Giving up together

>>37864575
I'm currently looking for this. I'm not even that big of a fuck up, but I've had a really rough life and I'm afraid of people because of it. ideally would just like a nice person to work on things together and be codependent to an extreme degree. When I'm with people I like I forget about a lot of my bullshit.

>>37864716
The question is, are any girls looking for this, or is it their instinct to always look for a guy who can provide for them?

>>37864921
Obviously it's their instinct to look for guys that can already provide for them. And you know what? I can get dates with those girls, I can fuck those girls and make them my girlfriend. But I won't feel comfortable with them, I won't feel a connection with them, I'll be bored by them.

So in the mean time I'd rather be alone and doing some what of a useless search for some one that probably doesn't exist than settling for emptiness like every one else does.

>>37864575
l've been seeing a girl who is also a useless NEET for a few months now

Ask me about it or whatever idc

>>37865070
How did you meet her? Were you also a neet at the time? This seems like the biggest problem for neets, they spend so much time isolated in shame that they can never find someone to date.

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>tfw having major depression and sexual aversion
nothing can help me anymore

>>37865146
Hey anon, I would recommend mental health professional and get on medication. If you can't find something that actually helps maybe you can at least something that helps you feel better/good.

>>37865115
>How did you meet her?
Met on tinder, we had a mutual friend so we all hung out for a while, turned out she was into me.

>Were you also a neet at the time?
Yes, moved back from living overseas because l'm a failure and took up NEETdom once more

>>37865167
>mental health professional and get on medication
I was attending one for 4 months. Nothing changed.

>>37864575
Yeah, kinda. We're both shutin neets with no friends. It's not that we don't have standards for each other, it's more that the standards we have are compatible. Like, we don't expect each other to be outgoing, social and 'successful', but we do expect honesty and care. But we do allow for mistakes and always try to help each other. We spend our days on the pc, sometimes watching stuff or playing games together.

>>37865381
>We're both shutin neets with no friends
What are your signs?

>>37865303
Did you start any medications? you could have been seeing the wrong specialist... Also you might have been seeing a bad one, I'd recommend getting your insurance list seeing who is available and who has decent reviews.

>>37865447
>insurance list
You have to pay for you meds and therapy by yourself here.

>>37865212
Congratulations man, I'm happy for you.

>>37865482
Well if that's the case and you have the money, then look up a list of doctors you can afford in your area that have the right specialty to diagnose and prescribe appropriate medicine to you that also has good/decent reviews online. If the first round of medication doesn't work then find

>>37865729
thanks dude, good luck in the gf game

>>37865774
sorry the message cut out.

look up a list of doctors you can afford in your area that have the right specialty to diagnose and prescribe appropriate medicine to you. Make sure the doctor also has good/decent reviews online. If the first round of medication doesn't work then get something else and see if that works. It's a process and takes time, but might be worth it.

>>37864575
This is the most normie thing i read today congratulations

>>37865853
>implying tfw no gf is normie

I wish nurobots would leave.

>>37865927

dont worry man give it 10 or so years of tfw no gf and youll get there

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I did. We met on tinder, she was the best person I've ever spent 4 months with. And then she dumped me. After that, I have lost my ability to care about other people in the same way I cared about her

>>37865397
Sorry, I'm not a native speaker, so I don't understand what you mean, whether it's literal, some form of joke or saying

>>37864575
two people in not-so-amazing-condition that are together ? I can write you a book on that after 4 years of experience. it's awfully toxic, nothing ever fucking works, no matter how good our intentions are. it's even more depressing than the rest of my shit that I've got going.

this might work in the movies or even better, you'are favourite anime but it's a recipe for disaster in real life. the arguments, the fights, the misunderstandings, the emotions. people aren't just said or feeling unworthy, they develop tons of nasty habits that WILL surface when you spend enough time with someone to get comfortable around them. it's not like that during the honeymoon period, not after it, but in the long(er) run expect some serious game-breaking obstacles, two flaws don't make a right, they collide into screaming at 5am while drunk and getting the neighbours or perhaps the entire street worried once. fucking. again.

don't fall for the romanticized/idealized idea, OP. take my experience, maybe give it a try and then make your call.

>>37866198
what do you argue about?

I've been with my partner for 5 years now, and some days we spend all waking time in the same room. Other days we sleep at different times. It's actually surprising to me that we're still able to enjoy each other company. I was never a romantic, and rationally I'd think we'd grow tired of each other, but we still like being together.

>>37866198
it realllllyyy depends on how chill the people are and their general capability.

>>37866321
>>37866368
i think i took my time to state what exactly I was arguing about.

>sleeping at different times
reason enough for world war 3 out here

>all day in the same room
another world war 3, no matter what

maybe you're doing better than you thought, things aren't pretty at all when you both near rock bottom. it's not a movie when the gravity of the situation is like this and a person snaps into either rage, psychosis or substance abuse after a petty, meaningless thing happens somewhere along the day.

i have transcended physical desire and fap to whatever i will my body to

why do i need a gf when i have reached such levels of masturbatory prowess

>>37866198
That's your experience, and your personal brand of "not-so-amazing-condition". That can mean anything. Normies who are seemingly perfect tear each other apart all the fucking time.

I think I get what opie envisions. Just a relationship free of the pressures that usually come with it. I don't want to constantly worry about my partner leaving me. I don't want to worry about needing to pursue a demanding career to sustain an expensive lifestyle because my partner demands it. I don't want kids. I just want someone to live with and be affectionate with.

>>37866434
>i think i took my time to state what exactly I was arguing about.

I found it somewhat vague. "misunderstandings and emotions" doesn't say a lot.

>>37864575
Met a girl in rehab a few months ago. We were both damaged but intelligent and had everything in common. Move in with her not knowing she was using behind my back. She disappears 2 months later, leaves me on the hook for the overpriced apartment and the lease. It was amazing while it lasted, to have someone confide in you and love you. It's a feeling I have never really known. However, the heart break is totally debilitating. I haven't done shit in a week.

>>37867097
>addicts
This is the one type of trashy coupling that cannot work.

I've got my best friend who is equally depressed as me. We both understand each other, and that we are both sure to fail in life. We have a suicide pact with each other for when life isn't just worth it anymore. Suffering alone is complete agony. But when you suffer with someone who is also suffering, it makes things just a bit more comfortable.

>>37864575
Being autuik<