How the fuck are introverted people supposed to make friends

idk bro u think 2 much lol just b urself

People act like being introverted is the samd as having a mental disorder when really half of all humans are introverts.

>>36877427
no i think the reality is that people mistake introversion for social anxiety. Introversion means that you need to "recharge" after being around people. it doesn't mean you avoid people or are afraid of social intereaction

>>36877929
I'm an extreme introvert and I've

The first step is to find a way to become less shy.

https://archive.org/details/ShyGuy1947

>>36876840
>push yourself to do things you don't enjoy
>meet people with whom the only things you have in common are those things you don't enjoy
You've got to build up your tolerance to socialization (overcome your social anxiety) instead of expecting to only make friends who enjoy minimal social interaction.

>>36877306
>just b urself lmao
T. Chad

>>36877427
I'm talking about someone who basically stays at home and only leaves for work (unless they're NEET) and purchasing the bare necessities. I consider it introverted, perhaps there's a better term for people like us.

>>36879453
I've actually beaten my social anxiety for the most part, but I hate going out and I never get along with people who go out. I'd like to meet people who don't go out often, but obviously it's difficult to meet people like that. My friend actually drags me along to parties occasionally but I never like the people I meet there.

>>36876840
>How the fuck are introverted people supposed to make friends or get into relationships?
The same way as extroverted people, talking. You can ask that question without putting the word introverted in there and it still applies to you.

>It just doesn't happen after childhood.
What the fuck are you talking about? You need to stop believing this.

>I lucked out and still have my best friend from kindergarten, but I've made no friends since.
That's because you probably still think you make friends the same way you did with your kindergarten pal, which if you can look back and see how that happened you'll realize it doesn't work that way anymore.

>If I was to push myself and go to clubs/concerts/bars/group activities I'd simply meet extroverted people who I'd be unlikely to get along with
Assumption and more assumptions which get you absolutely nowhere but cement your ego, think a bit deeper on this.


>which brings me back to the question of how introverted people are supposed to meet other introverted people.
I'm not sure what you have against extroverted people but they will accept your introversion when they figure it out. Unless you seek them out online specifically or ask someone at a club "are you introverted?" it's not really what you want out of someone, it's just who they are.

I'm introverted but honestly extroverted people are way more enjoyable to be around when you realize they aren't judging you and you don't judge them.

>>36880097
I'd suggest trying a bunch of different activities just for the sake of trying things out and seeing if you find something you enjoy. You need to broaden your horizons.

Introverted women have it easy, men will still approach them. Introverted man is living life on hell mode. I'm 26, I literally cannot make friends. I cannot talk to my peers, and I sure as shit cannot talk to women. Nothing I do helps.

>>36879121
I enjoyed that, good share anon

>>36876840
>>36877427
Being introverted means you are not properly socialized.

>>36880624
I think you're just mentally deficient, which would be another reason you're not a sociable person.

People are either
a. Extroverts
b. Introverts

Just like people are either
a. Female
b. Male

Maybe OP has some social anxiety. Social anxiety and introversion aren't interchangable.

>>36877427
To be fair OP probably has some form of mental illness and simply blames his introversion

>>36880142
I really do not understand how people make friends after the age of 20 unless they meet other people through a friend or by chance at a job. Outside of that one would have to go to something along the lines of a club (not a dance club, a club centered around an activity such as hiking (just an example, not exclusively hiking)), but as far as I can tell those things are always full of turbo normies that always want to just go drinking and only attend to meet other normies to go partying with.
I try to get along with extroverted people but they almost always rub me the wrong way. They are usually only friendly on the outside, and make poor friends that are quick to stab you in the back if it suits them. I only have an interest in making friends that I can keep for my lifetime (and I have one, and I am incredibly grateful to have met him, but I'd like more, or a gf at some point).
Anyway, what are you trying to say in your post exactly? Are you encouraging me to simply go out and meet more people at social events?

>>36880245
I've tried doing stuff like clubs at college and joining bands, but all of those things merely attract outgoing people who I don't get along with. I'm not sure where else I can broaden my horizons, that's what I'm asking you.

>>36876840
Language classes? I tried that once, plenty introverted chicks there

>>36880724
I get social anxiety too used to be really bad couldn't look people in the eyes but I'm working at it. You get out of introversion by forming positive social habits by trial and error. I'm sorry you're mentally maladjusted and think it's natural to be nervous to talk to the wendy's drive through employee but it's not you autist. Introversion is a lack of proper socialization. It's easier to do it when you're younger, but just because you're older is not an excuse to be a whiny faggot.

>>36877427
Extroverts run a tyranny against us. They leech of our knowledge while giving us none of the benefits

>>36876840
I used the zeemap thread

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>>36877306
Ironically, this is actually the correct answer if you're physically attractive.

>>36880793
Oh, haven't done one of those since high school... That sounds tough but I can see how it would allow me to meet people, that actually sounds plausible. I'll look at my classes for next year, if I can squeeze in some more units I'll sign up for one, thanks anon.

>>36880755
I probably would get diagnosed with some form of aspergers if I went to a shrink but I haven't seen one since I was seven and I don't intend on seeing one ever again. Regardless, my issue (or, at least the one I am trying to confront currently) is that when I do try to be meet new people I run into people who are simply turbo normies and their lives are centered around social media.

>>36880843
No one put a pin near me, good to hear you had luck though. I dropped a pin anyway, maybe I'll get an email someday.

>>36880938
Just don't go for Japanese, too many dudes and all weebs

>>36876840
It kills me inside, but I just force myself to talk with people. I want to neck myself half the time, but people generally enjoy my company.

>>36881603
>people enjoy your company
fucking normie

>>36881603
I can also do that, but my issue is that I hate most of the people I meet in environments where people are meant to meet new people.

>>36880810
>Being afraid to speak at a drive-thru.

That's not introversion, that's social anxiety.

Anxiety is an irrational fear. Keyword: fear. Just as you said: afraid.

There is also no "getting out of introversion." You can no more get out of introversion than you can your own skin. It's a personality trait you are born with. If all introverts were as you described them our world would be vastly different - a population where 50% of all peoples' social actions are dictated fear.

Introversion simply means you PREFER your own company rather than others. Not that you fear other people. Fear is anxiety. Go Google "Introverted Celebrities" and you tell me how many would be afraid to speak at a fast food resteraunt.

You're just a fucking aspie with no excuse for your lack of social abilities so you rely on something as natural as introversion.

>>36882269
You can have social anxiety and be introverted though

>>36882308
Doesn't mean that Social Anxiety = Introversion.

Two seperate things.

>>36876840
That's why can't help but laugh when I see people who say are depressed or introverted and are in relationships.

It just doesn't make sense.

>>36882269
Keep telling yourself that special introverty I'm going to be getting laid and having healthy conversations.

>>36876840

Introversion is one thing; you, my friend, sound like a recluse.

>>36879121
>dad is concerned about your social life and gives you advice
>chad invites you out of nowhere to come over and asks you if you want to go to a party
>normies are interested in your autistic hobbies and share a coca-cola (R) with you

this is unrealistic as fuck

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>depression, borderline pd basically make it so im an over emotional sadsack that alternates between fucking pure rage paranoia about people to lovey-dovey clingy bullshit
Ive literally had someone tell people not to hang out with me because they thought i looked like a serial killer.
Doesnt help that half the people i "hang" out with are druggies

>>36882750

Unrealistic, or just an example of how much easier of a time your parents and grandparents had?

>>36876840
maybe try finding an interest of yours that has a social component? Something where trading information with another person is helpful. Then you have a reason to talk about something. It's a start.

>>36882750
Did you catch the bit where the dad basically tells his son to "just be yourself"?

>>36876840
Talking to people i.e. Getting a job or going to community college, where group projects occur constantly. I'm still an autist at talking to people and a bit of a cuck at my job but it's helped a bit.

>>36883093
I have that, I play bass+trombone and I've tried a multitude of music groups and haven't made any long term friends. Also tried a few clubs at college but no dice there either, the people who go to those are turbo normies and ostracized me once they realized I don't use snapchat/instagram etc. If you have other specific suggestions, I'm willing to listen.

>>36883138
Doing both of those currently, it has definitely helped me conquer my social anxiety. Kinda kicking myself for doing CC rather than a four year, half of the students are over thirty years old.

>>36880334
Yep. The only time anyone ever approached me, it was another man 11 years older than me. Even though I'm not gay, I figured it was better than nothing, and he knew I wasn't gay so I figured big deal. Go to his dorm for vidya and drinks, I black out, next morning he asks if I'm down to fool around again. Welp, I suppose life is easy mode as a man if you're a faggot as well.

>>36879121
>just butt in and help someone and you'll make a friend!
Were things really that nice in 1947? I can't even imagine a world where people appreciate advice from a stranger rather than giving a dirty look and a sarcastic thank you before turning away and talking like you were never there.

>>36876840
>I lucked out and still have my best friend from kindergarten
Still doing better than me you cuck

>>36876840
You get adopted by an extrovert and they take you places

>>36876840
>Tfw introverted to the extreme
>Tfw don't even crave social interaction at this point, rather than that, I despise talking to people irl (due to problems with the people I have socialised with).
>One night start craving intimacy, out of nowhere.
>Want an SO but don't wanna deal with another person
I guess this can be categorised as being "Schizoid", who knows.

>>>36883734
>hate people
>don't want to be alone

It's the strangest feeling

>>36883330

They were really into "social conditioning" at that time; everyone had classes on how to interact in a proper manner.

Here's an example:

https://archive.org/details/0040_Everyday_Courtesy_E00274_16_00_41_00

>>36880142
thanks chad my man

>>36883734
Iktf. I want to be alone but when I go to bed I hug my pillows and imagine it is a cute girl. I want to give someone my love but I hate spending time around other people.

I just wish I had a girlfriend so I don't have to be completely lonely, it's a very complex feel.