Tell me about how shitty your parents were at raising you. My

My parents were great at raising their kids and you can see it in how successful and well-adjusted my three siblings are. I just happen to be a colossal faggot.

My parents were great, I just was a little piece of shit that grew up into an adult piece of shit and they know it.

Sweet. I was raised in a destructive environment all my life and was constantly told it was my fault so now I don't have any true emotions at all. I haven't cryed since I was in 5th grade and I have my mom to thank for it. Emotions get in the way of being left alone and depressed anyways so why even have them?

my dad is hands down the best dude i've ever got the chance to know, and my mother apart from lashing out her manic-depressive side every few days is very sincere and loving to her dear ones. i'd die for them without hesitation and wish they would have gotten a better adjusted son instead of the eternal failure i am.

My father was a violent abusive alcoholic.
Life was terrifying and miserable until my parents got divorced.
After the divorce, my mother just let me do whatever I wanted because she wanted me to be happy and enjoy myself.
So I played video games all the time and got fat.

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>parents raise me perfectly
>still turn out a useless neet

I was raised by a mentally ill alcoholic single mother with a learning disability

It just fucked my shit up

Narcissistic BPD mom. I'm fucked up eternally.

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>raised me fat
>taught to not speak unless spoken to
>dad died freshman year so he couldn't teach me how to talk to girls( He has 16 children by 5 different mothers so I know he knew. I'm the last child.)
>mom is lazy bitch and just nags me to fix everything.
>brother dropped out of college and is basically mom 2.0 and is now back to living with us.

I wish I moved out in January when I had the money.

>>39402930
>No girl will ever do this to me
>you will never play with her pussy before putting your penis in it

My Dad left thr country
My Mom has 3 other kids with 2 other Dads, a host of emotional problems and is an alcoholic

>>39402930
Holy fuck are you me?
Also my mother tried to kill herself twice and out of my siblings i was the one that stumbled onto her in the process both times to stop her.

My mum told me a few weeks ago that once I entered high school she thought she had done her job and we could "take it from there"
>let me drop out of high school before I was 16
>never made me or helped me to get a job
>wouldn't teach me how to drive
>didn't stop me from locking myself in my room all day
>didn't care I was losing contact with people
She let a 15 year old become a fucking NEET. I didn't know what I was doing. How can you let your kid do that when you know better?
It makes me so mad. I've taken back so many things I used to blame her for but I can't take responsibility for this. I just didn't know.

>>39403301
during some of her panci attacks she'd run to the door as if she was running away, i'd call out her bluff but my anxiety stops me so i run and grab her at the door.

and these panic attacks/mental breakdowns are always over something stupid like getting mad at my sisterfor going out with her friends too much/basically have a normal life.

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I was fathered by a violent alcoholic and mothered by a borderline insane bitch.

I was raised, however, by a single grandmother whom decided that the best way to treat my depression is by giving me xanax for one year at the age of FUCKING 11.

Now I am alone and slowly going insane, random people have been telling me that I should be put in a mental hospital.

>>39402930
>Dad never got home until nine o'clock
>Mother is a neurotic brainlet
>Never allowed me to pursue hobbies I was interested in
>"Violin? That's for girls." "Theatre group? Uh, maybe." "Piano? Anon, we already took you to a piano lesson when you were literally seven and you didn't like it."
>Make me play football (where I just stood around in a freezing field) and guilt trip me for four years after they finally allow me to quit it
>Spend all their time watching TV, get upset when I develop into someone who spends all his time on the computer
>End up convincing me I'm not supposed to do well in school so I stop trying only to realise in the last four months of highschool that if I tried I would have done fine
All in all they struck a magical balance of being too protective to let me do cool things but also being too distant to really care and give me a support network

>played video games since i was 5, literally all day
>dad is a short tempered dick wont even let me have a conversation with him, any time i speak he acts like im talking back or calls me a know it all
>mom is stupid, fat, socially strange, always getting flustered over the smallest of things
>always remember dad saying "mom wanted kids" basically saying he didnt want me.
>both hit me all the time when i was younger and try to pretend like i dont remember
>"I dindt hit you it was a light slap"
>"I wasnt yelling at you"
i tried my hardest but im just so fearful of rejection and abandonment

Not that shitty. I mean they could have seriously emphasized that life is easy as fuck in high school and if you don't try now your life will just harder. Also generally trying new things in high school. Dad could have taken me to our summer cottage and have me do "construction work" so I woulda learned that life ain't easy if you don't study.

They're good people. My dad is kind of a loser though so naturally I'm the same. Mom is not a stacy and dad was 44 when they met

my parents did their best but they sucked at raising me to become a normie.

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My mom was too overbearing and my dad was distant and blamed my mom for my autism. He originally didn't want kids and blamed my mom by saying shit like

>see he's autistic and you forced me into having kids so you raise him

My dad also had a psychotic episode when I was 1 and my mom had to beg him not to drop me off the 2nd floor.

My mom is a good person and tried her best in raising me but she spoiled me too much therefore I wasn't all that independant. As mentioned my dad didn't care and didn't teach me shit. I couldn't fix a bike tire until I was 19.

>>39402930
I was the youngest child of 4 and rhey bever reall payed any attention to me. My dad was a drunk mexican with mamy professions and my mom was always working. My mom gave me some shit ideas like m, dont fight back, dont do drug, theres plebty of firls dont worry about it. I was always wearing old rags. While they drove nice cars. Eventually I group up with little to no support or advice from my parents. As an early teen my parents adopted a kid and forgot about me. I wore the same clothing through out the years and my adopted brother always got new stuff. I was too you g for attention and now I was too old. They never truly guided me. I could have done better if they gave me the attention my siblings received

>father although supportive, didn't live in the same house as me because he and my mother separated soon after I born
>2 sisters, no brothers
>raised surrounded by women, no male figure
>mom would let me do anything without correcting me
>after 13yr old spent most nights awake on the internet
Nowadays I'm a fuck up with tons of problems and a very shitty autistic personality, thanks mom.

I picked up on their paranoid anxiety so I can't even go outside

>>39402930
>parents were pretty good
>turned out a robot loser KHHV NEET anyway

It's all my fault.

>mom literally please fucking kill me tier depressed since she was a teenager
>dad decided to cum inside her anyway
>i still believe to this day that is the reason i have so many mental problems

Most of my childhood, my mom was a stay at home mom, my dad was IT at some computer company. My dad used to lose his temper sometimes and beat the crap out of me, and it was usually unpredictable and over something stupid.

When shit went down, my dad either acted on his own assumption, or the first thing he heard. I sometimes couldn't get things out right, sometimes my brother would get there first and feed him a lie, etc. Whatever the case, he wouldn't let you talk after he was set.

Then he'd dish it out, whether "it" was yelling at you till your ears hurt, grounding you to commie extremes, snapping your phone or GBA in half, or beating you senseless.

My mom was a good mom, with one exception. They both unfairly favored my little bro. My bro is 3 years younger, and he's Chad. Even before he was Chad, he was an asshole to me and everyone else loved him.

After my parents split up, my mom got an office job, and my dad married a 32yo Stacy and she had 2 stacies and a little girl. Stepmom Stacy tried to get me institutionalized and stepsister stacies bullied me in my own house all the time. Dad didn't give a fuck, and I couldn't live with Mom because my dad financially raped her until she couldn't support herself. Dad moved us to a new town that sucked balls and I missed out on the entire teenage experience because I didn't have friends and was too retarded to make any. Then after I graduated he sent me to live with my mom who was fine now. These days I see dad twice a year.

>>39406083

It probably has as much to do with the fact she was emotionally distant and fucked up in early childhood as genetics.

I was raised by my grandparents in a small rural village and thanks to them I didn't grow up to be a massive faggot.

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>>39402930
>father was a functioning alcoholic who worked 50-60 hours a week
>would regularly scream and yell at me for literally no reason
>once he got it out of his system he would claim that it was stress caused by high blood pressure or some other bullshit he made up
>was actually just him getting into a drunken rage
>never actually hit me but would occasionally threaten to
>mother worked on and off easy office shit
>was ungrateful as shit towards my father
>no matter how much he made or bought her it was never enough
>would say spiteful shit to me all the time out of nowhere
>like one time out of nowhere told me someday I would be in the unemployment line and she would come to laugh in my face
>if I tried to ask her why she said that kind of stuff she would just deny it and tell me I'm a terrible liar
>(this probably had the longest lasting effect on me I still to this day sometime start to wonder if I actually said something or if I made it up right after it comes out of my mouth despite never lying)
>aside from yelling they really wanted anything to do with me
>let tv and the computer raise me
>knew I was on shit like 4chan and equally shitty places for a kid as young as 9 or 10 and never even tried to stop me
>thought that if it was keeping me from bothering them it was obviously a good thing
>eventually they did realize that I didn't have any friends because I spent all my time online
>would start harassing me about being friendless but not offer any advice
>would basically just tell me to be normal and stop being a social retard
>whenever I got older and would tell them I couldn't make friends because I had anxiety or thought I had autism they would just laugh at me and tell me to stop being a pussy
my robotness was entirely caused by them

>kept me in a bad environment
>no real guidance
Other than that they were pretty good, especially at leading by example
When people talk about the "lessons how to be a man" from their dad, I just think about how my dad never acted like a bitch in front of me
lo and behold most niggas are bitches to me

>>39402930
Dad was never at home even before the divorce, mom just went to work before I woke up and got home after I was sleeping. Still, I don't blame them

>>39402930
what a well used butthole

>>39402930
Fuck I thought that going to be a trap and it turned out to be a roast beef sandwich!!!!! what!!!!

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>come home from school in 3rd? grade
>ye olde "how was your day" question
>decide to pour my heart out finally and tell them that I fear school every day because of bullies
>dad says nothing because he's a beta bitch
>mom tells me to "just ignore them lol"
>I actually took that """advice"""
>sounds good, doesn't work

Bunch of dumb cunts, wish I had seen that when I was a kid. Too late for that now.

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>>39402930
My parents were never really around. When they were home on the weekends they were either still working or watching tv and wanted nothing to do with me.

We always had a lot of money but I think this probably fucked me up pretty good

>being female
>religious family
>not allowed to have friends;talk to boys, about boys,about girls
>anything i ever say will be hold against me sooner or later
>have to wear hijab
>can't have a job
>can't hang out with friends more than once a week and it needs to be one single female friend
>not allowed to express any kind of emotion

>>39402930
My mother had depression and anxiety and she took it out on my dad, so he was never home, always working.

I was the kid tasked with "making her feel better", so I became an overachiever at school. When I felt bad or sad she would offer me shit advice like "pretend it didn't happen anon" , or "shrug it off" and when I got my head pushed in loos and given swirlies regularly she refused to move me to another school because "it would take too much time to drive you then". When I finally made a friend she refused to let me have that friend because "she was a bad influence".

I just cut off my feelings to survive in that household. My dad divorced her at last but he was a pussy and we had to help him move out and then stay to make sure my mother didn't commit suicide.

So now I'm 31 and unable to have a relationship with any female.

>>39407694
i'm 22 btw
oregano

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My mum used to be really religious. She used to tell me that God was always watching and it freaked me out. From then on I had anxiety and intrusive thoughts, which now plague me daily. Whenever I parroted something something from TV that was blasphemous, she'd make me look up at the ceiling/sky and say sorry, and it made me feel really guilty. Thanks mum for being a delusional christcuck and making me an even more delusional christcuck who just want to stop believing in god.

Also, my dad was a massive beta, and so I became one too.

>>39407712
r u a virgin? if not kys

>>39402953
>I just happen to be a colossal faggot.
Same here. My siblings are pretty great and i'm just a dissapoint for everyone, my big brother think i'm useless piece of shit, while my sister just look at me with pity since i was 12

>>39408014
i am
and i tried and failed

>>39408568
Good,then you're worth talking to.
If you're down to make friends discord @ K M S#4361

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>parents where poor af, literraly got bullied over my homemade haircut usually big hole here and there
>violent dad, mother has pity for me
>little brother was the favourite one hated him for that and never tried to contact him for years now
>shity big ass coat at 12 y/o with two distinct hole in the back probably 6.35
>chads bullied the crap out of me in junior
>usually beating the fuck out of me in the shower and calling me a poorfag because i was always wearing the same old ass shoes
>commited first robbery at 14, first burglary at 16, first armed robbery at 17
>fuck i was lucky enough to never get caught red handed
>got the world figured out pretty young
"get rich or die tryin" mind
>porn addiction at 13, watching stuff like bdsm and throat fucked on a daily basis
>never had any gf because i couldnt provide any basic shit like cinema or restaurant etc...
still believe im not worth to be loved or to get friends.
>social anxious and self aware af
>i dont even know guys, i just gave up at a moment i gave up long enough for life to break me in half.

Dad left before I was born.

Mom smoked, dated men who would physically and mentally abuse her, lost custody of her other two children, and the only thing she beat into me was that school is important so sure I'm an honors student but I have no social skills and hate going outside.

Thanks Mom, I'm book smart but have nothing else going for me. You're just wasting money on cigarettes and watching me going into debt.

parents helped me tremendously by getting me most of the stuff i want. also got me on medical treatment when it mattered and took care of me.

on the flipside, the sort of cultivated alot of the problems i have today, now i don't want to outright blame my parents for bad parenting but they could do alot better.
they told me looks don't matter, they told me a good job is the only thing that matters, told me that they don't care how ill end up if i actually got a job doing something + get a degree. they basically set me up for failure and didn't guide me towards anything. at the age of 17 i lost meaning and started doing drugs and hanging out with shady people. because all that mattered anyways was getting a job and money.
they coddled me with so many lies that when i actually woke up to reality it was too late.
if i had a son now, i would get him to 100% fitness, teach him self defense and never let sugar in the house, i would probably also instill some meaning and value so his life would have more meaning than just being a whore to jews and capitalists

>>39408664
your mom loved you enough not to abort you anon, you should be thankfull and maybe try to fix back broken piece.
>men who would hurt her.
i bet she was young and very vulnerable after your dad left.

>>39407644
this is the equivalent of "just ignore people that try to sabotage your life"

this is why i want to sponsor a kid and teach him how to fight and when to engage.
with today's education system your kid pretty have to be a martial artist on some level in order to defend himself from hordes of kids.
i myself was lucky to learn karate for a few years and i defended myself a few times - but that didn't work anymore when i got to highschool and the chads had a network of hundreds of people.
i really hate to say this, but if your'e a male and a loner in today's society you have to learn how to box at the very least.

Dad never knew his own father and was always at work. He tried, he genuinely cared about us but he was still a bit emotionally distant. Mom was overprotective and sheltered me from almost everything, if she hadn't put such a huge focus on education I probably would've slipped all the way into full NEEThood.

My parents were actually very good at raising me. I never did stupid shit, sure I smoked weed from time to time but they knew and didn't care, as long as I got good grades. I got into the second best university in my state. I have a scholarship covering a lot of the tuition. I have friends. I have a part time job. I workout, I'm healthy and in shape. My only problem is with women. I've never had a girlfriend, even though my parents pushed me to interact with women. I just don't think women want to be around me. And that's okay with me, I'm okay with masturbating my entire life, but it kills me inside when my parents ask if I've met any girls or talk about having grandchildren.

>>39408908
I would even go a step farther, wear some metal rings, something to really put some extra force behind a punch. I had the classic "try to reason with your bullies" liberal bullshit parents and I can tell you from experience, it. doesn't. fucking. work.

If I had anyone to pass advice to, I'd tell them to take up wrestling or football or any sort of contact sport as a child. You might not know how to throw a left hook, but you can bodyslam a motherfucker to the curb without much trouble

>>39409122
I'm >>39407644 and it's funny how I was never forced to do any physical activity (sports) unlike the rest of my peers because my mom had a bad experience with professional sports and wanted to "shield" me at all costs.

It was over before it even began.

My dad is a pathologically liar that left my mother and I when I was 3. He popped up every few years with a handful of gifts to try and win me over. Told me I hadn't seen him in three years because he had leukemia. Two years later he told me he hadn't seen me because the shots the air force gave him destroyed his pancreas. Told me I had a half sister he had put up for adoption. He always tried to build himself up as this larger than life man. But really he was a broke dude that got kicked out of the air force and dropped out of college. He always tried to turn me against my mom because she got custody. Just years of bullshit.

Once I got older I started calling him on his shit. He didn't like that, now we don't talk. My mom's overly emotional about everything, but she's cool.

Mom: constantly worried, had frequent panics, very rigid routine, not nurturing in the least, didn't encourage good social skills or development of any skill for that matter. Only thing she did was install a work ethic for monotonous shit.

Dad: was always drinking, very distant, couldn't bring himself to express himself. i suspect has a lot of mental issues. would beat me as a kid for no reason.
Additionally, my older brother would frequently torment me, and physically and mentally abuse me during my early years.

So here i am, a person who doesn't know how to love or get into a relationship, a person who is afraid of others/unable to trust due to physical abuse, mostly. The sick part is, I see a lot of my mom in me, and it twists me up inside. I have always sought out to be an individual, far removed from anything like her, but I am like her in many ways. Her obsessing over the trivial, here inability to express herself and suppress everything, her obnoxiousness.

>>39409521
Holy fuck are you me.
Only i also got schizophrenia from my mother as well and im diagnosed a sociopath.
I wish i could fucking kill my mom.

My father is an "average guy" with ALOT of experience.
Hes had to deal with alot of things in his life and he is teaching me how to take over his buissness right now (which isnt that hard) hes always been a good guy deep down which deppresses me.
Somtimes i can feel empathy for other people, but my dad is basically good and would go out of his way to help people, while on the other hand i would not glance twice at any desperate situation someone is in, i am selfish and i dont really like people from personal experience and my mental condition.
I cant understand morals or the notion everyone is "basically good".
I believe only some people are "basically good" as in very few.

I wont ever understand him and get as close to him as a normal father and son, but he was good to me when i was younger being abused and tortured by my mother, even when it was to set back his own life he helped as muxh as he could.
Ill always love and respect him for not running the hell away from my mom and to another state.

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Absent father, psychotic, overprotective, emotionally abusive mother.
You know hot it is, anon.
No use elaborating, nobody will read anyways.

parents focused their attention on my older brother and gave me positive re-enforcement for being an antisocial autist. every time i told them i didnt have friends theyd say "at least you're not out partying" and buy me a new videogame

>>39409122
you can learn how to box decently well with just few months of training, but contact sports isn't bad either. but im not sure about it since some kids actually trade blows but most of them clinch

Wow, all of these stories make me appreciate my parents more. They tried their best, I don't doubt that. But there are some things I wish they did.

Like install discipline in me, They were too soft and I always lashed out and what not. I have some resentment towards my father for being so passive and weak when it comes to discpline.

In retrospective I wish he smacked me when I disrespected my mom (I've done worse..things I'm ashamed to say.

I've hit my mother, I have spit in her face... one of the few ppl who accept me for who I am. And I feel so ashamed but also angry at my father for not defending his wife.

>they blame there parents because they suck at life

>>39410646
It's been established that traumas in early childhood are one important input into whether one develops mental illnesses, etc, later in life. So a child that is not taught appropriate social conventions will fare just fine later in developing relationships? Are you this retarded to pretend parenting and childhood has no influence on how you are later? Fuck off. Fuck off and die, for that matter.

>>39402930
>dad told me not to get a gf
>so I didn't
I don't care if it was just an off hand relevant to whatever context he was in (probably teen pregnancy on the news or some shit) he should have known better than to tell a child that looked up to him not to do the most human thing.
Yes I blame him the most for my robothood

>>39410646
>there
at least I don't suck at English

>>39405633
u can do it anon.get rid of all media and videogames, use boredom to force yourself into working out and a routine

>parents raised me very indirectly past the age of 8
>spent entirely too much time on Internet
>somehow managed to end up decent at socializing, no mental disorders
>only noteworthy problem is a procrastination habit
Who else /undeservedsuccess/ here?

>>39410646
i think the moment someone becomes conscious of their own ability to change things is when they can no longer blame people.

>>39411084
Yeah, like being abused during your formative years doesn't have consequences later on in life. Mkay. No blame to be had there.

I'm not arguing you can't take action to change your life, I am saying there are factors that set one back in life, and make it hard to improve your life later. That's all. It's not: I blame my parents for everything. It's : i recognize how instrumental parenting is to a child, and how it shapes their developing brain. Go read some books on the matter, start with Sapolsky. Don't be an ignorant fuck tard

>>39411036
How were you able to develop social skills?
Granted my childhood was more scarred than yours, how did you end up decent without anyone to guide you?

>>39411614
Almost all of my growth as a person came from middle and high school, where I met a wonderful group of people via my one single elementary school friend connecting me with them. I developed a sense of humor, became more jovial towards life and even got rid of the heavy introversion I had as a younger kid- none of that would have happened without them.

>>39403363
I feel you.
>forced to play sports
>made practice player
>13 years of being treated like you were worthless on various teams
>wanted to karate a friend or join boy scouts, guilt tripped into playing soccer
>grow up with inferiority complex and depression, start to just stop giving a fuvk live life completely passively doing bare minimum to not upset anyone or garner attention.
>become neet and socially habe all of these hurdles I had to get over
>parents (divorced both alcoholics) dont care, just let me do my thing
>every single highschool photo is beyond bad, like lifelong embarrassing teir. Parents didnt let me retake them bc poor. "Why does it matter you arnt getting a uearbook!"

just a random moment in our day
>mom is arguing with my sister
>I'm not gonna turn you into another version of him, I'm not gonna do the same mistakes again
I was in the room by the way

>>39412184
Lucky lucky lucky
Wish i had a friend with connections like that.