Psychological Issues #25

Are most robots actually going out on Friday night?

>>36093666
Not all of us. Some of us stay at home and drink alone.

>>36093688

Are you MY Dan?

>>36093738
That'd be me. Nice get by the way (the first one).

I was surprised to find your previous thread mostly vacant. One would assume that mental illness would be a big topic on /r9k/.

>>36093783

I forgot to tell people they could share their problems here, so new people probably didn't get the idea of the thread.

I don't think you're "my" Dan, I was thinking of another Dan, I think.

Remind me what your issues were?

>>36093812
My issues? I don't know. Bitterness, anger, rage, paranoia (or so you say).

If you meant someone else, I'm sorry. I just wanted to "pop in and say hi".

My biggest issue tonight is that I can't drink with my gf around and she won't stay out because her mother is in hospital with her heart. Some people are just selfish, eh?

Why am I passif/ agressif.?

>>36093962

I thought you stopped drinking?

Have you visited her mother?

>>36093999
I was planning to, but I still haven't got an enjoyable night alone yet. Once that's done I shall. We haven't yet. She's only in for tests, and in fact they're holding her in hospital for no reason at all until Monday. She ought to have just left.

>>36093996

Give me examples of you being PA.

I've been in love with a girl for 4 years.

I'm a senior in HS rn, I've known her since I was a freshman

It's a small boarding school so we are forced to see each other everyday

Anyway she says that she loves me, but she doesn't want to be with me, but she has a boyfriend (who is in college nearby) who she is super in love with. It really hurts a lot OP, she is the only thing I can think about most of the time. Because I know every time she says that she loves me it's not true.

what can I do

>>36094044
>at home
>brother done something I don't like
>yell/insult at him
>he tells me what's wrong
>tell him to stfu
It's worst with my lil' sister.
>

Im positive I'm messed up somehow and show lots of symptoms without qualifying for any specific thing so the psychiatrist I was seeing (3 appointments for free no insurance) didn't proscribe anything and told me to make weekly appointments with phycologist and gave me info for how to do that without insurance but they are full and can't see me until sept I'm at the end of my shit though (not suicidal just feel like everything is going to implode soon) and things are getting worse and don't know what my next step should be. Thoughts?

>>36094086

Too close to home.

Most people would tell you to "move on" but you'll find that meaningless.

Find out if you think she may offer you something nobody else can, and what that thing may be ("love" isn't precise enough).

>>36094088

That's just aggressive, not PA.

Why are you aggressive? Do you feel a lot of rage in you and it needs to come out?

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>>36093480
>be me
>been fapping to porn for the last 15 years since I was 12 yo
>means my standards of woman are unrealistically high
>means I completely ignore any women who are less than a 7/10 for me

What do Nick? I have made it my lifes mission to try to get laid by atleast a 7/10 or else die a virgin. I want to lower my standards but my brain is too corrupted by years of porn. Women who are less than 7/10 are basically subhuman on my radar.

>>36094092
>show lots of symptoms

List them for me.

>>36094226

I'd advise you to forget about that first, and try to see a woman as a person first, rather than a body. You'll find that if the personality attracts you, her body will be transcended by that.

You won't have to worry about ratings after that. Perhaps you've never experienced that before, though.

>>36094221
>Do you feel a lot of rage in you and it needs to come out?
Yeah that it.

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>>36094257
How do I just "forget" about it?

>You'll find that if the personality attracts you, her body will be transcended by that.

I know some ugly girls who have great personalities but I would never date them. Even coldly rejected one who wanted to date me, and I felt no empathy. The whole thing just physically makes me sick. A girl HAS to be >7/10 for me to consider dating them.

>>36094301

Any obvious source for that rage?

>>36094348

All you have to do is get fit.

>>36094348
To come at it for another angle, once you embrace that sex is fundamentally disgusting and allow yourself to take what you can get then the attractiveness will cease to matter. Think about it in terms of pure sensation, and only of the pleasure you receive. As a bonus, the fact that you hold these women in contempt will make them easier to attract. Plus, you needn't worry about satisfying them sexually! Just try it. Take what you can get. In time you'll become inured to it, like a sewer worker. At that point you'll be able to enjoy it for what it is: neither airbrushed nor sanitary.

>>36094361
Because I'm poor. And stuck with my parents.

>>36094420

Poetry... I'd just fap and do nothing else if I had these thoughts.

>>36094430

What about your parents?

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I'm getting kicked out of my graduate program after 3 years for poor performance and failing to publish. Been told to write a thesis for a lower level graduation in about 2 months time. My professor absolutely hates me so I can rule out him ever giving me a good job reference. I have no past job history or connections. I have zero friends who can help me out. My parents are showing me no empathy and have given me an ultimatum to find a job or they will kick me out of their house. I have 0 savings and will essentially become homeless once I am kicked out.

I'm going to end up like pic related soon.

>>36094468
I don't like them. They remind me all I hate.

>>36094194
I sort of want her out of my life but she always comes back to me whenever I try. She causes me so much heartbreak, I don't know what you mean by "something she can offer me." I'm in love with her, and she says she is too but she isn't at the same time.

>>36094507
>>36094194
also whenever I try to confront her about any of this she starts sobbing and saying that she loves me over and over.

I'm just afraid that she's gonna follow me around for the rest of my life fucking everything up.

>>36094486
you have a degree so finding a job will be easy. You're only letting your narcissism get in the way of a pretty good life.

>>36094486

Find a job, it won't be as hard as you imagine. There are people out there who want to employ you. Don't give up before you started.

What's your degree in?

>>36094507
>I'm in love with her, and she says she is too but she isn't at the same time.

That's some bullshit right there. Do you think she wants to keep you hooked to satisfy her ego?

>>36094538
>she starts sobbing and saying that she loves me over and over.

How do you make sense of this? Because I don't. Does she feel guilty, is that why she cries?

>>36094231
Saying symptoms made it sound like I have an idea of what I'm talking about but I'll give it a go

Depression/anxiety but not constant comes randomly and for different amounts of time
General feeling of separation for world social and physical
Don't get angry or have outbursts ever, generally do not feel emotions intensely seen as intensely apathetic to most, closest to intense emotion would be short moments of absolute frustration with myself or general existence
General/social paranoia but I know it's not justified
Weird sleep patterns and get really vivid non nightmare dreams that can fuck with my knowing if I'm awak or not
Used to experience insomnia

Idk this isn't everything but I guess the main ones again I don't really know what I'm talking about

>>36094621
>>36094606
I know the whole thing is so fucked I don't even know how to handle her. I feel like she's got me trapped, but she always talks about how shitty she feels about hurting me. It's like a doublethink where she feels guilty about hurting me, but she continues to do it because she "loves me."

Hi, OP. I'm just your everyday anxiety guy.

>low self confidence
>quite fat, so I always hide my gut when I sit, I wear shirts that don't show it
>shy, real nervous when thinking about speaking up or greeting new people
>pessimistic about the way people judge me
>dismissive of my own problems

so ever since college I tried new things

>started writing and contributing, won some prizes
>became president of a committee
>learn how to /fit/
>make good friends

but my good friends are my comfort zone, and it's really easy to hang with them because of common nationality. i never want to go out of my comfort zone. i did with being president and all, but boy it was a long year. i'm always the one who worries the most about the committee, but maybe that's just what presidents do, and there i am dismissing my own problem again. sometimes it works, so that's good.

So I applied for internship this summer and got some callbacks. This, and being president, I did not because I love business and leadership and all that shit. I do it because I'm insecure about my CV. I know I'll hate it when I do it but I'll regret even more missing out. I'm really scared and nervous about the internship if i get accepted but I have to and I will do it. I guess this is an alright way of using my anxiety as a push.

I just want to know how I can get rid of this anxiety, to put it simply.
I'm not depressed every day, just anxious about 50% of the time. I'm happy but uncomfortable and insecure.

Thanks OP and good night

>>36094627

Any know source for this?

When did it start?

>>36094687

Is it possible that she wants to keep you in the wings in case her relationship doesn't work out?

Do you think you can really be with someone who hurt you so much?

>>36094729

I'd say:

>Richard Grannon
>people-pleaser

Go.

>>36094752
No because this has been going on for 4 years

>>36094738
Kinda just been getting worse as life goes on, but defiantly saw a jump when I went to college that's when the insomnia started.

>>36094785

I'm not sure to which question you're answering. I'd like answers to both though.

>>36094786

Describe your parents.

orinrihnrinhirhr

>>36094776
>Richard Grannon
>people-pleaser

Are there really so many people desiring to please others? What's wrong with them?

>>36094837
Good relationship with my mom but we don't talk much
Dad not around

>>36094865
>Are there really so many people desiring to please others? What's wrong with them?

Usually, they have learned to be valued on their acts and never on who they were, usually, by parents who were unable to see them as people with their own personality. That makes the person look for validation through helping, pleasing, etc. These are great people but they can be abused easily.

>>36094884
>Good relationship with my mom but we don't talk much

Is it all that good if you don't talk much?

>>36094953
>they have learned to be valued on their acts and never on who they were
I'm not sure whether we've discussed this before, but what is a person beyond their acts, and perhaps thoughts and intentions?

>>36095113
>I'm not sure whether we've discussed this before, but what is a person beyond their acts, and perhaps thoughts and intentions?

A whole life of thoughts and feelings and ideas, all of which are worth as much as acts, and often, more so, because acts understood without the context of what people think don't mean anything.

As a kid, if what's inside your head never gets taken into account, you end up like me. You spend much of your life feeling like you're a ghost and you don't know that people may like your thoughts and who you are, instead of what you do.

Maybe you're so unused to thinking you can be liked as a person, rather than your skills, that it's not obvious to you.

I like who you are, and I don't like what you do. That's because I understand, to some small degree, who you are. And I see the good in that.

>>36095106
Idk I live across the country we both are busy with our own things? Still see her on holidays and shit.

>>36095209

Do you think she knows who you are?

>>36095235
Like literally? She knows me pretty well but I dont tell her about this kinda stuff.

>>36095349

Yeah, like, as a person, as who you are.

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Guys, I don't feel too good. I'm going to bed.

I'll have plenty of time for the next two weeks.

You can always write if something is urgent and you can't wait for the thread.

>>36095416
Yeah I guess I don't really have a benchmark but I'd say so.

>>36095162
That's interesting, and a little troubling. Difficult to understand. Regardless of my reasons, I must surely be judged according to my actions, as must anyone. I suppose I can imagine you seeing a potential for good and therefore approving of that, as well as what good acts I do, but liking someone divorced from action or potential action is mysterious to me.

>>36095469
Alright then. Feel better soon.