You can make you happy about life, here's how

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pt 2/5

That was quite a tame example, lets go for something more personal.


Situation: You're about to go to a party with lots of people you dont know, there will be all kinds of people there, and your one friend (the one that invited you) is likely to be occupied for the evening.

A hardcore Kek worshipping Robot has already disregarded this example because they 'dont have any friends' and would never go, or get invited to a party.

A negative, external thinker is likely to be worried about things out of their control, such as judgement from others, rejection, exclusion, etc.

A positive, internal thinker is likely to think to themselves that this evening is going to be 'fucking sick', and will look forward to meeting lots of new people and having a great time - they may even boost their ego by saying to themselves: "I got invited to a big party, I must be a fun person to be around!", this thought process will further increase their confidence for the evening.

A religious person may pray that the evening goes well, but may still be prone to negative external thoughts which will hamper their ability to socialise, they lack confidence because of how they've mentally prepared for the evening.

cont...

>>37306755
kill yourself freud

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pt 3/5


So, with these examples in mind (ignoring the kek worshipper), the person most likely to pull, or have a good time is the positive, internal thinker. The religious person may have a shite time, but because of their devotion to their religion, they dont blame that, instead they feel hopeless, and maybe blame themselves. The negative, external thinker will blame themselves for having 'iredeemable' qualities and habits, like being ugly, maybe they smell - they will also blame the party attendees for being boring, or disinterested.

Regardless of which thought process is the closest to the truth, the person that will come out happiest is the positive internal thinker.


So 'what now?' you ask? 'How can I become an positive internal thinker?' - well, just like most habits, you need to train yourself into it before the process becomes automatic.

'How do I do that?' well, you have to consciously make the decision to be positive about situations and thoughts that cross your mind, you know that inner voice you have that tells you what you can and cant do, or tells you if something is true or false? You basically need to harness that - and you can do this!

This is a typically automatic process that is self fullfilling, which is why if you start browsing r9k, while you dont consciously think to yourself "hm, that greentext about some dude dropping his spaghetti is funny, but it's not like me at all" then you wont end up like him, but nobody thinks like that! So of course, by browsing r9k you'll start becoming //autistic//, 'lonely', like an 'outcast', and be bitter about the world.

cont...

(hold out for me bois, the post timer is fucking me)

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pt 4/5


Another factor is limiting beliefs, 'what's that?' a limiting belief is a belief that prevents you from taking action, or living life the way you may want to. For example, you may want to be happy in life - but you may believe that 'ever since I fell for this girl at maccies, I wont be happy until we're together', that's a specific example, but everyone has loads of limiting beliefs similar to this, 'I'm not a good driver', 'I'm very clumsy', 'I cant talk to girls', 'I need meds to get out of depression' etc etc

You may have contesting thoughts about some of these being beliefs or FACTS - but the reality is that the only difference between a belief and a FACT is that you /think/ a Fact will remain true regardless of whether you believe it is true or not, when the reality is that not too many years ago it was a FACT that the earth was flat - the very existence of flat earthers proves this! So a fact is nothing more than a belief enforced by another.

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pt 5/5


What do you do now? Well, your task now is to start consciously adopting positive, internal thinking styles to everyday occurances, and gradually deconstruction your limiting beliefs - these can be quite hard to find, others I may have even mentioned in this text and you may already have changed your mind on some of these things! The principals here can be applied to most social issues, inabilities, etc

Procrastination in itself is a thinking style, but it's consequential one - people procrastinate because their life isn't perceived to be fulfilling, so they seek short term happiness, like gaming, films, music (to some extent) - 'how is this best resolved?' well, even while you're procrastinating you can start thinking positively and internally to yourself, about things you've done today, perhaps even things you've procrastinated about! "ha, I'm on a 10 game win streak, I must be a good player at this game" - as you feel more and more content about life, the desire to procrastinate will fade, and you'll be content being... whatever you want to be!

I hope this has helped at least one robot or cyborg here, the principals demonstrated above cost me nearly a grand in tendies - so even if you take away some bits of what I've said and act upon them, you'll have saved yourself an awful lot of money.

Cheers.

>>37306846
Ill try this OP. I think the positive thinking without self-imposed limits is basically just being confident.

My concern is someone trying this, messing something up, and then immediately regressing. You should make it a point to keep trying after a failure (sperging a party, and then trying again at another party instead of developing an even greater fear of parties)

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>>37307246
I agree, there's a big point to be made that this isn't something you can do in a day - the people that excel at this take 2-4 weeks to be 60% recovered.

If you've been a negative thinker or believed something most of your life, dont expect to be able to turn things around in a few days, some things will go faster than others and it's important to be vigilant.

Thanks anon.

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>>37307246
Also I really like how you've applied the theory to the example, shows that you've understood what I've said quite well.

>>37307500
I'm in a weird situation where I don't know what makes me unhappy. I don't particularly like hanging out with people and have no romantic interest, but I think its more out of apathy than a fear of sperging (I think I do pretty well at not sperging, for a sperg at least). I think I'm just lonely while simultaneously not wanting to forge connections with people irl.
(Not necessarily related to the topic at hand as this deals more with happiness than confidence, but Id like your thoughts on it since you seem keen on helping us robotos)

>>37306846
Positive internal thinking is just extroversion, which most robots aren't wired that way. This isn't some thing you can just "consciously adopt."

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>>37307927
It's a perfectly adoptable mentality, and the idea that your intra or extroversion is predefined will limit you - I went from INTJ to ENTP after utilising this advice.

The notion that personalities are fixed is a limit belief in itself, most of your habits and traits are inherited by exposure.


>>37307764

It is possible you've convinced yourself that you dont need people to be happy, or that they are of no benefit to you - the case may be that your interests are very particular, so the numbers game you play is harder than it is for most when you try to find people that share those interests.

>>37308445
That makes sense. The few friends I have were met through the internet and we bonded through niche interests. Maybe if I try enough I'll find someone irl with one of these interests

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>>37308487
Certainly, do your best to cut down the numbers using absolutes like:
lets say I *absolutely* could not have a long relationship with someone that isn't that into music, I can immediately reduce the amount of interactions I have to go through before I find someone that meets my criteria.

It's important to recognise whether your criteria is what you want, or what you think is best for you, what you want deep down is vastly more important.

If you've got a throwaway email you can drop, I'll gladly answer further questions

Tl;dr jus bee urself

You aren't very good at this self-help bullshit OP.

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>>37308637
at no point did I say to adopt your own go to tendencies, which is what 'BEEING URSLEF' is.

On the contrary, I'm asking people to CHANGE the way the respond to things. The issue most people have is that they dont believe they can.

Cheers.

>>37306846
I've been a robot for too long
I don't even know if i'm able to think postive anymore but you took the time to write this for people like me. Whatever the reason, may it be that you're genuinely good or just seeking to test/validate some classes you took in philosophy or psychology, thanks. I'll try to put into application this way of thinking

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>>37306755
Every time I go outside or think of social interaction I freeze up, my legs and arms get weak and I start stuttering like a retard. What do you suggest? Every time I tried to make friends I have failed before even being able to try. I don't even have online friends.

>>37306755
People like you fail to realize that negative people almost always have tried positive thinking. Most of them that never adopted positive thinking did so because it never worked for them and it was better to be honest or because tbe circumstance they were in were to great and negative that few people would float on it. You may think their problem is linear and singular like not having a gf that loves them but its usually 10 times more comoelx for a person who is negative and depressed such as, never having a gf ever, having a bad family life, someone goes mentally ill in their family and they need to be taken care of, cant wake up, even in a happy mood when before you would, only loving 1 person and that person day in day out grinds them down and makes them feel useless as they reject their love. All that and more times by a variance of times but you see it as 1 singular problem of not having a gf and its something you can solve by finding a new partner eaisly because you werent emotionay invested in the last one and you can get a new person in a beartbeat. You then falsely attribute both your success to positive thinking and others detriment to negatove thinking when rhe scanrios are completely different. if you were in the same situation i dont think you would appreciate someone saying its just because you dont think positive as if someone didnt spend years to try and fix theirself with positivy as a guide. You shouldnt just judge someone as positivr or negative is just what im saying itd nkt black and white like that.