does asking cashier for number ever work?

>>38777144
only if youre an alpha chad

Guy I know got his coffee with a number written on the cup by the barista, so it goes both ways.

If you have to ask: no.

>Is putting a person who's obligated by her work to be nice on the spot in public a good idea?

kek

I work in customer service and never give a guy my number when I am working. It just makes me uncomfortable and I feel cornered.

>>38777561
This.

Don't bother people who are working with personal questions.

Really retarded question. If you're good-looking everything works, if you're average or below average you're fucked.

>>38777561
I was just curious no reason to be hostile and even if I did it why should I care if some random girl is uncomfortable for like 10 seconds

>>38777754
Not that anon but if you want to be successful with girls not making them uncomfortable is a good start

>>38777772
Almost a get

>>38777754
Not being hostile m8, just laughing at the idea. You're not the first person to have it.

> why should I care if some random girl is uncomfortable for like 10 seconds

If your goal is to meet people and get along with them, making them uncomfortable is counterproductive.

>>38777144
I wanted to ask a cute traditional girl working at Chick-fil-a out once. Obviously never got the balls to do it but I always asked my friend there to take me there for a meal

>>38777772

Fuck that shit, whether she is working or not you run the risk of "making them uncomfortable", you might as well go for it and move on if she says no.

This is the game they choose to play by forcing men to make the first move, so fuck their comfort. I wouldn't bitch if a girl asked me out.

>>38777838
that's not what I meant I'm just saying that you always put someone on the spot when asking for a number which is why girls rather give out fake numbers or lie than being honest. I get it tho, rejecting people in general is hard

>>38777638
>It just makes me uncomfortable and I feel cornered.
Bullshit, if that guy was attractive you would not feel 'uncomfortable', because attractive guys do not make girls feel uncomfortable. That's why they're attractive.

>>38778086
It's about being at work and being trapped. It isn't fair to corner someone like that, they are there to work not there to socialize with random strangers

Create social relationships in social situations. Someone doing their job isn't in a social situation, if they wanted to find a bf they would be out at a social event trying to find a bf.

>>38778117
Kill yourself nigger, you don't know me and you don't know how I feel about anything. Attractive men make me more uncomfortable, because they likely have ulterior motives or else they wouldn't be talking to me.

This is why you guys won't ever get girlfriends, because you are fucking mean and don't know shit.

>>38778131

No its just female privilege at work. Like >>38778117 said its just a matter of if the guy is attractive enough. Now personally I don't do it, but I had a female cashier hunt me down just because I wouldn't make the first move.

Any male cashier wouldn't give a single fuck how many girls asked him out, only girls interpret getting hit on by people they don't find attractive as borderline sexual harassment. Get the fuck over yourselves.

>>38778172

>Attractive men make me more uncomfortable, because they likely have ulterior motives or else they wouldn't be talking to me.

Is this actually true? Do a lot of women think like this? Is this why it is hard to date girls below your own league?

>>38778105
That's true to an extent.

The thing with them being at work is that there's an extra component of them having to put on a face. They are being paid to be nice and can get in trouble if they don't. Which is why a lot of people describe it as being 'cornered'

In situations where the girl has plausible deniability and both sides can save face, they tend to be less uncomfortable. Which is why terms like "it just happened!", or "netflix and chill" have entered the vernacular.

>>38778131
Bullshit again. There's always time to chat.

Someone going shopping is not at the grocery to socialize. They are there to shop.

Someone at the library is not trying to socialize. They are there to read/research.

Someone walking is not trying to socialize. They are trying to reach a destination.

Females are SOCIAL creatures. They love talking regardless of what they're doing.

>>38778172
>they likely have ulterior motives
No shit, they want to fuck. If they like you, then maybe a good relationship can form.

>because you are fucking mean
LOL.
When the hell did being nice ever get someone a fucking girlfriend? Maybe in the 60s.

>>38777144
There's a big difference between flirting and good customer service. Everytime its happened unwarranted it gets shown to the rest of the team and they laugh about how awkward it was.

>>38778179
I don't think it's sexual harassment you retard, I don't like female strangers talking to me at my job either. Just because I am uncomfortable doesn't mean I think I'm going to get raped or some shit, jesus christ.

I don't like being cornered and forced into socialization. When I am at work I am a captive audience. That isn't fair, that isn't a good dynamic.

>>38778184
No, you just replied to a larping retard, we've been over and over about this shit in tinder and okcupid threads.

>>38777144

only if you have an attractive face otherwise its sexual harassment

Worked on me
>inb4 roastie
Nah I have a dick

>>38778184
I can't speak for anyone but myself. I wouldn't assume my hang-ups are typical of all girls, but I doubt they are unique either

>>38778214

You're bitching about a small bit of "discomfort" like a child. Just say you have a bf and 99% of guys will drop it. If not, one scream and every white knight around will come and kick his ass, you're in no danger.

>>38778210
you mean they come together and look at the security footage? that would be funny to be honest

If she is not too busy it might work

but generally the best to approach are girls who are shopping, or drinking coffee, doing something leisurely and don't seem busy

>>38778233

ok, and these ulterior motives are sex right? Or more specifically pumping and dumping.
I feel like this may be the source to a lot of my confusion

Ignore the "fembot" in this thread, most girls don't mind socialising as long as you have some charisma

I wish people would actually try with me, neet or not.

>>38778256
Do you read, nigger? I don't think I am in danger. I just do not want to engage in fucking relationship talk with strangers. I don't like lying, i dont want to lie. I dont want to be forced into misleading someone into thinking I have a bf in order to not deal with uncomfortable socialization.

Why can't people who are just doing their jobs not be pushed into social situations they weren't looking for?

>>38778131
You just don't get it, do you?
If you're attracted to a cashier, it isn't your fault that the cashier is attractive. If she doesn't want to risk interacting with "creepy guys," I dunno, maybe she shouldn't WORK AT A JOB WHERE SHE HAS TO TALK TO PEOPLE. I swear, white knights like you blow my mind sometimes . . .

>>38778302
you sound like a very spoiled, sheltered person who doesn't understand social interaction and not very good at your job, you're also rude and confrontational

you should work on your personal issues instead of getting butthurt that people want to talk to you

>>38778302
>I just do not want to engage in fucking relationship talk with strangers. I don't like lying, i dont want to lie. I dont want to be forced into misleading someone into thinking I have a bf in order to not deal with uncomfortable socialization.
Nobody cares what you want, the world doesn't revolve around you. The sooner you understand this the sooner you can get over yourself

>>38778346
>a user of this board doesn't understand how socialization works and is bitter and upset

do you know where you are?

>>38778409
this isn't wizardchan, get a grip

>>38778302

I feel you. I hate every time I pass someone on the street and have to make sure they aren't a fucking mugger, but its just a part of life. Just look at it from a guy's perspective and how he would handle it if a ugly girl asked him out at work.

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>Being hit on at work isn't fun for most people, it's social trapping
>'hurr no ur wrong it's good'
>No, since people at work are required to be nice and accommodating, it creates an uncomfortable situation when they get unwanted advances
> (>>38778346 >>38778373) REeeEEEE you're spoiled and sheltered! Nobody cares what about your discomfort, how dare you not accept our advances!!!

The classic robot tactic of demanding someone like them.

>>38778465
You're the only person making demands in this thread (because you've lost the argument). I'll repeat. Nobody cares about what you want, if somebody wants to talk to you in public they can and they will. Assuming you live in a free country it's legal and there is nothing you can do about it.

If somebody flirts with you and you don't want it just say you're not interested. If this is too emotionally scarring for you I suggest suicide, moving to Saudi Arabia or never go out in public again.

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>>38778541
I'm not that anon, sperg.

>Nobody cares about what you want, if somebody wants to talk to you in public they can and they will. Assuming you live in a free country it's legal and there is nothing you can do about it.

Sure, go right ahead. And don't be surprised when you fail to do anything but make people uncomfortable, and their coworkers laugh about you afterwards.

Nobody's saying you *can't* do it, snowflake. Just that's it a horribly counterproductive idea that anyone with an ounce of common sense wouldn't do in most cases.

If your only defense is: 'But it's not illegal!', you've already lost.

>>38778641
that's the best you got? You think I care if people giggle because I asked a girl out?

you're pathetic m8, grow some balls and stop caring what others thing

>>38778687
You do, considering how that's the one thing about my post you decided to zero in on. And how you got incredibly defensive about people not liking being hit on at work to that other anon.

Now go ahead and qualify how much you don't care, since that's what people who don't care do.

>>38778541
That wasn't me who posted that, why are you acting like that is the person you were replying to earlier?

OP asked if other people think that asking girls out while they work is a good idea, I gave my opinion. I don't know why everyone is fighting me over it.

>>38778767
I asked if it ever works, even if it works in 1 in 10 cases it works

anyways, people here would fight about fuckin hawaii pizza

>>38778803
I mean there's lots of ways that work to get dates. Some of those ways are better and more effective though, and don't violate social etiquette rules.

>>38778756
It was the only thing in your post worth replying to, the rest was empty noise after getting btfo

your responses are weak, you're butthurt that people approach others irl, evaluate your life before it gets worse

>>38778839
>It was the only thing in your post worth replying to, the rest was empty noise after getting btfo

Wrong as usual.

I've already outlined why it's a horrible strategy and why you squawking about legality shows how little ground you have to stand on. You're just evading, and making excuses for it.

But sure, I'm the one who got btfo. Keep that hamster wheel running.

>>38778803
Saying 'it works' because it doesn't lead to failure a small minority of times isn't always the best approach. The cost/benefit ratio for this sort of thing isn't really worth it.

>>38778923
It's a horrible strategy because you don't have the balls to do it yourself, that's the only reason

>>38778971
There is no cost for approaching people, your ratio talk is nonsense

>>38777144
I dated a coworker once, do not recommend. Don't you have some dishes to wash?

>>38778972
No, it's a horrible strategy because any female you approach while she is cashiering knows from the get-go that you as desperate and/or incompetent socially. Men who are socially savvy and successful don't have to ask out their cashiers. They have social circles where they find girlfriends, and girls know this. Any man of value can do better than asking out his bagger or Batista, it just comes off as a last resort type thing.

>>38778972
>immediate, defensive personal attack

Laughable. When confronted with actually thinking, all you can do is lash out. Sure doing a good job of demonstrating how much you don't care, bud.

I'll say it again: Trying to hit on people who can't leave, are required to be nice, and will get in trouble if anyone reports them as being rude; is a horrible, counterproductive idea. You saying "well it's not illegal!" isn't a defense; it just shows how completely inept you are socially.

You got nothing; everyone knows it.

>>38779083
>Men who are socially savvy and successful don't have to ask out their cashiers.
Men who are social savvy and successful do whatever they want, they can talk to anyone and make friends. They don't make rules about only asking out girls in their social circle lmao, this demonstrates how narrow minded your thinking is and how little you understand.

Anyway, the real reason you're butthurt is because you don't have the balls to cold approach women, that's the real reason. You want to discredit it in your mind instead of just admitting you're a cowardly weak willed pussy.

>>38779083
your post makes you seem insecure

anyways a guy could have two girls and still would want to smash the cashier

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>>38779113
once again, you're just too afraid to do it yourself and want to pretend I have no success because I can do what you can't

>>38778986
>There is no cost for approaching people

But there is a cost. People build impression of you based on the word of other people. This goes double in work situations. Being known as the pushy guy who hits on people at work is asking to be socially blacklisted. There's a reason reputation is so important.

I think there's a picture circulating the board of some robot who tried emulating PUAshit like that. He got banned from multiple places, and girls immediately recognized him on sight.

>>38777144

Yeah, I asked the pet store cashier for her number after she complimented me on my stupid graphic band tee and tattoos. She was a slut though, got nudes later that night. Never hung out though.

Cashiers are easy IF you see them often. You can start a friendly relationship and you'll easily get their number. It's one of the easiest ways if your a pussy.

If you're talking about asking a random cashier you don't know for their number, I dunno. If you feel like they're spending more time talking to you and going very slow to keep talking to you then do it.

>>38778131

Are you a women or a white knight?

You can just say "sorry sir I can't give my number out at work, story policy, or it's unprofessional"

it's so fucking easy to think of several excuses but women are too retarded apparently.

>>38779185
Yep, more evasion. You have no actual response, so all you can do is post smug frogs on the internet and hope people believe you talking out of your ass. Keep defensively replying to everyone calling out your retardation show how little you care, mr successful.

>>38779199
That's not a cost, it's a risk

There is NO COST for approaching someone, something bad may happen depend on what you say and how say it, that's down to you.

>>38779232

to add to that she can even call for a manager or store security to throw the guy out if he persists.

>>38778172

>ulterior motives

all men have the same motives dumbass. You must be a woman, no man is this naive.

>>38779240
kek, keep arguing why you're too afraid to approach girls, loser

>>38777777
nice ;)
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>>38779250
That becomes a semantic point if you're trying something with 1/10 odds. You're going to be accruing negative consequences for it, which is why it's generally a bad idea.

>>38778302

then be a fucking home maker and don't work with the public.

>>38779275
Unless you've done it yourself and analysed your results you don't know the odds

Personally, I have much better than 1/10 odds and even if the girl didn't like me, it's a very rare occurrence for it to turn nasty (it usually only happens in the chick is mentally ill and I didn't notice before approaching)

even then, I just walked off and that was the end of it, just stop being a pussy. You'd have to have Chris-chan level autism for people to recognise you on sight as "that guy who asks out girls in public"

I've always been of the "don't corner people" crowd but every time I go to this gas station near my house I notice a certain cashier preening herself when she thinks I'm not looking. I don't want to read too much into it but I've thought about asking her out. I've bantered with her a couple times and she seemed receptive. Maybe she was just bored.

>>38779337
>You'd have to have Chris-chan level autism for people to recognise you on sight as "that guy who asks out girls in public"

Where do you think we are?

When I was younger... maybe 23 years old, there was a sushi place at a farmer's market I used to go to in my neighborhood.

There was a cute girl who worked the register who dyed her hair lots of different colors and I flirted with her. She flirted back so I naturally asked her to write down her name and number on the back of my receipt.

We went out a few times but I decided to go back to Tokyo, Japan because it was more interesting living there than being in the suburbs at my Mom's house.

The girl faded away of course and I never got anywhere with her due to lack of time but I still remember hitting it off with her and getting her number like that.

I've only gotten numbers a handful of times... I would never do it unless I felt the girl was into me, too.

>>38779354
If she seems busy or stressed out, don't do it. If she is relaxed and bored, go ahead.

Approaching people irl is all about reading body language and if they would be receptive to a strange talking to them

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Im the ghost of Kekus the forgotten son of Kek and Im here to tell you do it op if it fails it will make for a great autism arrow tale

>>38777144
Don't do it, I was a cashier and the other girls at the register will 95% of the time will make fun of you and call you a creep once you leave

>'does coming onto cashiers work?'
>well I was a cashier and it made me feel uncomfortable
>'nobody cares go kys and live as a hermit if you're so sensitive. stuck up victimizing bitch.'

never change r9k

>>38777144
Only if you are obviously rich and handsome. Even then they'll usually be flattered but refuse due to corporate policy.

>>38779511
Doesn't mean anything m8, girls will do that out of embarrassment and to regain their social composure. I've had girls call me short, ugly, creepy, laugh at me and I still fuck them. She may laugh about him at work but then go to his house to fuck him once her shift ends.

Women aren't like men, you can't take what they say at face value with them.

>>38779554
Woman up, beta. Part of being female is having men approach you.

>>38779622
>implying

lol, the classic tactic of 'anyone who doesn't agree with me is a woman'.

Now call me a beta male/cuck/virgin/white knight or some other buzzword so you don't have to think. You know you want to.

>>38779689
yes, you are a white knight and hiding behind muh buzzwords won't save you

stop defending "fembots" online because a guy approached them, get your priorities in order

>>38777144
There was this girl at a subway near my workplace who came to say "Hi!" to me even when someone else was serving me. Then she seemed to blush and went out of sight. Sadly my work ended pretty soon after that and I never visited that Subway again

>>38779712
>Calling you retarded=/=defending fembots

False binary thinking, what a surprise. Post your ego saving reply below, newfriend.

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>>38777144
worked for me once, didn't ambush her when she was working the cashier tho, went for it when she was filling the shelfs, she was always giving me the look and making some small talk. nothing came out of this, we went for a coffee and chatted for like 90 mins, enough to realize we live in different worlds. at least i know girls like my looks, too bad im broken

as a fembot I often wonder if I should get a job as a cashier, since apparently so many guys want to date them.