are you clingy anon? why do people not like clinginess

please talk to me anon, I'm lonely :(

>>38817395
Because it ruins life and makes you into an annoying cunt.

>girl says she likes bf being clingy because it makes her feel wanted
>2 weeks in you're being annoying for wanting to talk at least once a day

>>38817395
I used to think I was clingy but then I started drifting towards the opposite end so now I'm usually the one to break things off with people. Clinginess is just annoying, it's as simple as that. Anyone who says they want clingy has never experienced real clingy.

>>38817575
:(
>>38817607
I'm a estrogenized boy, want to cling and feel protected

>>38817607
this. there is a reason why clingy guys usually tell the chick theyre clingy, if youre not into that then let us move on quickly and let us not waste our time on something that was never gonna grow

>>38817395
>why do people not like clinginess
This is a depressing future world where nothing is sacred anymore and no one needs anyone.

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>>38817657
How estrogenized?

>>38817716
chemically castrating myself :(
>>38817650
>>38817688
>>38817691
want to cling ;~;

>>38817739
wanting to cuddle and talk and be close isn't the same as being annoyingly clingy.

>>38817657
Just suck my dick and pretend that it's reparations for your country's colonialism of mine and i'll protect you.

>>38817755
how about if it's every single day?

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I'm clingy and obsessive. I hate it.

>>38817793
(Mostly) Every day is fine. Every hour is really pushing it.

>>38817821
Have you ever put any thought into suicide?

>>38817739
skyoe? discord?

>>38817657
Being clingy is not a red flag but unironically wearing striped kneesocks is.

>>38817793
Even then, cuddling/hugging/kissing/affection in general is just that... affection. Crucial to a relationship. If your partner doesn't like these things often then they feel nothing for you. I'm speaking from experience. However talking on the phone everyday feels like a scheduled mandatory task, which is why it's annoying.

>>38817847
I thought about it every day for a long time. I hurt the few people I ever cared about.
Nowadays I just feel empty.

>>38817854
anon :(
>>38817852
I have someone, I don't want to cling too much and I worry
>>38817838
okay :(
>>38817856
want to give them affection constantly

Semi-clingy eubot. I like clingy people. Rithvariel#9173

I used to be, now i go out of my way not to be attached.

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>>38817881
you wont have to worry about me

>>38817952
I don't give my discord out, especially to strangers, I'm a good girl(boy)

>>38817395
Clingy people tend to have emotional baggage from a previous relationship, childhood or past trauma
Now in the dating market there are bunch of options to choose from, why choose the one that is broken from the get go, you don't go to the store and buy a lamp that is already broken
I personally don't see the problem since even if they are clingy i can still just ignore their guilt tripping and do my thing anyway so i could handle it, but if they are crazy jealous about everything "who the fuck is mom and why does she keep calling you?!" then i might have an issue with them

TLDR; you're a dependent person, people tend to like independence in their partners, some like to nurture their partners like they are some kids but they are weird

>>38817995
>some like to nurture their partners like they
want that

I fantasize so much about having a clingy girlfriend that when I find one, I'll be the clingy one and it'll be one sided. 24/7 daydreaming about the perfect partner will lead me to disappoint.

>>38817995
>you don't go to the store and buy a lamp that is already broken
they know I'm broken and have not run away yet

You see it how it is, nice.

I actually like the way you worded it. If you're a guy and you feel like you're not obtainable, just remember that for thots, Tinder is like a grocery store for men.

>>38817395
I used to be clingy. I couldnt overcome it before actually understanding what the hell the clinginess was, what caused it, and why i was being clingy.

I think clinginess is a symptom of being unconvinced by your own power as an individual. If someone clings to their partner, it means the relationship (and that person) is the only evidence they have that they arent complete worthless scum. While this is shitty for the person alone, their partner is also dehumanized in a way; theyre implicitly being told "Im only with you to put my own conscience at ease," and IMO this is no less cruel than implying to someone that youre only with them for sexual gratification or any other comparatively vain pursuit.

The only way to solve this issue is to prove your worth to yourself, and the only way you can do that in a healthy way is to go out in the world and do anything useful or productive. For me it was a gradual process of sorting out my shitty relationships with certain family members, losing weight, and making some cute music with my good friend, and it was so gradual and only partially conscious that a less autistic person would have confused it for "just growing up."

I hope that helped

>>38818001
Well find a daddy man or mommy gf whichever floats your boat, there are people who get off on having people rely on them so they can control their lives (hopefully benevolent control)

>>38818076
is there a way to tell if someone is a mommy gf?

I'm avoidant, so a clingy girl would be ideal for me.

>>38818097
Well all i have is my own assumptions but here goes
>gentle, doesn't shout or be obnoxious in public
>warm person, hugs friends often and pats their backs and comforts them when they are down
>slightly reserved, tends to listen more than talk when with more rowdy friends
>has an air of superiority but not the dominatrix kind, more of a saintly one (mother Mary etc)
>likes to spend her time among / near kids or talks a lot about kids / kid activities
Finding one is nifty because you have to figure them out on your own since no one is going to come and blurt to you "oh im really into nurturing a full grown man, it's kind of my thing", if you act like what they seek they will gravitate towards you and show interest in you
Don't know if that helped at all but that's what i think they would seem like in public

>>38817395
tfw no super clingy gf ;_;

>>38818180
I want them to protect me from the scary world :(

>>38818265
Well hiding your head in the sand while someone pats your back is one way to live your life, who am i to judge ive seen some healthy relationships where both parties got exactly what they wanted from the relationship and were happy
Personally i took a more nihilistic route in life which lead to a bit of a darker path with depression, eventually you'll learn that everyone is indifferent and not against you, and become jaded but independent, look out for number one or no one will
I kind of envy the people that can have a functional mommy/daddy to dependent relationship, good luck finding your partner

>>38817395
Had I a girlfriend, I'd spend hours on the phone with her whenever we're apart, and passively cuddle with her whenever we're not.

Passively as in, I'd try and stay in physical contact with her as much as possible. I'd also want to do as many things together as possible.

I don't know if that's clingy, or obsessive, or anything, but that's what I'd want out of a gf.

And one of the many, many reasons I'm scared to death of having one.

>>38817995
>[baggage] from a previous relationship
Ding
>childhood
Ding
>or past trauma
DING DING DING DING MOTHERFUCKER

>>38818361
I'm infp anon other people above me :(

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>>38817395

I'm the opposite of clingy.

Don't really feel out company, thought it's not that I don't like it. Never had any folks who seem to want to hang around me.

How do I find a clingy gf?

With public approaches and Tinder being hard mode for me I'm out of options.

I'm super clingy and bad at talking/socially awkward. Literally just wanna cuddle someone all day but only had ldr so that is rough combo

>>38818459
Based similar anon

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I was clingy with my first real gf, now I'm broken and hate females in general. Got left by my Mom at my Dad's when I was 6 for a few years, so I'm sure that was a contributing factor, but I think I just cared too much, which is apparently the wrong thing to do. Now I don't really care for much of anything at all and stew in regret.

I Just want a cute clingy bf to talk to all day long ;~; any of you clingy bots wanna be that for me?

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>>38818497
>tfw too shy to talk to girls

I stopped being clingy a long time ago.
At the same time i lost most of my emotion too.
I'm not a robot i swear.

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>>38817854
>tfw luigi is a red flag

>>38818497
Depends on what you are yourself Anon

>>38817688
they never understand tho, when we tell them "i'm clingy," for some reason that only translates to "i'm caring" in their minds.

>>38818626
how do you know theyre not just regular socks hes wearing

>>38818646
Well I'm clingy if I really feel like I love someone,also I'm male.

>>38818705
What kind of a guy? I am feminine and extremely clingy if I like someone

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Any clingy people in New Zealand want to be friends?
Strictly friends.

>>38818727
Well I mostly feminine but I like to act masculine ever so often

I've been rather clingy in the past. I couldn't leave my first two oneitises (oneiti?) alone for a while even after finding out they didn't care at all. I wouldn't be surprised if I become a clingy autist a third time.

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>>38818746
no
nobloxx

>>38817395
I am clingy, but also I am too lazy for it. I cuddle cuties in my fantasy.

>>38818758
Do you have a discord I could add Anon?

>>38818926
c4t #6123

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>>38817395
Yes.
Sometimes I manipulate people to force them to spend time with me and it has ruined a special friendship. I'm doing my best to catch myself before I act on it but now I might be taking too far and generally not interacting with the few friends I have left.
I'm grateful for the people I've come across and have had contact with, I don't want to harm them without knowing full well what I'm doing.

In the end I keep the cling internally and stay cold on the outside. I need to mature more so that there is no reason for me to cling. In time with thought and practice. Thank you for reading me.

>>38817926
this
>it's not working

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>>38819298
I don't know how old you are, but if you still have friends then you're salvageable. The older you get, the more difficult it is to become a non-shitty person.

>>38819333
yeah, so much this
>:(

>>38818024
Anon, are you originally me?

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>tfw no clingy trappy weeby bf

discord: aeromatic#4635

>>38818057
That is pretty much exactly how i feel and how i think i could overcome my clingyness. Problem is, that for that to work, i first need a relationship. Just to see how bad it really is. And of course to see that there are other things in life to make me happy instead of a relationship

>>38817395
Clinginess is great when it's mutual. When two people who are normally very independent can't get enough of eachother thats great. But a clingy person with an independent person is just incompatible. The independent one will feel smothered and annoyed, and the clingy one will never feel reciprocation, never feel like the height of their affections are matched by their partner. Above all this is generally a sign of an incompatible relationship that will end.
Whats really scary is when two clingy people get together - you know, people who don't know how to not be clingy, with anyone.

>>38819540
unironically off yourself lmaO

nothing stems for discord relationships and continuing to waste your time on it is quite the showing of your maturity

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I want a clingy LG to cuddle and do stuff with.

I wish i weren't a complete and total schizoid, i would have found one by now.

>>38817995

Clingy yet long distance is literally the WORST. Every moment not spent in vouce chat means your phone explodes with messages grilling you on what you're doing. I can't even imagine how annoying it would be to actually live with someone like that, just walk away. Just walk away, and it will spare you the hassle. Just walk away. The second a relationship starts to feel like an obligation you're in pretty deep, especially if you want out.

>>38817395
I want a mommy gf but I don't know where to look

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>>38818431
I can relate. Everybody thinks all my interests are boring so I just have it as a given that people don't want to hear about them. People really only talk to me when they want to feel the satisfaction of telling somebody their problems. I'm like a mental trash bin.

>>38817395
I am extremely clingy. I want to exist in the same room as the one I love 24/7 if possible. I need at a minimum frequent texting to stay "okay." For lack of a better term I'm a Yandere. I got mental problems. I go a little off when I cant get in contact. Its even worse if I cant find something to do for them. I will straight up shut down and black out if the thought that I'm not doing enough lingers in my mind for to long. The worst breakdown I ever had was when my GF took a week long vacation. The house was just way to fucking clean. I couldn't find anything to do that I could justify as being for her. I broke down and after waking up 4 hours later I called her crying. Luckily she expected it would happened and planed for it.

Not many people can handle my mental problems and I don't blame them.

>>38819703
Not him but I got a real life girlfriend out of a discord relationship. Lasted half a year before she cheated on me though.

>>38819821
the afterlife anon, mommy gfs don't exist unless you are rich or chad

>>38820316
Doesn't rich or Chad basically apply to any gf as an excuse for not being able to get a gf

>>38820316
Mommy gfs exist in abundancy but everyone is looking for the super hot thick chick to be it and it doesn't work that way. They're more than likely weebs with a huge shota fetish etc etc. tl;dr expect something less than a 7 if you're looking for a mommy gf.

>>38820339
This

There's a huge difference between clinginess and possessiveness. Being super clingy just makes you an annoying cunt and it's almost always coupled with other issues like bpd.

>>38820381
I don't mind at this point and time. I just want to be loved and coddled. What else matters? ;-;

>>38817395
you have to realize that people like other people.
what people dont like is empty husks with no personality, that revolve around you like a fly.
it is attractive and healthy when someone has their own things, has their own hobbies they work on, that they are happy once they achieve things and learn things.
its not just clinginess.
the only people who like clingy empty husks of a person are people that have childhood problems and can't put their trust into normal people or want to feel in control or abuse.

>>38820561
Go into some cringy RP place or FB and start adding weeb profiles. Eventually you're going to hit your pot of gold.

>>38820624
enjoy being on it for years for nothing. I know what I'm talking about

>>38820244
>The worst breakdown I ever had was when my GF took a week long vacation.
Are you Louis Cuck?

>>38820908
>Are you Louis Cuck?
Who?

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>>38817395
My gf once told me "you're like a clingy puppy".

I still don't know what she meant by this.

>>38820381
>They're more than likely weebs with a huge shota fetish etc etc
I want a skinny nerdy qt mommy gf

>>38820381
>Mommy gfs exist in abundancy
If you can't direct me at even one right now then you're just a huge liar.

>>38821035
Me too ;-;

Why is life so cruel

Opposite, I tend to ghost people because I feel I can't form a meaningful connection.

>friends encourage me to talk about my issues with them
>always push them away because i get too clingy because i have no one else to talk to
about my shit

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>friend tells me I'm allowed to message him about my life
>go overboard and push him away
>do this often with all my friends
>can't move on from my own problems so i drag everyone down with me
>end up destroying any meaningful connections i have

>>38819904
Same here brother, and the minute I start throwing some of my trash their way, they just start ghosting me

>>38821017
you're someone who's cute but has to be taken care of all the time

My gf is really clingy but she has autism so she can't figure out when I'm not paying attention to her talking.

Clingy people are soul draining. If I ever want to do something they dont like they just guilt trip me into not doing it

how do I stop being clingy? I just want someone to love me and know the shit I've been through, but no one ever wants to hear it

>>38822082
No one cares about your problems. Life is just like getting on a bus, you get on and share yourself until its your time to get off. Don't sit there all day waiting for the same people to get on, they're out doing things in their life to better themselves while you sit there and wait for the next interaction.

>>38817395
No but I'm super attracted to it. Sad part is all the super glingy guys and girls I meet are so far into the depression spiral they wont even give themselves a chance. I'll explicitly ask them out and tell them I like them but they just cant accept that. They think its a joke or I'm pitying them.