infp here, how do i become someone people actually want to be around?

you sound like an interesting person OP

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Do psychedelics or get drunk.
>literally mfw

>>35953451
"interesting" but not the kind of person anyone would want to hang out with or invite to anything, but thank you.

>>35953700
I'm an INFP who enjoys both of those things and I'm still a loser.

>>35952763
You don't need to be someone people want to be around, you just need to make yourself okay with imposing your presence on people whether they like it or not.

>>35953712
Eh, I don't know if that is true. There are friends out there for everyone.

>>35953742
Loser according to Who? Yourself? If not then FUCK IT my friend. Always remember that we are literally just smarter animals. Are you doing good for a smart animal? I though so

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>>35952763

Fellow INFP here

You should focus on things you are good at, relationships for the sake of relationships are overrated, I made my best friends doing things i could become better at, for example when i started doing chess i made some friends who i could play vidya, drink and do random stuff, but this just was a secondary thing on our relationship, which was done because they saw i was trying to become a better chess player

Then i wanted something more exciting and started weight lifting, this was a odd part of my life because even if i became strong and people praised me for it, and even if i inspired a lot of guys to get in shape and become strong, i felt like i was just an image and not functional enough, i found it vain and lonely.

Then i started boxing, this was a lifechanger, i made really good friends sparring and i started to discover my true self, while weight lifting is full of macho bullshit, boxing is actually an art, so independently of your personality you would become better at it because it's skill based. People start seeing you as inspiration and then you make good friends with people who are better and worse than you

The key is mutual respect, in normie party relationships nobody actually respect each other, but in hobbies you acknowledge that the other guy has something valuable and pure, and that makes it much better, and it becomes a true friendship

>>35952763
Hey OP. Speaking as an INFP I understand especially with the ''pleasant'' thing to people. I'd be interested in talking to you because I don't really have anyone that understands me either, you're not alone because your points apply to me also.

>>35953870
if you have a discord or anything we can talk, just let me know.

>>35954117
email me at [email protected]
and i'll give you my other contact information

>>35952763
>>35952763
You have to offer value to people. People only call you with their problems because that's the only time you offer any value.

Btw, offering value isn't some superficial fake shit. It doesn't mean you have to take everyone out to eat and pay for everyone's meal. Offering value is more like being able to make people laugh, make people have a good time when they're around you, make people happy and comfortable, shit like that.

You also have to, as a normie would put it, put yourself out there. Stop waiting for people to invite you places. It works both ways. Ask if there's anything going on that you can be part of. When they invite you out, try your hardest to show that you know how to have a good time.

>>35954356
>Offering value is more like being able to make people laugh, make people have a good time when they're around you, make people happy and comfortable

yes but how do you do this...that is my problem.

>>35952763
stop being a cuck

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>>35954475
thanks, ill take that into consideration anon.