Celibacy?

>>6749994
Negatives:
Boring, lonely, more expensive, no sex

Positives:
Literally nothing

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>>6749994
>a life abstaining from sex
You mean asexual? Nothing, nothing good can come of it, it's not healthy and everyone hates those people.

>>6749994
If you feel more in sync with what you want to be, it's a good thing either way.
Are you still masturbating or cultivating the mind of a monk?

>>6749994
>Just out of curiosity, what do you guys think about living a life abstaining from sex/marriage?

Bretty gud, going down that road myself.

>I'm wondering what would the positive/negative portions of becoming celibate be?

Going to debunk >>6750477 here

>Negatives:
Boring, lonely, more expensive, no sex

>Boring

False, you can pursue hobbies and/or focus on your career without as much distractions.

>Lonely

Loneliness is a state of mind that by its very wording, implies a lack of companionship. Is taking a shit alone in the bathroom "lonely"? No. People are can be solitary and live solitary lives -- loneliness would just be a very inaccurate word to describe it, when it is in fact just simply being by themselves.

>more expensive

This one is just flat out wrong, considering all the stuff you would have to buy/do in a relationship that costs money.

>no sex

Like hunger, sex stems from an instinctive need. Unlike hunger, it is not necessarily needed in order to survive. Sure it's pleasurable, but so are other things. Sex ultimately has just evolved into another recreation pastime anyways that can be easily substituted and therefore, isn't necessarily a need if not only a mere want.

>Positives
>Literally nothing

False. The positives are actually in fact, literally everything in comparison.

>>6750505
>the asexual meme
I wholeheartedly agree that nothing goods out of asexual tumblrtards, but asexuality =/= celibacy. There is no proper "label" for it other than simply the not interested kind, or as op calls it "Celibacy".

>>6749994
> Sex
Not getting laid is bad for your health.

> Marriage
Getting married is stupid. Not worth the losses when she leaves you.

If you're abstaining from sex because of some 'issue', you're just being lazy instead of working on whatever problem areas you have when it comes to sex.
If you're abstaining for some 'moral' reason, you're just retarded.

>>6749994
you can be a sexless unloveable NEET piece of shit (many of us here are), but for fuck's sake don't romanticize it.

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>>6749994
If you have to go out of your way not to have sex/force yourself not to have sex, you're not being genuine to yourself and will have a negative experience.

If you don't do it because you're don't feel inclined to, either from a super low libido (like me) or genuine asexuality, then that's best for you.

The people who say that life is "boring" without having sex are usually the former. Though there is no reason to have sex, if you have a genuine biting urge to do, it's probably best for you to do it. Abstaining from it for political purposes is posturing that only pleases yourself and no one else.

>>6751293
> she

>>6751293
>getting married is stupid
Then how are you going to make white babbies for the coming race war? Checkmate.

>>6751391
this desu

>>6751391
>implying I'm white :^)

>>6751305
what if they dont have sex drive

what if they think sex is disgusting

what if they arent sodomite degenerates like yourself

>>6751406
this

find hookup on grindr
>his profile says hes not looking for sex, but he's on grindr so i assume
go out on date with him fun time, shooting, then sushi
>go back to his place. He is super hot in bed, like some people just are good in bed.
during/after he insists he doesnt want to have sex at all...
>i just assume he is playing hard to get
eventually we come to an impass.
>i want a sexual relationship
>he wants a friend... no sex....

>>6749994
unless you're asexual I really don't see what the point is. wouldn't you be more miserable that way?

>>6751406
Hello, friend! They let you use computers at the retard farm?
Anyway, like I said, if you're doing it because of some 'issue' ('Chicks are so DIFFICULT maaaaan' or you get too possessive or something), then I stand by the fact that you're a retard. Abstaining from sex isn't going to make those issues better any more than quitting driving would improve my ability to parallel park.
If you don't have a sex drive this isn't you, is it? I don't wanna play golf so I fucking don't.

OP here, responding to a few replies.
>>6750522
Full abstinence. Both from sex and masturbation.
>>6751333
I'm not romanticizing it. It's not a very fun road to go down, and if I felt I had a choice I wouldn't be choosing this path. It's difficult and frustrating, but I have strong personal reasons to choose this, it's what's best for me.
>>6751372
>not being genuine to yourself
I've found myself with a lot of internal demons and this is the path that calls to me. I'm doing this for me and for no one else.
>>6751406
top kek
>>6752122
Not really but sometimes it feels like that lol. I just have deep personal reasons, and I'm not against marriage, but I feel like for me it's not really that likely for me to find myself in one.

>>6752339
Oh, please. Do tell us your 'very deep personal reasons'. Unless you're a pedophile, you sound retarded.

>>6749994
I think it's only worthwhile if you have no sexual desires in a physical sense. Without that I'd hate it.

Even when I first became like this I had a difficult adjustment period where I mentally wanted to get horny like I used to, wanted to have sex and masturbate like I used to, but my body wouldn't comply the vast majority of the time. Eventually I came to not even desire these things and sex/masturbation began to seem like a chore. They became something I never think of, something I never desire, and it feels pretty good to reach that stage, very comfy and cozy. But without the physical state forcing it, I think it'd be difficult.

t. eunuch

>>6752363
side note: I do actually have a partner, but neither of us is very into sex and it's almost always just me pleasuring them, which I am often not into but I do it anyway to humor them, with no complaints.

I am in it for the cuddling and companionship and all that. I don't know if those desires ever go away, but you can be celibate and find cuddlebuddies and other such things. I've had a roommate who was a platonic cuddle buddy and it was very much like being in a relationship minus sexual stuff, kissing, all that. Just cuddling and companionship. Also if you surround yourself with good friends and/or have close roommate/s you won't be lonely.

>>6751391
Fuck children. I hate them.

>>6752360
How to anger /lgbt/:
Say you don't want to have sex
Don't say why

>>6752413
Because there's an implication here and is like to see how he justifies that. Don't be so sensitive because someone asked you to explain yourself, dipshit.

>>6749994
been celibate for almost 5 years, was sexually active for a little over 5 years before that

at first there is that loneliness/desire, im sure anyone thats had a dry spell knows the feeling, it goes away though, I simply stopped thinking about relationships/sex

I had no desire to be attractive, I still wanted be healthy with diet/excercise but I didnt care if I was attractive to potential partners. I got chubbier and weirder. There isnt a strong sense of needing to conform if you arent trying to attract a partner, so i became objectively pretty weird. Im not NEET but ive developed some NEETish qualities I didnt have when I had sex. It did allow me to focus on hobbies/duties more which was cool until I didnt have any duties/hobbies and became depressed.

Ive been very seriously considering trying out sex/relationships again... i guess i did do some lewd stuff a couple months ago but i blame that on the cocaine (first and probably last time), coke + alcohol + ssri = didnt even cum so maybe im still technically celibate? he ate my ass. that was weird.

Is it celibate if its not fully my own decision?

I only have sex maybe like every 2-3 years, I've had no issues. I think the last time I had sex was 5 years aog though. I'm too autistic to have a relationship and I have a pretty low sex drive so I've never had any huge feelings of loneliness like what a lot of people describe.
Mainly I'm saddened over the fact that I don't have a "best friend" type relationship like a lot of people have where they do everything with their spouse. I'd like to have that but I completely fail every time I try to have a relationship just cause I don't understand any of the intricacies of it. I have a very robotic personality I guess and I can't do things like "pet names" or "sex talk" and stuff like that so people just think I don't care for them at all.

>>6753901
Do people really get lonely if they don't have sex? Why?

>>6753912
It's less about sex and more about desiring strong human bonds and companionship.

>>6749994
I hear a lot of religious fags say they don't hate gay people they think they should just remain celibate.

>>6752693
Yes, being without both sex and marriage for any reason is regarded as celibacy.

>>6755626
wow, never thought of it like that
how does asexual relate to celibacy?

>>6755639

Separate. A lot of asexuals masturbate or engage in sex either for their own pleasure (libido) or for the pleasure of their partners.

>>6755763
>a
>sexual
>engage in sex

>>6755797
Well it's painfully obvious asexuals don't exist.

>>6755763
i thought asexual were people who have no interest in sex with anyone

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Yeah I'm not interested in having sex with anyone that wouldn't be a life partner. If I don't trust or like a person enough to want to spend my every day with then why would I have sex with him.

That being said I do have a huge sex drive and feel horny 24/7, and I also did had the opportunity to lose my virginity before with quick dirty sex, not interested.

>>6755900
At what point do you consider someone your life partner? 6 months? Marriage?
Also how do you sustain a relationship to the point that it would be lifelong?
(Curious about what you have to say about this, not attacking you)

>>6755992
diff anon, marriage
even though people do get divorced, but that's no the intended b/c people who get married think they'll be together forever

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>>6755992
There's no hard point. It's based on trust which can only truly come to the wise person when you pass through tests where you need to rely on a person and that person doesn't fail you.

>>6756018
Marriage means nothing nowadays when people can just get a fucking divorce, and even worse take half of your shit, in some countries even with a prenup.

>>6756025
But if two people get married with serious intent and strong conviction towards it's success, it still means something. The marriage is still a declaration of your love for one another and your strong will to work together through difficulty and trial. Even if it can be reversed with ease, marriage means much more than nothing.

>>6752339
>Full abstinence. Both from sex and masturbation.

I've done it the last few years. No fap no sex.
You'll need at the beginning tons of discipline but it's worth it.
You gain a huge sense of power and self-control over yourself.

Sexual/animal magnetism caused by no-fap is not a meme. The fact that people become attracted to you with no apparent reason, gives you a huge ego boost. It also reinforces your desire to stay celibate, or at least remain until you find a worthy person.

>>6758418
What was the incentive for you to find abstinence? From porn and masturbation as well?

>>6757973
>But if two people get married with serious intent and strong conviction towards it's success, it still means something
That's the point it's the trust that makes the difference, NOT the marriage.

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>>6749994
celibate here

>positives
conserves energy, effort, money, possibly time too
if you have retarded sexual tastes you avoid possible social ostracism and stress

>negatives
you don't get laid

You can avoid a lot of negatives by getting a close friend and masturbating less/more, a lot of the no gf feel is just a need for a general emotional intimacy and simple sex drive (ie. the part that can be satisfied with jerking off) rather than genuine need for real sexual contact and romantic partnership (not saying that you don't have any, everyone has the need to reproduce, but it's not as big of a factor as people think it is, it's kinda like when you think you're really hungry but it's mostly thirst that can be eased with drinking water, we need both water and food but when lacking both tend to give food too much credit, same with sex - sometimes you could easily get satisfied with some talking and a hug, but you crave sex instead because it tends to fill multiple needs at once and is more acceptable for males than stuff like platonic cuddling)

24 year old virgin here.

My reason for wanting to remain a virgin is largely due to my anti-natalist beliefs. I feel like the biggest accomplishment I can achieve in life is never having children and ending the cycle of suffering and struggling on my end, while also enjoying and learning as much about life as I can.

>inb4 condoms

Even if its a 0.00000001% percent chance that is far too much for me.

I cam pretty close to fucking a trap once though, but that's not really sex anyway so whatever.

>>6750555
I would rather just refer to myself as nonsexual and disinterested than call myself asexual. More because of emotion and opinion associated with the word rather than its definition.