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Has anyone else ever noticed that the more you pass, the more people around you try to deadname/misgender you?
I feel like one or two friends in particular *excessively* use my deadname and use "she/her" despite knowing I'm a trans guy. I don't know if I've just become more aware of being misgendered, or if people are actually trying to mention the fact that I'm a female more often.
For example today my friend used my birthname 20+ times, while saying my other friend's (that was there) name once. Are they purposely trying to hurt me or deliberately make it obvious that I'm not truly a guy to them?
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Have you mentioned it to them? If you have and they keep doing it with no effort to improve, it might be time to drop them.
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>>8030654
I'm not on t, but imo look masculine despite that. Still pretty high voice though. I have mentioned it but don't want to bring it up over and over. Plus I'm in my hometown where everyone still sees me as female, so asking close friends to call me male pronouns would be almost like lying.
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20+ times sounds like they're being spiteful, but yeah, just talk to them.
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>>8030758
Found this on plebbit. Is this a real thing that happens or am I making it up?
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>>8030789
I've heard of it before, no idea what the reason for it is, though. I guess it means you're confusing people, ultimately?
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>>8030789
Honestly, having worked in shit jobs I use 'miss' or 'sir' if I get the vibe that the customer might go batshit on me.
Which would backfire spectacularly if they're trans and I'm right about the batshit thing but wrong about the gender, but with an 0.3% trans population, it hasn't happened yet.
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