Tell me where to go. I am ready to become a normie. I have strived

Pick up street photography. Take pictures of cute girls. That seems like a decent conversation starter.

>>38356547
also, congrats on getting your shit together.

>>38356568
to fix one's own problems is truly the greatest accomplishment a robot can do, i just hope it's enough

help me r9k, help your brother

whats your age OP?

join a club, approach single girls who are not with anyone in public (im not kidding).

You will get rejection. You will get bitches telling you to piss off. You will also get lucky, you will find that one person in a special mood, that one girl whos down on her luck, that one guy needing a friend

>>38356499
What the fuck, why are you asking us for advice, you should be the one telling us what todo

>>38356499
First you tell me how you fixed yourself

>>38356499
how the fuck do you get to 6 figures in a non major city

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>>38356499
what if I told you that you just closed the door on the best period of your life?

>>38356547
>>38357337
has this worked for either of you?

>>38357589
No, I'm a basement dweller retard. Learn to read faggot.

>and for the love of god dont say the bar, club, group, etc.
I was going to literally say OP for the love of god don't find gals out partying. Meetup.com has lots of good groups where you can make friends and at least be around and make connections with girls even if it's practice. I've done several athletic ones like running clubs and boot camps. I saw several people pair up through these groups. Just watch out for the slutty women who've slept with several. One that I did nearly every regular who was female had slept with the instructor and admitted to it. Also not literally church but religious and spiritual events and locations like a christian volunteer group. This one may be tricky if you are not religious but if it's some kind of "x religion" run organization that welcomes everyone, it's cool. A lot of people meet at work, but that is extremely risky and generally works out poorly. When met my spouse we were working completely separate jobs yet worked very close to each other and saw each other at least 4 times a week. We went very slowly from nods to waves to hellos to how are you's to small talk to conversation then to number and a date over 6 or so months.
>>38356547
>>38357589
Photographers are notoriously creepy, and if OP isn't good looking and suave it might not go so well. I'd certainly be pissed if someone started taking photos of me.
>>38357337
>>38357589
I helped out some friends who basically gave classes/bootcamps to guys who were so retarded with girls that they were willing to pay for professional help. Surprisingly they were not basement dwellers or ugly, they just didn't know how to approach and interact with girls. One of the exercises was to go to the mall, find five girls, and ask them for a number or date or something of the like. The guys found out that they got some no's and all of them got at least one yes. Their attitudes completely changed and after they weren't so freaked out over rejection.

>>38357700
>go to the mall and ask some girls on dates
>get some rejections
>rejections didn't bother them anymore
So they gave up pride and dignity.

>>38357589
Normies don't do the things they advise you to do.

>>38357650
then why dish out such advice?

>>38357700
>if OP isn't good looking and suave
>Surprisingly they were not basement dwellers or ugly
and this is the heart of the argument. Very rarely is it the shit-together, well-dressed man with attractive features that asks for advice on /r9k/. Therefore, assuming all factors in the OP are truthful; something else is up. Even if it is just crippling anxiety, social retardation, or shyness; It stands to reason that these are all poor foundations for a lasting and meaningful relationship. And if it's a physical flaw, whether pronounced or subtle, well, that's the end of that

>>38357467
write software at work: 110k salary, freelance for 15 hours a week: another 60k a year (roughly), other weird finance shit (see wallstreetbets): 85k so far this year
I wish money bought happiness
>>38357413
>>38357413
>>38357410
started by losing weight which i accomplished by eating only 1800 calories a day for 8 months (230lbs -> 180lbs).
Did hardcore nofap for a month, this really helped give me some free time. Started studying a skill that seemed interesting to me and was high paying. Literally googled 'highest paying tech skills' and started from the top. I should say that I'm pretty smart, as in real smart. Dont wanna sound egotistical, just want to give you guys realistic expectations for yourself.
By then I had built up my physical appearance, went to the mall and bought a bunch of random clothes. This step was very very difficult, I had red face and was sweaty and looked nervous as hell (like a serial killer as I said) but I made it through 2 hours of shopping. Had to go home and rest for 3 days after that.
I kept being productive in my free time. Instead of spending 3 hours a day watching increasingly violent and disgusting porn I would read technical manuals and watch video lectures. I half assed my way through community college but thats a waste of time for the industry I wanted to enter. I'm currently enrolled to start in my state's (utah) most prestigious uni to start in the fall, but im probably gonna cancel.
Be aware of your hygiene, and im not just talking about arm pits and ass. You're clothes need to be clean and you need to let your hair grow a bit and keep it clean. Dear god brush your teeth two times a day.

I would recommend you get into finance as a hobby, it has been an excellent experience for me both financially and uhhh "fun."

I'm still the same person, scared of the world, nervous, anxious, but i'm killing it at work and I guess life isn't too bad, but always in the back of my mind everything I do was to get a cute gf

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>>38357848
No the idea is that they realized that it wasn't the end of the world if she says no. It still sucks and hurts but if you let the fear of rejection stop you from ever approaching a girl then you will never meet a girl.
>>38357869
If exceedingly ugly then OP needs to fix it if possible and make more money. I can't remember what year it was but I remember the thing being that pic related (Adrian Brody) was "so sexy" and the "it guy". He must have been in a movie where he was suave or something idk, but if that guy can be the sexiest guy in Hollywood for a minute, then even mildly unattractive guys with a good salary, benefits, and retirement can get a girl.
>>38357992
>started by losing weight
Good start. No one likes a fatty. Butterface also applies to guys.

>>38358019
>>38357869
see the thing is I honestly think I'm handsome
Girls smile at me. My face is proportionate and I have great hair and a visible jaw line. I've just hidden for years and year, hidden in the basement. I work with 30+ yo fat sweaty guys and spend all the rest of time home. That's why I'm asking where the hell do I go.

>>38357992
How do you make 110k writing software in a low cost of living area? That's the fucking average salary in NY/SF.

>>38358084
Okay I can believe this one. I knew someone who was hard core into WOW and nerdy basement dweller stuff for years of middle and high school, who'd never leave his room in the summers. He eventually snapped out of it and began getting his shit together, work out, meet people, socialize, work and take classes, etc. If you live in a city then definitely try clubs and groups that interest you (meetup is the one I know of). Athletic groups have girls who care about their bodies meaning there is a better chance that they don't/rarely drink and party. The running groups I've done were super casual and tons of people were non-drinkers, no drugs, healthy eaters, and non-partiers.

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>>38358160
Uhh how much technical knowledge do you have? i used 'writing software' as an umbrella term. My title is 'fullstack engineer' but I write mostly backend code and do devops shit. A strategy I had was to learn older tech as those systems will exist but people are retiring. I learned Perl and got my first job a year ago making 75k as a 'Perl Programmer'. They loved that I was young and into perl, which honestly I'm not some fuckin nerd that cares which programming language I write.

How I rose above the rest is because I don't have a family at home to take care of, so when work ended I would just go home and keep studying. Got my new job 2 months ago and it was a perfect fit, they had legacy perl code and wanted to create a new SAAS application by taking existing user functionality and porting it to a marketable piece of software for other companies in the same industry. I write all personal stuff in Nodejs which is exactly what they wanted to do, and on top of that I am skilled in ops (we use AWS Lambda, all of which I set up). I also know front end stuff well (React).

I'm sounding kinda arrogant so sorry, I should feel really good about all this but I'm depressed still, sitting here on r9k, alone, sad.

>>38358274
how you sound is fine it's just extremely unusual and not believable
t. makes less than you doing full stack development in NYC

>>38358332
hah man its all about selling yourself, i got a good resume and portfolio and almost daily commits on github for the last two years

I would say that someone with my title would make like 160-180k in NYC, you see different? I've certainly had recruiters contact me on linkedin flashing those numbers around from SF/NYC

>>38358402
yes, it's not possible for someone with no experience to start at numbers anywhere near that

>>38358439
well i had experience? juniors should be at 100k I would think. Don't be afraid to fake it until you make it man, straight up lie on your resume if you can swing it

>>38358439
this relates to the whole thread and most anything you do. If you haven't been doing it for long, you're not going to get anywhere with it. Most people settle to the level they were born to be at, then lower as they age. Anyone telling you otherwise is trying to sell something or misinformed

>>38356547
Unironically this. If you don't look like a creep this is a pretty decent icebreaker.
>easy way to express interest in someone. Tell them they're beautiful and you want to take their picture
>they feel good because they perceive you as a sort of authority on pretty people walking down the street
>shows you have a neat hobby and you're charismatic enough to have this engagement
That being said, if you're creepy, stop doing it (or don't if you legitimately enjoy doing it, just prepare yourself for awkward encounters). Unfortunately you won't know if you're creepy until you try it.

>>38358492
>well i had experience?
I can't keep track of your timeline then.
Somehow you went from high school dropout, years long NEET to professional perl developer making double digit %s over the median in your area.
When I say experience I mean experience an employer cares about, i.e. professional experience. Not personal projects on github.

>>38358560
heres a timeline
1994: born
2008: active social life in junior high
2011: HS grades drop, get job at maccas, blow all money on sweet computer
2012: stop going to HS, somehow no one gives a shit, half ass packets for a month after everyone else graduates, get a diploma with a 3.5 (this is one of my greatest accomplishments in life)
2013 1st half: Sever all personal relationships with friends, family relationships no better, work as tech support making 12.5/hr 40 hours a week, play video games and watch movies all day
2013 2nd half: Start fucking around with PHP and Linux, making a small movie DB site for my (online weird anonymous ragtag) friends and I. Tired of being depressed decide to fix myself. Do No fap in August (highlight of my life, truly eye opening, i recommend it to anyone). Get into bitcoins in september, decided to fuck it yolo and dropped all 8k of my savings on them, sell when they hit 700 two months later, all the sudden have 30 grand burning a hole in my pocket, like the feeling, want more.
2014: Learn C++, Ruby on Rails, make an amazon affiliate bullshit site, write articles all day for it. At peak it was bringing in just under 2k a month. Keep learning shit, start getting real fat and greasy. Start community college
2015: Keep learning shit, get job in a NOC making 20/hr (super chill job, night shift, didnt do shit), poor self esteem, super ugly, fat
2016: finish CC with AS of CS, boom get Perl dev job like I said previously. Took me 3 months of applying, 4 phone interviews, got the first in person interview, nailed it
2017: and here we are, the year of me, gonna get a GF im telling you right now

Darnit if i'm really enjoying talking about myself right now, this is healthy for me. Counting my blessings.

You must not be totally retarded, so why ask here? Go to /fit/ and /fa/ and read the stickies

>>38358760
Tfw fucking loser but have a gf, i wish i could get a job like you

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>>38358882
everyone has their strengths and weaknesses
millionaires kill themselves all the time and poor people live to be 100 spawning generations and being extremely content

i will find happiness in this life

>>38358760
>sell when they hit 700 two months later, all the sudden have 30 grand burning a hole in my pocket
Fuck you

>>38358927
it's an incredible feeling having money in the bank. I didnt grow up poor but I was definitely not rich, just a normal suburban middle class family. The looks on my old neighbors faces when I visit my parents in my expensive vehicle makes my low self esteem asshole self feel real good for some reason. elliot rodger i guess

>>38358972
Kys. Be gone

>>38358983
negative, not yet my friend. writing all this on here feels like a burden has been lifted. I'm going to go to bed and wake up refreshed. Thank you r9k, you've held me in dark times for years and years, i only wish the best for all of you. I promise you all that I am going to find happiness and you are going to as well. Heres a song that gives me hope. Peace

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ma7lyfYzIw8

>>38358972
>money isn't everything but it sure doesn't hurt
Don't be too smug, but you should be proud of yourself for making (the start of) a good life for yourself. That car means nothing without someone you love sharing your life with you.

>>38358402
im not good at selling myself because im not a lying asshole

t. 100k engineer working for 50k

;-;

>>38359029
Faggot
Orgieoel

This thread is erp bullshit. To work at a company willing to pay that much you will need at least a 4 year degree and several years of verifiable work experience. Go fuck yourself lying sack of shit.

>>38359217
https://jamberry.zenapply.com/#!/signup/jobs/info/1041/2082?source=Indeed&job_id=2898853562
Here's a job in OP's state.
>"Degree in Computer Science, Software Engineering, or APPROPRIATE COMBINATION OF EDUCATION AND EXPERIENCE"
I think he qualifies for that last part.

>>38356499

Nothing anyone will tell you is going to work. You failed to develop properly at the crucial stages of adolescence and it's simply not going to work out for you.

Sure, you can fake your way into employment and financial stability through education, but you can never get the correct levels of social skills and emotional maturity normal people developed as teenagers and attract women.

>>38356499
Do something that involves a common interest, like a sport, a club, or theater.

>>38359217
>>38359326
I have an acquaintance who is literally the only one in his federal position/level/agency not to have a bachelors and makes bank. It's highly rare but possible OP caught a great break.

>>38358972
Prove it. Send bitcoin 13GVDkKvULBG56ZbWQdTCg1oB72NGXdWcT

>>38359340
I disagree. I used to have panic attacks when I had to call up people I didn't know at my job especially when my boss suddenly decided as the new person I should make collection calls. I would dread it every day. I never addressed people by their names, because I was so terrified of messing up. I was a lingerer, which I know because people would tell my friends I was a weird lingerer. Confrontation and presentations/speeches would make me very literally see anything from white to black to red, shake, sweat, and stutter. At my university there was a classroom anyone could reserve for an hour, so I would reserve it for myself and practice like I was talking to a classroom or people in social situations. Then I started reserving the room for me and classmates so we could each practice our upcoming presentations and not worry about being total shit with the option of starting over. Then I started reserving rooms to tutor classmates in classes that I was doing excellent but many were doing extremely poorly. That wasn't my full transformation into normal person, but it seriously change the course of my life. A shit person willing to improve can at least become less shit and hopefully, one day, not shit.

>>38359576

Nothing in your unnecessary and completely obnoxious fucking blog post has anything to do with failing to develop the proper emotional and social skills required to into relationships that adolescence provides.

>>38359711
>t. shit person

have you even tried just beeing yurself, brotato?

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>>38356499
into the noose, anon. Don't be a faggot.

>>38359711
Oh sorry I thought it could be helpful. I was definitely behind emotionally and socially but perhaps not enough to apply to what you're talking about. All the anons out there who feel like
>Nothing anyone will tell you is going to work
ought to at least focus on one thing they need to work through and improve.

>>38356499
Go to the noose store and hang yourself faggot.