How do you not feel ashamed of being gay?

>>8428947
>looking down at the submissive partner.

do you look down on women?
why would you look down on a man in a woman's role?
nobody wants to think about what you do in bed.
you are being too paranoid and sensitive.
get rid of the gynophobia.
women are cool

Everyone poops.
Every person you have ever met has pushed a big stinky turd out of their buttholes.
Every single person has had stinky gross shit smeared between their cheeks and had to clean it off themselves.
The majority of them have actually enjoyed doing this because it feels good to them.
They have all done this over and over and over.
We all get out of bed, go in public, and look at each other in the eyes knowing that we're all just waiting to squeeze out a dookie.

We're all only human.
Everyone who judges you for who and how you fuck is just full of shit.
Don't make such a big deal out of it.

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>>8429004

>>8428947
pretend you're trans for a while then realize it's not a big deal

>>8429045

no

>>8429020
How does he look so fem? holy shit

>>8429568

hrt

>>8428947
Get a life.
You'll stop caring what people think.

>>8428947
>tall
>being seen as the bottom
???

bring down a midget and the first thing they'll ask is how much did it hurt?

>>8431719

im very lanky and thin though. i dont look very masculine, and im mostly into guys who are more masculine than i am.

i just cant imagine introducing a boyfriend to my parents, they'd just think "oh he fucks our son"

>>8431813
When you llook at your dad do you think "oh he fucks my mom"?

>>8431829

no but gay people are intrinsically "different" and they'd probably instantly see the contrast between their thin son and relatively muscular boyfriend

>>8428947
damn it feels good to be a masc top

>>8428947
>It just feel like to normal people there is no love in a gay relationship
maybe start with stop calling straights "normal" and start calling them what they are: heartless monsters.

unfortunately there's no way to solve this problem in foreseeable future. Straightscums are inherently unable to empathise and your fear of being reduced to a sex position is founded in a sad reality.

You just have to grow thick skin and learn how to live with ~95% of the world being hostile in varying degree to you. It's doable.

>>8431849
your parents are gay?

>>8432060

no but i know they'd see me as the bottom.

even my mom thought i was a bottom when i told her i was gay

>>8428992 >>8431829

its fucking heteronormativity
its natural for women and 100000% universally accepted
but its not for men, men are not allowed to deviate at all, cant even dress differently without being called a fag by some idiots

>>8432075
are you a bottom?

>>8428947
it starts with inner self worth and laughing at those who judge you on their external appearance wth words like better

humanize yourself anon. derrive pleasure from yourself. humans r pure animals.

>>8428947
Your family morals are keeping you anxious and ashamed. Ditch the bad morals and move on, fuck being ashamed of anything you've ever done.

>>8432113

yes..

>>8428947
It's a shame to be a bottom, not a top.

If my dad saw I was the top, if get a pat on the back for making another man my bitch.

>>8432267

yeah i dont want to look like someone else's bitch to my mom or dad

>>8432250
so you don't want your mother to see who you are but rather you want to make her believe an untruth about you.
why not just stay in the closet then?
why even come out?
why not just tell them that he is your straight male totally masculine "friend" that you go hunting and fishing with and play footy with?

>>8432303

i just dont want to be seen as submissive to my family. i dont want to cut them off from my life though

>>8432315
Why would you be seen as submissive? Are you going up to your dad and saying "yeah I take the dick, he makes me his bitch every night"? If not, then they won't give a fuck whether you're submissive or dom. Only delusionals who watch way too much incest porn think the world think your dad is going to totally fist bump you for being the dom one.

>>8432328

no. just like. imagining at a holiday dinner or something with family and they'd see me and my boyfriend and the contrast between the skinny kinda feminine one and the clearly more masculine one sitting right next to their son.

i just dont like the idea it gives off

>>8432315
well then don't be submissive.
or hide the truth.
you can't really be yourself if you're ashamed of being yourself, can you?

>>8432355

no, but isnt it more of an appearance thing anyway?

>>8432355

and my mom was disappointed/mad enough as it was when i told her i was gay

>>8432342
Why would they be imagining you two fucking and in which positions? Are they into that shit bruv?

>>8432432

no, but what would you think if your skinny fucking son brought home a more masculine man than him saying he was his boyfriend?

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>>8432413
>i told her i was gay

so she already thinks you take it up the ass.

>>8432450

no. i doubt she even thinks about it. she didn't take it well anyway.

>>8432439
I'd think "I remember all those twinky from guys who topped me", but that's just me.

I'm reality your family will just have to accept you for who you are. It's not going to be quick. Those of us with super accepting families are thankful for those of you whose families aren't, but there's no way around it. They simply have to grow accustomed to it. The fact that you weren't kicked out of their lives for coming out means they'll tolerate a bf too.

>>8432432
heteros are just like that; they are literally too stupid to understand that there other models of relationships than theirs so they reduce it to sex positions

>>8432471

maybe. she already reacted horribly to me being "apparently" gay. i just dont want to be seen as submissive / taking it to my parents

>>8428947
Okay anon, I'll be blunt

The more serious question is why are you ashamed of something you can't change? Why be ashamed of who you are? You really should learn not to worry about what people think of you.

>>8432558

because i dont really like who i am to begin with?

>>8432586
And so that has nothing to do with being gay, that has to do with the root of your being.

>>8432596

if i wasnt gay this wouldnt be a problem

>>8432075
>even my mom thought i was a bottom when i told her i was gay
did she tell you that? or she just assumed that all gays get fucked in the ass?

>>8432439
I'd be happy for my son finding a good man
but thats me lol

>>8432649

she told me how bad anal sex is for people.

>>8432678

:I

>>8431813
>im very lanky and thin though.
You're tall so everyone thinks you're the top.
It's practically hardwired into their brains.

Only lgbt people know better.

>>8432739

what would you think if you saw a tall twink with little body hair and a similar height boyfriend who was also tall but more masculine.

from a straights perspective

>>8432763
>similar height boyfriend
>similar height
You gotta find someone significantly smaller.

>>8432778

im 6'3 he's 6'4

>>8432786
Have fun being seen as the bottom bitch boy for the rest of your life.

>>8432808

why? how do i change?

>>8432551
Too bad. You wanted to know how to accept being gay, not how to stop being gay. The first step to not being ashamed is to just fucking let people know.

>>8432811
Either become way taller than him, or replace him with a 5'6 guy or something.
or have it known that you have the bigger cock.

>>8432586
>>8432630
You're just talking in circles. You don't actually want advice, you just want to bitch and have strangers on the internet take pity on you.

>>8432832

isnt an inch not noticeable

>>8432845
Well people will notice eventually.

>>8432867

i dont want to be the bottom bitch boy though.

and i dont really have a big dick, and how would you even bring up saying i had a big dick.

>>8432845
its not huge of deal I think
it will be more cringe if you act more like his girl, if you both act as regular guys it will be fine and your family wont be judging and thinking less of you

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>>8428947
One day I saw a guy so beautiful my heart stopped and I felt like I couldn't be ashamed of liking him.

I'm a vers, even tho I'm mostly on the delicate side I don't feel inferior because nothing puts more confidence in yourself than going through some hard times.

>>8432922
>i dont want to be the bottom bitch boy though.
Should have dated someone smaller then.

>how would you even bring up saying i had a big dick
Not you, the bf.
Word will spread out.

It's all PR management.
having a short bf means people will see you as the top.
When you're known to have a big dick people will see you as the top.
nce you established your public image as being the top in the relationship, it will stay that way even when a new bf comes along.

Only strangers need some convincing though because they don't know much about you yet.

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>>8432922
dude, by telling people you are gay they already picture you on your knees sucking cock and taking it up the ass doggy style

deal with it

>>8432990

how do i make them not think that

>>8433095
turn back time
then don't come out of the closet

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>>8433095
People won't think you're a subby bottom bitch if there are no people.

>>8433114

im not THAT submissive

i just dont want people to think im a submissive bottom person

>>8433136
either way you should kill everyone who knows.

>>8433095
you can't

that's why straights are best to be avoided if possible

>>8433136
then dont act like one

>>8433152

how would you know how i act in real life

>>8433199
Your typing style, and the fact you care about this at all for starters.

>>8433199
I've seen your selfies, gaylord

>>8429004

>t. Freud

But you're not wrong in my estimation.

>>8428947
My parents know I'm
The bottom but I know how you feel op even my doctor when going in for a routine check up and to check to see if I have fissures asked if I have anal sex and for me to stop doing that how the fuck did he even know I'm not even flamboyant just look gay as fuck.

>>8433785
I'm guessing the bleeding anal fissures were a tiny clue.

>>8433785
lol I still laugh when I remember the smirk on the doctors face when he was checking me in the hospital. he didn't say anything tho
I was like 16 back then

Its really easy to tell - people who do anal lose sphincter reflex (normally it contract really hard when you touch it)

I'm a masc bottom.

Easy to function in the world and when my boyfriend is with me I just melt into his soft submissive boyfriend

>>8433815
I can't stop laughing at this and the anon who asked how the fuck did he know

I mean as long as you go to confession every Sunday and tell your priest what you do everything should be okay

>>8434039
I don't even go to church lol

>>8428992
umm, regardless of how he looks at women, the fact of the matter is that the society will respect you less if they think you are the submissive partner

>>8434074

how do you get respect if you look like the submissive partner?

>>8434639
are you OP?
are you not tired of listening to the same shit?
either be way manlier than a taller bf or be taller than your bf

the problem is that you probably want a taller and manlier bf to begin with, cuz you are a bottom

your family doesnt have to meet your bf
and you are just going to have to make peace with knowing different people will lose varying amounts of respect for you for thinking you are a bottom
also, you probably overestimate just how much respect they'll lose
they'll lose some respect, but the amount of respect that they lose will be dwarfed by just how little they care to begin with?

>>8434670

no one wants to be seen as a cocksucker

>>8429568
Makeup.....

>mfw gays have to not only come out as gay but come out as a bottom
lol the fun never ends

>>8434714
No, just people with severe self esteem issues give a fuck. The rest of us realize that the only people who can't disassociate gay people in society from their most depraved sex acts are homophobes, who will dislike you even if you were a manly top.

The rest of society doesnt think about gay men sucking dick any more than they think about straight women doing it. Stop being so paranoid about what other people think of you.

>>8436215
Yet another female privilege women have.