A few short truths. Nothing more.
You suffer.
You want something. Revenge, gf, whatever...
You want it now, on demand.
So, what do you do? You imagine what you want.
>I saw THAT
>I want a thing like THAT or I want THAT
So you create a thing in your mind to represent what you want. Then you might not notice, but you start worshiping this idol, to promote yourself. So in essence, you worship yourself through a false idol.
You must sacrifice yourself, your comfort, your security. Ask and you shall receive.
I asked for a GF and I got one. They're humans, and they will never compare with your imagination. Never. All those expectations you had will be crushed once you have a gf.
I don't know about children and family, but gf and sex are not enough. Heck, the desire to have them is our biological drive to form a family. Twisted times we live in.