Oneitis General

My oneitis rejected me.

She's single. We still have sex regularly. I kissed her today. I'm already starting to see her as the average hot girl that she is. Oneitis fading fast.

Still a good fuck.

>>38475670
OP here. I envy you, friend.

I've had oneitis for 11 years. I fell in love with her at 17 and told her I wanted to marry her. I offered to change anything about myself that wasn't compatible with her desires. She apologized for not loving me back. After that, I decided to go the "no contact" route, since everyone said that was the cure to oneitis. Now I'm just as in love with her at 28 as I was more than a decade ago. To add to the fun, my oneitis contacts me every couple of years, sometimes through intermediaries, to apologize to me yet again. I never respond because hey, "no contact" is the cure to this curse, right?

Back in the day, I enrolled in her university, obtained a job there, and accessed her student records. They contained her social security number, which I beat off to. I also grabbed one of the posters I saw her putting up around campus so I could touch something that she had touched. Oh, and I became best friends with her ex so I could learn more about her, and occasionally brush up against the guy she had touched. (I guess this was a little homo.) I kept that friendship up for 10 years, until he got to the point where he wouldn't talk to me about her anymore. There are a lot more stories I could tell, but they're all just as pathetic.

I've told every girl I've been with since I was 17 that I'm in love with my oneitis. Oddly enough, it's never been a deal-breaker, though one girl accused me of cheating with someone else later, so maybe I planted the seed of doubt within her.

I'm married now, and my wife accepts that I'm in love with someone else, since I'm still in love with her, too. (If you don't believe it's possible to be in love with more than one person at once, I think you just haven't experienced it, IMO.)

Recently, through some cyberstalking, I found out that my oneitis is engaged.

I still jack off to her Facebook and yearbook photos.

I'm going to die in love with my oneitis.

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>>38476050
Jesus Christ
Is there no redemption in this world?

>>38475652
She didn't reject me, because I've never asked her out. She just made it rather clear than she's no longer interested in me.

I kinda suspect she's a shut-in, so I have my doubts about her having a boyfriend. I may be a gullible cuck, especially since she's objectively at least 7/10.

I tried no contact, and it didn't help. Now, 2 years after my last contact with her, I'm still trying to find her on tumblr or instagram.

>>38476050
I feel bad for you, OP.

I followed my oneitis for a good chunk of university. I confessed my feelings to her around Christmas of first year. She told me that she liked being friends with me and apologized for not feeling the same way in return. On the advice of her friend, I did the "no contact" thing for a few months until we reached summer and I told her I was "over it" (a lie). Then we started hanging out again.

She dated a Chad starting in second year university, that was hard to watch. Because I knew that while I was sitting around being a KHV, he was fucking the girl I loved. But the relationship started running into trouble around the 8 month mark because the guy was such a prick, and after another 7 months of mostly her trying to prop it up, it was over. It wasn't until fourth year that she started seeing other guys again, and they never went beyond the dating stage.

But here is where we differ. I didn't cut off contact. And so one day, ironically around Christmas of fourth year university, we were alone together in the park and she confessed to me and apologized for "wasting all these years with people who didn't matter when I could have been with someone who did matter". By that point I had been pretty thoroughly indoctrinated by /r9k/, I knew for sure she had sex with 3 different guys (and there is a possibility that there are more that I don't know and don't care to ask about), and I could have easily rejected her based on the "sloppy seconds" principle. But I didn't care, I loved her and wanted to be with her. It's amazing how the negativity bred after years of this place can melt away.

We've been together now since December 20, 2015, which makes me her longest-lasting boyfriend. Our two-year anniversary is coming up this year (and I celebrated my virginversary on March 14, my birthday). The lesson here is- the "no contact" route guarantees failure, but you might have a shot if you're orbiting in the friendzone. Don't give up.

>>38476050
>married
>had gf
>still in love with his oneitis
DOESN T THE RIDE FUCKING ENDS AT SOME POINT ????

4 years now, she's my first (and so far only) real love, i have accepted that my feelings for her will never disappear.

its been 5 years since ive spoken to her

i have her on facebook but im too scared to contact her

ever since she rejected me ive been dead inside, but the feelings i have for her wont stop hurting

Mine is dating a 270 pound fat fuck and it makes me rage because I'm putting in effort to be fit when she clearly doesn't care about bodies. I don't want anyone else.

I like my ex black gf but we're going to the bars in a couple and I'm probably gonna fuck her condomless again.
We are both mentally ill and met at the hospital.

>>38477834
>Redbone.mp3

Shes in love with an asian gangster whos currently in jail for beating his babies momma and has literally tried to kill my oneitis before. So while hes in jail shes been staying in my bed, cuddling and kissing me but denying me any sexual contact or intimacy.

worst part is they had sex a few meters from me while i pretended to be asleep.

What the fuck am i even doing with my life please end me.

>>38477059
Probably for others, just not for me.

>>38477310
Congratulations for escaping the Friend Zone, Anon. Sometimes I regret not pursuing my oneitis further, especially since she kept trying to contact me. She even found my OKCupid account and rated me 5 stars, while I was in a relationship. I thought she was just doing it to get my attention again, since all she actually said to me in messages and though intermediaries was that she was sorry for the way she treated me. (This is confusing, as she treated me well, unless not being in love with someone is mean.) Then again, I do love my thicc wife and am very attracted to her. I just like to think of an alternate universe in which my oneitis and I are married and happy.

>>38477666
Not for me, apparently.

>>38477698
Bask in long-term limerance with me, Anon. Dehumanize yourself and face to bloodshed.

I've been trying to let go of my oneitis. She's rejected me too many times, like she would it me touch her and make out with her but never let me have sex with her. I didn't talk to her for months but we reconnected after awhile. Nowadays I usually ignore her texts or act uninterested in the conversation. She also seems to be flirty with me when we chill, she seems to always sit down right next to me, shell touch me and grab me and shit.


Oftentimes shell text me a few times until i answer. She'll always say shit like "I miss you" "why do you hate me, did I do something :(" I hate that I love this chick, I can't seem to get her out of my life. I like spending time with her but at the end of the day she makes me feel shitty. Now she's living with this drug addict/dealer piece of shit. I want to tell her how much of stupid bitch she Is for fucking with this guy.

>>38477784
I remember your thread from earlier bro

>>38477310
enjoy being cucked, you were her last resort for not being alone.
she will find some guy to cuck you if she can if she cannot she will be a bitter women in a dead bedroom. and you will deal with that.

>>38477310
Congrats on achieving what I could not. Been friendzoned by my oneitis for years and it just keeps hurting more and more. It's not even a virgin feel- she hooked me up with one of her friends so I satisfied that itch- I just really want to be with her. I'm nort gonna give up.

>>38478885
I find it amusing that people cannot be inspired by stories like that and just choose to remain bitter.

>>38479011
There's nothing inspiring about that story. He was her last choice and he likes her so much that he's willing to deal with it even though he probably cares so much more about her than she does about him. Do you really think something great happened that made her realize she "made a mistake" by not "getting with the right guy" in the first place? This is some Hollywood bullshit. Sometimes it's better to put the desperation aside for some self respect.

>>38477979
Christ that woman is manipulative gtfo and best of luck to you

>>38475652
>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
Known her for five years, started falling for her two years ago.
>Is she in a relationship right now? Is it with Norman, Chad, Tyrone, or someone else?
No, she's never had a bf as far as I can tell. She also deleted all of her social media a while back.
>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell, or have you resigned yourself to beta orbiting?
I haven't contacted her since she turned me down after I confessed, but we have met a few times since anyway. One time she texted me to meet her for lunch. I probably should've called her again after that but I was too autistic to do so, so I'm back to no contact.
>Are you going down the dark path and stalking her? Online, or in person?
I'm trying not to. I ran into her at the mall in May, she works at a store in there. Everyday I fight off the urge to just show up and talk to her again.

>>38476050
>They contained her social security number, which I beat off to.
I can understand everything else in the story, but why this?

>>38477760
If you ever do contact her, don't do it over facebook, that'll look autistic as fuck. Much better to "accidentally" run into her.

i have oneitis too and i fucking hate how much i enjoy her company. she's just so fun to be around i can't take not waking up and falling asleep with her. although i haven't seen her for some time now

>>38475652
>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
About 2-3 years now. I've known of her existence for about 5-6.
>Is she in a relationship right now? Is it with Norman, Chad, Tyrone, or someone else?
She is single and has never had a bf. She's a shy introvert like me and doesn't really talk to people. Her mother alludes to her daughter liking me back, and I have caught her staring more than once.
>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell, or have you resigned yourself to beta orbiting?
I don't talk to her because I'm 18 and she's 15 and in merica that's pedophilia. "No Contact" hasn't worked.
>Are you going down the dark path andstalking her? Online, or in person?
I have tried stalking her online but she has no social media presence which makes it nearly impossible to find unless I directly ask her.

>>38475652

6 months now I've known her. As far as I know she's single but I don't doubt she's getting dicked from someone.

I've beta orbited way too many times to count. This time is different. She's sent me so many mixed signals so I'm going to make a move. I'd rather know now and cut contact with her sooner than later. I'm getting too tired of feeling this way.

>>38479835
6 months too late

>>38477946
I've had my oneitis for 5 years but I've only spoken to her twice.

I'm scared I'll end up like you...

I'm fucking REALLY scared I'll end up like you.

I'll never see her again since she changed jobs and I don't have any contact details but I fantasize about her every night, holy shit I'm panicking.

>>38475652 (OP)
>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
Almost 10 years
>Is she in a relationship right now? Is it with Norman, Chad, Tyrone, or someone else?
Yes, with atleast not a complete normie chad.
>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell, or have you resigned yourself to beta orbiting?
No contact, got so nervous I didnt even say hi last time I saw her in real life. I wasn't like that in high school, actually talked to her sometimes. Shes so nice, smart and stuff, not like all the normie girls.
>Are you going down the dark path and stalking her? Online, or in person?
Just online, I probably have every picture of her saved since 2012/13 in a seperate harddrive that I update every once in a while, I have created quite a few fake nudes/facials or whatever of her in my hornier times, atleast that made me learn photoshop. Also I have pass-protected .zip on my phone with some of her pictures for times when I'm drunk and feeling like I want to kill myself. God, I am a fucked up person.

>>38479832
>I'm 18 and she's 15
No one actually cares about that, 18 and 15 is plenty close enough. If that's the only reason why you're avoiding her, stop doing so. But I predict that you're actually just scared of putting yourself out there and risking rejection, so you rationalize that the age difference is why things won't work out.

>>38479565
I was turned on by the idea of having special knowledge of her that other people didn't. I eventually lost her social security number, though.

>>38479565
>If you ever do contact her, don't do it over facebook, that'll look autistic as fuck. Much better to "accidentally" run into her.

i live in a different city tho, plus i have no idea where she lives

>>38480120
>But I predict that you're actually just scared of putting yourself out there and risking rejection, so you rationalize that the age difference is why things won't work out.
Hit the nail right on the head.

Oneitis is such a stupid term. It's called a crush, and if you think yours is so much more than a crush, then maybe obsession is a more appropriate word.

>>38480113
You have no chance to survive make your time.

>>38480116
>I have created quite a few fake nudes/facials or whatever of her in my hornier times
Man, I never even thought of this. As a fellow creep, I approve.

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>>38480116
i too make fake nudes of my oneitis. i even made secret video recordings back in hs which i deleted later when i thought i was going to fix myself. really regret that now. also i got so creative with pic stalking i think i have images of her she doesn't even know were made. one of my biggest fears is someone finding about this somehow

>>38480601
Yeah, I have been close before, now I'm extra cautious.

>>38480601
>i even made secret video recordings back in hs which i deleted later when i thought i was going to fix myself. really regret that now.

My oneitis willingly sent me a picture of her in her bra right around the time I proposed to her. I also deleted it when I thought I was going to get over her and now I really regret it, too. My obsession comes with a purge and relapse cycle, so that wasn't the last time I deleted content of her and then hated myself for it.

>one of my biggest fears is someone finding about this somehow

One of my biggest fantasies is someone who knows my oneitis finding out I (still) feel this way and relaying it back to her. It would be a weight off my shoulders.

>>38480783
>One of my biggest fantasies is someone who knows my oneitis finding out I (still) feel this way and relaying it back to her. It would be a weight off my shoulders

I kinda wish for it to happen too, but I'm afraid of the look of disgust on her face upon hearing this.

>>38480884
>>38480783
it feels so logical too, i can jack off to pornstars or her pictures, i mean at least i have feelings for her. but if anyone found out it they would think I'm a huge creeper. if I found out about a girl doing this with me (haha) it would just feel nice that someone would like me that much

Nine months, but the casted me out of her life two months ago and the pain of her hating me is excruciating.

>>38479011
i said that to you because you are not even her second.
you are her last and in the long run she will resent it and blame it on you.
i saw my mom do this to my father and even blame me for her shitty life.
you should end it and not be selfish. she will find another betabux or alfa fuck if she needs

>>38476050
>her social security number, which I beat off to
this is hardcore

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>>38475652
>tried getting with her
>she wanted to
>never met, because I thought "I'll do it later"
>gets chad boyfriend
>takes her virginity
>a year later I ask her if she wants to hang
>says she only wants to be with friends and her boyfriend, rejects me
>ask her if she never wants to see me again
>she confirms
>get mail by her bf
>tells me I'm a son of a bitch
>figure out the girl I fell in love with in primary school is a golddigging whore that will get rejected once chad has sufficient money to reject her
>by that time I'll have money as well and an awesome life
>if she comes back I'll reject her the way she did reject me

done with women, right now, they aren't worth the hassle, literally fuck-and-go is the only way to go

>>38479409
But why is she being manipulative? It's not like I give her a lot of attention anymore or anything like that

>>38476050
how does one acquire a fetish for social security numbers?

asking for a friend

For 4 years now, the only reason I haven't given up was that she's regularly rude to people, but she had actually been nice to me for a bit when we had 1 on 1 convos. She might be messing with me, but she's single so I just had a little hope.

The School of Life Youtube channel had some shity video about how to get over unrequited love the other day.
>get to know her better and you'll see she's a flawed human like everyone else.

Yes? Why would that matter?
If her being flawed would make me not love her then wouldn't it make me not love anyone?
Some fucking normie idiot crap.

It's amazing what makes stupid people happier.

The more stupid a person is the easier it is to cheer them up. The easier it is to fix them.
You can literally tell people that "everything will be fine, trust me, just smile and you'll feel happy" and it works for them.

>Just pretend to be happy and you'll become happy.
When?

Do you guys ever just sit back and think about how fucking pathetic men are?

I mean seriously. There is not a SINGLE forum on the ENTIRE INTERNET where women obsess over guys in the way you all are in this thread. I mean sure, they'll obsess over Justin Bieber etc, but just average, run of the mill guys? They don't give the SLIGHTEST fuck.

And you guys are writing ESSAYS about girls who don't think twice about you. I'm not blaming you - I know it's just the natural order of things, but seriously...just lmfao. Males are truly pathetic. What the fuck is the point in a gender where less than 0.1% of the members are actually valued.

>>38475652
3 years

no

the 1st year I was too awkward and nervous and she was single, but we got along pretty well and we both flirted with eachother a bit awkwardly. the 2nd year I cleaned up, but life and location circumstances kept us apart (she had a relationship with someone for some of this time, i used my newfound skills to have a slightly shorter one with someone else as well. Both ended badly and in a few months.)

Plan to do something about it this year, some of our mutual friends ship us and want to set us up, so thats nice

I stalk her online (Idk if its stalking because she actually adds me but I sometimes look at/beat it to her pics and I'm assuming that counts)

>>38475652

Last oneitis rejected me 4 years ago and I lost the ability to feel affection for anyone lol

I hAve resigned my self to orbiting, I don't want her as a gf, I want her as a wife, as the mother of my children, I don't want to date her and risk losing her, I want to marry her (not divorcing the qt) and spend the rest of our life together. Just a pipe dream thou, I ain't ready, she ain't ready and temptation lurks around every corner for both me and her, and I am weak man, whose carnal desires will get the best of him eventually....


So round and rounder I go....

>>38483774
https://youtu.be/kUH34iqK7cI

>>38483774
Lots of men are pathetic in the modern age, sure. They're also the only gender with any potential for greater things. Men think about things more often and more deeply. In a society this perverse, it manifests in pitiable ways. Women are capable of being content with an incredibly banal mindset, so they are fine with not giving the slightest fuck. Ignorance is bliss.

>>38484249
>They're also the only gender with any potential for greater things
Lmfao. Fucking CRINGE.

Literally who the fuck cares lmfao. None of that counts for shit. Your oneitis wants Chad, not some pathetic incel "scientist".

>>38484291
How prosaic of you. Are you a woman yourself by any chance? Or black perhaps?

>>38484389

Not him but he is right. You aren't great you are just a sperg.
You should be worried about how to just live a normal happy "banal" life not "muh greatness."

>>38484470
I never made claims about myself. These are just facts of male and female psychology.

>>38484389
>Or black perhaps?
Lmfao at this terrified, 4chan browsing virgin.

Aww, are you upset that because your oneitis wants to fuck black guys and not you?

You /pol/fags are a joke. I can literally see, literally FEEL your entire personality. You're a socially awkard, insecure friendless virgin who's DESPERATELY trying to "back up" the one cope he THINKS he has of being some cool, laid back smug guy who "doesn't approve of race mixing" (FUCKING LMAO), despite the fact that you're a terrified bitch who can't even talk to WOMEN, let alone "take back mother europa!11".

Again - go ahead and type out a butthurt reply, but deep down you KNOW what I'm saying is true. That's what makes it so hilarious - literally ALL young western european men are scared, pathetic cowards. Sure, you have your little steam groups where you talk about "da shitskins", you whine and bitch on your little forums, but WE CONTROL YOUR STREETS. LMFAO. You are PETRIFIED to leave the house after dark, because of us. LMFAO. Aww, little suburban bitch, did the scary dark man give you a nightmare? Don't worry, just go and play Crusader Kings, you can be a real man there! LMFAO.

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>>38484068
I'm surprised that hasn't been linked before.
How anyone is capable of a relationship with a woman is beyond me.

>>38484492

Pure ideology.
Actually go outside and talk to some random men to see how great and deep they are lol.

>>38484498
Where did this come from, anon?
What about these facts throws you into such a fit of rage?

>>38484569
I have actually. What's your point?

>>38484618

My point is that there is virtually nothing true about your post and that it's all ideologically motivated.

>>38484678
And why do you believe that?

>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
About 10 months. I fell for her a month after meeting her.

>Is she in a relationship right now?
Yes. I met her too late, when she'd already been talking with some failed chad. Shortly after I realized I had feelings for her they started dating.

>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell
I resorted to that after realizing I'd be stringing myself along for a chance that might never come. And sure enough, he accidentally got her pregnant a while later. She'll ask me how I'm doing every now and then but I never initiate contact and I try not to look at her social media which she doesn't have much of anyway. But I still think of her every day and posts like yours make me realize I'll probably never be over her.

>5 years
>dont know
>I haven't seen her in 3 years
I think about her very often but have no means to contact her. She was just my classmate in college and we talked and studied together very often but I never asked for her number. Only crush I've ever had.

>>38484709

And what makes you think that I do?

>>38484760
Because you stated it as your point.
Why be intentionally obtuse?

>>38484851

Stated what as my point?

>>38475652
>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
5 years
>Is she in a relationship right now?
yes
>Is it with Norman, Chad, Tyrone, or someone else?
He's a normie. But the way she talks about him, makes him sound like a robot. Saying he has issues and what not.
But I don't think he's a robot. It just sounds like he has no genuine interest in her, lmao. At least that's what I tell myself. I hope they break up soon.
>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell, or have you resigned yourself to beta orbiting?
If by "no contact strategy" you mean not talking to her so i can forget about her: No, I don't do that. I don't want to forget about her. I want to be with her. So yeah I am beta orbiting. But I'm "aware" enough to know that I should date other women in the meantime, to increase my "market value". I think that for the time being, I should enjoy life and date other women, have fun, and then later in life ultimately end up with her. Problem is just that no woman has an interest in me, and I'm also scared of her getting pregnant.
>Are you going down the dark path and stalking her? Online, or in person?
I stalk her online. Like Facebook, etc.

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>>38484756
>accidently got her pregnant
and another bastard child on it's way, with a shitty future.

>>38484898
Yeah, maybe they'll surprise me but I honestly don't see that ending well for any of them. Not like I stuck around to find out though.

>>38484861
Come on now, the argument barely started and already you resort to feigning ignorance?
Has the quality of this board fallen so far?

is oneitis just the fact that you like a girl and since no girl likes you you project every intimate thought, feeling and dream onto that one girl? i kind of feel like this. fucking every normie TV show and song and film is about love and relationship. and i just naturally associate these with my oneitis because who else would i think about when no girl has ever loved me?

>>38477310
Fucking hilarious.
She was a single girl in college, you fucking moron. She's taken at least 20 dicks by now. She fucked many dudes at parties after just meeting them but made you wait 4 months LOL.
She is not attracted to you. You were the backup plan and now like a good billy beta you're giving her exactly what she wants. Do you think she is ever going to respect a man who quietly sat pining after her while she went and fucked a different frat Chad every weekend and then happily took her back after she'd had her fun?
Enjoy it while it lasts I guess but after it's over and you enter the bitterness stage when you see her in pictures with her new boyfriend, remember I told you how stupid you are.
t. former beta who finally learned from his mistakes

>how long have you been in love with your oneitis?
20 years.

It's my mother. Why am I like this?

>>38483069
OP here. You just need to get off on the fact that you know something about her that hardly anyone else knows. It's like sharing a secret.

>>38483499
>If her being flawed would make me not love her then wouldn't it make me not love anyone?
Yeah, I've heard this method pitched as "Picture your crush having diarrhea"--but of course I know she's had diarrhea at some point. I think the only the only thing that would destroy my feelings for my oneitis would be knowing that she had done something I consider genuinely evil, and I have no reason to suspect that she has.

>>38483774
Do you have any evidence that men are more prone to chronic limerence than women? I haven't read anything to that effect, but if you have please share.

As for myself, I know I'm pathetic, so you'll get no argument.

I still like reading about other people's experiences with oneitis.

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You have twenty-two (22) seconds to say something nice about my oneitis.

>>38485341
What an unusual situation. Please tell us more, Anon.

>>38485690
She has nice tits, eyes, and hair.

>>38475652
For 7.5 years, on and off.

>>38485690
she's (probably) not as ugly as you are

>>38485091
The oneitis is what normies would call "true love".
You can be aroused by other women, even date other women, or have a crush on other women. But you never stop loving and wanting your oneitis. At best you manage to blend her out for some time. But you will always want to be with her.
Of course this all implies you've known her for a while. A girl you just met 2 months ago can't be your oneitis, she's probably just a crush or something.

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>>38475652
>tfw finally moved on from my oneitis

>>38485739
Shit forgot the rest
She's not in a relationship. She's legitimately a virgin. She'll probably get married in a year or two.
I don't contact her and have probably said 10 words to her in my entire life. I do stalk her on social media sometimes but I've largely stopped that.
Can't give any more of my story on this cause I am paranoid she'd somehow see this and figure out who I am.

>prom is coming up
>build up all my courage to ask this qt asian girl I am really good friends with
>she has sort of messed up teeth, dark skin and she's really short but I'm legitmately in love with her
>I'm still in love with her to this day (5 years later) even though we haven't spoken in years
>fat bleach blonded hair bitch who likes me notices I'm on my way over to the asian qt so she intercepts me
>asks me to prom
>sperg the fuck out and nearly faint from anxiety, she coerces me to say yes
>she squeals with joy and goes to tell every single girl in our grade
>they all tell me what a great guy I am for taking her to prom. Now there is zero chance I can ditch her.
>qt asian goes with someone else and I go with the fat chick.
I truly consider this the moment my life turned to shit. I'll be wondering what could have been for the rest of my life. I've been no contact for years and she's moved across the country. It's over.

>>38485811
>have probably said 10 words to her in my entire life
>I am paranoid she'd somehow see this and figure out who I am.
Unlikely. She doesn't even know who you are.
Unless you meant you have said 10 words using your voice, but you have talked more through text based means.

>>38485705
Idk. Always felt attracted to her. I guess it's the way I was raised? She would always tell me that no girl would ever love me more than her. And she would call every girl I've ever had a crush on a bitch and get really jealous. She'd get super mad when she thought I was having sex (this was from 15-now) I got a girlfriend once and she said she hated her guts. I never felt anything for her anyway. She does everything for me. Never threw tantrums because I hate upsetting her. She's also super attractive for a woman in her mid 40s. I've always felt in love with her. I hate it but I can't help it.

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>>38485801
This lad, it feels oh so much better once you're cool with it

>How long have you been in love with your oneitis?
coming on 11 years this september, rejected about 7 years ago

>Is she in a relationship right now? Is it with Norman, Chad, Tyrone, or someone else?
Not that I know of, she had a 6'2" jacked chad bf a while ago but I have no idea if they're still together

>Are you trying the "no contact" strategy to attempt to escape this Hell, or have you resigned yourself to beta orbiting?
Haven't talked to her in 7 years (see question 1 for reason). We went to the same (small) college and I saw her a handful of times. Walked past her and didn't even make eye contact.

>Are you going down the dark path and stalking her? Online, or in person?
We live in the small city but I don't actively seek her or anything. Just praying one day i'll get over it (unlikely). We got along very well in HS but after rejection I completely cut all contact so she probably resents me for that (don't blame her though)

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>Tfw now dating my Internet oneitis of seven years
>Tfw I got off the ride

>>38485906
Got get her champ. You know she wants you too. Stick that penis of yours into the place it originally came out of!
Is your father still around or no?

>>38486104
I wish I could but it's not that easy. My father is around but he cheated on her and she's constantly talking about him to me. They argued a lot when I was younger, they still do sometimes. Whenever they fought I'd always go into her room and cuddle with her to make her feel better. I always had a feeling she wants me but she doesn't like me seeing her naked so that makes me think otherwise.

>>38486079
How is a girl that you orbited for seven years EVER going to respect you?
Do you have any idea how pathetic that is? She will never love you or lust for you.

Reminder that your oneitis is not the person you think she is. All you're doing is putting her on a pedestal. She will never love you. You should ghost her(if she even knows you exist) and find someone who actually appreciates you(if that even exists).

>>38486792
>she's not the person you think she is
wtf does that even mean? are you just trying to help people here get over their oneitis? (it won't work)
I don't think my oneitis is some super human, faultless, pristine person. she's a fun though, she's very attractive to me and every moment I spent with her I enjoyed beyond anything else in my life(except getting rejected lol). guess normies call this love? I don't know if it's real love if it's unrequited but still

>>38486792
How can I ghost her if she doesn't want to talk to me either way? She'd probably be glad if I'm gone

>>38486958
Just ghost her if you got rejected, you'll be doing yourself a favor.

>>38487026
i am ghosting her. i just don't understand why you said a oneitis is not who you think she is. I know her perfectly well and she's pretty nice she just isn't interested in me. that doesn't make her a bad person though

>>38486792
OP here again. I've been ghosting my oneitis for 11 years and have married a woman who I love and who actually appreciates me. I still love my oneitis, though. Now what?

>>38487201
>i just don't understand why you said a oneitis is not who you think she is
Not him, but some people build up their oneitises in their minds to such dangerously unrealistic levels that when something happens to shatter that illusion they swing to the other extreme. That's not me either though, the more I got to know my oneitis the more I fell for her with her little quirks and flaws.