Therapy

Not sure if b8 but, Bumping for interest

>>26188133
Not bait, looking back it does look like it though. In all seriousness I'm willing to help with shit though.

How do I know if I'm really depressed?

I want to kill myself because I can't get a job. Help.

>>26188202
Would you say you 'like' the feeling of being alone?

>>26188228
Well what jobs have you applied for previously?

>>26188259
not the original guy but it's ok sometimes.

>>26188327
Well okay, do you want advice too?

>>26188327
>>26188259
This. I like being alone quite a lot. I'm only around friends for one or two nights a week.

>>26188259
I don't like being in social situations, but I'm so incredibly lonely

>>26187914
I feel desperately alone.
life has become unenjoyable.
I dislike myself, but I don't feel like I have any overwhelmingly negative qualities.
I just feel alone

>>26188354
yes. am i depressed if i have thoughts of killing myself in the future? not right now but in 10-15 years. there's some stuff i want to achieve before doing it.

How do I deal with my assburgers and the self-awareness of it? I know I sperg out a lot but it's nothing compared to how harshly I criticize myself for it. I regret almost every single thing I do when it comes to communication with other people, excluding 2 family members. My tactic in the last year was basically to hide at home, avoid conversations and straight out ignore people because I don't have it in me to have a proper conversation. How do I deal with this?

>>26188369
So then, you feel happy when alone. What do YOU think personally causes you generally to be UNHAPPY? First thing that pops into your head.

>>26188371
Well that's a viscious circle...Then you have no desire to actually find companionship since you don't like social interaction, but still feel alone?

>>26188416
Well don't do that, it's obviously a bad idea.

>>26187914
I am afraid of talking to people. I feel like I bore them because I don't have anything to say and I quickly run out of things to ask them. Also I don't want to seem like a psycho who is interogating them. They also never ask me anything.
I am also afraid of approaching people because I feel like I am forcing myself onto them, they must have something better to do but then they are stuck having to talk to me and they are too polite to tell me to fuck off.
In generally I am afraid of being a burden to people.
What do.

>>26188473
Find people with common interests. Do you go to uni? If so you can find a bunch of nerds/spergs and they're generally accepting and reliable.

>>26188369
>>26188466
My lack of motivation

Get a trip for the thread PsychBro

As for me, I'm trying to figure out what "happiness" means or feels like. I can feel temporary "joy" when with my friends or when I used to play vidya, but immediately after direct contact is cut I feel numb and sad. I want to say "happiness" is something that happens internally without outside influence, but I need other people's opinions without looking like a literal inhuman robot to them.
So basically, how do you know when you're "happy"?

>>26188535
>Find people with common interests
I am talking about my class mates. Is studying together a common interest?
Most people here are completely normal. There are no spergs except for me.

>>26188369
>I'm only around friends for one or two nights a week.
FUCKING NORMIE GET THE FUCK OUT YOU FUCKING FAGGOTTT I HOPE YOU DIE TONIGHT

>>26188586
>there are no spergs except me
They're all hiding, just like I'm assuming you do too. Find or make a club of your interest, that usually drives them out. Expect ultra omega spergs though

>>26187914

>I'm a psychology major I can totally be your therapist :))))))

Why won't pseudo-psychologists just die already

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>have GAD
>blood tests and cardios are normal
>when anxious blood sugar and heart rates are all over

can anxiety cause damages to the organs? actually die from an anxiety attack?

also i can't find any bibliography about long term effects of SNRIs. if i take snris and have gad forever will my lofe expectancy decrease?

>>26188651
>They're all hiding, just like I'm assuming you do too
No, they are not, I am literally the only person sitting alone in lectures and in most of subjects I have to hand in homework alone, because I don't have a partner.
>Find or make a club of your interest
Did you come here to bait? Or are you not OP?

>>26188653
This. Get a real major, OP

>>26188544
Okay, so you want to be more motivated. That in and of itself is a good start to motivation. Were you ever generally 'happy'? I mean, when was the last time you were generally happy with life?

>>26188548
tripfags need to die :^). Try nightwalking, I was depressed and tried it, after a while it becomes peaceful and you feel some weird zen shit. That's happiness in it's essence.

>>26188586
Look around, anon. You'll see a guy on a ds or something, that's a start. What are you interested in?

>>26188653
it's basically just my own version of studying, faggot

>>26188656
Frequent attacks can be harmful. Deep breathing is the best way to go, and exposure therapy (slow bursts of what makes you anxious)

>>26188762
after all my years on here I decided I wanted to help faggots like you (and me pretty much) without being a complete cuck, so make of that what you will.

I am a degenerate tranny wat do?

>>26188797
Degenerate in what way?

>>26187914
I got a psych degree and now no one will employ me as every faggot thinks psych is actually a science, jumps on the bsc bandwagon and there are no jobs for it. Help.

>>26188813
School counsellor, human resources departments too.

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Why cant I make friends? I used to have a bunch of friends but when I got to communtiy college it got exponentally harder.

I've felt like shit for a really long time. I am constantly depressed and have random and spasmodic bouts of anger, paranoia, and intense sadness. Please help I think i'm going crazy.

>>26188835
Literally everywhere has psych majors coming out the asshole, currently working as a bank admin as did some maths courses.

Psych is genuinely the biggest meme degree of the last few years. Atleast it was easy

>>26188865
It's the lack of a normal comfort zone. You don't feel at home at comm College and are uncomfortable with the larger environment, it makes you subconsciously anxious.

>>26188544
>>26188778
I was happy as a child, but it dissipated in 4th grade if I remember correctly. I liked my classmates and everything too. I never liked school.

>>26187914
>therapist

literaly just a talking pole for normie problems robots are too structurally fucked to be "fixed" even by professionals

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>>26187914
I'm ugly af.
>How do I get a Threesome naturally?

>>26188902
Not him, but how do I gain a comfort zone then?

>>26188910
I see. So basically, you went from a happy, social child to a sort of outcast?

>>26188950
Blind chicks is literally all I can come up with. I'm no relationship guru anon

>>26188959
walk around the place, find parts you like, imagine a happy place when there, sort of think about it in your mind like a home of sorts. Comfort zones are completely just your brain, making one is simple. It's pretty easy

>>26188778
Where should I night walk. My apartment area has a curfew, the nearby park has a curfew, and I live in Suburbia, TX, so no city night walking for me.

>>26187914
I feel like the entire discipline of psychology should be replaced by neuroscience
You guys are fake doctors and you should be ashamed
From yours,
Biochem major

>>26187914
I hate life because I cant research genetics, creating an immortal super-monarch that genocides all nonwhites and leads humanity into an age of glory.

>>26189012
As someone who completely agrees with you, and has had psychology fail them time and time again, where should I turn? Neurologist?

>>26189010
what time is the curfew

>>26189012
doctors are fags and I just like helping people out mate

>>26189018
then you're just memeing yourself

>>26187914
when you like to see others in pain is there something wrong with that

>>26189072
Does it arouse you?

How would I know if I actually have aspergers?

>>26188910
>>26189007
Yeah pretty much. I was in a stoner group my senior year of hs, but before that I didn't have a clique of sorts.

>>26189067
You don't help people out though, you place dehumanizing labels on people which causes your patient and everyone around your patient to lose all respect for them should they find out. I have never in my life heard of anyone actually improving themselves through psychology/psychiatry.

>>26189093
Yes very

How do I stop myself from feeling like I'm a bad person even when I do the right thing? Y'all might hate me for this but earlier this week I submitted a tip to the FBI because my sister and her friend (both 14) were getting blackmailed by a former friend of mine (we're no longer friends after this) with nude photos of them. I was honestly shocked and though I know the right thing to do was fuck my friend over and keep him away from my sister and her friend I feel like I've just killed the guy because he's really fucked up mentally and he's only 25. I could ruin his life by alerting people he's a pedo. Please help, i feel sick to my stomach and Idk who to turn to irl. He also browses /r9k/ so I changed a few details

>>26189096
Unofficial rule is 5 online tests with all positive.

>>26189111
do you feel comfortable with people with similar interests?

>>26189121
it's frowned upon but normal as long as you don't actually hurt people. You can think what you want, doesnt make you a serial killer. It's acts that matter.

>>26187914
I don't know who I truly am.
I feel like I wear masks to try to get along with everyone, but I'm never invited to anything outside of school/ work to hang out wi them when they make plans, so I know I can only blend in enough to be tolerated.
Even in my group of people I like the most, I wouldn't be able to describe them individually if I was asked to.
I had to research body language to figure out how to interact with people, and even then I only see emotions as "raised eyebrows" or "tight lip smile"
What kind of disorder do I most likely have

>>26189134
I should probably clarify that idk how likely it is the FBI would even act on the tip with the amount of information I gave them. And my sister only confessed this to me. She hasnt told anyone else and I'm scared to tell anyone too. Wat do?

>>26189067
12am, police starts to patrol around 11

>Psych major
>thinks he has anything of value to contribute

>>26189117
That's why I'm going into it. As a kid/teen I was treated like a textbook fill in the blank by psychfags, but I feel like people seriously need someone genuine to help them.

>>26189174
When/where do you find yourself feeling calm, anon? Find calmness (night walking recommended) and think things over silently. It'll help.

>>26189207
then what's the issue, go out at 7:00-11:00 mate. Darkness is all that matters.

>>26189246
Should one only night walk alone

>>26189111
>>26189158
No. It takes a lot more than common interests to be comfortable. I'd say the biggest factor in that is how much time spent with a person. New people are usually foreign to me.

>>26189007
>suggests blind chicks
>psychology major
>im no relationship guru
>no relationship guru
>Psychology major
>relationship
>psycholgy

>>26189185
Well the tip is great, but local police are much more helpful with this stuff.

>>26189185
Should I even be asking a psychologist for help from this? Who do I go to?

>>26189284
Disregard that I suck cocks, I forgot my initial topic was whether I can experience happiness without direct joy of a company, and not just nightwalking

>>26187914
Well might give it a shot. I'm starting to feel too different from the rest of the folks I see. I'm very self-conscious but I catch myself doing some embarrassing things like singing loud or dancing or laughing because I can't see/hear myself when I'm walking with earbuds, and this is getting worse and worse. I give a shit about what the other think but I act spontaneously, I regret it all when I feel alone (which is when I'm not in the streets walking around). Overall I think I'm going nutty. How can I know for sure?

>>26189246
Astrologists fucked me over when I was a kid, so I'm gonna grow up to be a cool astrologist and help people.

It's noble that you see this problem and are trying to help, but becoming a part of it won't make things better. Psychology is a pseudoscience and the pharmaceutical industry pretty much runs psychiatry as a giant placebo moneymaker. I hope you can genuinely help a few people but you're using a pretty shitty toolset to do so.

>>26189291
Is there any way I can tip them anonymously?

>>26189288
I'm no expert, fag I'm not even through my master's degree yet.

>>26189284
at the start, unless you find someone you can share ANYTHING with

>>26189285
then to be honest you just have to suck it up and meet people, anon. Find people with common interests as I said, but stick with them. At least then you can hold a convo long enough for them to like you.

>>26188466
Social situations make me anxious and I tend to avoid them, but at the same time I crave affection and a significant other. A also tend to push people away because of my antisocial tendencies

>>26189333
Nigger you haven't even started yet.

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This is fucking ridiculous. You're a psych major, that means literally nothing--it's certainly not equivalent to actually being a licensed psychiatrist with credentials and experience. People are coming to you for help in this thread and you are not equipped to deal with their problems, yet are doing so anyway with the selfish excuse that you're "studying." These are people, not playthings. Eat shit, cunt. Come back in ten years when you actually have something to offer.

>>26189333
>>26189285
I have friends and I can make friends if I want to, but that's not the problem. The problem is that I'm lazy as shit and can't get anything done, and then I wallow in my own self hatred.

>>26189313
Completely normal. You just need to spend more time around people you like enough to not feel uncomfortable around, or if that doesnt work, just pay more attention to what you do, ie putting in one earbud instead of 2

>>26189318
Well, the issue with psychology is the idea that everyone is a case that has already been cured. I don't believe in meds, by the way. I think I can help as long as I remember the goal of this.

>>26189328
payphone

>>26189341
I went through this. Find friends online in places like chat room and work from there. It's surprising, but online interaction with people is shown to boost confidence

>>26189430
psychiatrists are cucks, know the difference. This is literally just a weird form of studying for me, mate.

>>26189432
What do you hate most about yourself?

>>26189467
How do I make friends online? I feel like I'm in a death spiral

>>26189495
Well, go to a good chatroom or mutual friends off normiebook, those are the best ways I've found.

>>26189467
I don't know where to find communities online. How do I find any good chatrooms?

>>26189536
Well, I have a few on the backburner. How much do you like vidya?

>>26189432
>>26189467
My laziness, for sure

>>26189550
I've kinda fallen out with videogames lately
Used to play all day every day before though

>>26189571
So then, would you agree that it is you yourself who is holding yourself back, or do you think that it's something else?

>>26189587
alright, well how do you feel about IRCs?

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>>26189333
>tries to give advice based on psychology knowledge
>has no psychology knowledge
I knew this was b8. Psych is psuedo science anyways. Theres no definitive way of interpreting a person's psychological complex. You simply have your bullshit theries. What next you're an evolutionary atheist?

I have the feelng when I don't get a gf before I turn 25 I will end like my father.
>He was an alcoholic (In his 20 or something)
>never had a gf
>in his thirties he went to thailand and grabbed my mother.
>he is 58 now
>i still sometines caugh him jerking of or watching porn.

>>26189615
Catcholic, actually

:^)

>>26189628
How ugly are you? Sorry to be blatant, but if you're ugly it matters.

>>26189608
>alright, well how do you feel about IRCs?
Never really tried it. How do you get started?

You keep suggesting night walking to people, assuming since you see it as some kind of therapeutic, self-exploring act. What if I work early morning shifts at a job where I quite literally do nothing, already leaving me to my thoughts for hours everyday. what if I hate my own thoughts

>>26189467
>>26189313
Well I actually spend all my time speaking to people I know on a local pub, they are treating me very kindly (more so than usual) but I can't really spend the whole day listening to them, except one occultism guy. I've had self-diagnosed depression before (tried suicide by rope but was caught in the act) and I feel much worse now, except when I'm walking around alone, I just listen to the Beatles and feel so alive, but I'm almost sure my behaviour is starting to slip away from normality. Basically I'm just really a cynical man when around friends and if they are girls I just think about fugging them. I want to be Nowhere Man but I have this itchy guilt and self-awareness that I'm throwing my normalness into the void, and I need to feel validated by girls as well. When I'm alone I just ditch all this and act like a 12yo listening to music.

>>26189608
>>26189571
Well, it's probably a combination of both. I feel like school has taken a toll on me, but I also think that I could've changed many things myself.

>>26189666
Average I'd say
I'm half asian but i look more like a sandnigger or a spanish guy.

>>26189690
Not OP, but what do you do at your job?

>>26187914
How do I overcome sexual desire?

>>26189817
Easy, have sex.

>>26189787
Lifeguard people who know how to swim and want exercise before going to their jobs.

>>26189682
literally make a name and press enter. There's a small shitty *chan ripoff called finalchan, it has an irc room linked to the top of the page. the mods are really chill and are almost always on and will to talk. Just google finalchan.

>>26189693
So, you have a 'normal' life, but still feel like shit? Would that be appropriate?

>>26189703
How close are you to finishing school? In your own case, I think you need to just try looking at the goal of whatever you want to accomplish in life. Want to do well in school, but have to pass studpid exams? Look at the goal, not the individual step. It's a basic principle you can apply to most things.

>>26189690
How so? What about your thoughts make you hate them?

>>26189768
Okay, so then if you're average you need to have some sort of trait that draws people to you. What do you think a girl would like about you? Now think about making that the biggest part of your personality and forget the rest around them until they're comfortable with you

>>26189817
what this guy said: >>26189830
you'll realize it's not that great. Or date a fat chick, you'll never want to be in a relationship again, you'll have ptsd

>>26189830
No, having sex just feeds the libido.

>>26189887
depends how many times you do it. It's like masturbating 5 times in a day, you just sort of...ache

>>26189865
>you'll realize it's not that great

I already hate it, that doesn't solve the natural desire. Jerking off is out of the question, too. I just want to kill my dick mentally

Apathic, tired, lazy af, no will to change, thinking about suciding everyday because its cool, dont know what motivation is.

>>26189865
Thanks for the help man

>>26189937
I found that putting something like "don't be a fucking degenerate" on your computer/phone lock screen can make you think before you fap.

>>26189951
which one are you, lost track sorry

>>26189944
Follow your dreams :DDDDD

No but seriously, what makes you feel happy in life

>>26189858
Well, try out going for a walk. Usually I just sit staring into distance with my thoughts, but going for a walk can often make feel okay (of course, walking around won't solve your life).

>>26190010
Should I listen to music, or is silence better

>>26190049
OP here, if you have songs you feel emotionally close to then do it.

>>26190049
not him but do not listen to music while wandering around at night. you wont hear anything coming so it is dangerous, and you will be paranoid something you can not hear will be coming. youll be really fucking jumpy and stressed out

>>26190049
Try out anything you want. I don't listen to music but that's just my personal preference.

>>26189865
>>26189693
Yeah most people don't know my powerlevel, I have a healthy group of friends even though I think most of them are not as loyal as they were. Only thing out of the ordinary is my relationship with my parents, they treat me like a piece of shit. I'm 21 and still live with them, which is relatively acceptable in southern europe. I don't want to belong anymore and I feel like finally I'm getting close to it, but it's both fascinating and scary because I'm usually very self-aware.

Girlfriend miscarried yesterday, everything feels pretty much numb. idk how to feel about anything actually

>>26190116
Be grateful your life is no longer ruined.

>>26190110
Well, don't completely isolate yourself just yet. If you find yourself comfortable isolated, then maybe that's how you're supposed to be. If not, keep doing what you're doing.

>>26190116
give it time. You can't do anything right now, you just need to process it first before you can be helped. I feel bad for you, anon.

>>26189983
I just hate the desire. I guess never relapsing is the way, I'm probably feeling an increased libido because last night I used it. "Use it, you lose it" - thanks

>>26190116
>Girlfriend

Why the fuck are you on /r9k? I know, to laugh at the misery of fully developed humans

I've seen numerous psychologists over the years. Y'all niggers don't do shit that a friend can't do.
But whatever
>diagnosed with aspergers as a child, have bretty bad anxiety
>used to sperg out in class because of it
>able to overcome a lot of it, have just finished university
>got retarded arts degree, cant find job
>thinking about handing in resumes scares the shit out of me - despite being 6'2 male, have fear of public speaking and formal situations
>at cross roads in life about what to do next now that education is over and done with
>feel like shit because I realise I should have studied something with prospects
>have no passions, only interests are learning and mindless entertainment, nothing productive
What do?

>>26190191
I figured I was in some kind of mental shock, idk I haven't even told any of my family. Or hers for that fact. We didn't even know until it happened. She was on the pill to help her period an they said it's possible to miss a period because your hormones are adjusting or something. I honestly feel more shitty the more I think of it.

>>26190216
There's lots of places you can find that give advice on abstinence and nofap. I don't know much about it myself.

Well, I say you should find an entry-level job and then while you're doing that you can hunt for a place that will take an art degree holder.

>>26190304
Well yeah, it's a lesser form of shock. Grief takes time, and right now you just need to let it sink in a bit without an hero'ing. it's hard, but you can do it. I've lost 18 friends over the years, so I know the feeling.

>>26187914
>>26187914
What would you suggest as the best way to fight self hatred? I'm not the type to go to a shring, I'd rather figure it out myself, but I guess we could exchange words here.

I'd describe my problem as such:
a) I've a passion for competitive 1v1 play. While I understand that losing is part of growing, I can't take losses very nicely if it's against an unkown opponent (online play). If I sit opposite the guys it's mostly cool, we can talk afterwards or mid-match and I can chill out, but online, when there's just one chance to win I get furious if I lose more than two or three matches in a row. This usually results in me hitting myself to cool off. I never take my anger out on surrountings, mind you. Only myself.

b) I'm fairly successful (good job, promotions on the horizon etc) but I'd rather be doing artistic work. Sometimes I bash myself with my inner voice that I don't have much time left to make real all those project I've in my head. Hatred starts randomly and hits me with the "you could work on what you want to make right now, but instead you're having fun playing games!" argument. Thus, I'm a worthless lazy piece of shit.

c) This is paired with the fact that my time of high school or even uni is in the distant memory, so I get the feeling that "you'll never have those carefree moments anymore and you're doing nothing of importance!".

Basically every second that is not spent either in the heat of work or on something absorbing (games, music, books), I feel like there's a wall in the back of my skull. Behind that wall is a torrent of new self-hating thoughs and others such. Like any day now the dam might break and I along with it. I'm functioning normally most of the time, but this unease hasn't left me for a few months now.


Currently doing gym, trying to get at least one project off the ground and thinking of starting regular meditation session (without any guide, just by myself).

>>26190367

>>26190272
middle one was meant for you

>>26190246
The misery of fully developed humans?
Don't lie to yourself man, if you were fully developed you wouldn't need to waste your life pointing out what's wrong with everyone else's. All y'all do is bitch about how people live their life, get over yourself.

>>26190399
Well I more or less am trying that at the moment. No fucking jobs around though and the idea of handing out resumes fucks me up with my anxiety.

How do I know if I have ADHD?

>>26190367
Word doc, the guidance is much appreciated.

>>26190393
Gym and meditation are both great ways to find some solace. Aside from that, as I've said to several others, nightwalking is great.

>>26190434
google it a bit, frankly I'm not expert on employment, but there's bound to be something

>>26190445
unofficial rule is 5 online tests all positive

>>26190470
Which one were you, I'm sorry I can't keep track of all the anons

>>26190497
The miscarriage, doc.

>>26190554
Oh, of course. Good luck, I hope you can find some form of peace after all this shit.

Well, I'm going to go. Might make a new thread sometime, maybe next week. This is grueling. Thanks to all who asked stuff, I hope I was helpful.

>>26190584
I'm about to be off work an back home, I think that's the peace I need right now.

>>26187914
I don't know if your legit or not, but I'll tell you all my shit anyways.

>feel like shit all the time, always tired
>awkward in social situations(quit my last job because of this)
>think about killing myself a lot
>self harm(cut myself)
>don't see the point in bothering to do anything in life
>I don't feel close to anyone even my close family, I could care less if they died
>I know I have some heart problem or something because my chest hurts a lot it comes and goes.

>>26190678
alright, I'll do this last one I guess, kek

the cutting, what good do you find in it? Do you physically enjoy pain? What, exactly, in life makes you feel happy? If you can't think of anything, when was the last time you were happy?

>>26190707
I enjoy the pain, yesterday I just played with the blood on my leg. I only feel a little happy when I'm drunk once in awhile, other times it makes me want to hurt myself or others more.

>>26190770
Okay, but when was your last happy memory discounting drunkeness?

>>26190823
I honestly can't remember.

>>26190855
Alright, but you have a genuine longing for happiness, correct?

>>26190889
Shit my trip fucked up

>>26190889
ehh I wouldn't mind it but I don't see it happening.

>>26190938
If you don't see it happening, why did you ask in the first place? General curiosity?

>>26190978
figured you might be able to tell me what's wrong with me since I'm to paranoid/scared to see a real therapist.

Fellow Psychfag here.

So you want to go into Clinical, OP?

>>26191023
Well, if you don't know what originally caused this depression of sorts then I don't know how to effectively stop it. You need to find a place where you can clear your mind and relax completely, then try to hold that feeling as much as you can and remember it. Do this regularly.

>>26191035
counseling. Working on masters degree. Wish there were more of us doing this whole r9k shit.

Is it true psychologists think psychology is a science?

>>26191080
So yeah, Clinical basically. Good luck with that. I want to go into research.

I do become dismayed when I see the amount of terrible advice being given all around the board by ignorant folk.

>>26191109
that's psychiatry. Psychology is just manipulating people's happy thoughts to overlap there own bullshit.

>>26191118
How would you rate the advice I'm giving?

>>26191146
I haven't really read much of it. Some snippets seem okay. Agreeing that Psychology, overall, is not a science doesn't help the case any.

>>26191168
It's really not, in my view.

>>26191195
Sucks you had a poor program, then.

>>26187914
Anon, I got first gf a few days ago. Turns out she had fucked three guys before she could even drive. I couldn't live with this, so I dropped her. Why do I have this problem? I only ever attract sluts trying to cuck me. Help pls.

Its worth noting I've attracted women in the past, but this is the only time I've actually gone out with one. They were all sluts too

One of the dudes you suggested me to night walk.

I've never thought of committing suicide before, I can tell you that much

>>26187914

I'm a chronic dieter. I'm not fat but I could be a lot thinner. I'm fairly muscular. My life revolves around restricting food intake dramatically, followed by periods of overeating. I've spiraled into horrible depression/anxiety over the past few years because of this, and my severe insecurity has caused issues in many other areas of life. I was raised as a fat kid but have gotten to this point (BMI 21) through intense dietary micromanagement which is making my life a living hell

>>26191260

same poster.

So the gist of it is, I don't know how to eat like a regular person (i.e I don't know how to eat on a daily basis without gaining weight)

>>26191247
Maybe you should get over yourself and live with the fact girls like sex too.
Or are you planning to only have sex with one girl too

>>26191260
Well would you rather be lazy and fat or feel like hell and be thin

I have trouble focusing and have a technology addiction. As somebody who is very competitive in school this is very time exhausting. I have gone for the nuclear option but I have no way of blocking websites on my phone so I keep browsing on it. Any advice?

>>26191296

same person

or without intensely rigid fad diets

>>26191296
Just remember that it's calorie counting, not calorie reducing, bruh. Counting calories is perfectly fine, if not healthy.

>>26188548
Not OP, but currently doing a doctorate in neuropsy.
Happiness shouldn't be considered as a goal but instead it should be viewed as a state of mind. Visualise happy people. What do they do differently? Not much, aside from either CHOOSING to be happy or being too dumb understand how they couldn't be.
Therefore, analyse yourself. How do you think? Would you, by any chances, have negative biases? If you don't know ehat I'm talking about, wikipedia it.
Hope that helps
>be yourself

>>26191299
I just want one girl and that girl to have only me. Stuff like virginal status shows you people's characters really quick.

Also, my mom cheated on my dad when I was 14. I guess that's the root of the problem. I just want some who won't betray me. But I never will and never had anyone like that.

>>26191296
Well, I used to have a similar problem--breathing. I would get self conscious about the rate and speed, and whether it was through the mouth or nose. I found that just getting some time in edgewise to relax was helpful. If you get some time to relax, you can be happier, if you can be happier, you can figure out problems without clouded judgement. I don't know the exact solution, but relaxing and clearing your mind, and becoming less self conscious is key

>>26191307
Well, is there anything bad about using technology constantly, in your view?

>>26191303

Are those really the only two options? Do naturally thin people feel like hell all the time?

>>26188656
SNRIs will kill you on the long term.
Take them ONLY if there's no other way to actually avoid suicide.
Source: my doctorate degree in neuropsy.

>>26191446

What about SSRI?

>>26189012
Neuropsych is where its at.
Although without a multidisciplinary approach, most neuropsy are shit at interacting with their patients (they're evaluators, not problem-fixers)

>>26191446
Kill you? You mean that literally? How do they do that.

>>26191401
That's not really the problem. I cant get myself to put down my fucking phone when I should be studying. Even when I manage to put it down the urge to just pick it back up really distracts me. I've fought long and hard against everything that could bother my efficiency at home but my phone addiction just will not quit.

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Lost both arms, can no longer masturbate

>>26191510

get rid of the phone

>>26191394
From my experience, past sex life has no correlation with how faithful they will be. Maybe an experienced girl had so much sex because she felt so connected each time but it didn't work out in the end, or she's a sex hungry cunt willing to do it anytime despite being taken. Or the virgin can cheat on you just to "experience other guys", or be the perfect waifu meme. Countless other situations, but pretty much It's all about the same chances in the end.

>>26191630
I've tried this. Stuffing it somewhere a pretty reasonable distance and turning it off. But the addiction, which is likely what it is, just distracts me to the point where I just have to check it then start browsing for 30 or more minutes. If I could just get rid of this problem I can shave off hours of wasted time in a day.

>>26191714

I mean really get rid of it. Throw it in a river. Get a pay-as-you-go. You can live without a phone. Just do it. It'll be cathartic

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>Posting in this thread
>Taking OP seriously

>>26191738
I really couldnt. This thing has not only saved my life, but also is great when used in moderation. It's a valuable convenience but the damn internet browser is just the worst.

>>26191645
I guess so. I just want a genuine loving relationship. How do I get?

I think I'm depressed but I'm not sure. How can I actually tell?

>>26191805

>justifying the addiction

>>26187914
I don't know if there is any thing you can say to help but whatever
>I feel no empathy towards others
>I have never felt love towards others
>I hate everyone I meet
>I have severe depression I some times spend all night crying and thinking about killing myself
>I hate getting help from others
>I hate people caring me
So thats whats going on with me like I said you probably cant help

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>>26188778

The only time when I'm happy is when I'm working out or creating things.

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>>26191914

Please read the Tao De Jing, ChuangTzu and Lieh Tzu. I used to be in your exact same position but Taoism has saved my life

>>26191951
I forgot to add that I'm perfectly fine with my situation and I have accepted the fact that I will one day kill myself and I will never be happy

>>26191859
b ur self
seriously, if you want them to love you for you and vise versa, it's the only way.
Unless you have more than a couple viewpoints that today's generation would call sexist, I'd keep that locked up

>>26192024
Fuck off the reason we are all in this position is that we are autistic spergs incapable of holding a conversation so
> le jut bee ur self
Is fucking bullshit

>>26191805
Get a text phone, it's what I did. Only being able to connect to the Internet when at home really didnt help since I found other ways to waste my time. If you get rid of the phone, you'll find a way to not do whatever it is you subconsciously don't want to do. Fix the root of the problem then the phone won't be an issue anymore

>>26192065
Well I've got myself a clingy gf for 3 years that has no other friends or connections by just bing myself, a clingy person who also has no other friends or connections :^)

Whats the difference between majoring paychology and studying for a psychology degree? Non-american here.

>>26191999

no you're lying otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

>>26192125
I'm not talking about friends or connections Im talking about pure levels of autism that if they were ever released anyone in a 50 foot radius would be incinerated

>>26192188
What else am I going to do with my time
Also trips don't lie

I spent my whole life wondering what my father likes about his wife and today it suddenly hit me
>what if he just loves her?
Then I realized I've never considered love in any of my thoughts for my whole life except when I was watching anime. I used to think not having emotions was useful, but maybe that is the reason I am not happy? That I don't feel love?

I'm sure I could fall in love with a girl if something romantic happened, but I don't love my family, friends or everyday shit.

>>26192214

read a damn book

>>26187914
What does it mean if someone finds live trivial and pointless and doesn't actively seek death buy they won't stop it from coming their way

>>26192491
An 18 year old

>>26192491

going with the flow

>>26187914
I have difficulty maintaining eye contact. Also, making eye contact and talking at the same time.

>>26187914
>bastard son
>parents divorced and regularly reminded me that I'm the reason they are poor and unhappy
>told that my mother never brestfed or held me as a child, father only talked to me when I needed to do something for him or when I fucked up that task
>my only friends prior to high school was hot wheels and legos because I was seen as the weirdo
>also moved 7 times before turning 10, went to a total of 13 schools before HS
>step-brother died when I was 8 from brain cancer
>first friend I had was emo sadgrl
>she killed herself in front of me 3 months after first meeting
>7 family members killed themselves in past 5 years [won't go into detail about them, but I found 5 of their bodies]
>bullied all through school for being socially retarded tall white ginger in Bay Area, California
>tried killing myself 3 times, hospital saved me twice, father stopped me the third time and beat me for being a faggot pussy
>kicked out the day I turned 18
>homeless for 2 years
>go to community college
>everyone from high school acts like I was most popular kid around
>diagnosed Schizoid Personality, OCPD and OCD
>daily dreams of being tortured in a Hellraiser-type way isn't normal I guess
>it's not good for me to dream those either, so I take down 400ml of vodka a night to not have those dreams
>tell few trusted people about my alcoholism, they laugh about it

Just fuck my shit up

What's up with my views on sex? Last year I realized that I view sex as more of an obstacle than a goal. What I want out of a relationship is emotional intimacy. Sex is secondary. How do I become more comfortable with sex? I feel like my reservations about it are why I have trouble with girls.

Also how do I fix social anxiety?