Friendship thread

I was friends with someone from here for a while and they ended up being a jerk

>>25203250
This story is pretty common here

>>25203250
Why were they a jerk?

>>25203250
Post your story, anon.

>>25203252
>>25203253
They didn't empathize with me on stuff and couldn't be bothered to do simple stuff to keep me happy even though I tried to that for them. Jerk might be too strong of a word. I guess they just didn't do stuff that is usually expected of a friend and that bothered me.

>>25203254
What did these simple things entail? What's a good friend to you?

>>25203255
One example of something I consider simple is taking it upon yourself to get a conversation going sometimes instead of relying on the other person to do it all the time. I don't know if I can answer that second question in any meaningful way.

>>25203254
At least the person you met engaged with you. The guy I met was wary of me the whole time and didn't want to say anything about himself. It just got depressing and quiet.

I don't get why people from r9k want to meet people from r9k. There is no opposition, how can social magnetism take place? Socially submissive and/or reclusive individuals should engage with more dominant/extroverted individuals, right? At least that's what I think of when you put the law of attraction into place. Not like you need complete opposites, but shouldn't there be some lead and follow, give and take?

>>25203256
Ah I see. So if you didn't send them a message first, they wouldn't message you at all. This has happened to me exactly before, exact way you described it. I used to think I was great friends with someone. Talk everyday. One day I did not message first like I always do. We haven't spoken for 6 months now.

>>25203258
>One day I did not message first like I always do. We haven't spoken for 6 months now.
I did that exact thing at one point to see if they'd take the initiative but it just caused an extended silence just like that.

>>25203257
>The guy I met was wary of me the whole time and didn't want to say anything about himself. It just got depressing and quiet.
This sounds similar too. Did you share stuff about yourself with him or did him not sharing stuff cause you not to share anything as well?

>>25203257
Normies typically do not like befriending robots. It's embarrasing and awkward to be around a socially retarded person. Also, robots have a hard time relating to normies. We cannot talk to them and feel the same things, a normie will complain about their gf cheating on them, while a robot, who has never even spoken to a girl, will have no way of understanding what he is going through. We are too different. So robots are forced to stagnate around other similar losers like themselves. Not because we want to. But because we really have no choice.

>>25203259
Maybe he just wasn't used to you not contacting him first all the time. He probably thought you didn't want to friends anymore. It's weird if you're the one contacting first all the time and then all of a sudden stop.

>>25203249
Anons would you rather someone who ghosted/cut contact with you and later regretted it/missed you to re-initiate contact with you or just leave you alone? Very important question. It has been ~5 months

>>25203262
Be more specific. Did you ghost someone, if so, why? And why would you want to contact them again 5 months later?

>>25203261
Well in my case we took turns contacting each other first. It's just that after our greetings it would always be me that got the conversation going. When I didn't do that it would just be a greeting and then silence all day.

>>25203256
This, uh sounds horribly familiar. What was his name?

>>25203264
Then he's just a boring person. I don't see how this makes him a jerk. Unless there's other things he does that makes him an ass?

>>25203265
If you're thinking it might be you can you post the name instead of me posting it?

>>25203266
There was other stuff, I don't really want to get specific here. I already brought up the lack of empathy earlier though. That ended up being one of the major things that ended our friendship because a major event happened and they didn't seem to care at all.

>>25203263
>Did you ghost someone
Pretty much, yes. Mostly because I'm emotionally unstable and partly because of other reasons I'd rather not get into here.
>why would you want to contact them again 5 months later?
I just miss him

>>25203268
Do you want to drop a hint about who it is that only they would recognize? Who knows, they might be in this thread or see it eventually. Also, are you being honest about it being 5 months since you talked to him?

>>25203259
Somewhat, yes. I shared my interests in taste (music, especially). His contributions were minimal. He expressed little interest despite my consistent input, and eventually started looking at his phone. I imagine he started posting on r9k or something. I ended up asking if he even wanted to be there, and I got a "not really".

Why would you be cautious of me, then suggest to go out, and then tell me hours later you don't want to engage with me in the first place? It made me feel really bad.

>>25203260
I didn't mention normies. I meant that someone who is more dominant should mix with someone who is more submissive. A dominant bot and a submissive bot can have give and take, and can organize conversation/bonding effectively if they decide to contribute mutually to the social link. Ay least, that is what I imagine.

I'm not sure if I have explained my thoughts well. I hope so.

>>25203268
The one thing you should consider before contacting him again, is there a possiblity of you ghosting him again? If there is a possiblity, don't bother. If you do choose to contact him, don't act self defensive or anything, cause he will have every right to be annoyed with you. And yes, if you are wondering, you could be friends with him again, it's very possible and it has happened to others. But there will always be that deep seated mistrust in you, you will never be able to erase that in him. Your friendship will never be 100% the same. Think hard over whether it's best to contact him again. Think of his feelings, not just yours.

>>25203267
Ok well for the record i asume beforehand in a friendship that that person is probably not going to like me because as it happens i have a very low self esteem... This probably leeds to some confusion i imagine. Also i've never had any meaningfull emotional connection with anybody in very very long time so i have no idea how to react to normal social interactions. And i have aspergers. and my name begins with F. If i'm him i'm sorry i was really trying to be a good friend but i'm very bad at this

>>25203270
Being dominating and being a robot is impossible. If all of us were alphas, we wouldn't be posting here.

>>25203270
Oh it was real life contact? In my head I thought it was an online thing because it seems kind of futile not to share anything about yourself once you've already met in real life. I guess that sort of situation would be even worse in person.

>>25203272
>begins with F
That isn't the name I was told by them so I don't think it is you. Although the rest of your post sounds pretty similar to them aside from the aspergers which they never said anything about to me.

>>25203269
His name begins with J and he owns lizzies.
>>25203271
Thank you, you're right. This is helpful.

>>25203273
I think of dominance and submission as degrees on a scale. So in my head, a bot with more degrees towards dominance can mix well with someone with more degrees towarda submission.

I don't mean to suggest betas/alphas in this reference.

I wonder if my thoughts are really valid at all. Sure, opposites attract, but birds of a feather flock together too, don't they?

I wonder if introducing yourself as a depressed individual to another depressed individual is really the right move. What else are you going to discuss besides feeling like shit and wanting to die?

>>25203274
Yes, it was in real life. Did the r9k Zeemaps thing. Do not reccomend. Very bad experience overall.

>>25203274
Well then you probably aren't the person i'm thinking of either then. Which is disappointing i guess they just got bored of me... I really liked her.

>>25203277
>her
Men cannot be friends with women.

>>25203275
>His name begins with J
drats I thought I might be that person but I guess not

>>25203278
>He thinks Anon meant 'her(female)'

>>25203280
Men cannot be "friends" with trannies either. It's just orbiting, the same as with a woman.

>>25203278
We where friends though. Thats why i miss her so much i know it probably won't happen again.

>>25203281
Humor me, won't you? I just wanted to have fun with you.

>>25203282
What's her name? I think I know who you're talking about.

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>tfw every post in this thread perfectly describes your failed friendship with another anon

>>25203284
A doupt it very much anon, as you can see you're not the only one who has recognized themselves in this thread. Her name is Dania.

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Im not excatly the most extroverted person but i need more online friends to connect with so ill take reins on anyone who may want to contact me if need be so.
Kik:hiimdestin
I play videogames and just recently had a birthday party with me and friends and we had fun, if you libe in the san fernando area then i would be willing to link up with you i also like to get really autistic about what anime and videogames i get into
Im not much of a normie bc i dont have self confidence

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>>25203287
>threw a party and had friends to invite
>not a normie

Someone be my friend please, and love me platonically.

[email protected]

>>25203289
That depends, are you a trap/gay? If so, I'll pass.

>>25203290
No.

I'm not a trap.

>thread is made for anons to find friends
>turns into a thread where anons lament their lost friendships
I'd laugh if i wasn't one of you

>>25203291
Are you homosexuaI?

>>25203288
Maybe a bit but i still want new friends

>>25203289
Sure ill be friends with you but do you have anything that isnt so, impersonal?

>>25203293
Why, do you want to date me or something, fag?

>>25203295
I do, I just don't want to post anything here.

>>25203296
Ok ill email you

Original comment

>>25203296
>[email protected]
>shotacon
>not gay
sure bud, whatever you say

>>25203284
Are you her anon?. Your lack of response has created a heavy atmosphere of suspense over here

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>Discord
4am__

>Hobbies/interests
music and gaming, lots

>Reason I'm not a normie
I come to /r9k/

>>25203300
>I come to /r9k/
Nice try, but this board is normie central.

>>25203301
Okay, I'm 32 and still come to 4chan. Better?

>>25203302
Do you have a job? Have you ever had a gf? Did you go to college and graduate? Do you have a social circle? Do you still live at home with your mother or do you live on your own?

>>25203303
even though I'm anonymous i feel self conscious about getting personal on here, so without being specific 3 yes, 2 no.

>>25203292
I miss her. She made me feel human again. Though i don't blame her for ghosting me i wouldn't be browsing this board if i was good person

>>25203305
Why do you think she ghosted you? I assume you think it is your fault, correct?

>>25203249
18/M
Skype: Master_sgt2 (We can talk over discord if you want I just don't like giving it out on threads)

>Music production, listening to music, anime, retro tech, video games and video game collecting, digital art, anime, and sports

>I'm not a normie due to the fact I'm posting in a friendship thread at 2AM.

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>cute asian girl from canada
>browses r9k (found out later) i met her off 4chan
>we talk for a while on discord
>start hanging out more and more even in 1 on 1 calls
>she suddenly stops talking
>she found new friends , on other discords
>every time i ask her to play
>s-sorry anon i got stuff to do ,oh didn't see your message anon anyways i'm off to bed or just ignores me
>
>i know shes lying because i am secretly in one of her discords all the time and shes always like ''hey anon's wanna play xxx game with me i am bored''

i wouldn't be this upset if she just told me that she doesn't like me.


im really starting to see why r9k hates roasties

>>25203308
>orbiting women
>ever
You deserve it.

Well giving this a shot can't hurt now can it..

>contact
discord: cybro#8599

>hobbies
vidya vidya and vidya

>reasons
I'm a sperg, I lack empathy, I'm gay as shit average looking and chubby also can't stand normies and other degenerates alike.

>>25203310
oh yeah also my steam if anyone wants to have an autsit in their friend collection
http://steamcommunity.com/id/poopieman/

>>25203311
Hey im new to steam so ill add you im thelegendarybigboss

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>>25203309
Truth.wav

>>25203306
Her fault my fault what difference does it really make, it just didn't work out. I tried to treat her the best i could and all that but in the end she isn't really obliged to keep talking to me.

A half heartfelt bump

>>25203314
Anon, this self pitying, wallowing in misery attitude is not a good idea.

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Alright. I'll bite.

>Contact:
Discord: Valethera#8389

>Hobbies / interests:
Mostly try-harding Overwatch lately [PC/NA/Grandmaster]. Other than that trying to figure out how to move out, programming a tiny bit on the side (Python), listening to edgy music (emo and punk garbage), lurking online, binge-watching anime/movies/whatever, and reading.

>Reasons you aren't a normie:
Borderline hikikomori and NEET. (I leave my room, but not my house. I make a tiny bit of money online, but not enough to live off of and I don't interact with anyone.) I've moderated for several NEET communities. I have the classic robot cocktail of mental illness: Asperger's, severe anxiety, and depression. Aside from that no significant other, no meaningful income, no hope, no self esteem, no social skills, little to no friends, etc.

I really don't want most anyone to add me. I'm terrible with messaging first, I only really want to be friends with people who have uncomfortably similar interests, don't type in text-speech (ex: "hey r u up rn?? ?"), and are willing to carry the conversation.

Idk. Lonely but hate people, you guys what I mean. Probably no one should add me actually, but hey, can't find your perfect friend unless you post, so why not?

>>25203317
Sounds difficult.

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>>25203318
That was the intention, yeah. Tried posting in these kind of threads before and end up with like 20 normies messaging me with no similar interests or things to talk about. I'd rather just have a 10% chance to find one robot unicorn to befriend.

>>25203317
>Lonely but hate people
LITERALLY me. Looking forward to when I have nobody left to talk to at all

>>25203275
it's me. i miss you too. hit me up

>>25203316
I'm not though. Basically what i've said is that there is no point being miserable and self pitying about something i have no control over. Sorry if i wasn't expresing myself clearly enough. also i just wanted to share some feels to see if any other anons could relate that's all