Premature Ejaculation

>>36465646
Use condoms. They make me last for ages because they kill almost all feeling.

>go through similar
Yes
>know a cure
Medication, I guess

>>36465646
Even if you cum once, you still prematurely ejaculate after your refractory cooldown?

>>>/adv/ can help you 0ut.

Most women find it flattering if you cum that fast because it signals to them they turn you on that much. Women are usually insecure about their own bodies and ability to please another via sex. Women do not get the same sensations during sex as men do and a womans orgasm is not a guarantee. Just make sure she is comfortable and try again in a few minutes. You will impress her with a few minute refractory period and multiple rounds too ya know.

>>36465683
I tried that even the delay ones but they just don't work, I think it's an arousal thing more than a sensitivity thing

When I get bjs I last forever but sex is 30 seconds?

>>36465695
Which medication?
>>36465703
No I can last a lot longer but that's awkward for one night stands, being all like 'let's lie here for ten minutes while I recharge' and maintaining an erection is difficult, I lose a lot of length and girth second round

Death-grip.
After masturbating for 27 years, I couldn't ejaculate "normally" when I had sex for the first time. I wasn't even masturbating excessively, it's just that my technique was bad.
Try giving yourself death-grip.

>>36465783

What if he has a serious case of it and not even on the second time can he last longer than 30 seconds?

>>36465883
I'm exactly the same. I've found SSRIs helpful, though I suspect this is due to the anxiety-killing aspect of the medication. I think it's a Catch 22, where premature ejaculation makes you think about sex more, creating a cycle.

Try to work on breathing as well, fight the urge to increase the speed of your breathing.

>>36465950
I saw death grip online tried it then got a burn on my peepee, do I go up and down with a dry tight grip? Or do I lube

>>36465983
I never want to take SSRIs, would meditation and breathing control be a good alternative?

What improvements did you see in your ejaculation times

>>36466022
I think it would yeah, I've never done meditation but calming my breathing during sex helps.

With SSRIs, it varies between slightly longer (10 mins) to too long (30 mins), breathing is less effective but also brings it to the 10-15 minute mark depending on how well you're being ridden

>>36466001

I don't know, it wasn't even a serious suggestion.

But if you're really desperate: don't push it at first. I think the way I, and every other person, developed it, is by gradually squeezing our penises more and more. Somehow it feels like the threshold for how hard I had to press and how violently I had to jerk it increased after every session. At the peak I had to do these very low-amplitude, slim, but firm grips. Which is basically the opposite of a vagina.

The good news is it can be cured. All I had to do was not masturbate for a month.

>>36466061
Is yours worse when thrusting or being ridden? When I thrust its an instant nut, not sure why, man this shit is the worst

>>36466064
I suppose temporary desensitisation is the best I can do as of now, when it cured did it go back to regular sensitivity or were you cumming quickly

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>>36465646
I'm also black and I also suffer from PE. The worst part is when the girl says: "That's it?"

I have a small dick too, so this makes my situation even worse.

>>36466160
Yeah, worse when missionary but weirdly not as bad doggy, can't really explain it. Being ridden is bar far the longest, though

>>36466160

>when it cured did it go back to regular sensitivity or were you cumming quickly
I think I went back to cumming too quickly, but it's hard to say after only once.

I don't think anyone has mentioned it, but there are also condoms with local anaesthetics which numb your penis and that can make you last longer. Check out the various types, it's all listed.

>>36465646
I wish I had that, I have delayed ejaculation, which means that I can pound a lot

Problem is, I get very little pleasure, sex just becomes a chore after a while, I can only cum if I masturbate and if I dont get constant stimulation, my dick slowly starts to go soft

>>36466252

>i wish to have the polar opposite of the condition i have

No, you don't, idiot.

>>36466272
after years without ever having a pleasureful orgasm, I am willing to exchange problems mate, just so I can have a mind numbing orgasm like I used to have

>being circumsised

>>36466252

how often do you masturbate?

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>>36466337
its not about masturbatin often, I have gone weeks without touching my dick and I when I finally did, it did not matter

it is mainly about pelvic floor tension, thankfully I am seeing a physical therapist and things are slowly improving, my muscles need to relax more so I can have a full erection and more pleasure

Which reminds me, OP>>36465646 , premature ejaculation is mainly linked to weak pelvic floor, you should try strengthening it. thats why I have a strong, but tense, pelvic floor and it causes me to have delayed ejaculation

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>>36465646
Honest response here: I've suffered the same at like 16yo to nervous etc. I trained watching porn and masturbating two times in a row non stop, my dick was to sensitive, it was almost painful to continue, BUT I succeeded in the end, now I can cum, switch condoms, and continue, I'm uncut so, condom or no condom feels almost the same.

Sometimes i can last for ages and sometimes I cum as soon as i go at any reasonable speed

I have no idea why it varies or how to know beforehand at what state i am

>>36466556
this is what i am saying here>>36466506

maybe it is because sometimes your pelvic floor is more tense, causing you to last longer and sometimes it is stretched and weak, so you cum faster

an ideal pelvic floor should be strong and relaxed

I have the opposite problem.

I've got an 8in dick. But i can't stay hard. I just lose my erection almost immediately. It's the worst. I avoid girls as well.

>>36466636
>take viagra or shoot test
>make tinder/start going gym

problems solved

>>36466620
how the fuck do you do anything about it?

>>36466506
Wait so what do I do to strengthen my pelvic floor, do you reckon abs exercise will help? I feel as if when I tense my stomach and anus it gives me abit more time

Obviously from my perspective I'd love your condition, but I feel like theres always a negative

>>36466205
Man exactly the same here, cowgirl > missionary > doggy, doggy is unspoken with this condition

Im gna try meditating, squatting, breathing practice and masturbating without cumming

If none work I might actually resort to a fleshlight

>>36466665
kegels, specifically reverse kegels during sex

normal kegels to strengthen your pelvic muscles and reverse kegels during sex to make you last longer, since your muscles arent as tense

>>36466693
Shit I guess I have a black twin, maybe ab exercises will help, but I think no more than other exercise groups. I think there's a benefit in kegel exercises though (you know when you stop a stream of piss? it's that muscle)

Considered a fleshlight as well actually, might have to give it a try. Happy with SSRIs I now don't need to get drunk to not completely fuck up. Good luck lad

>tfw premature ejaculator dicklet with erection dysfunction
I don't even know why I was born a man if my dick is that fucking broken.

>>36466665
kegels to strength, reverse kegels to stretch

however, I must advise that messing with that can cause further inbalances, so you should start only doing a little and in the most focused way possible as to not mess it up further, then you can progress slowly, be patient

>>36466693
this also goes for both of you, see if you guys have posture imbalances, I used to have anterior pelvic tilt, which caused pelvic muscles to be tense

strong abs that are not tense do help with pelvic floor, but it helps it relax, which in the case of premature ejaculation would not be ideal. your abs are probably already fine, you need to strength the pelvic floor

>I'm a 6'4 black chad tier man with a 8" dick

translation: I'm a 5'8 chubby asian.

>>36466662
I'm still a student and have no way to get Viagra. Plus I'm too enbarassed to say anything to my doctor

>>36466636
Op here, I once had erectile issues but that's cause I was smoking and not exercising even slightly, improved blood flow and no fap changed that
>>36466195
Oh man, can you do two rounds? Uhh work on your stroke game (gyrate hips while inside her) and tongue game. Best thing I found is to make an awkward joke about it prior, say something like (while looking at her body) 'I'm gna nut quick for sure, plus it's been ages, if it happens we just go again'

But I can only gather the courage to say that when the girl is <7/10

>>36466718
what are reverse kegels?

>>36466773
OP here you're a god for this, thanks

>>36466830
i have suffered from this since 2014, I have learned a lot about it. However, it will take time to improve, do not try to go overboard and do things quickly as that will majorly fuck you up

as it did fuck me up, but things will get better and we will all make it

>>36466829
You know the muscle you use to push out those last drops of pee? Push that out and hold for 5 seconds while tending lower abs that's a front RK

Back RK is when you push your anus out as if you're shitting (don't shit)

>>36466854
How long did it take you to get rid of? Any kegel plans or anything?

>>36466857
Give me a good kegel routine

>>36466829
exactly what this guy said >>36466857
when you're hard, doing a normal kegel (tensing the muscles) makes you more erect and cum faster, something I used to do out of habit just from masturbating cause it feels better.

Ideally, you should relax the muscles during sex and then as you get closer, reverse kegel a bit and you should last longer.

>>36466901
Can't, I'm OP, looking for one too

Try pegym.com and go to their premature ejaculation forum though, I'm looking through now and it seems pretty helpful as well as depressing

>>36466777
There's always one per thread

>>36465646
Only in doggy. I can only go 1-2 minutes doggy but like 30+ every other position. Sucks because doggy is my favorite position.

>>36466879
visit the pegym website, tons of info there

i never had premature ejaculation, but messing with kegels in a bad way caused the tension I now have that gives me delayed ejaculation, It will take a while for it to improve 100%

>>36465646
My bf cums fast too, I don't care.
In fact is kinda boring now when he lasts longer than 45 seconds. I'm used to the ritual of bang for a second, he comes, I go shower and finish myself.
It works for us.

>>36467022
So you're telling me doing just kegels gave you delayed ejactulation? How long for and how many a day? (I might consider this)

>>36467110
So you're telling me you never wish it was longer or do second rounds?

And you never feel like cheating on him with someone who lasts 30mins?

>>36465646
Before sex excuse yourself to the bathroom and jerk off.
Thats what I would do.
Personally I dont last longer than 10-15 but I can go several rounds.

Got myself a hooker tonight for 2 hours, might break my record

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>>36465646
>buy a dildo
>hot glue suction cup or one face of a piece of touch fastener at base of dildo
>if going for touch fastener, glue the other face just above penis
>conceal dildo under the bed
>lure girl into ambush site
>go for doggystyle arousal transition into doggystyle, this is crucial, so the girl doesn't suspect anything
>before insertion, slap on your modified dildo on your pubis
>proceed to last indefinitely
>profit

>>36465646

>Black 6'3 guy with 7 inches here. I have the exact opposite problem.
>I'll just be slamming away for like 20 minutes and just right on the edge of the point of being able to cum. But i can never get over the point of no return.
>Most girls feel like shit when i make them tap from railings. But i strut around like a Fighter
after.
>Be glad you can actually bust a proper nut.

>>36467192
i used to do 200 a day without proper form

>>36467192
>wish it was longer
Hell no. I can cum as fast as him if I wanted, but we do zero foreplay, so I wish that was different, but I have a shallow vagina and he has a 6er, so the short but stimulating sex is nice. If he went full throttle I'd be too sore to last more than 4 or 5 minutes.
Never thought of cheating, actually. He sensitive about it and I find in endearing.
We fuck everyday too, he's just my 60 second man. :)

>>36465646
Wank it beforehand
Use desensitizing cream.
Start every session by pussy licking.

>>36465646
Six four white euro man with six something dick.

I can last however long I want. You just have to pace yourself. If you know yourself you know what makes you bust. For me that is squeezing her ass while kissing and pumping really deep. If I want to last longer I just don't do those things or change position.

Also I'm nervous about the whole intimacy aspect even if we dated for years. So that naturally keeps me from busting too soon.

Also some girls love it when you come really fast. They think they are so hot you can't help it. So calm down.

>>36467304
Fuckkkk youuuu, Id rather be in your position man the confidence loss from having this is tremendous

>>36467510
But doesn't dessensitizing cream also desensitise her?

>>36467446
Although I want a cure more than someone the understanding and sexual compatibility you guys have, it's still pretty amazing and coincidental that your genitals literally fit

>>36465917
>Which medication?
Paxil will do it. Go to doctor and ask for low dose for PE.

>>36467512
The nerves make me buss quickly, but yh I aspire to get there

>>36465917
>ten minutes while I recharge
Holy fuck, anon, how old are you? If you're younger than 30, you should be good to go in less than a couple of minutes.

>>36465646
>premaculate conception

>>36466857
Wait chill.
Push out or pull in?
I pull in to squeeze pee out

Like puckering my butt to do it.

Pushing is trying to shit.

Pls be clearer for me.
Idont want to fuckng prolapse my ass

>>36469984
Do the opposite motion, push the pee out, stop squeezing at the end, imagine when you push it's like someone lying on a hammock, and when you squeeze it's like scrunching a paper

>>36466780

Doctors are the worst way to get viagra. Buy it from China, it's dirt cheap. Try and get some quotes for price per kg then request a sample. They'll probably give you 100g for $60. Not bad considering how EMS/DHL charges. Pde5 inhibitors have no effect on ejaculatory latency though, what you want is an SSRI. I can't remember off the top of my head but there are a couple different ones commonly used. Indian pharmacy is the way to go for pills though. Getting powder would be hard because it's not as cheap or common as viagra.

I can barely last five minutes when fapping anymore. I'm a virgin so I imagine I'd cum immediately if I ever did manage to have sex.

>>36465646
Masturbate. Masturbate and then do again, right after. Repeat this multiple times until you can cum, stay hard and keep going.

Become her superman that can literally laugh off an orgasm and keep going.

>>36465646
>Anyone else premature ejaculation boys here? I'm a 6'4 black chad

Fuckoff nigger.

I suffer from the same problem, anon. Even worse, I'm 5'10.

I usually follow this routine:
1 - Make them blow you, cum
2 - Make them cum with cunnilingus (if the girl is not a hoe) or masturbation (99.9% of time)
3 - Fugg. You'll last a little bit longer since it's the second time and if you made her cum she'll be fine with bad sex - trust me, they're used to it.

>>36465646
I didn't with my first gf, but I had a difficult time going long with the 2nd girl I've had sex with

>>36465646
I have somewhat of the same issue. I'm 6.5x5.5 and I can sometimes fuck for a few minutes, but usually it's like 2min, even with a condom. My gf doesn't mind since if I last for a while, she starts thinking she's too loose or something.

For some reason, if I don't masturbate for a few days, I can actually fuck for longer, and then get hard again pretty quick and last even longer. She gets sore from that though, but it does feel great to actually fuck for a while in multiple positions instead of just 1 or 2.