/bi-gen/- Origin Story Edition

>>6646617

uhm, I guess I always knew I was bi since my early teens. I just outed myself being bi at the same time I outed myself being mtf. That was around the age of 19.
>tfw everyone thought you're just outing yourself being bi and we're like "mate that's np why didn't you tell us earlier"
>little did they know I'm gonna come out as mtf right after
>little did I know they didn't give a shit either

>>6646617

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>>6648165
God bless you anon!

>>6646617
>When did you realize you were bi?

I was around 16. Fapping to some porn vid, and about midway through I realized I was fapping to the guy and not the girl.

>How long after did you come out?

Right after high school. I don't hang out with the same group of people as much though, and I've never really talked about sexuality with my current social circle.

>>6646617
>When did you realize you were bi?
first time I ever got turned on was over some anime tiddies in a how to draw artbook, got confused as hell since I knew I liked dudes, but when I learned "bisexual" was a thing I knew what was up
>How long after did you come out?
as soon as I entered highschool, and never to my parents because I still wanted girl/girl sleepovers

>>6648983
>as soon as I entered highschool, and never to my parents because I still wanted girl/girl sleepovers

Do you plan on ever telling them?


>>6648934
>Right after high school. I don't hang out with the same group of people as much though, and I've never really talked about sexuality with my current social circle.
Do you ever plan to tell them?

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>>6646617


>When did you realize you were bi?

I've always had a fondness for people no matter their gender. Always slept with opposite because I was told that was the right thing to do and felt affection towards them. Decided as an adult to explore other feelings toward same sex, I've been bi ever since.


How long after did you come out?

I have not yet told my family as I feel it wont matter unless I find a steady partner of the same sex.

I told my friends quickly after figuring myself out and no one was surprised.

>>6646617
>When did you realize you were bi?
The good 'ol TTT fapping slope. Tomboys -> Traps -> Twinks -> Welp, I guess I'm bi now !!!
> How long after did you come out?
Won't come out to family unless I'm really serious about someone, because most of my family would become assholes overnight. Didn't come out to friends because they're a bit homophobic from time to time and I don't want to take any chances.

>When did you realize you were bi?

I'm male, 20 year old now, doubts started two years ago I think. I thought I was pretty much 100% straight in high school. Which afterwards is pretty questionable since yeah some of the porn I watched even when younger could not be categorised as completely heterosexual.
But still never had really a crush on a guy. I'm quite sure I'm sexually attractive to both genders, but still not sure about the romantic part.
So yeah, it is still an ongoing process of confusion. Looking back on it, I've really had a long period of being completely oblivious on these things.

>How long after did you come out?
I actually haven't to all people I know. Got outed between some acquaintances at a European left-wing political meeting when someone uploaded a screenshot of Grindr in chat.
Family and friends know probably nothing.
But yeah, why come out? I don't want it to be a really big part of my identity. Sexual relations are pretty much my own business, only when it is an actual relation a coming out is useful. It is then also pretty clear.

>be bi girl, more attracted to dudes
>I've been hit on by more girls in my lifetime than guys, can't figure out why, maybe its my height (6ft)
>actually terrified of other women, and have high standards
>freak out whenever I develop crushes on my female friends and drop contact even though they are openly bi as well due to them or me already being in a relationship
>have been dating a dude for 3 years now, we're pretty serious
>he tells me as long as I find someone down for a three way we can both date them
>extremely against this, I want to discover my first time with a girl on my own
>not only that but my partner is overweight so me finding a unicorn who meets our standards isn't gonna happen most likely

I just have to accept that I'm gonna die without touching another girl's tiddy.

>>6649579
I self closeted extremely hard extremely early and very very gradually became okay with being bi over about a decade. I am now very comfortable identifying as bi to myself. I am still fairly closeted to people who aren't me, because people are super weird about bi people. People I fuck tend to assume I'm monosexual, since I don't go out of my way to telling them I'm bi.

>>6649579
>be bi girl, more attracted to dudes
So every teenage girl

>>6649333
I did a week before moving out. they gave me the "choose a side/its just a phase" speech although I've told them I've dated girls before

>>6650049
here's your (you)

>>6646617
>When did you realize you were bi?
I used to be a Mormon. Being a legbutt at all in Mormonism is a huge no-no of course. So, rather than try to accept that I was into dudes and chicks, I just denied it and buried it. Once I left, I thought to myself that those garbage rules don't apply, and finally figured it out by asking myself what was up.

>How long after did you come out?
haha oh wow

>>6646617
>When did you realize you were bi?
RPed back and forth with a guy for a while, under the reasoning that it was the character that was bi and not me.
We met up, ended up giving him a handjob and enjoying it.

>How long after did you come out?
I'm bi, not gay/trans/tumblrina. I don't see the point in 'coming out', I just don't make a huge fuss over it or attempt to hide it around people who're accepting.

anyone here have trouble with the gender they're more attracted to? I turn into an idiot when dealing with girls that I like but with guys I'm chill.

>Lady: hey i kinda like you
>Me: cool, lemme get your digits
>>never call because I fucking chicken out

>Me: hey dude, wanna bone
>Dude: hells yes
>>Go back to his place and get railed like a fucking bricklayer

Knew I was bi when I'd go to swim class and be getting ready in the lockeroom while the senior class (62+) was exiting and getting dressed to leave. I'd always be oddly confused and excited and unconsciously procrastinate as long as I could in the lockeroom. Some sexy hairy grampa must have noticed me stairing because one week he spent a ton of time standing in front of me giving me a show and then every week after that we'd talk and flirt as I stared at his seemingly massive uncirumsized and fuzzy cock. Sometimes he;d stroke it lightly and pull back his foreskin for me, i'd get so excited a pit would form in my stomach. Nothing ever came of it (no privacy) but I've been obsessed with grampas ever since. My current BF is 65 and I am at his right now waiting for him to get home.

>>6653837
I am much better with girls than I am with guys. Who knows why.

I can charm most women well but guys are just too brutally direct. That kind of aggressive sexuality has never sat well with me.

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>>6653837
I'm jealous you can even say that, i have no luck even meeting any open girls, i get it though, I'd still probably be more confident around a guy but maybe it's only because it's what I'm used to being exposed to

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Men are leagues more attractive to me than women, most vaginas disgust me, and if I just flip a switch and instantly "become gay" I would probably do it

But I've been in love with my girlfriend for five years and despite all the men I've cheated on her with, I'd be heartbroken and beside myself if we ever fell apart

Anyone else know this feel? Is it just the doomed fate of all bi men? Sorry to blogpost

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I'm pretty sure it was just internet porn. Specifically furry porn. I'm not a furry, but when furries tend to be the only people drawing (somewhat) high quality gay porn comics.

Also, I used to play counter strike source with this dude, and at some point he mentioned he was bi, and that was the first time I'd ever heard the word. It kind of clicked for me then like "Oh, alright, I guess I'm that." This happened at 10-11 years old.

My family was (and still is) very religious, jehovas witnesses, but even from a young age I never really bought into it. As a little little kid I think I believed it, but I didn't really BELIEVE anything at that age, I just took what my mom said and what the adults around me said as fact. But even as a little kid I hated going to church, which JWs call "meetings", and then later on when I got older I discovered through the internet that being an atheist was a thing, and the same thing happened where it just kind of clicked for me like, oh, there's another option? You don't have to be religious? Well then fuck that.

So none of that religious guilt ever managed to seep into me, thankfully. I've also never really been homophobic, or been very macho or masculine, so I never freaked out about being into dick or whatever. Still in the closet though, because I'm a bit of a pussy. I guess I'm waiting until I move out of my parents house, but I'm sure I'll keep coming up with excuses to not come out even after that.

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Hey guys, could you help a straight girl out?

My bf came out to me as bi a little while ago. He's known for a while. He has had an equal number of male and female partners, but claims he cannot attach himself emotionally to male partners. His heterosexual relationships seem to relieve his heterosexual desires, but do not relieve his sexual attraction to men. He has only ever been open about his heterosexual relationships.

He didn't tell me for a while, until I saw he was using a burner email to message guys on craigslist. Then it was sort of out of the bag.

I'm 100% hetero female, and I thought he was completely straight for a long time, so I was a little surprised and he was completely humiliated. I couldn't care less that he's bisexual. I told him that I didn't care, I loved him no matter what. I introduced prostate stimulation and some new dominance dynamics into our regular sex life to be supportive and have fun... but I've had a hard time processing this craigslist thing.

He said it was totally fake. He would have time to himself, get horny, post and email guys for attention, then abandon it after trading meet-up information. I would have a hard time believing he cheated on me, but this seems like such a weak excuse. How common is fake posting on craigslist? Is he just craving boypussy when I'm gone and relieving it through some secret fantasy? I don't think he he had any intention of revealing his sexuality to me, and the reveal was definitely an accident. Should I just let this go?

Thanks in advance...

>>6657535
IMO that shits not ok regardless of orientation. Would you be ok if you found out he was sexting another girl? I wouldn't be. Dishonesty is dishonesty, infidelity is infidelity. If I were in your shoes I'd be pretty upset.

>>6657535
if he's cheating on you and you're not okay with it, then no you probably shouldn't just drop it. but if you can confirm that he's not cheating, maybe 3somes, or something like that?

>>6657561
So, yeah, I've been really upset for a while about it. But I'm trying to move on because I just don't think online fantasy roleplay is as bad as physically cheating on me. He recognizes it wasn't okay, and I'm trying to forgive him and trust him again.

>>6657565
I've asked, but neither of us want a threesome. He is not the jealous type, but both of us have explicitly requested monogamy.

>>6657641
that's.... weird. but okay. whatever works for you.

i personally don't see 3somes as non-monogamy, more just a very sophisticated sex toy. :^)

>>6657669
I guess I have a hard time compartmentalizing sexual relationships and sexual behavior from my emotions. I think men are better at this...

>>6657683
oh, i guess that's fair. am not a guy tho.

maybe just watch gay porn with him? im sure you can think of something.

>>6657702
I was referring to my bf :) i don't think he ever thought he was doing anything wrong, and maybe he's just better at compartmentalizing his sexual behaviors. Next time we watch porn together, I'll try some gay/trap stuff. We're both into dicks so it should work. X)

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Ive been in a relationship with a girl for 4 years but for the past two years I have realized that I am bi.

I have never had the chance to do anything with guys but I really want to try, only problem is that I am in a relationship already and I still love her very much.

I dont know what to do.

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I knew I was bi all my life, just lied to myself.

Only this year have I had experiences with guys. I am not crossdressing too. I am a top but trying to be vers, started fingering my ass last week every second day, omg I love it.

Had a hot young frenchy over last night. His cock was so big, he wanted to dress up with me too.

>>6659322

Sorry, I meant to say that I am getting into crossdressing at home only

I was 25 when I realized and 30 when I came out. I guess I am slow on the uptake and thought everyone had repressed homolust. Now I have bf and life is pretty OK -- I'm pretty content with myself

I used reddit alot as a like 14/15 y/o and discovered r/lgbt
I don't want to assume it was a cause-effect scenario but I've been aware of my bi-ness since than so i dunno

>>6657683
we are most definitely not. we're just much better at not displaying or discussing our emotions.

>>6657683
As a man I have that problem.

>>6662032
>>6662328
Sorry for the assumptions!

I never had a 'wow!' moment like nothing ever happened that me go 'I just realized I like men *and* women! I must be bi!". I've always been attracted to both and I actually thought everyone was until I got to my early teens and realized that some people were just attracted to one or the other lol.

I never really came out, my family and friends have always known that I've had crushed on men and women, I've never tried to hide it. I think the label still puts some of my family off but they really know that I'm bi. Everyone else either knows immediently or figures it out eventually, no skin off my back either way.

Still not sure if I'm bi or not. Online I'm pretty gay, but once I go outside I only like girls again.

>>6662773
Generalization are how we survive. It's no big!

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>>6664641

love me some Sakimichan

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>>6664641
>not fem link

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>>When did you realize you were bi?
Probably 19? It was early in college. I basicaly admitted to myself that I got off to gay porn. I've never been conflicted about it. I eventually realized that I didn't give a shit about gender.
>>How long after did you come out?
I've only come out to a handful of people. I may be a freak in the sheets, but my sexuality doesn't define me. My parents would probably be ok; I didnt learn until I was in my 20s that one of our close family friends was gay. Apparently he came out to my father when they were about my age at the time, and he was crying and freaking out that my father wouldnt want to be his friend anymore. 30 years later, still friends.
Coming out would just complicate things for me. If I had a reason to I would, but so far I havnt had one.

>When did you realize you were bi?
Hard to say. I think I was fapping to furry porn with gay elements back in high school, but was mostly interested in what was still then the largely mysterious female form. Though I do remember an instance while in high school where, in an attempt to stimulate my prostate, I lost a toothbrush in my rectum and (Jesus I begin to sweat just thinking about asking my devout Catholic parents to take me to the ER) I successfully fished it out with a pair of pliers. I remember being turned on by the idea of being penetrated, but assuring myself that there's nothing necessarily gay about that. After having my second long term girlfriend, and after discovering 4chan and a few of the darker corners of the Internet while in college, I began to be more interested in men. Or at least I was willing to consider an attraction to men. At first it was just traps and mtfs and futagirls, but I've always been a curious person who would like to at least try every experience life has to offer, as long as there isn't too much pain involved. I started flirting with men on Craigslist and Grindr, anonymously, and it wasn't until I had hooked up with the third guy that I knew I was bi. Before that I just thought I was questioning and/or going through a phase and fantasizing about something that would be completely gross in real life. I thought dick would taste bad, and that men wouldn't be sexy in the flesh, but when I loved it the second and third times (the first guy was a great kisser but very sweaty) I knew it wasn't just some fantasy or phase. That took me years to figure out. I was almost 25, and it took another 6 months or so before I could admit to myself that I was more than incidentally interested in men.

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>>6670933
>How long after did you come out?
Kek I'm so very sadly closeted. I think my wife knows that I'm bi but I'm not going to tell her I cheated, and the one time she brought it up seriously, I pussied out and denied it. I don't want to come out to family. I've been told by other posters here on /lgbt/ that there's no point in coming out if I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship already, unless I'm going to separate or start acting or dressing like a flaming faggot. The way I carry myself is me, and my sense of style won't change that much, if at all. It'd just be nice to be able to talk honestly to coworkers and ask them for help. It's hard being faithful, because I don't feel guilty when cheating with men.
I'd ask for an open marriage, but even if she accepted, I know it would kill her. I love her, but I want to date men. Wut do?

>>6658795
I know that feel senpai

>>6653901
I had the same problem at the Y except if some old dude had done that to me I would have been fucking terrified and probably thought I had veen abused because it would have felt "wrong". Fucking Catholic upbringing.

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>>6646617
Early twenties is when I figured it out. I blame /b/ and all those gfur threads. And a guy flirting with me did it.

Took me about a year before coming out. Now I'm open about it and I'm pretty glad I like both.

>>6657308
This is exactly my feels. Maybe it is our fate. And I blogposted way harder than you did.

>>6646617
>when did you realise you were bi?
16 or 17, I had been watching gay porn every now and then and enjoying it, then feeling intense shame afterwards. I asked my friend, who I knew was bi, and she helped me figure it out.
>how long after did you come out?
I still haven't really. I guess I did when I asked my friend, but after that I decided not to tell anyone unless they asked. So far only a couple of close friends have asked, and I respond with "duh." It makes everything so much easier for me when it feels like i'm not hiding but i also don't have to come out.

>>6657535
Mmmm... well when I first started doing that shit, I would never meet up with them. I just messaged and role-played with dudes for about a year before I had the balls to go through and cheat. But that was after my wife essentially refused to penetrate me or use toys in essentially any way. She doesn't like toys or role reversal, I guess.
Anyway, it's certainly possible he didn't cheat on you. How long do you think he's been doing it? How much do you think you can find out? Do you think you can trust him, now that the cat's out of the bag, and he's got to be more honest? Going into the relationship closeted really makes things difficult. It makes it easier to lie, because you're already doing it from the start.

>>6671011
Browse gaygen, you'll be so turned off by the gay scene your marriage will seem worth it.

>>6671358
plz elaborate.

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>>6671358
>current gaygen thread = >>6668803
>tl;dr