I miss my ex-oneitis friendzone friend >had crush on oneitis

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>>35985384
Move on. She isn't worth it and even if she had decided to date you she would have roastied out on you because you're too soft. There's a reason she wants Chad and it isn't because he's a "shoulder to cry on and a good friend." Just become a much more selfish and overall darker person. Don't be afraid to ask for favors, though never help. And get used to saying no, to telling people that they can't have what they want to have. Put your foot down.

Either they'll like you for it and you aren't as bad looking as you think or you'll be free of the bullshit that people try to saddle you with. Either way, you win. If your looks can't be escaped and you have to choose between being a dark king or a kind servant, never bow.

I know we're harsh on this board but that's only because we all started off in a similar place to where you are and we want you to be as prosperous as possible while avoiding unnecessary pain, the kind of pain you don't learn anything from or grow from. You'll meet all kinds of people who want to use you in life. From society to women, the number of people who will at least give you commensurate compensation is incredibly low and the ones who give genuine loyalty are even more rare.

tl;dr- Don't be such a beta fuck. Be better. It's time you became more than what society wants you to be. Learn to be okay on your own and always strive for self improvement and for the accomplishment of your goals.

>>35986074
Or you know he just got over her and enjoyed her company. Most women will still keep around friends even if they are beta. Something else is at work here.

>>35986140
Incorrect. He wouldn't be as wounded by her absence and he isn't being honest with himself. She was special. She meant something to him and she still does after these 7 months. And no, the orbiters are emotional tampons. They're to be used to bitch at. Women don't have actual friends. Just people to socialize with and manipulate and increase their social standing with. They need people to be cunty towards. If you've ever wondered where the source of female drama comes from then there it is.

>>35986212
You're right, but, she was the one that up and disappeared. Considering he was fulfilling his role as an emotional tampon, but she still left? Something is wrong that OP isn't telling us.

Which means there are two likely possibilities at work here.

OP poured himself out to her one night and it scared her off.
or
OP never even mentioned he liked her in the first place or asked her out, only assuming she didn't like him that way, she did like him that way (women will rarely cook for a man they don't like) and eventually got fed up with him not making a move and went off to greener pastures.

Either way, not good.

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>>35985384
>giant tits
>cute tight shirts
>nice lips
>sex hair

Holy shit, OP
You should have kept pushing until she caved in and fucked you

>>35986347
That isn't her, its Wumblow from Deviantart.

>>35986074
This is the first good advice Ive heard in a long time. Thank you anon, I know what I have to do now. Time to quit my job.

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>>35986403
Made me kek but it's advice that kept me alive so far. Here's to another 21 years

>>35985384
It sounds like we're in a similar situation. If you're going about using her as a "shoulder to cry on" like I am (I.e. Drunkenly sending walls of text that occasionally get pretty vile and hostile) then she's probably just not interested in being your therapist. She may still care, but nobody wants to have regular chats about your emotional problems. Sort your shit out, maybe try messaging a "hey" and ease yourself back into a friendship while restraining yourself. But if you have any fantasies of you two getting together at any point and you aren't as content to be friends as you say, then you probably should just keep going with the no contact thing until you can find someone else.

>>35986546

I never got hostile or vile. The dumbest thing i ever did was confess that i had a crush on her when she got a bf, but i told her it was just because i wanted to get it off my chest and move forward as friends. But this was way before we started just hanging out as friends.

She lived a bit far, and she was slipping away for awhile. Not talking to me for a month or two at the most, then hitting me up saying she missed me and wanted to chill again. Now she's moved to the city and i'll never hear from her again because all her new city life is so huge, unless i hit her up again, but i'm not gonna.

>>35986074

And no, i'm not going to become more selfish. I've made too many selfish choices in my life and now i'm paying for it.

>>35986212
>>35986307

It was kind of a mutual both of us being eachother's 'emotional tampons', because that's what friends do right? You help eachother. And you have fun while doing.

I'd still fuck her any day of the week, but honestly that really would make things weird. I'd rather fuck someone else and have her be a cool friend.

>>35986878
>because that's what friends do right? You help eachother. And you have fun while doing.

No, friends make fun of each other, shit on each other, and occasionally accidentally listen to the other's problems and tell them to man up.

Also if you'd legit honestly rather just have her as a friend by this point and find a different girl then why don't you? Just hit her up asking to hang again and catch up, but as friends obviously.

Only you let yourself walk out of other people's life anon.

>>35986942
>No, friends make fun of each other, shit on each other, and occasionally accidentally listen to the other's problems and tell them to man up.

You're a fucking idiot. Go back to whatever fraternity you come from.

>>35986942

With the guys, sure, but she is a fragile little thing who doesn't even understand that. I told her how our pastime (with the guys) involves coming up with clever ways to rustle someone. It's not her thing.

>>35986968
That's actually just a general guy thing anon, frat or not.

>>35987020
Fair enough, its not for everyone obviously, but either way if you want to just be her friend again anon and you're truly over her, then hit her up to catch back up man.

>>35987035
I'm a guy, and that's never been my style of relating with friends, or with anyone for that matter. And, frankly, I know a hell of a lot of people more stereotypically guyish than me who aren't obnoxious, abrasive dicks 24/7 like that anon apparently thinks males are supposed to be.

>>35987066
Nobody does it to be a dick anon, its just playful fun man.

Never ever reveal yourself entirely to a woman, that's the safest way to make her lose interest

>>35987087
>and occasionally accidentally listen to the other's problems and tell them to man up.

This is the only part I disagree with. If someone I know has problems, I listen to them respectfully and try to give good advice. Bullshitting and picking on friends during ordinary fairweather times is a different story and perfectly fine.

>>35987046

I would, but last time i tried to contact her she ignored my texts, which weren't too crazy at all. Maybe our last meet-up was a bit too awkward (at a music festival), or maybe she was just busy with her move, idk, but i don't feel like trying again. If i'm initiating more than someone else, i just back off and leave the ball in their court for good.

>>35987120
You know it was a joke right? Even the most dickish friends who are actual dicks and get into fights constantly can sit down and listen to each other during actual serious stuff.

>>35987143
Fair enough anon, fair enough. At least you gave it a shot though, more than some people do.

Sorry that you lost a friend, but there are other girl friends out there as there are girlfriends. Godspeed young anon.

>>35987151
Understood, just misread the joke at first since r9k can have some really pigheaded dudebros at times. I've always gotten along a lot better with girls than guys because I just like having relaxed conversations without any coarse teasing.

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>>35985384
She looks good for porn. She has such a dick sucking face and nice tits.

I'd like to squeeze her tits then slap them with my dick and rub my dick on her face. Also slap her ass with the dick, looks like she might have a good ass. Then average fuck and cum on tits and face.

>>35987247

Thanks anon

>>35987389
Agreed

>>35985384
>i enjoyed spending friend time with her. We would go out to eat and talk about our problems, come back and binge watch stuff, play board games, go to the park and swing on the swings talking about stuff, walk around town, sometimes she'd cook for me. She was kind and sympathetic towards me, often giving me advice from a female perspective. Hanging out with her was more relaxing than with my other friends, who are mostly male.
You could do that with any other woman and maybe the woman will suck your dick anon. You are practically wasting time hanging out with that girl when you could hang out with a girl that gives a shit about you.

>>35988096

Good thinking anon