Is Love Racist? The TV show laying our biases bare.

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>The reason this programme will prove controversial with large swathes of the white population is because it’s hard for them to accept how deeply racism is embedded in society. For those of us who have experienced it, it’s easy to see how it bleeds into dating and back again. As Baroness McGregor Smith says in the show, “If you’ve got preferences, I don’t think they would be different in your personal life than your work life.”

>They will also struggle with the idea that, generally speaking, this problem only goes one way. A black person deciding not to date a white person in the UK is far less common. According to the survey, 35% of white people said they would never date a black person, whereas 10% of black people wouldn’t date a white person. Racism is based on power structures, and this is really looking at white privilege when it comes to dating: there’s not space for a lot else once it’s established how much more desirable white people are viewed in UK society. Being the standard of beauty to the degree where you have a worldwide skin lightening industry that accounts for billions of pounds should not be discounted.

>Even so, some key topics are glossed over – such as proximity being a factor in who we date. It seems obvious that with white people being the dominant race in the UK, more people of colour have to be open to dating them. Islamophobia and racism towards Muslims (no one wanted to date a guy called Mohammed, apparently), and the massive degree to which East Asian women are fetishised, aren’t covered in any depth either. “I have a thing for Asian girls,” says one idiot right at the start of the show. “They are more submissive.”

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>It also annoyed me that cheeky lad stereotype “25-year-old Jordan from Southampton”, one of the singletons, is given props for not being a racist – or, to be clear, not having racial bias – even though he actively articulated the fact that he had ruled out dating mixed-race women. There wasn’t enough focus on the external influences that guide our choices; I wanted to hear more about how our colonial history has always placed people of colour beneath white people in the racial pile or, alternatively, exotified us to the degree that we’re caught in a double-bind of desirability being hinged exclusively on race.

>Nevertheless, the premise the show ended on made sense: that dating apps which allow users to easily filter by race – whether that be swiping left on every black guy you see on Tinder, setting your Match.com profile to view all Asian women or actually establishing a (genuine) site called wherewhitepeoplemeet.com – are leading to more pronounced dating segregation. We’ve known this for a while: 2014 data from OKCupid showed that Asian and black men received fewer messages than white men, while black women receive the fewest of all users. Similar patterns were repeated on sites like Are You Interested.

>It seems that, despite the first gay Muslim marriage and more mixed race people being born than ever before, British people need to start tackling their prejudices when it comes to who they’re willing to open their heart to. Love itself ain’t racist, but trust me, you probably are.

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