before, not from masturbating or sex.
Any advices? Did anyone have the same problem? How did you solve it? What helps?
Only thing that comes to my mind are vibrators, but i would not want to go there

>>25463635
Take her to sextherapy or just leave her alone.

>>25463639
Sex otherwise is great. Leaving her because of that only seems a bit like an over reaction.
Sextherapy?
Mmm

>>25463623
Depends on your stupid dream. but yeah
i would find it awkward to talk to my girlfriends about you.

>>25463643
I didn't say leave her. I said leave her alone. Meaning, if she is happy with only you reaching orgasm, then don't worry about trying to do the impossible.

For the ladies

Would you give a chance to a guy that hasn't figured his shit out yet but would if he could escape a completely toxic environment and would be otherwise a cool sane and responsible guy?

then I just think seeking the approval of women isn't good in the first place... welp. I need a place to escape to while I recover from the crazy and think of a plan. It would help me a whole lot.

How can I get a shy guy to like me?

He does respond to me through texts but it's less frequent as time goes on. I do want to his girlfriend but how do I go about it?

>>25464868
depends on the situation, maybe he's afraid of fucking up or something.

>>25453759
Since we haven't talked about personality, I'm going for the cute one.
>>25453771
>noticed more guys where I live want homely whores
Being enthusiastic about sex can turn a 6 into a 10 real fast.

>>25461934
Guitar could do with a bit more practice
No offense intended :)

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>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
Standing

>2) how often do you get boners? and why?
Often.
> and why?
For the whole list of reasons - maybe I saw a chick bend over, or maybe I just sat in a way that sent all the blood to my penis.
>how do you usually hide them?
I usually find a discreet way to adjust myself, or I just sit down.

>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
You know how when you see a puppy you just want to go hug it and pet it and talk to it in a stupid voice?

It's like that.

>>25463868
I had forgotten that half the reason a woman does anything is based on the perceived opinions of her peer group.
Also that being a poor (presenting) guy is the same as being an overweight female.

>>25464868
>I do want to his girlfriend but how do I go about it?

Like this:

>'Do you have a gf?'
'no'
>'Can I be your gf?'

>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
Up, honestly. Less fabric to get out of the way, you just do your thing and go
>2) how often do you get boners?
It depends. Normally about 2-3 times a day, including morning wood.
>and why?
Morning wood is more due to the increase in blood flow from waking up. Sometimes boners happen for no reason at all, hence the term 'whyboner'
>how do you usually hide them?
try to adjust it so it doesn't poke out as much, bide time until it goes away, clench buns to divert blood flow if it gets bad.
>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
A cute girl would make me jump straight to love; a girl that's just "hot" might make me jump to sexual thoughts first.

>>25453759
Shy virgin, every time. Someone with a black book that big is almost certain to have some issues.

>>25458026
Yeah. Balls head north too.

>>25458046
>Do you prefer blondes, brunettes, or redheads?
I've been attracted to all three, but I tend to go more toward brunettes. It's not a dealbreaker for me by any means.
>What is the ideal height for a female?
Short enough that I can hold her close and tuck her head under my chin
>What race are you and what race would you date?
White, and just about any ethnicity other than black. Not sure why, but black women really don't do it for me.
>How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex?
Can't put a good number on that. It's nice to know your partner wants it too though.

>>25464868
He may think he doesn't have a chance. I'd say just go for it and make the move.

>>25464868
Just say, invite him to go outside, talk to him and slowly ease him in. That's what my ex did it. I was still baffled as to how someone like me, but it was a nice day.
Start from the outside and work your way in. Don't be like out of the blue "I like you", that will come as a shock. Even if he likes you, it might take a couple of days to say that back, so don't worry.

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Why am I a fucking virgin.

And, if the answer is because I don't approach any, how the fuck am I supposed to know if they're attracted to me if you girls all act so aloof around me.

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>>25465202
Fookin flipped pic man

>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
Doesn't matter too much, most satisfying is one that's built up a bit and you can finally relieve your bowels. Shit is lit as fuck.
>2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
Like once or twice a day, im a grower so its easier to hide and even then i dont wear super tight clothes so nobody has ever noticed even if i get one in public.
>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
Kinda a mix of both.
>>25453759
If they both had the same outlook on life, similar interests and career wise were solid partners I'd probably take the virgin as would most guys since purity is a definite A+ however I wish guys wouldn't be such fags when they dick a shit ton of girls and claim women are all whores like hypocrites.
>>25454422
>>25454430
>t. underagefaggot
>>25457026
See >>25460053
us guys just wanna be comfy and have someone to share comfy with
>>25458026
Thermal expansion is real shit
>>25458046
Redheads
Don't really care, don't have a giantess fetish but wouldn't mind a taller girlfriend. Maybe just not a diagnosed dwarf.
Anglo-saxon, would prefer to stick with fellow anglos and whites although I'd probably date an Asian girl but never marry because I want my kids to not be hapas like Elliot Rodger.
Can't say in terms of times per week/month but I'd prefer it being regular enough
>>25464868
Ask him to meet up and do shit, afterwards ask if he wants to go out. Its not super hard.
>>25465202
Maybe you should work on your personality, if the girls around you seem distant that's probably a message that you seem either dickish or too autismo.

Also question for girls. What would you say is the general ratio of left leaning to right leaning political views among women you know personally and talk to and which city/area are those people from? I'm curious to see if the perception of women being mostly left leaning is bullshit or not.

>>25465202
I'm not a girl but it's probably how you are and how you act around women. Lack of confidence, uncertainty, scarcity mindset, how you see yourself.

No amount of muscle or killer bod will help you if you don't embody that strength in your personality. desu I've had more success with women at times in my life where I was invisible sideways.

Just be chill and don't run after them they'll just come to you naturally.

>>25465283
>desu

weirdest typo I've done all day...

>>25465305
>he doesn't know
t b h autofilters to desu. I believe f a m might still filter as well, but idk.

>>25465412
Something filters to senpai as well. Cant remember what

for F: is it appropriate to try to pick up single moms or anyone really at the grocery store?

>>25465418
It's f a m
I think.

>>25465283
I mean how am I supposed to seem more confident. I don't really think I would change much if I were more confident. I am quiet to be honest but that doesn't really have much to do with confidence does it? if I don't have much to say to random people. Like it's not like I'm just constantly holding off autistic thoughts that come to my head to converse with people at random. So in what other way am I supposed to be confident. I just mind my own shit and notice girls seem to look at me with dead eyes if they have to look at me or otherwise entirely ignore me.

So that just leads me to think I am unattractive and thus it would be a waste of time to approach any girls and I'd rather not waste my time and play a numbers game. I mean, I genuinely would initiate if girls gave me some clues but they don't.

>>25464868

Look, if the bloke is shy, he's not really going to have much of a clue what he's doing with womenfolk. If you want him, you're gonna have to be a bit more proactive in getting him. People don't suddenly become less shy because you're interested in them.

>>25465426
Not a woman, however....

>Single mothers
Why?

>At a grocery store.

Put it this way. If you meet a girl in a bar/club. Chances are you'll find a girl who likes to spend her time in bars/clubs.

"Day game", simply for want of a better phrase, will garner you better long term prospects, but don't expect people to be initially open to being picked up about their daily business, it's not something that happens all the time.

Girls:
What does it mean when you're talking to a guy and compare him to your ex boyfriend

How do you actually feel about emotional vulnerability

What do you want out of a first date

What are some nonphysical features that consistently attract you

Women, why do you hate short men?

It's not enough for you to just be unattracted to us. You literally HATE us.

>>25453748
>1) is peeing sitting up or down more comfortable?
I prefer sitting down but ever since mom caught me peeing sitting down when I was 8 or 9 I've been doing it standing. Also in many situations you don't have a choice like with urinals.

>2) how often do you get boners? and why? how do you usually hide them?
That depends on how often you masturbate. I do it three or four times a day so if I haven't done it at least once I'm pretty likely to get boners. That said I don't usually get boners by looking at girls I get them by thinking up shit in my head.

>3) what do you think of first when you see a cute girl, something love or sex related?
Probably depends on how horny I am? If I'm feeling fine than love related otherwise possibly something sex related.

Question for women:

What do you feel about shy guys? Do you only want to spend time with super extroverts?

>>25468285
>What do you feel about shy guys? Do you only want to spend time with super extroverts?
I like a little awkwardness/shyness, but it can be tiring after a while. I prefer introverts to extroverts, tho.

>>25468071
>Women, why do you hate short men?
I don't hate short men at all, I think they're pretty cute.
I'm totally crazy about a 5'6" guy, I think he's the most attractive guy I've ever seen.

Any older, non smoking and non drug using, females in Central Florida, interested in going out on a date?

For (introverted) guys:
I have a guy friend I'm really into that is really really cute. Like, he's-got-chicks-trying-to-get-in-his-house-at-2-in-the-morning attractive (this did happen). He's got social anxiety out the ass, though, so he usually doesn't respond to anyone's texts or invitations. But we get along really well, and I'm one of the few people he talks to around here about video games and stuff He likes how I don't pressure him to hang out. Well turns out, he invited ME out (as friends) this morning and I slept RIGHT through the message because I had to work late that evening. Whoops.

How bad did I fuck up?

>>25468285
I love them. Especially when the smile. Some tight shit, right there.

>>25463311
If you wear pants that are kinda relieving, ye.

>>25453682
Every day, my man.

>>25470357
Honestly, kinda bad. If he's anything like me then it took a lot for him to even ask but it's definitely a good sign that he's comfortable enough outside when he's with you (for me that's pretty huge). Maybe he'll understand though but yeah, maybe do something to make it up to him.

>>25470381
Fuck. He seemed to understand when I told him, but you're probably right. Hmmm. I need to find a reason to hang out. (Actually, "sorry I missed your text and we couldn't hang out, lemme make it up to you" sounds like a fin reason). He works until next week, about the same days as this week. Maybe I'll take him out for sushi, since we were talking and he says he never eats it as much as he'd like. Thank you, anon!

Is there any love for chubby/big guys from women? You can often see it going the other way (especially with chubby girl and big girl threads). M-chub threads have been mostly gay/bi dudes (nothing against them).

>>25470357
>I slept RIGHT through the message because I had to work late that evening.
>How bad did I fuck up?

Not at all? You have a perfectly valid excuse.
Just tell him you're down to go out another day.

>>25470357
If he is a normal person, he would understand. Just try once again. If you like him, you will have to make the first move if you want to be more than just friends most probably. But you should handle it carefully.

>>25470403
Yeah

>>25469031
No

>>25468285
Shy guys are cute but don't be silent

>>25468071
Idk dude. Why do men think women aren't funny? Why do men view women are one dimensional sex toys?

>>25470403
Personally - really fat, no. A little chub/dad bod yeah, totally.

>>25461591
Ask yourself how you would treat your virgin wife once she is bound to you finantially, by law and maybe children. Would you treat her as your equal or use the fact that she can't leave you without being flawed forever by testing your limits and justify any kind of violence with your gender. Because the second is what most virtuous girls get. They find a guy who shows respect and adoration for their virtue and family-oriented future plans, move together, plan a wedding, just to find out he tried to fuck his ex, tried to seduce your friends and gets salty when you want to visit your parents. Most of the guys who can't value you unless you keep your legs closed are hypocrites who do not believe a woman has anything else to offer. I wouldn't want a man with such attitute to raise my future daughters.

>>25453682
almost every night before sleep

>>25470660
>Idk dude. Why do men think women aren't funny? Why do men view women are one dimensional sex toys?

Way to completely deflect from answering the question, you disgusting cunt.

Girls:
How do you like it when a guy flirts with you? By that i mean what should he do? I've spent my entire life thinking i was an ugly abomination, recently found out i'm not as bad as i think, but because i thought that i never bothered to learn how to talk to girls or flirt with them.

>>25470722
>Most of the guys who can't value you unless you keep your legs closed are hypocrites who do not believe a woman has anything else to offer

Agree. A simple fact that too many fail to appreciate: women are people.

>>25458046

Any
Any
Any
At least once in my lifetime hopefully.

asking female

How do you really feel about uncut dicks? Aside from social pressure and all that crap that cut is the norm(in america)
secret fetish, don't care or disgust?

>>25453682
Every evening and sometimes twice a day

Questions for m: is it really harder to get a boner when youre drunk? How hard is it to aim when peeing while being hard?

>>25471313
I never had an issue with it

>>25471192
> that cut is the norm in america

LOL, is that true?

t. European female

Its like fireworks trying to aim pissing while rock hard

>>25471313
Can't answer the first as I don't drink. It's more annoying than hard tbf, you have to aim your whole body. I don't know if it's worse because I'm pretty thick but I squat and angle it.

>>25471330
yeah. 90% of americans get cut at birth or later on by social pressure

I'm an uncut euro guy

>>25471192
Uncut dick is best dick. Also european fem.

I agree with the uncut dick. Swedish fem

>>25471330

American male here. My clean skinless dick can confirm.

I try to drape thin-cut ham over it, but I don't think it's the same.

>>25471313
1. With my ex gf I sometimes had trouble staying hard, but didn't really lose the motivation to fuck
2. It's a bit of a craft to aim it down, I put my hand on the wall and point it where it needs to go and there's no problem

Females: cut or uncut dick? Which one looks better, and which is more pleasurable?

>>25456219
male here but ive been approached many times and im none of those.

>>25470984
That was a retarded question, little boy. Are your panties in a jumble? Need mommy to take care of you?

>>25471149
Eh. I prefer not to be hit on, but I do like casual friendly interactions with strangers that may be their way of flirting, if that makes sense. I fucking hate when guys just throw a compliment at you and expect that to start a convo. Some guys throw a compliment and keep moving, I dig that shit but obviously it doesn't develop past that.

>>25471330
Very true. I've been with six guys and they were all circumcised :(

>>25472185
I think uncut is so cool, but I've never even seen one irl so I dunno.

To the women...

Long hair on guys, yay or nay? Also, does some chub feel better than skinny/fit when both you and your partner are cuddly as hell? Get the sense that my feelings are just being spared.

>>25472249
If you maintain your hair or it is naturally very strong, silky or curly then yes. If it's a ragged mess looking like a birds nest then no.

And yeah I prefer chubs. My ex was 230 and that was a great body

Women:
I'm a guy that's not really handsome (I got bad ratings and people I know stated that too), I'm very introverted, melancholic and have my autitstic traits. Often I don't get a chance, so my question is how can improve that?

To the women
Is a single dad a deal breaker in the dating world? Say he's not looking for a new mom for his child by any means and there is absolutely no baby mama drama. Would the fact he has to prioritize his child's needs first and foremost make it difficult to date?

>>25472402
Listen here lad - fashion and culture. You may not be able to change your mug, but you can improve your looks and refine your tastes. Get into music, read a lot of books, watch movies - blockbusters and indie, get a sense of a deeper meaning of life.

>>25472463
I find music not very interesting and don't watch TV or movies, but I read books. The sense of life is reproduction and improvement of the human environment.

>>25472257
I wouldn't have it if I didn't know how to take care of it honestly. I mean it's a wavy motherfucker and extremely difficult to maintain but I definitely suit it more than short hair.

Thanks for that, I'm happy to hear it.

>>25472521
>I find music not very interesting
The fuck...?

>>25472536
For me it's just music, I like to listen but I don't know the names of bands or songs.

For the women...

I'm usually able to make my girlfriend cum within 2-3 minutes when giving oral (sometimes without foreplay even), would it be better drawing it out? I love being able to get her there so quickly and I make sure she always cums first but yeah, would delaying it be more enjoyable?

>>25472434
Not really, i'm not a parent myself so i would prefer somebody who has none, but it definitely wouldn't be a deal breaker. On the other hand single mothers would see you as a highly valuable catch since you would understand their position.
So all good :).
>>25472606
Try asking her instead of random stangers on 4chan. I like cumming fast, personally.

>>25472606
>>25474042

This. like, communicate... Everyone has their own preferences, learn what hers are. Doesnt matter how anyone but you two feels about it.

>>25472434

It is perfectly understandable you'd put your child first, of course. I personally would be understanding, but I know a lot of women would be. When most people decide to bring a child into their life (and their partners) they both wish to be ready and for it to be their own. It makes things more difficult, but there are still worthwhile partners for you out there.

>>25465995
well, you pretty much explained how you lack confidence. You don't see value in what you have to say. If a girl looks at you it means you can come up to her and say hi. Not all girls are a good match for you but just come up to them and say hi. Women can sense when a guy sees himself as a not being worth anything and you'll probably try to overcompensate for what you perceive as being shitty in yourself.

First step is to appreciate your own value, think of the things about yourself that make you a cool guy, be objective about your flaws. If there are things that you are ashamed of you don't have to be and you can fix them.

Women are looking for strength in men. I'm not saying you're I'm just saying that devaluing yourself and not appreciating what's good in you and not coming to terms with your flaws makes you look as such.

>31 year old female here. Open to answering questions.

>>25475336
what do expect from a man and did your past mates fit that description?

>>25475336
>>25475345
or more broadly the men you fell in love with

>>25475345
I expect someone who works with me in keeping the relationship fresh, mutual appreciation of one another even when we've become comfortable. Willingness to keep trying to make it a happy place for us both.

Someone who enjoys letting loose and being silly, doesn't have to enjoy my tastes in music or film but will respect that it is what I like (and of course that is given in return)

If we are an established couple (living together, its been a few years) I'd like equal work in the relationship, I contribute financially, I will cook and clean. I expect the same from him when its appropriate.

TL:DR appreciate each other and keep trying, laugh together, functional relationship with give and take, mutual respect.


I have only had one other relationship aside from the one I am in now, we were together 10 years and split up.

My current relationship fits all these things I have mentioned.

>>25471313
Never had a problem getting hard when I'm drunk, now aiming when I'm hard i have to like angle my entire body down and lean on the wall which is pretty annoying

I think everyone in this thread and on this board in general could stand to listen to this ad most of Alain de bottons talks on love

Very enlightening and powerful

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jltM5qYn25w

Question for females

What is your smallest cock story and have you ever seen a legitimate true micropenis?

>>25476137
My ex was about 3 inches hard and he often had trouble keeping an errection. Not a micropenis but very small. I got off a lot with grinding and toys, the sex wasn't bad.

>>25476137
Some fag in college tried to rape me and he pulled out his wiener and it was legitimately the same size as my pinky finger. I died inside, I couldn't even believe it. Anyways I got out of that situation without having to touch it too much. I felt bad for him after I stopped being angry.

>>25476151
What was your reaction the first time you saw it?

Have you ever seen a mangina? Where it disappears when soft?

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Question for girls with OkCupid experience.

Why the hell don't you guys ever look at guys profiles? Half the message replies I get, the girl doesn't even look at my profile, and almost 100% of the time the conversation dies after the first message.

Going off the assumption that I'm not ugly enough to most women that they wouldn't be immediately turned off by my thumbnail, why won't you guys ever even look at the profile of the guy who's trying to talk to you? Why would you reply to these guys and then never again? I joined the site yesterday, and after messaging about a hundred girls who were online within the last day I only got about seven profile visits and of those seven, four replied to me. However, I got three messages back from girls who didn't even check my profile and none of them have responded back yet. Why don't you guys even give some guys a chance if you're willing to type something to them?

>>25475336
Are you single?
Are you educated?
If both yes, looking to settle down and get married?

>>25453748
>standing. sitting is gay
>laying in bed, when i space out and my mind drifts to sex
>whether i would date her or not based on appearance alone

>>25453771
define want
want to fuck? yes. would they marry or date one? not unless they are impossibly desperate

>>25454091
if he's out of your league and you have nothing in common, there's a 100% chance he will fuck and dump you
>>25458026
yes. dont judge me harshly on a cold day or if i just got out of a pool
>>25458046
black hair, shorter than 5'11" but dont really care, white/preference for white, dont care. you didnt ask but i like thick girls.

>>25453682
It used to be everyday as a teenager, but now it's about once or twice a week.

>>25454247
I think it could be super hot, but I'm into BDSM as a dom, and the thought of easy overstimulation sounds fun.

>>25456869
I'd say be up and honest to her, or you won't be up and honest to yourself.

>>25456895
Fuck yeah. M/M is the best.

>>25475331
I appreciate your response, and I may be being dishonest with my self in saying this, but I think you're wrong...some what.

I mean, I do respect myself and the things i care about and I make a big deal about being honest to myself and aware of my own flaws, but perhaps not socially, or at least socializing with women. In fact I'm pretty motivated at improving myself and very ambitious. On top of lifting 4 times a week I train mma 6 classes a week because I want to be a champion fighter. I also have male friends who I socialize with regularly, just 0 women in my social life or circle.

But the one thing I would say I devalue is my appearance, I don't think there's a point if women just don't find me physically attractive and it seems like they don't. I don't wanna waste my time in pursuit of women without being given any signals by them. Then I just run the risk of wasting my time just to be rejected due to being unattractive. I just rather not waste my time. I'm all about efficiency of resources, and would rather use my time for something more fulfilling.

If women expressed any amount of attraction towards me instead of basically ignoring me, including on tinder btw, then I would probably try taking a leap of faith more because it'd be more worth it.

>>25477046
I mean they even ignored me in this thread lol

Do guys really go soft after cumming? Also, are they unable to get it up afterwards.

>>25476956
I am engaged, educated and a business owner.

>>25477069
Yes, and no. There's a refractory period that last an average of 15 minutes. I don't know why you wouldn't trust what you learned in sex ed, they weren't lying to you.

>>25476329
um thats weird in my opinion girls are the most anal about profiles. I certainly never talked to anyone on okc without reading their profile. but if you've JUST signed up to okc you need to chill the fuck out. You joined YESTERDAY, you cant expect everyone to check their account everyday, people are busy and have lives.

If you're this shitty already im gonna hazard a guess you're throwing out crazy vibes to chicks in your responses, theyre picking up on it and pre-ghosting you. You've been signed up a day and you're already jaded and blaming women.

>>25477046
>>25477051

https://understandingrelationships.com/

>>25470403
I'm into bigger dudes.

>>25471149
I don't want random men I don't know flirting with me. If we've been introduced, some playful banter is nice, but if a guy is just complimenting my looks or clearly running down a checklist of flirts in his head, that's not interesting to me. I just want someone to laugh and carry on with. That's all the real flirting I need.

>>25471192
I've never been with someone who was circumcised. It's not the norm here. I think cut dicks are the ones that look a bit weird, just kind of like something's missing (I wonder why), but I wouldn't judge anyone on it since it's almost never the person's choice.

>>25472402
>>25472521
>The sense of life is reproduction and improvement of the human environment.

It's this type of thinking that is not going to get you anywhere with women.

>>25472434
Complete dealbreaker for me.

>>25476137
Go find your jerk-off material elsewhere.

>>25476329
Women are more likely to have the option to not show that you've looked at someone's profile turned on because some guys will get angry if you look at their profile and then don't respond.

>"I saw you look at my profile, so you were online, so why didn't you write me back, you bitch?" etc

>>25477190
What the hell is this? Some book I have to pay for. No thanks.

Besides I don't have the time for a relationship. It's definately not top priority.

>>25458046
>Do you prefer blondes, brunettes, or redheads?
Brunettes
>What is the ideal height for a female?
>5'10"-6' roughly, not a fan of large height gaps.
>What race are you and what race would you date?
I'm white, not a huge fan of black and asian women as a rule of thumb. But there are also exceptions. Non western cultures are also a hard pass.
>How often do you expect your lady to initiate sex?
Half the time in a perfect world.

>>25477273
the book is free, the articles are free the youtube channel is free. Look for topics you're struggling on and even the audio book is free.

>>25477273
also your problem might be that you're walling yourself off from outside input. I mean you come up here asking why you're still a virgin and don't take advice. Also I guess why girls didn't respond to you is because you sound like you feel entitled to sex. I can't blame you I do the same with my pretty face.

>>25477354
I don't think I'm entitled to sex. It's depressing yes but I just try to live with it and move on. All I want to know is why. That's it.

Knowing why could provide more closure for me to move on. Like if girls outright said I'm just not attractive I would have no reason to retain any hope and it'd be easy for me to to move on emotionally. Functionally I don't obsess over women and put a lot of time and effort towards my own personal pursuits or interests, but mentally I'm in ruin over it.

Honestly, women aren't a very high, or at least, the top priority in my life so I'm perfectly fine with excepting that women won't have sex with me just as long as I clearly understood why or, on the flip side, that if I fixed the why and am capable of fixing the why then I would have sex. I could live with being a virgin in those conditions because I have greater purposes to live for anyways.

I just want to know what it is. Like am I just conventionally ugly? Is it something else that I can fix? etc...not that I would do anything about it, I just want some closure.

>>25477459
It's because you're insufferable. You come across as condescending and holier-than-thou. It's also obvious that you don't view women as being able to add anything to your life that isn't sex, and women will be able to see that from a million miles away and won't want anything to do with it.

>>25477459
>>25477500
I was about to write something and then dubs for truth

>>25477500
>>25477505
I don't see how I'm being condescending, I'm just disagreeing with your assessment of me. Not any moral superiority or anything. And once again I understand that I am not entitled to sex if that's what you still think.

As far as seeing women as only valuable for sex I wouldn't say that's true. I just don't seem to see or be exposed to any girls I would have similar interest to that would spark at least a platonic relationship. I would be 100% up for that. Just doesn't happen. As for being in a relationship with a girl, I don't seek that because it'd be pretty unfair of me. I know I would prioritize my dreams over her so I would rather not sell a lie to a girl for a committed relationship. Only way it would work I think is if she was equally ambitious and we rarely saw each other like a long distance relationship or something. Which, in the end, would probably just be a waste of both of our times.

Again, I'm not resentful or hateful or superior towards women or anything. I just want to know why initially at least women seem to express zero interest in me.

>>25476024
Why did no one listen to this? It will really help you especially if you're upset because you think you have some fucking soulmate waiting for you

>>25477765
Because most adults with a modicum of thinking power understand that romance isn't a fairytale and doesn't work like it's portrayed in the media. The only people I know who think like that are teenagers and delusional women who have more issues than fingers and toes.

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If you have them, what do your 'rape fantasies' entail?

For the women...

Do you have any unconventional turn ons when it comes a male/females looks? And is there anything about an appearance that is an instant turn off/dealbreaker?

>>25479228
Lookswise, yes.

Q for guys: how big of a turn off is it if a girl is a friendless virgin in her late 20s? I'm seriously considering calling a male prostitute/escort to get rid of my v-card. Additional info: I'm agoraphobic, hence the unfortunate situation.

>>25479304
It's not a turn off at all, I imagine it's a bit of a relief not having to prove yourself to someone's friends or having the potential of them talking shit about you.

I'm agoraphobic as well, didn't lose my virginity until I was 22. Lucky for me I met my girlfriend online and hit it off instantly, we met on here in fact.

>>25479260
I love a nice pair of womens feet, absolutely love the soles and toes, nice painted nails. I dunno where it came from but I am a 31 year old woman who just really digs ladies feet.
>>25479228
You look fine, who knows what your personality is like though.

>>25479304
there are tons of guys, which will spare you the costs for a male prostitute, but will probably be butt ugly, if that's the case

>>25479228
I ask because I get friendzoned constantly.

>>25479333
Are you a niceguy, do you have a strange or off putting personality?

>>25479321
> Lucky for me I met my girlfriend online and hit it off instantly, we met on here in fact.

That sounds like a dream, I'm jealous.

> I'm agoraphobic as well

Nice to meet another agoraphobic here, do you intend to change that or are you comfortable with your current lifestyle?

>>25479324
I don't know. I think I'm still going to give myself a year or two and maybe find someone special, as corny as it sounds, but the thought of getting an escort is really persistent.

>>25479304
It's not a turn off. It's a red flag. I can see the virgin thing easily, but lack of friendships is concerning in women, since they are so very social even as introverts. It's surprising you haven't at least got online friends to chat with...

>>25479363
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh can you not get an escort and just let me do the deed instead. I'll totally do it. I'm /fit/ if that means anything.

Question for women:

As a 32 year old virgin, is it better if I visit a (legal) prostitute just to get some sexual experience, or stay a virgin until I meet someone? If I ever do get into a relationship, or start dating someone, I'm unsure if me being a virgin at my age is too big of a red flag.

>>25479363
>That sounds like a dream, I'm jealous.
Hey, I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. I mean, we met by random chance, sometimes that shit just comes outta nowhere, y'know?

>Nice to meet another agoraphobic here, do you intend to change that or are you comfortable with your current lifestyle?
I've been on antidepressants to help with my depression and anxiety for around year now but they've done pretty much fuck all. I can't ever see myself shaking it but I at least feel safer when I'm with my girlfriend. Just last week I moved from Scotland over here to Sweden to be with her.

>>25479370
> It's not a turn off. It's a red flag.
Thanks for the honest opinion. I guess it makes sense but for me making friendships is near impossible, so I'll try not to make it too obvious.

>>25479398
I'm glad that you found someone that is not only supportive but also helps you go through the ordeal. And yeah, antidepressants had zero positive effects on me too.
I'm sure that with your gf you'll manage to beat agoraphobia. Having someone should make the process a lot easier, I believe.

>>25479377
If you're already 32 and you've never had sex I don't think you should be thinking about sex

Women?

Are you attracted to men that have an interest in making money? Serious question, I'm trying to start my own business and I feel the sentiment among people my age -especially women, is that: "uhhh, look at him, a fucking capitalist asshole thinking about money above everyone else >_>"

>>25481325
Pretty much all women want a guy with money. good choice

>>25479363
why do you want to lose your v-card so badly? As far as I see it you have some more profound issues you should fix than that

>>25453748
>1
Standing is fine but I prefer to sit so I can use my phone
>2
Thrice or more sometimes. IDK why.. this thing has a brain of it's own. I tuck it between my legs until it goes away
>3
I don't really find appearance attractive (most probably why I'm a virgin) So I just think meh