I wanted to post about this for so long but never had the chance.

>>38493798
>if I don't keep it going (by basically interviewing them even though I couldn't give less shit about their lifes and opinions)
You say this, then say you are surprised your "friends" aren't there for you and don't message you first, try to help you, or give a shit about your life or opinions. You sound narcissistic and like you lack empathy. Friendship is a two way street and it doesn't go anywhere if you are a shitty person.

Connecting to somebody is about prediction. You get to know the person, what they say in certain situations, how they think, you become aware of their mental state, what triggers what, etc. The more you can predict, the more comfortable and connected you feel around them. Validation feels good, even if its subconscious. You predict how the person will react subconsciously, and when they do, you feel good around them.

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>>38493910
I knew someone would get caught up on this . What I'm saying is that even though I feign interest in others, no one takes interest in me . and there are some people that I truly wished to know more about but I got the same treatement.
>>38493947
I think that I misuse this prediction thingy because I explicitly state what they are going to do next which only makes people mad because no one wants to feel predictable.

>>38494158
>I knew someone would get caught up on this . What I'm saying is that even though I feign interest in others, no one takes interest in me . and there are some people that I truly wished to know more about but I got the same treatement.
Maybe they can tell you are ingenuine and share the disinterest you have, and when you do actually like someone, you probably come across as strange or trying too hard from lack of socialisation and proper friends permanently and irrevocably stunting you.

>>38494186
>come across as strange or trying too hard from lack of socialisation and proper friends permanently and irrevocably stunting you.
this so much . I do think that this is one of the many obstacles that I have . the problem is it s like needing experience for a job and paradoxically a job to get experience , so I don't really know how to fix this.

smole bumpity bump

>>38494240
There is not much else you can do besides trying further or giving up on people completely.
Most people already have enough friends they can talk to so to say. So even if they are somewhat interested in talking with you it does not mean that they even would want more friends.

>>38495245
thanks for the insight. I think I'll try again someday and if it doesn't work then fuck it