Terrible coming-out

>>7908111
idk OP do you look like a man?

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>>7908111
How old are you?

>>7908111
Give me boi pussi

>>7908119
19 years old, finally got all my courage together to tell them, so this came as a great disappointment..

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Here you go hun


https://youtu.be/ZZvT2r828QY

>>7908117
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>>7908150
Well excuse me, I thought the subhumans on this board could be semi-serious for even a few seconds.. x

Bump for some actual advice on here?
It's a stretch I know

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>"Hey Mom, can we talk?"
>"Aww you used to be the cutest little baby and I'd buy all these hats that didn't fit and blah blah blah blah"
>three hours later and she's still talking and I can't get a word it at all unless I want to scream out at her, which is the only way she understands anything
>this has happened 4 times now

Why don't you go to therapy? You'll either get a legit diagnosis as trans and be able to say with confidence that it's not a phase, or it'll help you work through it, in which case problem solved . Maybe your parents will help pay for it since they want you to get cured.

>>7908270
I'm not trans though I'm just a gay man, but your help is appreciated x
I don't think therapy is within my reach anyway as my parents wouldn't take the risk of others knowing

>>7908111
>I thought my parents would be supportive.
That's your mistake.
You expect people to be supportive.
You shouldn't.
What you should expect is trouble.
>I feel lonely and confused.
Welcome to the gay life.
>Can anyone give advice on a situation like this?
Find your own place to live and cut off all contact with your family.

>>7908269
That's frustrating I imagine... my parents are not so talkative so it was very very awkward and unsettling saying what I was dying to get out with them staring at me with a shocked expression

>>7908292
True, but I was already at a hard place with no friends etc so it kind of felt right to at least be clear with the people closest to me, which ties into the own place thing which is not within my reach at the moment unfortunately as I am currently still studying and cannot find a student home anywhere near my budget

>>7908270
>You'll either get a legit diagnosis as trans and be able to say with confidence that it's not a phase
You're naive if you think her parents will just accept diagnosis like that.

>>7908287
Oh sorry, not sure why I assumed you're trans. Well you've always been gay so you're not really going to change. I would make sure you can support yourself if things get really ugly and then just come out and be who you are. If they can't accept you then they're shitty people anyway.

>>7908314
>it kind of felt right to at least be clear with the people closest to me
Yeah well guess what that was a mistake.
It's the people closest to you who stab the hardest.

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>>7908303
It just made me wish I had used the money going out to visit her on funs&ammo instead or thinking it would change something

Pic related. Always wanted a pink ak the came stock in pink with hello kitty stickers.

>>7908338
That's fine :)
Yeah I hope it won't escalate to that point. I'll try to avoid my parents for a while and let time get over it then make a plan for myself

>>7908357
I guess so... I didn't feel like it came out of hate or dislike but just out of ignorance or something... my parents have had their own issues (dad attempted suicide, mother was abused as a child) so I don't hold it against them but in any way, but I still somehow expected better

>>7908379
>I didn't feel like it came out of hate or dislike but
you'll soon find out it is.
Or it will be.

>>7908287
Can I have that boipussi please anon?

>>7908448
Hmm I really doubt it could be they're not very emotional at all actually, they're almost robotic... don't think they would actually ever really ''abuse'' me for it.. it sounds like you've had to deal with some shit though, sending you strength and love x

>>7908458
Go watch porn my lonely shriveled poohole is not all that exciting

>>7908479
>lonely
If you drop me some contact it won't be for long
>shrivelled
A bit of lube and some using should pucker it up nicely.
>poohole
Let's make it a hole thats a dick and poo hole instead.

>>7908521
wow, so smooth and charismatic!

>>7908111
Give them a little time. Your mom's babble reaction seems like a means of coping, which thy are are least trying to do. It might be are few months before things start to feel normal again. When they do don't let them squirm away from the fact that you came out. They need too learn to see you as their gay son and realize that it doesn't change anything. You're a student? Find a gay or queer student union and see what resources your school might have for you. If you're not at a large university then maybe consider transering to one. They have more financial aid resources available to too them than, say, a CC.

>comes out to family
>is surprised when parents arent supportive

I think this is ultimately your biggest mistake. The correct thing to do would've been to move out and cut all contact with them without even informing them as to why. This would enable you to live freely with your gender/sexuality without this mess. (You don't specify what you came out as so Idk.) Basically, if you had just told your family to go fuck themselves and removed them from your life, you wouldn't have this problem. Instead, you expected to be the one single lgbt person in existence with supportive parents like life is some sort of bleeding heart after school special. Which is about as far from reality as you can get.

You fucked up. You made your bed now you get to fucking lie in it. Hope you enjoy the electroshock therapy they'll most likely force you into.

>>7908111
>Today, my parents told me that they would like me to keep this to myself until I ''was able to figure stuff out'
Refuse to do so, but don't give up hope on them. They might come around. I know it isn't much but that is my advice.

>>7911480
>Instead, you expected to be the one single lgbt person in existence with supportive parents
My parents were supportive when I came out to them. Not all parents react this way.

Yah, my mother told me "it's probably just a phase" as well. Eventually she settled with it though, and she's supportive. Only advice I can give is don't care what they think. If they want to bring up your love life, don't back down from your gayness. But if they leave it alone I don't see a reason why you shouldn't.

>>7911522
>Not all parents react this way.

Not true. It's human instinct that's been ingrained in us since the dawn of fucking time to reject offspring that we know wont continue the genetic line. The only exceptions would be the parents who are so mentally ill that they use their child to give themselves a leg up into the spotlight, or at the least give them a reason to wave around their martyr card, to prove how "brave and progressive" they are for raising an lgbt child.

>>7911541
>"my pseudoscience says that if your parents are supportive, it is because they are mentally ill"
cool shitposting bro! le epic troll XD

>>7911547
https://www.google.com/amp/pix11.com/2015/07/26/how-narcissistic-parents-affect-their-childrens-self-esteem/amp/
https://www.verywell.com/the-relationship-between-child-abuse-and-bpd-425153

>"pseudoscience"

Same symptoms also apply to psychosis and bpd where parents do this to their children. These disorders are fairly common in mature and middle aged adults as well as naturally occuring events like menopause causing similar bouts of emotional problems and controlling behavior. Especially when combining that mental defect with 18 years of power of authority over a small, defenseless human who doesn't quite know how to human yet.

No healthy parent would support an lgbt child because it's pure animal instinct to do so. Even animals will kill or abandon offspring that are sterile or refuse to mate and reproduce. And the ones who claim to be supportive only do so because, when their child isn't around, they can use it as an angle to give themselves a percieved social advantage.

>>7911579
>the ones who claim to be supportive only do so because, when their child isn't around, they can use it as an angle to give themselves a percieved social advantage
You have yet to prove this. Your pseudoscientific assertions about the instinct to reproduce and encourage your offspring to reproduce rings hollow without any evidence. So far all you have to offer is a flimsy comparison drawn from studies on entirely different subjects.

I only bother to tell you so because I think no troll would try this hard, so you must be genuinely misguided, which I can sympathize with. And if you are trolling, I want you to know I pity you for being such a tryhard.

>>7908111
Advice on what? You already told them. What the fuck do you need from them? Are you planning to have sex with your parents? Why are you so bent over gonig on and on about your sexuality with them?
This is what happens when kids grow up without any difficulties or challenges. They look up for problems and drama in literally the most meaningless things.

>>7908111
sorry to hear about your parents, fellow legbutt

but i'm glad your brother is cool with it. in the long run, that may matter more

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>>7911595
Go to any pride parade and you'll see parents doing this. Do you really think they have a good relationship with their kids in private? Or are they doing this because ot makes them look good in the public eye?

Even fucking Angelina Jolie made her kid transition before the kid could even drink out of a cup without using both hands.

Now try to go find someone, even straight and cis people, who have a genuinely good relationship with their parents. Because you'll be hard pressed to find any. Now take a handful of those kids who are lgbt on top of it and ask yourself if any of them are truly loved and supported by their parents. Because then the answer will either be "parents are unsupportive" or "parents are supportive" but they're unaware of all the virue signalling among the older age bracket. Just like you are now, actually.

>>7911599
This guy is a dumbass, ignore this faggot.

Listen OP. You have done nothing wrong, but your parents are not required to approve of the things you do, just to make things right. If who you are bothers them then they need to learn to live with it. If you actually live in the same home as them and they have not kicked you out then things aren't super bad. Don't go looking for more drama, just keep your head low.

Get out of your parent's house. Do not stop applying for jobs until you can get a job that pays you enough money to save up for school while also giving you a bit of spending cash and pays for all your bills. For example, in the Northern Virginia area, that means I need a job that pays 30k a year, but when you get closer to Richmond, Virginia that means I need to make 22k a year.

You need to move out ASAP if you have not already done so. You are not in the wrong. If they start behaving any worse over the course of the next weeks, find somewhere else to crash for a while, even if it's temporary. If they get significantly worse - shouting at you, threatening you, etc - get your shit in boxes and get the hell out of there. Don't burn them online or anything, but just let people know that things at home have gotten difficult and you need a place to stay.

Now, if they do what my father did and just straight-up start callin' you a faggot and kicking you out then you need to bail and cut off contact. Don't call them, don't write them, just leave them behind. If you need to work 2 jobs for now until you find one that pays you enough money to live off of then so be it. In my case, after a month my dad began trying to make amends, but sometimes things just don't work the way you want them to.

The other anon have been kinda accurate, you first need to expect people to let you down. This is a good life practice. When people actually pull through for you, that's when you find out who in your life actually wants to be a part of it.

>>7908111
Grow a moustache and man up. You don't want to grow old with a leaky man pussy/asshole and have to wear diapers. However, maybe then you can identify as a baby or something.

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>>7911541
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>>7911640
You're a troll, and you try too hard to be a troll. It is kinda sad. The Angelina Jolie thing was kinda funny though so 2/10 I guess.

>>7911640
So, essentially, you're saying everybody has shitty relationships with their parents and so lgbt are no exception, and even if they're supportive it's only so they can virtue signal?

Why the fuck does it matter if my parents are virtue signaling? The only thing that concerns me is whether they support me or not. I'd rather have a parent who doesn't hate me and uses me as a status symbol than one that would rather I die.
But just so you know, there is a middle ground. My parents have 2 other children besides me, so they're not worried about their family line dieing out. They support me and I feel it's an honest support, not one done out of "virtue signalling"

>>7908111
Your brother seems lie the only intelligent one, I mean really you, fem, but they had no idea. Wow!
Anyway, respect their wishes, don't do "gay" stuff around them because they have the problem not you.
It might be a phase but I was told the same when I was 18 and my partner didn't think it was a "phase".

>>7908364
Awesome AK!
What is the furthest range?

>>7911731
*like the only
I misspelled it, sorry.

>>7908111
I had pretty much the same thing happen except I've already been going to therapy for months and despite that my parents still think I'm in a phase (even though this has been on my mind for many years). I can't blame them for their concerns but I'm getting really annoyed of them trying to make me embrace being male. Makes me feel like I'm doing more harm than good but I really only want to make myself more happy with myself.

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>>7911789
Just woke up and saw all these replies, thank you very much! I'll let some time pass, I don't think the situation will escalate to the likes that some of you had to unfortunately go through. I might look at getting a second job too in order to be able to support myself

>>7911813
>I might look at getting a second job too in order to be able to support myself.

That is a great way to motivate yourself!
Do let time pass.
A positive is that you have an ally in your family.

>>7908111
Your parents are cowards

>>7908287
Tell them the seamen in your digestive system makes you highly suspect you're gay.

>>7908111
Just keep doing everything you can to transition and tell them you can't help yourself, you want their help to repress, keep pretending to try to repress while you transition, so that at least when they realise you can't be made to repress, they'll read it as their failing, not yours.

>>7912576
Why did you assume OP is trans?

Why did you not read the thread before replying?

I hate you.

There is nothing you can do. If it bothered them that much when you first told them, they will never truly accept you. But it will get better and eventually they will at least produce a veneer of tolerance. That is what my father did.

>>7912606
Bc if they're not then who gives a fuck lel. Waah OP can't suck a dick in front of his mum. Just get older and move out and live your dumb life OP lmao sheesh.

>>7912606
Why is this a problem then