Be yourself

>>38058984
>just be yourself
what kind of advise is even this shit, if im myself it's going to be very bad

>"be confident and just do it,"
This is true from the angle that social skills is mostly just confidence anyway. But it's false in the sense that you can't just "be confident" since it's a result of past experiences.

>>38059015
I know. For fucks sake, with social anxiety, at least I didn't get embarrassed ever. Without it, I'd be one of those autistic spergs.
If I'm confident, people don't listen to me. If I'm not, people ask me to speak.
Excuse me?

>>38058984
As with anything there's only one way. Practice. Talk to as many different people as you can. Observe how other people start conversations.

>>38059047
"Social skills is mostly confidence"
t. Autistic sperg who only talks about specific topics nobody likes, and when not trying to be autistic, fails miserably and loses confidence.
t. That guy who keeps talking about things nobody likes done yet has no social anxiety at all

>>38059062
"Practice." Thank god I can always commit suicide.
Everything boils down to practice. But how do you practice? How do you keep practicing huh?
I need a guide to this mystical act of "practicing."
I know what you mean dude, but some people just can't do anything right.
I get literal headaches every fucking time I try to think and analyze something.

>how do people gain social skills in the first place?
some are genetically predisposed to being better at socializing. some have an advantage gaining social skills because they are attractive or successful. perceived personality is correlated with attractiveness and attractive people are treated better due to the halo effect. because of this advantage, they gain more social experience and get better

gaining social skills came natural to most people. they didnt have to think about it. so its an uphill battle for you. heres the steps im currently following:

1. normies always say, just be confident. which theyre right. but they dont tell you how to do the hard part, which is gaining confidence. gain attractiveness and success. this will give you confidence in yourself as well as people treating you better. which makes it easier to gain social skills.

2. try to eliminate social anxiety if you have it. exercise, drugs, whatever. look into phenibut too, it eliminates social anxiety and makes you want to socialize

3. gain knowledge in socializing. theres plenty of resources on this. for example, eye contact, body language, whatever

4. practice. normies are constantly socializing so they get a lot of practice. you will have a lot of catching up to do

hopefully this helps you because it helped me

>>38059062
The only thing I practice regularly is dry firing my guns against the roof of my mouth so that when I've finally had enough I won't pussy out

>>38059047
>But it's false in the sense that you can't just "be confident" since it's a result of past experiences.
you have to fake it in the beginning. if you fake it and see positive results then it'll become real sooner or later.
>>38058984
>just do it
this is literally it. this is how every person learns how to socialize. you just do it, most from a young age, see what makes people laugh or smile and what makes them look weirded out and then adjust your behaviour accordingly. it's just trying a bunch of stuff out and see what sticks. also see how other people do it and mimic that.

>>38059561
>just do it
>this is literally it.
thats not useful advice. everyone knows this already. OP is asking for a strategy that makes it easier. not blindly trying to socialize like a retard