27 year old virgin today

please respond, I want to talk to people with similar experiences.

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at least you arent this lad

When was the last time you tried something new?

>>39400924
Last year, started business school and gave up after two weeks.

I have already dropped out of 5 different college courses, I don't have interest for anything nor the will to pursue an education.

>>39400891
I dunno. I am in the same situation mostly.

Try to to work on yourself a little at a time.

Comparing yourself to others is easy to do these days. Most people only put highlights on social media, but that doesn't help soothe the pain much because people like us often have ZERO things to highlight.

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>>39400520
>people your age are currently getting married, moving into a house etc.

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>>39400520
In short, you were born in the bottom % of men. Women do the choosing in our society, and since you're still a virgin I guess you didn't measure up to their standards.

More importantly, why do you torture yourself like this? Stalking is an unhealthy obsession. Delete all social media, because it isn't supposed to be used by guys like you.

Find new purpose in your life, like a hobby, etc. This is the only life you have, make the most of it. Best of luck.

>>39400976
The problem is that I know they are better than me. They can maintain conversations on a variety of subjects, they have the right opinions, they don't sweat a lot. they are pretty.

If one of these people punched me I would be seem as a loser.

If I punched I would be seen as an uncivilized animal, and everyone would hate me for it.

I can't really do anything anymore after I realized I am indeed a disgusting person and all my opinions are wrong. After I have a strong point of view I look for people refuting this POV just to feel bad about myself, then stalking them to see how much better they are than me.

>>39401035
Thanks for the advice, anon. I'm not really on social media, but it's easy to stalk people without an account anyway.

I'm noy sure why I torture myself like this, I feel bad about it but I can't stop. I've been like this for more than 10 years, since high school. I'm not even fat or poor, but my ugliness and awkwardness fucked up my life.

>>39401044
>The problem is that I know they are better than me

IDK. I wouldn't short change yourself. There's lots of people that are now more successful than me and went to better schools, but I consistently outperformed them in most of my classes during high school. They just have the right connections, did the right activties, and had a better support system than I did.

>>39401081
>They just have the right connections
That's the point, those people were born winners, they just have to live their lives and everything will magically happen. I will never be an expert on anything, I won't have a good social life, I will always feel bad about myself.

I just haven't kms yet because I'm a coward. I will probably bitch about my life until I'm 80.

I always think people are treating me badly or trying to take advantage of me/my family.

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>>39400520
Find a hobby or interest group before 30(This is a good way to find enthusiast friends), I should of I'm nearing my mid 30's(Otherwise the normies in life will get you down).

>>39401081
>Chad connections
>Chad activities

Let me stop you here faggot. If you are genuinely good at something, for example a skilled 3D designer, these don't matter, there's so many ways to succeed in 2017. Graduate HS before you ever post again.
OP go for it man. Or don't and do heroin like me, you'll kill yourself someday anyway might as well be high

>>39401141
but anon I keep losing interest

>>39401174
>f you are genuinely good at something, for example a skilled 3D designer, these don't matter, there's so many ways to succeed in 2017

That just isn't true. There are MANY MANY professions that are no longer in demand, and the best candidate doesn't always get the job.

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>Wanting to have a good life instead of trying to become the richest person in your country and trying to ruin lives to everyone else
Im not even joking I converted to judaism and have complex plan on how to become rich in the next ten years so I can get into politics/buy some factories and hire people for minimal wage for some really difficult physical jobs (like slavery basically).

>>39401072
>I'm noy sure why I torture myself like this, I feel bad about it but I can't stop.
I really hope you can make yourself stop. It's damaging to your mental health. I used to be in a similar situation, but thankfully I was able to free myself of it.

>my ugliness and awkwardness fucked up my life.
I'd argue your ugliness is what made you awkward. But this isn't what is fucking up your life. It's because you're unwilling to let go of the life you see everyone else living, that you think you deserve. You seem like a good guy and maybe do deserve a good life, but life is unfair. Let go of that fantasy in your mind and move on man. You're 27.

Have you ever had a job or have you been a NEET forever?

>stay in comfort buble
>think things will turn out better

I was/am the same as you and when I improved by 10 fold I still realised how sick my mental process is regardless of the fact that I can explain everything because psychology is my hobby. I always overthink everything, thinking about the consequences and so.
I ALMOST lost my virginity this weekend and I'm 27 as well but I fucked it up. However this girl taught me something very important, the fact that I oversweat and think everything is pulling me back hard.

>>39401174

Fuck man I used to use heroin now I'm on methadone and want to kill my fucking self

>>39401044
You have to stop measuring your worth by comparing yourself to others, there's always someone who is better than you in some way shape or form.
Focus on yourself, always try to improve in something so that you can look back and see progress, that's how you achieve satisfaction.

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28 year old virgin here. Stop using social media. You end up in a spiral of toxic behavior and reinforced negative beliefs about yourself constantly spying on people and comparing yourself to them, and normie sin general.

Change your facebook password, deactivate it permanently and lose the password. Best decision I ever made regarding internet- though I will admit the main reason I deleted facebook 5 years ago was because it looks less pathetic to have no facebook than for me to have one, but it being plainly obvious I just added everyone I know but am actually a friendless loser.

>>39401286
>Focus on yourself, always try to improve in something so that you can look back and see progress, that's how you achieve satisfaction.
Not op but that's hard to do especially if you live among other people. For example by brother has a decent job and loving gf despite being 23 and i'm 25 khv neet. I admit that i'm a very angry towards myself because i'm such a fuck up who has no passion or desire to do anything.

>>39401233
Thanks fot the advice, I really appreciate it. How did you get over this obsession?
>>39401239
I have the same job since I'm 21. It's not bad, pays well, I moved out my parent's house a long time ago. I work 6 hours/day and it's near my apartment, so I basically wake up at noon, go yo work, come back home and bitch about my life until 5 a.m.
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>>39401286
Ok, but where do I find the will to improve myself if every improvement I made resulted in nothing?
>>39401302
I don't use social medie, I'm not on facebook, twitter, whatsapp, nobody has my phone number, nobody even knows where I live. But I can stalk people anyway, i don't need to have an account on these sites to use them.

>>39401355
>Ok, but where do I find the will to improve myself if every improvement I made resulted in nothing?

You either muster up your will to get new things in your life and burst out of negative mental spiral or you are gonna do what you do now for as long as you either don't end yourself or die.
TRUST ME, I swear to you I have/had the exact same menality as you and it's slowly killing my soul. I always overthink evrything, I formed a false ego in my head that says "you can do this but you can't do that".
This is why I tought I broke this I still fucked it up with this girl.
Also listen to some Allan Watts because it's truly inspiring. I always hated "normalfags" and now at 27 I realise that I'm the judgemental bullshit of a fake personality.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEgZACpXP3U&t=8s

>>39401405
>Allan Watts
Anon, he was pothead.

I'm in a pretty similar situation.
It really feels like there's no point to life.
Everything just feels like a chore.
I can't remember the last time I enjoyed anything.

It's not even that I'm jealous of the lives other people have.
Even if I had everything they do, I still don't feel like I'd really be happy.
Something just feels fundamentally wrong with this society, like even if I had everything they have, there'd still be something missing.

>>39401355
If you have a job and money then it's time to visit a prostitute.

>>39401324
I spend every day amongst people that live better lives than me but I don't give a shit, I wasted too much time worrying about that stuff.
Now I only care about how I am doing, if I did something good, I'm happy. It doesn't matter to me if someone else did it better.
I'm a khv at 21 but I don't feel as if I'm too late, Im living life at my own pace. The only thing that matters is that I try to be a better me every day
>>39401355
>but where do I find the will to improve myself if every improvement I made resulted in nothing?
You need to have a passion first and foremost, something that makes you feel whole and good about yourself.
Once you have that, you have a goal to work towards, improving until you are as good at it as you can possibly be.

>>39401405
Thanks for the advice, anon. I always felt I don't belong anywhere, I'm always afraid, I hate being who I am. I wasted my life. I'm lazy, I'm envious and nobody will remember me.

>>39401478
>I'm in a pretty similar situation.
>It really feels like there's no point to life.
>Everything just feels like a chore.
>I can't remember the last time I enjoyed anything.

I'm preety much in this state right now: I starting working and already think about getting home. The moment I get home I start thinking about work tomorrow. I don't really enjoy anything, I'm always worried about... something. I always feel I'm on the wrong side.

>>39401479
>If you have a job and money then it's time to visit a prostitute.
You're still be emotional virgin.

>>39401503
Not true. At the very least, training with a prostitute greatly increases your chances of getting laid the normal way.

>>39401440

Hardly give a fuck what he did when what he said was right.
I defensivly formed and ego bubble thinking "now my life is good, I present this person and everybody accepts it and I can explain every thing I do wrong and nobody suspects me"
Only to BOOM, this one girl saw through me so easily and made me remember what was it like when I felt like myself, with all my insecurity and bad personality it was still ME and I lost that. This is what slowly dying feels like and I will never go back to it again.

>Thanks for the advice, anon. I always felt I don't belong anywhere, I'm always afraid, I hate being who I am. I wasted my life. I'm lazy, I'm envious and nobody will remember me.

You haven't wasted your life because your are still alive.But you are WASTING your life every day. You forgot how to live. You got accostumed to social norms and peoples opinion. I always laughed at people telling me "cliche esque" shit only to get a big fucking slap now that pulled me out of it. I wish so much that I could make you feel what I feel because words won't ever convince you otherwise.

>>39401479
>>39401565

I got a glimpse of what an emotional connection with a women feels like his weekend but it haven't got down to sex. Should I just get it over with now and call up a hooker? Will I feel some kind of satisfaction from it or it will be just "well I payed and fucked it was okay".

>>39401501
>I starting working and already think about getting home. The moment I get home I start thinking about work tomorrow.
I know the feeling.
I'm 26, been working since I was 18.
I bought a house when I was 21, and I've lived alone in it for the last 5 years.
I'm a very introverted person, thankfully not socially anxious, but I just get exhausted being around people. I spend all day at work surrounded by people, and all I have the energy to do outside of work is sit at home and be alone, which has resulted in pretty much no social life whatsoever.

>I'm always worried about... something. I always feel I'm on the wrong side.
I feel like I'm on the right side, and everybody else is wrong.

>>39401590
>I feel like I'm on the right side, and everybody else is wrong.

Well if you are unsatisfied and feel like shit while others don't you certainly are not on the right side.

>>39401588
You will probably have an okay experience, but still try going for a higher end escort. Chances of satisfaction are higher. Still, odds are you will not regret it and will feel better having done it than not.

>>39401566
And what was the turning point for you? What made you change?

>>39401602

I will think about it hard. I have slight phimosis which was always a fucking boogie man for me despite affecting nothing with condoms on. An escort wouldn't care anyway.

>>39400520
Happy birthday, OP. I'm a wizard in a few months.

>>39401650
Why don't you get a surgery?

>>39401604

I won't say I just magically "changed". But the encounter wit this girl was what made me realise how much I lost myself because of always thinking and thinking about everything analyzing situations and all.
She really liked me and I just did the same I do every time, over analyze the situation and explaining myself "well if you look at it from this perspective it's not bad" "yeah if I consider that I didn't do that wrong" instead of speaking my mind and take in the feedback may it be negative or positive I say what I deemed "honest" when it was a defensive mechanism in a clever disguse of logic.

I feel like I got a part of me back. I still didn't do my buisiness plan, I still hadn't done the things I made up in my mind but I finally feel some healthy ballance in myself.

>>39401679

Because it could be solved with streching in around 4 months MAX because it's not even that bad. I just never bothered with it because I never had any chance anyway. Seems like after pulling my shit together but mentally and body wise I don't give off this horrid negative vibe.