Self improvement thread

2) Build a habit of success and growth: This will lead to real confidence (internal) and real success(external)
a) Set a small daily task, such as 'walk for 20 minutes'. Repeat this until it is a habit.
b) Create another, such as 'clean the bathroom every day and take out the trash when I am done'. Repeat this until it is a habit.
c) When you have 3-4 of these new daily habits, make weekly habits such as 'go to the park and talk an hour walk every Sunday'
d) after 3 of these you can build 2-3 habits at a time.
You can repeat this until you change your routines to be more productive with less mental effort. You will also build the mental habit of finishing what you start and the emotional habit of success. Large accomplishments are built on small ones.

3) Expand your mental horizons. This will make you more adaptable in new situations and more able to rapidly respond to change
a) Set aside time to read every day, at least 20 minutes with 45-60 minutes better
b) Make sure you read quality works: the classics of literature (/lit/ has lists, your library does, too) and good non-fiction.
c) Keep a dictionary handy and use it as needed
d) In addition to your normal TV, replace some with movie classics
c) Listen to classic Old Time radio when travelling; this will improve your vocabulary and expose you to a broader range of conversation
As your vocabulary and verbal skills improve you will become more adept as active listening with others

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4) Make written goals and plans
a) Sit down and seriously list the two things you want that you don't have. Write them down
b) break down each goal into the broad steps you need to take the get to the result you want. Write them down.
c) Break the first step down into the sub-tasks, in order. Write them down. Keep your goals in your wallet.
d) With your new habits of getting things done, start on step one.
e) At the end of every week, review your progress on your current steps and adjust as you need.
f) at the end of the month, review the entire plan and adjust as you need.
g) at the end of the quarter review everything and change things based upon what you have learned and done.
h) repeat this until you get what you want

5) Learn better social skills
a) Join a book club at a book store and attend. You can use this to get used to being around strangers and listening to them speak. There is usually not much pressure to participate, so you can focus on watching and listening.
b) Take a one-shot adult cooking class where you are teamed up with another person. Both of you will be focused on the task at hand and will be being told what to do. By focusing on the task you can talk about the task and build confidence in speaking with strangers.
c) Join an activity group, such as a walking group, birdwatchers, amateur photographers, etc. You can speak with small groups of strangers that you share an interest with as you build confidence.
d) Join your local toastmasters. They focus on coaching people to be confident public speakers and all overcame shyness and such to become pros at speaking. They will have tons of suggestions and practical help.

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6) Learn more about women and what you actually want in a woman
a) Now that you are in these groups and more comfortable with strangers, spend time learning about other people, especially women, by asking them about themselves and then actually listening to them.
b) There are singles groups in almost every city that get groups of men and women together for joint/group activities. Join one or two that involve activities you are interested in;hiking, books, kayaking, anime, just going to dinner - whatever. Go and talk to women for no other purpose than to get to know them.
c) Join an activity group, such as a walking group, birdwatchers, amateur photographers, etc. You can speak with small groups of strangers that you share an interest with as you build confidence.
d) Join your local toastmasters. They focus on coaching people to be confident public speakers and all overcame shyness and such to become pros at speaking. They will have tons of suggestions and practical help.

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7) Get a girl
a) realize that there is no one true soulmate for anyone: any woman of decent character and shared interests will make a good wife
b) Think about what you offer to her. Are you honest or a liar? Are you reliable or a flake? can she believe that you can and will protect her, or are you cowardly? In short, if the table were turned, would you marry you?
If no, go back to step 1 and work on being honest, dependable, courageous, and just.
If yes, keep going
c) Now that you know what you are looking for in a woman realistically, start looking for women like that. You may already have an acquaintance or two. Join new groups, too.
d) Tell your acquaintances you are looking for a wife
--Why? well, you're serious, right? Why pretend otherwise? 'Looking for a wife' doesn't mean 'but I don't date or sleep with women beforehand', does it?
e) Enlist the help of women you know. Compliment them and thank them and tell them you trust their opinion. This will get the gossip on your side, not against you. They will tell you things about women you can't learn on your own before a relationship. Watch for jealousy, though.
f) Ignore concepts like 'out your league' or 'too good' as much as you do 'beneath you' and 'not good enough'. A woman who is a 5/10 who is loyal, honest, and totally in love with you is 1,000% better than a 10/10 lying cheater who hates you. At the same time, if you never even try on that 10/10 how do you know she doesn't like you?
g) keep initial dates low-key and simple. Focus on asking her about her and her interests. Really, actually listen to what she says. Ask for clarifications and for her to add to what she has already said. You are, in a real way, interviewing her.

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8) Work
a) There is no honest job "beneath" you. If the job you want requires a year of experience, get another job for that experience.
--I know a guy that started at 15 walking along roads picking up bottles for the deposits; he moved on to scrap metal. Now he owns a salvage yard and is worth $4 million
b) You work to earn money. You are not there to make friends.
c) Learn what it takes to earn more money/get promotions/etc. Make a list and goals, like above, and work on that raise and promotion even in a job you don't want to keep
d) Don't break the law or compromise your morals
9) Money
a) Make a realistic budget where you pay your bills, spend a small, reasonable amount on leisure, and set aside money for larger purchases
b) Every other nickle? Save it
c) savings should be in no fee, low tax investments whenever possible. T-bills are good for this. IRA accounts.
d) If your employer has 401(k) matching, max it out if you can. You get free money you can take with you if you leave.
e) If an investment sounds too good to be true, it is
f) used cars, consignment clothes, etc. are all best buys
A few facts to encourage you-
-The majority of people who suffer from depression respond best to Cognitive Behavior Therapy: This means that these steps will be excellent in fighting depression
-"Normies" got social skills via early experience; you can match or beat this with practice and hard work
-Most women are NOT sluts, they are much like you in general with a different outlook from biology.
-"Normies" just have good habits of action and thought; you can easily match them with effort and practice
-Most first marriages last; most women never cheat; a surprising percentage of women only ever have sex with their husband
-'Hypergamy' really means 'women don't care nearly as much about a man's appearance as they do other things'. You have a real shot at a hot GF

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>>35116621
>9) Money
>a) Make a realistic budget where you pay your bills, spend a small, reasonable amount on leisure, and set aside money for larger purchases
>b) Every other nickle? Save it
>c) savings should be in no fee, low tax investments whenever possible. T-bills are good for this. IRA accounts.
>d) If your employer has 401(k) matching, max it out if you can. You get free money you can take with you if you leave.
>e) If an investment sounds too good to be true, it is
>f) used cars, consignment clothes, etc. are all best buys
>A few facts to encourage you-
>-The majority of people who suffer from depression respond best to Cognitive Behavior Therapy: This means that these steps will be excellent in fighting depression
>-"Normies" got social skills via early experience; you can match or beat this with practice and hard work
>-Most women are NOT sluts, they are much like you in general with a different outlook from biology.
>-"Normies" just have good habits of action and thought; you can easily match them with effort and practice
>-Most first marriages last; most women never cheat; a surprising percentage of women only ever have sex with their husband
>-'Hypergamy' really means 'women don't care nearly as much about a man's appearance as they do other things'. You have a real shot at a hot GF

>daily reminder that attractive people are literally immune to sterotypes

9) Money
a) Make a realistic budget where you pay your bills, spend a small, reasonable amount on leisure, and set aside money for larger purchases
b) Every other nickel? Save it
c) savings should be in no fee, low tax investments whenever possible. T-bills are good for this. IRA accounts.
d) If your employer has 401(k) matching, max it out if you can. You get free money you can take with you if you leave.
e) If an investment sounds too good to be true, it is
f) used cars, consignment clothes, etc. are all best buys
A few facts to encourage you-
-The majority of people who suffer from depression respond best to Cognitive Behavior Therapy: This means that these steps will be excellent in fighting depression
-"Normies" got social skills via early experience; you can match or beat this with practice and hard work
-Most women are NOT sluts, they are much like you in general with a different outlook from biology.
-"Normies" just have good habits of action and thought; you can easily match them with effort and practice
-Most first marriages last; most women never cheat; a surprising percentage of women only ever have sex with their husband
-'Hypergamy' really means 'women don't care nearly as much about a man's appearance as they do other things'. You have a real shot at a hot GF

>>35116562
>Regular sleep schedule: go to bed at the same time each night, get up at the same time each morning, schedule 7.5-8 hours of sleep every night

does anyone have any tips as far as sleep is concerned

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>>35116671
9) Money
a) Make a realistic budget where you pay your bills, spend a small, reasonable amount on leisure, and set aside money for larger purchases
b) Every other nickel? Save it
c) savings should be in no fee, low tax investments whenever possible. T-bills are good for this. IRA accounts.
d) If your employer has 401(k) matching, max it out if you can. You get free money you can take with you if you leave.
e) If an investment sounds too good to be true, it is
f) used cars, consignment clothes, etc. are all best buys
A few facts to encourage you-
-The majority of people who suffer from depression respond best to Cognitive Behavior Therapy: This means that these steps will be excellent in fighting depression
-"Normies" got social skills via early experience; you can match or beat this with practice and hard work
-Most women are NOT sluts, they are much like you in general with a different outlook from biology.
-"Normies" just have good habits of action and thought; you can easily match them with effort and practice
-Most first marriages last; most women never cheat; a surprising percentage of women only ever have sex with their husband
-'Hypergamy' really means 'women don't care nearly as much about a man's appearance as they do other things'. You have a real shot at a hot GF
ILikeConsensualSex

>>35116712
If you have messed up your sleeping pattern, there are two drastic things you can do, which might come at a cost. Firstly, you could try going a whole day without sleep and sleep at the next appropriate time or just take a 2 - 4 hour nap, which would give you just about enough energy for the rest of the day, and when it comes around to bedtime you will feel as sleepy as ever.

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If you need more help join this discord server: https://discord.gg/Tb2Zb

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If you're looking for an easy way to start all this, I would highly recommend The X effect. Read this:

reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1x99m6/im_a_piece_of_shit_no_more_games_no_more_lies_no/cf9dz72/

tl;dr get some card, write what you want to achieve at the top, divide the rest into 7x7 squares, each square represents a day. Everytime you accomplish your task, cross out that day. Make it a really really easy task, so easy that it's no effort to do it daily. The main thing to accomplish here is to build that habit, you can worry about scaling it up later.

Pic related: my cards. I've gone from being very undisciplined, constantly starting and restarting attempts at fixing my shit, thinking that studying is impossible for me etc etc to being the most consistent and focused in attaining my goals I have ever been IN MY LIFE (yes a 2.5 week streak of productivity is my all time record).

The fun thing is that once the ten minutes are over you know you can stop and go do something else, but YOU DON'T WANT TO. I usually carry on for a timed 30 minute blast, have a small break and do more 30 min blasts.

Give it a shot for real, it's so easy and low effort to do 10 mins of whatever the fuck you wanna do. Start small.