/acegen/ asexuality general

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>>8831352
So, how hard and awkward are social interactions if you're assexual?

I mean, i've never found interest in sex, (Too submissive to dom someone, no pleasure in using my gross genital and no pleasure from anal) and i'm taking hrt as a femboy, entirely for looks. I hope people don't keep hitting me wanting my boypussi...

>>8833283
A lot of the time they're better. It's easier to respect everyone equally and not make stupid decisions. Attraction and repulsion are illusions, and on those occasions where you're expected to express those feelings, it's always better to fake it than to express genuine feelings that don't match those of your social circle. You can pretend to be straight as an arrow or queer as you can imagine, depending on what will win you more praise from the people around you. And if just being a social chameleon isn't your thing, you can also take pride in having more moral integrity than non-aces, because attraction will never influence your behavior. You can do what's right even to the unfuckable, because to you everyone is unfuckable.

>>8831352

>posts picture of someone looking at porn for /acegen/

What did you mean by this?

Also, for asexuals who look at porn, what do you look at? Do you try to find videos with hilarious cringe dialogue? Do you laugh at the fail compilation videos?

>>8835162
>strangers on the internet pressuring you to cyber edition
Look at the text in the email and the look on her face.

Anyway, some asexual people look at porn and plenty masturbate. The only thing they all have in common is that they don't desire to have sex.

>>8831352
>strangers on the internet pressuring you to cyber
Hahahahahahahaha How The Fuck Is That Real Hahahaha Nigga Just Walk Away From The Screen Like Nigga Close Your Eyes Haha

>>8833283
>I hope people don't keep hitting me wanting my boypussi...
teehee silly boys quit hitting on me

>>8835162
Mostly s/M, I like people acting all desperate

Guys, have you seen the new season of BoJack? Holy fuck.

>>8833283
Are you me?
>>8835162
I don't watch porn, but I think a lot of aces that do are into kink stuff.
>>8835303
Quality post.

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>>8839376
>Holy fuck
Why, because /spoiler/ Todd is ace?

>>8839376
Watched the first three episodes. Todd's episode is great.
>>8842889
Well, yeah. I thought they were gonna drop the thing after that but ~*spoiler~* they actually said the a-word.

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>>8842952
They do far more than merely say it...

>>8843940
>these are the types of people you'll meet at an ace meetup

>>8843943
I wanna meet an axolotl

There's a thread on /x/ about how to cure asexuality, which apparently is caused by an energy deficiency in the second chakra...

>>8831352
>Where can I find my qt3.14 ace bf/gf?
>asexual
>bf/gf
what did they mean by this

>>8844128
Basically a best friend you can kiss. Or that screenshot story of that one Christian married couple who refused to have sex even after marriage.

>>8844106
Fuck, it's all so obvious!

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>>8844141
Here, found it. It's satire but I think it can apply to us... sort of

>>8844147
>>>/x/19567846
Still up kek

>>8844128
>>8844141
Some people feel romantic feelings towards others.

Can someone still be asexual if for instance they're into something as vile as scat?

>>8833283
>So, how hard and awkward are social interactions if you're assexual?

they are not? women expect more from you but quickly get over your lack of interest
people might think you are gay and sometimes ask why are you still alone, friends or especially relatives can get naggy with it
but then Im not autistic so I have no problem socially, I've had good friends both male and female

sounds like you trans, so I hope transition will make you feel better about your body and make you comfortable with intimacy

>>8845749
Close, they can be anallosexual, pun intended.

>>8845773
>sounds like you trans
STOP.

>>8844128
people still want a partner and close relationship just no sex

>>8845773
She's a """femboy""", of course she's trans.

>>8845794
genital dysphoria so you can scratch the 'boy' part

>>8845794
>>8845802
omg stop. you can have genital dysphoria without being trans.

>>8845813
>implying an hsts is on /tttt/

>>8845822
i don't even understand what you're trying to say here

>>8845828
That you have genital dysphoria and the trans.

>>8845813
maybe but then you dont start taking female hormones to look like the opposite gender

>>8837612
Interesting. What do you like about it?

>>8839376
New season in out?
>>8843940
And this is why I'll never meet up with you fags

Why is it so difficult to find an asexual man? It's like they don't exist.

>>8850585
Hi.

>>8850588
Hello :3

>>8850585
>It's like they don't exist.
they exist, but i wouldn't be surprised if they were less common than asexual women. men have more testosterone. your hormones influence your physiology and your physiology, over time, influences your psychology. there are other factors, but it absolutely plays a role. that being said, 4chan is male-dominated, so you're statistically more likely to find asexual men here.

>>8850585
We're very good at hiding.

>>8850585
asexual man here, hello, we are rare. im like 80% gay too so its real fun trying to find a man to cuddle and watch movies with. being in canada doesnt help.

So do asexuals not have romantic relationships? I find it hard to imagine.

>>8852639
Some do some don't.

>>8852012
>im like 80% gay too
are you comfortable being around a hypersexual homo environment?

>>8853010
If not looks, then what would draw them to another person? Would it be spending lots of time with a person? If so what draws the line between friend and partner? I'm curious.

>>8854656
You can be aesthetically attracted to someone without wanting to fuck them.

The difference between friends and partners is that you have romantic feelings for a partner.

Are allos all this dumb? Do none of you ever think about your feelings?

>>8854782
you sound like such a fag

>>8854784
Hee hee good one, anon xD

>>8854782
>Are allos all this dumb? Do none of you ever think about your feelings?
They don't need to think about that sort of stuff because it comes naturally for them. Maybe we're the dumb ones.

>>8856057
This person didn't know the difference between friendship and a romantic relationship if you take away the fucking. Nah, I don't think I'm the dumb one.

>>8856901
The difference between love and friendship when you take the fucking away is how much you're willing to lie to yourself to pretend you care about about that person.

>>8856926
>relationships are about sex xdddd
Grow up, retard.

>>8856926
I'm sorry for any future "romantic" partners you have.

>>8856926
You sound like my kind of miserable asshole

>>8854605
aka gaygen, so no

>>8856901
Ok, yeah. I thought about it again and you're right.

This will probably get the standard "go back to tumblr" response but here it goes anyway!

> 20/M
> never had a relationship
> khv
> never speak about anything remotely sexual to anyone ever online or irl
> feel sexual attraction towards women and men and the usual stuff
> can't picture ever speaking or acting sexually with another person beyond wild fantasy
> strong compulsion to resist talking about sex or relationships for as long as I can remember
> shutdown any kind of sex or relationship conversations as soon as they come up even when I don't really want to

What's wrong with me? Is there a word for it? It has been a question that's been nagging at me since I was 13 or so and everyone at school began their lewd talk. Sorry to invade /acegen/ with this, but I feel pretty alien as a result of this and wonder how it will affect me as I grow older.

>>8861123
I'm the same way. I'm sexually attracted to people, but I have no intention of ever having sex. I think celibate is the right term for it. When people ask I just lie and say I'm asexual because I don't want to explain.

>>8861123
Do you ever fantasize about being a woman?

>>8861165

This sounds very similar. When the standard

> So do you have a girlfriend yet anon?

Question comes up I usually just try and dodge the question the best I can. Sometimes people get awkward as a response and think that I'm gay. The whole thing's a giant mess.

>>8861178

Uh...I remember getting very uneasy about masculine features developing when I was younger. I try and remove all facial hair and in a sense try to minimize most of my masculine features. I don't know if I've ever fantasized about being a woman though. I've thought about what it would be like to transition for a long time, but don't think I have any dysphoria.

>>8861123
>how it will affect me as I grow older.
I'm (>>8861165) 26, by the way. It doesn't affect me. It only comes up when people who have known me for a couple years start to wonder why they've never seen me show any interest in anyone.
scenario 1:
>"are you gay?"
>"no"
>"oh, okay"
scenario 2:
>"have you ever had a girlfriend?"
>"no"
>"why not?"
>"i'm asexual"
Sometimes they'll be nosy and ask me to explain what asexuality is, then declare that asexuality doesn't exist. I imagine that would be more frustrating for someone who's actually asexual.

>>8861178
Quit trying to make everything about trans people.

>>8861226

I usually stop just short of saying I'm asexual. I've found various ways of just avoiding the topic all together depending on who I'm with. Old uncle type relatives usually get the

> I don't have time for that kind of stuff he

Response from me, which may or may not lead to an even more awkward exchange. Strangely, my mom has mentioned that she thinks I'm asexual a couple times over the last few years. She usually says to other people

> He's never going to get married or have children

but says different things to me.

I find myself browsing ideal mate threads, but always think of what it would be like to respond to people and very rarely ever do it. When I do respond I always make it clear that I'm just looking for friends.

It's a strange feeling that I don't even know how to explain. I think that celibate works, but I think that implies some degree of autonomy, which I don't think that I've fully had.

You two are disgusting. Deal with your issues and fucking accept yourselves.

>>8861427
How is any of that disgusting?
>Deal with your issues and fucking accept yourselves.
I don't have any issues. I'm perfectly happy the way I am.

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prove to me that "asexual" and "incel" aren't synonyms
[spoiler]you can't[/spoiler]

>>8861123
If you think it could be that you've internalised some negative views about sex that are causing the dissonance between your attraction and your actions, you can always try seeing a therapist. If you're happy with your current situation, I would say not to sweat it. Not necessarily having a word to describe how you feel doesn't negate it. And maybe you do fall on the asexuality spectrum somewhere!

>>8862290
There are aces who have sex. QED.

But congrats on your bait, got me to reply.

>>8861514
>I'm perfectly happy the way I am.
Then why do you lie and tell people you're asexual?