Tinder bread

What do you guys recommend in terms of double messaging? Like I messaged a girl this morning to ask her out for the weekend. She hasn't replied yet. It's only been a few days overall but for all of our other messages she would reply by now, usually within a few hours but always less than 12.

Should I send a follow up message tonight or wait til the morning/tomorrow to message again? Also what should I say instead

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>>25040761
move on man, just keep swiping and talking to other grills. Best advice for asking out is just say "wanna do (insert activity)" then if shes keen she will ask when or suggest a day

Anyone got tips for first date?

>>25040782

Thanks. Yeah I should have been specific instead of just asking her out this weekend. She goes to the same college I went to so we talked a lot about that.

Honestly I have the same question as you. Most of my tinder meet ups have been a movie or drinks or both. One was Netflix and chill in her dorm lol. I'm not sure what activities girls like to do for dates.

>>25040849
Yeah idk man i try think of stuff that other dudes normally wouldnt suggest, seems to work alright.
Any conversation suggestions or just wing it? ahaha

Do trans tend use grindr or tinder more? My Town has one gay bay thats not really even a gay bar and the only trans ive met were 40 yr old men

>>25040928

I always just wing it. With girls from my college I start off with something related to how we both have gone there. Others I usually mention something or ask about something from their bio or pics.

One thing that has literally never worked for me and has always gotten me unmatched is starting off with something dirty. I saw on here people had success saying something like "I wanna feed you pizza and slap your butt". I tried it on 5 girls and got unmatched by each.

I always worry about getting ghosted cuz it happens so much so I might screw up that way. I tend to play it safe cuz girls ghost for the smallest reasons that you might think are ok

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>>25040938
I don't know but if you're looking to meet gay people move or visit a big city like NY or San Francisco that has a established community. I live in a medium sized city and we've got like at least 20 gay bars.

>>25040969
dirty liners only work on fat girls, slutty girls, or if youre very handsome

>>25041045

I don't get a lot of matches so idk. I always thought I was fairly attractive but idk now. It's kinda hard to tell if girls are truly slutty imo. One of these girls was super hot. The others were average. Not fat but at most chubby.

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I am super picky when it comes to women. I swiped right with one and she matched with me. We chatted, set up a date. Then the day before the date, I chatted to confirm, she stopped responding.

Its been a week since and she is still matched with me. I know this ship has sailed but I am afraid to let go of her and know for a fact this is a real local person who I like (something rare for me). Every woman I have ever tried attempting a relationship with ends up doing this. I have yet to even be in a relationship.

Why am I being ghosted so frequently? You would think having a "match" and engaging in setting up the date is a good sign of interest. A chick I met on pof did this, a chick I met inrl did this and even a chick I met on omegle did this to me.

I am told to "play games" and "you are too insecure" but I am frankly not interested in playing games and not being myself in terms of entering a relationship.

I am yet again depressed. My life has come to a point where I have no purpose and all the help I have received has failed. I still remember calling a suicide line and the guy said "idk what to say" like even suicide prevention doesn't know what to do.

I guess I just want sympathy but people get mad and tell me to think of the starving kids in africa. At this point id rather trade places so I have a valid excuse to die because I am too much of a pussy to do it myself.

Anyways yeah I thought I actually had it for once. I guess I have to keep trying maybe in 5 years it will work out and half my life will be over yay me!

>>25041242

That sucks man. I'd just keep trying and hope for the best. Or maybe try in person, see if you could join a club or something, maybe make some friends and meet girls that way. Or always try a bar. I should really be following my own advice.

I do agree on the ghosting while still matched thing. Like is the match count that important to girls that they'll quit talking to you and still keep you matched. It's happened to me three times so far on my current tinder.

>>25041263
I currently do brazilian ju-jutsu, part of a church aid group, go to the gym frequently and part of an occasional art club. I am also employed at a very cozy job.

I have lots of friends and know many women through life but the ones I am interested in either have boyfriends or have ghosted/rejected me. Pretty much if you think of a possible solution, I have already tried it.

I appreciate the sympathy though. At this point that's all I really need.

>>25041295

Oh damn. Honestly you seem like you're in a good spot when it comes to real life. For example my job is meh, I have no friends anymore and my interests are more solitary things, so other than at the gym there is not really an opportunity to meet new people.

I guess your best bet might be online. Maybe change up how you're talking to them. Try different things to see what works and what doesn't.

I dont think tinder is right for me brehs. is it okay if I dont want to fuck? just have someone be nice to me

>>25041263
If I disappear on Tinder it's because I get inundated with new messages and sometimes the app doesn't mark as new to old messages. Just text girl again. Try to get number or SC to text. I've had so many fuck ups from Tinder not sending message on time. Don't read into not deleting match. It may not be ghosting. Could either be because she doesn't unmatch (I don't. Have 600 matches) or that your message has gotten marked read and she figures you hadn't responded

got a date organised any tips for getting snapchat? already got #

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How's this?

>>25042409
Gay af

>>25042632
how should I fix it

>>25040761
If girls like you they'll be the ones double messaging. Shes not interested, move the fuck on to another girl you beta. Don't feed her ego for literally nothing.

>>25042643
Have a better joke. Don't be pretentious about music.

>>25042675
I had girls telling it me was clever and they laughed at it before. I could be wrong but I don't think that's pretentious

>>25041295
Come live on my school bus, travel the country and find cute hippie bitches to throw the d at. maybe one will eventually stick, if not you'll have more to say to new girls than 'waaahhhh im so alone and shittyyyy'

>>25042692
pretentious or not it's a lame fuckin joke man

from someone who just doesnt get it i'd assume you really like sitcoms more than real life interaction and just based on that it's into the trash for you

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Is this any good?

>>25042649

True. I've had 3 I asked out in the past stop responding after I sent the final message, so fuck them. Are they really that bored that they just want to text occasionally and never meet up

>>25043412
>after I sent the final message
If this implies you sent multiple messages without a response then that's why. Your first message should be short.

>Are they really that bored that they just want to text occasionally and never meet up
They want to meet up with Chad. Some girl I know said she swipes right on attractive betas just for the ego boost though.

>>25043418

No I mean the final message of the conversation. One girl I double messaged but it was like a back to back thing, like 2 thoughts in a row, not the next day.

These girls are only worth a quick fuck and that's it. I'm really attracted to one but the others I'd fuck once out of boredom and that's it. Most girls near me are either really ugly or super hot, very little middle ground.

I've been using
>tinder
>bumble
>pof
for a few months now. Are there any other sites that I can use to find hookups with normie women?
I don't even pretend I'm looking for a relationship. I'm mostly good on my own. I just want sex without paying prostitutes.

Back when I was single I was slaying puss on tinder.

I'm fat, average looking, and awkward as fuck. How bad do you guys have to be to not be getting any? lul

>>25040938
Tinder I think, Grindr from what I've heard is just dickheads obsessed with showing and bragging about their dicks.

>tfw all trans I talk to on Tinder just stop replying suddenly
>even when we share common interests

>>25043021
what's an example of a good bio then

are there fat people that can meet other fat people on here?

femanon just giving pov from what i've experienced

>>25040761
it doesn't matter if you double message, i get enough matches/messages i don't realize that i've missed messages/been double messaged

>>25040782
play off whatever they have on their bio/what they've talked about, google shit around the area. don't don't don't don't take them to a movie

>>25042409
it feels a bit pretentious, loosen it up

>>25043229
don't add that you're not looking for anything serious, pics are fine though

>>25043996
post your profile, ya baiting fuck

>>25044447

I sent a follow up message to each girl and none have responded, so I guess I blew it. If they're put off that quickly/easily then screw them.

What's bad about a movie? Is it because you can't spend the time talking/getting to know each other? What I've done is either see the movie before or after drinks/dinner or lunch. That way you can do both.

>>25040015
You must live in Vancouver.

How can you tell if a tinder girl is playing you like a fiddle? I think ive been added to a harem.

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Tinder is a joke lmao too easy

what are tips for using Tinder as a girl?
I'm painfully new to it.

>>25047008
1. be female


that's literally it

>>25047008
Fuck everyone.

>>25045739
did you bang her tho

>>25047020
i find it hard to actually talk to people
>>25047026
does everyone on tinder actually just want to bang and never speak again?

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Am I shadowbanned from Tinder? Something has to be off If I am liking nonstop for days and only getting one match from it (and it being a bot)

>>25047132
Really? What is difficult with talking to people in your opinion?

What's the general consensus on how long to keep the profile up without getting matches? I've had mine for like a week or two and only two matches that weren't bots, but ghosted pretty quick.

>>25047135
It's not bad, but #2 should be your #1 pic.

I wanna send a good first message but their bios are always fucking blank and I'm shit at this.
fuck tinder

>>25047974
Try a canned pick up line from /fit/ or /misc/

>>25047227
I feel like I never know what to say or how to be interesting. It's easier online but once I meet them it's really hard

Can I use this app to find a gf who likes anime? Do I mention anime in my profile or is that off limits?

>>25047135
nah your pics aren't good lil homie
you're a good lookin guy but ask yourself:
will women look at your profile and have their pussies FOAMING
be honest lil homie

lady you are gorgeous

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Rate? Also, which one should be main pic?

>>25044399
the "fite me" makes it sound like you're a sentient fedora, pal. is there something more meaningful you can bank on rather than seinfeld?

>>25049067
>weak jawline
>froggish symmetry of eyes
>shitty hairline
>numale smile

Idk senpai, probably start lifting weights. Heavy weights.

>>25049067
2. Is pretty good I think

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What did they mean by this?
I've had discovery off for weeks

Help with bio?

Accounting major so don't tell me to add in my major.

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>>25051299

>>25051162
It's just a generic message to get you to check back in.

A while ago I downloaded the pof app but never even signed up and it gave me weekly notifications along the lines of "new matches in your area" or "new singles available" (stuff that's technically not a lie) even tho I never registered an account with the app.

It's just the way these apps work nowadays.

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I've been asking on Reddit too for help with this profile and this is the current iteration. It used to do well in 2016 and now it's fucking SHIT. Unless I'm boosting it's basically dead in the water and desu I'm not like over the moon about the current boost matches either. Wtf has happened?

Has something changed that means this profile is no longer good? I don't really like the app anyway but it's fun to mess about with.

>>25040761
Double messaging is good. Don't do it yet though. Message her randomly in like 4 weeks or something... Just something totally unrelated. Because of the way the app works it's not rare for mega desirable women to not message back... Who really gives a fuck if you're not their #1 choice it's not like you're going to stay with them... And they might like you as a person anyway after meeting and then it doesn't matter anyway...

So yeah just double message, triple message, makes no diff, just leave weeks and weeks in between and make it unrelated.
>>25042409
Girls love Friends... They hate Seinfeld.
>>25045739
No it's not. It's much harder than real life. Which is also not that easy unless I'm high on Ecstasy.
>>25047135
Don't put pics with kids they might think it's yours. Every pic is in the house.
>>25049067
Delete #3, #4 looks really really homosexual but not bad looking so up to you
>>25051304
ANY date other than drinks/straight to yours/her place = death IMO I would never meet a girl for anything else even if she was hot and I think women are the same.

Delete most of it, more info you give about yourself the more chance there is for her to see something she hates so w.e. just keep the first two sentences IMO lol. And the 5'7 bit perhaps keep too so you don't waste time.

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Feedback?

>>25051548
Records and books are a bit of a generalization. But past that, it seems pretty good.

>>25051411
What is your bio? Also, maybe switch up the pictures? You aren't smiling in any of them.

>>25051590
>>25051548
agreed. Add some of your fav books/genres and fav records/genres.

your leading pic isn't great. Not really a fan 2. Also what is up with all the goddamn animal pics man?

>>25051630
I live on a hobby farm.

>>25051651
hmmm maybe I'd through that in your bio. IDK. Maybe ad some stuff about what you do on the farm? I was really confused senpai

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>>25051671
How about this?

I really like my leading pic...

>>25051548
Try grindr, it's more your taste, faggot.

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>>25051548
Lose the specs, 4 eyes. And either grow the beard fully or shave it. And start lifting. You got a decent base, but right now look like a nu-male fag. All the best, queerboy.

>>25051976

Are glasses really that much of a turnoff to girls? I'm fairly attractive but don't really get a lot of matches. I wear glasses cuz I have insanely shitty vision and they recommended not getting lasik yet until my prescription stabilizes more. I feel like it's definitely killing my chances with girls and getting more matches since they think you're automatically a loser.

>>25051619
My bio is what you see. I look like a retard smiling so I dunno I don't do it in pics. Is smiling important now?

>>25051982
Just get contacts until you can get laser. I wore glasses for about 8 years, and only realized how shit they looked when i finally got contacts. Couple that with a good physique and you'll never want to wear glasses again.

>>25051991

Thanks. Next time I get my eyes tested (should be fairly soon) I'll ask them about contacts instead. I started wearing glasses in elementary school and full time in middle, so it's been too long

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>>25052035
They change everything. Can play sports again. Go to the gym without looking weird. Wear regular sunglasses. At first they seem impossible to adjust to or actually put into your eyes. It soon becomes second nature.

>>25052048

Haha that pic. But yeah my choice of sunglasses has been so limited by my poor prescription. Even basic stuff like laying in bed is a pain in the ass with glasses since you can't really lay on your side without squishing them.

>>25051699
im into it

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Remade profile, thoughts on pics?

>>25052371
grouppics suck

>>25052371
I'm jealous of your hair in the first pic. You got the lucky shade of ginger I got the shit end of the stick

I didn't get any matches then I used a picture of me with hot black girl coworker and bam bitches always match now. I don't know why but I think it's the hot black girl that gets them

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i used to get laid a lot when i lived in SF but now i'm back on the east coast and i get ghosted every time i've tried to meet up with girls here

should i update my profile, am i getting unlucky, or wat?

plz no bully

>>25052985

With those pics or other ones? No one can really tell what your face really looks like since you have sunglasses on in each pic

>>25053005
those ones, always had the same profile. face pics are overrated.. until now i guess

>>25053036

Oh. Well you had insane luck then haha. I'd recommend at least a pic or 2 with a clear shot of your face. See if that changes things at all. I'd get rid of pic 2 if you add 2 new pics.

>>25052985
Yo this guy >>25053054 is retarded, on drugs, or both. Your pics are way cool and very different from what most people put. If you change anything DO NOT get rid of the second pic. Women love triceps, white shirts, back muscles, and misty forests. That is your strongest pic by far

>>25051548
You look like a nu-male cuck that browses Reddit that like forcing his shitty opinions about videogames, movies, and shows on people. You'll probably end up dating and being enslaved by a feminist so I'd delete your Tinder if I were you, just in case she finds it and starts beating you.

>>25052371
Godspeed

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Rate and give suggestions on how I can get more cute girls to swipe right pls

>>25051987
Your camera resolution looks shitty. It was ok for 2015.

>>25053565
jesus. Your pic's good, but your writing makes it horrible. Cut the memes, food (everyone fucking likes food) and add some active stuff like skateboarding or hiking. Save the astrology idiocy for conversation - the girls who are into that bullshit LOVE talking about it - cut the INTP/"I guess that's important to me" ([spoiler]which reads as: "I'm insecure about my height - please get to know me before you judge me![/spoiler]) and lastly beef up your second paragraph. You're on the right track with the sappy romantic bullshit, but you need to sound fun and exciting as well.

>>25051699
too many animals - 2's pushing it - and steal a pic with people and/or you doing something active.

>>25053565
No one's going to care or be able to tell apart 5'10 or 6. It will get you loads if matches if you just say 6

>>25053684
when will they learn

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is this bad

>>25053684
what if you're 5'9". Why even mention height?

>>25054008
Don't

How do I even start a convo? Feel like an autism with four matches and haven't sent any messages

>>25054099
Does her profile have anything interest that catches your eye? Comment on that. Otherwise just a "how is it going/ what do you do for fun/" if you're stuck. I've found sometimes putting their name at the beginning of the sentence works.

Don't stress out over it too much, you'll get a bunch of matches eventually. Some will stop replying others will agree to a date and then flake, hopefully she will at least tell you. Sometimes you'll go on a date and it will be crap and you'll never see her again, sometimes it works out ok.

>>25054099
I always start with, two interesting things about yourself?

>>25053581
Oh shit well I didn't even think of that... So what exactly are people taking pics with, has everyone got an iPhone or some shit, I know they take good pics.

Thing is my second pic though is taken with a professional camera at a club. I can't use it as my profile pic coz people might assume I'm the guy on the right. And if I crop him out it looks like a pic with a girl which is shit coz people assume it's an ex or fuckbuddy or something. Also I probably look best in the first pic.