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Thank you for your thoughts
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>>35981349
That's okay anon. I'm happy at least knowing that you know that I know that you know that I know that you know that I care about you

>>35981076
when i try to get my college grades up, why does one grade go up while another decreases? i swear i'm giving the same amount of effort in the one that decreases

>>35981595
Anon you're trying your hardest and I'm so proud of you for doing that much. I'm not really sure how to help you in this scenario but I would say you might wanna dedicate more time to studying/working for each class if you feel you're not doing as well. There's many online resources and I'd be more than happy to direct you to one if you feel like it could help.

>>35981625
my problem is, my classes don't give us shit for work until there's like a week where they all pile on assignments at the same time, and i just can't dedicate a full effort to each one so i can allocate time for the others as well

>>35981076
Depression.
Sexual abuse as a child.

I don't think some neckbeards on the internet can help me.

>>35981076
my problem, i want to jump infront of a train
my solution, if everyone else jumps infront of a train

>>35981638
I know what you're going through, and I fucking hated it when they did that, I'm still not sure if they coordinated their efforts to fuck you over. But if you feel that way then it's possible you picked a bad program or your teachers aren't considering how you learn/how you do best in a working environment. I know it's hard but you gotta do your best to pull through. I survived it by doing really well in one class and pretty good in a few others and mainly not doing work for those classes and only working on the ones I was struggling in. Again, it's probably best you just spend more time working on it. Remember:
90-92s are As where I live now

>>35981695
Have you tried getting professional help then?

>>35981702
89's are A's at my school

>>35981734
I don't trust anyone.
Better living a life of an shut in as trusting someone and getting hurt again.

>>35981695
You're probably expecting me to say sorry that happened, but I won't because I know those words mean jack shit to you. What I can do is tell you that you are a human being and you matter to me. I don't know where you are in life or what your problem is but know that I care even if it doesn't feel that way. If you want we can play vidya if you need a friend to play with or I can just shitpost more for you to laugh at
>>35981698
If you're depressed/hate others then I won't pretend I can help you because it'll just be more meaningless words from a stranger but I can say that I'd very much dislike it if you really did jump in front of a train

>>35981076
I asked a girl out a bit ago. Tomorrow I have classes with her and her boyfriend who keep harassing me and mocking me about it. I would skip, but I care about getting the material down so I can get my life together.
Every time I see them I have a heart attack. If I skip it shows the rest of the uni that im weak aswell.
What do I do. I dont think I can handle being around them again.

>>35981702
i keep pulling out B's in most of my classes with a C in one and an A in another usually. also, >>35981749 isn't me. i busted my ass studying 2-3 nights straight for a biology test that covered around 12 full pages of notes and i made a 58 on it. now, my family is bitching at me for "not giving effort" when the highest grade in the class on that test was right at an 80. i'm not the only one in that class doing bad on the recent tests.

>>35981779
I know what you feel, not to that extent, but I understand not wanting to be near someone and wishing you'd die when they notice you. Some people are trash and don't care when they should. It just happens. I wish they wouldn't do that, but I can't really do shit about that. I can however tell you that no matter what others think about you, Others and I would never treat you like that. If you want to play vidya with me or just talk it out, we can. I hope you're having a good night, and I hope it gets better for you

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>asked a girl out I worked with last week to lunch
>she said yes but she'll let me know when she's free
>she never got back
>saw each other yesterday
>didn't talk much except for saying hi and bye to each other
>she messaged me later on saying I was rather cold
>said I was sorry, I was just really tired and sick that day
>she just says 'yeah that's fine' which to me ironically is just as cold
>see pictures of her with some literal 10/10 turbochad with her last night
>he was on her back give her a massage


I pretty much give up now. Just when I thought things were heading my way, this shit happens. I'm out.

Add me on discord, I can help and I'd love to vent.
Jake#4186

>>35981801
The current education system is a mockery of anyone who legitimately tries hard even when they don't understand/ have trouble with material. I know how it is when you feel like one class is fucking you over, I was placed in a more advanced math class than I should've been one time and I regret every second of that class. Just know I'm proud of you for working hard and that even though we both feel that grades are really important you'll still pass with Bs and Cs. Keep working champ, I'm routing for you

>2 gen ed classes and capstone project Idgaf about anymore
>have to see old girl eevrytime I go to campus
>avoid campus
>avoid bullshit hw for gen ed
>have to start doing this shit now so I can graduate this semester
>can't stop drinking, have to drink to sleep
>always think about old girl, she has bf now
>soon she will be gone
>never talk to her anymore, avoid her at all costs, but she always comes around
>alone at my apt drink myself to sleep each night

>>35981770
>I won't because I know those words mean jack shit to you

Right

>What I can do is tell you that you are a human being and you matter to me

Only I can deal with it so getting help from outside of my head pretty useless.

>If you want we can play vidya
I don't play vidya.

>>35981851
Anon I can't tell you it'll get better because I sincerely do not know. I can tell you that basing your life on the opinions of others is a totally normal thing and it's okay if you feel like others look down upon you. There's a lot more people like you than you think. A lot of them are ignorant of it, but it still happens a lot. Some times others don't react the way you think they would and upset you. I want you to know that one person doesn't represent everyone, and there's still a person out there that cares. If you feel depressed I offer you what I offer anyone who's sad, we can play vidya or hang out if you want to feel better.

>>35981939
I can tell you that you're not the only person to experience this, and that you won't be the last. The best help I can give you is how to move on. Other people can seem weird in how they don't care/react like you. Sometimes you just don't meet that person that feels the same way, and that's okay if there's a couple times where that happens. If you get stuck on this you'll never learn from it. You also need to stop drinking and work on your shit. I know it can be tough at times and I won't pretend I deal with the same shit, but the best thing you can do is move past this. I can't guarantee there's a rainbow at the end of this storm, but whatever it is it's most likely better than the storm.
>>35981944
I've never dealt with your problems so I'm not gonna try and act like I know how to solve it, just know I'm here for you even if it doesn't do much. And if you don't play vidya we can always talk

4chan isn't really a good way to listen to a large amount of people and talk back to them in a timely manner. I made a discord if you anons aren't too scared of public stuff. https://discord.gg/pT44w4c

>>35981962
Thanks anon. It's just this reoccurring theme I've been getting where no one else makes first contact except me and they never follow up on it. Even with my close friends.

I just deluded myself into thinking I had a chance with this girl.

Here's to another year of lonely virginity.

I had a girl naked in my bedroom last night but we couldn't fuck cause I couldn't keep a hard on. I even took a viagra. I also lost two girls last year because of this issue.

It's ruining my life. I'd be a normie at this point if I didn't have erectile dysfunction. I don't know what the fuck to do.

>>35982280
Are you watching porn?
Are you on meds?
Are you under a lot of stress?

If you said yes to these, and maybe more hidden factors, then you should stop and try to fix them.

Probably the easiest will be the porn part. Drop that and in a few months you'll be fine. Give it time though, get the girl over again and try again.

>>35982258
Honestly anon I wouldn't worry about attempting to lose your virginity. Sometimes men just do not attract girls. If there was something I could give you or tell you to fix all this, this thread and /r9k/ would probably not exist. Getting that gf doesn't make you a better person, so try not to feel like less of a person for not having one.

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>be me 18 at the moment
>lonely beta fag all throughout hs
>decide I'm going to join the marines because I hear the call of battle
>finally get a gf
>night before I sign to join the marines we profess our love for each other
>now I'm leaving the one thing I've been looking for all my life
>she tells me that if I don't follow my dream she won't see me anymore
>I know she loves me, but she doesn't want to get in the way
>tfw I found the perfect girl and now she's going to lose interest in me because I'll be gone for so long

Is it wrong of me to leave????

Pic related that's her

>>35982320
I understand that but the idea of someone desiring me and wanting to be with me will definitely help with the loneliness.

>>35982280
If you're on this board you've probably dropped spaghetti at least once, I know I have. >>35982317 does a pretty good job of laying down your options. I'd also say it's possible you're a repressed homosexual/bisexual. Has your doctor given you any diagnosis. I'm proud of you for at least getting that far with a girl. The ultimate goal for anyone here should be to leave when they finally get that feel of having a gf. I hope you make it pal

>>35981076
Why does nobody like me? I try so fucking hard to dress nice and talk to people, but everyone bullies me. My dad beat me when I was growing up. Now he's fucking dead. My mom is a heroin addict and she'll be joining him soon. I just wanna jump off a building.

>>35982317
>Are you watching porn?
Yeah, but last year I even stopped fapping and it only made things worse.
>Are you on meds?
No.
>Are you under a lot of stress?
Besides the whole women thing my life is pretty easy, but constant trying and rejection does put me under some stress.

I'm almost sure it's an anxiety thing. I don't even get nervous around girls but I guess my penis does. Then I wake up with a huge morning wood thinking of her tits. It's retarded.

There's also the alcohol thing. I'm a heavy drinker. I'm cutting it down, though. It's hurting both my body and finances.

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>be me
>17 in 2016
>have already passively attempted suicide twice
>was hospitalized in two different youth mental health facilities within two and a half months for said attempts
>winter of 2016 was first attempt
>feb of 2017 was second
>mfw Im thinking about doing it right this time (helium sleep method)

I have miserable malalignent and a bulged disc. I'm about to kms if I can't get the surgery.

>>35982455

im a drunk and alcoholic and ie am drunk right now

>>35982329
If she doesn't wait for you then she didn't love truthfully in my opinion. That's not to say we're not all humans and that expecting her to wait for you is basically hoping anime plots can be real, but things work out one way or another. Whether you end up dying or in a great place in life, you're gonna end up where you want to be at the very least. Is it wrong of you to leave? Maybe. Not everything's a clear cut yes or no but it's possible it's your fault for not staying. I can't tell you you'll get your cake and eat it too but I hope things work out
>>35982356
I know anon. Have you been watching media recently that portrays love as a great thing everyone needs? If so I'd recommend to stop, because for the most part any real life love you'll find isn't like that. I hope you find a way to deal with the loneliness, my offer of vidya and hang is always there.

Literally stopped playing support because of the amount of numbnuts who run way ahead of the team and then blame you when you can't get to them and they die, or you try to get to them but get cut off and die.

Fuck Overwatch.

>>35981076
>Zenyatta literally right next to him
>"I need healing"
Hanzo should've finished the job.

>>35982451
Any insurance friendo? Have you looked into getting onto the plan of people in your family?

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google logicnation to fix your meme depression

>>35982396
Not OP but if it you're in school and you're getting bullied, you shouldn't take it too seriously, I was bullied everyday for 3 years, so I can relate. It took me a while to relize that I shouldn't base my self worth on what other people think of me, just be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not, it may take a while but you will find people who like you for you, you are never alone in this world. And most importantly you may not find love from your family, but I love you, I may not know you. But I do love you

>>35982386
>I'd also say it's possible you're a repressed homosexual/bisexual.
I'm 100% sure I'm not. I get turned on by girls, I get turned off by guys. Been this way since I was young.
I even considered going gay when I noticed a lot of attractive fags showed interest in me, but I think it's just gross.
I haven't talked to a doctor about it. Maybe I should.

>>35982506
I have basic Kentucky insurance but I'm considering flying all the way to Illinois to get it done. My mother thinks I'm hitching about my legs but it's getting harder to walk without pain. I just got kicked out for the night due to being a "baby about my legs".

>>35982396
Are you fuckin serious? That's a whole lot of shit. The only advice I can give with confidence is that likability can't be controlled. Not directly. Stop caring so much, just be kind and pursue your own interests. You sound nice, Anon

>>35982396
Well anon, if you're not liked by anyone and you feel like you're shit because of that I want you to stop it, because having others like you does not make you more of a person than you already are. You tried your hardest and I'm so very proud of you for that, half the people in here can't even do that much. Just know that however hard it gets I'm still here and ready to talk to you. If the one person in the world that cares has to be me, then so be it. I like you, anon, for no other reason but the fact that you are a person.
>>35982439
Do you mind telling me why? I know I'll probably be unlikely to persuade you not to, but I'd at least like to know why you feel this way. Maybe you'll feel better talking it out.
>>35982451
I understand, not to that extent, but I get what you mean. I have a ringing in my ears that got somewhat better but is still there. I just live with it now because there's nothing science can do but I understand what I'm experiencing is not anywhere near as hard as you have to experience. If you kill yourself I'd understand, but know I don't want you to. If it pains you too much to live, then I'd honestly recommend you do it, because I doubt it'll get better, but if you ever find you can live with the pain, don't be afraid to talk about it with me.
>>35982460
Have you tried AAA or seeking help at all, and what are the reasons you are an alcoholic?

>>35982562
Dude, fly to Illinois, fuck it. The sooner you get this surgery the better off you'll be. Explain the situation to your mom calmly, making extra sure to sound objective and not-whiney. Use lots of medical terms if you can

>>35982549
Was just listing off possible answers, but you probably know yourself better than I. Hope you find some way to get past this but if not then I'd say it's not something to end your life over. Lots of other people on this board didn't even get as close as you, you did your best with the cards you were given. I'm proud

>>35982679
Am actually Op and I agree with this anon here, best way to help yourself is to try to get them to understand