Do you blame your parents for the way you are? If so tell share why?

My parents are robots too.

50/50
All their fighting gave me anxiety and other problems

>>39203427
They are the sole reason i was created.So yeah i do fucking blame them for this shit life.

kind of, i've blamed my mom for giving me seizures. she has them and my aunt has them. they just had it as a child, i've had mine all of my life. they are also protective about where i'm going.

>>39203427

I can't really blame either of them, at least not for eventually turning out okay.

OP here. My parents divorced. My father wanted to do with me. My mother suffered from depression and did the bare minimum of parenting. It left me broken.

>>39203427
Not really having a father figure during my formative years because my parents divorced when I was young probably didn't help.

Father was an alcoholic loser who called me a "useless piece of shit" since I could remember. I walked on egg shell all my childhood, trying not to piss him off. He assaulted me a couple times when I put on weight at age 10.
As a result I have anxiety and, as my therapist says, major self-esteem issues. I don't talk to my father anymore, I hope he dies painfully one day and that I can to see it.

I dont really feel parents are always to blame for how their kids turned out. Genetics has a lot to do with it, so does the environment kids are raised in, but kids are also individuals and they have to take some responsibility later in life for how they turned out. Some people have a legitimate beef with their parents, but lots of people are just looking to pass the blame for their short comings on someone else.
I had decent parents that did their best. They deserved better than me.

i might as well blame their parents for raising them to raise me in the way i was
but wait, shouldn't i blame the parents of their parents
hold on a minute here maybe i should blame the apes we descended from
let's go further and blame the single celled organsims of early life
why stop here, might as well blame the elements themselves
but wait maybe we should blame the atom

if this is stupid, then the idea of blame is stupid

>>39203761
> idea of blame is stupid

So we shouldn't blame abusers for abusing?

>>39203761
>if this is stupid, then the idea of blame is stupid
Yeah, bro that child rapist surely wasn't responsible for that girl's fucked up mental problems. dumb ass

>>39203427
yeah i do, we moved every 3 years no mom changes jobs just because she could. never able to make close friends

>>39203427
Partly yes. They gave me my shitty manlet genes but the biggest gripe is that they never taught me to stand up for myself. They didnt want to deal with the hassle of school teachers so they taught me to never fight and always tell the teacher.

My mom drunk alchool and smoked during pregnancy.

Yes, they bore me into this world. Fuck those procreating fucks.

My parents got divorced when I was 12. I was never properly socialized because my dad was always working and depressed from the divorce, and to make the problem worse the rest of my family would just talk shit about him (my only role model) all the time. My mom left him to be with another guy.

I honestly feel that I never even had a chance with women because of this.

>>39203427
no because free will doesn't exist

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>>39203427
I wouldn't have been a log poster without my parents. Thanks mom and dad.

>>39203427
Sort of. I don't blame them for the way my life went but I do think they are bad people/parents and should feel guilt for the way they raised me, if they had a shred of self awareness.
But like I said I don't blame them. Ultimately my life has been controlled by me. my problem was that for most of my life I overthought things and allowed myself to just follow what other people told me to do.

>>39204188
So if someone blames someone for something, you can't blame them for blaming, because free will doesn't exist.

>>39203427
Yes
If my parents didn't believe in skygod and machismo, I could have actually gotten help instead of bottling up everything and living in immense shame and unable to function as a basic human being.

>>39203870
he wasn't responsible for being a rapist because he was raised to be one riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight

>>39204248

Oh yeah that too. All of my teachers begged my parents to put me on ritalin, but they wouldn't do it because Jesus. Believe me, I would have benefited from the fucking ritalin.

You know, I didn't actually realize how fucked my childhood was until now. Thanks OP. Members of my immediate family would also pretend to be dead just because they thought it was cute to watch toddler me cry about it.

>>39203427
yes. i will only share that they are retarded and demanding.

>>39203427
Hell yes.

I grew up poor. Their fault via being stupid and lazy.
I have bad eyesight and teeth. Their fault via genetics.

fucking cunts shouldn't have procreated

>>39203427
>they gave you their genes
>they raised you
yes, it's their fault in a way, but in another sense much of what went wrong is really my fault. its always better to blame yourself than others when its your choices that led to your current state.

My parents are socially autistic and my younger brother is also socially autistic, its a miracle i can even talk to people.

>>39203427
Dad bought be PC for 9th bday. Lived with Mom who knew nothing about what was on the internet. PC in room to myself, mom was in night school so had to come home after school to be home with little sister. Rest is history. A shut in computer nerd autist was made.

>>39204227

This goes for me, but I still love them.

>>39203427
>Do you blame your parents for the way you are?

Yes.
Mother never married.
She was 13 when I was born.
Refused to tell who my father was.
Lived with her and my Grandparents.
Grew up on the San Francisco Peninsula.
Grandfather molested me from infancy.
My grandmother helped.
My mother allowed it.
If he raped me, he would leave her alone.
Told a janitor, old, old black guy, what was happening when he found me changing a bloody diaper.
School called police, only ever saw my mother again in court.
Small trial, closed courtroom.
They tested me and my Grandfather is also my father.
Grandparents go to jail, he died in jail, she got cancer and they let her out and she died.
My mother did 12 years, got out and became a meth whore in Los Angeles.
She was found 2 years ago in the trunk of a stolen, burned out car, rolled over in a ditch out in Riverside County.
I was put into foster care and physically abused by 2 different families.
Eventually I was placed in a group home, that was as bad as the place i grew up in.
Never graduated, got my GED back in January.
Still have to wear a pad, my anus is so damaged I leak all the time.
I won't let anyone touch me.
I have 1 pretty good friend.
I live in Nevada and make desserts at one of the major strip casinos.

I really want to hurt people, a lot.
Women and old men, mostly.
I do not drive as i might run people down.
No guns, well because of bad ideas.
I spend most of my free time dreaming of hurting the guests at my place of employment.
To keep from hurting others I cut and whip myself.
Even though I really want to, I could never hurt someone else.
I don't want to be responsible for doing to another what was done to me.
I used to look around online to find myself.
There is a whole series of pictures and some videos of me getting raped.
I want to kill myself, but I won't let them win.
If I give up my grandparents and my mother will have completely destroyed me.

>>39203427
literal inbred so yes i do blame them

>>39205877
Jesus christ anon
I would hope that you felt alright after all that, but you obviously don't, so i just hope you can find someone who will be able to help you
I would give you a hug, but i guess that would also make you uncomfortable, so i'll just remind you that there's nowhere to go but up from there

>>39203427
I dont blame them but they are not without a fault

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Oh yeah my mom is a hardcore narcissist and my dad was a drunk who either yelled or didn't give a shit. They either spoiled us or told us to fuck off depending on when payday was. I grew up on fast/frozen food and was a fat fuck by HS. I'm the oldest of 6 unloved, emotionally abused kids. Which in and of itself is fucked up. My cunt of a mother had 6 kids and raised none of them. I was 16 when my youngest brother was born and by that time i started to realize what was going on and was pretty annoyed that she did that. My dad is dead now, and my mom is full blown crazy. I had to move to another state because if i stayed in my home town i would've killed her or myself. I saw a therapist for a while who surprised me by making me realize just how damaging my mother's behavior was/is.

Speaking of, one of my little brothers called me today. He was at my grandma's, and it was clear that he was trying to get away from my mom for a little while. I even asked him after a while if he was just trying to get away and he said yes. He's in forth grade and has been through so much. My littlest brother is only 4 and has been living in this hell for almost his entire life. Hell, i got my mom in her best years and i'm totally fucked. I can only hope they find ways of coping better than me or my 18yo brother who's a drug addict criminal with a baby in a cucked relationship.

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Well I know that it's their faults which made me be like I am. There's no reason in blaming them though, I know what my problems are and do nothing about them so I'm the only one to blame.

yeah id say nurture has more weight in making a robot than nature
divorced parents, dad is a loser with a huge ego and wasn't able to help us financially since he was a broke wageslave, he has a new wife now and i think she sucks too
my mom is a huge slut and has a meme job where she makes no money, she also helped me get a fucked up perception of women

>>39203427
Yeah, my dad never spoke to me and my mom coddled me my whole life.
If they left me to my own accord and let me just do whatever I wanted, I would be a Normie.
Instead, she kept me home my entire life and now I'm a 26 year old neet

>>39205877
Holy shit you make me want to believe in a higher power just so you can get some sort of recompense for this shit

>>39205269
yes, and for all those millions of African children who dies without reaching puberty is their own fault too.
their own fault for getting malaria and aids
their own fault for being malnourished
their own fault for being illiterate
their own fault for being poor their whole life
its all their own decisions that caused their suffering.

completely? no i'm at fault for a lot
but it's retarded to deny the effects of parents and environment on young children/kids/teens throughout life

>>39203427
I have BPD because my parents never had time for me and neglected me. Also my mum is fucked in the head and my dad has anxiety so they sort of passed that down too

>>39203427

I want to, but I can't entirely.

Part of it is that they got divorced just shortly after I was born, and I don't think either of them knew how to cope with it.

Resulted in me lacking a lot of the emotional upbringing and bonding that other people seem to experience in the home, and now as an adult I really have to work at understanding other people's emotions, and some times my own.

But it's not like they expected life to turn out that way either.
Everybody is just taking it day by day y'know?
That's all anybody can do.

>>39203427
Yes, I blame my parents
>dad is violent paranoid schizophrenic who refused to ever take his meds
>beat the shit out of my mom and all of my siblings until my mom left him
>be born grill, but something is seriously fucked up with my biology
>never had a period a day in my life
>start growing thick facial hair around 10 years old
>by the time I am 12 I have to shave my face every day or go to school as the bearded lady
>constantly fucking exhausted, even doing something as simple as rinsing the dishes and putting them in the dishwasher or sweeping the floor leaves me sweating, physically aching, and completely mentally worn out
>wind up morbidly obese even though I would do my best to participate a lot in gym class and would walk the mile every Friday instead of being the target of everyone playing fucking dodgeball
>plus, my by now single working mom was poor as fuck, so it's not like I was pigging out on pizza and ice cream 24/7
>despite all this shit so clearly blatantly obviously fucking wrong with me my mom refuses to acknowledge it
>my mom stares at her FUCKING BEARDED LADY OF A DAUGHTER and doesn't think I need to go to a fucking doctor
>repeatedly tell my mom that I have depression and that I want to see a therapist
>tells me I need to go outside and take walks
>younger sister smokes weed all night and sleeps all day
>"OMG, you poor thing, do you need to see a therapist????"


Fuck you mom. Fuck you in your crusty old frigid cunt.

>>39203427
I think I do. Dad was obsessed with work so never there. The family business was everything. Mother was neurotic and always flew of the rails over everything. If I broke something by accident then I got a kicking. They were too controlling and to this day I still cannot be assertive. We also lived in a more isolated area so few if any other kids to play with which also didn't help. I can only remember ever playing with my brothers or cousin. I do wonder how much different I'd be in we had lived in a more populated area and they had a more relaxed attitude.

>>39203427
Of course I do, do you think I did this to myself? They divorced when I was 4-5 and my mother took my sister and I to live in the city. It was rough to grow up in an urban area in the 90's as the son of a single mother that was always at work. With no male family or role model to teach me how to be strong it was hell. And honestly this thread was painful to read, it hits too close to home. Particularly >>39203487 >>39203666 >>39203703

>>39203724
This one even more so, except the weight part. Being a pos deadbeat is more or less tradition in my family I guess... My father is a drug addict and was always asleep because of it. Countless times I would need something to eat or need help with something but if I ever woke him up he would be as hateful as possible about it. I learned to be very quiet.

>grow up being assaulted when you try to so much as talk to your dad
>years later: "anon why don't you ever talk?

> I hope he dies painfully one day and that I can to see it.
Me too anon, me too...

>>39204248
This hurts because many people have wronged me and because I was told at a young age that "that's just the way things are" and other shit I just let it happen instead of getting revenge.

>>39205877
talk about rage inducing. I was molested as well but by an older neighbor kid. Hope you're doing better now.

>>39206574
>>39207759
also these

I just want to add that there should be some kind of law(s) where in order to have children you have to meet a certain criteria. Like being married for longer than 6 months or a year, there should be a certain standard of income to not raise children in poverty, psychiatric evaluations must be performed, a certain level of education/degree(s) must be had, or at least proof that the parents have a stable job(s) and or income, what am I forgetting? Not meeting these criteria should bar you from having children by law.

Not completely but still, I believe that even if they fucked up I am partly guilty because I could have tried to fix myself earlier.
My dad didn't really talk to me, he worked all day and only came home at night, he basically put the money and call it a day, no talking between us. My mom, I don't hate her, she's not a bad person, she didn't have bad intentions, but I feel like she neglected me, she always talked to my brother and sister but not to me, always hung out with them, and she and I never knew each other closely. I feel like partly this is my fault because I didn't really open up to her and didn't trust her for various reasons

>>39206689
fuck them niggers, i'm glad they die.

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>>39208740
This, being a parent should be a privilege that you earn.

yes it feels weak of me to blame them but i do, i have a lot of resentments with them

I can't really blame them for how I am, I was always an introvert and was a shy kid, was always different. They tried their best to help me socialise and get me into 'normal' hobbies like various sports, but I didn't have much interest in them. I think the fact that my siblings are all at least 7 yrs + older than me, so I never really spent time with them, and the fact my dad worked 11 hrs 6 days a week also affected me. I mostly have a strong relationship with my mum. My family itself is great, no abuse or shit like that.

>>39203427
yes

considering ive never met them in real life yeah i would say its their fault

they gave me immoderate affection and love and worked tirelessly on my behalf. for all that and life, I owe them an infinite debt. My problems are entirely my own

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My parents were too old to have kids and I blame them for my autism.

My mom also coddled me too much and my dad is an uncaring asshole who almost dropped me off the balcony when he had a psychotic break. I was 1 year old at that time. They also both have bipolar disorder.

Before I say anything else, I wanna say that I had a fairly happy childhood. I didn't have abusive parents, I wasn't particularly poor or anything like that. My parents provided for me and I never lacked for food, clothing or entertainment. All that being said, I am the typical lower middle class underachieving white male. I blame my parents for not being more involved. They pretty much let me do my own thing, and my own thing was not trying in school and wasting my youth on video games. I blame them for not forcing me to try harder. I blame them for standing by and spouting memes like "you'll find your way, just do what you want". Now, I consider myself to be a fairly intelligent person, and whenever I could be bothered to actually try in school, I did well. I am quite sure that if I had just put in the effort some of my peers did, I would a lot more successfull in life.

>>39210791

This has made me swear that whenever I have kids of my own, I will do my hardest to make them the best they can be. I want to push them to achieve, because there is happiness and fullfillment in actually doing shit with your life.

Yes, their constant fighting made me anxious, my dad was asleep for most of my childhood and the few times he was awake, he'd just get angry all the time, they never allowed me to go out with the few friends I had and they were both religious as fuck, prohibiting me to do a lot of "normal" things.

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>Single mother
Probably.

I don't blame them but they fucked up a lot of things.

i blame them for my shitty height

>>39203427

Yes.
I don't blame my mum at all. She was a naive dumb but otherwise very nice normie. Took care of me really well

My dad is a fucking autistic robot. My mum never deserved him. He decided to have kids knowing that he will pass his autism to them. He doesnt even know my birthday and age

Rages at my mum daily for his own incomptence at work. Hes basically a fucking pepe, even looks like a frog. Diabetes and all kinds of other health conditions

Now I have autism

Fuck you dad

my mom has a shitload of mental illnesses, would slap me and scream at me for no reason when she felt like it when i was little
i am pretty sure my dad is a high functioning sociopath,not only did he punch and kick me for as much as me not looking at him when he was talking to me ever since i can remember, he manipulated and gaslighted the shit out of me
also stole 3000 euros worth of my savings
not to mention he openly voiced his disappointment about the fact that i wasn't a straight A student and/or a sport crazed chad when i went to school
i have moved out and don't talk to them now, i hope they will rot away pissing and shitting themselves at a bottom of the barrel tier nursing home desu
i have a LOT of mental problems that they are responsible for and i need to struggle with them every day, so yes i do blame them.

>>39208740
not meeting these criteria should have you get castrated.

If the meme about being cut at infancy causing autism is true, then yes.

but not too much. my parents have done so much more for me than the majority of people's parents on this board.

>>39203427
My father is all kinds of fucked up. I blame him partly for my anxiety issues. Otherwise no, my parents didn't do anything majorly wrong.
Shyness or anxiety isn't an obscure way for weird people to deal with society, it's a natural response to an ever-increasing insensitivity and even brutality in social interactions. Survival of the fittest is the regime. It is therefore never one person's individual fault.

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>>39203427
Your parents give you your family (duh), genes, they choose your surrounding and your upbringing.
If you grow up to be a robot how much of it was really your own choice? Perhaps it was actually 0%. Free will is a very fickle concept.
Who you are is completely defined by factors outside of your control.

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>>39203427
A bit, i guess.

My anxiety to issues were passed on to me by my mom. She easily gets panic attacks and apparently tried to commit suicide when she was like 18 but everyone in her side of the family ignores it.

She's a very loving mother when she's not drinking, to the point of coddling. She's awful when she's drunk, though. She only really gets drunk when she goes out with my dad, but she passively drinks like four days in the week.

My dad is a pretty good man. After having a leak, he began getting mad pretty easily, though. I've always been able to confide in him with my deepest secrets, and he has always supported me. His biggest fuck-up was cheating on my mom, which then led to my mom cheating on him. As an only child, I would witness all their fights and everything that entailed: abuse, insults, etc. My dad and I even catched my mom getting on her lover's car once and my dad then beat the guy up. Prior to this, we had catched her with him two times.
As a result, I flunked a year in school, and since my family life crumbled, my self-esteem disappeared and I started to sort of get bullied at school. My old friends would now make fun of me to let me remain in their clique and I became the pathetic robot who only contributed by making shitty jokes, sometimes even at his expense. After failing, however, I made some genuinely good friends in a new school (we have even kept contact after all these years); I have a hard time trusting others, however.