How do you meet new people?

I don't meet people. What would we even talk about, how much of a loser I am?

I like going to venues but I don't go often and I doubt I can approach anyone

>>36932232
You don't.
It's one of those weird social rituals that just happens naturally you can't force it otherwise it'll feel cheap and weird and no one will want to be around though if you've got the aptitude the college of winterhold might be able to help.

>>36932279
but I already graduated from the college of winterhold, anon

why do you want to meet scum you hate?

>>36932322
I don't. I just hope there is a diamond somewhere in the city septic tank.

>>36932232
>How do you meet people, fellow people who don't meet people?

Typically, it is best to ask the advice of someone who is experienced in whatever skill or action you are interested in pursuing (in this case, socialization/making friends). Too many people make the mistake of doing otherwise.

>>36932309
damn well i guess your fucked then

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>>36932232
Go to a bookstore and drink coffee. Bring your own coffee, it shows that you know how to make it and own a coffee maker.
While you're there make desperate eye contact with everyone who wanders in to ask for directions or use the bathroom.
If they talk to you for more than 10 minutes, ask them to be your friend. If they say yes, it's official.
Godspeed.

>>36932545
I guess that is something original I can try. I doubt anyone will need directions though. I assume I would need a thermos or some insulating mug to keep the coffee warm. I don't have any great coffee makers right now, but I guess what I have is good enough.

>>36932545
>ask them to be your friend.
Do adults really do this in real life? It's something I expect a child to do. Most attempts at friendship I might expect aren't so direct as indirect ("Let's go to ____." , "Let's do _____." , etc. )

>>36932232
Go along to some kind of outdoor activity which other guys engage in.

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>>36932733
I guess I just have trust issues. I would want verbal confirmation.
>>36932640
I use this for my soups when I go to the casino
http://www.brookstone.com/pd/stainless-steel-food-thermos/990354p.html
My mom got it for me a couple of Christmases ago
It would work great if you brought a ceramic mug or something that listed your qualities and interests in a partner, too. I'm guessing that you have trouble initiating conversation, like I do.

>>36932733
I agree
orangelango

>>36932232
Start just saying hi to people you walk past work or school.

>>36932825
That is accurate

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Hey OP. This may not work for you but figured I may as well pitch my two cents since that's usually better than nothing.

Typically when I want to meet people, I look towards my interests. To meet people and be able to make friends, I think one of the most important things that is often overlooked is having traits - like interests, hobbies and shit like that. Let's use a cruise ship as an example.

For a while every winter I'd go on 1 week cruises with my parents and most of the day I'd be on my own in the ship. The trip would be really boring if it was just me with my parents all the time, so I try to meet people. I know NOBODY on this ship, so it's a good example.

First, I tried to go to the arcades and since I'm a big fan of vidya. Other ships of the same line I'd been on had Sonic All Stars Racing which I got kinda good at. I could meet arcade regulars there potentially. Unfortunately, the arcade kinda sucked, so next thing.

I'm a huge basketball fan and I love watching it even though I SUCK ASS at the game. I just try to walk on the court and maybe if people are trying to organize a pickup game I'll ask if I can join. Simple as that. Being a part of a team in a team sport like that really fosters camraderie, and most people are nice even if you suck and don't score much. I met a lot of people around my age (20) on the ship who were pretty cool because of basketball.

But the point isn't go to a basketball court unless you like basketball already. The point is engage in your interests, and meet others who have similar interests. It'll be easier to hold a conversation with them.

Hope this helps. Feel free to ask me any questions you have.

>>36932733
sort of ladder theory states if you get people to agree to something they're more likely to comply. but you just know when your friends and you just know when you're in a relationship.

>>36932825
>I guess I just have trust issues. I would want verbal confirmation.

I don't think it sounds attractive, though I understand it. It might put people off, so consider refraining for asking that question abruptly. Solid friendship should be formed over a full term of bonding, not propped up after 10 minutes, don't you think?

Then again, I don't have friends. I'm stating this solely on conjecture and analysis.

>>36933051
I dunno. I'm too scared to actually try it.
I'm mostly bouncing ideas off of the wall.
I haven't had a real friend in a long time.

>>36932733
Directly asking someone to be your friend is incredibly autistic and if they were thinking you were cool they'd be reconsidering immediately after hearing that.
You just do stuff, talk, say 'this was cool, man. give me your number and i'll throw you a text next time i'm x' or something similar which is casual and doesn't give off the vibe that you're a desperate loner.

>>36932955
It isn't a bad suggestion, but I have problems with that in real life. There are many arcades and there aren't many people at them since they rather be playing video games at home. I tried a club for my other interest, a few of the people were okay I guess but I couldn't talk to people really. I like music but there aren't many nearby things to go to for the music I like. As for my other interests I guess my best bet would be a book store or the internet.

>>36933051
>>36933072
>>36933097
OP here, I think it would be weird to do that, but it could easier be swapped with asking for their contact info. That is assuming I can actually ask them.