Self-Improvement Thread

>>37218006
Been cleaning my room every day so it keeps neat. Also started gyming, to gain muscle and leave mild skelly mode.

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Yes, you should see a doctor about your depression. You will recover soon.

I am currently learning the Korean language. That's keeping my mind occupied and I am enjoying it. I am also writing some short stories, too. Those two things give me happiness and peace. I am also making time for rest. I have the habit of working to death until I burnout from not eating, drinking, and sleeping well. And I'm also taking regular showers and washing my hands more often etc. so I feel better in myself. Other than that, just generally being kind to myself and trying to rekindle talks with some old acquaintances. I currently only have two online friends (that I am good friends with irl, but distance). One step at a time.

:)

I have been training martial arts for the last 6 years. It's basically my one joy and love in life.

>>37218081
Learning Korean sounds interesting. Any beginner guides/references you have to share?

I have little hope that I will ever find love or real life friends, even if I improve myself. Everything I used to love is gone. I thought I was going to kill myself, but lately I've been reading a lot, especially physics which I've previously known almost nothing about. And now I think, the pursuit of knowledge makes life worth living.

My goal now is to go and study at a foreign university and hopefully remain there afterwards. It will be a lot of debt but I don't really care. And if I can I'd like to eventually buy some land and live off of it the rest of my life. It is still hard to get up in the morning but this goal gives me something to look forward to.

>>37218143
That is really awesome, good for you! Which martial art? I have about ten years in traditional Taekwondo.

>>37218830
Same here, traditional taekwondo. I love it so much. Favourite pattern?

>>37218978
Joong-Gun is my favorite colored belt form. Gae-Baek is my favorite black belt form. (You)?

>>37219484
Ohhh both good patterns. I've only seen Gae-Baek performed, haven't been taught it yet. Looks intense.

Coloured pattern would have to be good Ol' Chon-Ji. Just feels so calming to do.
Blackbelt would have to be Po-Eun. Kwang-Gae is nice, but Po-Eun just feels so strong

>>37219664
Huge fan of Po-Eun too. Learned it when I was just finally understanding how to get good power.
Gae-Baek is like calmer, more graceful Po-Eun, but with all the power and weird movement. I love it.

>>37218081
> fell for the Learn Japanese meme for years of my life
> realize I'm too much of a brainlet and no matter how many hours I spend grinding on anki or forcing myself to watch Japanese news, I'll never improve

>>37219709
I'm mad jelly, Gae-Baek sounds really nice. I especially love the use of twisting kick.

I love performing Joong-Moo for events, it's a great pattern to show off with

>>37219796
I never got much into tournaments. I got performance anxiety when I was younger. But that would be a great pattern for those.

That twisting kick is the best. Do you know when you're going to learn Gae-Baek?

>>37220280
Neither. We don't practice tournaments, I meant for demonstrations and such. Its a really good "normie" pattern because of the jumping kick and turning into back kicks.

No idea, right now my focus is on instructing and being second in command to my Sabum-Nim. Less "me" now and more class focused

stopped jacking off last year, trying to stop looking at pornographic images. its helped that my favorite pornstar quit 2 years ago and some of the other girls I liked got fat and some of the sites I used went down. so that's made it easier

also trying to reduce desires in general to zero. mind is real clear the more I succeed in this realm so that tells me I'm on the right track

meditation is also helpful when I do it properly

hope for the future is that I get that there beautific vision that'd be pretty boss

>>37220321
That's how it usually goes when you get up in rank. I come from a school with a lot of instructors, so lower ranking black belts are encouraged to move up in rank quickly.
Teaching is good though. It really makes you review your own technique and how you do things

Stuck to my diet for 2 weeks now, never felt as confident as now that I can keep it up. Also started running again and I'm liking it more and more. Stopped drinking, feeling more and more clear in the head. Like the layer of fog that was over my brain is clearing out.

Haven't jerked off in a week and I'm not even close to relapsing.

Overall seems like I have laserlike focus lately

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>>37218006
I've been trying to quit porn for a while but recently I've made very good progress, but my biggest passion so far is running which I took up a while ago. I've felt like crap recently because I injured myself but I should be able to start again next week. It was great stress relief, especially with music and it gets me out a lot more.
In addition I'm reading way more than I used to and I'm learning Spanish very slowly in my spare time, but I might take up more physical activities in the future. Physically I've improved a lot but my confidence has been lagging behind, so sorting that out is my main priority but hopefully it'll get better once I'm active again.
>>37218978
>>37218830
I used to do that too. I was only a 1st degree for a short while before I had to stop so I never quite perfected the pattern. I really enjoyed Joong-Moo and Hwa-Rang though.

>>37218236
If you go to the right uni with a passion you'll find people like you, just there to learn, and when you have something in common you'll make a friend, buddy

>>37218006
>starting small talk with girls
>hanging out with friends more
>drinking more water
>2 hours of martial arts training a day

I will become Chad no matter what it takes.

>>37220363
is nofap a meme? oregon trail

>>37220742
nofap is legit and the single most impactful change I've made in my life

>>37220742
I'm feeling a lot better from it, give it a try and see if it works for you too.

Ran 1 mile and I can't feel my legs. How the fuck did I get so out of shape, I was a varsity athlete only 3 years ago...

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I made a spread sheet that basically lists 10 things I have to do everyday to keep me busy as a NEET. I just started this in the last month, but I already have noticed a difference in my habits and level of laziness.

Some of the 10 times are very closely related because I ran out of things I could think of that I want to pursue.

1. Stay below 9 hours of sleep daily (used to oversleep like a mother fucker)
2. Wake up before 10 AM
3. Stay below 1700 calories (lost 100 pounds in the last year, have 60~ more to go still)
4. Eat enough protein while still being under the calorie limit
5. Go to the gym (every seventh day is a rest day though)
6. Do my online school for at least half an hour (last two highschool credits are still outstanding)
7. Practice digital art for at least half an hour(Illustrator, photoshop)
8. Practice traditional art or writing/poetry for at least half an hour
9. Duolingo for at least three lessons
10. Meditate or journal keep

At first I usually failed most of these, only scoring 2 or 3 out of ten. I just recently had my first 'all green' day where I complete each of these across the board, and I now average 7 or 8 out of ten in the last week. I hope to get to a consistent 10/10 while also holding a part time job to pay my father rent (I'm 21, its well overdue) and start saving for school.

Something you realize once you try to use your time on useful stuff is just how many hours there are in the day. It only takes me a combined 5 or so hours of dedicated work time to complete all 10, since some of them are 'passive' goals that don't actually consume time in their own right (calorie counting, sleep stuff). If I sleep 9 hours, I have 15 hours of waking time, leaving me a remaining TEN HOURS of free time that I can now enjoy, now semi-guilt free. In those ten daily free hours, I can definitely hold a job in addition to upholding these habits and begin planning for the future.

I think I'm going to make it, lads.

>>37218006
i still have speaking problems and studder alot but im forcing myself to speak to others but in a way that doesnt make me look like an autist that butts in everyones conversation. if anyone has any recommendations on how to propperly speak and or engage socially more please tell me

Hit the gym
Run 1 or 2 miles. 3 on a good day but rare very rare actually
On the outside I've improved, on the inside im still a damn robot.

>starting to look more Chad
>see a qt
>too scared to ever talk to them
>always find an excuse not to talk to her
>She's texting
>she's wearing headphones
>she seems busy
>every time they get away my brain says something cringy. "Don't go my angel/pixie" some gay shit like that, then i harm myself in some way when i catch myself thinking that.

>>37220624
You're on a good path my dude. You're practically Chad already

>>37221041
That's very impressive anon. I'm envious

>>37221239
Your instincts are good. Girls that are texting/listening to music generally don't want to be bothered.

You need to find an opening of some kind where it's convenient to talk to one. Like if you have a class with someone you've got your eye on, sit next to her and just say hi, and introduce yourself. That's literally all you have to do to start with.

Even better, if you walk by her outside of class, smile, and say "hey, how are you?" and it will be cool since you introduced yourself earlier.

If you're becoming Chad she'll be open to talking to you.

I'm trying to lose weight and also have started reading.

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>lifted for 6 months
>followed the program, ate well, drank protein shakes and skipped maybe 2 sessions in that time
>lifts are still shit and I look like shit

Haven't even reached 2pl8 diddly but I'm too far in to quit now

This makes me so happy to see. I was a self hating beta autismo a while ago, and/r9k/ really felt like a home to me,. But i started working on myself, and turned my life around. I still go here a lot, even though people usually reee at me and call me a normie, i still feel a connection to a lot of you guys, and it make me happy to see you guys escaping the shittiness of an unmotivated life.

>>37221892
you wont see results until you're 3 years in

Leaving for air force basic in 21 days, doing to be doing an electronics/comms job, which is my escape from hard, manual labor in the trades. I'm proud that I've gotten this far.

I'm running a few days a week, and cardio isn't as terrible as it was before. I'm working on confidence, and not wasting time on women who i know will hurt/reject me

I'm cutting down on drinking

I'm eating a lot better

I'm either on duolingo or practicing my Russian and German constantly

I'm reading a lot more

I'm trying really hard to keep a positive attitude

>>37218006
The girl I was talking to from across the country for 3 months wasn't actually a lure and is currently staying with me for the next 10 days. Idk what to do now really I never thought it would happen. what am I supposed to do when she leaves? Is she my gf now? Idk how this works.

And sex isn't what I thought it would be desu

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://7chan.org/lit/src/Robert_Glover_-_No_More_Mr_Nice_Guy.pdf&ved=0ahUKEwjSupzx0IbUAhXqllQKHSDBBIoQFggdMAA&usg=AFQjCNEit95ggBT8wzzbFQJjd7V2HMGvGw&sig2=68YQW8fZ23Jdq29ihrTSHw

This might help a lot of you guys. I found it on here, and it actually has helped me immensely. The thing is, for it to work, you have to first accept that you do actually want your life to change, and that this guy is right don't think you know better if you get to something you disagree with in this book. If you knew all there is top know, hen would you life be in the place it is right now?

This is a comfy thread.
Hopefully we'll all make it one day.

I finished the Duolingo skill tree for my 5th language
I'm doing things to improve my looks
I'm working and studying

Do you really want the full story? I'll tell you. I'm about 6 months into being sorted out.

>I've been keeping a journal, writing my thoughts and feelings about the day. It has helped tremendously.

>I've been lifting 4 days a week for about 4 months now.

>I've been eating 1200-1500 calories a day 6 days a week, with one cheat day.

>I quit playing video games.

>I quit smoking cigarettes.

>About 2 months ago I quit masturbating daily (I've been doing it daily since I was around 13). I now allow myself once a week, but I think I'm going to get rid of the cheat day.

>I quit all drugs (ex heroin addict, ex pot dealer, tripped on acid many times, the works)

More subtle things I've been doing are: Keeping up on my hygiene (nails, monthly haircut, shaving, daily bathing), keeping my living space spotless, folding my clothes after washing them ( I set aside my work clothes for the week, so I have them already nicely folded and separated when I wake up to get dressed - also fold my gym clothes). I've been trying to read more, write more, play the guitar more (formerly singer in a band and pretty damned good at the guitar), draw more, and generally do things that are going to make me feel more fulfilled than mindlessly playing video games or browsing the internet for 6 hours a day.

I realized that if I'm ever going to be the person I want to be, I'm going to have to change my day, and I'm going to have to start orienting myself in a very specific direction.

I also realized that I was using my various "addictions" (drugs, video games, masturbation) as a distraction/coping mechanism to keep myself from dealing with my emotions. I've realized I have a real anxiety problem, and it bothers me very much. I've been using all these tools to distract/medicate myself and whenever I'm put into a social situation I remain closed off, as a way to "keep a distance" between myself and my anxiety. I've decided it's time I confront these feelings, and conquer them.

>>37222760
That's extremely impressive anon, I hope that I could one day also escape the life of distractions/addictions

>>37223042
If I can do it, anyone can do it.I was literally resolved to death, and came very close to getting it. It took looking death square in the face for me to realize I wasn't ready to die.

I KNOW you can do it my friend. Think of the person you want to be. Your ideal. Think about how fucking happy you could be. Think about the impact you could have on peoples lives. What's the first step you could take to get there? DO it. One step at a time. One day at a time. Before you know it you'll be closer than you ever had imagined possible.