Ask the opposite gender anything

How do I initiate sex with a girl out coming on too strong?

>>24279592
Fine then. Would women prefer a tall guy with a small dick, or a short guy with a big dick?

inb4:
>cut or uncut?
>y girls no like me
>pads or tampons guy

>>24279604
tall guy. dick size is way less important than you insecure idiots think it is.

>>24279612
>>24279614
>>24279621
Good answers

t. Tall guy with a small dick

>>24279628
I mean, she's going to be disappointed (unless you're really good at getting her off other ways) but you'll still get laid. Short guy big dick doesn't even get the chance.

>>24279648
Plus, a tall guy's small dick is the same size as a short guy's big dick.

i need a good ice breaker 2 ask a girl out on fb. Havebt talked in years, ahe likes me, still does

So, I'm depressed and socially anxious. When talking to a girl, I could be honest and act the way you expect a depressed and socially anxious, and lets throw in insecure as well, guy to act. In my experience, which is rather limited, girls and people in general don't respond well to people that act like that.

So sometimes I act like I'm not depressed and socially anxious. Put on a happy face and make a lot of jokes, and all that jazz. I act like this when I'm around coworkers or my family. So, what I'm thinking is that I act like this whenever I talk to a girl. Should note my communication with girls is mostly done through apps and internet stuff.

Will this work? Or do girls have magic powers in detecting these things?

>>24279669
Ehhhh I'm pretty sure dick size is universal and not relative. Also wouldn't a dick look smaller (even if it was a normal dick) on a tall guy just due to proportions?

>>24279710
>look smaller
Exactly. A tall guy with an average dick has a small dick. A short guy with an average dick is well endowed.

>>24279648
You just had to rain on my parade?

>>24279717
Nah they both would just have average dicks just from an outside perspective they look different sizes

>>24279584
A female opinion on the board /r9k/?

>>24279702
Yeah, certainly won't hur. It's pretty hard to hide a deep-set sense of insecurity when you're in a situation (approaching strangers, flirting, dating, etc) that is tailor-made to make you feel inadequate a majority of the time though.

>>24279774
kill yourself

>>24279783
for what purpose?

>>24279788
So you don't go on r9k anymore and/or spread that shithole elsewhere in the world.

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How come you haven't posted a single question in this thread yet?

t. male

>>24279628
>>24279818
what the Hell is t.

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>>24279827

How come you're a newfag and still posting?

>>24279692
Just ask to catch up with her, if you know a place you think she'd like to go to, the better. Don't over think it.

>>24279596
How well do you know her? How far have you gone? What ages are you two? Go for kissing or cuddling or some other form of physical contact and assess from there.

>>24279702
Hiding your true feelings is easiest on the internet.

>>24279894
by asking if you're male or female at first

>>24279894
By taking you to the nearest gym

>>24279910
>Non binary but my assigned sex is female
what the fuck

>>24279877
We've gone on a date or two and have kissed a few times but ya know I want to make a move. I'm 18 and she's 19 I think another problem that I see is where to do it. Do I just make sure my house is clear for a few hours and invite her over?

Male to Female:

With subjects such as extreme bipolar depressive disorder, heavy anxiety and lack of sexual drive, when in the dating process is a good time to bring these issues up? As a male, of course.

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>>24279902
>>24279919

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>>24279792
its literally all true though

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>>24279950

roasties will never admit it, though

>>24279827
It's short for "sincerely" or "regards" or something.

>>24279931
Yall are young, she might not be comfortable with it, make your interest known but be understanding if she is hesitant.

>>24279932
That's a lot of stuff there... ugh I'm temped to say right from the start but probably around the time you go from small talk to seriously considering dating. Also I'm a dude but no one else was answering and I felt like thsee >>24279877 didn't require me to be female to answer well.

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>>24280036

>breaking the rules

Do girls bother about facial scars? I have a big one on my eyebrow and a smaller one below my mouth and i've always felt insecure about them

>>24280217
Tough to say without seeing them. Could be anywhere from not even an issue to really offputting, unfortunately. How did you get them?

Apologies for the deep voice I've been speaking all day.

>>24279596
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0XBj7ZDGs65

>>24279604
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0yN21waO6Lc

>>24279692
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0vdQYSsc4X1

>>24279702
http://vocaroo.com/i/s15l2P7WRBAX

>>24279894
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1ncOPzzTr5P

>>24279931
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1tW2OFRw2Q8

>>24279932
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0RwNfYhjMCf

>>24280217
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0WQDSsNU2ml

>>24280233
Eyebrow one was when I was 2yo and sell on a rock, the edge of the rock slashed my eyebrow, looks like a stabbing wound desu. The other one is from like a year ago when I was drunk and accidently cut myself with a scissor (really dont ask how)

Will you take my virginity?

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>>24280269

based femanon

now ask a question; we have had 0 content

>>24280269
Well I'm like 11cm if that's more your size ;)

Kidding, but your voice really isn't that deep.

As a guy, I feel like with acne scars and blemishes, and the occasional pimple every now and then, that no girl will ever find me attractive.

I'm not bitter about it, but just want to know if that's true.

>>24280284
fell* on a rock

what typically causes a lack of interest in sex in women? my girlfriend recently lost all interest in me sexually, and I'm curious as to why this may be

>>24280284
Also for some reason my phone autocorrected "desu" to "desu" lol too much shitposting I guess

>>24280326
Okay its getting weird now

>>24280326

No, you're just a newfag who hasn't learned the filter yet.

>>24280334
Thx, newfag to /soc/ in fact

Need more detail on a lot of these questions anons
Like this one >>24280321
Could be stress or exhaustion. Could be she doesn't feel attractive. Could be you're not good in bed or she's cheating. Could be she's just generally dissatisfied with the relationship. What else is going on between you two besides just the sex?

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>>24280333
>>24280334

And to top it off, you stole my trips.

>>24280304
whats the best way to please you?

>>24280342
whenever we do have sex, I spend a fair amount of time making sure she's aroused, mostly because I love eating pussy an oddly high amount. she's not under any sort of extra stressful occurrences, and she doesn't seem emotionally distant as if she were cheating.

>>24280347

Good one.

Daily remind me how intelligent you are by btfo'ing pseudo-intellectuals and SJWs on both sides of the sex divide and redpilling me everyday—nonphysically, that's what I'd like.

>>24280304
Alright, I'll write it out since it can get unfortunately monotonous to click a bunch of voice links.

Guys: If you had an ex-girlfriend who made a collage photo of you two and friends that was really nice, and your current girlfriend also wanted to make a collage photo with you two as she understands you value photos, would you compare the two? Would you feel like it was weird and some kind of copying? Would you appreciate it as much? What if the first one was better? Worse?

I am wanting to make my SO a collage of our vacation photos but his perfect model-tier European ex-gf did the same. What is worst is they shared a friend group whereas his friends are all friends with her and live an hour away so I've only met them a few times and it's been a bit awkward with a language barrier and point being we have absolutely 0 group photos, just couple photos, and I feel like that combined with his ex-girlfriend's collage photo that still rests on his nightstand in his childhood home is just going to make my gift look like shit which sucks because I'm crafty and put a lot of thought into gifts and he absolutely HATES photos going on Facebook and social media because he thinks it's needless and prefers to keep our memories between us but the struggle is real because his ex-gf did crafts too and was unfortunately fucking good at them and he still has her shit everywhere so I'm held to high quality rich model craft standards and I don't want gifts to be some weird comparison and competing game, I just want to give him something cute that he'll appreciate and that will last him FFS.

>>24280347
stucj a thunb up my ass and call me tommy boy. while sucking my small toe in a 90 degree angle

>>24280321
not being chad

>>24280455

It depends on his personality. He sounds like Chad. I have no idea what Chads like.

I'd think it was neat, regardless. If he likes anime or manga, you could make a manga style collage with pics in black in white (except color cover photo), in chronological order from right to left, story book style. That sounds cool. You definitely need to be creative with the presentation. Don't just do girly shit.

Average Height (5'8-5'10) and handsome

or Average Face and tall?

>>24280455
No, if that's what he likes the experiences he has had with you are special and unique. They are not the same or copying, he will appreciate your effort and the unique style and decisions that you made creating the gift.
I'mreally into art and aesthetics and seeing something similar or thematically close just allows me to appreciate the contrast and differences.

>>24280217
it honestly depends on person to person, and it also depends on how you carry yourself. certain 'flaws' can look great on certain people that carry it with confidence (they can become endearing, defining features), and then there are people who you can automatically tell are insecure about it and it becomes something people pick up on and throw back negatively, even if the scar isn't ugly.

most people I know think of scars as attractive because it shows you survived through some ordeal. so yeah, I think you're fine m8

>>24280286
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1jO2tujR8HL

>>24280308
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0A0HMhc6nwD

>>24280310
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1HARyERODBx

>>24280321
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0uNrQnzu1tt

>>24280481
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0l3kBELOUhi
tl;dr How to be creative? If you don't want to listen, my ideas at the end: Make a collage with our cute photos in a special frame, black (he is simplistic, refine and clean in his stuff, even professionally framed the fallout poster that came from FO4 lmao), write cute messages on the back of the photos about what the memories mean to me, in between the photo and the back of the frame I want to put a heartfelt, handwritten letter about how much i love him and then so that it doesn't seem like the only thing/like I copied his exes stupidly-awesome collage photograph, I am going to add something with it.

My ideas on what to add range from: Beard kit (wanting to save this idea for xmas as it's expensive), Custom date jar, Custom homemade coffee or lemon candle, DIY Date jar, message in a bottle, baked sweets (he doesn't eat sweets often tho), a cheesy card (this country doesn't really do cards and they're like 7 euro a piece, small and ugly so it would be homemade), or like perhaps a cute trinket he would like. idk gifts are so hard dddddd

>>24280509
Thank you, I think he really just is quite sentimental honestly so I know he will appreciate more handmade and artsy things. I am just wanting to do it to a standard that I can be proud of and that he can be proud to display it like he displays his exes items. You know?

>>24280551
You make it personal so that either no one but you could have made it or it was tailored just for him and he'll cherish it forever .

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>>24280543

Listened to the whole thing, anon-chan. Pretty comfy tbqh.

Now. You sound hopelessly outclassed in the collage department. Lol you even sound outclassed as a gf. You must be a real great girl or pretty, cause dude sounds total Chad. His bro's not a Chad. Good catch, anyway. Be sure not to fuck it up. Dudes like that are once in a long time.

Yeah, I'd say scrap the picture book. I like your mason jar ideas. Do the pop-sicle stick date options in conjunction with the sand. If you write the dates on the part of the stick stuck in the sand and have the other end exposed, the sand would hide the writing and pulling from it would be random. Don't fill the jar up with too much sand so there's enough space to grab the sticks, and make sure they can fit in a sealed jar, because needing it to be unsealed all the time would be a pain in the ass.

Now we/you need to think of date ideas.

>>24280591

I also agree that you need something(s) else to go with it. If he's not a health nut, you could bake him the most decadent dessert he's ever tasted. Chocolate cake with raspberry, perhaps. I wouldn't underestimate the power of homemade cooking, here.

Unrelated question, if you're European, what's up with the NA accent?

>>24280543
A message in a bottle like a heartfelt handwritten letter is an amazing keepsake. Trinkets are cute and can holdsuch great symbolism if given/received from the right person.

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>>24280645

At first I thought this suggestion was gay, but now that I think about it, if you wrote just one super high quality letter to him with enough variety in its content and feeling in its diction and meaning on its page, it really could be a timeless gift.

>>24280543

So you have three things so far, Abby: mason jar, cooking, and letter. You only need one last thing, preferably something he can use/ that will be useful for the rest of his life, for your gift to be complete.

>>24280321
how old are you guys? how long have you two been together?

my best friend had the same thing happen with her boyfriend of 6 years, she slowly lost interest in sex despite responding to it still, because there was none of that spark on his end. no foreplay, nothing romantic anymore, it was basically just clock work at that point.

try having more spontaneous sex and see if that helps. it could be that or it could also be that she simply doesn't need a lot of it at the moment. I know personally I go through month where I'm not horny at all and it's actually a hassle.

try talking to her, that's honestly going to be the easiest way to figure shit out

>>24280493
average height and handsome, what kind of question even is this

>>24280674
It *might* be a little gay but I'm sentimental and would treasure it.

>>24280690
question from an ugly tall insecure guy

>>24280710
post your face

>>24280747
>>24280710
Nah I'm 5'8 and get rated 8/10 on avg on here

what would you rate these features

face, height, body, personality, dick,

>>24280774
for a casual fuck:
body, dick, height, face, personality

for a relationship:
personality, height, face, body, dick

but really for relationship i'm not going to be interested if any of the first four are below average. dick i can deal with kinda small only if you're amazing with tongue and fingers and don't mind me using big toys

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>>24280543

>women's luh-bye-doh

Around six months ago, two girls were interested in me, I also liked both of them. One became my gf, the other is friends with my gf. 2 months into the relationship, we had a threesome together. Me and the other girl texted a lot (some flirting back and forth) for the next 30 days or so. Gf found out and was a sad panda, confronted her friend and also confronted me. Her friend and I promised to stop texting eachother.

My question is, if I'll ever become single, do you think I'd have a shot with the other girl?

>>24280817
She sounds like a slut so probably could definitely fuck her. But if your current gf found our or you tried to date the other one then bad shit would blow up between the two friends.

How do I cope with the fact that I have denied every girl attractive or not that has shown an overwhelming interest in me before and now my chance is gone?

>>24280832
anon you sound like a /r9k/ user. Are you?

>>24280840
hell no, see >>24279783
Regardless of what r9k neckbeards think, a girl who has a threesome with and is sexting with her friend's bf is probably not going to have many qualms about fucking him after they break up

>>24280832
Yeah, I figured things would blow up between them. They were fighting already, but the other girl promised to never do this again. Hypothetically, I am just curious if I still stand a chance with her, if my situation will ever change. I felt great chemistry. However, I also have good chemistry with my gf. I don't plan on leaving her for her friend.

Thanks anon

>>24280861
Thanks man. I'll keep that in mind!
I won't contact her btw, if I'll ever get single that is. If she contacts me, I'd reciprocate.

>>24280591
http://vocaroo.com/i/s17kgzrSM669

>>24280620
http://vocaroo.com/i/s06v5Vu6VUu6

>>24280645
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0W1Ylv0DQVJ

>>24280674
http://vocaroo.com/i/s11eiAbwuI6B

>>24280796
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0g9tWygrUsZ

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Ask away xx

>>24281301
Bare breasts?

>>24281314
what?

>>24281045
You tie a string around the the message so you can retrieve it and retie it and insert it.

Ketchup

Why does my girlfriend only want to have sex with me once a week? I could fuck every day, but she limits me to once a week.

Femanons: my girl says she loves my dick, but when I asked her what sex toy she wanted as a present, she encouraged me to get a big one. I am not small at all but she definitely has an interest in dildos that are larger than me. Should I be concerned? I don't want to desensitize her pussy to my comparatively smaller cock.

>>24281440
Not massively, just said she wants a big one. She doesn't want some kind of dragon that's going to split her open. I think she likes girth. I'm slightly above average length but average girth. Shefeels slightly looser than previous girls I've been with. Wondering if I don't quite fill her up. The sex is awesome, she has orgasms, says stuff like "how do you know exactly how to fuck me?"

I'm not so much concerned that I'm not big enough to satisfy her, more that if we use a big dildo during foreplay, like we already do sometimes with another one we have (that is smaller than me but she enjoys), by the time I stick it in I will feel noticeably less big to her and she'll feel looser to me.

>>24281423
>>24281448
well she may or may not be "dissatisfied" with your dick but obviously she wants at least a different experience with a big toy. best advice is don't be threatened and just be involved...use the toy on her, don't let her go to the bedroom alone and get herself off with it instead of sex.

and it won't stretch her out or anything unless it's massive so don't worry about that. just be focused on having fun together whether that involves your dick in her, a dildo in her, or any of the million other things you can do together to get (both of you) off.

>>24279774
I post on r9k a fair bit, I assume that most of it is just shitposting and bait so I don't really mind. their opinions on virgins vs non virgins don't really affect me because I'm never going to have sex any time soon and I'm well aware that having sexual partners is normal and not a red flag, the red pill is dumb to me but again it doesn't really make a difference to me one way or another
I'm really just there to read the stories of awkward encounters and post about bad things that happen in my life

>>24281448
Get the big toy, it's better than her going to some other guy

Is there any women who like to watch a guy wank I l9ve to be watched and I feel it's hard to find some one who is in to that too also like to be watched as I fuck too

>>24279596
Reading the mood. "Too strong" is relative, some girls are going to be cool with you asking 'want to fuck', many others are not. In general? I would say just make time to spend time with her and flirt. That's how it happens.

>>24279648
I know plenty of short dudes who do excellent for themselves. Most women I know just want a dude who is taller than they are; the common complaint that tends to come up with shorter guys is how fucking paranoid and insecure they get about it. The dudes who do alright do not give a shit that they are short, and are just comfortable being in their own skin.

>>24279692
If you're talking "formally ask out", I would say don't bloody do it over facebook - but I'm a bit older than you and I tend towards making stronger gestures. If you're talking in a GENERALIZED sense? I would generally say:

- Reopen communication. Talk to her about how you were reminded of her by [ what ever the fuck ]/thought of an old memory and was wondering what she was up to. Get some conversation going.

- When you're both enjoying it, invite her to join you for coffee or such. Hit up a cafe. Something low key. Rekindling things.

- Flirt your ass off.

"Icebreakers" I feel are really over rated, especially when you're talking generic. The best ice breakers are what you know about the person / what they like; it's personal.

>>24279702
Look at it this way: Dating is about "selling yourself". Shy or anxious or what ever is not necessarily in and of itself a bad trait, but it makes it a LOT harder to sell yourself. In general, people want partners who are engaging / enjoyable to be around / funny / yadda yadda.

You can be anxious / shy and you can still be all of that, but it's a lot less obvious than the dude who is grinning his ass off and openly joking and having fun. That's why people like that get attention - because they sell themselves a LOT more effectively.

>>24279702
As for your specific question: Yes, it will work. Because you're selling yourself more effectively - you're doing that old dating trick of "sell the best version of yourself". The problem inherent in THIS situation though is .. You're not really selling "yourself". You're selling something removed from yourself. You may ABSOLUTELY find success at this (women don't have magical powers), but you're also going to find people will see through it. Some of them will see through it immediately, some of them will see through it over a longer time period. Any relationship you create is going to be based on her dating a mask of you, not [you].

Best advice? Work on yourself. Work on that depression and social anxiety. Don't necessarily hide them, but don't let them be soul sucking things that end up burdening your partners. They are YOUR crosses to bear, not theirs, and they cannot fix it for you.

>>24279932
Dude here and all, but you're essentially dropping a HELL OF A FUCKING LOT OF RED FLAGS THERE for a lot of people. I would recommend not exactly hiding it, but being clear that you're (PRESUMABLY) actively treating yourself and working to better yourself. Expect people to skip on by.

>>24280321
Stress. Anxiety. Birth control fucking with it. Not feeling attractive. Not finding the sex fulfilling. Lots of potential things. Have you talked to her / has she talked to her GP if she is worried?

>>24280455
I don't see a reason to compare collage photos. I mean, the reason they are important is because the person in the collage, not the fact that it is a collage. I might appreciate one more aesthetically than the other if its like .. Graphic designer level collage, but that doesn't mean that there's any difference in level of enjoyment or appreciation.

Have you talked to him specifically about this / your anxiety?

>>24280543
To be fair, posters look like shit if they aren't framed. Frame them and they suddenly are an art piece.

>>24280817
Maybe. Maybe not. Depends. Friend could be uncomfortable because of the shit that happened. There's no hard and fast rule on that.

>>24280836
Your chance isn't "gone". Just stop being a shit.

>>24280861
Eh. Nothing wrong with the threesome. Sexting behind friends back is uncomfortable as fuck though.

>>24281403
Have.. Have you talked to her?

Could be a few things:

- Differing sex drives
- She feels like she needs to recover
- Just isn't that interested.

>>24281423
Dude. Vaginas are elastic. You literally cannot desensitize her by using a bigger toy. Stop feeling threatened by a toy. She still wants your dick.

>>24280764
I doubt that but okay

>>24283720
yeah nah, the vagina is 'elastic' but a bigger dick or toy feels a lot better because it rubs against everything more and gives more friction, making it easier for a lot of women to cum.

>>24285166
And? What's your point? A toy can also feel a lot better because its often ergonomically shaped and can have vibrating features. It doesn't mean that women don't love dicks still.

In the first place, 75%+ (some studies show up to 90%) of women cannot come from PIV alone. There's a much higher rate of orgasm from oral sex. It doesn't mean that fucking is pointless - it just means you should be diversifying your skill set.

Girth is commonly a desired trait, yes. It how ever also in turn means that someone is going to have to need an increasing amount of prep to be able to handle it, assuming that they can handle it in the first place. People will have variations on the amount of girth that they can comfortably take.

The vagina is elastic - that is to say that with some prep work it can accommodate a larger toy or cock ... And that it's going to return to "normal" super fucking quickly when said object is removed.

I've stuck things considerably larger than my cock into partners of mine and then fucked them immediately after and neither of us had the slightest bit of complaints about it.

how would you react if someone told you they wrote a song about you

>>24281301
how often do u fap and what do u usually think about while doing it?

>>24285164
Why?

>>24279604
>>24279612
>>24279614
>>24279621
>>24279628
>>24279648
>>24279669
>>24279671
This thread has shown me just how stupid as fuck this entire board is. Tall guys are freaky as fuck looking and usually have tiny dicks (unless they're black.) This whole thread reeks of virgin.

>>24285569
t. manlet

>>24285569
Probably just a bitter virgin lanklet or two, with some trolls jumping in. I don't think a single one of those was written by a girl.

One for the birds:

I'm a guy who generally doesn't smile much. It's not so much resting bitch face as it is a natural tendency to frown. (To the point where walking around at night, people will cross the street if they seem me coming. Doesn't happen *all* the time, but often enough. >tfw Polish genetics)

What's more, I only tend to smile when talking to people I'm quite friendly with, if it's a forced smile then it tends to manifest as more of a shit-eating smirk.

On that basis, is there a particular way of approach women when your facial expressions aren't exactly "warm", or is this just some I'm going to have to try and work on?

>>24281914
My gf likes to watch!

>>24285673
Use your whole save when fake smiling. Real smiles causes your nose to crinkle a bit and your eyes to squint, maybe even your eyebrows to raise. If you're only moving your mouth it's going to look forced and weird.

Do guys want girls to approach them? What's the best method of doing so?
Also I don't really leave the house much and when I go places guys are very nice and try to talk to me but I don't really know how to keep the conversation going I think I come off as painfully shy and accidentally push people away

>>24280269
holy shit i think you might have recorded voicemessages for my ex girlfriend some time ago on this board

>>24286121
>Do guys want girls to approach them?
It varies. For most guys it's not much of a turn-off, and can even be seen as pretty cool. In fact, if a guy is shy it's probably best.

>What's the best method of doing so?
I'd say make subtle advances, and be patient. If he seems oblivious, you can eventually be straight-forward and just ask him out.

As for coming off as shy, chances are they just think you're reserved on account of being out of their league. After all, if guys are really nice and try to talk to you, they probably think you're cute. So maybe just make yourself more available, if that makes sense. Be more openly welcoming.

>>24285855
Would she watch me

>>24285855
Sorry I'm foward

>>24285569
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unique-everybody-else/201210/the-pseudoscience-race-differences-in-penis-size
You are the virgin if you believe the BBC meme.

>>24285569
salty manlet detected

>>24286121

>Do guys want girls to approach them?

Some guys do, some guys don't.

If you're thinking about asking out a hot, confident, sociable guy, then he's likely to find you weird and be put off. If you talk to the shy, introverted nerd who has no idea how to approach women, your chances are a lot better.

>>24286253
>>24286274
Don't be sorry, but it's unlikely. She doesn't find men stroking their cocks in general to be hot.

It's so good though doing it in front of her. Have you had the pleasure of a girl watching and enjoying it?

>>24286332
>>24286140
Okay so I'm going to pass on trying to approach guys first because I just don't see it going well for me
How do I make myself more approachable? Whenever people come up and talk to me when I'm out they ask if I'm okay and talk to me like a child. I have a baby face so I think people assume I'm younger than I am and I've been told by my friends that I have "resting sad face". How do I stop looking like such a pityable person? pls help

>>24286604
dress sluttier

>>24286604
>Whenever people come up and talk to me when I'm out they ask if I'm okay and talk to me like a child.
Why do you think they do this. Looking vaguely sad in your face doesn't quite explain it. Are you an autist who wanders around disorientated and confused by the world? What do you think people first notice about you that causes them concern?

>I have a baby face so I think people assume I'm younger than I am
Not a problem for females, trust me
>and I've been told by my friends that I have "resting sad face"
Well I find resting bitch face really hot. I imagine resting sad face is not too dissimilar.

>>24286604
Just smile and try to look approachable

>>24285263
It depends on who it was. If it was someone that wasn't like my best friend I'd be outwardly appreciative as best I could but in my head I'd be running for the hills and I'd do my best to never talk to them again to avoid awkwardness.

This guy I've known for 12 years wrote a song for me and I was still mildly creeped. (It was very heartfelt and nice but "wrote a song for you" is a red flag.) It's just not something you do. It's definitely a too much too fast move, stick to writing songs about people you're already in relationships with.

>>24286121

Personally, no. Irreversibly changes things for me.

>>24286612
I'm not this girl but I need help too. I dress slutty (like short dress nothing underneath slutty) and I still read as "cute". People tell me it's the babyface, huge eyes, and general shy demeanor. So I get a fair amount of "nice", quiet, not the most confident or attractive guys to talk to me or ask for my number or a date. I'd guess I'm of average attractiveness. Do you think confident and attractive guys just looking for sex pass me over because I'm not pretty enough? Do they think I wont be interested? What am I doing wrong? What's the whore signal? If you were talking to a shy girl, what is something you would take as a clear indication of interest in sex?

>>24286934

You're of average attractiveness, but you're upset about not sleeping with the really attractive guys?

>>24286940
I'm upset about not sleeping with guys of even equal attractiveness who are confident. The guys I attract don't want to sleep with me right off they want dates and a cute relationship. How do I seem like less of a cute helpless waif and more of a whore? I just want dick I don't want a guy to sit around with me and tell me my stomach is cute.

>>24286543
Not yet

>>24286959
>>24286934
Be aggressive. Initiate physical contract, bring up sexual topics. Text the hot guy at 2am asking him to come over.

>>24286959
What do u look like

>>24286959
Where are you from?

I'm balding really hard, people has started noticing, specially in my crown.

If you're into me, would you consider being in a relationship allthough you know I will be bald in about 5 years or you would you just keep the fwb relationship because bald guys are a turn off?

I am 21 years old btw

>>24286966
You'll love it. Good luck finding a girl who's into it.

>>24286978
I wish I've been looking for a year

>>24286984
It's not something you want to go bringing up during the flirting phase. Introduce the idea as part of an already established sex life.

>>24286992
I'm single right now

>>24286995
I gathered. Find the girl first, then see about fapping in front of her. Don't look for a girl who is specifically into it, it will most likely creep her out.

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>>24286969
>>24286970
I was hoping there was a way where I could still be quiet and shy damn lol. I mean there is but it would technically be date rape I guess hah. I do the whole touch the leg, laugh a lot, draw attention to my mouth thing but I hold attention for a short time and get no follow through.

I wouldn't say I'm heinously ugly. Just kind of a butterface with saggier tits than we'd all like.

>>24287008
Can we chat

>>24286977
I love bald(ing) men. Lots of other women don't care or are into it, too.

>>24286977
Someone who is legitimately into you wont be concerned about it in the slightest don't worry. Especially if you can grow a beard but that's not necessary lol. I know a couple irl. They're like 30, he's completely bald, they appear to be very happy.

>>24287010
Dude I think I know why you can't get any girls. Try to control the thirst just a little bit.

>>24287008
Yeah saggy tits but otherwise your body looks pretty good. Also it sounds like you're just not hanging around the right kind of guys...it's a cliche, but less nerdy weebs and more Chads if you're just looking for a fit dude to fuck your brains out.

>>24287008
Also, lady to lady, you have really nice breasts. They look incredibly soft, and your nipples are lovely.

>>24287018
I just wanna chat

>>24287008

You do have a very nice body. I'd happily hit that if you were anywhere near me.

In any case, the quickest/easiest solution to your issue (of just wanting to get laid) would be online dating. If you create a profile on literally anything and talk about how you just want to fuck, you'll be completely drowned in guys wanting to fuck you. All it would take would be the patience of sifting through all of the eager partners to find the ones you like the most.

As far as slutting it up in person goes, that's difficult to do without being aggressive. College parties, bars, other locations where dudes are trying to get laid would help you more easily find a guy who just wants to fuck you.

>>24287018
Well hopefully now that the university near me is back in session I will not be in short supply of chads. The summer around here is...depressing. I have my choice of chubby weebs or heroin addicts. Hmm, and I don't really have to be embarrassed in front of chads either, many of them are pretty dense. Ugh though I'm going to have to go to a bar I'm too old now all my friends graduated and can't get me into parties...I need to be shitfaced to talk to guys but I'm broke lol. Honestly I should just get drunk, go play pokemon go on campus next saturday and see what happens to me.

>>24287025
Thank you very much, they are soft they do have that going for them haha.

>>24287037
I actually was looking into that I just need to make a second facebook to attach the tinder to and am being lazy hahaha

I was talking to this one guy on kik about meeting up and then going to fuck in the woods but like...I don't want to die like that. My mother would be so disappointed.

>>24279584
Women: Would you rather date a Mexican or an Asian?

>>24287053
Where are you located?

What do girls enjoy most in the bedroom?

What part of making love/fucking someone appeals to you most and makes sex 10 times better when it's done right?

>>24287145
Taking little moments to just stop and look at the other person and appreciate what's happening between us. If you stop and pull away from me for a second and smile and tell me I'm pretty, I will absolutely die.

If we're talking a specific sexual thing, then I'd say having dudes pay attention to my breasts is something that I really love that doesn't often happen. Guys might suck on them for a moment or two, but that is pretty boring, honestly. I like a lot of light touching over my nipples during other acts. It seems like every single dude I meet these days is an ass man, and that's cool and all, but it kind of sucks to have my breasts go unnoticed.

Also, men making noise. Don't be silent in the bedroom. You don't have to put on a performance, but if you aren't much of a moaner, an occasional comment saying you're enjoying it or I'm doing a good job is nice, and I also like it when guys put their cheek against mine and their mouth is by my ear so I can hear them breathing heavy. Just something to know what I'm doing is good.

>>24287058
Oops, missed this question.

As an overall answer: I have no preference.

However, I have an aunt by marriage who is Korean, and she has taught me a bit of Korean and how to cook some Korean food and just a little bit about the culture, so if the Asian dude was Korean, I might give a slight preference just because there would be a starting point for something to talk about or discuss.

>>24287159

Huh. Because the last woman I nearly had sex with let me play with her boobs for pretty much hours. I find boobies absolutely fascinating lol

>>24285263
That's potentially super, super, SUPER fucking awkward. If its a close partner? I don't care, that's awesome. One of my partners draws things of me/involving me occasionally. If its a random? UNCOMFORTABLE>

>>24285673
Pay attention to the rest of your body language.

>>24286121
There's no universal answer. Just like some women want to be approached and some do not, some dudes will want it and will not want to. Plus it's dependent on the environment. At a social occasion? Sure! Approach away. While I'm out and about it can be quite annoying.

Just like for dudes: Read the environment, social cues, and body language.

That being said: I've had a lot of female friends have negative reactions when they approach dudes, because a lot of dudes get worked up and think its emasculating / "its their job as the dude". Would you really want someone that would freak out though.

>>24286604
Smile. Make eye contact. Look happy. Shrug. I don't specifically know because I tend towards the people who everyone else thinks are "unapproachable", but for the most part I would say its just about making it so you don't seem intimidating to approach, and fun to engage with.

>>24286934
Cute/slutty isn't a hard scale. People do not know you're not wearing anything under that dress, it's "slutty" to you ... And the people who know that.

You might be dressing "slutty" as far as you think, but not necessarily that provocative. Also, not really sure you want the dudes that are just going to go for you because you "look slutty".

Hit on the dudes you think are attractive. Flirt your ass up.

>>24286969
Yep. Ding.

>>24286977
Just shave your head dude. Or just carry on and live your life. People tend to care more about stuff people are insecure about or not attending to.

I shave my head every day or two. I get lots of compliments on my bald head. I am a whore. You'll be fine.

>>24287008
Hm. My immediate reaction is I wish you had posted an outfit/proper selfie. I mean, hey, nudity, that's great, but it's not like dudes are coming across you wearing just that on the street.

That being said: Ramp up the sexual cues. Wear pushup bras. Wear super plunging necklines. Yadda yadda. What ever the fuck really, for the most part though your actions will drive that home more - you're talking about dudes who will approach you but want to take it slow with you. You're not likely showing sexual interest.

"Touching the leg, laugh, draw attention to mouth" is basic flirting. It just means you find the other person interesting. It doesn't really mean much.

>>24287145
All sorts of different shit, just like men enjoy lots of different shit in the bedroom. Find out what your PARTNER enjoys, because it's not going to necessarily be universal.

That being said I would generally recommend learn to eat pussy and use your fingers well. Not even chick will dig that, but LOTS will.

>>24287200
Everyone is variable. I've had partners that can cum from just having their tits played with; I've also had others who find it fucking painful.

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>>24279894
By spraying you with this.

>>24287275
Everything I'm getting from the thread is not giving me a lot of hope. I do flirt I must suck at it. I literally can't hit on dudes I have a panic attack instead. I was hoping there were subtle things I didn't know to do or was doing badly. It's pretty traditionally slutty. You can see my nipples, fair amount of cleavage, if I bend down at all you can see ass. At this point I want dudes that will go for me. I don't think it's fair to expect a guy to be into me for more than sex and my appearance if that's all I want him for too.

What I'm learning is I'm incapable of doing what needs to be done so I need to just suck it up, stop complaining and deal with not getting any because I'm too timid.

>>24287372
Well yeah - if you are clearly not comfortable to the point of having a panic attack when you're flirty with a guy, that's not going to be a real aphrodesiac. Work on just being comfortable conversing way before you work on being specifically really slutty.

Or, again, use tinder or something you can talk online where it's easier to explain what you want without freaking out.

>>24287287
I posted that because nudes are what I had on hand and I don't show face here. If that's basic flirting tell me what else to do?! "Ramp up the sexual cues" how? What actions do I need to be taking to show sexual interest when I'm not even totally sure the guy is interested?

>>24287385
I want to skip the conversing. Not only does it scare me I have literally no interest in talking to anyone at all irl. Makes things difficult, fucking hate people but have a high sex drive. So tinder it is lol.

>>24279894
Hii I'm a submissive sissy boy willing to serve Mistress

>>24287404
Ok well that's a whole different issue that goes WAY beyond just wanting sex.

>>24287431
I can fake enough to get through a minimal encounter and I'm told I'm pleasant to be around, I just don't enjoy it and want to get to the fun part without having to learn if they have pets, what they like to do, favorite foods....pointless conversation. I can pretend to give a shit if I have to but I wondered if there was a way around it.

why can I pick up on ques that girls like me (girls I like) and still end up doing nothing? I've told myself it's because I don't want a relationship

>>24287453
>create tinder account
>put in profile "DTF only looking for casual sex"
>get a thousand matches, pick the best looking 7, assign each one a day of the week and get fucked every night for as long as you want
It's really not that hard.

>>24287540
Way to over simplify and not take into account anything to worry about when meeting people you found online. You don't have to be rude. That being said shit, you just made me figure it out. It's not so much that I don't know how to get casual sex it's that I want it from an alternate dimension where i'm not so worried about being murdered. I'm asking for the impossible.

Do girls ever fap to gay porn?

>>24287588
>implying that meeting a random person at a bar is any safer
It's pretty clear that you only focus on the negative about everything and have way more problems going on than not getting laid. Good luck with them.

>>24287588

To me, it looks like you're going to have to put up with some amount of smalltalk no matter what you do. Even if you go the Tinder route, you have to have a conversation long enough to reasonably figure out the person isn't an axe-murderer or a catfish. Even then, for meeting people online, the typical process is to meet somewhere in public before going to wherever you plan on doing the lewd, as if it turns out they never shower or they give off some rapey/murdery vibes or some other deal-breaker, you want to be able to tell in advance.

As much as I'd like to be part of it, there's no free dick-on-demand service. If you're local at all, I'd be okay with skipping all the bullshit and fucking you a lot, but finding people and fucking them without any kind of small talk is not what any person can reasonably expect out of life.

>>24287372
Then learn.

I don't mean to be callous, but no one has inbuilt "can hit on people!" abilities. It's a learned skill, and yes, some people pick it up WAY faster and easier than others do. But you're identifying an issue with yourself and your methodology, so work on it.

Personally my immediate thought is your body language might be projecting opposite of what you intend, or it might just be .. Too obvious. Hell if I know. Why not just make an online dating profile and make it fairly sexually forward then? Dudes will know what you want and you don't have to be forward yourself.

>>24287387
>>24287404

That sounds like what your major problem is here. For what to do? I don't know what to tell you; you're asking how to flirt and how to ramp up sexual cues without .. Being forward, or conversing with the person.

You lack a skill set. Yes, that's terrifying, but you need to build that skill set. As >>24287385
said, if you're panicking like that, you're not exactly broadcasting messages of "I AM SO DOWN TO YOU BEING FORWARD ABOUT STICKING YOUR DICK IN ME."

>>24287453
Then drive the conversation towards that.

>>24287538
Lack of interest? Lack of confidence? Why do you do nothing? You're the only one that can answer that.

>>24287670
all the time. gay, lesbian, solo male all of it

why do you keep asking where we want to eat if you don't like any place we ever suggest?

>>24280455
ey yo sounds he wants more crafts, when you don't like or care for something in an ex you don't double down. He must really appreciate it, if he hasn't told you other wise yet

>>24281301
you look really cute, how would you like to be asked about anal play?

Is it a turn-off to women that I don't drink alcohol? I'm not religious or anything, it just doesn't interest me.

I want to find the batman to my robin in a girl, the genie to my carpet in a woman, the boss to my naked snake in a lady. where do I find a tough confident leader willing to make me as her second ?

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>>24286615
>Are you an autist who wanders around disorientated and confused by the world?
Maybe. I think I look scared or something when I walk, I'm going to try to slunch less and and make eye contact more
>>24286666
would you consider this approachable? what qualities do you look for in people when you plan on asking them out?

>>24288443
I don't personally think it would be a turn off and I know it wouldn't be a turn off to any of my friends. it speaks a lot about a person if they're willing to their own thing

pls describe period cramps

>>24288526
In my experience one of the best ways to be more approachable is to find things to laugh about. Laughter is contagious and relaxes people very quickly.

How common is it for girls to go commando day to day? I have a friend who does it a few times a week and swears she's not unusual, but I don't really know many other people I can ask to determine if that's true or not.

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Male here. Why do girls cheat on me?

>>24288443
I don't drink alcohol either, so it's fine with me.

>>24288582
For me, it's just a super, super tender feeling from about my bellybutton to my knees, with a concentrated stabbing pain right in my lower abdomen. It makes me nauseated, bloated, and headachy, and I can't move without the pain becoming more intense.

>>24288674
I've never gone commando in my life, and none of my friends ever would, either.

>>24288582
Dude here, but the best description I've ever heard that I could understand was:

"Like when you need to shit really, really, REALLY bad.

But nothing is coming out."

>>24288526
It wouldn't interest me personally, but again, it's relative. I would say if you want to have any idea of "approachable" though, you're better off taking a selfie where you're looking at the camera. We get an idea of what you look like / are wearing and .. That's all.

>>24288834
Because people are shit. Have you talked to your partners? Maybe they just aren't reliable/trustworthy people in first place.

>>24287752
>>24288049
I'm not expecting to not have to talk at all, it'd be ideal but it'd be ridiculous of me. I'm worried I wont be able to tell if they're fucked up and are going to hurt me even if I do meet them somewhere public first. My track record with that is not spotless. It's a shame college guys are younger than me now, nothing TOO horrible could happen to me if I stick to dudes in dorms right?

I will keep an eye on my body language I'm probably "resting fearful" that is a very good point thank you. There's no way I'm going to not panic I have to learn how to mask it better and remember it's stupid I wont be able to make it go away.

I think I have a new question. Guys, if you're with a girl and you're not sure you should go for it what would you look for her to do before you felt confident making some sort of move? Or would you just ask?

>>24288674
I feel like the "average" girl only would when an outfit calls for it. (Don't want to leave underwear lines or indents in a bodycon dress or something) Vaginas are kinda messy most of the time, best keep that shit contained.

>>24288872
No way you're not going to panic? Do you have an underlying panic disorder? Are you getting treatment for it?

Lots of people have anxiety issues, that's totally fine. The question is managing and coping with it. Just "hiding it" might help but its not the ultimate solution.

As for your question: I would flirt, more and more blatantly. I don't really have a fixed .. Thing, nor is there anything I look for specifically.

>>24288987
I do as a matter of fact and I am under the direction of a psychologist when I say I can't make it go away and I need to learn to deal with it and not let it interupt I'm not just talking out my ass here lol. You'd think liscened professionals would have a better solution than "deal with it" but that's anxiety for you haha.

I guess I must be retarded because "more blatant flirting" doesn't really mean anything. Thank you though hopefully I'll figure it out.

Say I want a girl who:
>is a virgin, and saving it for marriage
>conservative
>likes vidya
>likes quiet activities like hiking and visiting museums
>is between the ages of 18-24
>is skinny to average body
Are there really girls like this out there?

>>24290813
>virgin
>not crazy
>attractive
there is maybe 1% of the female population that fits all three, and most of them are very religious (your call if that counts as crazy or not). MUCH better chance of finding one at 18 than at 24 and either way you're going to have competition. adding your other criteria just further reduces the field.

otherwise, pick 2.

>>24290883
Ugly girls are fine. Even slightly weird or autistic ones. Just trying to decide if I should give up on not dying alone.

>>24291048
I'd recommend not caring about whether or not a girl is a virgin. They don't magically change the instant a penis enters them.

If a girl has been a massive slut, fucking dozens of random guys, obviously that's a red flag. But it's really stupid and autistic to rule out a girl with a very normal dating history, and very normal absolutely includes sex.

>>24291068
Marriages between people who have only ever had sex with each other last the longest. Sex is the most powerful pair bonding experience humans can have, and should only occur between people who are so in love that they decide to spend the rest of their lives together.

>>24291193
Source?

>>24291193
Go back to r9k
Also once again those studies are essentially testing for religiousity, not being a virgin. Being a virgin and not getting divorced are both symptoms of the same thing and are not causal.

>Sex is the most powerful pair bonding experience humans can have, and should only occur between people who are so in love that they decide to spend the rest of their lives together.
This is just weird.

How do I get over my dick insecurity? And the fact that my gf's ex before me had a monster dick?

>inb4 it's stupid, virgin, blah blah

I understand it is dumb and all, but it is still STUCK.IN.MY.FUCKING.HEAD

>>24289791
I am glad that you're seeing a psychologist. "Deal with it" is pretty apt, but they should conceivably be helping you with CBT and medication. But, yeah, things don't just "go away".

"More blatant flirting" doesn't really mean anything, that's the problem with a lot of interpersonal interactions. They are heavily cued from social environment/context.

>>24290813
Yes?

>>24291193
Yes and no. I know the studies you're referring to, and it basically was summed up to be this:

- The more partners you have, the more likely you are to have kids

And

- The more partners you have, the more likely you were to have sex at a young age.

Kids from a previous partner were viewed to be the NUMBER ONE reason for marital instability. Having sex at a young age was viewed to be a source of instability because sex at a young age was correlated with abuse (this wasn't talking about consensual partners, just partners in general - the people who had sex at eight for example weren't generally consenting). Abuse correlated with unstable relationships.

So it was less "VIRGINS ARE THE BEST THINGS EVER AND WILL LEAVE YOU FOR EVER HAPPY!" and more 'people who have been abused are less likely to have stable relationships' and 'kids will destroy your relationships'. It was not in the scope of the study, but as >>24291297 said, confounding variables like religious or cultural pressure that YOU DO NOT BREAK UP, EVER is going to color the data as well (since religious and cultural pressure is the reason someone is likely to stay a virgin until marriage in the first place).

Your last line in >>24291193 goes against basically the majority of human history. Marrying for love being a common place thing is a fairly recent thing in human history.

>>24291366
75%+ of women cannot orgasm from PIV. "Monster dick" is fine but it can also have a lot of problems associated with it; a HELL of a lot more foreplay is generally needed, and women can still end up with vaginal tearing (literally, or micro tearing) which can lead to reoccurring infections and just being fucking painful.

It also makes it far less likely for someone to be able to do something like anal sex, and can make it quite a bit less comfortable to give head.

Outside of all of that?

Dude, she's fucking dating you. Not him. She has already said that she does not want his monster cock just by the fact he is HER EX. YOU ARE HER PARTNER. Are you two having sex? Is she having fun? Is she getting off? CONGRATULATIONS YOU WON. NOW SEE IF SHE WANTS TO TAKE YOUR COCK UP HER ASS.

For the ladies:

How big a deal breaker is it for a guy in his mid-20's with a degree to not have a job? Seems like anytime I have good conversation going with a girl, as soon as she asks "So what do you do for work?" the attraction just dies. I make a bit of money and I pay for dates when I can get them, so it's not like I'm trying to be fucking leech, but I have a lot of trouble finding work and I often have to take care of family. Is there any way to frame this in a way that doesn't immediately cost me the chance with the girl?

The only ones I can consistently get numbers from and meet up with are older ladies or chubbier girls. Nothing against either, but I feel like I'm capable of more.

Do you American ladies actually have any preference for uncut or cut?

>>24280217
This sounds attractive. Please tell me about the drunken scissors incident, anon. ;-;

>>24292188
I'm American with zero preference. It's all good!! Awesome for you if you're uncut though.

No memeing. How important is height for you ladies? When if does it become an issue? How short is too short generally? Etc

>>24292188
Polls show most still prefer cut, but thankfully things are changing.

>>24293961
They all said they'd take the tall guy with a small dick over the short guy with a big dick at the beginning of this thread, so at the very least most women view it as more important than dick size.

Girls, would you date a guy who has braces at an older age?
I'm 22 and I have a gap in my top row of teeth. I'm able to pay for them now but I'm afraid that I'll be too old for dating by the time my teeth aren't fucked.

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Girls, where do I meet women with my interests out in the wild?

I'm reasonably okay at finding girls on the internet through hobbies or games, and chatting to them without sounding like a sperg. Heck, I can even flirt with them okay. But, probably understandably, these things never turn out into relationships because long distance is pretty hard.

Problem is, things like anime, or vidya girls are very personal hobbies that you don't really advertise much in the real world, and if you don't, you might end up looking like a sperg.

I can't date a girl who doesn't share some of my interests. Heck, I'd have trouble even talking to them because they probably don't share my sense of humor or will gel with me well. Yet once I do find one, I'm as slick as butter or something and it's the best feeling. I can literally hold convos online for hours at a time with women, but that's online so I suppose that doesn't mean much.

>>24280326
>>24280334
Christ, all this time I thought people were actually typing 'desu'. Kind of disappointing. What's the actual word?

How should I approach an attractive woman while being honest but without being an asshole?

Females: why such an aversion to dating bi guys?

I've noticed a lot of women instantly switch of when I tell them I am bi.

>>24294398

I want an answer to this ass well.

The problem irl is that you have to hide your power level with nerdish hobbies. Girls on the other hand can do whatever the bloody fuck they want but most hide their power levels too.

>>24295358

*as.

ffs.

Would any of you girls would give a chance to someone who's been through a lot and recovering?

>>24294257
Okay well first of all you wont have braces on for more than 2 and a half years so "too old to date" is nothing to worry about. And if a girl is worth pursuing she'll be happy you're "working on your smile" some might find it offputting but if they like you they wont.

>>24295197
what is aids, alex

Do women think it's hot if a guy can suck his own cock?

what does the act of "ruining an orgasm" entail? I've heard guys talk about how this is part of their fetish but I'm not sure how it's done

How do I get back on the horse, got out of a bad breakup that was a bad relationship but we lived together for a long time so it's still pretty heavy. Anyways, It's hard to fall asleep without another person there so I want to get that back

Asking girls btw

>>24295197
Because they think he just won't admit he's gay

>>24294768
T-b-h.

>>24295197
A lot of women think you're lying about being gay, and there's a general misconception that bi=slut or unfaithful. Though being a bi grill myself, I wouldn't really have much of a problem with it. Maybe try to find a bi grill? They're more likely to understand, I guess.

>>24295358
Conventions. Go to a convention, wear a shirt, don't look or act like a total neckbeard. Say hi, ask if they mind conversation, because some will be open to chatting, some won't. Just be open and clean and friendly, and try to pick up on social cues.

>>24295440
What does this entail? Drugs, gun violence, mental trouble, financial? It'd depend a lot on how earnest they were about recovering. An alcoholic who goes to the bar to eat bar food? No. An alcoholic who won't even let liquor in the house and attends the meetings regularly? Much more likely. That kind of thing.

>>24279584
>came into this thread,
>read the first few questions and answers
feels good to be 6'5

>>24296419
Mfw your kid is a manlet

>>24295935
Guy here. Second pillow.

>>24296419
Too tall.

The girl I've been seeing, who took my virginity a couple months back, suddenly told me she thinks she's a lesbian, she just moved to another state yesterday and while I was excited to visit her down the line, I just feel really hurt. especially because I'm a socially awkward weirdo and talking to her while we were dating was difficult enough as it is

I guess my question to you women is, how do you cope with losing the option to truly be with someone you loved?

>>24296453
Too tall is a meme, girls love super tall guys esp if they're built.

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How the fuck do I talk to girls online?
I have two that I'm interested in and I am a fairly confident, extroverted guy to be around and speak with in person but online I seem so fake and shit

>>24296426
I dont have Kids

>>24295924
you stop stimulating his penis as soon as he reaches the 'point of no return'. if you do it right he'll ejaculate without/barely feeling an orgasm

I really don't know why dudes like that shit.

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>>24279584
if this man was to ask you would you

>> A jump in front of a train
>> B jump off a cliff
>> C beat him with a hammer
>> D shoot him and burn the body
>> E say no

>>24296396
Thanks, I guess I understand their thinking, I know myself I enjoy both sexes equally so definitely not gay. Have to date bi girls I guess.

Funny how the same line of thought doesn't apply to bi girls.

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>>24296849
Oh no, trust me, it does. People ask all the time if they're allowed to "see other people" because clearly we're hooking up with our female friends instead of, say, actually just talking to them? That, and (guys, usually) always get super excited because being bi MUST be an automatic three-way, right? Like I've had to make it preeetty clear that it's bisexuality, not polygamy.

Yeah. You guys get called half-closet fags, and we're greedy sluts. It's worse if you say pansexual (even though it's basically 'I don't care what you identify as or are I like u') because WHOO BOY, then you're CLEARLY just looking to get laid, and doesn't that include dogs too??

Anyway, yeah. It's easier to find someone who just gets it, and isn't gonna be suspicious or mocking. Sorry for the rant m8. Have a cat for your trouble.

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How the shit, do I ask this casual acquaintance out?

Do girls feel it when I cum inside of them, even if I don't indicate my orgasm with bodylanguage/words and just keep going. Or is it just noticeable when the cum drips out?

>>24297201
"hey do you want to get a drink/see a movie/smoke a bowl/play some vidya this weekend?"

>>24297201
I got that gorilla dick nigga. I make dyke pussy wet.

Girls, do you ever consider killing people? Do you get off on it?

>>24294398
I am not really sure why everyone is so obsessed with a partner who holds the same interests, but I really value independence and continuing to do own things in a relationship.

Honestly I would say just .. Meet more people in general. You presumably make SOME friends, male or female, who have similar interests with you. Their friends probably have similar interests; meet their friends.

I don't think that being interested in anime/vidya/whatever is something you have to hide, I would say the stereotypical sperg thing is when people narrow their entire life to that and have nothing to say / talk about outside of that, and they don't pick up when other people aren't interested or indifferent.

If you have those interests, bring it up, and if people don't respond you move on? They probably won't care that much.

In general I would say you're probably looking for nerdy folk. Go to nerdy events. Talk to nerdy people. Its ... Hard to specify, really, because its just "meet lots of people".

>>24295187
In what context are you talking about? If you're talking about approaching her randomly in the middle of no where, you're already massively fighting an up hill battle to the point I would suggest NOT doing it.

Approach women in social situations. If you're going to compliment them, do not compliment them on genetic traits - compliment them on things they PERSONALLY chose to express. Clothing, hair, music, books, whatever.

Don't have any expectation at fucking all. You find them aesthetically appealing and you want to talk to them; they know this. Don't EXPECT anything from it, and don't ASK for anything from it. Strike up a conversation. If conversation flows and there's chemistry, you keep going in context of what the situation is. Only go for someone's number if the vibe is really good, and after you've talked quite a bit. IN GENERAL I would suggest just giving them your number instead of asking for theirs, then wandering off to do what ever the fuck.

>>24295187
In general: EXPRESS AN INTEREST IN WHO THEY ARE. Talk to them and fucking listen to their responses. Ask relevant questions. Don't just talk about yourself. Don't get pushy. All you're doing is chatting with someone who LOOKS interesting, to see if they ARE interesting - you're not "getting a number", you're feeling out who they are as a person.

>>24295440
Plenty of folk are okay with that. Realize though that that is going to be a red flag for a lot of folks, and that's TOTALLY FINE. Make sure you're ACTUALLY ACTIVELY RECOVERING, because healing and recovering is about YOU, not about your partner. People can not do that for you.

>>24295197
I know women who are super into bi guys. I know women who are super not into bi guys. You're probably going to find more bi women that are comfortable with it.

>>24295765
See above. Some women think its super hot. Some women do not. Pulling from top of my head, I would expect fewer would find it hot than otherwise.

>>24295935
Going to second the second pillow dude; I understand the feeling well but grabbing people to fill a void is fucking risky move. You get back on the horse by going out and socializing. Don't really care that you're asking girls, there's no special advice - go out and socialize and flirt. You're going to be fucking terrible, but you're getting back on the horse after all.

>>24296526
Everyone has their own preferences.

>>24296536
Same way you do in person. Just ... Chat.

>>24296849
Oh it absolutely does. See >>24297110

>>24297110
You're talking about polyamory, not polygamy. Polygamy is multiple marriages. :P

>>24297502
I know plenty of women who do. I do not know many that (literally) get off on it. Similarly I know lots of dudes who do, I don't know many that get off on it. It takes a special kind of person to get off to the idea of killing someone.

Question for guys:
Some background: I live with my boyfriend in a town where neither of our jobs are located (we're trying to move soon). We also work different schedules: I work early in the morning and he works evening/late night. We only see each other really 2 hours a day unless I nap to be able to stay up later and he comes home right after he gets off, which rarely happens. I don't have a car so I can't leave the house on my own accord either.

Anyway, he made plans to go visit a friend overnight that's far away cause the friend is going through some stuff. This visit would fall during the second day that we both have off together.

Then yesterday, I found out my grandmother was in the hospital and I know little details because my grandmother refuses to keep us in the loop about her health. Well, he still seemed like he was going to go visit his friend until this morning when we found out his friend had a death in the family and that's when my bf said he wasn't planning on visiting but now he will (and he did).
Anyway, I was noticeably upset but I understand the situation so wasn't guilt tripping, but I think my obvious reaction and feelings came off that way. I guess my question is should I have tried to hide my disappointment better or do do you think he's not going to hold this against me?
I've been struggling with having no support system and we've had many talks about how I am jealous when he hangs out after work. Basically, should I worry or no in your opinion?

Guys how do you deal with rejection?

Girls why do you get upset when a guy cuts contact after you reject him?

>>24297893
Depends on the context it is in, and the form the rejection takes. If it's an early term getting to know the person I don't particularly care. If it's more something that is in depth, it rankles my ego a bit.

For the most part, the easy rule of thumb is quick pain is easy to get over. Rejections are usually quick pain. The long drawn out pain is what fucks people up. If someone makes a rejection take that path, it's rougher.

But for just general terms? Rejection is a part of life. What the fuck ever. Who cares.

On the flip side of your question in regards to "why do women get upset", because quite often this is essentially saying "you're not valuable to me outside of as a girlfriend/fuck buddy", and if they rejected you because they thought you were a friend or something like that, it basically causes the entire friendship to be recalculated because apparently you weren't actually a friend.

You would need to give more specific details if you want more specific commentary on your situation.

>>24297866
You should communicate. Seriously. You should not have to hide the disappointment business, but that doesn't mean that you should apply guilt. There's nothing wrong with going "Oh, that sucks, I'm kind of disappointed - I was hoping to spend some time with you. But I think you're making the right decision, it sounds like your friend really needs you" and telling him you need some time with him soon too.

Have you two tried to schedule some specific time for you to spend some time together? That bypasses the "I get jealous about you hanging out after work", because it doesn't stop him from doing that, it just means that it gets added to the schedule that he is going to spend some time specifically being a support system for you.

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super short, pale as fuck goth girl.
why can't i attract my own race? not that i'm complaining, it's just always made me curious, since i don't think i'm hideous.

do i reek of mental illness and some people just don't realize it as much as others?

>>24297969
A lot of people get put off by weird looking people

>>24297969
>super short, pale as fuck goth girl
Sounds fucking perfect too me

>>24297935
We actually communicate all the time about stuff like this. That's why I am so self conscious about the way I reacted to him wanting to go. I didn't guilt trip him, but I did tell him that I'm worried about my grandmother though I think he needs to be there for his friend. Granted, this was before death in his friend's family.
After the death and knowing for sure he was gonna go, I didn't have much to say, especially since I was slowly learning why my grandmother was in the hospital. I really just didn't know what to say or act so I just tried to be as light as I could muster.

We spend lunch together, which is less than 2 hours between me getting off work and him going into work and we do get one day off together. That's all we can do with our schedule right now. For me it's not enough and it's taking its toll (which we've talked about that too).
I'm just worried about how he's perceiving this whole situation cause I've been needy as fuck with never seeing him/having little transportation/human interaction but really today I needed someone cause I'm super worried about my grandma (which is probably why I'm even posting on this thread to begin with)

>>24297969
..Selfie, I guess?

I predominately date petite pale as fuck alt/arty chicks. I massively prefer pale skin, though my two main partners are actually darker skinned.

You listed some super unimportant physical traits. They have little relevance.

>>24298008
Hm. I am super glad that you communicate; have you talked to him about your current concern?

>>24298016
He left today and I don't think when he gets back I'll talk to him about this unless it turns out to be an issue. I'm just nervous that it will be.

>>24298008
basic communication goes a long way. try to be understanding that if his friend is very close to him it can be just as important to him as your grandma is to you.
sounds like the typical woman wants of affection are not being met due to time restraints, just be sure to enjoy what time you do have until a chance to change schedules comes.

>>24297969
I thought the goth/although scene was predominantly white people so I don't really know what to tell you because I'd suggest finding more white guys but I don't know if that would work. I'm half white and you physically sound cute to me, I don't think I would feel different if I were full Caucasian.

>>24297969
I'd say the goth stereotype isn't a healthy one and people probably take one look at you and expect you to be unfriendly/reserved. However I'd also say plenty of people would be interested in getting to know you given the chance. Humans and human behavior is fucking strange.

I have a question for any women out there. Would you feel okay with dating a guy if you knew he was virgin by choice and wasn't going to give it up for you? Or would you just steer clear of that before getting to know him? I'm a pretty socially active guy and love to have a good time but I keep attracting women and things get awkward quick. I just don't feel like I need that in my life, even a one night stand just seems pointless to me. I've lost a few friends over confusing emotions and I'm growing tired of it. How do I obtain a relationship without the sex part?

>>24289791
>More blatant flirting.
Literally use the phrase, "I'm trying to flirt with you. " No misinterpretation. >>24290813
Yea there are billions of humans

>>24291366
Do stuff that isn't dick related. Remember that it isn't super important to most women, most nerve endings in the vagina are in the first 4 inches. Sex can be enjoyable without any penal insertion meaning that you can enjoy it literally without a dick.

>>24292152
Not a woman, tell them that you help your family and work part time while you look for a job in your field.

>>24291366
dont worry about being the biggest, strive for being the best. the one who made her cum harder and more times. get that mentality of its not big enough out of your head. work on your performance, go a second round, pay attention to what she likes and rock her world.

>>24298032
If you have communication going, you should be able to get around it even if its an issue. That's what good communication is for. It's your choice entirely and all of that, but I would say if you're WORRIED - then it's already an issue. Not necessarily the issue that you are fretting about, but it does mean that you should talk to him about it. If it IS what you worry it is, its easier to nip it in the bud than to let it grow and rot.

>>24298035
That ... Dude kind of squinting at the whole "typical woman wants of affection"; everyone fucking wants affection, and she's going through a hard time. I feel like your half right but kind of being an ass about it.

>>24298070
Not female, but I have asexual friends out there. You can find people who are totally okay with that, but I mean, you're taking a super hard route because you're cutting out something that is considered to be a fairly normal (and core) part of relationships.

>>24298115
That being said, PAY ATTENTION TO HER and don't try to drill a hole through her until she cums / cums enough. I've had many friends complain that this is exactly why they will end up faking it.

>>24297110
I thought pansexual meant even animals and inanimate objects because the only time I had come across it was Freud and that's how Freud describes it.

>>24297201

Ask to hang out, flirt with him fortune favors the bold.

>>24297893
It depends on who rejects me and how. Usually I just remember that since they rejected me they weren't right for me.
>>24297866
>>24298008
Just tell him that you miss him and need time to be a couple. It's important for yourrelationship. Be understanding but make your feelings and needs known.

>>24298155
Pansexual is "not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity", to outright steal from wikipedia.

Freud is shit. Super interesting from a historical background perspective, but shit beyond that.

>>24298152
>>24291366
>That being said, PAY ATTENTION TO HER and don't try to drill a hole through her until she cums / cums enough. I've had many friends complain that this is exactly why they will end up faking it.
This, this right here, learn to slow fuck her and drive her wild, learn where to touch her, learn where to kiss her. Any schmuck can put his dick in but it takes a man to really fuck woman the way she wants/needs to be fucked. You gotta learn when to slap her ass, pull her hair, bite her shoulder/neck. You gotta learn where to grab her, how hard to fuck, and all these other things. As you figure this out add them to the bag of tricks and continue to get better. If you're not with her forever, the next woman will appreciate it anyways.

>>24298152
Thanks for the reply. I have personally never met anyone who was asexual other than me. I try not to mention it too much as people get really weird about it. Its not even than I'm lonely or want someone there, I just want to know that when the time comes I wont be alone.

>>24293343
Me and my friends were drinking one night anf for some reason there was a pair of scissors on the table, then I started pretending to cut my face (i was really shitfaced) and the scissors slipped and left me with the scar, but the beard covers it pretty well nowdays

>>24298070
that makes a lot of sense, actually, I've been told before that I can come off as closed off.

anyways, to answer your question:

do you mean you wouldn't want to lose it at all or not unless you both got serious? or are you asexual?

one thing I've learned is that unless the person you're friends with is either gay/likes a different gender than you or is asexual, it's almost near impossible for people to just be friends, especially as we get older and the pressure to have families and get married gets worse. even people who aren't attracted to you initially can form an attraction after getting to know you.

being asexual myself doesn't seem to deter many people who tell me they're fine with it, a lot of people will see it as a challenge...but again, like I said, friends who were either gay or asexual as well are perfect. there's a lot of asexual people out there looking for platonic nonsexual cuddling, which can help strengthen a friendship even more.

best piece of advice i can give to you is to be completely unfront with people from the beginning about these things.

To males:
Do you prefer introverted or extroverted girls? If somewhere in between, how so?
What is your opinion of girls into health/fitness?
At what age (if ever) did you decided whether or not you wanted to one day have kids?
How would you feel about a girl who was waiting until marriage for sex (penetration) but willing to do other things? Not for religious reasons
If you found out a girl you were interested in suffered from moderate anxiety, would this prevent you from wanting to date her? Marry her? What if she wanted you to comfort her on occasion?
Huge question dump, I know. Feel free to just pick a few to answer!
Would be happy to answer any questions after I take a shower.

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Girls would you date a 24+ yr. old virgin boy?

>>24298195
I'm sure I'm entirely asexual. I would love nothing more than to just have a normal sex life but I've thrown myself in to situations where its been entirely possible but nothing happens down there. I usually chalk it off as sexual anxiety because thats more common. If I had to describe what I'd want from a relationship it'd just be someone to share my experiences with. Just another person to live my life with. I live in a very small town and can say with confidence that I know everyone in my age range and have never met another who even came close to understanding me. I'll keep in mind to be upfront about it, platonic nonsexual cuddling sounds like heaven.

>>24298223
Introverted or extroverted is fine, personalities are more complex than that.
Paying attention to health and fitness is an attractive quality in anyone, obviously fat chicks wont get as much love.
20, I can't see me supporting myself for the foreseeable future so why throw a kid in to the mix?
I'm asexual, so fine.
I'd suggest she got professional help. Anorexia is not something to be ignored but I also wouldn't want to get too involved myself. This wouldn't change anything as far as dating is concerned.

>>24298152
typical *human* wants of affection. was not trying to be sexist, but it is well known that more often then not women seek affection more then males.the reality is she has to embrace and cherish what she currently has. dwelling on what she doesnt have just breads more negativity.

>>24298223
mixed feelings, it depends. extroverted would be more desirable for me though
extremely wanted in a girl, even if she's kind of chubby and works out. possibility of yoga pants makes my dick rock hard
I feel like after 25 I'll be more up to it but right now I'm still too childish to be able to take care of a kid
I'd respect it but I feel like that only works if both parties are both the same mindset in waiting until marriage
who doesn't suffer from some form of anxiety these days. you'd have to be a world class ass to not comfort someone who's suffering from an anxiety attack

>>24298167
Oh I should have prefaced that I mean that I used to think that. Before meeting a pan person.

>>24298185
Being asexual sounds really tough, sorry Anon. I had no sex drive when I was on antidepressants but I enjoyed that because I wasn't trying to be in a relationship or anything, also it is different when you are born that way.

>>24298223
>Iintroverted or extroverted
No preference they are different types of attractive/cute.
>Fitness/ health
In moderation it is fine. Some people get obsessive and then it isn't healthy and it isn't cool. It would actually be helpful to have a workout buddy.
>Kids
I like kids, if I don't have a partner by 35 I might adopt one alone. I don't know I was the oldest kid, always Taking care of someone . I'm actually really into adoption and would adopt an older kid but I have to wait until I'm old enough for that not to look weird as fuck.
>no penetration (spelling? )
That's cool, especially with other stuff. I might be worried if she didn't want to be touched or cuddled though.
>Anxiety
I'd be understanding and comforting but she'd have to be up front about it or I'd just assume that she didn't like me and I'd leave her alone.

>>24298339
Again on the kids I'm 23 and could probably take care of one right now but am single and busy and my dad always told me to wait until I could provide for a family.
Also if my partner really didn't want one it wouldn't be a dealbreaker

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>>24298223
>Do you prefer introverted or extroverted girls? If somewhere in between, how so?
Closer to introverted than extroverted; though an extreme in either would get on my nerves. I like a good night out now and again, but would prefer a woman I'm not going to have to carry home, get a taxi for, various other cliches, etc.

>What is your opinion of girls into health/fitness?
Average to good fitness is what I tend to look for in a partner. Went from chubby to /fit/ (sort of) in my teens and dislike the idea of somebody not having the accountability to get their shit together. Basically, not fat is good.

>At what age (if ever) did you decided whether or not you wanted to one day have kids?
After I start browsing /pol/, tbqh. So about 22?

>How would you feel about a girl who was waiting until marriage for sex (penetration) but willing to do other things? Not for religious reasons.
I would be completely OK with this.

>If you found out a girl you were interested in suffered from moderate anxiety, would this prevent you from wanting to date her? Marry her? What if she wanted you to comfort her on occasion?
Personally, no. I'm a believer in self-sacrifice, adversity, etc. So I'd just consider it part and parcel if I thought said person was worth the effort. If you started using it as some sort of excuse/psychological crutch for everything, I'd start raising an eyebrow, which would then eventually lead to me saying "fuck this".

>Would be happy to answer any questions after I take a shower.
Oh my, how audacious!

How would you react to a girl being a 27yo virgin?

>>24298178
Not even just that. Yes, that's entirely right, absolutely, but at the same time don't make it an obsessive fixation that she has to cum / has to cum right / has to cum enough. Orgasms are great and dandy, but sometimes they aren't going to happen, and sometimes the person just needs a break.

But yes, absolutely learn to do more than just stick your dick in her. 75%+ of women cannot orgasm from PIV alone, and if you're just thrusting, you're missing out on SO many things.

>>24298185
Something like 1% of the worlds population is asexual, according to some data. There is asexual people out there, but they are VERY small minority. You can find people, but you're going to have to specifically go looking for other asexuals most likely.

>>24298195
It's super fucking easy for opposite gender people to be friends. I say this as a person who is likely older than you, considering i'm 28.

>>24298223
Introverted or extroverted? Eh. *Shrug* I'm kind of biased because I'm non monogamous and all of that business, but for the most part I would be tempted to say I lean far more towards introverted women. I also end up dating a lot of extroverted women, buuuut, yeah, the ones I get closest to are generally fairly introverted.

It would also depend I suppose on how you are quantifying extroverted and introvert - I am not too interested in the women that go out clubbing all the time, but a lot of my partners are VERY social and VERY well known.

As for health and fitness: Eh. That's not a life style preoccupation of mine. If they want to focus on that, that's totally fine, but for people super serious/obsessed about this I tend to not get along as well because I am much more inclined to want a good meal and kick back and relax. That being said my main partner is FAR more shredded than any fitness model/personal trainer/athlete I know, and I dig her body, but she's kind of just a mutant and naturally like that without working out.

>>24298223

In short? Bodies fun, but that life style can create some clashes.

> Kids

I've never liked children, and likely will never like children. I have been tempted to get a vasectomy for the past like .. Forever, but I have yet to go through with it because I dislike making decisions that have such far reaching consequences.

I have absolutely no fucking desire to have children though, and view them to be kind of horrid.

> Waiting until marriage

Totally fine, but not likely to be my cup of tea. Which is totally fine. My personal policy is as long as someone is deciding FOR THEMSELVES when they lose their virginity, it's none of my business. My problem is when someone feels obligated to do it for other people, whether that means when they are young or to wait until marriage.

Personally I would be confused why you're waiting until marriage to lose virginity. That being said, I might attach some hanger-ons and say: If she was okay with fooling around and just not PIV fucking, I would be much more comfortable with it. Again though, I'm nonmonogamous, so "no sex" isn't exactly a huge issue.

> Anxiety

I tend to date alternative/artsy women. I am not sure where the hell you find alternative/artsy women that do not have anxiety. Most if not all of my partners have suffered from some level of anxiety about something, even the most outgoing ones. I am not bothered by this.

>>24299194
It would be a red flag. I am not BOTHERED by it because virginity is a social construct / doesn't matter / yadda yadda, but I would be very curious about why the hell you are a virgin at 27, and the answers could assuage or raise the flags higher.

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What do men think of a women's little pooch just under their belly button? I've had disordered eating for 6 years now, and I'm currently trying to deal with the fact that an academic life means half the year is spent going for meals and sitting down reading, and half of it is spent running round like a blue arsed fly. At the moment, my body is not where I'd like it to be, because of this little pooch area :( It makes me sad to see old photos where it isn't there.

What do men think of it? I know being insecure about it is the absolute worst thing I can do, but 6 years of body image issues is difficult to get past.

Pic is my lil tummy :(

>>24299480
whoops, iPhone flipped the pic, soz

>>24299480
Your body looks fine to me

>>24299480
You're female. Like 99.9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of women have that. Literally do not give a shit. It's super normal. It's rare to come across women that do not have that. REALLY rare.

>>24299480

Your body is fine. Wear some high cut bikini panties to dress classy and conservative and cover up those little rolls of fat.

>>24299480
You have a cute tummy and nice figure and if you're an academic you're probably interesting to talk to as well.

>>24299194
I'd be alright with that, as long as she was a romantic woman and I could enjoy spending time with her without her having to feel like she needs to compensate.

>>24299194
It's a little uncommon but I'd be cool with it.

>>24298223
>Do you prefer introverted or extroverted girls?
I'd say introverted since that all that I've ever been with, along with the fact that I'm quite an introverted person myself.

>What is your opinion of girls into health/fitness?
If they enjoy it good for them. If they're doing it to make themselves more desirable also good for them. Like seriously good for them, doing something you enjoy or bettering yourself is always a plus in my book.

>At what age (if ever) did you decided whether of not you wanted to one day have kids?
Probably when I was about 15 - 16ish I've always been family orientated and wanted to settle early on in life. Sadly that hasn't happened yet since my desire to plan ahead for a family was one of the reasons my ex fiancee and I split.

>How would you feel about a girl who was waiting until marriage for sex (penetration) but willing to do other things? Not for religious reasons
For me personally it's a deal breaker religious reasons or not.

>If you found out a girl you were interested in suffered from moderate anxiety, would this prevent you from wanting to date her? Marry her? What if she wanted you to comfort her on occasion?
So if it was only a moderate one then I'd be fine, it wouldn't stop me from dating her/marrying her. I'd sort of feel that comforting comes part of the package when it comes for a relationship/marriage.

What about you? If you found out a guy (or girl if you swing that way) suffered from a moderate anxiety would that stop you from dating him or marrying him?

>>24299771
>What about you? If you found out a guy (or girl if you swing that way) suffered from a moderate anxiety would that stop you from dating him or marrying him?
Hmm... No, I don't think so, if it was also well under control. The only reason I hesitate is because I'm not sure if two people with anxiety would be a good idea. He couldn't be a homebody/frequently avoid situations that may cause anxiety, simply because that is a tendency that I've worked hard to overcome and I don't want to slip back into that mindset.
Complex answer, sorry.

>>24299808
Nothing wrong with a complex answer. The main reason I'd go for someone with a moderate one is because my ex had a high level of anxiety. Through out the years we were together it got better but it was exhausting for me. Plus at that point I didn't have my own anxieties, where as now that I have to meet new people (more specifically women) they've came out full force and it's really annoying when trying to start out with dating etc.

>>24299498
this is the sort of thing I think I needed to hear. I'm stupidly critical of my own body. My own harshest critic etc.

TY

What kind of woman likes a really long but well-kept beard?

>>24300174
A woman that likes a really well kept beard.

*Jazzhands*

Seriously though. This stuff is all individual preferences.

>>24300563
I'm meeting women who say they don't like beards, and then they end up touching mine and even smelling it. Why do they touch it and smell it if they don't like it?

>>24300612
Dunno. Ask them? That sounds like a super easy thing to tease them a bit about.

>>24299480
Hey, realtalk: do you know why women have that?

Because you have a uterus.

Women have another entire organ inside their body. Don't forget.

>>24300908
It's going to be VERY RARE that the uterus is what causes that, though during parts of the menstrual cycle bloating might contribute a ton, but the uterus itself is rather quite small.

In general it's more to do with how women carry fat - and most women carry a bit of fat there. Women without some belly pouch generally are either CRAZY low body fat percentage (unhealthy), or just genetically not predisposed to carry fat there. The majority of the time you're looking at the latter situation.

>>24298070
It's easier to find an asexual girl than to find an asexual guy.
Brush up on the 5 love languages, so that you're better able to communicate with a potential partner what both of you need to feel loved.

>>24297893
I don't personally get upset. I'd prefer he be honest rather than pretend he can handle it when he can't. Which I have dealt with.
Girls who get upset are probably dealing with frustration over losing a friend. I've seen in my more beautiful friends that they have a hard time establishing any platonic relationships. Even the girls want to fuck them. It can feel very lonely when people only want you for your body.

Not to say that by avoiding the girl, you're saying that you only care about her body. No, that makes even more sense with someone who has fallen for personality too. But that doesn't mean she sees it that way.

>>24297502
Nah

>>24296536
When you recognize that you have a harder time online, that's when you should suggest meetups sooner.

>>24296522
I just wanna remind you that that doesn't mean you turned her gay or anything.
I don't have an answer to your question cause I've never been there.

>>24295935
Busy yourself with work/school/hobbies/social life. It took me around a year to recover from a very bad-news long-term live-in relationship. Be patient with yourself. There is a lot to process and grieve.
You're going to be realizing all the times that you "should" have known something was wrong.
You're going to be grieving the denial tainted relationship you thought you had.
You're going to have to acknowledge how awful it was.
You're going to pity yourself, and how you got there.
You're going to be mad at yourself for missing her arms.
You're going to curse the years lost.
You're going to relearn how to act around friends and family, particularly if she isolated you.
You're going to have to realize all of the untruths you say about yourself, that you only adopted to make her happy.

It's a lot to go through. Don't rush yourself.

>>24295765
Sounds cool. I like watching a guy jerk off. Not much different.

>>24295440
Depends on what it is. I have grown cynical after being someone's live-in therapist.
Just be careful not to make her (or let her make herself!) into your personal therapist. It is not healthy.

>>24295197
Sexism, homophobia, etc. Associations with men liking men to mean femininity and femininity in men = bad. Or whatever.
I'm bi myself. I like bi men.

>>24294398
Conventions. Game clubs. STEM clubs. DnD.

>>24294257
Too old for dating? Women like older men. I'm 21 and dating a 29 year old.
I wouldn't mind braces. They're neutral. Even a symbol of wealth.
Don't close yourself off from dating for something dumb like that. Sounds like you're just scared of rejection. It's easier to blame it on your braces then to look at your overall desirability objectively.

>>24293961
I dated a guy a foot taller. He was 6'4". It's not all it's cracked up to be. Holding hands is hard, kissing is hard, sex is hard. My current boyfriend is 5'9", 5'10". It's much better.

To me, height is much more of a D/s fetish thing than something actually important. Just like how I fetishize ginger girls, but red hair is definitely not a requirement.

I probably wouldn't date a guy shorter than 5'2". I'm 5'4".

>>24292152
I'd suggest telling them about your prospects, about places you're applying to. Ramble about why you like what you do. Mention your degree and family. Make the subject about your time in school.

>>24291366
The G spot is not at the cervix. It's right at that spongey spot in the first 2-4 inches when you use come-hither fingers.
Finger her good and hard and find her hot spots. Then aim there when you piv.

Bigger =/= better

Also I'm sorry that she told you her bf's dick size. Wtf.

>>24290813
Unicorn

>>24288674
Getting wet makes for going commando to be dumb. I've only done it when I can't find clean underwear. And then I usually have to spot clean my skirt.
Commando in jeans fucking hurts.

>>24288582
Almost identical to the rolling aches I experienced during food poisoning. Where it grips you tight for 2-10 seconds, and then let's up a bit where you think you'll be okay. And then it GRABS HOLD AGAIN. Ad infinitum.

>>24288443
How do you feel about drunk people? My bf doesn't drink but he's great with drunk people. I drink with him sometimes and he's always right with me in dumb drunk conversation, and he enjoys when I lose my inhibition of not feeling him up at inappropriate times.

It's very nice to have someone who will make sure I'm okay, who can drive, and has just plain sober conversation.
I like it. If he wanted to pick up drinking I wouldn't be thrilled.

>>24287145
I love how my bf loves to touch me all over. Him fingering me isn't a chore that he's doing just to make me happy. He can't hold himself back and he wants to see me squirm and pant.

>>24281914
I like to watch my bf. Only someone I care about. Watching randoms does nothing for me.

Ladies, I met a girl from tinder about a week ago who lives about 2 blocks from me, I was the first guy she has ever met off tinder but not the first guy she has ever met online. Now date number one we went for a very long walk around town, seems like we had quite a bit in common and afterwards she mentioned how she was normally shy but I was very easy to talk to and such, 2 days later date number two I drove us down to the river and we walked and talked for a while again, went for McDonalds (she loves eating there) and she paid saying I could get it next time when I offered. Then we went back to my place to watch a movie, cuddled and went out to play some Pokemon Go before I drove her home, we kissed a few times, exchanged some texts that night. The next day(yesterday) I didn't hear from here until late in the afternoon and asked if she wanted to hang out but she said "maybe another time" because she had to do some packing and wanted to get to bed early since she was starting business classes the next day. The today she only replied to the couple texts I sent at about 9pm and then didn't reply to my next message (mostly just small talk how was classes blah blah).

Anyways I guess my question is should I be worried that she is maybe losing interest? Or am I just being paranoid? all of my relationships the thus far the girl has showed very strong interest and seemed to want to spend as much time as possible together after the first couple times hanging out. Although all of those girls were about 18-19 with no job and this girl is 22 with a full time job and is going to school now. She also smokes weed and has said she has a bad habit of forgetting to reply. So far she has always replied just sometimes many hours later. Is it possible she likes me and wants to continue seeing me but just doesn't have the time to make me a priority right now?

>>24302086
>this girl is 22 with a full time job and is going to school now. She also smokes weed and has said she has a bad habit of forgetting to reply.
Looks like you've answered your own question. Don't over think things and just enjoy this. You're having a good time and connecting. You guys sound cute. Schedule something for a little ways out so that she can gather herself.

Girls,
What kind of porn are you into?

>>24302086
You're WAY over thinking this.

>>24297893

Usually with off-the-cuff egotistical comments in the moment. My favourite is "Well, no accounting for taste, I suppose."

In general, rejection doesn't bother me if I'm on the pull, because I don't really do one night stands as I'm not really trying to get pussy, I just quite like being desired by people.

Rejection only tends to bother me when I put myself out there for someone I have a genuine interest in dating. Doesn't happen often, so it's not so much I take the rejection personally, it's just more that feeling of "oh, for fuck's sake..." for want of a better phrase.

In the circumstances aforementioned, I can get a bit sociopathic. When rejected by somebody I genuinely want, I tend to go out and pull somebody just for the sake of telling them "You're here because the person I want isn't".

Not exactly behaviour that I'm proud of, but it is what it is.

Good question, by the way.

>>24303766
Solo girls, FFM threesomes, bondage WITHOUT masochism (I've mostly given up on finding a steady source for this. I can't stand accidentally seeing S/m), themes of the first moment of penetration, time stop, Japanese sex gameshows, staged public (particularly buses), interracial lesbian, men calling their subs "good girls", stuff filmed in swanky bdsm clubs, holding postures, size differences, fantasy themed hentai, lesbian femdom.

I mostly just browse the various red boards for this. Mostly /gif/.

Though honestly, I don't really consume porn that often.

>>24304325

They say porn affects the male psyche which is why I don't tend to use it myself. Do you ever notice a change in your own behaviours after a while of watching it and then not?

>>24304321
>I just quite like being desired by people

That's what bugs me; I don't give a shit about rejection, but I dislike when someone says that they aren't attracted to me. I tend to feed off of being desired quite a bit.

>>24304336
As far as I know only in that it has some psychologically addictive elements. Which doesn't mean anything, necessarily - a lot of things are. It's problematic if you GET addicted to porn, but I wouldn't worry about it if you're not.

>>24279584
Why you women lie when you say that you're attracted to all kind of guys when it's clear that you're chasing after Chad?

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>>24304344

>That's what bugs me; I don't give a shit about rejection, but I dislike when someone says that they aren't attracted to me. I tend to feed off of being desired quite a bit.

Haha! Did you know the smart ones use this to get girls? Honestly, it's almost foolproof. I can't imagine it's quite the same for lads, unless they're so used to be desired by women. Me, I just like the feeling when it happens.

Working a university is great, because I know there's at least 2 or 3 undergrad qts who crush on me and one Phd. who I'd be railing if she wasn't currently in a relationship.

>mfw

>As far as I know only in that it has some psychologically addictive elements. Which doesn't mean anything, necessarily - a lot of things are. It's problematic if you GET addicted to porn, but I wouldn't worry about it if you're not.

Even when it's not an addiction, it still has some detrimental qualities. Plus, I'm a rather dedicated /pol/ack.

>>24304370
The problem may be your shitty attitude and disrespect not your appearance.

One from me while I'm thinking about it:

What is the best way to either seduce my new housemate, or deal with wanting my new housemate when she's not interested?

I am fully aware that getting involved with you housemates is generally a bad idea, but god damn, I would smack that ass like it owed me money.

>>24304370
Just because people don't want you, doesn't mean everyone wants the same thing.

>>24304371
I am not quite sure what you're referring to in regards to "use this to get girls", because the inclination I am getting is you're referring to PUA tactics. I am not a fan of trying to manipulate people.

For me though I am just kind of fucked up and need that external validation.

Which detrimental qualities are you talking about?

>>24304423
Sleeping with people who you're living with is generally a bad fucking idea. I would caution away from that heavily.

In regards to dealing with wanting housemate when she's not interested: To be super fucking blunt, grow up. That happens. It sucks. Give yourself some space from her, devote that energy somewhere else, distract yourself.etc.etc.

>>24304401
>The problem may be your shitty attitude and disrespect not your appearance.
I'll bite. What's shitty attitude according to you? Non-stopping mental gymnastics and being entertainment clown because if she's bored for 3 seconds she's gone is considered good attitude. Assuming you're a girl, you're much more likely to spin to ugly guys because they're ruining your day by existing in your vicinity.

>>24304477
>>Non-stopping mental gymnastics and being entertainment clown because if she's bored for 3 seconds she's gone is considered good attitude. Assuming you're a girl, you're much more likely to spin to ugly guys because they're ruining your day by existing in your vicinity.

This is the shitty attitude that they (and I) are referring to.

>>24304484
Where it's shitty? Is having basic observation skills is considered bad nowadays?

>>24304494
Because you're making a whole lot of shitty and baseless assumptions about people, which reveals a pretty negative view of women.

Granted, I am pretty sure I've never met anyone who uses the word "Chad" in the first place that I wouldn't avoid automatically.

>>24304502
>shitty and baseless assumptions about people
Really? Prove me wrong. Do you think that i'm the only one who thinks like that? There's a distinct line between being negative and seeing things through observation. A girl like you would nt know a shit because you can choose from 15 different guys each day.

>>24304516
I'm a dude, numb nuts.

>>24304560
Perfect argument.

>>24304476
>I am not quite sure what you're referring to in regards to "use this to get girls"....

If you take that sort of view, every courtship interaction, hell, every interaction can be viewed as manipulation.

Also, this sort of behaviour has been around way before modern PUA. Men are designed to bed women, or find ways to do so. The rules change every so often, but it's what we do. PUA is just the latest name it's been given.

But generally, you go on a night out, you don't give the girl who know she's pretty the attention she craves/is used to getting. It's pretty straight forward.

>For me though I am just kind of....

Exactly why the aforementioned works, sweetheart.

I do kinda get that, though. After years of sexual failure in my teens, being in the drivers' seat nowadays gives me a rather nice feel-good sensation.

>Which detrimental qualities are you talking about?

Generally habit forming, alters the way in which you view things in a rather subtle way. There's a fair few, but I'm sort of half-arsing this one.

>Sleeping with people....

Usually I would, too, by some insane irony. But nah. Want this one super fuckin' bad.

>In regards to dealing with wanting housemate when she's not interested: To be super fucking blunt, grow up. That happens. It sucks. Give yourself some space from her, devote that energy somewhere else, distract yourself.etc.etc.

Heh. Figured this might be the case. Cheers, love.

>>24304370

Like or lump his embittered tone, this lad does have a bit of a point; women have a tendency to say one thing and do another. The same could be said of blokes, too, but from my, perhaps, androcentric perspective females are more inclined towards it.

>inb4 misogony

trying to be as neutral as I can on this one. If you want to take it personally, fine.

So how the fuq do I flirt? When I try to compliment somehow I can't make it sounds sincere, it comes off as a bit sarcastic. Some flirting for retards 101 baby-lines would help.

Also for some reason I can't make smalltalk. I either can talk about something big and meaningful, or not talk at all. Is this a plus, or a minus? If minus, how to amend it?

>>24304600
guy btw

>>24304569
Well when a crux point of your argument is essentially "you're a chick, ergo, you don't know shit" it's barely worth engaging.

Outside of that?

Basically your argument is the same as a chick going "Why you [men] lie when you say that you're attracted to all kind of [girls] when it's clear that you're chasing after [Slut]"; it's daft and immediately shown false by the fact that there are people who are not with "sluts" or "chads". Yes, SOME women will want that, SOME men will want that, but that doesn't .. Really mean fuck all. Whoopty-fucking-do.

In regards to your SPECIFIC post though? It sets off a massive fucking red flag first off just because its really, really, REALLY poorly written. My partners send me screencaps of conversations with dudes fairly often, and I find it shocking how often guys write like that. Stop that shit.

Concerning the actual content: Why the fuck would anyone care if there was "ugly people in their vicinity"? If someone is bitching about that, they are just shitty people, flat out. This is not reflective of HALF THE FUCKING POPULATION OF THE WORLD. Shitty people will be shitty people.

No one gives a shit if "you're the only one who thinks like that"; an argument based on the fact that multiple people agree isn't an argument. There's a lot of people who think chemtrails are real, and it doesn't mean that their argument is anything but fucking stupid.

>>24304572
I feel inclined to play contrarian and say if men are designed to bed women, what are gay men. Regardless that doesn't really contribute to the discussion.

>>24304621

Gay men are ultimately an anomaly, from a biological perspective.

>>24304572

There's a really fine line you're talking about - and I firmly stand by my belief that PUA exists over that line, because its intentionally attempting to overtly use manipulation. I have absolutely zero respect for PUA culture or attitudes - and I generally don't have much in the way of respect for hard and fast rules in scenarios like that.

Again though, I'm a dude, and when I say "I am fucked up and require external validation" it refers specifically to me. I also mean "I require a solid source of external validation or I fucking collapse"; it doesn't mean that some chick giving me attention out of no where is going to get anywhere with me, it just means I actively need to have partners or I fall apart. I will flirt compulsively, but I don't deal with strange.

Similarly, if someone was to "not give me the attention I am used to getting", I do not suddenly crave to get them to change their opinion. I just get vaguely irritated, my ego gets bruised, and I generally interact with them less.

If you're going to gender flip me to flip the narrative, it wouldn't work.

I will call you on the half-arsing the porn comment though. I'm not really aware of any empirical data that porn is necessarily in and of itself a bad thing.

>Women have a tendency to say one thing and do another.

In aggregate terms, everyone does. I would venture anyone that dates would say the gender they are dating is notorious for doing that. In specific terms: Not every single *person* does; and not every woman is dating "a chad".

>>24298223
>Do you prefer introverted or extroverted girls? If somewhere in between, how so?
If a girl's too shy i will have to carry the conversation 100% of the time, she'll never want to leave the house and it will be months upon months before we do it.
Too extroverted, and she will be tiresome to be around. I dont like girls who put their friends over their s/o. makes me feel like a boy toy to tell her friends about.
>What is your opinion of girls into health/fitness?
no preference either way. unless youre a sloot who uses it as a ploy to have casual sex with ripped guys. that will land you in the no-date bin.
>At what age (if ever) did you decided whether or not you wanted to one day have kids?
19. want to have a son before my dad gets too old so they can know each other
>How would you feel about a girl who was waiting until marriage for sex (penetration) but willing to do other things? Not for religious reasons
I would try to talk you out of it but wouldnt dump you if you didnt change your mind.
>If you found out a girl you were interested in suffered from moderate anxiety, would this prevent you from wanting to date her? Marry her? What if she wanted you to comfort her on occasion?
it wouldnt prevent me from dating or marrying her. im not that good at it. when i comfort a girl, it's usually half insult because i dont get how someone can get so worked up over trivial shit.

>>24304639
>There's a really fine line you're talking about....

Again, every level of communication has some level of willing manipulation. Interviews, first impressions, etc. Seduction is no different. PUA as a canned routines is very hit-and-miss and varies greatly on who is doing it. However, the core elements in all of the different kind you see are more or less the same.

I know what makes a certain group of people (In this case, women) tick, I use it to my advantage. Were I to be interacting with musicians, I know how to get what's best for me out of it, whilst at the same time not necessarily leaving them worse off.

Tbqh, lad, as I see it you're not just trying to create a moral highground where these isn't particularly one.

>I have absolutely zero respect for PUA culture or attitudes....

That's a bit like saying "I have zero respect for people who tell an interview panel what they wan to hear to get a job".

>Again though, I'm a dude...

Apologies, I just assumed you were a bird.

>Similarly, if someone was to "not give me the attention I am used to getting"....

You're thinking about too much like a bloke. People do not like to admit, perhaps even acknowledge it, but male and female thought processes are different. This is why, on some level, shit like PUA works.

>I will call you....

Call me out as much as you like, I'm not really in the mood for the whole "evidenced debate" thing, right now. It's late, lad.

>In aggregate terms, everyone does....

Perhaps you're right. However, in my experience and I imagine the experience of lots of men, women give piss poor advice on dealing with women. Cue the "Ask a fishermen to a catch a fish" analogy. I have no idea whether or not women do it on purpose, but I prefer to take an ignorance is bliss stance on that. However, the simple fact of the matter is, asking a woman what they want out of a man generally with not get you a woman.

>>24304336
I'm this femanon >>24304325 My ID is different.

I've noticed that if I watch porn for 3-4 jerk sessions straight, when I try masturbating without, I have a harder time reaching orgasm. Now I try to avoid it unless I really want to get off.

Watching porn has made me a little concerned about guys becoming desensitized to how much pain girls can take. There is porn I have to close out of because I'm just cringing at what they're doing to the girl.
>You can't just ram her throat like that!
>Whatever you think you're doing to her labia with your fingers, that does not look pleasant.
>Oh god, that angle you're stretching her neck back at, pulling her hair, that cannot be good for her.

Now that I have a boyfriend, I mostly just masturbate to the smell of a shirt I stole from him.

>>24303262
>>24304253
Ya I feel like have a habit of overthinking things and being kind of impatient, I guess I was sort of expecting it to be my last relationship in which I meet a girl (through facebook she randomly started talking to me because she had heard about me from friends) and she was hanging out with me literally every day any chance she got. She was also unemployed though, and didn't seem to have many friends.

Side question, in my situation how often is to often to ask her if she is free and wants to hang out, I don't wanna feel like I am bugging her but I am not sure if she is really the type to ask me.

Male here for the next 40 mins if any women have Q's for a man.

Hey girls. What if a sweet guy that you like turns out not having any friends ? Like he's okay with it he just haven't found anyone interesting. Is that a big deal ? Should men ideally be outgoing and extroverted ?

Girls: How do I find out what my psudo-girlfriend is into? Like she doesn't seem to know what she finds sexy and says the most lewd thing she's got off to is a threesome

>>24307619

Aight, I'm out.

>>24307714
That was 47 minutes, kys.

What do girls think about belly button piercing in guys?