How your parents fucked you up

>>37438139
Pretty much by having me honestly. My dad is pretty unstable and takes a drug concoction to remain stable. I got a bunch of shit from him. Depression, autism, etc.

My mom kind of single mothered me. He was there occasionally. I still moved schools every year or so. Ever got friends. Never learned how to make them.

Now she's asking me why I'm like this, why I have no will to live and I don't know exactly how to say it

My mom never made cooked, just kept around cookies, pastry, chocolate, etc. She said cooking was "disgusting". She's probably anorexic. I had muscle wasting that damaged my heart and I used to eat coins because I craved minerals.

When I went home for Christmas the only food in her house was chocolate, tinned soup, and dozens of boxes of sweet & lo :/

My father would yell at me or call me stupid pretty much any time I spoke as a child. I used to be fairly social in kindergarten, but by the end of elementary school, I didn't speak to anyone anymore. I've been quiet my whole life and am now unable to form relationships because of the problems never speaking caused during my social development.

>>37438139
Both my parents were very distant. I wasnt a very adventurous kid but if i ever wanted to do anything besides staying in the house they would forbid it. I guess too protective and cold. I ended up getting like 50 pounds overweight since i wasnt allowed to go outside

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>>37438139
Mom was too soft and dad was distant. They basically stopped punishing me for anything at around age 13 because they knew I was already miserable and were afraid of pushing me over the edge. They would never push me to go out and do things or make new friends when the old ones all moved away, just let me be raised by video games, anime and eventually the internet. Now I'm in my 20's still sitting at home and we all know I need to get some life experience but the most they'll do is have a brief talk with me saying something like "I worry about you sitting in your room alone all the time, maybe you should look into getting a job this summer" and I'll say "I know, I need to do something" and we'll leave it at that until the conversation repeats a month or two later. I know nothing great awaits me in the world so I hesitate to throw away my NEET life, they aren't willing to push me out the door or force me to apply anywhere so I'm allowed to hesitate.

single over overprotective mother

>>37438139
I feel repressed by my dad. I never inherit his alphaness, i grew being scared of him therefore i'm a pussy now. I can't connect with people and i don't want to, i lost passion in doing anything. Being dadless is better than being repressed by dad.

>>37438139
>teachers who taught me college will fix everything
>no job and living in socal with no car, no experience, and adult role model
We don't speak but every now and then I get some bullshit
>How was your day? XD
Like bitch how the fuck do you think my day was? I went on a run then sat in bed until it was time to go to sleep. They were really strict growing up then did a 180 and just left me to fend for myself. I'll probably live her until they die or they kick me out.

>>37438139
Single mother who didn't act like a parent. Took me a long time to teach myself discipline, and even then it was only out of necessity (because otherwise we were going to be homeless).

She's a really good friend, but really bad at being an adult.

>>37438139

Dad has ptsd ,anxiety disorder and is super over protective.

Mom is a space case and was just trying to keep shit in order.

Dad always tried to force me into social situations and acted super disappointed if I didn't act exactly as he expected. He also had really sexist expectations of how girls should clean/behave and would show up expecting me to have cleaned the house and made him snack but never expected that of the boys. Never really paid attention to my hobbies and instead took the males out fishing etc.
To make matters worse he was obsessed with violence and always talked about serial killers. My mom was just allong for the ride and ignored a lpt of obvious problems

Now I am dealing with anxiety,depression and low self esteem I am also afraid to leave the house by myself because I have a phobia of serial killers and crazy people.

The best part is that they are perfectly functional and have plenty of friends but ruined that aspect of life for my siblings and I

Does it help that we know what made us the way we are so we can turn back and try to be happy or is all hope lost

>>37438139
Since child they basically locked me in my room and said "raise yourself"

But I like to think books raised me

my parent's are alcoholics, my dad was never nice or kind to me and my mom allowed it

i was grounded most of the time for really bullshit reasons which meant i wasn't allowed to watch tv, use the computer, talk on the phone, or go out
which meant i spent most of my time just alone and bored because the rest of the family would go watch tv together and banish me to the other parts of the house

really, looking back on it just makes me so sad that adults actually treat children like that. i thought back then that i really was bad and lazy or whatever and that i deserved what i got.. but now i realize they were just being fucking mean, unloving, assholes for no good reason

>>37438139
dad
>distant
mom
>overprotective
>helicopter
>condescending
>religious zealot
>covert narcissist
>enmeshing

she is convinced that her parenting ways are correct even though my sister was driven out of the house at 20 and lives overseas and I'm a neurotic neet loser

>>37438139
My father was a physically and emotionally abusive alcoholic narcissist, my mother was a drug addict who ended up ghosted IRL by my dad and so I and my siblings ended up with dad, my early years though my mother taught me bad habits like feeding me sweets when i was sad so I learned to depressive eat, my dad was the kind of guy who'd hit you then tell you he loves you, it was weird.

Overall my biggest regret is my father dying before I could kill him.

Mom was a stay at home mother and never paid any attention to us. Depressed, moody, slept all the time unless she was on the computer. Would practically hiss and growl if you disturbed her. Only interacted with us if if was over the top banshee style discipline.

Was my mother a fembot?

Single mother who let me drop out of school illegally. School was a nightmare and made consider suicide though. Probably a bad move still.

>>37438139
wtf that pic

>>37439171
>not enjoying images of plump silver daddies pounding early 20's twink boipucci with your parental angst threads
I don't recognize this website anymore.

>>37439121
No, your mom fell for the stay at home mom meme. They start out really happy and get gradually depressed and resentful of their kids over time.

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>>37438139
dad was a beta cuck, raised by a single women basically, but in a two parent house. Mom was mentally unstable and they fought ALL THE TIME. Just consent body stress, it's a form of torture really. My dad was really wound up trying to keep it together towards us, so if someone honked at him driving around he'd lose it and scream. Or if someone knocked over a glass of water on a restaurant table he'd slam his whole body up, banging his legs into the table and knocking his chair back, making a huge scene.
it's hard to dissribe to make it the horror it was, but just being late to everything, after a fight with the parents, so all the kids at the church event (or cub scouts or whatever) were already involved and teamed off in something, while you are trying to be super calm because of all the chaos around you. You end up staying up late everynight because 1 am is the only time you can relax a little, your sleep gets all fucked up for life. You can't enjoy ANYTHING, because even going to the movies invokes them fighting, being disorganized, 30 minutes late so you miss the beginning, rushing to get tickets and parking and seats in the dark, you can't make friends, you don't know how to talk, all you know is to be quiet and good as a mouse because you think it's your job to fix everything
By the time high school comes around you have attempted suicide, been hospitalized, on meds that make you even quieter, and the kind of depression you can feel all over your body as psychical pain.
I mean I actually developed PTSD symptoms, such as Exaggerated Startle Response, and others https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/understandingcombatptsd/2014/11/combat-ptsd-symptom-exaggerated-startle-response/

80% mom, 20% dad (he's made up for it)

>be oldest child
>have the most memories of parents' marriage
>lots of arguments
>dad travelled a lot, mom had a lot of male friends over
>eventually they divorce when I was 10
>dad gets kicked out of the house
>dad spends the next few years trying to get custody of siblings and me
>waste of money for him with family courts, he made a lot of mistakes
>mom remarries
>two months later find out new stepdad was a registered sex offender who tried to fuck a 13 year old (undercover cop)
>complete shock
>still forced to live with mom even though siblings and I want to live with dad
>mom constantly tells us we're selfish, should be grateful to her
>dad spends tens of thousands of money in court to try to get sole custody of us
>he failed, only got my younger sister
>he cut off contact with the rest of us because he couldn't handle any connection to my mother for everything that happened, including his own kids
>turn 18, go to live with him and he helped support me through college
>last of my siblings are still with mom
>siblings are disrespectful, neglected, abused
>feel powerless

i really hope none of you trick yourselves into marrying Stacy, because this shit will happen

>>37439213
feminist propaganda.
that was not original

>>37439218
this describes my life perfectly. Sorry you had to life like this anon.

oh yea, they fucked me and my brother up.

my father was barely ever here, when he was here he was just tired from working and most of the time was in an argument with my mother. other than that, he didn't teach me jack shit or give a fuck what we did.

my mother is an alcoholic BPD nutjob that was always on the phone with her family getting in screaming arguments with them or getting in an argument with my father. all she does is cause problems and drink.

i'm stuck living with these two miserable cunts because i'm a failure. if i ever got a job and moved out i'd never speak to either one of them again

>>37439243
Not feminist propaganda man I actually lived it for two years and cabin fever coupled with little kids and no friends will fuck with you

Mom was very loving but at the same time she didn't teach me a whole lot and the spankings made me resent her.

Dad wasn't there, he would show up for a couple days a year then leave. Then one day he beat me until I blacked out because I didn't do my homework and I haven't trusted anyone since, I just wait for death to take me now.

>>37438139
Single mom
Rape baby

I was fucked from the start famalam. Feel bad for my mom though. She's obviously traumatized and doesn't want to deal with it, she's highly emotionally dependent on me and she breaks down crying a lot.

She never tries to punish me or even influence my decisions in any way. This may sound nice but I was never disciplined as a child. I am not very aware of what is and isn't inappropriate as a result, though I try my best to have some tact.

Father's really the one who fucked me uo because although I've never met him I inherited psychotic disorder and rape fantasies from him Really want to kill myself before I hurt someone but then my mother would be a wreck.

>>37439330
>mah antidote
you were just programmed to think you were being unfulfilled.
Plus the early kid years are always hard, if you stay at home or not
Why did you have no friends? that can happen even if you work and have kids, now you have even less time to socialize. You would have had no friends either way, doesn't mean that happens to everyone.
Plus you didn't have young aunts and grandparents around to help because of our broken culture.

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>>37438139
>dad (feat. PTSD) was in the Army and we moved everywhere all the time
>by the time I was 16 I had moved 15 times
>absent (deployed/in the field) father much of my life
>mom was abusive for my early childhood
>exposed to and interacted with mother's literal crackhead extended family
>fought my first crackhead at 16
>dad was an alcoholic for quite some time but quit in my late teens
>any time I asked to hang out with friends in high school they would intensely interrogate me and ask if I was going to do drugs
>the pressure and constant doubt that I was telling the truth made me visibly nervous which made them interrogate harder (this significantly decreased the amount of time I spent with friends)
I still know how to interact with people and blend in with society, but all of this has left me really bitter. I'm still stuck with them even though I'm an adult and I'm out of high school. I'm currently going to a "nearby" college (40 minutes away because they didn't want me to live on my own for fear that I would do drugs) and I don't have any interest in academics.

>>37439337
post her sexy panties please

>>37439331
did you ever get hard during the spankings? did you find afterwards late at night you had to masturbate to release the stress hormones, even if you never really connected the two?

>>37438139
>beat me
>didn't teach me how to talk to girls
>distant
>stopped caring after a point
I had to figure shit out on my own.

>>37439391
I'm not trying to defend her either way I always made an effort to play with the kids ,read to them and take them to the park. All I'm saying is some women get fucked up like this and won't admit it. Instead of looking for help or going back to work they turn into lazy computer hogs that discipline from the couch. I had friends but they where young and didn't have kids yet so they couldn't relate to me and I am weird so making mom friends is hard.

mom died when I was young and had schizophrenia while she was alive

my parents let me come home after school and go to my room alone every single day. They never once asked me about my social life, never once thought it was strange that I had no friends and did no activities outside of school. At least they don't expect me to be a normalfag now.

>>37439436
I don't feel like your serious but no. If you remember those belts with the pyramid studs in them, that's what I got.

My father would also take me for a day or two and drop me off at night which prompted me to cry myself to sleep because I knew he wasn't coming back that year. Caused me to have some hardcore insomnia when I was 8 that's lasted my entire life. I also just shut my mouth when he's around because he hates it if I don't do or say something he doesn't like and he starts yelling at me. That translated into me being aloof even when I was around friends and I can't even go out now without thinking of killing myself and hating the people around me even if they don't do anything to me personally. I also watch people like a hawk and resent them for the tiniest things that I perceive as a slight to my character and I'll plan my disproportionate revenge against them even if it takes me months to enact it and they have zero idea why I did it or them may never know that I even did it.

They let the TV raise me and didn't teach me anything about how to behave socially. Ended up having lots of retarded behavior and aversion to social interaction.

People would react at how I didn't talk in the local dialect at all.

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Am I too late to be saved? Could I still become a normie/Chad?

Is nobody going to talk about how repulsive OP's picture is? Like fucking A, man.

>>37439566
Oh no it's an old man fucking a younger man. It's happening right now, some even non-consensual. Just let it go bud and don't look at it too long.

>>37439562
Where in ky? I am also stuck in this boring backwards state

>>37439566
I see it as a metaphor for the older generation fucking the younger generation over. Stare at it for a while and absorb the message.

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>>37439630 Madison county

Dad beat mom so hard she got put in the hospital, this was all right infront of me when I was about 4, I still get on edge when I hear them arguing. After they realized how much that probably fucked me up they became slightly overprotective but nice except for like one spanking and yelling at me when I was being a little shithead. I grew up to be a pretty nice person, possibly a psychopath, can talk good with people but I'm horribly lazy and unmotivated, I'd say I'm mostly the author of my own misery.

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>>37439208
>being this much of a faggot
>not going to /lgbt/ where you fucking belong

>>37439566
Wow, homophobic much?

But seriously porn is always posted on /r9k/. Look at the catalog ffs.

My dad was some kind of autistic, I actually don't know how to describe what he was like. He could act normal around other people but at home he sometimeswas really hard to communicate with, slow reaction to everything, always seems spaced out, talked like he had trouble forming his thoughts into words. If he wasn't like that he'd be always moving, jumping up and down singing loyalty making jokes a million times because he thought they were funny. Generally unable to understand if he was being annoying or hurtful. He switched between "hyperactive autist" and "he didn't have a stroke, right?". It wasn't as extreme as it sounds but still pretty fucking bizarre. Compared to my mom my dad wasn't so bad, I'm fine with him honestly. He was pretty beaten down by mom and spent a lot of time alone.

My mom was a giant bitch. She'd start yelling any time she was slightly stressed out by anything. She orders people around but got pissed if our tone was anything less than perfectly polite and pleasant. I picked up all a lot of her shitty behaviors but it didn't take me long to learn she was the only one allowed to act that way. Her mind runs 100% on self centered emotions, so when she's upset she can treat others as badly as she wants. I don't think I've ever heard my dad raise his voice at this woman, but her yelling at him (and me) was a daily occurrence. Occasionally justified but usually just her being a bitch about something that could have easily been dealt with calmly. Living with her was like walking on eggshells, you never knew what might set her off. By my teens I was paranoid about it and would constantly apologize or try to damage control if it seemed like she was upset. Which of course led to her guilt tripping me about how I "thought she was horrible" and how bad it made her feel. At least she taught me one good lesson: life is simpler if you just keep your mouth shut.

I don't know. My parents weren't that bad, I don't hate them. Could have been worse I guess.

>fed me shit diet growing up
>turned me into the fat kid
>got bullied in school and depressed
>mom enabled me to go on home hospital
>basically online highschool but with actual schools graduation diploma
>fat with no social IQ

at least ive lost weight and i'm just a anxiety ridden shut-in now.

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>>37440045
>Could have been worse
It could have been a lot fucking better too. I hate that meme.
>hurrdurr your parents left you a emotionally stunted wreak but you can't complain because they weren't shooting crack and leaving you in a Dumpster to party

>>37439258
Dude. You just got yourself banned for 4 years.

>>37438139
I come from a large family (have 7 brothers and sisters). Dad was domestically violent. He would beat me and my brothers. He was most violent with my mom. Would hang her by the neck, give her bruises and shit. They divorced when I was 9. Mom got full custody.

Currently distant but at least he pays child support. I see him maybe twice a year at most. He's still pretty deadbeat, wastes all of his money on gambling.

>>37440199
ever make out with your sisters panties?

>>37440127
Yeah I know, I just get nervous about complaining to much without qualifying it because of my mom

My dad always slept and worked, just like my mom so they were pretty distant and abstent.

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>helicopter mom
>angry pot-addicted dad
>both were alcoholics

When I was about 5 to probably 10, they argued every single night. It was pretty much just my dad yelling at my mom and my mom sort of unknowingly egging him on by the way she'd respond. Then once a month my mom would snap and start screaming back at him or maybe hit him, my dad never hit my mom though. Occasionally I'd yell something at my dad or stand in between them because I thought they were actually going to fight, but it just ended up with my dad getting mad at me because I was there. Now whenever they argue I just shut down and might possibly have a panic attack. Anyone yelling near me puts me on edge and I'm horrified on confrontation.

A lot of the times when there was an issue I had, they would pretend to care, but just get angry that I wasn't always happy in front of them. I remember when I was 17 and working my first job, I felt like killing myself and bought a game, my brother just bodied me over and over again, so I went to bed at 7pm. It ended up with my mom storming into my room yelling at me asking what was wrong while crying and getting mad that I wouldn't talk to her and then my dad screaming from across the house "THANK *YOU* FOR FUCKING UP MY NIGHT, ANON, THANK YOU." It was always like this, that's just the one time that stands out. Now no matter what I can't talk about my feelings to anyone without wanting to kill myself further and it's associated with burdening the person.

They'd also laugh at almost anything I wanted to do and would never actually encourage me. When I was 13/14 I was really into lucid dreaming, I tried talking to my parents about it once after asking if they could buy me apple juice, it ended with them laughing and comparing it to tarot cards. They had also laughed at my drawings at the time when I was trying to get better. Now I can't show anyone anything I make or do because I feel like no matter what they say, they're just laughing at it without me knowing

Mine are mild by any measure of the word and as a result so is the damage done.

>mother is a physical ruin. Allergic to almost everything, cancer from 40 years smoking, osteoporosis and epilepsy with sporadic fits

>father abused drugs and alcohol for 20+ years to cope with his own shitty upbringing. None the less is inconsistent, overly emotional and generally dumb.

Mum's been sick and dying most of her life. Every day she'd come home from work (teaching special ed kids for fuck knows why) and more often then not pass out on the couch. I can remember looking at her droopy stroke-looking face and feel the agony radiating off her. I dont know why she smokes but between all this I cannot be around her, it hurts me to watch her compound her problems,

Dad..is a whole host of problems, I'd be a proper christian boi if he'd ever been able to settle down and pick one church. But every couple months he found some new problem and we'd have to move. So I dislike the idea of church.

He could never just answer a question. If I wanted to know something I had to sit through a 20 minute lecture about jesus and his religious issues.The same happened if I ever fucked up. I learned pretty quick that disobedience and questions where just not worth the hassle, so now I don't ever bother to ask anything, I'll languish in ignorance rather then risk it.

He was consistently inconsistent. Every few months like clockwork we'd all be dragged out for some hour long rant about so-called problems in the family and the radical steps he planned to take. These never happened but a few months later we'd be there again.

I can blame my porn addiction on this as well. Every other day his stance changed. One day it's fine, the next its "just delete your history" and another "I'm going to make you watch granny porn because you looked at something lewd" and the cornering, giddy-angry questions when I started to question my sexuality.

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My dad always brushed me off as a kid and as a teenager. Never wanted to do typical "father and son" bonding.

No "hard proof" but I'm pretty sure that fucked me up from basically not having a father figure mentally in my life. We get along now as adults but the damage is already done and feels way too late now.


Even though I barely hang out with him I get told by people who spent time around him they say shit like "wow anon, you're just like father xD haha!" even though I think it's a load of horse shit.

Plus, I hate when faggots say shit like "well at least you had a dad. my dad was some dumb nigger who smoked crack and had 4 baby mommas". All my dad wanted to do when I was growing up was watch TV all day and go hang out with his friends.


All I wanted in my life was a father who had equal interests and treated me like a son and not some random bozo living his in house . If I ever have a son I know I won't do the same, least I hope not.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OqwKfgLaeA

>>37440403
Now the random backslide into alcoholism I could tolerate, he was never violent. Just loud, annoying and oversensitive. Jumping about and drunkenly yelling along with the offspring, as a result I've got no tolerance for drinking, or the offspring.

Now they've long since split up, Mum chose to ignore literally every red flag, never really pushed for them to sit down and try to work out their issues or go into therapy- then immediately and completely ghosted dad.

Dad knew things where going wrong- I spent weeks in total held hostage while he unloaded his faith and marital problems at me. Now where mum refused to approach the problem at all, dad did have his issues. He locked onto certain topics to the exclusion of all else and could get real guilt-trippy in his self hate. Our relationship has been cool ever since he drove me to drink after the divorce with endless crying calls- and when I'd had enough he had the balls to tell his eldest son to fuck off.

We didn't speak for a while, and while I've come to understand that he deserves a better shake then he got I'm no longer willing to indulge him

>>37440435
me and Mine have nothing in common. His efforts at bonding where..painful to say the least. He'd gather us all up and angerly bark that we're going on some huge time wasting trip somewhere stupid. nobody ever wanted to go fishing, to the beach or camping. but we did- and drive in tense silence while dad would randomly demand to know if we wanted to go. Always in that "I will pull this car over and beat your ass for wasting my time" tone. The same one he used when informing us.

So we'd say yes, being honest seemed like the worst idea- then he'd pick up on the vibe after a while and storm everyone home in some shitty mood because his hostile efforts didn't make a happy memory

>Mom was a Stacy who got knocked up at a party.
>The guy who knocked her up ran off
>Mom's family is Catholic so they wouldn't abort me
>be born
>Mom resents me for ending her stacy years

>>37440642
you could be her chad

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>>37439258
>mother is loving and very caring
>has liberal viewpoints
>treat her like a cunt
Kid youre gonna realize your retardation once you move out to live on your own

>>37440925
he is 14, everyone hates their parents at 14, only time tells if it's justified

>>37438139
bumperino in pepperinos.

>mother used to shame me for watching porn etc.
>she was also really snuggly and needy
>basically treated me like the man in the house (in front of my father)
>I developed an oedipus complex (thought about her boobs once and panicked)
>confused, told dad about it
>"Son, it doesn't matter what you think, only your actions matter"
>what he meant by this is it doesn't matter what a pervert you are as long as you can hide it.
>he's a teacher
>he secretly watches schoolgirl fetish porn
>later teases me and mom watching TV
>calls us "lovebirds"

The horror... The horror...

I used to wet my bed too.

>brother once told me I seem like I'd grow up into a serial killer
>his girlfriend laughed agreeingly
>"H-ha, yeah I know rright"

>one weekend dad's away on a boat trip
>meeting old guy friends
>mom wants me to sleep next to her, like old times
>"I-I'm a big boy... b-but okay"
>can't let her know what's up, she'll have a fucking breakdown
>quivering next to her
>what if I'll start fucking her in my sleep
>"Hey Anon, why are you turning away? Come over and embrace me!"
>"S-sure..."
>try to conceal my semi boner
>not sure if I succeeded, I think I blacked out or something

I never slept in my parents' bed since that weekend.

>when dad returned from vacation his voice had changed
>what the actual fuck
>it was deeper and more masculine
>who's he trying to fool?
>everyone keeps quiet about it, for fear he might throw a fit
>eventually he stops doing it
>k

>>37442269
And another story

>summertime
>all picking berries in the woods
>huge haul
>mom and I spend next day preparing them for jams, storage etc. while dad's working around the house
>messy, time consuming, but having a good time
>he sits down at kitchen table
>sees that we're enjoying ourselves
>starts tantruming literally like a child about not getting his lunch
>I throw it right back at him, shouting fest commences

Now I suspect he was actually jealous of me and her. Are only my parents this creepy?

>once dreamt that I was a girl getting nailed by my dad and enjoying it
>thankfully woke up drenched in sweat, instead of cum

This whole story was a repost, by the way, it's not mine. Someone posted all this in a thread back in November.

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>>37438139
>parents were distant
>acted like they loved me
>probably did, too
>but they didn't know shit about me besides that i liked music
>my parents are just realizing they fuck me up
>tfs

Father:
> yells at me then i do something "wrong"
> yells when was drunk
> yells when want to cure his work pressure, because of his betaness
I usually think I like him, but can not forgive his shit on me.
Mother:
> stronk
> independent
> protective
> very loyal
> i never trusted to her fully just like to my dad
So, i never told them about my school problems, never told them about my childhood problems. They even don't know how hard it was.

>>37438959
all hope is never lost, anon
it may feel that way, but i promise it's not the case

>>37442441
This desu in an original way and more

>>37438139
I was a victim of having overprotective parents and helicopter parenting.

>>37438139
Dad was simultaneously way too easy on me and had a short fuse of a temper. He spoke rationally and truthfully and harshly about being a calm, cool-headed person under any and all forms of pressure but is so very quick to prove himself a hypocrite that I ultimately can't take him seriously or respect as much as I should

Mom was a religious control freak who practices gaslighting on everyone she knows. She's smart enough to know what to say to you to make you listen but not smart enough to hide her agenda when she says it.

They also divorced and kinda used me as a go-between. They also both actively scorned me for playing video games as much as possible.

But at least I'm not spoiled, right?

>>37442702
My dad was exactly like that holy heck

>>37438461
I had a very similar upbringing as you. It could be worse than you think. It seems you don't blame your parents for anything. It is a serious sign of tons of future mental problems.

>>37438139
father
>perfect alpha male
>talented
>intelligent
>helpful
>engineer, handyman, cook, basically a master of every left-brain skill
>inherited his brains

mother
>overbearing
>overprotective
>passive-aggressive
>shrill
>intentionally gave me bad advice growing up so that I would spend more time with her instead of friends
>stole my money
>tries to drive a wedge between me and my dad whenever possible
>simultaneously wants me to get he fuck out and get a job while also staying with her and paying her constant attention
>inherited all her neurosis and bad skin

>>37438139
I don't believe my parents did a bad job raising me necessarily...

However, i do believe that some of the things they did may have made me turn out worse as a person.

My dad:
>killed himself when I was rather young. Did a good job besides that.

my mom:
>slightly overprotective and overcontrolling
>wasn't allowed to go anywhere on my own until like age 14
>extremely neurotic and anxious
>never taught me how to assert myself.
>seldom said no

I don't know. It seems dumb in some ways to call someone out for these things. And yet, I feel like at a certain point is so harmful to a person's development to not be shown how to deal with other people, that it has to be called out as a flaw.

>>37442717
are you also paranoid and possibly mildly autistic?
if so we may be the same person

>>37442875
I'm paranoid 24/7 and can't socialize for shit senpai

Tbh I screwed my own life up. Hurt dogs growing up and that's a sign of a sociopath. After early signs mom left when I was 8 and it was just me and my drunk father.

>>37443019
I accidentally killed a puppy at a super young age because i thought jumping with it on a trampoline was ok.

Is that a sign as to why i am the way i am now?

>>37442756
Well, I hope you're doing better than I am then. I don't blame them much at all. The most they could have realistically done is force me to get some experience as a teen, like booting me out of the house for a few hours every so often. I won't pretend I wouldn't have whined and given them hell for it at the time though, so it's understandable that they didn't try. They raised my younger brother in a similar way and he's turning out okay because he took the initiative while he was young and learned to make new friends. I'm where I am today because I ran away from every uncomfortable situation I was ever faced with and straight into the arms of escapism instead, I even dropped out of high school when I realized it wasn't going to be a turning point for me. I've no doubt in my mind that I have a host of mental issues between my extreme jealousy and manic/depressive episodes, but they'll remain undiagnosed because I have no intention of ever trying therapy. At worst I might one day be a danger to myself, but I'm confident I wouldn't hurt anyone else.

>>37443052
I don't know it depends on how you act now. I intentionally hurt dogs when I was young. For example my dad caught me swing a dog around a pole while it was on its leash I broke 2 of its legs and it became scared of any human contact

>>37443133
>Well, I hope you're doing better than I am then
Not really, these things will pile up.

Problem is, just because your parents didn't beat you it didn't mean they did their job. Most bad parents have an image how they want to raise their children and they don't give the slightest fuck if your personality doesn't fit in it. Normal teens eventually rebel and criticise their parents if you don't then you think either not having friends/gf/normie life is how it supposed to be or they can do no wrong and everything is your fault. This is a surefire way never being able to do anything that needs confidence, critical thinking or responsibility.

My sister was raised similarly as me except she called out them on their bullshit and now she is some big boss at a multinational corporation while I struggle in my little dead end retail job.

>>37438139
>Overprotective parents
>Father mostly absent, so raised only by my mother. No male influence whatsoever as a result.
>Never learned to stand up for myself
>Never hung out with other kids outside of school
>Middle school came around and I was socially stunned behind everyone else
>My over protective mother always does everything for me, so I'm still as dependent on her as if I were still a teenager
>All my father on the rare occasions that I see him is tell me how to live my life, that I'm a disappointment, etc

Now I'm a 22 year old who socially behaves like a child, and that has barely as much experience in the real world as a teenager. Oh, and I'm a virgin too, of course.

>>37442959
like I'm replying to a mirror
ever fantasize about blowing all your savings on some guns and going for the high score on everyone you've ever hated in descending order?

>>37443400
Probably a few times.

Mom probably has autism, and I got it from her. She's pretty OK, she's one of the few people who understand me. Dad was a good dad until he remarried and focused 100% on his new family. He gives all his love, attention and money to his fucking step-son, and completely ignores me. When I was still a kid and lived with him for a year, he did nothing when my stepmom bullied me. Some weeks I miss him terribly and think about what a great dad he used to be, other weeks I hate him and and want to tell him what a cucked disgusting failure of a "father" he is. A father choosing some other guy's spawn, over his own fucking kid. How can you do something so disgusting?

>>37438461
similar except my dad wasn't distant but instead was a fuckhead always getting into trouble when he was young so he tried to protect me from the dangers of the world by never letting me go anywhere or do anything as a child even when i wanted to go playing with some kids a few blocks away. Now i'm 22, in college so not a total neet. And my parents choose now to start bitching about me finding work when im already in school and they never let me try finding a job when i was in hs.

causing my ptsd with alcoholism, fighting that lasts to this day, overprotection/isolating me from my peers, beating me

My mom is great but she has a habit of consistently criticizing everything I do which led to me being self critical on basically everything. Everything else is my fault.

>>37443444
holy trips batman
have your exes called you abusive?

>>37439630
Ashland here.

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>>37443700
>tfw never had a gf so i can't say

>>37440381
If it makes you feel any better, you're me and my sister.

We're both fucked up now too.

Weird, some kids get beaten, we just get confused/scared into being autists.

a fair bit of everything you mentioned except single mother
add in some other stuff

>>37443748
well there are no perfect mirrors I guess

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Serious question guys.
Do you think some parents should die?
Like my parents did more harm to me and brother then if I was let to be raised in foster home or something.

Just amount of slow torture can't be described and comprehended by average normie, the amount of suffering I had to went thru because of parents I seriously wish they were dead.

Just because I am partially intact now is not because of them but because of other people who tried to help me and self help that I seeked.

Fuck them I wish they get poisoned

Mother - bulimic and helicopter parent, spineless
Father - anger problems and as a misogynist wasn't sure how to treat me during/after puberty. I'm quite similar to him too, interests wise so he couldn't just group me into typical woman and leave it be.
Now the only way I can get an peace when I come back home is by acting like a domineering asshole.
I'm more worried about my little brother. We used to be tight and he had a pretty healthy view of women, but since I moved I'm a little concerned.

>>37443840
yes
eugenics when?

>>37439218
Holy shit, this sounds so much like my family.

I grew up trying to be the balanced, responsible one, and it turned me into a person who's overly cautious and suppresses all of my emotions except anger, and a social mess because I'm so accustomed to having to interrupt and force myself into conversations to ever get a sentence across. I'm awful with money, too, because the only expressions of love or happiness I ever got from my parents was when they bought me things, and the only social status I could have when young was as "the kid with cool stuff," and I ended up as an adult who constantly buys bullshit to try and make myself feel better or seem more desirable to other people.

My parents also had huge expectations of me in every regard and never let anything slide. At least that made me become a hygenic and well-dressed robot, since it gave me a gigantic complex about being "presentable."

>>37443879
>mother depressed
>father angry
>me autistic
>6 brothers and sisters
>all homeschooled

I was fucked from the start though, being homeschooled was probably the best thing for me.

childhood was pretty painful
my dad especially was really cruel and mean to me when i was young
my mom was ok but she never stood up for me when my dad was being a dick
when i was older and in high school he mostly turned his focus away from me so i had a ton of freedom which was cool

tldr i'd definitely relive my teenage years again but childhood is fraught with painful memories that leave me irritable and anxious to this day

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I don't know. I didn't turn into a screw-up until my mid-20's. Maybe they didn't push me enough?
>oldest of six
>had it together all through growing up
>responsible, never got in trouble, straight-A's, Eagle Scout, the works
>had friends (male and female), hung out, active in stuff, etc.
>nerdy, but so were my parents so whatever
They pretty much left me to myself, because they trusted me (and I gave them reason to trust me). They had five younger kids (some very young - my youngest brother doesn't remember me from before I went to uni), so they didn't focus much on me.
Though now that I think of it, something must have gone wrong.
>me, wizard that just barely graduated uni finally
>oldest sister is basically a tomboy loser (didn't graduate HS, in and out of CC for almost a decade, etc.)
>middle sister actually had it all together, but she makes me seem hyper-social, and her degree is basically useless
>next brother has depression, dropped out of uni, but is otherwise a normalfag
>youngest sister never grew out of her princess stage, married a dumb muhreen (proof: he married my sister), now has two kids that my parents are basically raising because my sister and her husband are losers
>youngest brother has assburgers or something, but he's my mom's babby and she can't bear to think something's wrong with him, so she never had him checked out
I wonder if my parents ever wonder about what they could have done different to have successful children.

>homeschooled and isolated from the world
>no friends because of this
>parents hate people
>dad does his own things, doesn't care about me
>only memories of my dad when I was young was him criticizing me and shouting at me for the tinniest of things
>mom is also emotionally distant but otherwise nice which makes it hard for me to blame her even though she deserves it
>as a kid I used to smash shit and mess with animals in a mean way, probably because of all the above
>didn't know how to speak properly until I was like 10 because I had so little social interaction(I still don't know how to speak with people, I just know how to pronounce shit now)
>learned how to read and write from the internet

This is despite living with them 24/7 because I was homeschooled, they never taught me anything, I didn't even know how to wipe my own ass until I was like 7

There's much much worse shit than that, in fact I could write paragraphs on all the shit they did wrong as parents.

How am I meant to fix myself from the damage they've done to me? For so long I didn't even realize how absurd it all was, even as a kid I was sad

>>37443359
me too pal, u a neet?

Both parents over loved and spoiled me, I'm upper middle class and I have no motivation to ever get a job or move out because my standard of living can never improve from where it is now.

>>37438139
>shit genetics
>was almost nonexistant in my childhood and had to figure shit out by myself
>mother is a schizo and dad is an overbearing cunt with anger issues. bastard yelled at his family whenever shit didn't go his way, i get startled whenever i hear load sounds. If it weren't for some divine grace i would've turned into a shy timid cunt like my brothers did.
If both my parents died i would feel nothing apathy and maybe some happiness

Got nothing to contribute but I feel like I ruined my own Life, it wasn't my parents fault i'm just mentally unfit for life

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>>37438139
Maybe not autistic but

>Met my real dad for the first time when I was 19
>He became a successful international business man while he was away overseas not parenting me
>Uncontrollably attracted to him
>There was no time to establish a father/daughter bond to prevent sexual/romantic feelings forming
>Cashiers/Waiters/etc kept assuming we were a couple when we went out in public together
>I legitimately think about fucking my dad somewhat regularly

I haven't seen him in two years and I don't want to because it makes me uncomfortable how I will start flirting with him without even realizing it.

>>37438139
combo of overprotective mum and a harsh father that seems to have a mental illness (i have recently learnt he used to get attacks of neurosis a few years ago.) He has an extremely fragile ego and would disagree for the sake of disagreeing and just wanting to be right. Dont really want to go into detail but it is worse than it sounds.

>>37444325
He probably wanted to fuck you too if it matters.

tfw my mom is insane and neurotic, and has had a history of routinely embarrassing my brother and i in public by spazzing out and causing scenes, and then accusing us of spazzing out and causing a scene when we ask her to stop

When I was in highschool I wanted to work. I had a real 'hard-working person' attitude to it. But she wanted me to focus on my studies. Skip ahead to graduation. I become a neet who's afraid of living a mundane working life so 2 years later I'm still living at home when I could've gotten a full time job with my confidence and never had an existential crisis... At least till I'd be 30

>>37438959
It depends on your further actions.Needs some strength and dedication but if you know you have access to help - use it.

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In a strange sense I can't really tell you how they fucked me up, because they were both so distant. The only time my mom had any significant conversation with me, she was threatening to kick me out and tell me no one loved me because I didn't clean the dishes (I was a single child, dad was completely absent so I was alone all the time).

I think because I didn't get any attention at home, I acted out a lot at school to get my peers' attention. I did a lot of embarrassing shit I regret, and it took me years to get out of the habit of affecting aspects of my personality and lying in order to curry favour with people.

I'm extremely jealous, and for many years I cared more about people's approval than who was actually approving me, if that makes sense. That's a good recipe for getting into shitty abusive relationships.

Now I'm a complete recluse and I'm too much of a pissy to do anything about it. I'm too disinterested in anything to have a meaningful hobby. I'm just a dead end basically.

>>37438139
Overprotective/helicopter. Dad had a shitty life that made him into the strong man he is today, yet he spent his life shielding me from the trials that I should have gone through to grow. No he wonders why I'm a wimp. They're not bad, just totally clueless.

They made my life too perfect to the point where I never want to leave due to them being my best friends.

My dad died suddenly and now I also feel a duty to look after my mother as she gets older like they did so well for me.

She's still my best friend, love the same movies, same sports...she even plays vidya with me - mostly old school coop platformers.

It's a perfect situation day to day, living NEET and comfortable with my best friend. but also means I'm a socially isolated virgin with no prospects or chances for when she dies.

She's 66 now. She doesn't have a huge amount of time, and neither do I.

they made me fat and also never stopped me from being lazy

my sister got raised the same way but she's turning out ok so who knows maybe its all my fault

NEET here. Now that I'm past angsty teenage years I don't really have anything against parents. I'm still a little miffed at how things went though.

Dad always screaming at mom when I was a kid, and I mean fucking screaming. There was never any physical violence, but lots of mental stuff like gas lighting. He's a stubborn narcissist. My mom is like a friend, but is OCD. Complains non-stop.

Man, even after that I just feel bad for them. I have this thing where I like to look at people as just being "big kids". Being an adult, I have noticed many adults don't act as "mature" as you may think. I don't know, remember they were kids once somehow makes people much easier to forgive.

Mom has chronic pain illness, and dad can be a shit at times purposely trying to annoy people. I'm an only kid so I feel like I have to have kids. I want them to have grandkids, they deserve them. I just want them to be happy. Shit, I'm tearing up writing this.

It's like, people are just people you know. We hurt each other but we all deserve to laugh and be happy. So yeah parents have screwed up sometimes, but I've screwed up too. People forgiving each other and moving forward.

I'll never be able to drive due to medical reasons, I probably act autistic, live in a somewhat dysfunctional house as a NEET but you know what? Fuck it. Life ain't that bad. It really isn't. Enjoy the little things. Actually I won't be a NEET next month due to online classes. Moving forward in the world, haha.

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>>37439057
Pretty much same.

Dad died ov cancer 3 weeks, after me born. Mom was mourning him, for 18 years. My sister is a failour in ife with stupid husband, 2 average girls and lot of debt. they got evrything and wasted it all.

I did have opportunity to meet him. Mother never try to make me find a hobby or friend. now i am 25 years old, failing at school, probably wont get diploma. No nice job vision. Just miserable life with my mom for the rest ov my days and spending my time on the internets doing shit. Sometimes i wish i hasent been born. I am a failur.

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>distant mom

now i seek that unconditional motherly love and a mom-son bond in bed with women bigger than me

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>>37439392
is this your father?

>>37445876
24 here

suck it up you fucking faggot, it's your fault

jk

help me

Both parents were alcoholics. Mother was a mean drunk, father was more passive but sexually abused me (I didn't realize it was sexual abuse at the time). Nothing of value was lost when they died.

Mom was raised by a narcissist mother and an over-the-road trucker father who was quite passive in the parenting arena but loved to argue with grandmother.

She never received that loving kind affection one should get from their mom, so she didn't act like that with us. She didn't actually start hugging us until we became adults and even then it's awkward and feels unnatural because she never did it when we were growing up.

My dad was also an OTR trucker for much of our lives and he cheated a few times so she was bitter and angry and she took it out on us, either through beatings or just being emotionally unavailable. I remember showing her things that I made that I was proud of and she would just say "Mhm..." like she didn't care and shush me off. One of my most prominent memories of being a child is being ignored by the woman who brought me into this world. The only attention she gave me was negative and she would attack me for things I couldn't control like my personality.

Lack of attention from mom in my younger years fucked with me and I acted out in school, so dad would come home and beat the shit out of me. I'm strong willed and have little self control so I would always act out and wind up getting beaten. By the time I got to the end of middle school my spirit was broken and I was tired of fighting so I just kinda became quiet and withdrawn. Was also bullied all the years of my schooling which exacerbated it.

The result, I'm nearly 30 years old, untrusting of people, have low self esteem, crave physical and emotional contact with women but at the same time am so insecure and needy that I always run them off very fast. Every relationship I have with women ends in flames within a month. Also when dad wasn't beating me he was awesome if a bit effeminate in his dishing out of love and affection. So I have a fucked up role model for how to be a man, mommy issues and horrible self-esteem.

>>37438139
Both were negligent and mom was an abusive drunk. I taught myself how to tie my shoes and looked to the internet for shaving, cooking, and pretty much everything else.

I was deprived of almost all normalcy as they were hoarders so nobody came to visit, and I didn't get to play with other kids because they thought I'd fuck something up.

They only cared about my safety when others were around, like yelling at me for walking on a 1-2 foot tall wall in town like everyone did but acting bothered when I ask them to do something about the family member that threatened to kill me and tried to drop bottles and paint cans on me from two stories up like fucking Home Alone 2.

I was depressed by 9 and suicidal by 12.

>this entire thread

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50FbeazFkgs

Mom wiped my ass until like the 3rd grade.

I think I was coddled pretty hard by parents. I was rarely put in uncomfortable situations.

I now have no discipline and I won't do things that require a lot of effort.

Mom ran the house, helicopter, overbearing and loud. Wasn't supportive of my goals post HS and ridiculed them.

Dad was distant, cold and would blame a lot of things on me mostly. He'd also get angry at me for no reason, which is one of the reasons why I have problems with authority. Very unsupportive in assisting me with my goals and little things.

Until I got my last job, my mother legitimately thought I was retarded and not looking hard enough for jobs. This is why I'm cold, distant and often slightly misanthropic towards other people.

My dad constantly made fun of me not having friends and a GF.

>>37444145
>learned how to read and write from the internet

you were meant to be a robot anon

Extremely overprotective mother. Found out later in life that she had a diagnosed anxiety disorder and was prescribed medication but refused to take it. When I was a child she'd prevent me from doing anything that involved leaving her sight. When I became an adult she'd just use guilt trips and crying fits. Do anything, say anything, and she'd cry. Even today she calls me on a daily basis because if she doesn't hear my voice she assumes I'm dead.

My father pretty much just spent his life either working, sleeping, or in the garage. Barely talked to the man until I was an adult. He confided in me once that he didn't expect to live as long as he has and didn't really plan much because of it. He sort of assumed that WW3 would have killed everyone back in the 80s, which is why he sort've lived through my childhood on autopilot.

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>>37444886
I know that feel

Dad was always going on about how he never had the opportunities me and my brother have.

I was the first born so I got the brunt of the over protectiveness. My brother turned out to be a chad.

>tfw when your younger brother was leader of his grad class and crushed tons of pussy while you were a shy undisciplined fat fuck who lost his virginity to a hooker while shit faced drunk at the age of 24.

Fuck sakes

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>>37438139
>In what way did your parents fuck you over growing up?
Circumcision.