Coming out story thread?

>be 24yo
>closeted mtf
>family suspect i am gay and make fun of me for it
FUCK THIS, NEVER COMING OUT!

>>6756698
How tf are you older than 21 and not out of the closet? Straight up the only reason why I'm not is because I depend on my family financially.

>give mom a letter explaining that I am nonbinary when I was a teen
>her reply was pretty much "I guessed so"
>still treats me like a girl because I "have a woman's body"

Meh. I didn't expect her to understand. Most people period don't. I'm ftm anyway but I don't feel like telling her anytime soon.

>greatest mistakes: the thread

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>Be me
>Be 18
>Have a close friend who obviously likes me
>She asks me to prom
>Don't want to hurt her feelings, so I tell her the truth
>"I'm gay"
>She takes it pretty well, we are still friends and shit
>Feel good about myself, decide to tell some other people
>Tell my best friend
>She just says "no shit, everyone thinks that you are"
>Tell my family
>No one was surprised
>Find out that there was a survey at an afterprom party where I was voted "most likely to be gay"
>Literally everyone except for the girl who asked me out knew
Looks like i'm a massive faggot

>>6756677
> be closeted
> stay in there

told this before

>in high school
>manlet so get bullied all the time
>gay but in the closet
>become friends with one teacher
>in course of talking to him open up and tell him I'm gay
>he's cool
>in classroom one day
>getting pushed around by kids
>that teacher walks in
>yells at the kids and gets everyone in their seats
>"you kids should not be bullying anon just because he's gay"
>say what?
>teacher just outed me

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>>6756866
>currently in college, mtf
>can't come until I graduate just in case
>have one more year left
>already starting to develop boobs

>circa 2009
>tell my mom I'm asexual
>she doesn't know what that is
>show her the Wikipedia page
>she doesn't get it, thinks I'm too young to understand my sexuality
>I keep on insisting I'm ace as the years progress
>20 years old now
>she's given in and is realizing that it isn't a phase

She's starting to understand my aromantic nature as well. It all went pretty fine in the end.

>>6756866
smartest person in thread.

Background:
>brought up in insanely anti-lgbt home
>e.g. walked downstairs early one morning as a fat neckbearded slobby teen wearing a dressing gown, dad saw me in it and immediately snapped "you'd better not be hiding a fucking dress under that, we'll have none of that in my house" like what the fuck?
>realised I was trans at 14
>had to repress and go through the whole of puberty horrified by it like living in a David Cronenberg movie
>poor, parents opened my post and lived in the middle of nowhere, so couldn't self-med
>now 21, lost 2.5 stone, several laser sessions in and 10.5 months HRT, probably gonna end up a hon but I'm clearly more feminine have have b-cup tits now

>come home from uni this one time briefly to stop over while on my way to a gig
>talking to dad in conservatory
>suddenly his facial expression changes as I move
>"let me see your chest a minute"
>realise I'm wearing a thin white t-shirt with nothing underneath 'cause I've got used to being around my tolerant uni friends
>blood runs cold
>"w-why?"
>"what the fuck is that under your shirt... you've got tits? what the fuck?"
>screaming internally
>"no I haven't! what are you talking about?!"
>"show me your tits, boy!"
>lifts up my shirt
>decide to employ my /mtfg/-gained knowledge
>"i-it's just gynecomastia"
>turns out he doesn't know what that is and I have to explain it to him
>he accepts it albeit with lingering suspicion
>so old and conservative he likely doesn't even know hormone therapy can give you tits, just to be clear
>continues to bring it up and ask if he can 'examine' them throughout the rest of the day while I'm there

I've got plenty more stories if you want

>Met supercute guy through a video game
>found out we lived superclose to each other and met up
>ended up really really liking each other
>dad's birthday coming up, figured now is as good as ever
>"do you mind if I invite someone over for dad's birthday?"
>"huh? who do you want to invite over?"
>"a boy i recently mad"
>silence.jpg
>mom starts smiling. she knows
>"of course! what's his name? where's he from? how old is he?"

you know just like, standard happy-interested mom stuff

we're still together after 2 years.

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long and not worth while read ahead.
tldr; be thankful for your ordinary settings and nonchalant reactions.

1/2

>be me
>be 14
>have an amazing time on a cruise around the Bahamas
>gayness at a peak checking out all the hot guys from the ship and on the islands
>everything is going great so far, no one has pointed out my slightly effeminate mannerisms at all yet
>jump to last night of the journey
>have to go to 24/7 buffet with parents to get a quick drink
>buffet opens up to pool deck
>loads of sexy men partying in the pools
>I let my stare linger for too long
>dad notices
>I imagine he's going to ask who I'm staring at and I'll just have to point at some bikini chick, but he doesn't
>"Anon, all trip you are acting so gay. How you walk, you walk like a girl. What are you, a bayot?"
>(bayot means very campy faggot in tagalog)
>bystanders near us getting food but clearly my dad doesn't care
>get embarrassed and cringe
>maybe it was because I was a moody teenager, but I didn't deny like usual, instead I rolled my eyes and said some witty remark
>we argue until dad keeps emphasizeing his question. He's serious.
>I look at my mom for back up but she's staying silent, curious as well.
>Dad keeps asking but not in the welcoming way
>like a massive faggot, I break into tears and run off to the top deck. They don't follow me
>at top deck
>completely empty except for me sulking over the railing
>the dark ocean blends into the night sky, creating a sort of black void
>I remember really wanting to jump overboard and dissapearing into it, but thankfully I don't
>who kills themselves for being gay? lol
>some time passes, still sobbing
>get a text from mom telling me to head back to the bedrooms
>I eventually do.
>we have two joining rooms. My mom is alone in one room and all my siblings are chilling in the other room
>she takes me in her arms and urges me to come out to her but I can't bring myself to tell her and only beat around the bush
>suddenly door opens
>It's my dad

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2/2

>I freak out and run past him
>up to the top deck we go again
>mom follows me
>when we get there it is still empty
>we hold each other and stare out into the abyss
>hello darkness my old friend
>everytime she asks me to open up, I respond with a silence, but eventually I do tell her
>(I was pretty comfortable and happy about being gay back then but for some reason I thought playing the "trapped sufferer whose prayers never worked" card would get more sympathy from her)
>my crying intensifies
>"I-I'm gay... but I don't want to be... I want to kill myself blah blah angst"
>oops i made her cry too
>she eats the helpless victim narrative with a ladle and starts doing lovey mom stuff.
>then she starts telling me about a highschool friend of hers that was apparantly gay but ended up marrying a woman
>"It's just a phase, keep praying harder and you'll find jesus"
>listen awkwardly and pretend I believe her
>after some more hugging, we head back to the rooms
>dad is lying on the bed reading a book
>he still looks upset but at least steam isn't hissing out of his ears
>he tells me to come to him
>overexaggerate my panic and shuffle towards him like a freshly traumatized war refugee
>he just looks at me
>"Dad... I'm... gay..."
>thousand yard stare
>"I know."
>asiandad.exe ensues
>He basically makes me sign a contract, agreeing to all of his terms in consideration of me being gay.
>I have to promise to him that I have to become valedictorian when I graduate, and a doctor in the future
>its the best I can work with
>he gives me a hug
>my parents make me go to the other room and come out to my siblings because my sexuality is their business obviously
>I tell them and they don't care like I expected
>the rest of the trip is very awkward

In retrospect, it wasn't the worse possible situation, but I still hated it--ruined my vacation. Now, dad is more accepting, and so is my mom, but I think she's still hoping that I'll end up a good christian son with a wife and five kids.

>>6756866
me too

>>6757346
>ask if he can 'examine' them
top kek
he's gonna molest you senpai

>>6758089
>>He basically makes me sign a contract
>Not making the contract yourself
>Not screwing your parents over with the contract
You fucked up there, lad.
Also, which country are you in? In most western countries, a contract saying that you have to do xyz if you're gay doesn't mean shit.

>Come out to family as bi-scum
>Mom doesn't care, says she knew
>Sister hates me so she gives me shit for it all the time shit like "Get your faggity ass feet off the floor" when I walked into the living room bare foot
>Dontgiveafuck
>Decide to come out to friends.
>All of them kinda except it
>One of them betrays me and tells a bully I've had since middle school
>Rebounds in the most fucked up way possible
>Bully stops bullying me
>Starts spending hella time with me
>Turns out he's gay
>Had a crush on me since middle school

It was weird.

>>6758319
I'm from USA
and I couldn't assert my own terms or whatever because I'm scared shitless of my dad and I'm a beta fag

also, it wasn't a literal contract, just a manner of speaking, sorry if that wasn't clear

>>6757200
she had a hard time because that's not a real thing. Stupid, fucking tool. She didn't come around to accepting it, she just gave up on trying to convince you otherwise.

>asexual
>still thinking this is real

>>6758488
Screw your parents over with a contract. That's what I'm going to do - plus, I already satisfied the majority of the academic requirements to force them to never leave me.
All I need to do now is not flunk out of my university course and I'm good to go.

>I don't have any interesting coming out stories
>Everyone responded really positively
>Oh, but it then turned out that I only have one heterosexual friend - the rest are bi, ace, or lesbian coincidentally

>>6756883
Ive read this story on this board before, hi.

>>6758325
hi yes are you aware that your life was a teenage romcom

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>Had a much larger preference for boys over girls since I was 12
>Really disturbed by my sexuality, due to an attack I endured when I was 11, which today I still haven't told anyone
>Spend the next few years hating myself
>Be 15, nearly 16
>Went to friends birthday party, having fun. One of her cousins keeps chatting to me, makes flirty advances in private(how did he know?!)
>I don't exactly fight it, first time in awhile someone make me feel good about myself
>Do eventually brush him, off, I'm getting uncomfortable
>Spend the next night awake, trying to accept myself. Mostly pondering why exactly I'm gay. Doing research, "I was just born this way." gotta keep telling myself
>Following week I'm in the living room with Mom and Dad. Heart pounding in my chest, throat going dry as I try to get the words out
"Mom, Dad, I should probably tell you that..I'm..gay"
>Mom squeals in joy and beacons me over to hug me tightly. "I'm so proud that you told us, that was very brave" etc
>Dad very non-chanantly says "Jaysus fucking Christ it took you long enough to come out." and laughs
>They all knew already
>Dad tells me that they guessed I gonna end up gay since I was 8
>Had no self-awareness of how big a faggot vibe I was giving off
>Made me feel better though since if they knew since I was 8, then That's how I was always gonna be, no matter what happened later

>My older brother fucking hated me though
>We wouldn't speak or look at me for years and whenever he was forced to, he was always aggressive
>He thought he'd get bullied for having a gay brother. Made me feel awful for him
>For his sake I kept my orientation a secret within family. Although my mother couldn't help but tell aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents etc, as if I was the daughter she always wanted.
>My relationship with older brother only began to improve after I was 20, and he got a girlfriend
>I got on very well with her. Three of us would hand out often.
>She unknowingly gave me back my big brother.

>>6756727
She relised the bullshit when it came out of your mouth.

>17/m
>tell dad I like guys
>"ok whatever makes you happy"
>tell mom I like guys
>"no, it's just a phase, the devil is trying to influence you, it's not natural, you just haven't met the right girl."

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>be 13 or so years old
>secretly still sleep with my gi joe doll
>take he's clothes off so we're both naked.
>keep him under my bed in a shoebox
>get new housekeeper
>too good at cleaning
>finds my shoebox and finds my gi joe box
>tells my parents
>a few years later she finds condom wrappers in my bed.
>tells parents
>several days later, playing games with my secret bf at my house
>parents walk into my room
>parents ask who im fucking
>me" uhh...it's him"
>dad: "oh yeah...we knew you were gay since we found the naked gi joe doll"
>bf: "you still sleep with your dolls?"

>>6756728
hi
i am also staying in closet

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>>6758716
lel

>>6759584
this picture of dany is horrifying...
with that jaw, I guess her dragons really are her children

>>6758716
I didn't really date him DESU.
You can really only piss some one off so much before they can't see any possibility of the two of you being together.

>>6763886
well that completely ruined the story I was imagining thanks

jk i get what you mean

>>6759002
>you just haven't met the right girl
I feel like my dad is gonna use that one when I come out to him as trans....

Why do people have the need to come out? Is having sexual preferences something to be proud of?

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>>6757346
>"show me your tits, boy!"

>>6769959
It's so the next Thanksgiving hopefully won't be as awkward.

Gotta stay close to family, senpai (unless they're shitty people). It's good to have their support.

>still not out
>family are religious
>will probably die if they find out
>fml

>>6756832
lol

>>6759139
Nosy housekeepers are the worst.

>>6769959
"Coming out" is really just telling people that you're gay, not necessarily telling people that you're proud of it.

>>6769959
>>6769959
It kind of helps in some situations:
>You: Mum/Dad/Friends, meet my long-term same-sex partner.
>Them: Oh, you're gay/bi?
>You: What? No! My sexual orientation is none of your business.
>Them: So you're just experimenting?
>You: No; the relationship's going really well and hopefully we'll be together forever.
>Them: So... you're gay/bi?
>You: Of course not! People who talk about their sexual orientations are cancer.