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>>8416000
>I've gone from a shy clever child to a true adult - from living with my uncle and riding my bike to work to a homeowner if a few short years.
That's heartening.

>I've learned on how to carefully craft the perception of me, and have put myself in a position where if im the one in the room - they turn to me for direction.
How have you done that? What makes you key to the company?

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>>8416025
>How have you done that? What makes you key to the company?

its a big of a long story, but basically -
I gained the trust and respect of my bosses. I passed all of there "test" proving myself to be responsible ect. And when nobody else could step up i did.

The i quit for more money, and came back again for even more.

And when i came back, all they talked about is how much better things are flowing and how much the mood of the room im "in control of" is now. I played poker with some of the managment and have been told that im going to get employee of the year and am constantly being pushed by a father figure to me for a promotion.

>>8416000
There are obviously exceptions to every rule, but staying in the same job after you've transitioned is not generally a good idea. You could make a hell of a transition, to the level where you could live life outwardly as a cis female (rather than a transwoman), but if you stay in the same job, no matter how convincing or thorough your transition, the fact that your coworkers know you're trans can make you doubt the success of your own transition, and prevent you from living your life as the 'woman' you want to be (since we all really want to live life as a woman, not a transwoman, regardless of whether it's a realistic ambition or not).

If what you say is true, and you've managed to maintain a position of such reverence and authority despite painting your fingernails and having your masculinity questioned, then I think it's fair to say you have innate characteristics which will make you an equally effective leader in a different company. The sort of respect you've described being given, isn't generally given just because someone knows the nuances of a particular area (ie. they're a specialist) - it's usually given only if you know your shit AND you have the other virtues necessary to lead and manage successfully. So, with that being said, it sounds like you'd be able to get to exactly the same position in a new job, post transition, even if it's in another industry which requires you to spend a little while building up specialist knowledge of that industry (but that's easily achievable, whereas your other qualities are innate, and will go with you to your new job).

Remember, successful trans people do exist. You just tend to not here anything from them once they have transitioned and made it in life, because they're too busy being happy and successful, just like anyone else.

>>8416071
Maybe your father figure would be happy with a surrogate daughter instead of a surrogate son?

>>8416091
He has two daughters and is an extremely devout Jehovah's Witness. He sees me as some form of a successor. I don't know what will happen with our relationship since he has been my biggest supporter since day one.

>>8416086
That was the conclusion I had come to. But i feel like doing that would be some form of running and hiding. I feel like, if i do this - i need own up to it. I need to show people exactly what i am, not try to hide it. But, i guess i should expect the worst if anything is going to work out then.

>>8416159
Maybe a career-focused male-acting girl will be enough like a son that he'll still support you?

>>8416159
Do what you have to do, anon.
Do not let others deny the true you.

Don't be stuck in the hell that I am of repression.

>>8416000
I talked with one mtf who transitioned without coming out as long as it was possible, she was hiding it and then lying that all the changes come from diet or something (she also lost weight). After ~6 or so months it became impossible to keep keep secret and she could already present female she had to change place of work. It was impossible to maintain normal working relations and for some people it was too much of a mindfuck. I think she was in Canada if it matters.

>>8416320
im going to do it. I just wasn't sure if i had to say goodbye to this job. I guess so.

>>8416452
I've come out to a few people at work, one of which im renting a room to. None of them really understand it, but i think i already have a reputation for being girly. I can only hope that it will all work out, but i should start preparing for the alternative.

>>8416000
You can be who you want to be. You should be able to continue being successful where you are if you want to.

http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TSsuccesses/TSsuccesses.html

>>8416452
>It was impossible to maintain normal working relations and for some people it was too much of a mindfuck.
(OP) Remember you are a key person at your job. My sister is VP of Software Development at the company she transitioned at. Without her the company would at best limp along, and no longer be a market leader.

>>8418583
>Software Development
That's the reason her coworkers were so accepting. A good portion of software developers grew up on the internet. They learned early to value people's words and actions over how they look.

>>8418583
You and your sister are both mtfs?! Who came out first?

>>8418603
She's a pre internet SW developer like me. Good software developer managers are able to recognize competence in the designs and code written. I'm also top notch SW developer, but I'm owner of my own company that I built up around the software I wrote.

>>8418649
I came out to her, and then she came out to me in the same phone call. She started her transition first, but only by a few months.

>>8418671
How close are you in age? How did the phone call go?

>>8418701
Fairly close. It went very well. We are both very reasonable persons.

>>8418729
No surprise that you understood each other's feelings. But was there any "I thought so, <sign> made me think you might feel the same as me!" or "But you never did <feminine thing I did>?!"?

Was she already planning on coming out to you soon or did you coming out prompt it? Did you come out together to other family members?

Why did she start her transition earlier?

Why not just take hormones until you get to a point where you comfortable acting more feminine?

>>8418795
you usually get tits before you can afford ffs

>>8418757
From comparing our lives, I definitely did a lot more feminine things when young, but I also hid them very well from the family. I wouldn't say I saw anything in him. He was a heavy reader when young. I was the thinker. He read stories, I created them in my mind.

I never asked him what his plans were. When I called him, I'd already told mom and dad. They took it well. It will be a riot when we tell the relatives. The two most successful among all the cousins are both trannies.

>>8418879
What were the things you did and hid?

>>8418895
playing dress up with the girls down the street is just one of many.

Do your best to make it work where you are, otherwise it's like giving up for no reason
Be transparent about it, make sure others realise you're still putting the company first. If you communicate well it'll probably be fine

>>8418671
op here and lol, i suspect my brother is also trans as well. He has always been the "pretend to be macho" type, even though when i was questioning my sexuality and stuff as a child, i heard him talking to a girl on the phone about him questioning himself as well. And he would never admit that kind of stuff to me. Now he's not homophobic anymore, but he is acting trans-phobic. So i think its only a matter of time until he comes out as trans or something.

I guess im afraid he's a transtrender in the making, becouse hes just so reactive to everything - never really thinking proactivly.

>>8416000
>seems like its going to destroy everything ive been doing.
It absolutely is. Yes. Let's not kick about. You have to only transition if the benefits seem to outweigh that destruction.

>>8418583
wow, looked through all those successes. Almost every single one said "transitioned young".

Not much hope for us older types. Young transitioners always win :(

>>8420351
Both me and my brother transitioned late. We might not look the greatest, but we do look female, and neither of us had any hickups career wise when we transitioned.