Turning 20 in under a week. Will things get better?

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it will be too late soon... don't wait too long

>>35562133
I'm not going to lie to you, OP. The answer to your question is no.

>>35562204
This

Things have gotten drastically worse for me. The only time things seemed like they got better was when I was fucked up on drugs or alcohol. So I stayed fucked up on drugs and alcohol for a long time and that made my life a hell of a lot worse.

Find a trade, go to college, join the military, or do something while you're still young and capable
become a computer hacker and join the resistance

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Not unless you make things better.
The only one who can solve your problems is you. No one and nothing else, not even time, is gonna fix you.

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>>35562133
No
Also this is originaldo

>>35562133
>>35562179
I'm 20 and this looks exactly like the parties I've had.

it's pretty comfy when just family comes

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I am 20 and I am already alone as a neet. I have come to a big city for school but people felt gay. Now I am playing old chinese mmos and eating chinese noodles all day.

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Why would anything get better?

Fuck off this post is original

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>>35562133
27 year old here. Yes it gets better progressively over time.
AMA

>>35562133
>>35562179
these might look depressing out of context but not everyone has 1000 people parties with strobe lights.

I bet it was comfy and these boys were smiling and happy at least a lil bit more than they usually are

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this is why you move out

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>>35562133
Tomorrow is my 25th birthday and yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me. Life doesn't feel good right now.

>>35562133
Yeah it gets better. I had wild emotions at that age. Things even out mid 29s. Just try to have some fun and focus on schooling

>>35562372
Why would you want such a large gathering anyway? A ton of superficially interconnected people gathering in a location supposedly for your benefit? Fuck off, most of them are going to be freeloaders who will leave at the first sign of the bar not being open.

True happiness comes from intimacy, it's not the quantity but the quality. You could have hundreds of low energy faggots following you around or you could have a few bros and a good woman(Or another bro, the fuck do I care.). But the onus is on you. You have to do it, you have to put yourself out there, you have to take chances with people, eventually things will click with a few and you'll get your close friends that keep you honest. Life is meaningless, existence precedes essence. Accept it and be happy DESPITE that.

Things will get better for you if you try to be a good person for example going vegan

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>tfw 19 and never had a gf
>tfw I knew I would be alone forever even as a little kid
>tfw the prophecy is coming true
I just wish I could get rid of the desire for female companionship and sex. I just wanna be like a little kid who hates girls and wants nothing to do with them again.

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>>35562133
>18
>5'9

It's only going to get worse from here since it has now set in that middle school girls are as tall / taller than me in flat shoes

That is not an exaggeration, because this is Finland

>>35562508
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1Dg4Hy83jjr

>>35562133
>20 like half a year already
worst part of life so far but I can at least do drugs pretty freely at uni almost every day and I am talking to a drug stacy from HS but I am probably just getting cucked and she won't feel attracted to me but feels good toa ctuslly talk to a female
Also I have depression about getting old

>>35562133
No, life doesn't get easier as you get older, it gets harder. If you got fucked over and didn't get the social or job skills you needed in the high school years, you will always be behind, and it gets harder to get them.
T. 37 year old.

>>35562133
It gets better if you make an effort to make things better. You're only 19, man, that's so young.

When I graduated high school I had to (for financial reasons) go to a different school than all of my friends and even though they were in the area we drifted apart because they got new friends and partied with them all the time while I in a year made no new friends except my lab partner who I of course had a crush on and already had a boyfriend. Then she moved to another state and I was completely alone again.

Maybe you didn't have any/many friends to begin with, but for my situation it was pretty fucking shitty knowing my high school friends willingly left me and were enjoying the best years of their life in college while I was all alone. For a long time I would commute 2 hours to school, go to class, then commute 2 hours back just to go to bed and watch videos on the computer. I used to be in incredible shape, I'm talking one-handed handstand pushups and shit, but during this period just eating junk food and spending the majority of my time in bed my muscles deteriorated and my body got fat. It fucking sucked, dude.

I remember though, 6 months after I turned 20 was when things changed. I met a great girl who even though things didn't workout with really helped change my life; I have amazing friends, enjoyable hobbies, about to graduate Uni with a great degree and experience and am very happy in a 2-year long committed relationship.

Things only worked out for me though because I was adamant on being happy one day. And I'm not trying to brag like "my life is so good now, you should do it too :^)" because I still have anxiety, still have panic attacks, still drive myself fucking bonkers, but improvement only comes with effort.

tl;dr: Yes.

>>35562267
technically speaking, time will fix all of us

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Christ my 20th is like three weeks away wtf happened?

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Its strange how many 20-24 year old birthday pictures ive seen on here like OPs over the years. My own mother even took the same kind of pictures of me when I was a teenager and even still does on occasion lol... This does for sure show some sadness, maybe not in the most apparent way. Sure the kid looks sad, he might be, but the biggest thing I think about when I see things like this is not feeling bad for the kid, but the parents. 20 years ago two people (most likely) loved each other and wanted to start a family. They found out they were pregnant and started planning a life with their child. 9 Months of dreams, then their bouncing baby boy was born, and so it began... Fast forward to the early and middle childhood and their kid seems a little odd, but he might grow out of it right? What if he doesn't? Fast forward a few more years. Awkward teenage years come around, instead of going out with friends the kid spends it inside, alone, playing vidya, maybe content, but not entirely happy. 18+, by now the kid has given up, and if he hasn't he still is too much damaged goods socially to make much improvement. He still lives with his parents and they see him every day, getting a little sadder. This is not the life they wanted for their only son, they wanted him to fall in love, travel, get a great job and have kids of his own. That must be the saddest feeling in the world as a parent, watching your child fail and not being able to do anything to make them happy or be accepted.

>>35562133
Nope. Kill yourself while you're young. The good die young. Be good.

>>35563210
I'm actually in a weird place mentally. My daughter just turned 2 a month or two ago, we found out my girlfriend is pregnant again, 3 months along.

I'm not saying these things to detract or to incite jealousy or resentment, anons. I'm saying these because they are relevant. I am, or rather, I was one of you. I've been there, for my 13th birthday, my best friend at the time forgot all about it, it was the last time I really celebrated it. My worst birthday? Was my 19th, I had every posession I had stolen by a crack head who used to live with my grandfather. His response? I'm just glad nothing of mine was taken.

My mother was, might even still be, a whore. The only reason I was born was because my dad spent tens of thousands of dollars 29 years ago to get his sperm count up, I was born wrong and my mom knew she was fucked, so she fucked my dad up completely. Dude is a robot in his 50's, he's fucked too, thanks to her. My mom went on to take in another man, sired two boys and treated them as badly as me, because we weren't her little girl. That shit fucks you up. I'm broken in a number of ways and I honestly don't know how to handle it.

But despite that, when my little girl comes over and just asks for a hug, all of that pain goes away, its all made better just by her coming close and wanting to spend time with me.

I know you all feel like you'll be forever alone, but if you accept it and do nothing, then you will. If you hold your standards absurdly high and refuse to compromise on anything, then again, you can only blame yourself. If you accept reality and push forward despite it all, who knows what you might find?

But I can tell you, anon, it's worth it. When my little girl drew her first breath was the scariest moment of my life, they don't tell you the lungs are full of amniotic fluid, so she was deathly quiet. Then in a moment, my life was changed forever.

(Cont)

>>35563281

Just, find yourself a good woman, talk to people, don't go the normal routes people use and complain you only find trash. You need to find someone you can live with, personality trumps looks every time. A good personality is like a fine wine, treat it right and it only gets better with age. Treat it wrong and it goes to shit, you're the same, Anons.

And trust me, the effort is worth the pain.

>>35563295
>find yourself a good woman

You mean an ugly woman, one that couldn't use her looks to an effort free ride through life? I won't do it, the only thing I want from a woman is to be able to get my dick up and cum. I can't do that with an ugly one. But that's just me, enjoy your life, man, you sound like a good guy.

>>35563367
If that's how you find your happiness, you do you man. I'm not going to judge. It's not the life everyone wants. But it's what I lacked when I was a kid, a stable home, a nice family, a loving relationship. I'm happy with it.

>>35562133
Kek, my 18th birthday "party" looked like that. My mother, my aunt, my cousin and her bf. When after the party I told my mother to fuck off for forcing meto such a stupid thing, she told me she thought I would like it.
How can you be so clueless?

>>35563502
what a fucking cunt, she should have just left you alone in your room like every other night

>>35562739
>if you genuinely feel angry you can change it, but you have to be the one to do it.
But how?
Not him, BTW, but I'm in the same situation (but older).

Turned 20 a week ago.
It won't until you do something about your misery.
Just get a hobby where you have to meet people

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>>35563607
>mine's in 2 weeks

>>35562133
That depends on you and on luck. At 26 I was doing ok. Then I got REALLY depressed, put on about 66pounds and my life went to shit.

>>35563562
Redirect that energy. Create things. If you don't know how to, look it up online. Practice, turn that energy into something positive. Honestly? Everyone feels negative shit, we feel it more than the positive stuff. Keeping sane means finding a way to put that energy to good use. I do it by helping complete strangers on the internet. I guess having a feeling of helping others makes it easier to tolerate my own life that I have limited control over at present. But eh

Like I said, you need to find what works for you, channel that energy, put it to good use. You'll feel loads better for it.

>>35563210
Then they should have let the son inherit better genes

>>35563657
Makes sense, and I even did that in the past when I had some energy. I lost weight, and got some certifications that can help me escape NEET hell. But, as always, I suddenly lost all my energy and now I'm again rotting on 4chan getting drunk first time in the morning, throwing away everything good I have done in the last year.
i can't do this anymore, I can't deal with the fact that I can even build up my energy and willpower, but it's only a short term solution. The fall ALWAYS comes, and it just can't work like this.

>>35563724
Then you need to ask yourself the fundamental question, Anon. What do you want from your existence. What drives you?

Not the superficial shit like big house, lots of money, shit like that. If you keep falling, it's because you have higher motives. You don't have to tell me, I know how personal that shit can be. But you need to ask yourself what the answer is. If it really comes up empty for you though, I dunno what to say. If you have no driving force somewhere deep down I can't help.

only gets worse
you want advice?

- get /fit/ and keep it up throughout your life
- if you dont like university learn a trade and get a cheap business or accounting degree if you need something for the title alone
- stop watching porn its poison for the mind
- stop watching western media
- if you missed out on the girlfriend experience travel to thailand and have them take care of you

>>35562204

27 year old wagecuck living on his own here, can confirm

>>35563770
I want to feel human, I want to belong. That's all.
I thought a lot about this, I already know that it's not about job, money, success and shit like that. It's very clear to me. but I'm a fucking useless autist, and I feel like I don't belong anywhere.
How the fuck do I fix that, huh? Of course my parents told me
>find a job!!!! make money!!!!! you'll be fine!!!!!!!!
who the hell cares, for fuck's sake. So it's actually not surprising that I lose the will to work for something I don't give a shit about.
Honestly man, I have no idea how get the only thing that matters to me.

>>35563830
Honestly? I just put myself out there a lot. Different places, mostly online. I'm a cosnumate shit poster but I've gotten really good at lurking and blending into different places. Best I can offer for what worked for me(because I wanted the same thing) was to just keep working at it. Every little victory and defeat had something to learn from it and I've gotten better socially overall, little by little I've been applying it to the outside world.

Two books that really helped me open up to socializing are "How to make friends and influence people" and "Laws of Success" by Dale Carnegie and Nappoleon Hill respectively. If you're willing to live a life of grey moral choices, those two books will really help and teach you how to open up a bit more.

I noticed a lot of robots are born in March. Is there a correlation?

>>35562133
I remember when i was 20 eleven years ago.

>Will things get better?

From a romantic POV:

I'm sorry anon but that is unlikely if you've not already made it by 20; but you will live in hope as the years roll by. Likely you will come to terms with your fate within 8-10 years from now and by then you will be firmly set in your (well earned) selfish ways. You may even feel blessed you dodged that proverbial bullet with all that it entails - marriage, kids, inevitable divorce, destitution and suicide.

From a financial POV:

You should start to make decent money in the near future if you make the right decisions now - no woman can stop you in that respect. Improvements to your life will be clear with this in mind. You can live independently, selfishly and on your own terms. It can be very, very blissful.

Overall:

It depends on your point of view. Some guys are able to cope being alone but wealthy, in finance, time and everything really. Never forget you can always buy sex which is always invariably cheaper. I could never see myself banging the same vagina for years on end; variety is the spice of life.

Stay strong anon.

>>35563879
I'll read those books (I've heard of the first one), but I'm 26, I passed the point of no return, it's over.
And while I managed to improve some areas of my life, I never made any kind of progress in this one. So I can't
>just keep working at it
Even if I do go out, even if I'm around people, I'm still completely alone. It's been fucking with my head since I was born, and I can't take it anymore.

>>35563884
Never noticed this but I turned 19 7 days ago. You may be onto something.

>>35563884
>>35563946
Meh, for what it's worth my brother and I (both autists) were born in december.

I made a thread like this when i was 20.I am now 23 and my life is even more shit.
Go full panic mode and make an change or just accept life of defeat and misery.

>>35563946

I've been seeing much more birthday threads in this month alone than any other month throughout the year.

my birthday is also this month

You young fucks always ask this, but the answer isn't set in stone.

Do you have-

A vehicle
Friends
Supportive parents
Some sort of support system
A job/able to get one, even a shitty one
Know how to fix things(cars/plumbing/general shit around a house.)


If you answered yes to 1 or more of these questions, your odds of having a better life are extremely higher than you might think.

Otherwise, no, you're fucked and doomed like the rest of us and you'll be here forever.

>>35563210
What if the son doesn't want any of that social BS and is happy being a loner?

>>35564055

i will fuck ur mom tonite

>>35562133
Nope, you just realized that the next 10 years will decide whether or not you failed in life.

>>35562133
Well, one things for sure. You won't be one of us anymore.

I'm 18 #blessed!

But enjoy your last days of teenage hood until it all just becomes a memory.

>>35562133
no, it will not get any better

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>tfw 20 years old and I feel better now than when I was a kid
>still no friends, gf, or anybody to talk to
>work shitty manual labor job

Anybody else like this? Where their childhood was shitty and becoming an adult was the best thing that ever happened to them?

>>35562133
I'm 25, and things have only gotten worse.
You gotta learn a skill or a trade. If you don't the world will have its way with you.

>>35564174
then you're in for some tough shit, because that's not how the world works.

>>35563774
>asian mongrel whores
lad, that's not how it works
And that's how you get an STD.
Other than that, I agree with everything you've said.

>>35563101
So is mine. When is your birthday?

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>>35562133
Turned 20 last week 19 was the craziest and at the same time the worst and some of the best times of my life so far. Hopefully things will continue to get better. can't believe we're already half way through March time feels like it flys now.

>>35564457
As you get older, time will only get faster and faster. It's ridiculous how fast it becomes past 24.

>>35564302
What do you mean? So the guy just wants to go work, earn his money and not hang out with friends or girls because those people do not interest him. What is wrong with that?

ITT: 18-20yo complaining how hard life is

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>>35564531
that's actually somewhat frightening to me, is there an official phobia for this?

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>>35562133
hi anon, I'm turning 23 soon and things didn't really get any better

let me know if you have any more questions

>>35564579
Try to get a job and a girlfriend without being social.

>>35564658
If you're not social you don't want a gf because fapping is enough. With work you just fake being normal long enough to find work.

22y/o here, can confirm it really does get worse, you just become numb to it. The stress fron how shitty your life is will dissapate and you'll become just a shell of the man you once were. Enjoy speeding towards the void, it'll all be over before you know it.

>>35564712
Try getting a good job by being anti-social.

>>35562402
Approaching 25 too. Gf cheated on me in January. No gf, no job, almost 25...
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>>35565189
Who says you need a good job unless you want status and spending money to impress others?

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>>35565318
Nobody said anything, you just need a good job if you want a good quality of life and not some memed up NEET life sitting on your ass waiting for cancer to take you away.

>>35565327
Most jobs will be gone thanks to automation so well all live basic income glorious NEET lives in the near future.

At least you dont have anxiety faggots. I need to be drunk to go outside.

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>>35562133
it never gets better, only worse, much worse

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>>35565356
That is a hasty generalization.
If your ideal life is being a truck driver or working at McDonald's then I guess you're right.
But you always need doctors, lawyers, dentists, nurses, engineers, architects, teachers and the list goes on.

Settling for less is a passive commitment, and should be demonized.

>>35565365
That's because you're a faggot and your parents failed you.

For the love of god, finish school and get some work experience before it's too late

>25 turning 26
>Didn't finish school
>Never had a job
>Not done anything for five years
life is literally over

>>35565402
Settling for less is mentally better for you than longing for things you are unlikely to have.

>>35562398
Happy Birthday dude. I had my absolute lowest birthday the year before my best one. Some times you have to feel the lows to appreciate the highs.

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>all these people turning 20 were born in 1997

>>35565449
For most of those professions I listed all you need is a 4 year degree or less.
You were DOA; you don't even want to try, you're a failure.

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>>35565462
>in 1997 you were only 11 years into your life sentence and Eurodance was on the decline

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>>35565499
i was 5

oragano

Turning 24 soon.
My birthdays are still like that. Nothing changed and the years flew by.

>>35565462
>Heavens Gate Happened in 97

Turned 21 a few weeks ago.

Supposedly this is my prime age. I don't think I'll make 25 this way though. I think I'll become a druggie or smth

>>35565480
What's your point? I don't have connections or social skills so uni is an expensive waste of resources for me. I'll still be working as a cleaner except I'll have a college debt.

>>35564618
Eveverything you experience the first year is 100% of your life, 50% the second ect.

Your 20's will be as fast as going from 15 to 20 probably.

>>35565447
Are you me? (I'm already 26 tho...)

>>35565611
Hugely defeatist mind set right here.
You could always study business and start your own company. Don't be such a nigger.

I've had this kind of birthdays since I was a child; last year I went to a kfc with my mother and cousin, I ate there alone while they were waiting for me outside, the restaurant was basically empty, just me, the security guard, the cashiers and a family

A few days ago I found an old journal where I wrote about my 10th birthday, it says "today was my birthday, I had a lot of fun even though only my cousin and *name of friend* came"

when I was 12 years old only my family and their siblings came

I don't think anything will change, at least for me

27 here. It don't get better ever, you just get used to things gradually getting worse, that's the best you can hope for.

>>35562335
That sounds fucking dope

>>35562358
I don't think it got better for you. I just think you stop caring

>>35562133
It did for me.

Origi

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I turned 20 in February. While I am still a retard NEET who doesn't leave the house and is depressed, things have gotten a little better. I started talking to this girl I met online 3 weeks ago and she has made each day a little better. We are able to bond over being in similar situations, and have been a little /lewd/ with each other. While my age didn't really effect getting a cybergf, it is more just a matter of time before you meet someone anons.

>>35562133
28 as of today.
21 is better than 20. After that it's just all shit, and gets exponentially worse. Even if you're not a full robot.
T.cyborg

>>35562133

>tfw 20
>moved out of parents house for a the second time for college round 2
>5 weeks later
>same lazy suicidally depressed hiki as before

The ride never ends

>>35566515
this "girl" has a penis, don't they anon?

>>35562508
All you have to do is truly fall in love just once. When that bitch finally breaks up with you, you will be broken, and born anew. With no desire for anyone but her, that's what happened to me. I haven't been laid since the week before thanksgiving 2015, and I literally could not care any less. I haven't even tried.

>scared shitless about ageing
>tfw only 18

>>35562133
i have been 20 for almost a full year now and i turn 21 in May and all i can say is being 20 is almost no different than being 19 except the pressure to grow up gets ramped up a bit

>>35566645
I thought she might have for the first couple days maybe, but I have seen her (female) vagoo many times since then. I might be missing out on having a girlfriend (male), but I guess ill just have to stick with what I got.

>>35566673
You haven't even begun to age, you're not even done growing yet

>>35566710
Do you tell her to put things in her pooper?

>>35563899
this is a good post (original comment)

>>35566720
We have been doing a Dom/sub thing for the last week, where I have told her to do many things (one of which is finger her ass), and where I have denied her orgasm for almost all of it (going on 5 days now?). I want to try more ass stuff but I feel a little bad because she has to prepare more for that.

>>35562479
No, don't go vegan. Start killing animals in the woods, eating them, and wearing their skins. You are going to be alone forever anyway, might as well not give up your balls too dude.

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>>35562133
Its all up to you nigga.

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>>35564531
>>35564618
Stress also makes time feel like it goes faster