Psychological Issues #84

I hate nick and his "help"

>>38153924

Oh come on. If you're not willing to give us a way to solve th conflict, you're keeping me permanently in a situation where you're angry and I can't do anything about it.

You don't have to do that, and yes, I can help you. It won't always be pleasant, but that's part of it.

OK?

>>38153959
>yes, I can help you
Only by killing yourself.

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>>38153924
Same desu honest with ya

>>38153959
>to solve th conflict,

Forgive my missing letters, I still have a shitty laptop. My computer died when everything else did. Both computers died, even our plants died. My last cactus died last week. It's fucking sad.

>>38153990

You're not trying, yet you come to the thread and speak to me.

"I hate you, don't leave me."

Just tell me what's wrong and we can move on and do something more productive.

>>38154003

Everything I said to him goes for you too. You're both angry and frustrated, you don't have to stay that way.

>>38154016
I am angry and frustrated?

>>38153924
Hello hateanaon, nice to see you love this thread so much you had to be the first to comment.
Anyway, hello everyone, how was your day? Mine almost acceptable, i'm still figuring out how to study and deal with stress/depression but at least i'm somehow managing the study part

>>38154070

I would imagine so, since you take time to come here to vent, so I assume it does something for you to do that (because it does nothing for anyone else), and venting is what you do when you're angry and frustrated. In other words, if you're venting at all, you're frustrated.

Why else would you do what you do?

>>38154103

That's good, what are you studying again?

>>38154125
Phamacology, in the specific the exam is on toxicology, chemotherapy (drugs used against cancer, bacteria, and viruses) and neuro-pharmacology. Overall i dislike almost everything except the cancer part, and maybe something about the antiviral

>>38154206

If I may ask, why are you studying something you dislike? Is it part of something you have to do to get the job of your dreams?

>>38153894
I don't know if you remember me but i will sum it everything very short up.

>Girl depressive and abused asks me to do something with her
>We do something together and get along every good
>She told me once we should look how it develops
Now
>I still meet her and we she started to hold my hands when we walk and cuddle with me
>She kind of introduced me to her family
>She tells me that she really really likes me and sometimes something like i love you

Everything good right?
No.

I always asked her if she has a relationship going or something like that.
She always said no.

Now i found out about a friend that we both share that she is in kind of a relationship with a girl.
But she isn't quite sure about it herself and she only does that because she has no trust in men.
Her "partner" had the same experience with boys and is BI too because of that.

What the fuck?

My next step was kissing her but finding that shit out fucked me hard.

Any advice?
She told me that in the coming week she will have much more time for me and that we should do something more.

I'm thinking about confronting her with it.

>>38154226
Yes, it's one of the exam in the medicine and surgery facility. It also will prevent me to do the fifth year internship if i fail it. However, it's almost the last one that implies memorizing the entire book and mindlessly repeat it, so in theory things should be better in the future. The funny thing is that i have done only exam i hate in this year (pneumology, cardiology, and the first part of pharmacology) and completely ignored the one i liked (general surgery and endocrinology)

Did you get a response from your aunt?

>>38154329

It sounds like she had negative experiences with men before but she finds that you might be trustworthy, so she's taking her time but giving you a chance.

I wouldn't confront her about it just yet, unless you feel jealous of her girlfriend. Personally I can't feel jealous of women in that sense because it's not the same team, but that's me.

I think she's working up her trust in you, and some day she'll trust you enough to be with you. She may also need to think for herself who she really wants.

Don't be hasty, be cool. She seems really into you, and you have no idea how much she had to work on her trust in men to be with you, so try to see things differently.

It could lead to something nice.

>>38154391
I'm not jealous i'm just confused...

What to you mean by not being hasty?
Should i still wait with trying to kiss her?
Or do you mean i should wait for a "perfect" moment or not trying it at all.

>>38154373
>Did you get a response from your aunt?

I didn't write...

>>38154440
>What to you mean by not being hasty?

She needs time, let her have time.

>Should i still wait with trying to kiss her?

Yeah, wait. You'll know when she's ready. She will feel safer if you put no pressure on her.

>Or do you mean i should wait for a "perfect" moment or not trying it at all.

You just wait. If she wants to kiss you, she will show signs of it, or even try it herself. If she had bad experiences with men, you're better off waiting and taking things slowly.

>>38154462
Shit, i didn't know, sorry. Any particular reason you didn't do it in the end?

>>38154501

I forgot. Once it's midnight, I'll send it tonight. I think.

After that, depending on her response, I'll see what I want to do. If she writes like the rest of my family, like toddlers, I'll pass, but I don't think she's that type. If it's my aunt at all.

Maybe I should go and meet her.

Slow night tonight. Weird.

I'm very tired. I've been playing chess all morning, writing in the afternoon, then cleaning, then working out, then cooking.

I have a professional appointment tomorrow with one of my bosses. It's like a year review or something. It'll be cool.

>>38154523
If you can meet irl i'd say it could be a better way to understand of she's like tge rest of your family. I personally would be terrified even at the thought, but i also often cannot manage to start a phone conversation, so my opinion is probably irrelevant

>>38154595

Thing is, I know nobody from her family. Absolutely no one. She'd be the first. I don't even know who else there is to know. But if there are cool people, imagine being invited to sweet Italian get togethers? My grandfather is probably dead by now and my father probably doesn't get invited around. He isn't even on Facebook.

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>tfw my dream girl dont exist

>>38153959
Nick, what is your background? What have you been through and how do you know so much about psychological issues? Are you certified?

Hey, I'm early for once! Hi guys!

Ey up chaps. Early to bed tonight so's I can be up for 0730 tomorrow. Then I have an interview that I was better prepared for this time last week, and later on a shift at work to look forward to. I won't be having my tea (meal) until about 2015. Not looking forward to it but at least there'll be some sushi at the end. Bit of caviar.

Well things aren't going great
GF seems to making excuses to see me less and less and seems really awkward around me so she'll probably break up with me soon
Then pretty soon I've got to go to uni and lose all my normie friends and I've got a sneaking suspicion I'll fall into the arms of alcohol when I become a NET again
These next few years are gonna fucking suck I just know it

>>38154636
Well, she could be your starting point to know the other half of your family. In the unfortunate case she turn out to be like your mother, at least you may get a chance to meet the rest of your family

>>38154591
>Slow night tonight.
It is Independence Day holiday for burgers like me. Maybe some of the other burgers are out blowing shit up and trying to have a good time. Personally this is my biggest holiday, so I'll be gone in about an hour or two to forget about my problems for a night of fireworks.

>>38154750
Hey Facet. Good luck with the interview.

>>38154697
>Nick, what is your background?

I studied literature and linguistics for 8 years. Before that, I studied psychology for 3 years, but as part of a high school program; none of what I learned then is useful for therapy, at least not consciously.

After getting my degrees, I worked as a teacher in a Catholic school and I still do that.

>What have you been through

I was raised by monsters and have two younger brothers, whom I tried to protect as we grew up. Like a third parent, or as my brother says, "first parent".

I've also been in a relationship with a Borderliner for 7 years and we worked on this stuff on a weekly basis, and to some extent, daily. I attract abnormal people because I understand them better instead of just getting scared (as healthy people would be, but I'm learning).

>how do you know so much about psychological issues?

A good part is theoretical, from studying and reading about it, but the rest is from experience and intuition. This stuff is intuitive to me. I'm a mutant when it comes to empathy, and so I learn from everyone I meet or talk with. Along the years, this makes serious knowledge.

>Are you certified?

No. People in the thread can tell you whether my help does anything or not. I will begin studying for a degree very soon, though. So I will be certified.

>>38154815
Thanks. It should be fine, but I'm probably going to phone it in at work. Plus, I don't really know if I actually want the job anymore.

>>38154753
It's best to just rip the band aid off. If you really believe she's going to break up with you, you do it first.

>>38154750
>I won't be having my tea (meal) until about 2015.

So... Brits literally have tea for a meal? Hardcore. And two years ago? Harsh.

Cool food for a shift.

>>38154753
Why would you lose your friend when you'll go to uni? Do you have to move to another city or something?
Did something happened with your girlfriend that made her act this way?

>>38154845
Oh, well why don't you just cancel the interview?

>>38154753
>GF seems to making excuses to see me less and less and seems really awkward around me so she'll probably break up with me soon

Confront her, ask for the straight shit.

See uni as a new beginning. New based friends, new activities, pick up weight lifting and become a greek god. It has no reason to suck.

>>38154844
How old are you Nick? You're an interesting person.

>>38154766

Good point.

Happy Burger day!

>>38154915
>You're an interesting person.

Kind of you to say. The exact opposite of what my Nemesis told me last time. I'm 34 and will be 35 by the end of the month. I don't look it, so it weirds me out to think of that number.

>>38154766
The fireworks are the best part of the holiday. Sadly I'm not going to be blowing shit up either.

>>38154950
Huh, I thought you were in your late 20s. Something like 29.

>>38154986

I look more like I'm around 29 than 34. I'm aging like wine. Italian wine.

But yeah, I'm probably the oldest in the thread.

>>38154897
I'd rather have the option at least. It's mostly laziness that would stop me going. Better more options than fewer. If nothing else, it's interview practice.

>>38154879
Tea is used somewhat interchangeably with dinner, confusingly distinct from the drink tea.
Also there are two meals that are tea.

Afternoon tea between 3-5 (a number of small snacks - scones etc)
High tea/ teatime - as above, the main meal of the day

>>38155004
Yeah, maybe. I know you're definitely older than me. I don't know if anyone has asked you this yet, or if you've alreadt said, but how is your day?

>>38154922
>Happy Burger day!
Thanks

>>38154971
I'm sorry to hear that, fireworks definitely are the best part.

>>38155037
I suppose so. Personally, I could use some good interview practice.

>>38155048
>but how is your day?

It was productive. I cleaned, I wrote to my friend, I worked out, I showered. I'm shoving protein down my throat like a whore.

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Im starting to really lose the will to live,
I might unironically put a plastic bag over my head and get it over with, hard it's pretty painless, also hanging doesn't seem all that bad now that i think about it.

I've seen everything that's worth seeing in my life time, i will soon silently leave you all behind and advance into the 4th dimension.

>>38155067
It's fine. I do have the money for it, but I'd rather buy a video game or two, and get my girlfriend some cute/sexy clothes.

http://radio.garden/live/boston-ma/cityofboston/

Literally the Boston Fire Department radio, if you want to hear about fires in Boston. It's weird because it's all real.

I love that website, it's like... there's a real world out there.

>>38155084
Like almost everything in life, I just google it and then prepare accordingly. There's a wealth of information on interview techniques, and I'll look over it again tomorrow. It mainly seems to come down to feigning confidence, competence and interest. That, and doing a little bit of research on the company so that you can show that you googled them and provide them with a degree of flattery. It's just revision, bullshitting and sycophantry essentially. All three are tiring in different ways.

>>38155125

Stay with us, explore the world's radios tonight!

If you haven't tried African radios, you haven't seen everything yet?

>>38155115
>It was productive. I cleaned, I wrote to my friend, I worked out, I showered
That's good. I'm glad you're doing things. Most people probably would do shit if they were in your situation.
>I'm shoving protein down my throat like a whore
Kek.

>>38155162
Oh, cool. Thanks for the advice. I always thought that it would be pretty easy, and it kind of is, but like I said, I need some things to help. Still though, thanks.

>>38155169

I have plans too. A new computer, a real one, where I can play games and all, and use my mechanical keyboard again.

Also a home gym, to get STRONK AS FUKK. I will be mighty.

Some socialising and maybe some online dating if I ever muster the courage.

http://radio.garden/live/boston-ma/celticradio/

This is fucking awesome. It's Celtic music all the time.

>>38154860
She's the best thing to happen to me in a number of years, I honestly can't let go that easily

>>38154889
Yeah we're all leaving to go to different cities so I'll lose contact with them. I don't think anything major has happened with us, she seems to be sweet with me in private but in public she seems so much more stilted and awkward

>>38154907
I want to ask her the straight shit but I'm so scared of losing her (I'm aware of how pathetic I sound)
I find it really hard to make friends which is why I'm worrying. I'm gonna lose my best friend and probably have to go to uni with a bunch of pretentious twats. Also Nick I think I'm destined to stay a skinnyfat manlet for the rest of my life but I'll keep try with the weights

>>38155262
>I'm destined to stay a skinnyfat manlet for the rest of my life but I'll keep try with the weights

If you hit the weights the right way, you'll change. Once I get my old hard-drive back, I'll give you the guide I used to post on this board a year ago. My fitness guide. Maybe someone will have it before then.

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>>38155164
I gotta admit it's interesting, i may tinker with it for a while, but nothing can fill the void.
I'm just delaying the inevitable.

>>38155224
Nice! It's good to see that you're finding strength again.

>>38155313

Don't kill yourself, my dude. Stick around. Your brain needs time to get better, it's mechanical. You can help it come back to normal by doing things like working out, taking showers, eating well, etc.

It'll take time but it can be done.

>>38155395

I've loaded up my weights, first time in over 8 months. A whole new kilo.

>>38155262
Well, personally it'd be harder for me to have the girl break us up than have me break us up.

>>38155429
Nice, it really seems like you're getting better. I was actually planning on working out too, but I don't know anything about it. I was going to check out /fit/ to see what advice they could give.

>>38155511

Don't ask /fit/. Ask me I'll retrieve my guide some time. It was even pasted on that paste website thing.

What are your goals?

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>>38154844
Nick is the best husbando. Intelligent, caring, and understanding.

Hey nick im the guy with attenuated psychosis that was in another thread before this one. My ocd and psychosis are interacting really havily right now and creating psychotic intrusive thoughts (as always) but now theyre trying to convince me that i can smell time.

My question is how do i know when to check back into a mental hospital?

>>38155539

Ah man, you're going to make me blush in a super kawai way.

>>38155126
Fair enough. There might be a public firework show in your area if you still wanted to watch some fireworks.

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>>38155539
Factually inaccurate. Kaiji is the best husbando. He's emotionally dependent, cunning, never gives up and is easily manipulated.

>>38155523
I just want to be as fast as possible, and as strong as possible regardless of the physique.

>>38155574

Smelling time would be some serious synesthesia.

Check back when you feel like you're losing control or that things are becoming dangerous, for you or others.

>>38155608

You want to run fast?

And be strong?

>>38155400
That's some very wishful thinking, I'll leave it at that, no point in explaining myself anymore, it won't change a thing to argue.

Thanks for showing me the radio doohickey, I don't feel like lurking anymore so I'll see myself out.

I hope I don't get to be here again tomorrow.

>>38155602
I'm pretty sure there is. At least I hope so. I'm visiting family in Montana so there might not be much.

>>38154329
Well it sounds like she might have been raised by narc parents to be honest, anon.

But let's talk about you and your parents; are they narcissists?

>>38155632

I certainly hope you won't actually kill yourself after leaving us that message.

Stick around, it's only a phase. Your whole life is before you.

I want to kill myself. I'm not a human, I'm a disgusting failure with no hopes or ambitions. I have so much shit ahead of me that should be easy and I'm overwhelmed and just want to stop existing.
I'm not going to do it now. I just feel very bad and can't talk to anyone about it. Sorry.

>>38155611
Alright i will. Im following my plan quite well, taking my meds on time, but i just keep getting worse. My suicidal and homocidal thoughts are getting more intense and ive started hearing my name being called when im in public. Do you think ill need to go back to the hospital?

im asking cuz i really miss that place. It made me feel safe

>>38155625
I want to not only run fast, but move fast like punching while still retaining strength. Speed is most important though.

>>38155684
I promise you no matter what kind of person you think you are, you are not as bad as you think.

It's probably your upbringing desu, let's discuss your parents. Do they posess narcissistic traits?

>>38155303
I've tried in the past, thought I was fat so I tried cardio but then I became skelly because no mooscles. Then I just sort of reverted to skinnyfat with no effort. I'd really like that guide though, I find it very hard to build muscle

>>38155441
I don't know I think it'd be easy if we had to break up mutually because we were leaving for uni but now it seems like she'll leave me before that

>>38155684

Stick around, there will be people you can talk to here.

OK?

>>38155694
>Speed is most important though.
No matter how fast you train yourself to be you cannot run away from your past and narc parent upbrining.

>>38155689

If it made you feel safe, consider going back.

>>38155712

OK, at least that's original.

I know how to spell "possess" though.

Guys, I'm falling asleep at the keyboard. I must sleep right now.

Take care and enjoy the thread.

Feeling very detached and don't know what this or that is at the momment. What is reality and why can't I be in it

>>38155746
Disregard that guys just drank a narcparent(tm) energy drink and it perked me right up.

>>38155754
Well your detachment probably stems from your upbrining. How is your relationship with your parents? Do they behave like narcissists?

>>38155754

See derealisation. It comes after extended periods of anxiety, or violent anxiety.

It sounds like it.

>>38155303
i hope you die bitchnick

>>38155773
Are you a troll? Too lazy to scroll up

>>38155715
That's all the more reasonto do it first. Don't do it at uni, do it before, but you should do what Nick said, confront her.

>>38155804

Love you too.

Nighty night.

>>38155805

You... Chess soon!

>>38155805
Yes, he/she is.

>>38155805
>Are you a troll?
That's your parents talking, anon. Don't be a narc okay? Nobody likes a narc.

>>38155801
That's very accurate

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Hey Atlas! Forget looking pregnant, your gut look like a couple of midgets fighting over a beachball

>>38155811
Sounds good. See you tomorrow Nick

>>38155867
Sleep tight Medman, don't let the bednarcs bite.

>>38155879
But I can't sleep though. Won't be going to bed. (You)s for (You)s I guess. Too tired and sedated to care

Facet we need to keep Mad Lads Team

>17 unique posters
>102 replies
>thread is deader than fried chicken without nick
Who would have thought? You namefaggots need your own containment board.

I want to stay a NEET forever, and I pretend to be an autist to do so.

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I've felt this way before, i remember it.
A couple of years ago in uni,
Smoking a cigarette staring at the guy in front of me, I don't recognize him at all but i know well who he is, his face, his dead eyes, his forced dead smile, he doesn't seem familiar at all, but somehow i know exactly who he is...

It's my reflection in the mirror

Emotional detachment

Just a long long look at the mirror...


I thought i got over this feeling

Extremely suicidal thoughts are settling in again

Can't go on a day without contemplating suicide

I might just do it this time and finally be at peace.

>>38155947
Yeah, fair enough. Mound Makers are fun though. You have someone summon you, help them beat the level then right before they fight the boss you shank them and destroy all of their progress. Then you take one of their vertebrae and offer it to your god in exchange for a katana that allows you to stab yourself in the stomach as a buff.

>>38155115
>I'm shoving protein down my throat like a whore.
This arouses me.

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>>38155605
I disagree. Nick is the #1 husbando.

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>>38156683
I'm afraid that's quite irrelevant my dear.

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>>38156742
So because it's not what you want to hear, it's irrelevant?

>>38157038
Yes.

OriginaIIy

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>>38158315
It's okay, I can just keep Nick all to myself.

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>>38158517
Nope Nick is all of ours. Don't be greedy.