Are there any forms of therapy that dont recommend embracing

Why would you want to do that and why do you think that oppressing yourself further would solve anything or even make you feel better? Are your fetishes harmful towards yourself or third parties?

>>8627258
I'm not sure it'd help but i just can't stand myself because of it. I've tried years of therapy, telling myself it's for the best, reminding myself it's not a choice and engaging in it with a loved one who was into it. None of it works. I love doing that stuff but i just hate myself, often much more, after doing kinky things but even sometimes during. I'm just looking for anything right now because i've tried acceptance for years and it's painful. If it hasn't worked yet, and if this is the only path for people like me then i don't think i'll ever feel ok. It seems like i'm just hopelessly broken and constantly miserable, well not constantly but the enjoyment i get from embracing the kinks comes with worse misery afterward

>>8627258

>not accounting for the situation where the OP is a masochist and seeks to derive pleasure by denying himself of a thing that he wants

>>8627271
You didn't mention the fetish or at least if it's harmful. Also, you need to love yourself

male sexual submissives are broken and need to be killed. Its fucking disgusting and >>8627189

should feel bad.

Now female sexual submissives are fine and perfectly natural and acceptable in every way.

>>8627271
Talk to a doctor about being chemically castrated

>>8627276
it's harmful to me, let's assume it's harmful but i can't say. I don't think there's any more i could try embracing it. i've tried that and it failed. i need to try something else because i'm losing it
>>8627293
sadists and masochists both disgust me. getting to know a few i've seen they're all just awful
>>8627303
i don't know that they'd go for it. maybe i'll look into it

>>8627320
I don't know if they would go for it either but they let trans people do all kinds of stuff to their bodies, if your sexual inclinations are causing you this much distress there's probably a way for you to get it, especially if you have a history of therapy and are still unable to cope

>inb4 OP's fetish is not telling other people what his fetish is, and he's jerking it to this thread right now

>>8627189
You could try meditation. Over time it has allowed me to drop porn and masturbation completely.

I feel much better having my sexuality under my own control.

>>8627413
Mind = blown

>>8627275
>denying himself of masochism is masochism

>>8627275
>>8627478
i don't see how i could find a side to enjoy in this. it hurts to engage and it hurts to abstain, i just can't help but wonder if abstaining would go well with the kind of support given to me in the times i embraced it
>>8627465
was this for excessive porn or depressing sexual tastes?

>>8627534
>was this for excessive porn or depressing sexual tastes?

I mean, by 4chan standards no. Looking back on it, it did get pretty excessive at certain points.

But the main reason I started meditating was more of a full blown insanity that I was in for a while. Meditation helped clear that out over about half a year and I continued.

Over the year following that porn that I used to enjoy just stopped being pleasurable to me (pregnant futa was about as far as I got in terms of taste). It wasn't something I actively aimed for, but more of a by product of meditating. A positive one though. But it was effortless, I didn't set out originally with the intent of cleaning out my fetish but it happened naturally.

It also is the reason I stopped smoking weed everyday.

I guess the best way I could put it is I found immense joy and pleasure from deep meditation, this enjoyment replaced all the hollow pursuits I had before, making me see them for what they were, empty wastes of time and brain space.

I hope that makes sense.

>>8627545
certainly the most promising reply i got, thank you. i take these were escalating and not your early attractions?

>>8627569
>i take these were escalating and not your early attractions?

Moderately (started at large clits and moved from there, but that's over a decade), but amount of time spent viewing it certainly grew and got to a point where I felt I was wasting too much of my week on it, as well as it distorting my perception of relationships and occupying my thoughts.

Spirituality?

>>8627189
Whatever your fetish is, it's probably not as bad as mine.
Hint: Nothing human, but an organism. It doesn't think but can breath.

>>8627320
>>8627343
I imagine they'll go for it if you tell them you're a paedophile and are worried about not being able to control your urges

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>>8628255
>being into interracial

get out

>>8627189
https://i.4cdn.org/wsg/1485265350913.webm

>>8628255
Is this a fucking riddle? Just fucking say it anon, there's a reason these boards are anonymous.

>>8627271
Just accept that you are human thrash. At least it worked for me.

>>8628255
this whole "other are worse" thing doesn't help. when my therapist tried that they listed a less awful kink which i also had. i'm sure i'm their new onsolartion comparison freak
>>8628290
i think you're right but I can't even do that because i'm too scared
>>8628326
like i said acceptance has been not working for years

>>8628731
It sounds like you've accepted that you are a sinner. There is nothing you can do to change that. Becoming a non-sinner is something impossible that has never been accomplished. So what to do with these sins whos weight is too great to bear?