robot self-help threda

respond robots. I know I am not the only one. Any intimacy and shame issue you have concerning your sexuality - share it. I always liked this thing ever since I am young, fapped to MILFs or domme-y girls and crap like that. Now I can barely feel attracted to girls that aren't thicc or in otherwise seem confident or confident-slutty. I want to love all women.

What is your story, robot, do tell.

>>37802476
>is nofap all it takes
Why can't people wrap their heads around this? Yes, not fapping or watching porn is the only way to reprogram your brain into being attracted to vanilla.

Try a month and see how it goes.

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>>37802476
cyborg here.

I had sex with more than a handful of girls, but they were almost all chunky goths or SJWs or autistic anime girls with neko ears, etc. A couple of real qts though.

Anyways my general advice for you is that nofap is fucking dumb. You're going to cum sooner or later. You don't want to walk around with a boner all day long.

Nofap does have a bell curve of usefulness over time. After two weeks it stops being useful and starts being an hindrance.

Noporn is the real way to fix your sex life. There's nothing wrong with beating off when you're horny. Sitting around all day in front of the computer while looking through hundreds of videos that barely make you half-hard anymore just so you can joylessly squeeze out a single cumdrop 8 times a day is the real problem. People beat off just out of boredom.

And to meet girls and have more odds in your favor to hook up with some, join an "alternative" subculture. Like what I did, it could be the punk scene, the anime clubs, LARP groups. By default you'll already have a bunch of stuff in common to talk about and can related to each other.

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>>37802476
>the two are mutually exclusive.

If you're relationship is loving and meaningful enough, your fetishes and sexual compatibility should only increase as you spend time together and fuck and whatnot lol. I usually don't start talking about the heavy stuff until I'm at least a few months to a year of regular sex in.

Femdom isnt even sexual thats some deeper inadequency stuff. Prolly some single mom stuff sprikled ontop. What I'm saying is I can't relate that whole notion of liking to be dominated by the weaker sex is so perverted I can't possibly phantom it.

>>37802476
>00:00:00
Nice timing OP. One the other hand how does one fixes sexual aversion and gynophobia?

>>37802476
Same question but for cuckoldry. I unironically fap to it exclusively, even without porn I fantasise, and I want to stop.

>>37802635
That is good advice, thank you.

>And to meet girls and have more odds in your favor to hook up with some, join an "alternative" subculture. Like what I did, it could be the punk scene, the anime clubs, LARP groups. By default you'll already have a bunch of stuff in common to talk about and can related to each other.

I'll probably be fine about meeting girls, I am not an ugly or uncharismatic man. But what Ithink will happen is that I will barely get it up because I will be afraid about not getting it up because it is vanilla. Or an unconscious feeling that sex is wrong unless I'm sort of lower in status than the woman and it's obvious. I want to get rid of this retarded feeling. I am fucked up and want to fix myself.

>>37802647
If I ever have a relationship I would rather it stays vanilla as fuck desu, I have the feeling that BDSM is a cancer that actually increases the distance between you and your partner rather than increase it.

>>37802700
I think it comes from the same reason most girls like being sub. I grew up thinking sexuality is incredibly taboo so I preferred fantasies of not being in charge and taking the lead, but sexuality being done to me, because I saw it as a thing i shouldn#t be doing because it hurts others or myself. That's what I have to fix - and I want to know about other experiences.

>>37802476
Dicklet here. Should i even try getting with a woman or am i destined to be alone since i won't be able to sexually satisfy her with a below average dick?

>>37802771
You could pimp it up letting whoever her is take the lead sucking and riding. Not many of them are capable of it tho thats why the whole femdom stuff falls short irl. You have to bank it into them or get a bi slut.

>>37802863
In short: Women love men, not penises. They prefer above average normally, but that doesn't mean they will reject you if you are a dicklet. The same way you can love a woman that isn't the hottest in the world.

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>>37802912
Well I guess I could find a snowflake femdom girl, but I would rather just be normal sexually.

>>37802923
Won't she feel sexually unsatisfied over the time and then naturally look for another man who can satisfy her? I know there are other factors but i also know that sex in a relationship is very important. It's true that i could just try to find a girl with a very low sex drive but mine is very very high and i wouldn't be able to accept abstinence.

>>37802987
No. The reason you think that is because you grew up as a man and in a reality in which your masculinity is constantly compared to others so you project that onto women, thinking that they immediately replace you as soon as you don't measure up. There is a kernel of truth of it in reality and it doesn't come from nowhere, but the world is still more complicated than the surface lets it seem to be. Women get most of their sexual pleasure from emotional security, there is so much more in sex involved than benis in bagina. The way you touch her, the way you talk to her... after a long relationship you will know what to do in order to get her horny and she will know that you know and she will know that you are great at giving her sexual pleasure, hence she will be satisfied.

>>37802982
If you want normality you need to live on your own, the dynamic eventually leading to whatever fuck your both subconciouses are leading to. Having siblings and parents i the next room hampers the whole development.

>>37802771
>But what Ithink will happen is that I will barely get it up because I will be afraid about not getting it up because it is vanilla. Or an unconscious feeling that sex is wrong unless I'm sort of lower in status than the woman and it's obvious.

Like I said, get rid of porn in your life. Also if you're just drunk enough and/or the right kind of fucked up, sex just happens.

>>37802863
I'm this anon >>37802635

and my dick is a chode.

Basically by the time a girl decided that she wants to have sex with you, she wants to have sex with you.

Even if your dick is a complete and utter disappointment they'll be like "eh why not just this once". Only the most repulsive of dick, or perhaps trans-dick, can scare a girl out of sex just as about to hop on it or have you stick it in her.

>>37803069
>>37803265
Thanks... this is the biggest reason why i'm not even looking for a girl. I'll try to get less insecure about it. Thanks for the help guys.

>>37802584
Does it help you attract girls? Do you release more pheromones or something?

>been a girl's place a few times to 'netflix and chill'
>literally only watching tv
This week it'll probably happen again. Do I still have a chance here?

>>37803347
Are you retarded? It's your fault for not making a move, touching her, finding excuses to touch her, snuggling with her etc

t. experienced that myself, with me being at fault

>>37803518
We did cuddle, but I when I tried to go further it didn't happen.
I'm a robot after all.
But she's still inviting me over. I don't get it.

>>37803335
Nah more like it helps you being attracted to girls and boosts your confidence.

In college I went to South America with my classmates and teachers for a month. We stayed in shared rooms in hotels but mostly we stayed in the homes of host families whose homes were mostly built out of dirt and wood and tin, so we had absolutely privacy whatsoever. I couldn't beat off for three weeks.

Oh and also it was only a handful of guys and 20+ girls. I was flirting with all the girls by the second week, even the girls that back home I never really noticed. I very nearly hooked up with two of them while sort of dating a third one.

>>37802580
You watch too much porn , it fucks up your brain.

Nofap is a meme but stop watching porn. In just 1 month you should be cured.

>>37803600
Sounds like you wasted your time and didn't get any poon to me. Doesn't sound like a worthwhile investment. Plus, I'm sure that years upon years of negative reinforcement can't simply be washed away if I decide not to beat my meat.

Hell, beating my meat is one of the things that prevents me from getting suicidal depressed over girls. Maybe just me though.

Thanks for replying anyway, here's a (You).

>>37803621
I don't actually watch porn anymore, I jerk off to literotica and similar about dominant women

I think what I am going to do is not jerk off to that anymore. If I jerk off I will jerk off to something normal and completely vanilla, like a girl I saw. irl If I feel bad or shameful about I will simply not cum. Eventually the pressure will be big enough that I will get used to it and conquer my shame, hopefully.

Nofap can only make it worse. Sexual preferences are largely static, they can't be changed, this is why conversion therapy doesn't work for homosexuals and pedophiles. I was into femdom but after trying it realized I am much more into sadism. Either way there is no such things as genuine intimacy with a girl in real life.It's not terrible if you have a femdom kink anyway. If you aren't into really heavy stuff you could try to subltly incorporate it into the relationship in a way that both parties are satisfied. Maybe instead o fkeeping you locked in a dog cage and only taking you out to shit in your mouth and beat you with chains she could have you eat her out and not let you get off occasionally, make you buy her expensive toys, or not allow you to masturbate.

>>37803706
>Sounds like you wasted your time and didn't get any poon to me. Doesn't sound like a worthwhile investment.

I was getting poon before and I got poon after. The situation there was different since like I said we had shared rooms, no room to fugg.

> Plus, I'm sure that years upon years of negative reinforcement can't simply be washed away if I decide not to beat my meat.

It can. Again, nofap is pointless but noporn works.

>>37803853
>I jerk off to literotica and similar about dominant women

that is also porn

>>37802476
Try no-porn. Just fap to you imagination.