My mom just asked me if I was gay or not.

>>7845167
>I'm incredibly straight acting, I'm a tad skinny and not really masculine, but is that really enough?

Yes. Now be a good boy and come out to your mother, she has known for quite some time.

>>7845193

how would she know for such a long time

>>7845167
parents just know, mate. mine have been questioning me for years.

I don't tell them out of laziness and I guess I think it's fun to keep people guessing.

>>7845167
>Just walked away and didnt answer.
You realize this means yes, right?

Also, parents tend to pick up on things like that early. They see your whole development, start to finish. They're there for your puberty, they find the porn you stash and try to hide, they listen in on "private" conversations with friends when you can't hear them, etc. It's why many parents tend to heavily focus on gendered expectations for men and women if they sense their kid is kinda queer. Like they'll talk to you about being the prince saving the princess, or the nice boy who gives a flower to the pretty girl, that sort of thing. The same probably happened with you, especially if your parents are traditionally conservative. Plus, if you're secretive about your love-life, or if your love-life is non-existent (and you're not some kind of obese neet), they will obviously know something is up.

Idk, but if you haven't had a GF or shown any interest in the opposite sex, generally thats enough to arouse suspicion. Once someone is looking for "the gay" its very easy to spot

>>7845255

ok full disclosure she did find some porn on my phone about 3 years ago but it was all anal straight stuff. wouldnt that throw her off?

my mother is incredibly conservative too, although she used to be pretty homophobic she has cooled down a lot.

never really publicly dated anyone having her know either. would that really be enough to tip her off? it seems so miniscule.

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you really think she didn't know?

>>7845286

how WOULD she know?

>>7845255
>they find the porn you stash and try to hide, they listen in on "private" conversations with friends when you can't hear them, etc.
I didn't give mine any clues like that besides one time I forgot to put away a bikini I'd borrowed.

>>7845351

i think i've been fairly normal though.

thinking back a while ago i remember leaving some gay forum open or something while showing her an email on my laptop.

although im fairly certain she didnt notice as she probably would have said something

You came out of her body. She grew you inside her, pushed you out of her vagina, and if she's like the majority of mothers, then she tried her best to keep you alive and clean the shit off your ass day after day for years, she raised you and spent day after day for years worrying about you dying every time you left her sight, she's obsessed with you, you are a huge giant chunk of her life.

OF COURSE SHE KNOWS WHO YOU ARE.

The question of "how" is meaningless. The only question you need to worry about right now is how you're going to handle this shit now that she's asked you.

The answer to that question depends on HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW HER?... since you seem like a typical self-obsessed teen.. this is going to be a challenge for you...

good luck

moms always know

>>7848220

Dont really think Im that self obsessed.

Idk. If she knows would my dad know too? I'm just scared of not really looking like a "real son" or whatever that means.

>>7848279

Would my look really be enough?

>>7845167
>Not closet enough
Better cut off al contact now that she knows.

>>7849076

ikr

>>7845167
Mum asked me aswell. She also has said ill never have kids. Thing is i'm not into guys i'm a transbian.
She did find a dildo under my bed whilst invading my privacy. Maybe coming out that im trans would be better then letting her keep her delusion i'm a fag. Shes met my gf's before aswell.

>>7850556

Fuck. My mom also said I'd never have kids in our conversation the other day. Didn't really pick up on that.

After reading this thread I'm afraid. I'm 23 and have always been pretty "normal" but... well, she did find some penis pics in my computer like 10 years ago when incognito mode wasn't a thing i knew, and a pic of a muscular guy in my phone (forgot it in the fucking bathroom of all places) a year ago. Never ever had a gf, nor ever told her I liked a girl in school. She still some times asks if I like a girl at the uni but I usually just evade the question or say "idk". And to make things worse my 16yo brother loves to talk with her about how he likes this or that girl from his school and how he wants to go on a date.

Now I have the feeling she will just ask me if I'm gay at any time, but feels like she already knows.

>>7850668

Feel the exact same..

>>7850668
I flat out told my mom I thought I was gay and bi when I was a kid after watching episodes of Oprah about them. She said "You're too young to know that".
Then when I was a teenager she walked in on my printing out graphic hairy gross hardcore 70s porn in the middle of the day (cuz im smart like that), and asked me if I was gay, but I freaked out and told her no.
I'm 34 years old now, and living far far away, and she's finally stopped asking about girlfriends, wives, and grand kids. But she still talks about how gross the gay stuff on tv is. I'm pretty sure she's in a deep state of denial at this point, which is fine by me.

Coming out is overrated.

>>7850830

some people have a close relationship to their parents

>>7845334
>>7845638
No gf is one thing, but if you don't even show an interest in girls it's super clear. You probably haven't realized this because you aren't into girls, but teenage boys go fucking CRAZY when they hit puberty. It's private shit so you don't tend to hear much about it, but it's something that your parents were probably expecting to happen. When you never started going crazy over girls they likely began to suspect.

>>7848314
If you can stand up to your dad and look him in the eye while telling him you respect him but he has no control over you, you'll look like a "real son". Whether or not he chooses to acknowledge that it his prerogative.

>>7850854

idk. I was a pretty mature teen I think..

>>7850846
>having a close relationship
>hiding your sexuality

these things are mutually exclusive

>inb4; "not everyone talks about sex"
sexuality =/= sex life
If you actually have a close relationship with someone, anyone at all, the fact that you like boys are girls is a pretty basic thing they should know.
It's like saying you have a close relationship with someone who doesn't know if you're religious/atheist, or liberal/conservative... if they don't know the very basics about you, then you're not that close.

>>7850871
Yeah my parents would constantly describe me as mature as well. While all the other boys were getting into arguments with their girlfriends and sneaking out at night to bang, I couldn't have been less interested. In retrospect it's super easy to be mature when you have 0 chance of getting into a relationship, and I think that most parents will pick up on that. Sounds like yours did.

>>7845255
This is some true shit.

I have 3 older siblings. When I told my mom she knew mainly from my lack of interest in boys and suspected cause she'd catch me looking at like a pic of girls in lingerie and it couldn't just be interest in underwear. Which fair enough even though I tried damn hard to throw her off including fake boyfriends and never bringing anything like porn near her.

What surprised me more was how over the years she just outed all my siblings dirty sex shit she just fucking knows. Like oh oldest bro fucked dudes in jail but won't out and one girl another bro dated was def a tranny and he's a little bi maybe and my older sister is into kinky sex toy shit with her husband.

Like damn I always thought for sure I knew my siblings better than my mom, especially stupid relationships they have but nah. Mom on all that. How? She's a noisy mom and all she thinks about are her kids. Literally no one in this world is paying more attention to you, worrying about you, observing every little piece of mail or notice or info you get, watching the way you walk and asking about you to anyone that'll give the information than your mom. So if anyone in this world is gonna know it's that lady.

You think she doesn't worry about your datelife? Literally that's her top 4 concerns in this world. You think you've never in your life left a phone unlocked near her? You had to have at some points and I promise at any point she was trying to get into it. She cleaned your room every other day and she could probably tell how your diet is by how your shit leaves streaks on the toilet she cleans.

>>7850915

Yeah... Although I did get into a lot of arguments with my mom, it was mostly about stupid stuff.

Constantly cleaned their house too. Probably the worst thing I did because my mom got pissed over me mixing some papers up occasionally.

Really don't think I did anything truly shady or really bad at all..

>>7848175
she noticed, she ain't blind she just didn't say

I once switched a tab from some gay comic thing to help her check her bank, 10 years later she said that was one of the first things that made her think I'd be gay or at least questioning it but I was a teen so she wasn't gonna push it one way or the other.

>>7850668
She know. She just ain't gonna push it but she know.

A lot of moms know but it's like damned if you do damned if you don't situation. You push to know and the kid gets defensive and maybe runs away to some druggie hedonistic dick life. You say nothing and maybe he goes into that more but you got open communication.

Another thing to consider is families talk. You've got other aunts and grandmas asking her "oh and your son? he dating yet?". She ain't got confirmation you're gay so she isn't lying when she just regurgitates whatever bs you give about "just wanting to focus on school". You being in the closet keeps her in the gossip closet too. The second you confirm now she's lying the next time they ask.

Or if she's ok with you being gay but just not sure what to say she avoids that awkward conversation the same way you do.

But she know.

>mom always asked me if I was gay
>get bf she wasnt surprised at all
Kek she thought my faggotry ended there
>tfw actually trans

>>7850940
You didn't do anything explicitly bad it's just you didn't drive your mom up the wall with the sluts you dated so she knows you're gay.

I've hung around mothers a lot. They are often bitching about the shitty women their boys dated. Or just noticing the way their angel little boys are starting to put their gazes toward sluts. Your mom hangs around other moms and notices that lack of even basic sluts around you or catching your eye. You go for a ride with her, some girl in a sports bra jogs by and your eyes don't follow and you're changing the radio or talking about groceries instead. She keeps track of that, notices the difference between hetero boy developments and just figures "ah he's probably gay duh". It's actually more hopeful for some mothers that you're just gay instead of some r9k guy or hormone deficient xxy kinda guy. She's asking if you're gay meaning she's probably more ok with it. A mother not ok would ignore it or be taking you to a church therapist. She's trying to figure why you're not dating or if you are dating and if you're happy with your datelife and all that basic shit.

Mothers just want their children happy and able to take care of themselves and to call and come by for dinner. Sometimes they think if you're gay you won't be happy or able to get a proper job because drugs will happen or you'll abandon the family for gay night clubs. Assure her you're happy and go eat some food with her and pay for the food to show you're alright.

>>7845284

How many non-neckbearded 18 year olds do you really think don't slay pussy on at least a semi-regular basis?

now that i think of it she also noticed i shaved my legs one time

>>7851040

idk, is it really that often for straight guys?

>>7850935
My mum tried get me straight up hack my sisters phone. Nope I did some fancy shit to look plausible and said i couldn't get in. She's also said she's seen pictures of me passed out from drinking but wouldn't reveal how she gathered that information. Has also opened my mail with the excuse "i thought it was something important and i may need to phone you". Nosy bitches are we not entitled to privacy?

>>7851040
Unless they're possible wife material why would you introduce them to mum?

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>>7850935
>You think you've never in your life left a phone unlocked near her?
>not keeping your phone within arms reach at literally all times
It's like people ask for their phones to be taken and rummaged through.

>>7851072
I've sort've accepted it because moms are nosy bitches but in benign ways. Like a nosy bitch friend sets out to gossip and ruin your reputation and a nosy coworker sets out to use what info they get to cut you out of a promotion but moms just do it cause you don't call enough and they love you. Nothing much negative comes out of besides being embarrassed. Unless your mom gets drunk and spills the beans to someone.

You can also minimize their need to be overly nosy by just giving her some new info every now and then. Just tell her about my diet and that I'm trying out some new kinda spinach lasagna and thinking of paying too much money for a stupid dog and now she's got enough info on me for the week and can go harass my brothers that don't tell her enough shit.

This is why ya'lls moms keep asking if you're gay cause you won't just tell her some shit. Just tell your mom you're gay and you're blowing some dude and it's going great cause he washes dishes and has fine credit. That's all she wants.

>>7851072
My grandma passed and she had a ton of old photos and we found this aged old photo of some guy drunk passed out and the story with it is that some petty neighbor woman was talking shit about her boys that they were always drunk so she waited till her son came by and let him get drunk, with her sons, and when he passed out she took multiple old photos in some old ass 50s camera and had that shit developed and went way out of her way and expense just to send photos of this drunk kid to the mom that talked shit about her son. Shit was petty and I love my grandma a lil more now.

So moms be petty maybe some mom sent it to yours in that petty gossip mom way.

>>7851142
Mum disowned me and alienated me from siblings because I stood up-to step-dad once when he was assaulting her and another time when he was being abusive to me. She says she does it because she needs to look after her other children. I'm a danger because i smoke weed? she smokes 2x as much as me. Yet she does nothing about him being abusive to her/cheating on her/watching my sisters shower/change clothes. So yea we don't talk I'd still like to set her delusion straight that I'm mtf trans but still attracted to girls rather then her thinking I'm a fag tho.

>>7851202
oh idk that's a whole shitpile you'd need therapy to sort through more than just some asshole on 4chan

I was just thinking gay shit. Idk trans shit. Like my family would prob actually ignore that shit and not accept it like the gay thing.

>>7851185
wow interesting. makes me think it was my mates mum where we always got drunk except that was on the other side of the country and i don't think our parents knew each other, also idk why she would have done that unless its because i refused to sleep with her, her son my m8 got mad at me thinking we did and doesn't believe me when i say we didn't.

>>7851241
Your mom wouldn't tell you her source so could be. If it were just off of facebook or some simple shit she'd probably just say that. But if she won't tell you it's at least likely it's related to some friend of yours or her friend that if she'd told you you wouldn't trust as much and then she wouldn't be able to get the gossip from in the future.

So yeah check that shit.

Or hell next time you get drunk take a bathroom selfie and send it to her and tell her she's getting the shit straight from you now on instead. See how she takes that lol.

>>7851236
Yea I'm in therapy waiting for my next appointment so i can come out to psychologist about trans hopefully that clears some of the schizophrenia stuff up and they refer me to someone that can put me on hrt. I think even the psych suspects because they've asked me "what team do you bat for".

>>7851269
>Or hell next time you get drunk take a bathroom selfie and send it to her and tell her she's getting the shit straight from you now on instead. See how she takes that lol.
l0l my sister did this but sent it through her bf's fb

>>7851008

Maybe. I'm just scared she might freak out even though she is usually super passive about everything. Even bad shit she just gets over an hour later.

I'm also scared it's all in my head, that maybe its just coincidences and she didnt notice. Although some previous happenings like me leaving gay stuff open on my browser or shaving my legs is suspect..

>>7848279
But they're usually too disgusted to say anything.

>>7851333

Yeah, worried about that. My mom said something when I was nine or ten about "we don't approve of gay people but they can do whatever they want in their life"

Although it seems for the past few years she has been a lot less hardline..

>>7851333
Why would they be disgusted? they take the d thereself :/

>>7851324
Dude the more you say the more I'm sure she knows.

Look no matter what, even a super positively accepting mom, this shit is gonna be awkward. Any sex related conversation with a mom is odd as fuck and uncomfortable. But it'll only be uncomfortable for about an hour and then it's over. Ya'll move on. Maybe she's weird for a bit prob like any mom is but it becomes the new normal quicker than you expect.

>>7851364

how do you think she knows for sure?

>>7851375
The shaving leg thing is a flag. Man I'm a girl, like cis real dyke here, and my mom knew the second I tried shaving for the first time at 11 cause of how I moved the razor just so and didn't clean it after right. And like my mom seems to not remember how to check her bank despite me literally setting her homepage as the bank login page yet she notices the first time my nephew ever saw porn somehow.

And just that you probably weren't checking out girls and moms really do notice that. Not even just to see if a kids gay or not but just to kinda figure what the kids into. Like if you were straight she'd be paying attention to what girls catch your eye to see if you like fat girls or short girls or hispanic girls or whatever. And you can't fake that all the time unless you go way out of your way to have a fake girlfriend and bro it up and literally make sure you always check out a girl in a subtle way around your mom.

And she fucking asked you dude. You think moms are asking their assumed heterosexual sons if they're gay? Nah. They don't even ask r9k autistic kissless virgin yet hetero sons that cause they know from that boys porn collection that he thinks he's hiding well and how he spergs out around girls that he's straight just very shitty at it.

So she's figuring you're gay and not just that but she wants to hear from you about it. If she just wanted to ignore you being gay you wouldn't hear her asking about it. Maybe she'll ask some stupid questions about it cause she doesn't know much about that whole gay life shit. Maybe she has some dumb assumptions about it and she wants you to reassure her you aren't gonna get AIDS or fuck a child. No mother is perfect and that passive aggressive shit they do I've learned is them usually freaking out that a kid is gonna stop talking to them if they get to aggressive to they take the annoying passive route hoping that helps.

Again just be sure to reassure you're happy and adult enough now to take care of yourself.

>>7851445

Is shaving legs really that much of a flag? I don't participate in any sports but I do often brag how fit I am to my parents.

>>7851511
Yeah dude that's pretty gay flag there. Hetero boys barely wanna shave their faces regularly when told to and you're shaving your ass. Unless you're a serious swim athlete there's no justifying that in a straight way. And even then I gotta say swim sport is one of the gayer sports for a boy.

>>7851445
Mum asked me if i had a kid with my ex and is that why we broke up. Does she know something i don't? I never was given a reason for the breakup.

>>7851445
>porn collection
Do people even do this anymore in 2010+7? shit nigger just stream porn in a virtual machine and save nothing to the host.

I was raised by parents who had a rough understanding of technology and they only found my hardcore piss/squirting/huge insertion/latex/hentai games/vanilla porn when I forgot to clear my history one night and they wanted to type in msn to check their email. We're talking three hours of clips from virus filled clip sites here. Even though I got banned from being alone with my laptop for at least a solid year it was still worth it for the life lesson of always cleaning up after myself.
>tfw they probably think I'm some kind of fucked up sexual deviant or something

>>7851525

Yeah maybe.. Even my dad made a comment about me shaving my arms not too long ago.

>>7851529
She know you gay son and if you wanna know what else she know you gonna have to ask her. Your ex prob also knew you were gay cause you seem kinda oblivious to how straight dudes act.

Just tell her you gay and live through the hour of uncomfortable shit. Maybe she'll cry or something at worse. But assuming you're an adult there's not much else and if she's like any other mother she's still gonna wanna have a part in your life so she won't abandon you past that. Tell her you're ok and you eat enough food and all that other shit moms wanna hear. If she can walk away thinking "well at least he's happy and healthy" then you win cause that's truly the best any mother is gonna hope for in her son no matter what.

>>7848279
Not true, mine keeps bothering me about when I'm gonna get a girlfriend. FFS just leave me alone.

>>7851563
I got a nephew who got busted in about the same way as you but just last year. You only learn the importance of cleaning your history after getting busted.

My porn collection is kinda just some sexy gifs/webms folder but on my personal computer and it's nothing that I'd be horribly upset to get found out on although I do some basic shit to keep it out of the way of any snoops. Like oh no you found out that I, a dyke, have some vid of a girl eating another girl out saved. Shocker.

>>7851578
>suddenly remember that I do actually have some porn/sexy shit saved on my rig
>get curious as to what it was since I completely forgot about it
>find a guide I saved in 2015 about how to look like a trap with a complete exercise and diet plan
wew, I guess I've been questioning myself for longer than I thought

>>7851566
We don't speak i cant ask her. I fucked my ex everyday. how am i oblivious? I told dad i think i might be gay when i started questioning now i realize i meant trans he went into denial made me repress and had me put in the acute ward. She's already abandoned me. see >>7851202

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>I'm incredibly straight acting
Umm sweetie, unless you were actively doing things with girls in front of her, I'm afraid that's not what you think it means.

>>7851632

i mean, I've had girls come up and flirt with me before in front of her. the most I think is when i was at a convention type thing with my mom and this girl was clearly flirting with me, for a long time and kinda tagged along. Although afterward my mother asked if I got her number, i just said "no, why?"

which might've been weird

>>7851632
Being in front of her made it harder. Like we'd be at a picnic and a hottie walks past id normally check out but cant because mums there. Or be chatting up a qt and mum comes close to spy, turns me awkward and struggle to speak.

>>7851612
oh what sorry got confused thought you were OP wondering how your mom knew you were gay and all that

idk mang. Family is weird. Part of me hates those kids that refuse to speak to their parents over shit they could easily forgive cause I just feel bad since parenting seems like some thankless bullshit. At the same time aggressively hate parents that are abusive and cruel and abandon their children over stupid shit. It just burns me that there's brats out their being dicks to their moms cause oh wah you didn't hug me enough and yet there's also kids out there desperately hoping for a relationship with the shittiest of moms.

But if your mum abandoned you how the hell is she still talking to you enough to ask about your ex being preggers? Cause I kinda define abandon as you want nothing to with me and you never talk to me so why's your mom talking to you or is she trying to make good now but just super shitty at it?

>>7851673
if that was a cute girl she realized your disinterest was completely abnormal. she knows, every parent wonders about their kids future romantic lives and she knows something's up w/u

>>7851696
>there's brats out their being dicks to their moms cause oh wah you didn't hug me enough
i seriously don't think this happens. either that or you don't know the whole story. seriously, a lot of family shit is kept private and can be incredibly fucked up. every kid wants to love their parents and make them proud deep down, so the fact that they feel that was is indicative of something beyond that

>tfw nobody in my family was open about sex or relationships at all so I just suppressed all outward signs of sexual attraction
I'm sure at least half my family and friends think I'm gay or asexual but don't say anything.

>>7851716

I mean, I said she complimented my hair..

>>7851696
All g :) She asked before we stopped talking this thread made me remember though and wonder why she asked that. Like she knew something about the breakup that i didn't.

>>7851723
Nah I do know quiet a number of examples on these kinda cases. Some personal within my own family, not my own mother but others, and just from work and life bullshit that I got to figure out.

I'm not accusing you of that cause I don't know you and if you're mom abandoned you and it was for any reason less than heroin addiction or some sick shit than yeah I'm sure she's a bitch. But I think most parents do fuck up. None are perfect but from what I can see just like many kids really do want parents to be proud most parents really do just want happy and capable kids. It's just how do you define a "proud" parent or a "happy" or "capable" kid. And like no parents are perfect certainly few kids are as well. Kids fuck up, it happens. Life's like that when you're young. Most parents don't know what to do with kids they're just kinda basing off of how they were slapped around and raised as kids and each generation you hope it improves a little but idk.

But my point is, not necessarily for you, you gotta forgive your parents shortcomings. If not for your parents or yourself for the next generation. Because children only learn from seeing and if they see their mom cut off grandma cause grandma made mistakes raising her then kids gonna grow up and think they should cut off mom for her mistakes. And if you can you gotta forgive. Like so much of therapy is finding the causes of shit, whatever people fucked you up or whatever, but not enough on forgiving that shit imo. Though idk cause personally I did have a real good therapist on that shit so this isn't general.

>>7851730
Could've just been her fishing for some information or maybe she heard some gossip down the vine and made it bigger from that.

Life's a fucking mystery. You're mom could be bipolar or mental for all I know. I've noticed a strong correlation between mothers that are the abandoning sort and mental illness issues on their part. I think you gotta be some part mental to go against the strong motherly instinct that'd cause you to abandon a kid. PPD doesn't cover it since that's usually hormonal and not as near long lasting.

>>7851789
I forgave the first time i was abandoned and came back try be part of the family. Then the same thing repeated so now i don't make an attempt. She has a habit of refusing to talk to her siblings for years at a time aswell.

>>7851789
what you write, i don´t agree with.
When a relative is a toxic person who only does harm it´s better to quit having contact.

>>7851853
Oh no that's on her part she just sucks. I'm more thinking hey if there's a reasonable chance, like she'd actually make an attempt to change and all that and even then it's iffy given the shit she's done.

I'm more talking like general a mom and maybe a daughter gets all pissy cause she wasn't the favorite and the mom spanked the kids growing up so now she's bitter and won't talk to her.

>>7845167
Are you also a porn star?

>>7845231
Lucky your parents acknowledge ths existance of gay men.

>>7845211
she's your mother

>>7845167
Is that Ian Curtis

>>7852328
yours don't? that's kinda crazy. my dad is over 80 and from the south, but even he's not that delusional.

>>7852323

Uh no why?

>>7845167
Did she find your ass chaps or butt plugs

>>7845284
She probably thought you were bi because of anal stuff but caught wind of your boy lust

>>7852931

Uh no. Hide the latter pretty well..

>>7852939

Really?

i also sometimes get the feeling that like

my parents are maybe betting that i'm gay? or something like that.. my dad made a joke a year ago kinda similar

>>7851673
>my mother asked if I got her number, i just said "no, why?"

ahahaha, top kek, my friend
this is the one and only sign you need. I have straight friends into butt stuff, shaving arms, 'miring each other in the gym, but a complete disinterest in the other sex and not understanding why its weird is a dead giveaway.
also, straight people don't "act" straight, they are just straight. acting is unnatural and people close to you will notice something is off about you

so suck it up, tell your mom you are gay and give her some peace of mind

>>7854640

I mean, I don't think the girl was OVERLY cute I think.. Maybe she just thought I wasn't interested in that girl?

>>7852420

yes

>>7852799

same

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>>7845167
>I'm incredibly straight acting

>>7852799
I am the only gay man in my whole family.
Not in only my whole family, even among the people my family familiar with, my parents' colleagues, neighbors, etc.
I'm the only one and I'm always the only one.
Oh I forgot to mention I'm CHINESE. L O L :-)

Honestly, I just dont want to prove people right. I just get the sneaking suspicion people think I'm a fag. Was also bullied in high school a little bit being called a fag so it hurts a bit if I had to prove everyone right..

Also get a really heavy feeling my extended family knows..

>>7857954

there can be straight acting gays, right?

>Coming out to your parents
>Ever
It's like you people want to be disowned.

Do your lives mean so little to you?

>>7845167
my mom does that quite a lot
im not gay but i like traps :^)

>>7858474

i dont really want to lie to my parents..

>you're Chinese
Get on Estrogen and Cypro immediately, stop wasting those god-tier trap genes you were blessed with
Become the dick girl you were always meant to be

>>7858618
Too bad, because you better keep up that lie until you're dead enough not to care anymore.

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>>7845167
Mothers always know.
They literally created you, and you share half their genetics so they are intimately familiar with your life experience, including what you are thinking and feeling.
They watched you grow from your first day.
Also, they are snoops.
Maybe she went through your stuff and found something or your father told her something or she heard through the grapevine that you might be?
They also know when a man cheats on them.
It is called women's intuition, and it probably has something to do with pheremones, because women have a superior sense of smell.
She could probably smell the gay on you.
Never underestimate the power of a woman.

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>>7858455
Of course

Pic related is Ricky Martin's boyfriend

>>7858764

Seriously, smelling the gay?

I thought I was pretty stealth through high school...

>>7858764
See?
I told you these mothers couldn't be trusted.

>>7858455
>there can be straight acting gays, right?

Close, but never 100% straight acting. Faggotry always ends up leaking somehow if you look closer.

>>7858779
>Seriously, smelling the gay?

Yes.
Gay people smell like ass.
And sperm.
No offense, but they do.

>>7858808

I really doubt I smell like that.

>>7858798
You seem to know a lot about this Faggotry.
Tell me more.

>>7858771

>Choosing one picture to tell how somebody is.

If you look at random pictures, in most, he has a gay face.

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>>7858851
Just ask her why she thinks you're gay?
Mystery solved.
Why do you care anyway?
Just come out of the closet already.

>>7858887

I'm skinny and i'm worried she'll perceive me as the one who gets used

>>7858867

>le 100% straight acting meme.

>>7858891
>i'm worried she'll perceive me as the one who gets used

She probably already does.
Gay = takes it up the ass - to most people.
She still loves you.
Mothers never stop loving their children.
She probably will blame herself, anyway.
Get over your self-loathing/homophobia and accept yourself, proudly, as a man who takes cock up the ass.
At least you're not a serial killer.
And she probably likes it up the ass too, so she'll understand.
Dick in the ass is pretty great tbqh.

>>7858923

maybe. it just feels weird that if i ever had to introduce a boyfriend it'd look like he's "owning me" or something

>>7858932
Do you look at her differently because she is "owned" by the man/men in her life, presumably your father?
No.
You see it as normal or you don't even think about it.
Trust me, your mother does not want to think about you having sex.
She does not want to imagine what you look like when you are naked with your lover.
She doesn't want that image in her head.
She will just block it out.
Do you imagine her getting fucked?

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>>7858923
>She still loves you.
>Mothers never stop loving their children.

>>7858932
Then never introduce your boyfriend to your parents.
Or to your friends, or family, or whatever.
Just stay closeted for life.
It's the smarter choice.

>>7858977

no.

but wouldnt it be different to see her son being the submissive one in a relationship with a man?

>>7858998
She'll just have to get used to seeing you the way she would see a daughter getting a boyfriend.

>>7858998
she'll just be happy you found love and hope that he doesn't hurt you

>>7859090

So i'd be looked like as a daughter.. :l

>>7859146
What's the problem with that? It's not seeing you as a daughter, just the same sense of letting you be in someone else's care like when a daughter gets married. You can understand how her parents would feel, right? What's the problem with your mom feeling that about you?

>>7859173

I don't want to seem weak to my parents..

>>7859187
Why not? Girls manage to get over that.

>>7859238

But I'm a guy. Isnt there a bit of an expectation to like, man up or something?

Isn't it a bit different when you find out your son likes masculine dudes and gets fucked by them?

>>7859255
no

>>7859297

No difference between your daughter and your son who you'd probably have like, envisioned him having a different future?

>>7859314
eventually we all have to come to terms with the fact that our expectations don't meet reality.
your mother will be fine.
just talk to her and let her know her suspicions are correct.
you will feel a lot better.
you're not the first guy to come out of the closet, you know.
stop feeling sorry for yourself.
stop looking for reasons to panic.
stop thinking you're superior for being male.

>>7859255
Yes it's different, that's why your mom has to lose those expectations and realize she needs to think about you and love you the same way she'd love a daughter who likes getting fucked by masculine dudes.

>>7859328

It'd feel weird having them know i like to suck dick and the connotations of not being very masculine

but i get what you're saying..

>>7859358

It sounds like they already know you like to suck dick tbqh

>>7859422

it's possible.

maybe i'm just insecure about looking weaker

>>7859358
Imagine what it feels like for a girl in your situation?

>>7859460

But i'm still male. There's different societal standards for guys..

>>7859473
Heterosexuality is a societal standard but that doesn't mean it should be.

>>7859433
>it's possible

she asked you if you were gay, so it is in the realm of reality, not possibility

>maybe i'm just insecure about looking weaker

obviously

>>7859522

Should I just talk to her then?

Thought about opening up with asking why my aunt is always asking if I'm seeing any girls..

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>>7845167

>>7860093
>"cis acting?"
>who are you tryin' to fool, hon?

>>7860093

top kek

>>7859460

is it really sexist to feel a bit odd as a male to be on the receiving end?

>>7860980
Not sexist OP, it just means as someone who has male expectations of himself you have some things to work through before you can be as comfortable in that position as a girl, who always expected to be where you are. Just like how your parents have to accommodate that in their own expectations of you.

>>7861024

i'm a girl apparently?

>>7861192
Not a girl exactly, just like one in the relationship. Why does that have to be a big deal? Just work past it.

>>7861263

Kinda emasculating..

>>7845167
desu, just be honest with her, especially now. if she just asked you out of the blue, she had suspicions, and your response likely confirmed them. so, no sense in hiding it any more

>>7862109
Girls can enjoy it. Just learn to enjoy being emasculated like girls do.

>>7862164

girls cant be emasculated though

>>7862174
Neither can you if you think the same way they do.

>>7862187

how do they think?

>>7862194
They enjoy being as you put it "owned" by your boyfriend.

>>7862227

I guess.. When I was 17 I had a boyfriend, he made me put on a chastity cage etc.

Maybe that fucked with me a little.

>>7862256

not really a "boyfriend" boyfriend now that i think about it..

>>7862256
>>7862259
He wasn't your boyfriend but you still wore a chastity cage for him? What else did you do for him?

It really sounds like you need to start enjoying things with your boyfriend now without worrying about emasculation.

>>7862299

he made me use some buttplugs and stuff.

>>7862312
Full details.

>>7862403

uh was a a year ago. with a guy. just kinda went to his place a lot in the summer. it just ended when i didnt feel safe anymore

>>7862403

i'm fine though, no bad after effects

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>MFW parents casually imply I'm bi

>>7862578
What did they say? You are bi, right?

>>7850668

[[[They]]] know.

>>7862403

Full disclosire I think I just have problems being powerless during sex.

I have a real boyfriend now though, still submissive but I think im starting to get over it..

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>>7858655

My mom asked too. I denied it because I'm not sure and I don't think I'll ever fuck a guy.

>>7862864
I've joked about it with mine without having implied either way before then.

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>>7851333

This

>>7858983
Uoboated

>>7862822

kek

>>7862894

My mom has joked about me being a fag before. Don't really know if it's just her sense of humor or being serious.

>>7862578

how did they say it?

>>7852353
>>>7845211
>she's your mother

Like being gay didn't exist before anons dumb ass or something

>>7845167
I don't normally come to /lgbt/ but I just wanted to let you know that I've known a couple of completely straight guys that were asked by their parents if they were gay in their teenage years. With some parents it seems it may be something they ask just in case, kind of like how a lot of little kids reach an age where they ask their parents if they were adopted.

>>7867524

Seriously? Parents asking their "straight" sons if they are gay or not doesnt sound right.

>>7845167
>posting on here asking

you are

go admit it to mommy

>>7867724

I'm scared to though..

>>7867724

like what if she takes it badly?

>>7862589

If was going out to "see my girlfriend or boyfriend".

>You are bi, right?

Yes.

>>7848279
Mine had no idea, she cried for a long time.

>>7867683
It happens, especially if you're not bringing girls home for whatever reason they start to get worried.

>>7870154
being in denial is not the same as not knowing

>>7858474
You have to live your life for yourself.
Living your life to make others happy is a huge mistake. If they actually love you, they'll support you. And if they don't, you don't need them in your life.

>>7870266
You're right. that's the perfect way to describe it. A part of her had to have known.

But often people assume i'm straight and when I correct them they think i'm lying. ugh its annoying

>>7859358
>>7859336

It was odd for me. My mom always wondered if I was gay and even asked many times but still reacted poorly when she found out (by figuring out the guy I was always hanging out with was my bf)
Over the course of years she got less butthurt about it and more used to it. I also got more comfortable with myself and went femboy tier.

Now my mom treats me way different, very sweetly and like I'm this fragile little thing. If I do some totally minor thing around her like burn my hand under the faucet or even just have a sad look on my face or something she'll ask me if im okay and baby me and shit. It's weird. Total 180 from how she treated me in high school.

>>7872551

how did your dad react?

>>7873228
He still doesn't know I'm gay and I haven't spoken to him in years.

I don't think he'd react very well to finding out his son is an effeminate faggot who takes it up the ass and who is instantly recognizable as gay.

>>7845255
fucking just made me remember that my mom walked in on me watching absurdly giant dick porn.

I think it was monsters of cock, something with those gratuitous clearly fake dicks covering girls in fake cum.

No wonder my mom and sister always tell me they thought I was gay.

>>7873765

are you gay?

>>7858983

mothers who always loved their children would still love them

>>7876379
>if she doesn't love you when you come out, she never really loved you
>if transition doesn't help you, you were never really trans

>>7860093
/thread hahahha

>>7845284
Having no dating history at 18 is a big tip off and the big reveal will only shock immigrant parents who feel the need to keep up appearances in a way that native born individuals don't feel they need to.

>>7876577

Not immigrants. from california.

>>7876428

yes?

>>7876577
>Having no dating history at 18 is a big tip off
The fuck?

God I hate normalfags like you

>>7876967

lmao

>>7873370

how are you instantly recognizable?

>>7878794
I'm a femboy who has been popping hormones over 3 years.