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Hello /r9k/. I am having some incredibly frustrating emotional

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Hello /r9k/.

I am having some incredibly frustrating emotional problems recently. I am having outbursts of crying, feeling anxious around friends, and feeling generally worthless.

I guess it all started when I came here looking for friends and I wasn't upset at this time, only lonely. I found someone very nice who I latched onto, and we talked for quite a while. This person ended up ghosting me.

Ever since, I have been feeling like I am worthless. What could I have done? I never messaged too much, I thought I wasn't being annoying, they seemed to really enjoy my company.

I've even started ignoring people and leaving discord servers because I can no longer handle the stress and feeling that the people I get attached to will leave me, so I make the concious decison to give myself space and leave them so that I don't bother them.

Obviously this is self destructive. So what do I do? Does anyone want to help me? Should I just get over it? I am scared of being what I always feared, a failure who can't make meaningful relationships that last. Please help.
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What's cooking sean
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>>37343724
A couple weeks ago a femanon I'd been talking to for months stopped coming online. We would talk every day. I don't know if I've been ghosted or something happened to her or what.

Since then I've been frantically adding people from /r9k/ in hopes of finding someone else to fill the void, but no one has clicked like we did and I can't help but compare everyone to her.

Do you want to talk? I promise I won't ghost you if you won't ghost me.
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Seems like you're pretty anxious. If it's getting so bad that it's destroying your social life, you might want to see a doctor. Anxiety meds helped for me, but not for everyone
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>>37343798
H-haha...

>>37343821
I'd like to talk too, sure. I'm sorry if I get really emotional.

>>37343822
I actually had to drop out of school due to anxiety, it had subsided but I fear it's coming back. I do have anxiety medicine, though.
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>>37343798
>>37343870
So how do you folks know each other?
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>>37343724
this resonates with me. recently a few of my friends too begun ghosting me, they had their reasons, im still 19 and most of them are full fledged grown-ups now, 24-30 and such. they all went on with their lives, and i guess i wasnt good enough to keep as a priority. our problems are similar, and im doing fine now more or less. but i guess ive had more time to get over it. what really helped me was alone time. alot of alone time. also personality tests, they made me feel like i was worth it again. hearing good things about yourself even from something as silly as that is nice.
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>>37343909
How does alone time help? I can't stand being alone with my thoughts.
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>>37343870
Don't know what else to tel you then. Just relax. What always helped when someone wasn't responding was to think of things they could be doing other than ignoring you. Like getting groceries or having bad cell service. Generally speaking it's misty just people forgetting to talk back or are busy. Don't be so hard on yourself and don't jump to conclusions. You're great as you are, just talk to people like they're people. Keep it real, don't worry about responses, only the conversations. I hope you do well, cheers :)
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>>37343951
Getting groceries for three weeks?
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>>37343928
your thoughts are all you have now, anon. enjoy them until they fade. you will think back to this one day nostalgically. emotions are nice. even the sad ones.
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>>37343969
>>37343928
idk why someone is responding like theyre me...
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>>37343969or some other reason. Again, odds are they army actually ignoring you. And if they are, then they aren't worth the effort anyways
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>>37343999
Oh sorry, I just have similar problems with getting ghosted
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>>37343724
Hey LS or Bckfr
If its you, this is Air/John
Ill add you again if this is you
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>>37344034
It's ok! I thought you were just being a bully, i'm sorry.

>>37344041
Yes that's me.
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>>37344075
>I just thought you were being a bully
My point exactly. Miscommunication can lead to bad rationalizations.
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>>37343724
>>37343821
These sound exactly like my story verbatim.
I thought I was special in finding someone who was my dream girl off /r9k/ but it played out exactly like this. If I could just get a chance to redo everything I would take it all back to the start and slow down.

She hasn't blocked me yet and I have her number. All I want to do is to finish writing songs about her and hopefully get some closure
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>>37343724
>>37343821
what are your guy's discord I am >>37344146
and we could all brainstorm this together
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>>37344168
I'm OP, it is Star#2064
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>>37344075
Check your steam baka desu
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>>37344191
>Dude who avatarfags as cartoon girl

You aren't some kind of trap/gayboi, right?
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>>37344191
alright added my # is 7991

>>37344246
star is great you fucking faggot
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>>37344277
Some of the porn is good I suppose.
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>>37344246
I don't normally do this, but, star as a character I can relate to for a number of things. I hate avatarfagging too so this is just for this thread.
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>>37343724
>So what do I do?
I know its easy to get carried away, but its best if you make some friends IRL, it takes something special to endure all the bs that comes with online friendships and what not, and sadly it seems none of the ppl you meet here had that quality.
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>>37344324
marco is like beta that ascended into chadom
star would grow up to be a femanon when stacy starts cucking her and she starts loosing friends
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>>37344435
well star fucked herself over by being too autistic
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>>37343724
One time I got ghosted and I felt terrible. I made an account on OKCupid and I had it for several months until last fall when I found a girl who I really liked. We liked all the same artsy music and kino and she played instruments. She was really pretty too, and was rich! I messaged her and she was literally the first person to message me back.

She seemed genuinely interested in me too, like she enjoyed chatting to me. We exchanged over 300 messages in just under a month. This was like the most feminine contact I had received in years.

I worked up my courage and asked her out she was the first girl I asked out and she said yes. She went to a really nice school and it was really important and I was thinking that she might disappear because of school.

But she suggested that we Skype together, but couldn't because she was working on a paper. I wished her luck and she thanked me. That was the last time I heard from her. A few days later, she deleted her account.

I kept my account open because I wanted her to reappear, and we could talk to each other again. Just last week, I saw that she reactivated her account and it actually made me feel worse. She hasn't messaged me yet, and I don't think I should message her first again. Does she even remember me? Did she really not care, even after all that talk?

I just wish I never met her in the first place.

I also like Star Vs.
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>>37344466
that is exactly the reason I'm still on /r9k/ because I was too autistic and cucked myself over
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>>37344496
I'm sorry to hear that man. Sometimes ppl are cruel and don't realise the effect they have on others...
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>>37344815
the fact that hurts most is that it is all my fault

I thought I had found the one girl on /r9k/ who just wasn't looking for orbiters and actually was a good person but I was the one who fucked things up and that is the worse pain of all
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>>37344903
I genuinely kind of know how you feel, I got cucked for another guy and she talks to me about him everyday, even though I am clearly uncomfortable with it. It sucks.
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>>37343724
C-could you give me your discord tag? I'd happily add you!
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>>37344990
I did earlier, it's Star#2064
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I'm a femanon and seeing this thread makes me feel kind of bad I haven't messaged anyone in a few weeks or really been on Discord, there's probably people who think I ghosted them. The truth is I had a mental breakdown and have been physically really ill, and I hate talking about my problems so much to people, even though I really like listening to others, I don't even know what to say.

At least I don't think I'm being talked about here. And who am I kidding, probably no one cares.
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>>37345430
Just talk to them and be honest.

No one caring seems more like a reflection of your own self-esteem. If you're talking to anyone that seems to really like talking to you it feels like they could loose the only friend they have.
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>>37345430
>And who am I kidding, probably no one cares.

I'm >>37343821 and I'd kill to know she's alright. You're not her, but same idea.
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>>37345430
I care about you femanon! They'll forgive you if you tell the truth.
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>tfw only ever added on person from /r9k/ ever

>accidentally ghost them because I'm bad at small talk and don't have much of a drive to interact with people

I hope you aren't them, desu
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>>37346188
what is your name anon...
I'm desperate for just closure
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>>37346188
I know you aren't them, because they came from SFT, and had been referenced by other people before, don't worry.
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>>37346714
Tell me the first letter of their name.
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>>37343724
There is nothing wrong with being ghosted.
You just have to accept what happened and move on. Make new friends.

Speaking of that, is there a comfy discord nearby?
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