Looking for girls into femdom.

>>25126934
sorry m8 they're are too busy having fun with their subs while their inbox is overflowing of messages from other thirsty subs to go look on 4chan. Unless they are ugly land whales.

>>25127033
you're probably right but you would be surprised. I met a real qt last night on her. I like 4chan girls they actually have personality and aren't cookie cuter girls

>>25126934
>>25127033

This, or they're too busy being subs for chad

>>25127041
then I guess it's me. When I get added I just can't compete with the other guys worshiping her.

If you want a dominant girl the first thing you have to do is become Chad as much as possible. You may think this is counter-intuitive but if you have experience of these women you know they, in many ways, are sort of "hyper conventional."
They've realized that by doing this stuff they can score a way better class of men than they deserve so they think they are 9/10s.

The second thing is you have to give up on making this happen over the internet. I'm not saying it is impossible I am saying unless you are lucky you could probably spend years of your life looking, unsuccessfully.
You have to do this irl. Fetlife lets you look at events in your local area: go to those events.

Another method I have thought about but never tried is you seek out things like group therapy sessions for substance abusers and survivors of child molestation.
Women very rarely fall into being dominant without some serious abnormality.
I think some of the old, fat and disgusting ones are just doing it for attention but if you want one that is under 40 and non-busted you should be looking for damaged goods.

>>25127160
I tried really hard to disagree with this because I've gone through four dominant girls in the past five years and I'm no Chad at all
But...
the more I think about it, not just dominants, but any girl in general only ever took interest in me when I was initially acting outgoing because of a party or something like that and every single one of them has been "damaged goods" in some way.
Kind of depressing desu

>>25127407
When I say "Chad" I mean you're muscular, you look and smell good, have your shit together, lots of friends, are extroverted etc. They must not smell any numale on you.

If you have had that many I'd bet money you're more "Chad" than you think, at least in the way I am defining it for our purposes.

>>25127477
Domme here. I like shy twinks and virgins as well as fit manwhores (as long as there's not too much bulk, being short is a plus to offset it) and everything inbetween. I have historically had more of the former. Certainly no Chads.

>>25127572
yeah but as a guy who kinda has less experience being you than you do, I think you're wrong. Here's what you actually believe.

Checkmate, flawless logic'd.

>>25127572
How do you tend to find guys? Online or out in the real world?

>tfw no cute short boy who overcompensates with manliness in public to make up for the fact that i boss him around in the bedroom

>>25128067
Why do people troll us with this to get our hopes up?

>>25128073
i'm not trolling but ok

>>25127572
>>25127616
I really hope both of you are women because if >>25127616 is a guy he is never, ever going to get a domme.
Dude. Why do you think this person has experience getting a dommie if they are a domme? Does that actually make sense to you, lol?

Trends are extremely evident when dealing with dominant women. They realize that they are willing to do things almost all other girls do not. Which means they can command a meat market price well above what their body, personality etc. would otherwise get them. Lots of older, uglier women do it just so they can get laid at all.

The overwhelming majority of them have a fantasy of getting a guy who is "alpha on the streets, sub in the sheets." In actual fact dommes demand more "Chad" behaviour from their partner than do subs.

If you want evidence of this check out the kind of boyfriends "babygirls" usually have. They're all bottom-tier guys because no man with other options wants to do that creepy shit, unless he's a pedo.

>>25128092
you've used both the terms "alpha" and "chad" unironically, so i'm pretty sure it's you who is never, ever going to get a domme lol

>>25128094
You're a white knight and probably autistic, m8. I have already explained I'm using the term loosely. It's a short-hand way of describing masculine, physically imposing, assertive etc. Normal people understand this, it's a convenient way to communicate.

But now that you bring it up dommes themselves very frequently unironically demand that their male partners be alpha. They use that word. (They won't use Chad because they don't know that one.)
Like I said they are sort of "hyper conventional" by which I mean they go harder for what women typically want than other women do.

Now there is one exception you will see reasonably often. Some of these women are looking for fembois to suck their man's dick. Those ones will not want you to be "alpha."

>>25128079
asl, then? cuz you sound too good to be true.

>>25127616
1/2
Came off mobile to sit down and type up a response because these things are actually damn interesting. Basically I'm about to spew a bunch of sexist bullshit.

In a way, straight femdom tends to work a surprising amount like straight relationship dynamics in general. We all know the "women want someone that is higher than them in social status, better income, tall, physically superior" trope. What you get with vanilla dynamics is then an expression of conventional masculinity and femininity where the man is the provider and the woman enjoys being provided for by him and "taken as he pleases" (mostly it's about the fantasy, ergo topping from the bottom with the illusion of being dominated, ergo the same shit you'd find a lot of male subs guilty of with their laundry lists of things they want done to them). It's basically the Cinderella crap in adult form. It's what passes for romance and always has (see: 50 Shades of Grey).

In straight femdom, in general, the man is still the provider and the woman is provided for (chores, massages, flowers, gifts... ever notice how the thought of a female sub providing for a male dom financially is absurd?). In this case, the domme line of thought is "I love dominating/pegging/taking advantage of a guy that could snap me in half (note: that seems to be the favorite expression of this type of domme, watch out for it) and that everyone looks up to outside of the bedroom but submits to me, only me". Alpha in the streets, sub in the sheets, yada yada. They're still looking for that Chad, they just want him to put them on a pedestal and fuck them the way they want, not the way "he wants". A lot of female switches fall into this category as well, for obvious reasons.

>>25128109
2/2

Just as you probably roll your eyes when a vanilla woman says "no, I don't care about height" or "no, I don't care about how much money he has" or "I only go for personality" or "I just want a nice guy" you probably roll your eyes when a domme goes "no, I like shy twinks/virgins, I don't like Chads". In the vast majority of cases, being more of a Chad is obviously going to make you more successful in finding a domme as well, just as in finding any other woman, for reasons explained above. But that's not the only variant of femdom out there.

>>25128097
ok so that might explain "chad" (though i'd say even using that term loosely is too much) but you are still unironically using "alpha" which is still embarrassing lol

also dommes like guys who are assertive (not "alpha" or whatever shit you're saying) outside of the bedroom because it makes us feel special that we get to see a side of a guy he doesn't show to other people. i don't want a child. i don't want someone i have to take care of 24/7 and looks to me for every little thing. i want a guy who is his own person and is self-sufficient and who also likes it when i tie him up and pound his ass. it's that simple

>>25128099
i'm 24 and from canada. i'm sure you're in aus or something lol

>>25127634
Both.

>>25128067
Case in point.

>>25128099
I should have added that alpha in the streets, sub in the sheets is an extremely common trope among male subs as well.

>>25128124
>dommes like guys who are assertive (not "alpha" or whatever shit you're saying) outside of the bedroom because it makes us feel special that we get to see a side of a guy he doesn't show to other people

So basically part of the attitude I outlined in >>25128109 then. Again, if that's what makes you tick, great. Not all of us are into that.

>tfw bearded, long hair, 6'
>Just want some cute grill to dominate me and make me her bitch
>Only grills interested in me want me to do that to them
F-fuck. ;_;

>>25128124
>i'm 24 and from canada. i'm sure you're in aus or something lol

NY, so I'm right next to Canada. Kik?

>>25128092
Yeah as the guy who responded to you basically calling you an idiot I have actually had dommes, despite being a switch and being the dom myself most of the time. Cause it's easier and works too. Still happened.

but you keep mansplainin' the actual domme over there

>>25128124
Yeah. I mean, I couldn't entirely disagree with the ALPHA ON THE STREETS thing, but it's still wrong in spirit. Confidence. Being submissive as a guy doesn't mean you lack confidence, necessarily. I'm confident as shit and use it as a strength when being ordered around, too. It works just fine.

ALSO, I'm also from Canada. So high five to you.

>>25128136
are you aware that you can shave? You can shave, you know. Like, if that's a problem... you can shave.

>>25128269
I don't want to be clean shaven. I grew a beard for the same reason I grew my hair long. Because *I* like it.
If I ain't getting shit anyhow I may as well at least like how I look.

>>25128284
yeahhhh I know that makes sense. The real part I don't get is why people feel strongly about beards in the first place. I can't complain there, though.

>>25128295
Eh, I just love being able to stroke it. ;^0 But for real, had it since I was 19. It's like family now.

>>25128308
Beard pic plz.

I'd love to try it. But it'd take someone both attractive to me, and ballsy enough to be openly keen/beg me to.
I'd totes consider doing it as a side job, actually.

>>25128894
Begging is half the fun if being a sub

>>25128894
>side job
>job
Grrrrr.

>>25128991
im sorry, i'd totes do it as a hobby especially if it was slathered in bribes and perks.
Just like i'd do anything else I enjoy as a hobby with additional slathered in bribes and perks.

>>25129101
You can slather me in whatever you want..

But i think anon is more annoyed that you don't seem to want to do it unless you're benefiting or as a kind of experiment rather than you're own sexual interest I guess.

>>25129121
What? Is anyone satiating their own sexual interests not benefiting them?
How do you get the impression that I "dont seem to want to do it unless" by my first/main sentence?

>>25129121
This. As I wrote in my blurb (see >>25128109): "[...] chores, massages, flowers, gifts... ever notice how the thought of a female sub providing for a male dom financially is absurd?"

>>25129295
Don't get me wrong, I don't agree with >>25128991, but that seems to be what he was coming from.

Kink doesn't have to be a lifestyle so I don't see why people can't do it as a hobby or a thing on the side to get off or even be paid for.

>>25129296
thats one very strict line of context to bundle a whole relationship category into. I read it and disagreed with the narrowness of its perspective, but cbf bringing it up because im 95% lurker and this is 4ch and you seem too set in your world for me to want to get into discussion where there are conflicting views. Meh. I've lived as a sub providing, call it absurd, no skin off my nose.

>>25129330
>>25129296

You do you my fet-dudes. Don;t judge other people for how they want to fuck and that way they won't judge you for how you want to be fucked.

I get off to being a submissive boyslave for a domme. What she wants out of that isn't my problem as long as we're both happy.

just gonna post contact here, cause i am lonely. 19,m,ger kik Rapior

>>25129314
>>25129330
No worries. I'm just a domme that lurks 95 % of the time too but sometimes I come out of the woodwork to shitpost. I just get pissy when the question of financial/material "bribes and perks" or doing it professionally immediately comes up within the context of women trying femdom.

>>25129605
That makes sense, god knows I want more women to try femdom because they want to, and I would never pay for it.

>>25129605
I'm not going to quote all the comments this person has made but they're right on the money. There are of course exceptions to every rule however the majority of the community is exactly how it's been outlined.

Well done, you should drop knowledge on people more often.

Also only 4channers use Chad as a description. Alpha is pretty much the standard

>>25128136
>>25128269

I dunno. I've found that a lot of the dom women into me really want me to have a beard. Maybe it's because they are switchy but lean dom instead of being full 100% dom.

>>25129876
100 % domme and very fond of beards here. Post pic plz.

>>25126934
I don't suppose theres any doms looking for subs here?

>>25128097
>normal people understand it
maybe on 4chan but not irl you autistic retard >>25128110
>having attractive features makes you more attractive to women
revolutionary

>>25128136
Where do you find sub girls?

>>25131820
There are pretty common senpai.
I kind of wanted to see about femdom or mommydom but I'm not a twink or little.

>>25131820
regular girls are sub girls, dude

I just want a girl to actually lead a conversation with me. I like talking but im terrible at leading the flow.

If any girl would oblige I'll talk about anything. kik is Sp0kak

if you play FFXIV and like to rp, I can erp you in game with my domme catgirl :3

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>tfw nyc
>Skinny and a little bit mocha
>Every girl I talk to seriously makes me lead the conversation, makes me ask them out first, makes me decide everything
>They all eventually want me to dom them, every girl who says 'they switch' or 'can dom' never does it
>Go through with it because it makes them happy even though it never does for me
>My heart sinks a little lower every time and I know there's nobody around nyc like this not taken

This is fine

>>25133216
learn to respect yourself then
fucking faggot

would any domme girl tell me if im cute or she would date me looks-wise only? im too shy to post my pic on 4chan. i wont talk to you outside of that unless you wish so of course. yuuyuufu is my kik.

>>25128136
Am 5'3, and would love to make you my bitch and then cuddle you afterwards

I just want a girl who spanks me on my ass when I'm changing and my briefs are showing, or gives me a playful wedgie randomly and blushes.

None of this super hardcore Dom type of stuff on most porn sites. I guess gentle Dom isn't possible?

Kik is tsmith4556

>>25135152
do i have to be as tall as him for that?

>>25133216
my nigga I live in NYC too. If anything your chances are greater here than anywhere else. 6 Million people, and usually more liberal and kink friendly than the rest of the nation.

>>25135304
It doesn't actually matter is the moral of the story.

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is this the new femdom thread
what kind of femdom do you like lads?
i really like casual and romantic childlike bullying. stuff like just being pushed into a wall or called a little shit or being slapped and then kissed right after. it's hard to find dominant girls into that stuff tho.

>>25128110
>>25128109
This guy is correct. The people criticizing him are retards who think they will get in women's good graces by being white knights. The BDSM community exists to grind up the latter guys as fodder, while a few people actually have lots of sex at the top.

Most guys just don't find a domme these days. There is no conventional dating market for it. It is so full of fucked up dynamics that you will likely not find anyone. If you can, date conventionally, and integrate D/s into your relationship. If you're handsome, you can get a domme with a bit of persistence and by engaging in a disgusting sleazy "community" (read: modern swinger's party), but you're just as likely to get syphilis from a histrionic psychotic SJW.

Just think about this. 90% of male subs are completely insane and will never get anything. They're all 50 year old dudes offering money to random women, turning the whole scene into a prostitution ring by necessity, and so on.

The remaining 10% of relatively normal men who simply happen to be subs STILL vastly outnumber active, open dommes who don't just seek out their fetishes within relationships.

Of those active, open dommes, almost all are taken (like all women) except for short intervals. Many of them will by polyamorous and looking for a guy to give them money or do housechores as a cuck while their hipster boyfriend twice their age is around. This is what the "BDSM community" is, if you didn't know. All of them are insane SJWs with massively inflated egos, like walking fucking Tumblr caricatures.

The ONLY GIRLS on Fetlife who will dom you and who you actually want to get dommed by are basically flukes, needles in a massive haystack, because they, just like you if you're not a moron, realize instantly that it's a gigantic disgusting prostitution ring full of diseased retarded worthless people, and surprise: they don't really engage with it either, for exactly that reason.

>>25135900
Every time you see a girl post she's a domme, there's a relatively high chance it's a tranny.

There's a very high chance she's into extremely mild, specific, and boring shit.

There's a VERY high chance she's a switch and polyamorous. Usually this goes with the above.

There's an extremely high chance she's a retarded SJW with an IQ of 85 who will nevertheless expect you to tolerate her entire self-consciously put-on "I'm a sassy fierce princess ;) I use Tumblr and say zany things >:) Sassy! #FIERCE" personality.

There's a very high chance she's fucking fat and ugly.

There's an almost guaranteed chance that she's a complete slut.

These are your dommes! These are the women that make you go OH BOY.. A DOMME.. OMG I SHOULD DEFEND HER ON THE INTERNET.. when you see them posting. A lumpy fat loudmouthed pig who can't ever, ever shut up about the political beliefs she gets from OTHER PEOPLE re-tweeting huffpost article titles, who has fucked 19 guys in two years and will direct her own self-loathing and shame over it at you if you aren't overjoyed to hear it, who has two "boyfriends" ten years older than her, and who thinks she's a wicked interesting domme because she kinda-sorta likes the idea of skinny twinkish guys crossdressing.

The top-secret to femdom is: Get a real girlfriend, avoid the broken whores, and ask her to do your fetishes. If you have fetishes that require an entire relationship being based around them, with the woman as some kind of fetish cartoon, congrats! You have very bad luck, but the reality is still that you can never achieve that without it being a prostitute anyway, so learn to jerk off to it, and get a real girlfriend.

Fetlife is one giant feeding trough for broken hags.

>>25135900
>>25135920

1/2
As stated here >>25127572 and here >>25129605 (the former being my mobile ID), I am a domme. Not a guy. I don't have a dick. I don't fault you for ASSUMING MY GENDER!!!!1!!!1!11 though.

Let me tell you why I would not touch "the scene" with a 10 foot pole even though I on paper have everything to gain from it as a domme. I simply do not relate to bunching femdom together with feminism, LGBTQWERTY rights, any type of cultish weird female supremacy movement or tumblrina am-I-on-the-barricades-yet SJW antics. I also don't want to huddle up under the umbrella of being a "BDSM practitioner". I don't feel any kind of sense of unity whatsoever with a maledom couple for example, or a lesbian femdom couple. I find bunching together in a clique that consists of your subculture to be an extension of highschool dynamics, frankly, and whenever you wear an interest of yours as a badge and make your whole life revolve around it I get skeptical. In Swedish we call the BDSM scene a "club for internal admiration", by the way, I think that describes it pretty well.

Let's think about the kind of offers the type of domme you describe gets though. Let's say a 50-year-old guy offers you money to let him clean your house naked except for a collar. Can you blame them for taking him up on the offer even though they're not into it sexually at all, since they're both getting paid and a non-sexual favor done while they have to do, effectively, nothing?

As a domme you get bombarded with all kinds of requests, from asking for an Amazon wishlist so they can "spoil you", to offers to buy used panties, shoes or whatever, offers to pay you for doing your housework, etc. There's just a lot of free shit to be had by hordes of men who throw themselves at your feet. What would be the incentive NOT to take them up on this shit? Why would you turn down the perks that come with the territory?

>>25136162

2/2
In my case it is that femdom to me is inherently sexual. By sexual I don't mean bedroom only, on the contrary, the dynamics cannot be turned off. In everyday life they are sometimes less present and sometimes more present, but still always there. I have no interest in performing any acts with anyone I am not interested in sexually. A guy I'm not attracted to cleaning the house naked is not sexy. Hell, a guy I AM attracted to cleaning the house naked is not sexy either.

Secondly, money is power. I always refuse random dudes that want to buy me drinks and if you insist on paying the bill I'll get pissed off (might also have something to do with growing up in a Nordic country). Alternating is perfectly fine, of course, but any one-sided contributions on part of the sub are a no-no. Money skews the dynamics completely and cheapens the arrangement. I have by far bought my subs more random gifts than they have bought me, I enjoy taking care of them and pampering them, making them feel special (and then beating them to a bloody pulp). It's been said that my style of domination is closer to that of a dom guy and I think there's some truth to that. I don't want "alpha in the streets, sub in the sheets", I want "prince by day, slut by night". And those are extremely different things.

That said, even though you use my blurb as a starting point for your rant, I don't like your attitude.

19/f here.

5'9", 137lbs, 36-26-40.

can timestamp if needed.
looking for a gross wimp i can dominate, especially financially. i want to keep everything online, no IRL shit.

no preferences in regards to appearance or personality. just someone i can fuck with.

>>25136228
HAHAHAHA

>>25136249
pretty accurate, no?

>>25136228
>especially financially
>>25136228
>no IRL shit.

>I want to be a bitch and get paid for it
Fixed it for ya

>>25136297
its bait, chill

>>25136166
I blame the parents

>>25127572
19 m fit
Would you wanna kik?
my kik is asilver966

>>25136228
19 m fit
kik: silver966 :)

>>25126934
Now that I see the picture...
How effective is and how much you all like the traditional domme outfit (boots, tigh highs, corset, riding crop, leash and collar)?
If domme, do you feel like it makes you feel better in some way?
If sub. do you feel it has more impact on you?

Would love to hear some opinions.

>>25137009
If anything the stereotypical domme outfit kind of gives me negative connotations with shitty porn
If it makes you feel more powerful or whatever I can appreciate that, but it seems like a lot of effort to go through.

>>25136166
Will you cuddle me anon

I thinking of paying a dominatrix to slap and kick me.
But then i think why would i even subject myself to this stuff.

>>25127160
>Women very rarely fall into being dominant without some serious abnormality.
TRUE, and unfortunatly this usually makes them fucked up in regular life. I have had a few relationships with dom's and they have all had trauma that made them dominant and that has carried over into making them fucked up beyond belief in normal situations.

>>25128092
>The overwhelming majority of them have a fantasy of getting a guy who is "alpha on the streets, sub in the sheets."
yeah the last dom i was with demanded this type of behavior, so much so as if you interacted with us as a couple you wouldnt believe i was wearing panties and a locked cock

>>25136166
>>25136162
It's refreshing to see people like you exist, honestly! I'm a guy, and the majority of what I've found around me is just the same as a regular relationship or a dom guy/sub girl. The guy is always seen as the provider or lead outside the bedroom, and is expected to do everything to carry the relationship forwards. There's seldom a dom I've seen who really wants to be the "dominant" in the relationship, in all aspects. It's really unfortunate.

To be honest, it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong when I think that I want to be pampered sometimes, that I want to be the one who's ordered for at restaurants or cook dinner or be surprised with things. The only girl I met who did those kinds of things moved back to the UK a while ago, and I'm beginning to think that she really was the only one in the east coast.

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>tfw not interested in D/S dynamics
>tfw just want a qt femboy I can be sweet to

I don't want to humiliate or bully anyone, I just want someone I can cuddle and make feel safe.

>>25138614
I would expect you'd get hundreds of replies for that

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>>25138614
That is all i want too
Sorry to whore myself out

>>25138733
Only two so far, which I suspect is because a lot of people actually want a domination experience. Unfortunately, that's not my scene.
>>25138744
Is that you? If so, you're pretty cute.

I haven't cum. In 7+ days, been edged almost everyday at least once. I want to have every last drop of cum milked from my balls. Ride my face and stroke my cock?
This is my fantasy well atleast this month. Not normally a sub but like this idea.

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If I'm turned off by a sub, it's because they're not actually a "sub," they just have "submissive" fantasies.

>>25138614
>Not cute or fem
Rip the dream

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>>25138614
What is a "femboy" exactly?

>>25138834
> which I suspect is because a lot of people actually want a domination experience.
You're probably just looking in the wrong places, because I've talking with a lot of guys on here who, like me, would be into that 100%. But I personally only go on /soc/ a few days a year at max. I kinda hate this place, but I'm very bored tonight.

Been bored lately.
Should get. Into being a Dom again. I just can't withstand a cunt that doesn't commit. For example I gave specific orders for a Twink to photograph himself at work. To prove he was wearing the chastity cage. Says no. Order the ass to wear the pink lingerie, shows up on cam with his sister's cheerleading outfit. Blegh.

I'm 24 and wouldn't mind doming a useless cunt once again. I'm located on the west coast of the us. I'll post up a Skype and an email.

I'll Dom just about anyone. So long as I'm entertained and you the submissive is willing to go to sever lengths to entertain me.

I have a huge fetish for femdom and my biggest fantasies I have is having a far smaller woman dominate me.

I'm 6'2ft and I have large cock.. not kidding, it's large. And I just want a woman to completely dominate it and take it for herself. I try to find femdom videos online often where the guy has a large cock but it's so damn rare! The fact that I am tall and hung makes it 100x hotter to me that a woman would dominate me.

Also really into sounding, being tied up. Where the hell do I find a woman who wants to dominate a tall/hung dude? ):

It's actually quite interesting, I've talked to a lot of woman and usually the dominant woman don't care at all about cock size. But I kind of want to have her care pointing out she has control over it.

I'm someone who was asked to be a bull multiple times but I want to be the opposite! Fuck.

>>25138906
So the laundry list of kinks or what?

>>25139695
Prolly gets off from your response to him being bratty/defiant.

>>25139786
From your description and left-handed smiley I'm going to assume you're Dutch sounding guy. Out of curiosity, where-ish in NL are you located?

>>25135606

Whats your fucking skype?

>>25135606
You look so young, that's what I like.

>>25139947
pedo

>>25139786
>
Physically you sound great and I'm a smaller more petite dom but you are way too experienced and confident.

>>25139955
What are you looking for?

A big guy, but more quiet and meek?

>>25138906
What do you usually look for in a sub, outside of kink preference?

>>25139955
Petite dommes are a fucking godsend

question: for you and any other dommes who may be lurking: what's your ideal sub?

Subs, what's your ideal domme?

Mine is either extreme; tall and curvy who can beat the shit out of me, or petite and small who can wrap me around their finger.

That being said the thing I get off most is being servile so the whole point of that is doing it for whoever can make you.

>>25139979
Sub here, my ideal is someone who's dominant outside the bedroom too. I'm not a very assertive person; I want someone who knows what they want and isn't going to pull back into letting me take charge when we're out.

I want to be dragged around places, teased and hit on (or maybe just hit sometimes), told to do what they want in a nonsexual way and get taken care of, too. I don't want to be stripped naked and forced to clean her apartment with a toothbrush, I want to be ordered for at food places and maybe sometimes given attention. I know it's a longshot because guys aren't supposed to want these things.

>>25139667
A femboy is guy who looks and/or acts femme. Like a twink except they also crossdress.

>>25139961
>>25139979
I don't really care about looks too much desu, bigger or smaller than me is fine. (I can kind of relate to this: >>25139979 >either extreme;
as in much tinier and weaker or the opposite)
It's more about his level of kindness, similar interests (drugs and nerdy stuff), his ability to keep up (intelligence), and on a kink level I love virgin, nervous, nervous, various ticks and awkward tension really do it for me.

Was this explanation okay?

Reading through some of these comments (especially at the start of the thread) by dumbass guys talking about what they think you should become or do to be a "good sub"/attract doms makes me sad. So I want to be clear that everyone and every situation is different. I also just want to say that the use of the word 'Chad' feels so insulting to me as a human. Not to get too sjw on you but your ideas of conventional masculinity are toxic but mostly just dumb. It's really rather inspiring when a guy is COMFORTABLY insecure. Basically allows himself to be a natural sub as it comes to him rather than following whatever the trend is. In that way you break through stereotypes, you define your own confidence when you accept yourself.

>>25139985
Cute.

>>25140018
Mind if i ask about the virgin kink?

Cus, I am one and I'm more about it being a turn off more than anything else. Same with the nervous nerdiness thing; like I've had it called 'cute' but never felt sexy as a result of it.

>>25140022
You're going to get me all flustered up, anon. careful

>>25140018
Are you calling me a dumbass guy?!?!??!?!11

>>25140035
When hes a virgin I have more control, because hes afraid to make moves, he doesn't know what to do. I get to initiate. I get to have it my way.

>>25140090
Now that I can get behind.

Losing it to someone more experienced has always been a fantasy of mine, though kind of unlikely for it to happen/go well if it ever got to that point.

Still, nice to know there are people out there who'll be happy claiming my precious cherry.

>>25140018
Thanks, that's a good explanation. For all the stereotypes, I think all relationships have to be more about the people themselves don't they?
I do enjoy playing with the clichés, but perhaps slightly tongue in cheek

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i've only had sex with/only dated guys, and I guess I would consider myself pansexual, but after reading this thread i'm kind of curious what femdom would be like

my kik is arcticjade if anyone would like to teach me about this world :p

21/m/usa

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>>25139979
20 sub here, i'm pretty submissive by nature.

My ideal dom would be someone who likes teasing, my inexperience with women and my nervousness. I tend to blush and get embarrased easily.
I don't mind if she is inexperienced, or experienced but she should know what to do and initiate and force me to do stuff.

I like forceful kisses, though i've never been kissed before and i fantasize about a girl pinning me down and forcing me to look into her eyes from up close. I'm not very strong so she could probably pin me down easily.

Bonus points if she works out.

Pic related is me, i'm not very strong or muscular
If anyone wants to talk, my kik is atazs

>>25136162
Kika mig : -) 18 m above average i stockholm, "ojsanbojsan" på kik

I've been confused on this. I have no idea where I fit in this world.

My fantasy is making my partner happy. I don't have a laundry list of kinks, my one and only is "whatever my partner wants'. So I sort of have none and all of them at once I guess, depending. There are things I like of course, but nothing I would insist on. And there are not very many things I would say no to, even if I can't think of them at the moment, because making them happy is more important to me than what my personal sexual interests are. The thought of someone I love being so comfortable with me that they feel they can say and do whatever they want in the bedroom makes me both happy and excited.

So I definitely identify as submissive, but the whole bdsm dating scene really turned me off, for reasons others have listed already.

I want to meet someone and connect on a personal level through shared beliefs and hobbies and outlook on life and all that, and then eventually reach the point where my loving partner is also my master.

1/2

>>25140610
2/2
As for the outside life vs bedroom stuff, I have no idea about that either. I like paying for dinner and buying gifts and stuff like that, but in my relationships we generally both did those things for each other. There is nothing in life I would rather spend my money on than making someone I love happy. I didn't know people saw who payed for what as a power thing. I just payed more than 50% of the time because I saw it as nice to do. I don't expect to be owed anything and I don't expect to be in charge of anything just because I'm the one who pays for stuff, I just had more money at the time. It was that simple.

I'm ok looking and work out and am passable in social situations and stuff but I'm also a huge virgin so getting dates is tough. I've had some wonderful relationships that end due to circumstance and I'm just completely lost how to find someone who might feel the same way I do about this topic. I hope someone can relate to my blog here and maybe someone else can give some advice to me/us.

>>25139869

I seriously don't understand why people think i'm Dutch... Is it because I am tall?

I'm from Germany.

>>25139955
Well that's a shame haha. I don't have irl experience though.

>>25140610
You sound really sweet and caring and I love that. You'd make a lovely boyfriend.

>>25140614
Regardless of what gender or orientation, someone like you should go based on personality, maybe one of those more serious sites like match dot com or through friends, make a friend and a real connection then see if that leads to a relationship, there are like ideal mate, clean kik , Skype threads on 4chan, you probably won't find a partner but it will give you some practice, social skills are literally skills and unfortunately the best way to learn them is to do them.

>>25140610
Also it's great that you opened up, that's kind of my thing too, but I want a strong personal and emotional connection first.

>people talking about ideal subs
guys asking, kys
just be yourself

>>25140754
I don't have any experience with that particular fetish, though I am a femdom and have more experience in similar areas, so I guess what I'm saying is that I'm interested. I'm also in Germany right now as an exchange student (I'm a Brit) and I'm 5'2. What do you think, are you interested?

>>25138614
That's mostly what I want but I'm not a femboi ( I'm not even hyper masculine or anything I'm just not into gender roles to the point where I'd never go femboi) and I'm not super cute.

>>25139485
I know friendo.

>>25140018
Hey, I used to have you on Skype, hope everything is going great for you.

>>25136166

Thanks for giving me some hope and showing that girls like you exist :) I myself am not a Chad, at all ; I've never been one, and never will be, I'm just too shy or introverted for that to happen, no matter. I also tend to not socialize very well, nor do I really have the stature, being a manlet and all.

I really enjoy how you describe your approach to femdom ; I myself am a pretty hardcore sub (with, admittedly weird ''side'' fetishes), but I don't get turned on by pain or being squashed like a worm. The whole ''sever, shouting, leather'' femdom thing doesn't cut it for me - I prefer being ''tenderly'' dominated in life (nearly all aspects) and being naughty in the bedroom, instead of being just like a slave who gets beaten up. Though, from experience, I haven't met a girl yet whose somewhat into that. Plus, it's embarrassing to admit to things like that I'd prefer if it was her that owned things or was the breadwinner, and similar things. For me, it's both sexual and not, and it's difficult for people to understand that...

Anyway, thanks for showing you exist!

>>25136166

And I'm on the same page about buying services of ''professional'' dommes - I will never do it. To me it's about the love and intimacy, the care, surrendering to someone whom I can trust can make decisions for me. Buying for services means nothing : there's no care, at all, it's just pure jerking off. I want to cuddle, sit on a girl's lap, have her tease me, nibble my ear, etc, I want her to be affectionate, but with money it's not possible...

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>>25136162
>I am a domme. Not a guy. I don't have a dick.

>>25136162
>I simply do not relate to bunching femdom together with feminism, LGBTQWERTY rights, any type of cultish weird female supremacy movement or tumblrina am-I-on-the-barricades-yet SJW antics.
The problem with that is that you don't bloody exist.

Meanwhile the morbidly obese genderqueer 'goddesses' do exist, and they're in every single damn thread on this board.

>>25140498
Cute.
>>25140610
>shared beliefs and hobbies and outlook on life
You should just look in these areas instead of looking in the kink scene first. Like find someone you get along with THEN tell them about your sexual preferences. Not the other way around. Because if you just post things that you want in here it makes no sense since you are implying you have all these outside of sex needs but your not talking about who you are. You are saying you want to have hobbies/beliefs in common but don't show yourself. So basically my first advice stands, just try to find a gf the normal way and later explore the s&m stuff. Okaycupid, or tumblr, or steam, or whatever (online) and then just the normal places irl concerts, libraries, coffee shops, dance clubs, etc.

>>25143020
I lurk. Morbidly obese genderqueer "goddesses" are visible and vocal.

>>25143130
I like when the femdom threads have more of a generic contact template with the usual array of music, books, movies, games, interests etc. because then you can really sketch the outline of a person and gauge your compatibility outside of pure kinks. These posts like "19 m TX, fit sub, kik:" are about as enticing as dishes on the kitchen counter after a long day at work.

Now one might go "so why don't you start femdom threads with the template you want then?" and the answer is simple; I'm not actively looking for anything right now.

>>25143163
>These posts like "19 m TX, fit sub, kik:" are about as enticing as dishes on the kitchen counter after a long day at work.
Fucking exactly.

>>25143130
"Relationship first, kinks second" absolutely makes more sense. The problem is that relatively few women are really into it, so most of the time she'll say no. Or at best, she might go along with it but not really be into it - which isn't nearly so much fun.

Of course some of the guys in here are just hoping to find a kinky girl without a relationship. Not sure how often that happens.

But whatever you want, the "19 m TX sub" posts aren't doing much.

any dommes in australia wanna chat?
30/m/syd, slim, hung, kinky, submissive.
kik: bigredron

>>25143130
>>25143236
It's a really tough line to straddle. How do you look for/make yourself available to someone with a semi-niche set of sexual tastes while also not making it about just the sex? Finding a girl normally through dating apps/etc kind of sucks; if you make a connection up to the point you start talking about kink, you'll most often get people who go "I can do that" or "I like to switch", but never actually engage or do anything proactive. It's obvious they aren't into it and it hurts worse because you just started to like this person.

I feel like I might make my own kind of thread after this one's out.

>>25138834
Its relly me
>>25139946
Hmu yo my kik is gr8kiddo.
Im not gonna list my skype here but ask for it on kik
Im the guy i swear

Hi :3 I'm 20, fit white male and new to this. I'll do anything a girl wants. My Kik is yagata10

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>>25143370
Heres another pic of me as proof
I should make it clear now that i actually have boobs and a penis. Im not really a guy or a girl but im also kind of both.

Is anyone here into comforting? I'd like to advertise my own thread here:
>>25143373

>>25126934
message my kik at teabuckets pig, be prepared to entertain me

28/M/Birmingham, UK.

Locked in Chastity and looking for someone to tease me in my locked state and decide how long I should stay locked. Plus friendly chats too.

Kik me if interested: amco137

kik phasephase
22m

I wouldn't say I'm a domme, but I do dom my boyfriend. I'm really, really shy but seeing him enjoy himself so heavily is really cute and sweet. I tie him up, peg him, spank him, etc., things that I wouldn't say turn me on at all but I think it's the amount of love that I have for him that makes me enjoy it anyway? Perhaps for those of you having issues finding women should talk to the person you are with and if they say "I can do that" really hold them to it. I'm sure, if they sincerely care for your pleasure then when they see the satisfaction you get out of it it'll start to become enjoyable for them, too

>>25146423
That's a manageable arrangement for some and an ideal arrangement for others. Still, there's a sizeable chunk of sub dudes for which that kind of thing isn't on the map, and the latter category is the type of sub I'm into.

What you're doing is essentially submitting to his need to be dominated. You say it doesn't turn you on at all, but you do it anyway because you love him and want to please him. This is a fundamentally submissive mindset on your part, not his. The type of sub I am talking about would rather be without any type of "domination" than have to make you dom them and inflict their desires upon you. They want your desires inflicted upon them, even if it might be something they're not really into, because it's what you want and they are dying to please you and cater to your wants and needs.

>>25146423

>>25146605
Exactly this. Being a submissive isn't a purely sexual thing, it's emotional. I'm not looking for someone to just gratify my dick and do things they're obviously not into (you can usually tell), because then I'm still "driving" everything around it, and the other person isn't enjoying themselves as much as they could.

Domination isn't like a set of sex things or words you say to a sub, it's a frame of mind that you have to assume. Subs - at least, me - are looking for someone that imposes their desires on my world, and know that I'll enjoy that. This doesn't just translate to the bedroom, either. Being gently bossed around, guided forcefully or pushed to do something, or just told to "come here" or "do that" in normal life is something that makes my heart skip beats. Unfortunately, that's even rarer than getting someone to peg you.

>>25146623
I feel like this is getting into a dangerous territory. I think most people agree that when a fetish bleeds into everyday life, it's because there's some unfulfillment somewhere else in that person's life. I'm all for sexual freedom, and doing what you want to in bed, but once you start wanting to see your kink in other facets of your life, that's when you get into trouble.

>>25146644
I think you're misunderstanding what I mean, my guy. Wanting your partner to take the lead in a relationship isn't strictly a fetish thing, it's just a preference. It's not a fetish (or harmful) if a woman decides that she wants to live in a "traditionally structured" relationship, where there's a man of the house and she stays home.

On the same note, it isn't harmful if a guy wants to be in a relationship where the girl is in charge or 'wears the pants'. I'm not looking for someone to hobble my dick and keep me chained naked to the floor while I clean for them, I'm looking for someone I genuinely like and care for to just.. be the dominant one in the relationship. I don't mean I want them controlling my entire life or setting up schedules for me, I just want them to take the lead more often than I do, and like that.

>>25146659
>>25146623
sounds like you don't want a partner, you want a mother

>>25146823
By that reasoning most women don't want a partner, they want a father.

>>25146834
its almost like the majority of men and women have daddy/mommy issues..

>>25146823
>>25146842
Why are you equating trust and submission with parental issues? You can want someone to comfort you in life without seeing them as a replacement for your parents.

>>25146842
I'm sure in your head that's true.

>>25146842
I just don't care for submissive women or chicks that want me to do everything, so I look for Dom women.

>>25147713
so women that will do everything for you?

>>25147832
Nah.

>>25147832
I just don't want someone who can't take care of herself and if given the choice prefer a sexually positive and open woman. In my experience they are usually Doms.

>>25146850
I think most people into BDSM are messed up somehow.

>>25149162
Well, what do we have to go on other than your opinion? This study was widely publicized a few years back (but let's not pretend like it's not riddled with holes): https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23679066

>>25143311
>It's a really tough line to straddle. How do you look for/make yourself available to someone with a semi-niche set of sexual tastes while also not making it about just the sex?
I completely agree with that.

I feel your whole post.

The thing is for me even in real interaction with a guy I prob wouldn't at all get far enough to have sex with him if I couldn't already sense he was submissive on some level. Since I'm a dom I want to have control. And initiate things. I'd just stop or get turned off if he wasn't my type. So searching in normal places works for me, though usually I have to choose places nerds congregate.

>>25143370
I dont use kik though... Just always kept with skype.

>>25143397
YES.

This is my fet:
https://fetlife.com/users/4039243

Also this is my gentle femdom hentai folder. There's a huge variety of kinks so browse at your own risk: http://imgur.com/a/ruujM

>tfw submissive man but president of a sports club

who /sheepinwolvesclothinghere/

>>25149912
That album is great. Thanks for sharing!

m, 19, bi, submissive, athletic body looking for anything from a master to a person to masterbate with HozukiMaluee :)

>>25149912
Can I add you to skype? Or you add me?