Self-Improvement General

I started to work out, some random guy saw that i had no idea what i was doing, and he was nice enough to show me some exercises

also i am re-reading 6 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden. On the first read i was lazy and skiped the exercises, this time i will do them

>>37150958
I've heard about that book before! How is it?

>>37150987
it's pretty good, English isn't even my first language and i got a lot from it

>>37150889
it's all just exercises in futility

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>>37150889
Incoming blog post

been trying to develop the habit of waking up early every morning and been keeping an accountability journal. Trying to do
>noporn
>exercise
>read
>draw
>meditate
>nojunkfood
everyday
Shits hard and I've kept a calendar marking each successful and unsuccessful day. So far I've only had 11 good days this month. I can't remember where I read it but when you don't have clear cut improvement goals the next best thing you might as well do is just develop some good habits as a foundation that could potentially pay dividends as is.

On top of all that I've finally forced myself to pick up a job application. It's only one but its a start.

>>37150889
I do a skin care routine and bodyweight exercises worthy of Patrick Bateman. I'm reaching out for friends more, just to chill or talk about whatever

>inbfour normie get out REEE

>>37151205
also thinking about swallowing the buddhism pill

>>37150889
My life changed around when I used excel spreadsheet to document every mundane detail of my day. I started seeing how I was spending my time and then progressed onto establishing good habits. Also, I got the idea from some medical student on /sci/, he pretty much saved my life.

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>>37150889
Trying to learn Russian. Reading a lot. Just feel like shit lately, don't know how to improve. I want to stop being lonely but it's hard. I live in some shitty village with nothing around. Don't really know what to do. It's been hard since she left me. Thought I'd never be back here after meeting her, but here I am.

>>37151196
>>37151239
OP here, yeah I feel like setting up a schedule would be good for me. I'd like to get in the habit of programming and playing music at least a couple hours a week, but it's tough. After work and eating dinner I usually just waste away the rest of the evening on the computer.

Do you anons think that hypnosis can help with self-improvement?

>>37151196

Sounds like you're describing my life, except for the drawing part. It feels good making some big progress in these areas. Keep up with the nofap, it feels better the longer you go without. Personally I don't bother with accountability tools. You are accountable, not your journal or your accountability buddy. You're gonna do it or you're not

I'm sorting myself out and cleaning my room.
I've got the theory down but I will still contiune to learn more about my ancestory history and all.

Though one thing I'm missing is a healthy eating habbit. I can't cook for shit and I don't know how to learn it. I need to start with the very basics. When a recipe says to boil water I need to know how much water and which temperature, otherwise it's just not good enough for me to understand. Or when it lists 8 ingredients and I know only 1 from it.
I have 0 knowledge and I need a cooking school/book whatever that starts with 0 knowledge.

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>>37151324
>just waste away the rest of the evening on the computer.
I feel you senpai. I think I've wasted half a life time mindlessly on 4chan. I've recently installed this chrome extension though and it's been a miracle worker.

I'm completely delusional about becoming professional in a particular sport. I watch streams all day to see the pros, I dream about it too. I'm already 20 and not even gifted at it.

Can self-improvement give me some kind of rationality? I haven't been mentally healthy since 2 years and a half. It's killing me. I need someone to press the hard truth in my head.

>>37150889
Wim Hof Method
I have daily planner which I try to follow.

>>37151374
..... I'm amazed at your stupidity.

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>>37151128
Duh, the universe is an uncaring, alien place that stands indifferent to man's suffering.

But I can benchpress almost twice my bodyweight now, and later on this weekend I hope to visit the shooting range to kill some soda cans with extreme prejudice. These are exercises in futility, but they're also really fun and rewarding.

>>37150889
>but I may walk to a cafe nearby and read later. It always feels nice to be out in public around people
FUCK OFF AND STOP MAKING THREADS HERE YOU FUCKING NORMIE

>>37151396
Oh and also NoFap/NoPorn and I don't eat processed or animal sourced food. Mainly a whole food plant based diet. Just drink water and green tea. Also take D3/B12/Omega 3 supplements.

>>37151324
Experienced the same problems as you. Did some thinking and realized that programming can give me the same dopamine as mindless browsing, albeit it's a little harder sometimes. When things go well, the dopamine is even higher. Point being, if you browse you receive your daily dose of fun, however if say you forbid yourself from browsing you start looking for other ways to have fun and before you know it you're coding up some cool things.

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>>37150889
accept most of my life's problems are my own
>trying to move on
>keep being reminded of past mistakes
I've been doing a technical course after dropping/failing a meme degree. I feel so bad for even going into higher education, I'd have honestly been happier with some low skilled wageslave job, but now I have debt

it's all so tiresome

>>37150889
been my dream to apply my biotech background in a company that actually uses modern business strategies and practices. most big pharma companies use computer systems that are 20 years old. realized amazon and microsoft are both investing in the industry, so i have hope. starting to learn bioinformatics and data science in general.

also, i've been going to the gym a lot lately. i keep encouraging my wife to be more active too, but she literally makes some excuse about "looking masculine" if she works out too much.

>>37151398
I can't judge if something I'm reading/doing is good or bad. I don't know where to start.
If I look for Spaghetti with Tomato sauce I get 3.150.000 results.

Anyone know of any discords with likeminded high spirited motivated individuals? Its a good thing to surround yourself with others who aim high and don't drag you down with negativity *cough* most of r9k *cough*

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>listening to audio books at work
>studying
>eating less
>trying to socialize with co-workers more
It's going well I guess, but I really really like drugs and really like to eat while high.

I'm trying to reduce my porn addiction and I noticed that doing it progressively has helped. I fap 1 day and then take a break for several days, and that gets bigger by 1 day each time.
So now I reached a break time of 5 days.
So even though I had 4 fap days in the last 11 days, it's nothing compared to my last 5 years, where I fapped 6 hours per day on average.
I still have that urge to fap, but knowing I can release all tension on one single day that will come helps alot to fight through the break time. Also doing it less frequent makes me aware that I don't even enjoy it that much anymore, I'm not in that energyless haze where I won't think clearly.

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>>37151503
Women all think that if they go to the gym they will end up "too muscular". Bitch if I have to lift 5 times a week and I'm still plateauing, then your 5lb weighted lunges won't turn you into Arnold.

Also,
>married
NORMALFAG GET OFF MY BOARD
THE STENCH OF YOUR FAILED-NORMIE EXISTENCE IS PUTRID AND VILE
YOU DON'T NEED TO BE HERE
YOU DON'T NEED TO POSTURE
FUCK OFF AND FUCK YOUR FAT WIFE
RRRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>37151633
the biggest joke is that she has been going like once or twice a week, no weights, barely any core work, and she still eats junk food and parties and doesn't have a job. and she thinks she's been getting too fit. she used to be a bit thinner but she's nowhere near THICC or muscular. she has a walkers body. idk maybe me making progress will motivate her.

>>37151324
I was like that when I had full time employment, I found it super difficult to destress and recharge after a whole day's worth of pretending to be normie and coming home to shed the mask. My energy would be an all time low and I had no desire for anything but to vege out in front of the computer. Now that I'm unemployed once again, I've found sticking to a routine and self improving much easier. I just don't know how to keep it up with work and everyday stresses of social interaction.

i'm learning cfd so that i can make a game about moving liquid around

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I really think someone should make a discord channel for lonely bots to connect and support each other while we improve. I mean sometimes it feels rather lonely trying to do it all myself, with no feedback or encouragement. It could be for anything, weight loss, studying, social gains, just to have a bunch of chill strangers in the same boat, working towards similar goals. Also I hear you're more likely to achieve something if you tell someone about it and consistently talk about it.

>>37151542
woah! i am >>37151849
and didn't even see this message, great minds think alike huh.

>>37150889
I've been doing a lot of walking in nice foresty areas where I live, if I feel sadness creeping up I go for a jog to get rid of it, you anons really would benefit from exercising, it takes you out your head and into your body.

>>37151874
>>37151542
>>37151849
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muleaeZ5Q5c
reganiliope

I've been thinking about trying to have a social life. It's a part of my life I've neglected since, well, forever, but it's just now starting to really bother me. What if the reason I'm so unhappy is because I'm sitting alone ruminating about things all the time instead of having a life like most people? What a concept.

I just don't know where I'd even start to have a normal social life though. I'm in college, so I know I can always make bros there somehow, but right now it's summer, everyone's gone, and I'm bored with nobody to hang out with. I'm thinking about going to a local metal show next weekend. Even if I don't talk to anybody and I'm just an autistic, it would still be fun to go listen to some music and get drunk. It would be more interesting than what I usually do on the weekends.

I'm learning Mandarin to game the asian QT's in my area, possibly overseas one day

>>37152177
>asian
>qts

eheheh

>>37152090
Do it anon! I go to shows alone pretty often and it's always fun.

>>37151196
>Trying to do noporn
>posts some furry shit
anyway, sauce?

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I have already achieved my main personal goal (I do my hobby full time working from home) but I have been trying to improve myself in other areas. Been sleeping regular hours (~22:00 - 07:00), eating better, taking cold showers, doing transcendental meditation, styling my hair and wearing good clothes. I also tried doing nofap but I'm pretty asexual so it made no difference to me even after a couple of weeks.
I haven't made a friend since school and I only have one person I keep in contact with, so I'm trying to be more social. All of the people from my old workplace immediately stopped speaking to me as soon as I left. I have tried talking to people on r9k but they always speak to me once and then block me for some reason. I emailed a bunch of guys and girls on japan guide to try and get a penpal and they all ignored me. When I go out to bars and stuff irl I get blanked. The funny thing is that when I show my face on r9k omegle I get called Chad, I know I'm not very good looking but if I get that response I can't be too hideous at least. So I have no idea what else I can do to make friends or make myself appealing enough to at least get a conversation going, I'm truly stumped. I realize that it's bad to depend on other people to validate you but I'm doing well in almost all other areas of development, it just feels bad that nobody likes me at all.

>>37152437
>I do my hobby full time working from home
What do you do?

>>37152594
I do freelance games programming.

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>>37150889


>this time 2 years ago
>took best care of myself in my life
>cooked proper meals every day
>best body of my life
>social as fug, hanging out with people regularly having fun
>picked up new hobbies
>felt really gooda bout myself and happy overall
...
>meet a girl at end of summer and end up dating her
>at first its really great
>things are looking up in my life overall
>then everthing goes to shit
>find out she has bpd
>relationship is a nightmare
>broke up by start of last summer
>over the last year have stopped working out, barely eating anything and shit when i do, drinking every single day, barely see anyone ever, do nothinig but jerk off and shitpost

>>37152609
Any advice for a hobbyist Javascript game developer?

finally got a job, even if it's only in a fast food joint

might try working out again, but i think weight lifting previously may have given me certain problems with my ears.

not much else really, apart from reading more.

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What do you guys think about my idea?
>>37151356

I've already started drafting something in MS Notepad for it. There's no "revolutionary" idea behind it, it's just a collection of all my ideas on how to be happy along with some strict rules so that I don't fall behind. Ideas?

>>37151874
Created a discord channel for motivated robots xSPqr

>>37152639
I had a very similar experience. Just now starting to bounce back after a few years. Its hard but I have to believe

>>37150889
How do I achieve any sort of upper body mass? I'm 64 170lbs/fully on Skelton mode

SOS

>>37153383
Personally what I did was learn a couple of engines that are in demand, namely Game Maker for 2D and Unity for 3D, then I made a post on TIGSource in the portfolios subforum advertising a programmer. Just make up a bunch of shit about how you're fast, efficient, adaptable etc. I didn't have a game in my portfolio when I started, simply fill your description with buzzwords and people will come to you. Programming is probably the least in-demand discipline since most people do that themselves and then pay others for art and music, but there is still enough work that I get emails every couple of months. Just beware that at least half of the job offers you get will be for pornographic stuff. And also that most things you work on will never be finished and released so don't ever do anything for pure profit share. Good luck anon.

>>37153438
I like the idea, been meaning to do something like this for awhile, just as a guide for where I want my life to go. Do you mind posting it to pastebin or something?

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>>37150889
23 year old college drop out. I'm slowly losing all my friends and its making me more and more depressed. I've also never had sex or a gf, so the loneliness is really getting to me.

I've been working at a shitty restaurant for the past 6 yrs now and I really want to change my life. I've been getting back into lifting and eating better. I've been trying to get better at excel and making spread sheets. And I've been trying to look for a new job, but since my resume is shit, its hard for me to get a more professional job.

I'm trying to stay positive, but fucking hell this is hard.

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>>37153438
I did the same thing based on the Pyramid of Well being. I've only got water,shelter,clothing covered. Breathing should be improved with exercise and meditation. Food if I learn how to cook. And sleep if I fix my schedule. Did a priotiy list with all steps and what I can do exactly.
Also sorting myself out with Jordan Peterson's Maps of Meaning do defeat my nihilistic attitude. Shouldering responsibility is not easy.

>>37153690
Sure, should be done tomorrow or the next day. I did write it directed towards myself, but most of it should be applicable for anyone in this thread.
>>37153968
That's cool, man. Could you explain a bit more about undoing the nihilism?

>>37153438

why would you spend so much time on the format of that journal... on notepad out of all places too

>>37154073
txt files are A E S T H E T I C

>>37154005
>Could you explain a bit more about undoing the nihilism?
Too keep it short, it's about shouldering responsibility to get meaning. Nihilism isnt saying everything is meaningleass but rather, I don't want to take any responsibility so I won't get any meaning either. To put it simple. If you want to know more about the importance as religion and mythology as your heritage I would recommend looking into Jordan B Peterson.
Also he explains it better than me. Just saying that it helped me get out of this negative and depressed attitude that I didnt even think about trying anything.

>>37154005
Take that as an example.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7E_4c_s9y8
Just a small snippet, but everything he said is very deep, as shallows as that sounds.
If you have time to listen to something and wan to learn how your belive system works, which is basically everything you feel and think, I would recommend listening to him.

>>37154144
Nihilism doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't do anything. The way I see it is that nothing matters and I may as well kill myself at any time, but since I'm too much of a pussy to do it, I should just make the most of my life whilst it's here. And this actually does work for me, I'm easily more successful than 90+% of people my age (outside of social skills lel).
I wouldn't recommend falling on religion or spirituality in general, turning a blind eye to the truth might help you be a "better" person but you'll be living a lie rather than doing it off your own back.

>>37150889
Stop jerking off, start working out.

Sounds dumb, but it works for me.

>>37154259
watch the video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R7E_4c_s9y8
>the sense of meaning is an orienting reflex
If that doesnt at least make you curious about "real" meaning, then I don't know. I can't articulate it that well so I would just recommend to watch that snippet and then watch more if you think that set of ideas seems worthwhile to discover.

>>37154360
I can see in the related videos "Jordan Peterson - The Problem With Atheism" and "Why Jordan Peterson Still Believes in God", so no I'm not watching any videos from this weak-minded faggot.

I've mostly been picking up things I used to love to do. Lots of skateboarding, playing guitar, juggling, reading, etc. Other, more normalfag things I'm doing is looking for a better job and moving out of my parents house next week. On a more mental/somewhat spiritual level I'm trying to keep focus on the present moment and not get weighed down by my thoughts. Got sober too recently, which honestly was probably the biggest thing holding me back. All in all, life's pretty sweet right now and I'm grateful. Looking forward to the future for once.

I went from being a useless robot to a high paying job and a new car in 2 years, I'm also 6'3 and a KHHV. Self improvement is a fucking joke, try is you might, you'll never escape lacking self esteem and an ugly face.

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>>37154471
>>37154471
>I can see in the related videos "Jordan Peterson - The Problem With Atheism" and "Why Jordan Peterson Still Believes in God", so no I'm not watching any videos from this weak-minded faggot.
well ok then

>>37154471
holy fuck, just watch the video it takes 8 minutes, if you still think he's a weak minded faggot after that, ok
he could be the answer to all our problems and you dont even want to spend 8 minutes on it to at least give it a try.

>being able to engage in hobbies and self-improving activities at all
>being able to enjoy them
>being able to believie they have a point
Fucking normies.

Check out the philosophies of Nihilism and it's children Existentialism and Absurdism

Nietzsche considered Nihilism a transitional stage in human development. Nihilism is a hammer that flattens all values into oblivion. The concepts of absolute Truth and Morality are opposed to Free Will. With the inception of Nihilism, Truth and Morality as we as humans know it are no longer absolute and universal, but rather relative and egoist. We have come to realize that the world has no meaning except the meaning we impart on it. There is nothing 'out there' to guide us, there never was. We've been making it up this whole time and it was only in these last two centuries that we've figured that out. The only thing that has ever guided us is what is 'in here', in us.


Existentialism, in a nut shell, says that humans create their own meanings. It also gives one the freedom to choose for oneself the values and meanings that are important for him or her. No longer must you bear the burden of the expectations, meanings, or values of standard society and thus you have no obligation to feel negatively should yours conflict (though morality is questionable).


Know that you can never find proper and true peace sought in the material world. Seeking people, places, things, careers, achievements, will not ultimately bring you happiness, only short term satisfaction or disappointment.

I myself am am existential absurdist and my meaning or purpose in life is 'to be'. And having committed to that the dark clouds of depression have slowly dissipated.
Now granted I still do things, but I no longer allow negative events or hostile perceptions from others to affect me because I no longer care.

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>meet a girl
>hang out a few times
>get to the point where fogging is the next step
>something upsetting happens
>Stop talking to her all together
>get depressed for weeks until trying again

Why does this keep happening? Fuck