Dominant women thread

>>37799569
As someone with a lot of experience, dominant women do not exist.

>>37799690
Nah man, they exist, its just not the social norm so some dominant women feel embarrassed to talk about it and end up keeping it to themselves. Its represented in porn as being all leather super aggressive domination, but I know of girls who are into more casual stuff.

>>37799841
No, I mean, I've met countless "dominant" women who not only advertise themselves as such but also initially insist that they are and prefer being dominant. But they just aren't.

>>37799690
Dominant woman here, we exist

>>37799939
Not after one and a half drink with Chad.

>>37799569

mostly the dom stuff is just sexual. in the sexual realm i love a guy who's basically innocent and shy, so i can take the lead.

but also an important part is someone whos BOTH submissive and intelligent so that in my daily life they can support me and follow. Not a lot of people can follow my ideas simply because they arent intelligent enough.

i also like someone of the exact same political and spiritual leaning.

sometimes the most submissive guys are also the most in control of their emotions. when someone can use their own empathy without shame and become emotionally vulnerable that looks strong and sexy. but when other people unironically think it's 'beta' to show emotions they are the ones who actually look pathetic to me.

>>37799939
Real roasties, not impassable trannies

>>37800139
You have a weird and extremely unusual fetish based in your own insecurity, that does not mean you are dominant.

>>37800139
>>37800244
To elaborate, being "dominant" in comparison to the most snivelingly passive and pathetic guys in existence is not the same as being actually dominant. It's like a 40yo man beating up a 1yo baby and thinking he's strong and a good fighter. Do you see the difference?

>>37800139
>>37800244
>>37800272
If you have to VERY far out of your way to find someone you're more powerful than, it doesn't mean you're dominant, it means you're really weak. Someone actually dominant takes on anyone at all, and wins against them, and controls them.

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>>37800139
>tfw to smart to make sense

>>37800139
Bump this thread I'm trying to link to this. Derp.

Warning, women lose interest in you when they find out you have this kind of sexual inclination. Or that's been my experience at least. Pay a dominatrix if you need your fix, I guess. But if you have a gf, you keep that shit a secret, and you learn how to be dominant.

>>37800139
>>37800244
>>37800272
>>37800303
Someone who's dominant, their only goal is the find someone stronger than themselves. They want to challenge everyone until they do. For you, it is the opposite. You only want to find people weaker than yourself.

>>37800244
>>37800272
>>37800303
I don't see human interaction as a competition lol. Someone can still be nervous sexually but have values in other areas. Be intelligent, kind, capable.

You are not getting it because you see people as objects to be conquered and not humans. You've never made a connection to another person.

You see people summed up for their superficial value alone and lack empathy.

>>37800422
If you see a person as weak for being shy then you have a very narrow shallow understanding of psychology and sociology.

>>37800472
I guess the problem is just that you don't understand what the word "dominant" means.

>>37800545
How is it not weak? It's almost the exact definition of weak. Shyness is a result of fear, uncertainty, hesitance, powerlessness, cowardice.

>>37800272
Im dom and physically i am weaker than my sub. I dont deny it, outside of the bedroom, he jokes about my lack of strength and i take it good-naturedly. Being a casual gentle dom just means to me that i take the lead in sexual matters, i decide the flow and i provide the action, so to speak. I get off on my partners having pleasurable things done to them, and include a bit of pain if it heightens their pleasure. It's not like i deny them pleasure and physically beat them to a pulp.

Plus, i hate most forms of penetration so there's that. Plus the inside and entrance of other people's butts feel amazing. Even so, i make sure it feels good for them too.

Dominant women only exist in 2D

they exist anon they are just far and few between. Powerful women are hot because I admire people who know what they want and go get it.

>>37800599
You seem genuinely autistic and extremely primitive in the way you think about things. It seems like you don't understand the very very subtle ways that humans communicate during interaction. You would probably be unpleasant as fuck to be around.

A person who is strong doesn't need to have a thousand signs pointing to them that say 'I'm strong I swear!' nor do they need to be outgoing or aggressive in their approach.

If you are constantly shouting and flexing around that you are strong then there's a greater chance you are overcompensating from being so insecure.

>>37800630
I'm speaking allegorically. Physical strength has nothing to do with it, I mean someone who's powerful as a person. Commanding, impressive, cunning.

>>37800716
>A person who is strong doesn't need to have a thousand signs pointing to them that say 'I'm strong I swear!'
Funny, since that is effectively what you do when you search for and collect the absolute shiest of guys to make you feel in charge.

>If you are constantly shouting and flexing around that you are strong then there's a greater chance you are overcompensating from being so insecure.
I've never implied anything like that. The only point I made was that someone who is sure of themselves would never ever be shy or hesitate to be themselves and act freely and boldly. It's completely different from boasting, it's just them being themselves without fear.

>>37800767
I never say Im strong i just say what i like. Shy guys. Because I prefer to lead sexually. A shy person allows me to become relaxed enough to become sexual. If i was with a guy who intimidated me the last thing I'd think about was seducing him. When a guy is shy and doesn't come onto me it allows me to come onto him at my leisure. I like a guy whos shy and when hes shy he is being himself, and around me knowing that I like it he can feel better about being himself too.

>>37800824
>thread about dominant women
>"Im dom"
>I never say Im strong
Okay. And the rest of your post just confirms everything else I've said. You're very easily intimidated and weak, so you have to find someone even weaker than yourself. It's not complicated at all.

>>37800824
Let me add to that to that guys who explicitly hit on me are a dime a dozen. I could prob walk out on the streets and find dick. Dick is so easy to find and get for a woman that it's basic economics that it's value goes down.

When a guy is too shy to bring up sex or doesnt know how I feel more in control and see this as a rarer type of person. Rarer and not as easy to seduce since they arent constantly bringing up how horny they are. It excites me to be with a guy who's rarer and harder to get.

>>37800868
>harder to get.
Try getting a millionaire 10/10 Chad you dumb slut.

>>37800868
>>37800886
If it's so easy, you should be able to do it, right? Just do it as an experiment. Or just take all his money, right? You're dominant so you can just have millionaires wrapped around your little finger. It should be easy for you. They're not hard to get, shy nerd beta weeb losers are MUCH more difficult to seduce. Fucking retard.

>>37800913
It's really hard for you to see value in people outside of superficial and shallow traits huh? Like money and looks. Lol. I don't care about those things.

>>37800868
It's just absurd to me that someone who literally fucks disabled cripples somehow calls herself "dominant." You go for the absolutely lowest of the low, and your argument for why you're dominant is that you can easily get very low quality dick? Being an easy slut for some random retard is not impressive and does not mean anything. There's nothing dominant about you. Try going after someone at least mildly worthwhile and capable and seduce them and then you can talk.

>>37800995
I don't care about money and looks, I brought it up as an example of someone who is hard to get. Hard to get, because a guy like that has infinite options, and there is no scenario where he would EVER pick you over any of them.

>>37799569
i have a massive thing for women who are dominant in the bedroom but it would probably get my hackles up if they tried to apply the dynamic in other spheres of life, so 'dominant women' isn't quite the thing

as for experiences, none really. i think i might have let an opportunity slip through my fingers, that's about it

but if i try to be objective about it, i'd make a shit bf in general, and we weren't really a good match, even though i felt like she had a dom streak

>>37800720
Ah i see. I suppose im a grey area then- even when im dom, which i only "switch on" sexually, its more of playing a firm guiding role

That said, if we are talking non-sexual dominant personalities, i knew a girl who was scary af in debate. And i dont mean "scary" as in "she was really good at it", i mean scary as in our team was literally intimidated by her.

And those competitions, at least the ones held here, skew considerably in favor of charisma, a little less on content. She was not bluffing, because she was openly commanding, confident, sly if need be, for 12 hours of every day of a 3-day debate. I was mentally flat by day two. She isnt a common sort though, admittedly. She's the only girl i've seen match up to the best guys in the male-dominated comps, and she pretty much swept up the awards.

>>37801113
>And i dont mean "scary" as in "she was really good at it", i mean scary as in our team was literally intimidated by her.
>And those competitions, at least the ones held here, skew considerably in favor of charisma
Yes, this is precisely what I mean. That girl sounds like someone special who would stand out.

>>37800139
>tfw not smart
at least i think im those other 2 things even though it's generally a bad thing for dudes

>>37800849
Not op, but technically even "alpha chad something something" male doms choose female submissives who are weaker, physically and most of the time weaker in other aspects as well. There are male doms whose behaviour extends to governing what their subs wear and do outside the bedroom, provided their sub accepts. Heck, gay guys have a dynamic of "top" and "bottom". This isnt a sports competition, where you prove your strength by always taking on someone stronger than you. Otherwise the purest love would be two ultra-dominant guys forever battling it out between themselves to gain the upper ground.

I myself am uncomfortable with an unequal power dynamic in a relationship but it can be good fun sexually

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i want a girl who knows what she wants and is determined to get it. i want a girl who can cause a room to go silent when she walks in. i want a girl who can be strong even without using physical strength. i want a girl who doesn't let anyone get in her way. i want a girl who will go to the ends of the earth to protect those that she loves. that's a dominant girl to me.

i want a girl like that, but quite frankly i'm not sure that they exist. that being said, i feel like someday i'll find that someone. i hope you all find them someday too.

>>37801301
Yeah, those guys are losers too, obviously. Basically anyone who specifically seeks out "submissive" people is just an insecure retard who can't manage anything else.

>>37801456
lmao you sound like a lonely facebook post

>>37801484
You don't understand bdsm. How a sub can be at their best when they are serving.

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>>37801070
>but it would probably get my hackles up if they tried to apply the dynamic in other spheres of life
Idk, I used say the same thing but the more I think about it the more that just isn't true. It all boils down to how it is presented. Take something as simple as figuring out where to eat. If you come up with an idea, she shoots it down, refuses to eat there and demands to eat somewhere else, that would be extremely unflattering. On the other hand, if she took initiative, didn't ASK where you wanted to eat but instead picked a place she knew you would be okay with, and just said "lets go out, I have place in mind" it would be much more tolerable.

It's the boss vs leader thing again. The issue is most people thing "dominant is bossy" when real dominant people are much closer to leaders than bosses. Being bossy is a weak trait.

>>37801523
yes, sadly this is the state of my >tfw no gf
i wish i could say i didn't tear up writing that post

>>37799939
please be my gf I beg you

>>37801666
It's not a real woman, Satan.

>what do you enjoy about being in control?
I like the control because I like to set the rules. I'm a fucking aspie, so, I like having routines, expected roles, etc. and being dominate allows me to be the one to set those in place.
I also like getting back rubs or messages whenever I want.

>Is there anything specific that you like doing?
I loooveee chastity. best fetish. I like to be the penis police. I like to wear the key on a long necklace.


>hoped to try
Ive been with my subby goodboy pup for like 3 years now, we've done pretty much everything that appeals to me/us at this point.
So it's not realistic or possible, but "hope to try" I guess, wish I could peg him but have a real dick so I could actually feel it. Like if I were a futa or something.

>>37801876
we all know you are not a woman but a trap

>>37801950
if I was a trap, then I would be happy to peg him with my actual dick. Instead, I have a strapon and I can't feel a damn thing except for when it sometimes rubs a certain way against me.

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lemme start by saying I'm not a woman, and if you think women are actually browsing /r9k/, let alone dominant women who are as rare as fucking unicorns you're an idiot.

I've ERP'ed with a bunch of people over the years often as a dominant person. I'm actually pretty submissive, but I enjoy pretending to be an idealized version of my "preferred partner" and acting like they would. The intensity of how dominant I'm being varies with who I'm writing for and what kind of mood they're in. I also enjoy it for their sake, being dominant is still "giving" pleasure to another person, it's just doing it in a proactive way.

I enjoy making my partners edge for extended periods of time, sometimes denying them orgasm.
There was one person I wrote for who browsed /r9k/ and was a total degenerate who wanted me to spit in his mouth, kick him, press heels against his testicles and call him an impotent loser. He eventually stopped replying and probably killed himself unless you're reading this right now you disgusting piece of shit

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>tfw ywn find a dominant trap or trans girl that makes you follow their every word

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Dominant women are the best women. It's a damn shame that they're such a fucking unicorn.

>ywn know what it feels like to dedicate your entire life to your partner, deriving purpose from it and making you feel loved, valued and secure

End me pls.

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>>37802106
>There was one person I wrote for who browsed /r9k/ and was a total degenerate who wanted me to spit in his mouth, kick him, press heels against his testicles and call him an impotent loser.

Is it wrong if the thought of this is giving me a boner?

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>>37801950
>>37801971
>>37801876

Ive wanted to feel pegging him so bad that I actually bought this special robot cock strap-on that vibrates differently based on the stimulation to it. So if you suck it or fuck it or stroke it, it vibrates in different ways.
Im kinda sad that they stopped making these, and even supporting them. I guess the demand for strapons like this wasn't high enough. I backed them on kick starter to get this thing, lol.

My penis envy is just that bad.
I'm not a trap. I wish I was, cuz I wish I had that futa cock to use on him.

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>>37802274
>tfw no vat-grown cock to attach to dominant gf for delicious sph and futadom

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>>37802255
>is it wrong if the thought of this is giving me a boner
it's disgusting, but I'm sure that's what you wanted to hear isn't it?
This guy wanted much more extreme stuff than that, I just wouldn't give it to him often. Extreme CBT, scat, farting, smell, sweat, fisting him, etc. He was a completely hopeless loser that couldn't even get or maintain an erection most of the time.
There was also a german robot that wanted me to seal him in a vacbed and press my feet to his face while wearing a kigurumi mask and was obsessed with horo.
Your fetishes are disgusting but nowhere near the level of some /r9k/ users I've written for

>>37802274
>why would a trap have a strapon
>because his dick stopped working from all the hormones

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>>37802274
i misremembered, it was indie gogo
In case anyone else is interested in this thing, cuz it was kinda hard to find. Ive seen a few ones floating around on amazon, still though, even though the original company stopped making them.

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/ambrosia-vibe-world-s-first-bionic-strap-on-that-vibrates-when-touched#/

https://www.autostraddle.com/anonymous-sex-toy-review-ambrosia-vibe-bionic-strap-on-2-0-314417/

mine looks a lil different from the one in the crowdfunding campaign because I bought a bigger one (lol) a bit after they came out with the first model.

>>37802369
did he like vore, too? I spoke to this one dude who loved farts and scat, but they rooted from his vore fetish.

>>37799569
Dominant woman i suppose. I'm not a big fan of sexual stuff, i'm more dominant in every-day personality. I am sexually too even though i have no firist hand experience. Imagining being submissive to a dude makes me feel ill if im being honest. I'm a bit more open to subbing to a woman but eh i prefer the dominant role, it feels more natural.
I enjoy being in control because it makes me feel safe and i like running the show. I would like to try pegging a dude.

>>37802523
>I would like to try pegging a dude.
Why?

>>37799690
Nah I knew a chubby redhead who wanted to dominate me. She was weird though.

>tfw you're objectively a filthy fucking whore but nobody thinks about straight dudes that way so it's all good

kek

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>tfw you'll never find a dominant girl that you can surrender yourself to
Atleast I have my cartoons.

>>37802562
not her but I can answer cuz idk if she will.

it feels good to be the one fucking instead of being the one who gets fucked. the role change is hot.
also, its a vulnerable and submissive place to put him in which makes you feel more dominate as youre doing it.

>>37802562
The whole "fucking someone" thing. I want to fuck, not be fucked. Kind of feel like i need some phallic device to accomplish that.

What does dominant even mean in this context?

>>37802718
Noice. I'm a guy but I want to get fucked.

>>37802798
Same here. Do you guys think it's gay to want to get fucked by a woman (female)?

>>37802920
No as long as it's a woman (female) it's as straight as you can get it

>>37802920
It's so beta you might as well spread your anus open to the whole town.

lol unless youre a woman as well, no, it is not gay to want to fuck women.

>>37802502
I don't think so, or at least he never mentioned it even though he admitted all of his other fetishes.
He was apparently a notorious shitposter in the steam friend threads, I think his name was "hal"
he was just a scat fetishist and I only wrote shit stuff for him once or twice because he was so pathetic

>>37803015
fuck off original chad reeee

>>37799690

In my experience, it depends on how you define "dominant". Girls who are into taking the lead during sex, giving their partners guidance, and enjoy scratching/biting/otherwise rough sex? They're a minority, but not rare by any means.

On the other hand, finding a girl who likes things like spitting on you, calling you a loser, putting you on a leash and making you worship her feet, bark like a dog, etc.? Not gonna happen unless you pay for it.

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>>37803258
>making you worship her feet
why is footfagging looked down upon?

>>37803325
Because chad doesn't do it

>>37803325
Because it's abnormal to enjoy another persons filthy smelly feets? Might as well lick pajeets ass clean.

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>>37803325
Because it's such a non-sexual body part to the rest of the planet. It reminds us of the autistic guy who is sexually attracted to cars, just not as severe.

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>>37803408
I personally wouldn't lick smelly feet but would love to worship her feet after a shower or bathwon't lie I would still do if she was tired from wageslaving or if she forced me

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>>37803511
>sexually attracted to cars,
>not planes
wow what a pleb

>>37803258
>scratching/biting
The best, I wish I had a gf that would mark me that way.

>>37803564
>anthropomorphized
pleb

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrLMLFE5Eec

is it just me or is foot stuff the least popular fetish for women even among dominant women/girls? can any of you give some input?

>>37803325
>why is footfagging looked down upon?
Because since for ages they've acted basically like MLP fans do.

>>37803615
It's the third most common fetish in men (was the first or second before the jewish takeover of the west), and used to be normal in women too before jews told them it was creepy.

I just want a girl that takes charge instead of staying there like a dead fish. No pegging and stuff

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dominant women are the best and people here like them mostly because by being dominant, it proves they love you and people here lack that feeling

prove me wrong, I dare you

can any dominant girl tell me how she feels about virgin subs?

>>37803823
I like jews now.

I want a girl to hold her smelly sock over my nose and jerk me off, but I simultaneously want to choke her and put her on a dog leash. It's an abstract kind of feel.

I don't want femdom but I want someone who lovingly leads, a bit like a mother but not ageplay, mother as in lovingly in charge

>>37804380
It means you're switch. It's not that abstract.

>>37803615
I like gently bullying a guy with my feet.
>>37804299
Virginity is prob my number one fetish.

>>37799569

I've always been dom, I don't like the idea of someone domming me, but maybe an occasional switch would be survivable with someone I love.
I am fine with being dominant in everyday life, but maybe I'd at least pretend with my boy that our relationship is regular, maybe the constant headpats would give it away.
I really hate the dyke porn stuff, I feel too embarrassed to even look it up, everything from oral to pegging should be done in a feminine way.
I also think it's all about the attitude, that even giving oral can be dominant, and that it all depends on the mindset. I also prefer not using full force, not at first at least. I like being the stern type, where just one word said in a specific tone can completely overpower the other person.
I'd try pretty much anything - from giving and receiving anal, rimming, food play, spitting, forcing my boy to wear a collar and putting him on a leash when we are home, writing embarrassing stuff on his body, holding him while he pees and doing that on him, having him grind his ass on me and dressing him up as a girl, exibitionism. I also want to tenderly love my sweet boy, like I always do.

>>37804606
>having him grind his ass on me
Nice. All of that is nice though.

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>>37804606
>I like being the stern type, where just one word said in a specific tone can completely overpower the other person.
>all that post

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>>37804606
>the vast majority of people here will never experience anything like this

>>37804639
It is nice, it's quite slutty :^) Slut is one nickname both lewd and cute enough for me at the same time.

>>37804713
>>37804704
Just lurk. I've met my boyfriend on /r9k/, on a completely unrelated thread.

>>37801876
>penis police

Dick is diamonds, pls be my bf / gf idc I'm bi

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>>37804713
feels bad man VR will be maledom mostly :( we were born to lose
>>37804784
don't give him false hope even dominant females want chad

How do you even find girls like this irl. They're so rare that you will ever only see a handful of them, and because they're also rare as fuck, they can pick guys even easier than normal women.

It's my dream to be a househusband to a dominant workaholic woman who loves nothing more than looking forward to cuddles and nice hot meals I've made

>>37800630
t. male, I dont like penetration, any kind of, but i like doing cunnilingus, am I suitable for women?

>>37804848
With that mindset anon, all you'll achieve is repelling all potetntial dommes/females in general away :^)

>>37804784
>just lurk
You and I both know the numbers aren't great. Every dom woman on here could get over 20 bfs a person and there would still be more to spare.

>>37804963
Then just give up, I don't know what to tell you. One won't just land onto your doorstep one morning.

I want to be locked in chastity and pegged.

Restrained, forced to eat pussy and my cum.

>>37804958
Now I ask you, /r9k/ is us losers's home, why do they come here looking for chads? a chad will dump you a loser will stay with you unless you dump him

>>37804985
I never said anything about giving up. I was defending the original anon who said:
>>the vast majority of people here will never experience anything like this
Which is true, even with effort.

>>37805031
I never came here looking for a chad, I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend when I met him. I know where I am and I know what is the general stance on women, but not all of us are like that. The majority - yes, absolute whores, disgusting trash that feels entitled to everything on this planet. But, that isn't how every woman behaves.
>>37805051
Yeah, numbers aren't great. Nor all of them know about this place, and where submissive men gather. You do have to dig, but I'd say it's worth it. You also have nothing to lose.

>>37802190
>wanting mental problems
WEW

>>37805600
Where do you think you are friend?
This is the place for people with mental problems.

>>37805634
There's a BIG difference between depression/anxiety problems and trannies, anon. BIG.

Where do I meet one girl like that?

>>37805671
I don't think so anon but to each his own.

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>>37805879
in manga and fantasy anon

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>>37799569
Dated this goth bitch in school. She was a new girl and didn't have friends. Her attitude kept people away.

I asked her out and she was super sweet and loving with big cow tits,jet black hair, nice ass and home done piercings.

I told her of my ballbisting fetish and she loved it. And she really put my balls through the ringer. She would use them against me and truly believed me having them made me inferior to her. She would often get me by the balls,wrestle me down and forcefully suck my cock while keeping a good grip on my balls.

Eventually I got self confidence and broke up with her.realizing women arent meant to be dominant.

She took the news hard and kicked me in the balls at school so hard I was knocked out

She eventually had to move from my town again due to the pressure of my family. They kicked her our of our public school system and offered a bounty for anyone willing to severely hurt her.

Good riddance.

>>37806436
kys anon originallio

>>37806436
I hate to read post like these, fucking chads I swear

>>37806474
>>37806493

LOL I don't think I look like what you envision

>>37806535
No, you just broke up with someone for the dumbest fucking reason even though you were going along with things.

>>37806567
Broke up with her boyfriend cause I was in an abusive relationship. That's never justifiable

>>37806595
Meant to say because an jot boyfriend

>>37803545
yeah that's why you're not gonna make it

>>37806672
I don't care anymore about making it bring on the void

>>37799569
>For the women, what do you enjoy about being in control?
I like the idea of having control over someone that could easily overpower me physically, but doesn't because they want to please me and trusts me. I also like the idea of taking care of a man for a change, since there's so much expectation for you to be dominant.
>Is there anything specific that you like doing? Anything you hoped to try?
I haven't done anything yet, but I definitely want to do a lot of chastity stuff and anal play. I enjoy the idea of being cruel from time to time but mostly I want to be a mommy-like dom. Tell him he's a good boy and let him suckle my milk.

>>37806736
nb4 about 50 replies asking for your contact info

>>37806736
>I like the idea of having control over someone that could easily overpower me physically, but doesn't because they want to please me and trusts me.
>I definitely want to do a lot of chastity stuff and anal play.
Perfect.

>>37806736
Please give me your contact info, preferrably in an original way

Submissive men are always one "feminization sissification" kink from being disgusting trannies.

The slow degeneration and submission of men is one of the only things that made me 100% believe in ((their)) influence disgusting whiteness, because it's always white men.

Fucking faggots. I pray that men become great again.

>>37806825
Off yourself, barbarian.

>>37804850
They actually aren't that rare the thing is is that as much as a guy gets shamed for being a sub women get shamed for being doms. We get called bossy, bitches, dykes, mentally ill, etc, usually because Chad's and normies who are drunk on red pill propaganda don't know how to handle our existence.

They shovel down the throats of good boys the idea that they need to change too.

>>37806436
I kind of wish she had killed you.

>>37806883
Just come out as a tranny faggot bro. Stop wasting your and women's time.

>>37806961
She probably should have. I think I ruined her life. Her moving led to some serious draw backs. I think she became a lesbian whore Driggs...had she found someone who could handle her sadism she probably would have been perfect. She didn't want her virginity taken until she knew a man was addicted to her she told me she was trying to make me never want to leave then I could have my prize...Fuck that... She's had about 500000 people in there since lmao

>>37807018
wut
originintendo

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>For the women, what do you enjoy about being in control?
>Is there anything specific that you like doing? Anything you hoped to try?
I haven't tried anything before, but at the very least I imagine that I cannot be a mostly submissive person, I might like teasing, and embarassing them, etc. It is awfully cute. Some are adorable, too adorable that you'd like to protect them in one way or another :P
Nothing too hardcore.

>>37807046
Sounds like you are 12 and she probably broke up with you and you are probably lying about it on an anonymous forum where no one cares at all.

>>37806903
I know.

I just want a girl that likes to lead ln the relationship and sex but also listens to my suggestions. It feels like an unicorn.

>>37807206
I was twelve at the time. Had a nine month relationship. After that breakup I met my wife at 14. Made her a ballbuster too but she's under my command

I tried to get her to break up with me. I do that to any woman I'm done with but instead of breaking up with me she would just wrestle me down and ask me if I was going to break up with her...so of course I would say no. Broke up with her via text one night

Is there a difference between dominant and assertive? I just want a woman to take the lead and tease me sometimes. Just like my Japanese animes.

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>>37806436
>She would often get me by the balls,wrestle me down and forcefully suck my cock while keeping a good grip on my balls
>Eventually I got self confidence and broke up with her

kys

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>>37804606
We might be soulmates, please location I believe

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>get a message from a domme
>check her interests
>findom

>>37807995
>findom
D R O P P E D

>>37799569
dominant women dont really exist, they're actually just women who don't respect you and cant find a chad to submit to
t. fucking masoch himself

>>37808468
or they want to use you financially like a findom >>37807995

either you will give domme women your money in findom or you will take care of a submissive women

women will never give support a submissive man financially, therefore they aren't really dominate

where does /r9k/ get their femdom?

>>37807929
Hell you can have her. You don't want a woman who truly doesn't respect you tho.

>>37799569
My boyfriend and I are both virgins, so we've done switching because fuck it, I want to do all sorts of naughty things with him.

But we both absolutely prefer it when I'm dominating him. He likes when I get behind him and start humping him... It's adorable.

>>37809491
I guess if she never respected you that's different.

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I wish I had a gf who liked to switch. It gets so fucking exhausting being in both ends of the spectrum.

Please be in northern Colorado

Hi everyone, I'm a femanon who has a boyfriend who is interested in femdom. Do any of you have any tips on how to make him happy?

>>37809882
Grab his dick and whisper "I'm the captain now"

>>37809755
He said
>Eventually I got self confidence and broke up with her.realizing women arent meant to be dominant.
Sounds like chad dropping waifu because she was dominant and just because of that.

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>>37809934

Fuck me up a totem pole, that's the funniest thing I've read all night.

>>37809755
She was over bearing. I couldn't tall to women even though most my friends were women. She would immediately call them whores and harass them. Always wanted to know where I was and who I was with. Even got jealous of guys if I was with then too much. maybe she loved and respected me at some point but eventually I was like property...it's now way to have a relationship

I like being a little bit rough, and pushing a guy around, I think the idea of wrestling interests me, or hugging his head, being nurturing kinda like a mom (but not a mom fetish, I just like doing things for a guy and expect nothing in return) or sitting on his lap, telling him what to do. I've only ever gotten the chance to do it once, though, I'll probably never get with another man again. He was my first love.

>>37802190
i'm right here, anon...

*opens arms*

come

>>37810632
>come
*immediately jizz in my pants in an instant*

>>37810370
Yeah, she's a manipulative cunt lol, glad you got out of that and I'm sorry you went through it. Not all dominant women are like that though, it's not fun wthout consent or when it's not done for pleasure. That's just called abuse

>>37810632
Where am I supposed to come?

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>>37810370
>tfw she was perfect for you

>>37808563
Tbh i dont get the appeal of dom men either, i mean, why would i let myself be financially dependent, it strips quite a lot of control and power away from me, and that sucks.

Idk what you guys are complaining about, there's lots of women who only dom sexually, and act normie outside of that. This removes the problem of you having to take care of anyone financially.

I just want to TALK to a dominant woman. Not even in real life, not even over voice. I just want proof it's a girl and some inkling of dominance.

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>21
>Social Anxiety
>Severely low self-esteem
>Don't know how to drive
>Never finished high school
>Never had a job
>Still live with my parents

My femdom fantasies exist as a sort of magic pipe-dream solution to all of my problems. That there is some girl out there, who would like me despite my numerous problems.She would save me from myself. Helping me overcome my issues by guiding and leading me, so that I might live a happier life.
Of course I know the chances of that are incredibly minuscule. More than likely as the days go by I'm going to get worse and worse. until eventually, unable to carry the weight of my failures, I'm just going to kill myself.

>>37812037
Ever heard of pornhub retard?

>>37812208
>What is 2-way conversation
Also, not really, fuck 3D women desu

femanon here
i have a cute submissive boyfriend, he's my first time for everything (kissing,foreplay, sex when we have sex which is not yet) but yeah he is so amazing, were gonna by him a maid outfit :3 he calls me master aswell

>tfw no qt gf to peg you
I'm a failed male

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>>37812208
>thinking dominant women in porn are actually dominant in real life

>>37812326
Welcome to reality, anon. Life sucks.

>>37803258
>On the other hand, finding a girl who likes things like spitting on you, calling you a loser, putting you on a leash and making you worship her feet, bark like a dog, etc.? Not gonna happen unless you pay for it.
Are you sure? That seems pretty tame. It's not like I'm asking to call her mommy

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>>37812040
Lord in heaven anon. That s so fucking depressing. Seek God.

>>37812040
you are still young but spoilers: Misaki won't save you

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>>37812040
Haha. That's me except I'm 28 and a woman just like that I kid you not actually pursued me over several years while I feigned disinterest in her and generally avoided her. Then she made a baby with another fellow. I think she actually reached out to me on this board at least once.

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>>37812040
I can relate to this alot Anon.

I know it won't really change anything though

>>37806903
>women get shamed for being doms
How?

>>37812040
I can relate to this a lot. My future is empty and I am terrified

>>37806903
You get shamed for being ungentle doms. See, there's this thing called "gentle femdom / gentle female domination / GFD", which is what every good wife wants for her husband.

>>37806903
Been on chatrooms for years and still couldn't find a single genuine femdom
>>37813417
GFD is invaded by abuse just check /femdom/ on 8

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>>37812040
I don't think it's my draw into this, but I do know those feels a bit.

>>37813680
That happened a few times in a /gfd+rr/ on this board a few years back. I hate that shit. There's still a /gfd/ board there.

>>37807937
Sorry anon, you'll have to find another girl.

>>37799569
dominant women always just come off as a nag or super immature from the ones I've known.

>>37813853
those threads were killed thanks to roasties coming to look for chads so I spammed them to death

>>37814037
>chads
>in /r9k/, much less a /gfd/ general

I hate it. Its pointless bein dominant if I can't pin a guy with my superior strength and savagely fuck him in the ass to climax. Fake dicks are worthless as well. And I find I hate most "submissive" men because more often than not they are just selfish and want to be waited on.

All I want is to be a big chad and fuck robots.

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>>37814127
You must blind if you don't see chads and normies posting on /r9k/ famu, I have no screencaps but I'm not lying I loved when the threads were free of bullshit.

>>37814494
Normies lurk and post here for laughs. Eccentric pseudo alpha males post here as an outlet for their deeply hidden robot feels. Chads? No. They always have better shit to do than being here.

I prefer my women submissive, but able to RP as dominant if I am in the mood for it.

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>>37799569
>For the women
Women? On 4chan?

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>>37814412
>not wanting to be a big futa instead

Femdom FTW. I want my oneitis to tie me up and use me as she pleases that's my ultimate fantasy.

>tfw too autistic to even talk to anonymous girls on 4chan threads
>no way to prove I'm unique
>don't know if I am
>can't claim I am coz then I'm not
>shiggydiggy I wanna love someone rly ;_;

>>37807995

What site was this on, friendo? I'm actually into that.

>>37817049
90% of the girls on collarspace/fetlife are "findoms". (not actually into it though they just want free money.)

>>37817141

Yeah it's easy to spot a fake findomme. A lot of them are just dudes who grabbed an Instagram selfie of a cute girl flipping off the camera.

Finding a real findomme is as hard as finding any other type of dominant woman ._.

>want to be dominant
>act like I am
>any sort of conflict comes up or risk of hurting someone's feelings
>instantly fold
Fake it til I make it I guess.

>>37817244
>Finding a real findomme is as hard as finding any other type of dominant woman ._.
No, even harder.

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>dominant women
>women
>dominant

they are all slaves to chads dick

>>37799569
>And for the men, why do you like powerful women?
Because I'm excluded from everywhere (job, fun, people), I don't go to dating sites because I know I have no chance. So what's the point of dreaming about a nice girl? Also I hate myself. I dream a bad girl would approach me in the street and sweep my little ass off my feet.

>What experiences have you had?
My first and almost last gf. The experience was probably so good I stopped looking for a gf afterwards. I broke up after 6 months (twice). It was not as good as it seemed.
I liked when she held my hand like boys do. I liked when she slapped my ass to make me cum in missionary.
But she would make fun of me for coming too fast, and when I said every time I was willing to do it a second time, she didn't want.
I wasn't studying philosophy, she was in prep school for business schools.

>>37804606
>having him grind his ass on me
good idea, fuck that's fucking hot!

>>37806436
>She eventually had to move from my town again due to the pressure of my family. They kicked her our of our public school system and offered a bounty for anyone willing to severely hurt her.
nice. (13 hours old post, I know)

omg, the replies...
this guy did not deserve hate for telling his story to someone asking.

>>37817278
I could appreciate your efforts, be spontaneous be my gf ;_;

>>37813417
No I constantly get shamed for being too gentle and being too picky, only wanting to be with someone I share a mental connection with.

>>37818330
This is within the fetish community, but to normal people they think I'm probably just a bitch with control issues. And they always picture what I want as a dom as tying someone up and whipping them or something. Which isnt even remotely my thing.

Yes you get made fun of as a girl if you want gender role reversal of any kind.

>>37818392
I get told 'just go after girls because that's what it seems like you want' a lot just because I like sissy guys.

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>>37818392
>>37818411
hello ladies

Do you like my feets?

>>37818411
"If you like cute guys, just go out with a girl, silly!" -people to me, who is submissive

Yeah, that'll work out...

>>37817049
can you explain the appeal?
what do you want in a findomme?
budget control, orgasm tax, etc? do you want to be forced to eat ramen every day while she goes out and sends your money on expensive bags or something?
findom kinda sounds like normal marriage except you dont fuck them (oh wait, that is a normal marriage) only it has a facade of money driven female dominance.

>>37818614
typically its the subby boys who are the foot fags.
Domme women dont often go for guys feet.
So, idk why youre posting them here.

>>37819068
not him

Yes, but in real marriage there is/was hope.
When someone looks to be financially dominated, the fear of failure is numbed, and the awful self-esteem is not only ok, it's expected.

On dating/marriage sites, high self-esteem is expected, and competition with other men, richer, better adjusted, is very tough.

Personally I've never tried financial domination, as I have no money.
Life of an unemployed sub means fapping to google images, and whining about his pathetic life on the internet.

I have always liked the idea of emotional domination. A woman who manipulates me using my emotions to gain advantage and control

Really weird I know. I think it's because of the type of girls I've known

>>37820557
>I have always liked the idea of emotional domination.
> liked the idea of
> the idea of

trust me, you just like it in theory, the second you're actually being emotionally manipulated for real it's totally fucking different and not sexy at all.

>>37820597
kek, as someone who has experienced that a ton, i can tell you it's pretty awesome. it's really fun liking someone so much that they can control you.

>>37799690
This. All women are weak and submissive; at the end of the day, doms are just acting as something they are not.

>What experiences have you had?

I dated a very 'dom' and controlling woman for a while. She was a real mess, mentally ill, hypochondriac, polyamorous, hardcore SJW etc who'd have a meltdown if you even hinted at questioning her beliefs. Femdoms are unicorns so I did my best to hold onto her regardless. Her 'dominant' personality was really just a result of her own insecurity, manifesting as controlling and bossy behavior although of course she would never admit it. She was too nervous and anxious to let a guy be the one in control.

At any time she'd have between 2 and 4 guys she was involved with both local and long distance, the main one being a live-in slave that supported her financially because she was, of course, too ill to work. To her the whole cuckold aspect was just another kind of dominance, and having multiple partners was reassuring for her.

Really in general it was a pretty normal long distance relationship aside from her annoying neuroses. We'd chat and watch movies and stuff, then occasionally she'd order me around... sexually. Which was really thrilling and enjoyable for me. It was mostly stuff that I could have done by myself anyway since obviously she wasn't there physically but she was so much more inventive and experienced with it that it went in directions I never would have thought of. I've still got the home made diy ball crusher that she had me build, for example.

Anyway, her personality eventually got to be too much and I had to break it off.
I'm 100% sure she too out her frustrations from that on one of her other slaves lmao.

>>37820996
kindly anon, pls share the directions so I can make my own diy homemade ballcrusher.

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>>37821061
It's not super complex but I can't easily describe it over text.

Basically 2 bits of pvc pipe and 2 flat bits of thin plywood.

Drill 2 sets of holes in the pvc perpendicular to each other and 1 set of holes in the plywood.

Thread thick screws through both sets of holes on the pvc, one of them following through the plywood too.

Attach wingnuts so that you can tighten and loosen them.

Open up the pvc and put your balls thru then tighten so that they're firmly held in place.

Then, gradually crush them by tightening the second set of wingnuts.

It looks a little bit like this.

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>>37818286
I'm gonna be dominant and assert my choice of 'No'

>>37799569
Be more specific, OP. Most Western women are dominant, but in at least a couple different ways. Are you talking about Femdom? Or do women count according to Chaucer's claim in the Wife of Bath's Tale: that women want sovereignty over over man above all else? A medieval claim that ALL proper women want to dominate man.

My wife does not abuse the power I surrender to her; her will trumps mine by my choice. That's kind of how a good Western marriage works. The woman in a happy household gets the biggest say, but she uses that authority while acknowledging and respecting the man's quality of life. The best women give more slack to the man than themselves despite effectively having more power. That, in turn, makes them feel like benevolent Gods.

However

We've been together for ten years because she hasn't abused that power. That and I can have faith that our best interests will be carefully considered from her authority. She is smarter and more disciplined than me in most ways.

Being with a powerful woman is like dating a great boss. Life is easier than I deserve because I've got a better person to lean on about hard decisions. You need to be careful not to get dependent.

Don't mistake a dominant woman for a powerful woman. Very different people. A dominant woman who can't deliver with wit or reason reminds me of the "activists" crying womyn.

I don't get the financially dominated bit. We still have different accounts after ten years. We organize bills based on who is earning more and it's bounced back and forth. I buy what I want. I've never felt broke or financially limited because of the relationship.

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>>37812040
This right here. It's because I'm so undesirable and lacking that I want someone who would support me despite me being inferior to her in all aspects.

>>37799569
I went out with one for a couple months
>Would call me a bitch whenever I showed affection of any kind
>Loved when I got frustrated and pinned her to kiss.
>Would actually go weeks without contacting me
>If I let the phone ring more than 2 times she would hang up and not talk to me for the rest of the day (sometimes called at 5)
>Sex was more like a wrestling match

Never again. Only 2d waifu from now on

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>>37812040
is my NTR fetish just a coping mechanism then?

>>37821478
Thank you for this, I really appreciate it.
my balls prob dont tho but whatever

>>37819068
Sure!

The whole budget control thing is too structured for my liking. I'm not really interested in being shouted at, and I can't stand the aggressive, sweary demeanour a lot of dommes have.

What I want is something unstructured. In the past it's worked with a few girls (one at a time) - most didn't talk much unless they wanted something, but one was actually good fun; we'd talk a lot and watch stuff on Netflix together.

Occasionally, she'd tell me to buy her something from Amazon or top up her Starbucks card, etc. If I could afford it, I'd do it, and she'd start teasing me about how I was enslaved to her. She used to get really giggly, which was awesome.

If I couldn't afford it, I'd protest about how I was keeping that money for some new jeans, or going out for a meal. She'd tell me I'd have to live without it, and tease me about how I had asked for this when I told her she could be as big a bitch as she liked. (I did once say something like "you can take anything from me as long as I can pay my rent")

The best times were when she was just spiteful. I don't think she was actually a mean person in any way, but she could act it, and I was obviously enjoying it. Plus we had a safeword for when I legit had to keep some money. One time she made me walk home from work in the rain when I was going to get a taxi. A couple of times she went for a fancy lunch with my food money and made me eat toast for a week.

So, that's pretty much my guide for what I'm looking for now. I like it when a girl is (consensually) cruel or nasty to me for her own gain, and then acknowledges and boasts about how cruel or nasty she is capable of being.

>>37819228
I like financial domination precisely because I have no money. Well, I work part time, so it's more like next to no money. If I could afford to drop a brand new Gucci handbag in a girl's lap every time they release a new one, and not even feel the impact on my bank balance, it wouldn't be enjoyable for me at all.

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>>37823833
Now I got more questions, lol.

Was there sexual shit? like, I asked about cum tax but that sort of thing. Did you have to report too her about shit, or did she interact with you sexually in any way?
Was it online?
What kinda rules did you get?
Would it still have appeal if you knew you didn't have any chance of a relationship outside of that context? (watching netflix, chatting, whatever) but not having it become a relationship (no bf/gf or anything) outside of that findom/femdom context, or would that kill the appeal for you because you want to have the hope/chance of it being more?

>>37824455
>Was there sexual shit?
There wasn't really anything sexual, and that's how I wanted it because I'm not really into behavioural control. I mentioned at one point that I have a thing for hands and feet and she started to ask for shoes, socks, nail polishes etc. a lot more often after I told her that. She would often send me pictures of her wearing those things if I'd bought them for her (and of her food if I'd paid for her to go out), but that was more to tease me about how she had all those nice things and I didn't. One of the other dommes had a lot of experience with chastity locks, orgasm denial and such but I was never interested in it.

>Was it online?
Yeah, I've only ever done this online. She was in the US, I'm in the UK. At first it was just through Amazon wishlists because those are anonymous for both the buyer and receiver, but after we got to know each other a bit she gave me her address so I could buy her things direct from other sites. At one point we talked about me sending her some irreplaceable and sentimental things of my own for her to step on and crush, but we never got around to it.

>What kinda rules did you get?
In this particular relationship we're talking about she didn't set any rules for me. That's kinda how I prefer it. A different domme used to make me send her my wage slips so she knew exactly how much money I had, but in general I prefer when they don't know.

>Would it still have appeal if you knew you didn't have any chance of a relationship outside of that context? (watching netflix, chatting, whatever) but not having it become a relationship (no bf/gf or anything) outside of that findom/femdom context, or would that kill the appeal for you because you want to have the hope/chance of it being more?
Absolutely, I never expected to have a real relationship. I always assumed she had a boyfriend, although we never talked about it because she asked me right off the bat if I was into cuckold stuff and I said helllll no.

there we go into the cuck part of "femdom" fuck this thread

>>37799569
I've fucked a few. It's not the desire for control that commonly runs things, it's their profound trauma and damage that comes out intimately. Basically they're scrap.

>>37825154
How did you meet them?
Would you mind giving me some contact info (idk what, something like discord or something) so I can ask more shit?

>>37825502

Sure, I'm about to reinstall my OS so I'll get all my stuff set up after, but for now you can just email

jameshartleyrb(at)gmail(dot)com