does anyone here actually want to fix their lives? This board

Like going to a wheelchair forum and asking if anyone wants to walk.

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>>37906553
I have fixed my life anon.
>I have an education
>I have a job
>now /fit
>I have hobbies
>I got rid of my acne and maintain a decent hair
>Have a small social circle

What now faggot, I done all these things yet I still feel the same and my life is pretty much the same, What else should I do to fix my immature and miserable life Sensei?

>>37906630
except no one in the forum is actually crippled in any way, they just pretend to be so people feel sorry for them

>>37906553
There isn't much to fix for me. My life's pretty good overall. After several relationships including one with a dark triad girl for 4 years I just lost any and all trust in women. And I come here to remind myself of this when my family and friends are constantly trying to set me up with some girl. Because in a year or two she could walk out with half of my stuff and ruin everything I have.

>>37906630
There's nothing that can be done about a physical disability like that. Yet you still see people trying, through physical therapy and medical research.

This board is rife with mental illness and poor attitudes. Maybe people here are misguided. I don't know any of you, but I think most of y'all are stuck in a cycle of blaming others for your problems instead of looking for solutions like getting help.

A lot of the resources for self improvement are just a google search away. I'd recommend looking into positive psychology.

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It's not possible to "fix your life" or "get your life on the right path" or even to improve in any meaningful way. If you have "problems" that can be "fixed" you don't really have problems.

>>37906630
>it's impossible to fix a shitty crybaby attitude

>>37906667
grow up and realise life isnt enjoyable or fun majority of the time, whoever told u it is is a fuckin liar

>>37906667
Seek therapy.

What do you mean by the same? I don't know your situation but I'd like to know what you mean by that.

You've got all the tools, but I'd wager you've got lower than normal self confidence.

>>37906671
>Are you certain it's not all just in your head, like have you tried actually walking? I bet if you just tried it would work. Your legs like fine from the outside!

>>37906671
As far as I know, that's what all wheelchair forums are like.

Lazy fucks just want to roll around in their toys all day.

>>37906553
I want to fix my life but a lot of /r9k/ doesn't. I've seen so many threads where one of these assholes makes friends with a Chad or Stacy and Chad or Stacy wants to bring them into their social circle and all your retarded anon does is reeee at them and come here to ask us how to make their new friend leave them alone.

Motherfuckers here are handed the golden ticket out of this life but so many of them consciously choose not to leave. Out of comfort of familiarity? I don't know. That life is what's comfortable and familiar to me but I'm always trying to push myself out of my comfort zone, just because I fear being on my deathbed and regretting everything I didn't try. I don't want people to remember me for being a loser who didn't nothing but browse 4chan and watch porn all day.

>>37906713
Self esteem*, rather

>>37906738
You seem to have the right attitude. Right thinking isn't all you need but it's the first step. I believe in you anon, I know it sounds cliche but I do.

>>37906738
You are a reasonable robot. I'm sure you will make it one day. The worst that one can do is not try.

>>37906667
If you can't be content with what you have you will never be content anyway.

>>37906715
You're in self denial so far I don't think you'll ever make it out. Equating your issues to someone actually physically disabled is pathetic and there are plenty of treatments for mental illness.

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>>37906707
I know life is not enjoyable and 99% of the time consists of bullshit and mind numbing labor, first of all life is not meant to be enjoyable, Lifes only goal is survival/reproduction
>>37906713
When I say the same I mean monotonous, I agree I have low self confidence but I don't need some shrink to tell me that since i'm already aware of that.
>ever trusting therapists

All i'm trying to say is that your point is bullshit OP, Fixing your life will only lead to very short term temporary happiness, Many people have there shit together on this board yet they still can't say they are happy, Fixing your life mostly benefits others rather then you.

>>37906553
Over all the years I've lurked here, the one golden rule is that the ones who complain the loudest are the ones who don't actually want to be helped. Even if they ask for help. They only want everyone to see how hopeless their situation is. They just want pity so their wallowing can feel justified to themselves, and they can know that "Oh, I've truly tried everything! Woe is me!" They do not want to get better. If you try, it will just be excuse after excuse after excuse. Give up the fight of ever actually helping anyone here, anon.

>>37906852
Those people are the worst. You could give them an easy magical cheat code at life that would fix all their problems and make them happy, and they would find excuses to not use it.

>>37906882
No, they would use it, but then complain that they're still miserable. These people will feel discontent in every situation because they do not want to feel like they have it easy. In this case it would probably be "tfw you can never feel satisfied with what you have because you cheated your way there"

>>37906815

I never once said that life could be fixed. I mentioned improvement.

Have you ever tried therapy? The goal isn't to fix you, it's to help you get to the root of your problems and have you figure out why you feel the way you feel. Of course you know how you feel, but do you understand why you feel that way? Maybe it's because you've had your trust destroyed before, and it makes it hard for you to trust people now. I don't know. There's a lot of shitty therapists out there however. It can take some hard work to find one that's right for you. There's a way for you to fulfill yourself I believe. Possibly a change in career that matches your passions, not desires. I'm not trying to motivate you, I'm just giving advice since you did ask for it.

>>37906553
there's no fix when life itself is the problem, anon

>>37906965
It's possible to enjoy life if you try. There are people with far less than you and with no prospects for a better tomorrow who are happier than you.

>>37906965
Id argue thinking that life can be "fixed" is the trap people fall into. If we could fix life and make it run smoothly all the time, we'd get bored as fuck and learn to hate it anyway. Life is about getting over obsticals to me, and improving oneself.

>>37906994
it is not. I'm mentally ill, anon. You have to understand that I simply cannot feel pleasure where others can. I tried lots of meds, lots of therapy and nothing works. When your brain is damaged, nothing that you change in your exterior life will improve how you feel.

It is not about what I have, it is about how my brain interprets what I have

Everytime I try, I end up making my life worse than it was before.

>>37906553
no, at age 22 I'm losing all will to do anything

>>37906852
OP, you're full of shit and you have no idea what it's like to be hopeless.

>>37907002
This is kinda fucked to. Just be happy with what you have. If everyone here could just learn how to control their emotions and be content with themselves, what they have, and the world around them, they might not be happy, but they'd at least be okay. Just learning how to be okay with not being happy will make you feel a lot better, but they'd rather wallow. It isn't hard, but they'd never want to admit it.

>>37907024
OP here. I do understand that there are some people like you. What gives you satisfaction in life? I'm curious, could tell me what you've been diagnosed with?

>>37906932
I have never tried therapy and I don't feel like I need it, I would also prefer to avoid therapists in case they diagnose any problems since that could restrict my labor opportunities and my rights.

I know why I feel the way I do, I cannot trust people because eventually everyone will betray you I feel like this because this is always the case,It may take a week or years but when shit hits the fan there is no decency in people.Such a view leads to insecurity but more importantly to the lack of trust in people or relationships of any kind and therefor leads to self isolation.

Thank you for your advice, yet I think i'm happy the way I am right now.

>>37907024
You know you control your thoughts, right? You are the interpreter of your brain. You don't even fucking need to be happy. You just need to learn how to be okay with not being happy.

>that thread where the OP addresses each person like they're the same
>he requests us to make a case, but if a case is made it's shot down, the goal post is moved
>repeat this until the thread hits 200 replies and people start pretending to be OP

>>37907063
Major Depressive Disorder and social anxiety. Nothing gives me satisfaction anymore, anon. That's the whole point. It starts slow, you begin to lose one interest after another and then the only thing you want is to sleep all day, everyday.

>>37906630
DANG...
D E E P

I want too but medical issues have pretty much screwed me over in trying to make my life better.

>>37907096
>The cases made have solutions, which are suggested
>This is seen as the goalpost moving.
>There are still more excuses anyway.

>>37907080
it is not about what I think, it is about how I feel. You see, it's kinda pointless to argue with people who don't know how it is to be completely hopeless. Only people who feel the same can understand.

>>37906764
There are many people here with low self esteem, but I reckon low self confidence is a far bigger problem for most of us here.

Besides, high self esteem's useless when the rest of the world holds you in low esteem.

If you are short and asian, would being tall and white be a major improvement on your life? Of course it would. So work on a virus that changes these failures at a genetic level. Or a time machine that will send your consciousness into a timeline where you are not crippled by your genes.

Would having more money be a major improvement on your life? Of course it would. You can actually work on this. You can use the funds for sex tourism, bypassing the need to be tall and white in order to penetrate females.

Or This
>>37907059
Sometimes, you get some real good advice on this board.

>>37907121
how can you give solutions when you barely have any information?
those aren't solutions, that's just speculative reasoning.

robots don't need solutions, they need will power, this is what you and the thousands of inept dudes like you never get, because you don't lurk here.

>>37907126
You're going to say I've never felt completely hopeless because I feel better now, but I swear I have. And it's not me just inflating my own feelings, either. You said you were completely hopeless, but you're obviously not, you feel completely hopeless. What helped me was to stop chasing happiness. Learning how to be okay with not being happy now and never being happy is important. Just come to terms with that and enjoyment isn't such a difficulty anymore.

I want the mental fog to go away. I'm retarded and it feels like my brain works at a crawl, my thoughts are so slow. I want to stop obsessing over her as well, we don't even know each other. My dream will never come true.. no point in thinking about it all the time.

>>37907076
Hey, if you're happy the way you are then I guess you never needed this advice in the first place right? Is that true though?

At the end of the day I think you know what's best for you Anon. I just disagree that everyone will betray you. >>37907096
I'm not trying to treat everyone like they're the same. This is just a conversation to me. I'm just asking questions and saying how I feel and what's worked for me. I'm honestly just trying to understand why people feel the way they feel. I guess being totally honest I do want to help people here, but I know I can't change anyone.

I don't really care if people pretend to be me. I don't have any more value than any other person here.

>>37907223
I have thought that I was hopeless before, but now it is different, completely different. I intend going an hero soon, I'm just waiting for my order to arrive. Do you think I've never tried to be okay with being unhappy? I did. I tried everything I could.

Ending your own life is so fucking hard. Most people can't understand that. I'd give anything to not have to make this choice.

>>37907190
They don't need will power, they need to be okay. They don't need to improve. It would be helpful, but they don't need to. All they need to do is be content. To not care about what they don't have and appreciate what they do. And every single person on here has something. They may never be happy, but they'll be okay. The worst part is "Oh, but you'd never understand what I go through" Obviously fucking not. No one ever will. No one is you. But anyone who has their basic needs met can learn to be content.

>>37907276
If you were okay with being unhappy then you'd be fine. You wouldn't want it to end. It's either do that or kill yourself. If you'd give anything to not have to make that choice than put your effort into being okay. It's easy when you don't want anything. When you don't want it to end

>>37907334
But I feel emotional pain everytime, everyday, anon. I'm obviously not okay. I tried, but I couldn't. It is just too much. You are saying like I've never tried, but I did. I tried being okay with being unhappy, I tried improving my life, I tried medical treatment. It did not work out.

I understand what you say and I agree that in most cases it works. But even if it works for 99.9% of people, there are still that 0,1% for which it will not work.

>>37907276
You don't want to die anon. You want the suffering to end. Please seek professional help. Even if it hasn't worked before. I don't know what else to say.

>>37907294
i don't know where you got that, but i don't disagree with it.
you start playing armchair psychologist at some point.

>>37907386
Well try overhauling it and taking it a step further then. Anything worth doing is worth overdoing, and if it's not killing yourself, then it is worth doing. Try to be okay with every waking moment of your life being suffering. That's the next logical step I can see. Be appreciative that it's constant, so you at least know what to expect. Try working from there. You know what you're enemy is going to be for the rest of your life. That's helpful, isn't it? Isn't that knowledge something to be glad about? Does it give you even a shred of security knowing that?

>>37907389
I gave up on trying, anon. I don't even want to get better now, I just want it all to end

I have Crohn's and I'm trying to get myself in remission just so I can leave my house. For now I have abdominal pain, diarrhea about 10-12 times a day and I'm tired but I'm not giving up.

I'm going on remicade to get it under control and be able to be normal again.

Hopefully I can put weight back on my body and put on some muscle. On top of that, get a job so I can get some health insurance when I'm 26. Doing my best here.

>>37907400
I got it from my own personal experience and how I got through it. What's armchair psychologist mean?

>>37907449
It's not even constant, it's getting worse and worse. And no, it doesn't give me a shred of security. I can't be okay with all this suffering all my life, I just can't. I'm better off dead.

>>37907460
Godspeed, anon.

I'm happy this wasn't original

>>37907294
Isn't this basically one of those moon rune religions? Buddhism?

>>37907484
Then if it all goes downhill from here, let it. Maybe try and find the limit of human suffering, that seems worth exploring. Do it for fun. It's not like you've got anything to lose when the alternative is the end of a barrel

>>37907455
That's your decision, I don't judge you for making it. But I think it's a mistake.

>>37907525
No. I'm not telling you to lose your sense of self or something like that. If I could credit it to anything I've read it would honestly be the Bible. I think the basic concept is the cornerstone to many religions and belief systems.

>>37906553
Ive tried and still am to a degree. But now its starting to dawn on me just how far gone i really am.
Theres nothing like getting yourself into social situations to remind you why you've avoided them for so long.

I dont fit in with normies, and I can sense they dont want to be associated with me either. The only ones who have nice conversations with me are customer service attendants and old people.

This would be alright if i was a genius or had a smidge of inventive brilliance. But im not, my only route for success is through society yet its always ended up petering out into nothing. Whether it be clubs, classes, internships, jobs, hobbies... Nothing solid comes of it, unlike all the normies who make em building blocks in their lives.

>>37907682
Why do you want success? Can't you just do your best and be happy with the results?

>>37907460
Keep it up man. I'm a cripple but still work. I'm sure you can figure it out

>>37907542
>fun
there's no fun in misery. I don't want to find the limit of human suffering, I already reached my limit.

>>37906688
I'd recommend you go fucking yourself, pompous cunt.

>>37907780
>getting assmad because he knows he's wrong
Lmao

>>37907707
Because im human and despite being a lazy shutin, i still crave glory.
My best is not enough when theres noone to share it with besides family.
I miss having friends to discuss the petty accomplishments or adventures we all have in life. The world isnt impressed if you found some cool item in a vidya, graduated college or saw a funny dog on your way to the shops.
Its all or nothing, cause i dont have the circle of normies to relate with in between.

>>37907773
Well then continue or die.

>>37907877
Stop craving glory and you'll be fine. It's pride that'll kill you if you're not careful. The world is never gonna praise you, because it will never be content with you.

>>37908086
Maybe this person finds joy in chasing glory, what works for you doesn't necessarily work for him. Everyone's mind works differently anon.

>>37908086
What else is there for a man to want?
In the end most of us do what we do to impress others.
I can lie and say im doing it for myself but i know thats not true.
Deep down its all connected with being king shit in a tribe, so as to increase your chances of finding the ideal mate with whom to reproduce with.

The world doesnt have to praise you if its forced to deal with your presence. Hence being a hated dictator is still winning.

But as a robot i have nothing. Not even a gang of normies to flatter me on my good days.

>>37908107
He's unhappy that he can't achieve glory, and no matter what he's doing it's not working. Sure, he can keep trying if he wants to, but sometimes it's good to know what you're fighting for, whether it's worth it, and when it's time to quit

>>37908221
All this tribalism bullshit is really getting on my nerves. We're above animals, and we're better than we were thousands of years ago. You know just as well as I do that not a lot here really matters. You don't have people worshiping at your feet? Who fucking cares. Seriously, why do you care? I mean, you're entitled to nothing. Maybe you can get something like that someday. Who knows. But if you're going to measure yourself by societies standards, you're always going to come up short. It doesn't matter how rich or respected you get, people will forever think you could do more, and better. You want to know what more there is for a man to want? Nothing. Fucking nothing. You're better off when you want nothing rather than wanting status. Just improve yourself for the sake of it if you want to, you don't even have to.

Society is the problem. If I had a job where I had no human interaction and I was left to my own devices to do the work then that would be fine but almost all work is normie tier.

Maybe if societal expectations weren't that people be social butterflies maybe I wouldn't be so unhappy.

>>37906553
I'm trying, anon.
My goals aren't huge, but I wanna lose weight and get a job.

I just live in a deadend piece of shit town with nothing but mcjobs available, and those all go to highschool chads.

It's comfy to shitpost and pretend NEETlife is superior.

>>37908545
This is why i sometimes wish i was born in a southeast asian country, where robot behaviors are the norm and robot hobbies arent detestable to women. I always feel more comfortable talking to a bunch of quiet chinese dudes than the gaggle of western normies who give off the vibe that they'll humiliate you on one wrong move.

>>37908402
I dont need people to worship me. Just a little taste of genuine acknowledgement beyond a thank you at the checkout counter.
Maybe this is what loneliness really is. Its not the people i miss, cause i still dont like being around them. Its the feeling of belonging and friendship I crave.

>>37906553
The grapes have gone sour and the world needs to know it.

>>37906553
Well I'm in school rn
I guess I'm doing myself good by preparing for the next academic year while I'm in vacation?

>>37906804
Ok. I will just now inject my mental illness cure :).

>>37906553
Go fuck yourself. You can only "fix" so much and this is the only reprieve I get from intense self hatred and suicidal thoughts.

>>37906688
Spoken like somebody who's had a great life and doesn't understand suffering. You can't just "Google it bro!" as if you were looking for a curry recipe or how to change a cars oil, people here have serious and fundamental problems that are often difficult to diagnose, let alone fix.

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>>37906553
I'm trying really hard, and I cry every night when I go to sleep. Everyone thinks I'm really confident and fun to talk to but I can't even function properly. I can't tell people that I'm a virgin because there is another guy at the same UNI who gets bullied all the time from it. I constantly talk to females and males alike and have tons of friends but fail to ever make a real connection with anyone. I have multiple hobbies and a job which allow me to have money and interesting things to do yet I still fail to achieve any real subsequent level of human contact. I want to kill myself and have tried nearly every day.

I feel like I'm making a positive impact on the world but I'm not getting anything back, I don't tell people this sort of stuff because I'm not autistic.

>>37910843
You made a lot of assumptions about me man. I haven't brought up my personal experience because I wanted to learn more about the people of this board (and I did learn a lot, I'm a lot more sympathetic to you guys) but I think the root of a lot of problems in this world is that people make too many snap judgements about how they feel about others, while refusing to change their point of view.

Just so you know, I'm living in extreme poverty, 12 bucks in my bank account now, I was committed to a mental health facility against my will because I had a psychotic break last month, and I've been going through depakote and resperidone withdrawals for over a week because the public facility I was committed to over prescribed me and I hated the way their meds made me feel. Ive struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts all my life, still a virgin, I'm 250 lbs.

I relate to you guys. I'm just trying to learn to see things from other people's points of view right now.