How do I stop being bi/lesbian?

>>8241909
The gay life is a terrible one. I am blessed to be a woman because I think our sexualities are easier to change. But I don;t know where to start, and I don't know what I'd do if I met a woman in the future who might actually want a relationship with me. I'm torn.

Also I've quit porn and drugs completely, which has helped me to clear my mind. But actually I used to watch mostly straight porn and now my lesbian thoughts are stronger than before.

tl;dr how do I like men more and stop thinking about women? I just want to be normal and happy.

>>8241910
>>8241909
There are drugs to suppress sex drive, which will cause you to essentially be asexual. High dosages of SSRIs, higher than is normally used for depression, can be used to try to suppress sex drive. If that fails, then antigonadotropics, such as GnRH agonists, can be used to shut down the gonads, shutting down the primary source of the sex hormones, shutting down sex drive. If that fails, then try the more strange antipsychotics, the ones most likely to cause lack of sex drive.

Alternatively, go to a psychotherapist and learn to just accept yourself for who you are. In addition, there are interpretations of Christianity that state that homosexuality is fine, for example, by arguing that references to homosexuality in the New Testament refer to some weird religious homosexuality that the Romans were up to. Good luck.

>>8241943
For reference, it is not possible to change sexual orientation itself.

>>8241943
I've been on antidepressants before, I really didn't like them but they did suppress my sex drive to the point where I felt asexual. But for me all forms of drugs are something I want to avoid.

I'm not interested in watered down interpretations that find homosexuality acceptable. I already know that it isn't. Maybe I should just resign to celibacy or hope I find a man I like.

Anyways thanks for the reply.

>>8241946
I used to be attracted to other men. Over the last few years I've managed to almost completely halt all intrusive thoughts on the matter. A few of them slip through, fleeting, once a month or so, but I think I've become a functional heterosexual.

>>8242003
you haven't become anything

sexuality is complicated and fluid like mercury
no one has any deep control

>>8242003
I'm assuming you're a guy. Have you thought about women or have you just stopped thinking about men?

>>8242056
I've since become married and have regular sexual interactions with my wife. When we're being intimate together my full attention is on her. There is something very gratifying being able to pleasure her, and I have never been unable to perform, though I am a slow starter. I am very thankful to have met her, she's my best friend.

Outside of the bedroom and in public, I find that my eyes will now linger on women in the same way they used on men. I can appreciate the female form, even if it's not as arousing to me currently as the male form was to me in my younger years. Previously I wasn't able to even have a conversation or be in the same room as an attractive male co-worker or client without having sexual thoughts about them. Now such thoughts rarely occur to me, and I can easily dismiss them.

I'll take the bait.

You can still produce a spawn and live a happy life with another woman. My roommates aunts are an extremely successful lesbian couple that have one biological child from each of their wombs, and an adopted Ethiopian kid.

Fathers aren't really statistically necessary for success of child and family, just biological relation, a stable monogamous couple and good role models from each gender throughout their life.

>>8241909
Bi man here, fuck... I want to be str8 again, men only make me suffer

>>8242097
That sounds really good. Glad for you anon. So did you just stop yourself whenever your thoughts entered your mind until they stopped popping up? If so then ill try the same. Although may I ask were you fully gay before or were you always somewhat attracted to women as well.
>>8242103
>Fathers aren't really statistically necessary for success of child and family, just biological relation
That sounds like bullshit if you ask me. Nothing is better than having a biological mom and dad. But I guess you're right, arrangements could be made. Stilk I just don't want to go down that path. What if my wife cheats on me with the father? What if I fall in love with the dad halfway through my marriage to my wife? These thoughts haunt me. It would be easier to just marry a man.

>>8242138
I was almost exclusively sexually active with men for the earlier parts of my life. I briefly fooled around with a girl in college to 'try it out' one night but between the alcohol and the situation I was unable to get it up. It was easier for both of us to pretend nothing had happened.

Personally for me, it has been a very long, arduous process that is still ongoing. I wouldn't say I am 'cured', as that term has certain connotations towards homosexuality that I don't wish to promote. Rather I made a conscious decision to change the direction my life was going after realizing my then current behavior and lifestyle were hollow and self destructive.

I don't know if these are related, but about the same time I decided to change my lifestyle, I gave up drinking almost entirely, and my doctor diagnosed me with adult ADHD. I'm now on 60mg of Adderall XR daily and I feel as if that has had a positive impact on my mental fortitude. I also made several lifestyle changes, and generally devoted myself to self improvement and betterment instead of immediate gratification, sexual or otherwise.

I found at first that simply trying to ignore or stamp out my homosexual thoughts simply did not work for me in a manner I found healthy, leading to mild self disgust and self loathing, Instead, I confronted and accepted that I was having these thoughts and feeling these urges when they appeared, and then consciously decided to not act on these urges, and not follow these trains of thought. As time went on, these thoughts and feelings had occurred with less frequency, and when they did occur, with less impact. It's hard for me to explain in a manner that might be helpful to you, sorry. The best advice I can offer, based on my own experience, is to pick a course, commit, and follow through.

>>8241909

You're really not a lesbian. You have probably just been dating the wrong men. Why not find a man that is more fem in some aspects: quirky, communicative, etc.

You'll find that you will adjust to his body and can have kids with a great soulmate.

>>8242213
Why did you specially try to change your sexual orientation?

>>8241909
Just find a guy and another lesbian. the guy gets to fuck two bitches and you get to live out your dreams. everyone happy. god will not have a prob.

>>8241909
You'll be relieved to hear this OP:
[spoiler]God isn't real[/spoiler]

Stop posting stories on the internet. I promise you'll go back to being a cishet male in under 24 hours.

>>8242331
I was unhappy.In hindsight, I suppose my unhappiness was more a function of my promiscuity than specifically my homosexuality. I was something of an easy lay, and 2-3 sexual encounters a week, sometimes with multiple participants and oftentimes strangers were not uncommon. I'd go from a temporary 'high' while engaging in homosexual acts to harsh lows of shame and self disgust afterwards. I chased the high, leading to more frequent and depraved encounters, each followed by more severe lows. I probably would have killed myself eventually. I find myself extremely fortunate that I never caught anything, I was young and invincible and seldom used condoms. At times I almost hoped I would catch something that would put me out of my misery. I needed a radical change to break out of this death spiral.

I'm much better now, obviously, but I find it difficult to speak about. Just typing this up has unearthed a lot of memories and feelings that I would rather stayed buried. I think that's enough for me tonight, I'll get some sleep if I can.

I wish you the best of luck, OP, in whatever you decide to do.

>>8242213
You just take adderrall cuz it make buttsex feel awesome. admit it. I used to take that shit and would fuck for hours.

>>8242480
>the only drug use is recreational.
wew buddy really playing up to those degen stereotypes.

I didn't believe in internalized homophobia until this post, if it even is real. Kinda pathetic desu.

>>8241909
Realize that that segment of Christianity is a myth perpetuated to bolster faltering population numbers and there's nothing actually wrong with being gay/lesbian now

>>8242213
Thanks for your advice. I agree about the lifestyle change part. I quit drugs and porn and have begun exercise and meditation more. I'm not fully sure right now but you're right, I have to pick a course and stick to it.
>>8242290
I have never dated a man or woman in my life. I do like quirky and gentle men. But sexual attraction is missing. I don't know if maybe I should just try it and go with it regardless of whether I enjoy it or not.